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Fool for love

“I know everything, but when it comes to love, I’m such a fool. Even if I don’t know anything else, I really want to be good at love like everyone else. But I just can’t..

What do I do? Do I need to learn from you, who only received and just left me?Why did you teach me a love that’s not really like love?

Is there another fool like me too? Who gives all and smiles even when everything is lost?

I won’t ever do this kind of love again. But that’s just what I say after hearing others say it. Actually, I don’t really know. I’m sorry..

Even if everyone calls me a fool, I don’t want to love if it’s not really like love Even if I’m scared of giving everything and being forgotten, I’m more scared that my heart will learn your ways

Someday, I’ll meet a person who resembles me, who is like me. I believe that I’ll find that person and that person will also be waiting for me

I’m a fool, I know. Sorry for being like this, I’m such a fool for love.”

- Lee Hi

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Should I put my love in a bottle and throw it in a sea? To see if you eventually find it and come back to me...

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Because this is my first time

25 Oct 2017. 18:08. 

It was a drama title. Yes, the “Because this is my first time”. I supposed not to watch it during my busy day, though, but I couldn’t help it. It was so good I can relate my life to it so much.

Three 30 years old women; struggling their life. The first one, Ho Rang, since 17 years old, she has been decided to be a good mother because she thought she was not a clever student. She did not have the grade, yet still managed to graduate high school, went to university and found a job as a manager in an interior design shop. Her dream was simple: to marry a decent guy. It sounds not that hard especially when you already had a boyfriend. Ho Rang has been dating her boyfriend for 5 years, extra 2 years moving in together. Of course, it’s not a short time. She knows her boyfriend very well and so does him. Unfortunately, the guy she has been dating is so dull. Even though he said no one ever knows his girlfriend like he does, he is still so dumb. Basically, any women will never ask any man she loves about marriage and proposal first. They always wait, while throwing a lot of metaphors. But a man will also never understand! So Ho Rang relationship with her boyfriend went wrong at some point since many miscommunications occur.

Second one, Soo Ji. Since high school, she always wants to be a CEO lady. A really big dream of her. She decided not to plays a hard feeling towards “love”. She does not care if she will get married or not, and whether her womb is getting weaker and weaker along with her aging. All her focus is on working. She always works overtime, rarely has enough sleep or a social life to reach her dream. A good success never comes instantly, precisely like Soo Ji’s dream. At some stage, she will stress her life out because of her daily life.

Third one, Ji Ho. the only “normal” girl of these three. She lived in a tough family: her dad would not like to accept a “No” from his child. He gets angry in every single argument. Her mom could not even dare with her dad, and always be careful in order to keep her family peaceful. Ji Ho’s dream was to be a writer. She got a success once, she was accepted into a company but then she quit due to a sexual harassment. Now she’s jobless, trying to find a flat with the minimum amount of money. She couldn’t go back to her hometown because she’s now 30.

The point is, I can relate to this drama so much ‘cause my life is like the combination of those three. I’m almost 30 and I am nothing. I only have a crush, not a boyfriend nor a fiancee. I haven’t found a proper job, yet, so I stay with my mom and my dad. I am worried about my future life: will I ever get married? will my womb still in a good condition when it’s the time for me carry a child? will my family be harmonious? will I ever find a passionate job? will I survive if I eventually do a Ph.D.? Do I really expect about having a normal life? will I ever end my worries? No one knows... Certain thing is: I want to make my parents happy. 

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Man VS Woman

21 Oct 2017. 19:36 WIB. Ada kalanya wanita frequently pengen belanja, at least sebulan sekali. belanja barang yang benar-benar kurang butuh untuk dibeli; contoh: baju, tas, sepatu. Bahkan banyak yang menolak non-branded goods. Jujur barang branded itu mahal. Uang tidak tumbuh dari pohon. Pohon pun tidak tumbuh dengan sendirinya. Jadi beli barang branded pun akan sulit untukku yang cuman bergaji tak seberapa. 90% barang yang kumiliki tidak branded. Kalaupun bermerek, biasanya beli yang diskon diatas 50%. Saya tidak malu, karena as for me, having some branded goods are not necessary. Tapi belanja sebulan sekali itu semacam “kewajiban”. Terkadang para pria bertanya: untuk apa sih? kamu kan udah punya banyak di lemari? tapi bagi kami, banyak = tidak punya. Kami mudah bosan dengan pakaian dan sepatu yang kami pakai. Hey. that’s the fact. Mungkin para wanita pada dasarnya semua punya low-esteem sehingga tidak pede tampil mengenakan sesuatu yang pernah dilihat orang. Tapi pria tidak mengerti wanita. Wanita pun begitu, tidak bisa mengerti pria. Kenapa pria selalu simple, selalu menghindari diskusi yang berkepanjangan (padahal penting untuk dibicarakan), dan mudah tertarik dengan wanita lain? disuruh menjelaskan hal-hal ini pun mereka belum tentu akan menjelaskan dengan detail. Tidak seperti kami yang dengan sukarela akan memberitahu bahwa mungkin kami punya low self-esteem....

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originally played and composed by Ludovico Einaudi. No problem, I still can enjoy this version ^^

#relaxing

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Title : Whalien 52

Lyric: Rap Monster / Kim Nam Joon (BTS leader)

Prolog:

4 Oktober 2017. 20:16. Ditengah rutinitas mengerjakan pekerjaan literature review yang tampak never ending, aku mengambil break. Semua yang mengenalku past tahu kalau aku suka sekali mendengarkan musik k-pop. ada 2 idols yang aku idolakan sejak tahun 2007 sampai 2017 ini. Yang pertama: DBSK/THSK/TVXQ. Aku mengidolakan mereka karena kelima membernya semua memiliki suara emas, yang bisa dibilang hampir tidak pernah ada di dunia per-idol-an. Biasanya grup idol hanya punya 1 atau 2 orang anggota vocal, selebihnya berperan sebagai dancer dan rapper. Well, as for TVXQ, they were all vocals who can dance and rap. Unfortunately, they disbanded in 2009, 2 years after I became a die hard fan. Terlalu kecewa dan banyak tangisan, selanjutnya aku hanya mendengarkan kpop musik pada umumnya tanpa manjadi fans. Sampai akhirnya tahun 2014 seorang teman mengenalkanku pada BTS (Bangtan Sonyeondan). Aku skeptis. Apalagi setelah mengetahui nama panggung mereka yang alay-alay. No way lah pokoknya. Tapi seperti kebanyakan hal lain yang aku tolak, BTS malah menjadi grup idol kedua favoritku setelah TVXQ. So, if you ask me: why do you love BTS? Why you become an ARMY? What do you like about them?

They are UNIQUE.

Despite the handsome faces without any plastic surgery, their musics are outstanding. Tidak bisa dibandingkan dengan TVXQ, karena BTS tidak punya ketujuh vocal member. Dan BTS pun tidak bisa dibandingkan dengan TVXQ, karena music TVXQ tidak mengandung a deep meaning seperti BTS. 

sebagai contoh, this underrated song called Whalien 52, yang liriknya ditulis sendiri oleh leader BTS, Rap Monster, mendadak menarik perhatianku untuk segera menulis di blog sebagai representative song yang akan kuberi compliment.

“In the middle of this ocean, One lonely whale cries No matter how much it shouts, no one can hear it So lonely it just stays quiet No matter who I was back then, it’s whatever now I don’t care When loneliness is by my side I become completely alone, sadness filling the lock Whatever now, I became a start Oh fuck that, yeah whatever, you can’t stay by anyone’s side the way you easily speak to me becomes a wall Even loneliness becomes an act in your eyes I’m trapped in this wall I can’t breathe properly Towards to surface Hey oh, oh hey oh yeah Lonely lonely lonely whale I sing to myself A lonely island like me Will it shine bright? Lonely lonely lonely whale I sing again This song that receives no reply I sing till it reaches someone tomorrow No more, no more baby No more, no more One endless sea I’ll once reach All the way across the world No more, no more baby No more, no more Even the far sighted whales Will be able to see me I’ll sing today, too The world doesn’t know How sad I am My pain that can’t be mixed Water and oil Only above the surface I can’t stop caring when I breathe A lonely water child I wanna let them know What I’m worth Everyday I become seasick from worrying A sticker beneath my ear Never end, There’s no end and only hell Even if time flows a cold heart is Neverland But I keep thinking Even if you’re small, dream big The approaching praise Will make you dance everyday Be like me, Ye i’m swimmin’ I swim towards my future In the clear sea I believe in Hey oh, oh hey oh yeah Lonely lonely lonely whale I sing to myself A lonely island like me Will it shine bright? Lonely lonely lonely whale I sing again This song that receives no reply I sing till it reaches someone tomorrow My mother told me the sea was clear and blue Told me to be loud so that others can hear it But what do I do It’s so dark here The other whales Speak so differently I juss can’t hold it ma I wanna say I love you I sing this song alone I flip the same music sheet This ocean is too deep But I’m grateful (No one will see my tears) I’m a whalien Lonely lonely lonely whale I sing to myself A lonely island like me Will it shine bright? Lonely lonely lonely whale I sing again This song that receives no reply I sing till it reaches someone tomorrow No more, no more baby No more, no more One endless sea I’ll once reach All the way across the world No more, no more baby No more, no more Even the far sighted whales Will be able to see me I’ll sing today, too”

Terinspirasi oleh cerita sungguhan tentang seekor paus yang paling kesepian di dunia, RapMon menulis liriknya dan menciptakannya menjadi sebuah lagu. This. Sometimes yang harus dihargai bukanlah wajah-wajah ganteng mereka saja. melalui lagu ini, ada metaphor untuk mengekspresikan rasa sepi. Bagaimana sepi terkadang muncul ditengah keramaian, bagaimana sekeras apapun kau berteriak, sepilah yang akan selalu datang, bagaimana tidak ada seseorangpun yang akan mengerti tentang arti sepi yang kau lalui dalam hidup... I really appreciate this kind of work! I mean, lihatlah, everyone feels the loneliness! tidak semua orang merasakan patah hati, tidak semua orang pernah bergelimang harta, tapi aku yakin semua orang pernah merasa sepi. This is a truly genius song. Secara implisit mengatakan bahwa kita hidup di dunia bersama sepi.

Hal-hal seperti ini yang paling aku hargai dalam menyukai sebuah lagu. bukan sepinya, tetapi cara lagu berekspresi terhadap kehidupan seseorang secara tersirat, dibalik melodinya yang bertolak belakang dengan arti lagu itu.

:)

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setelah puluhan tahun ngga pernah selfi di kamar pas... so, yesterday I did one for fun :)))

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this is a no filter photo taken by my iPhone 4S when I was in Switzerland. One of a country of which I would certainly like to go again someday.

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Pain is women’s friend

I have struggled long and hard before writing this, before accepting how unhappy and devastated I am. But I can’t simply do nothing and pretend that everything is normal, that It is just a phase of my life.

First of all, I am aware I’m not that extraordinary. People only notice me as an ordinary black haired girl with her glasses on. Even more, graduated from the third best university in the Netherlands does not give impressions anymore to other people who don’t take the same path as me. ‘Cause they soon realize that not much I can do here as a molecular nutritionist, not even after I determined all my brain, heart and soul to subserve my own alma mater. They are right, It’s not easy to change people mind.

My life has been terrible these whole 20 years. I have been encountered some troublesome things you will never imagine. Yet, life gives me nothing. I truly do not understand what I have been done wrong?  Men, some of them, only see the pretty of me, of my dress, of my makeup, of how I made them calm by only seeing me around. I don’t need that at all. Someone used me as women who will never leave him without even taking care of my heart. Simply ‘cause I madly fall in love with him though he is beyond my reach. His ego is enormous without realizing that I suffer alone by loving him, and seriousness seems to not be in his direction. I sometimes cannot bear this kind of life. Thus, for those who read and sense it: I love you but I want to forget you - unless our love meets halfway; sincerely.

“What do you want actually?”, someone asked. Nothing but to be loved. A true love, who can see me through my beauty. A true love which is real, who can rely on and trust me for his happiness. ‘Cause life is too short for me to wait for someone who does not brave enough to give me the certainty of his all.

“And what are you going to do now?”, he continued.

self-proven. I will do more than they can see. I will do better than they have been through.

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A theory from Plato, one of the famous Greek philosopher: origin of human being and its civilization.

At the beginning of creation, men and women were not as they are now; there was just one being, who was rather short, with a body and a neck, but his head had two faces, looking in different directions. It was as if two creatures had been glued back to back, with two sets of sex organs, four legs, and four arms. The Greek gods, however, were jealous, because this creature with four arms could work harder; with its two faces, it was always vigilant and could not be taken by surprise; and its four legs meant that it could stand or walk for long periods at a time without tiring. Even more dangerous was the fact that the creature had two different sets of sex organs and so needed no one else in order to continue reproducing.

Zeus, the supreme lord of Olympus, said: “I have a plan to make these mortals lose some of their strength.”

And he cut the creature in two with a lightning bolt, thus creating man and woman. This greatly increased the population of the world, and, at the same time, disoriented and weakened its inhabitants, because now they had to search for their former strength, their ability to avoid betrayal and the stamina to walk for long periods of time and to withstand hard work. That embrace in which the two bodies re-fuse to become one again is what we call sex.

(taken from Eleven Minutes by Paulo Coelho, page 169-170) ----

I was fascinated by this story. Yet still curious of the fact that even a man or woman has found his/her soulmate, why they still have an affair with another person? Why would they do that in the first place? It is just not fit with the Greek story above. Or did Plato have the continuation of the theory? #theory

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looking for a better day to come

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Wishes means cita-cita

“Cita-citanya kalau besar nanti mau jadi apa Wita?”, tanya semua orang.

“mmm... jadi dokter seperti ibu”, jawabku enteng.

Kenyataannya, tidak semua orang beruntung bisa menggapai cita-cita masa kecilnya. Termasuk aku. Basically, I’m not a lucky girl in every aspect if I could say. But I surely have a pretty accurate gut feeling. Not helping nor making me proud at all to be honest.

Dewasa ini, cita-cita adalah hal yang tidak seperti apa yang kupikirkan dulu. Menjadi dokter tetaplah cita-cita masa kecil. Bukan menyerah, tetapi melihat dari sisi lain yang lebih membahagiakan... yaitu bagaimana kita bisa menerima dan bersyukur atas hal yang telah dipermudah oleh Allah :)

So, talking about wishes. I have a bucket of list yang kuanggap sebagai cita-cita. You may check this out or just left the page hahaha

1. Go to Disneyland.

Disneyland manapun boleh, asal perginya sama suami (atau calon suami juga boleh) yang sama-sama ngefans Disney. Menghabiskan hari di theme parknya Disney, or just simply strolling around the Disney Sea..

2. Be a professional lecturer

Belum lama ini tersadar bahwa mengajar di dalam kelas itu... menakjubkan. being the only person who knows the topic, being the center of attention, and transferring knowledge for those who are interested on the lecture, having discussion to increase our personal skill...

3. Own a personal microscope

Discovering super tiny things from your skin? is there something else on your water? Or just wanna know the shape of the ant’s eyes? kadang-kadang aku penasaran dengan hal-hal yang begini terus pengen ambil potonya pake smartphone dan jadi koleksi.

4. Have a small movie theater at home

Biar makin puas kalau mau nonton film horor.

5. Have a small park for pets at home

Selama ini halaman/ taman buat kelinci belum memadai. Jadi kalau bisa sih pengen punya rumah yang nantinya ada halaman sperti itu. Plus tempat kecil untuk hijau-hijau daun dan bunga-bunga di dalam rumah. 

6. Have a library at home

Harus punya. Ngga ada kecuali ngga ada tetapi. HAHAHA.

7. (to be updated)

Sekian ;)

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Being adult be like..

9 August 2017

It was 10 PM. I was sitting in the co-pilot seat next to the driver on my way back home. I emptied my mind just to look outside the window. I have been far away from my hometown since 3 months ago, so quite a bit curious about what it’s like nowadays.

nothing much has changed, to be honest. 

Trees are still in their place, traffic lights still show the red, green and yellow sign, people are still crazy about cars and motorcycles. many kinds of food stall on the lane, and so on and so on.

Only one thing suddenly got on my nerves. I have changed.

I saw someone (a man) riding on his motorbike. he wears a various type of bracelets. I saw a girl sitting very tightly to her boyfriend who was on the front seat of a motorbike as if she hangs all of her life on him. I saw a group of a band (most likely a student band) playing their some-kind of rock music. I don’t like them all.

If only those things I saw back then in my early 20, I might be willing to throw myself volunteered. A man with bracelets? why not? It’s pretty cool and badass. An intimate couple on a motorbike? Looks so sweet, I would like to try it too! Her boyfriend must be a romantic guy! A rock student band? Man, let me be in the first line of the crowd!

Presently, I don’t give a damn to that kind of matters. I think It’s not merely about age, but also my circle. Surroundings. Neighbourhood. Friends. In my point of view, I feel lucky; ‘cause in my last 20s, I have changed to a better me. What I like about a man, is not his appearance anymore. Who cares about bracelets? He supposes not to wear them as a man. Who cares about being a rock band member if he doesn’t respect others? It’s 10 PM for god's sake. Who cares about having a boyfriend who could not tell his girlfriend that it’s not nice to do such an intimate show in a public place? (OK, this is Indonesia, not somewhere in Europe or USA which people still value a girl by being shown with her couple off in the middle of the night).

Afterall, how he would like to fight for his future, is the most matter to me. 1. I appreciate a man who has a saving, in particular, for his future family. The more the better, but not the best. So, regardless of the amount of the money, as long as he keeps trying to earn wholeheartedly, it’s astonishing. 2. A man with a beautiful brain. I don’t need a Prince Charming on a white horse. A brain charming, instead, will surely fix my gaze. This brain of his should be visionary; should be used to plan his future profession with wisdom, and should be used to love me uniquely. 3. A respectful person. He must respect the girl by firming relationship (engage or get married). In such, he could automatically respect her parents by taking care of their daughter. On the other hand, respect for other people is also an appraisal. Keeping other people’s feeling by maintaining his emotion will obviously stunning my heart! ;)

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Keep yourself low! Should I?

16 Juni 2017

Mungkin pengalaman hidupku belum sebanyak -katakanlah- orang yang sudah bekerja puluhan tahun lalu pensiun dan baru bisa menikmati hidup. Mungkin apa yang ada di dalam pikiranku hanyalah sebatas idealisme hidup yang semua orang mimpikan. Atau mungkin masalah idealisme sebenarnya sudah masuk ke ranah sosial dan budaya. Terkadang aku berpikir, “oh, kayaknya asik banget ya belajar tentang sosial, tidak melulu ilmu pasti”, untuk bisa lebih mendalami apa yang sedang kurasa dan kupikir saat ini. Sungguh banyak sekali gagasan dan pemikiran, sampai-sampai kalau ngga kutulis atau kuceritakan kepada seseorang pada akhirnya akan menumpuk di sudut kantor otakku saja (bagi yang belum paham apa itu sudut kantor otak, gara-gara sering nonton Spongebob Square pants dan Harry Potter, aku sering berkhayal bahwa otakku adalah sebuah kantor ruang berbentuk persegi. Tidak putih mulus seperti kamar tidur, tetapi berdinding batu yang besarnya tidak sama dan berwarna abu-abu. Di batu-batu itulah aku “menyimpan” sub pemikiranku. Bisa dibuka-tutup seperti laci. Bagian sudut ruang adalah bagian yang paling jarang kupedulikan, jarang kusentuh, dan akan hilang dengan sendirinya jika sudah penuh).

Kembali ke topik awal, kali ini apa yang akan aku tuang adalah mengenai respect, atau kalau anak SD jaman dulu sering menghadapi soal ulangan yang jawaban paling benarnya adalah “saling menghormati dan menghargai”. Tapi tampaknya dewasa ini teori adalah benar-benar teori ya? khususnya dalam bidang respect. Aku dibesarkan oleh keluarga yang mendalami ilmu kesehatan. Ibu adalah seorang dokter ahli penyakit kulit dan kelamin. Kakak kandungku adalah seorang apoteker, dan saat ini sedang mengikuti program doktor mengenai ilmu kedokteran dasar. Pakde (kakak dari ibu) adalah seorang dokter ahli kandungan. Kakek (alm, ayah dari ibu) adalah seorang mantri pada jaman perang kemerdekaan. Belum lagi om, tante, dan sepupu-sepupu yang berprofesi sama. Pengaruh ilmu pasti sangat kuat terhadap pola pikirku. Tanpa kusadari, ternyata tidak hanya ilmu pasti saja yang kental dari lingkungan keluarga, tetapi juga cara bersikap. Kami orang Jawa terkenal akan sikap santunnya, penuh etika, sopan dan menerima apa adanya. Tidak berbuat salah pun lebih baik meminta maaf, daripada dianggap tidak sopan oleh lingkungan. Sedang bersusah pun tersenyum, seakan kesulitan adalah ujian yang tidak perlu dibuat beban, daripada menyusahkan orang lain yang mungkin memiliki masalahnya sendiri (disini, terlihat jelas bahwa hidup respect adalah nilai budaya). Dalam dunia kesehatan sendiri, respect adalah budaya. Saya ambil contoh yang sudah saya observasi sejak SD hingga saat ini = Seorang dokter muda, akan diperlakukan seperti pembantu yang buta huruf oleh dokter seniornya. Seorang dokter senior, akan diperlakukan seperti dia tidak tahu apa-apa oleh profesornya. Siapapun yang lebih muda, adalah sama dengan tidak lebih pintar dan tidak lebih berpengalaman. Siapapun yang lebih muda, harus siap diberi perintah yang harus selesai saat itu juga. Siapapun yang lebih muda, tidak boleh berkata “tidak” atau memulai argumen. Just keep yourself low! Jika ada satu saja yang berani berargumen, maka pepatah “gajah di pelupuk mata tidak tampak, semut di seberang lautan tampak” pun akan mulai berlaku. They basically have no life or even options.

Sampai bingung harus memulai dari pertanyaan dan jawaban yang mana, saya mulai membuka kembali “laci-laci” ruang otak saya. Suatu titik yang paling menentukan pemikiran saya adalah ketika saya menemukan kalimat ini: “Pergilah. maka duniamu akan terbuka.” So simple yet so complex.

Dan aku pun pergi. Dan duniaku pun terbuka. Still, so simple yet so complex!! I was just too fascinated by that words. Idealisme bukanlah sebatas mimpi. Idealisme bukanlah sebatas teori. Di dunia yang respect bukanlah suatu nilai budaya, di dunia yang respect adalah sesuatu yang harus diberikan setengah olehmu dan diterima setengahnya lagi dari orang lain, idealisme adalah nyata. Dan ketika idealisme adalah hal yang bisa diraih, senyum pun akan menjadi tulus, bukan beban. Muda pun akan didengar, bukan di”shut down”. Tua pun akan mengasihi, bukan dikasihi. People have their own life.

Saya sekali lagi berpikir: benarkah? bisakah kita peroleh apa yang ada di dunia lain itu? Bahwa prinsip bisa dipegang teguh, bahwa kreatifitas bisa dikembangkan, bahwa berpikir kritis bisa berguna? Ternyata bukanlah hal yang mudah. Tidak semudah merasa senang karena mengetahui hal yang selama ini kita anggap palsu adalah nyata. Tidak. Kembali lagi kepada sudut pandang dan lingkungan hidup. Nilai suatu nilai. Nilai ternyata memiliki tempatnya masing-masing. Dunia luar bernilai seperti emas, dunia dalam bernilai tembaga. Dua nilai yang berbeda, tetapi mustahilkah untuk ditukar? Bisakah dilebur menjadi satu? Mengapa tidak?

Sungguh, semenjak apa yang saya anggap dunia sudah terbuka, godaan untuk menutup sekali lagi sangat luar biasa. Perhatikan ini: “Yth Prof.Dr.dr. bla bla bla, M--- (nama lengkap beserta gelar), di tempat. Selamat siang, assalamualaikum, nama saya R dari --. Mohon ijin untuk menyampaikan --------- (isi pesan yang tidak boleh disingkat-singkat penulisannya). Mohon maaf, apakah Prof bisa mengirimkan ----? Terima kasih dan salam hormat saya”

“Dear P (langsung sebut nama panggilan tanpa gelar), nama saya R dari-- Saya bermaksud menginformasikan ---- (isi pesan singkat tidak bertele-tele). Salam”

Jadi? manakah yang kita sebut respect yang sesuai? 1. menulis panjang lebar seperti contoh pertama, dengan harapan si penerima pesan merasa dihargai karena gelar lengkap dan bahasa yang santun, sehingga nama baik si pengirim pesan akan terus diingat. 2. menulis info singkat, padat, jelas dan efektif seperti contoh kedua, dengan harapan si penerima pesan akan terinfokan secara jelas ke inti masalah, tanpa berharap nama si pengirim pesan akan terus diingat. Seorang teman dari dunia yang respect bukanlah suatu nilai budaya mengatakan pada saya: Riani, tidak perlu menulis seperti contoh pertama. Untuk apa kamu memohon ijin? Mengapa kamu meminta maaf padahal kamu tidak salah? Mengapa kamu berterima kasih? Memangnya apa yang sudah kamu terima dari orang yang akan kamu kirimkan pesan? Dan serentak emas yang bermukim di pikiranku, perlahan-lahan berpindah menjauh dan menempati tempat tembaga. dan sebaliknya. Secara otomatis saya pun berargumen: Mengapa tidak? Berterima kasih itu tidak selalu diucapkan hanya saat kau menerima sesuatu saja. Bersikap low-profile terhadap siapapun itu penting agar kau bisa dengan mudah diterima oleh masyarakat. Dan jawabannya adalah: Tidak perlu. lakukanlah sesuatu apa adanya dan tepat sasaran. Hiduplah berguna, dan masyarakat akan mengerti tanpa kamu merendahkan diri. Respect yourself before you do to others.

Senyum tulus itu pun berkembang. Dia tidak salah, tapi juga tidak benar. Begitu pula saya. Saya tidak benar, tetapi juga tidak salah. Saya sungguh kagum akan prinsip respect yang ada dalam diri orang-orang yang selama ini saya anggap sangat individual dan tidak memikirkan orang lain. Andai prinsip seperti ini bisa berjalan dimanapun, bukankah akan sangat indah? :) #respect

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Important reminder

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Life is just a bowl of cherries..

28 December 2014. Burger’s Zoo, Arnhem, the Netherlands If one day you would ask me to go out and have fun, make sure to choose amusement park, aquarium or the zoo. These 3 places are my favourite after all, more than beaches and mountains. I love animals to the extent that I could build my own safari park if I have a lot of money (dreaming). And I love amusement park cause it brings people close together! :)

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#aquarium #date #flashback

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Useful blog

So I was thinking about making something useful during my spare time. I’ve got a free blog and a free paper. Easy, right? Wait for my first review! Maybe in Bahasa or English. Let’s see how it goes :P