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meowww-ffxiv · 1 year ago

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G'raha would be so embarrassed if this became public knowledge, but Meowdred was his bad boy crush during ARR. A gruff, sorta irritable mercenary hero with a growling voice and powerful magic? Curt, efficient, decisive but not entirely ruthless? Sweet on G'raha??? Man the guy was blown away.

"Public knowledge". All the Sons of Saint Coinnarch knew. Rammbroes knew. Biggs and Wedge. 30% of Mor Dhona knew. Meowdred's dad who was staying with the Doman refugees in Doma probably knew. Rammbroes was the one who told G'raha to sober up and that bad boys were BAD news.

#meowdred surana #kind of #meowdred was actually worried graha would think he wasnt educated enough and dumb #since graha was like. a phd guy and everything #theyre platonically married now #sort of? distance relationship??

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tidetower · 2 months ago

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Qarl & Laenor // Daeron & Addam

If I had a nickel for every time a Velaryon was in a same sex relationship with someone of a different social class and the culmination of said relationship was the lowborn one killing the highborn one, I would have 2 nickels, which isn’t a lot but it’s weird that it happened twice.

artwork by 0723ytin

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justanotherhh · 6 months ago

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me: dammit stolas you can't just walk away from someone who's struggling to connect with you, even if they're doing so through the poorly processed means of yelling insults, you've gotta give them time to work through it and not need to control everything

also me: [is aware that i also need to engineer situations to go perfectly and if someone started yelling at me i too would immediately get triggered and leave the situation and cry and if i had portal-making powers would yeet them to another continent, never mind just outside the door]

#smthinsmthin recognising the self is uncomfortable sometimes #but yeah blitzo is my precious princess -- i would not get on with him irl if he did that sort of thing to me #stolitz #helluva boss #blitzø #stolas #there's an almost dispassionate way i analyse blitzo as fictional character that's like. safe ways to engage with people #who have poor methods of connecting and communicating due to their own Stuff #+ blitzo's trauma is almost unrealistically massive in scope -- that is it totally works in-story but its details are less relatable to me #and so i can sift through his Stuff without it punching me in the throat emotionally -- it's like. safe distance #(also tbh blitzo's main issues are his romantic relationships -- at first his professional ones aren't That Great #but loona and millie and fizz both pre-fire and post-reuniting are quite chill -- and he gets better with moxxie)#stolas is -- barring the being a powerful mystical being + royalty -- unnervingly too close for me to look at directly

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bumblingbabooshka · 8 months ago

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[Tuvok & Janeway: Control, Distance, Duty & Connection.] Sources: St Voyager Transcripts / Mitski 'First Love Late Spring' / Disco Elysium

#web weaving #star trek web weaving #st voyager #Kathryn Janeway #Tuvok #be the change you want to see in the world - make a long post about Tuvok & Janeway's similarities <- angel on my shoulder #I feel like a lot of people see them as 'opposites attract' sort of friends where Janeway is unhinged & Tuvok reigns her in #but in reality I think that while there is that element in there (exacerbated HEAVILY by their delta quad circumstances)#what I see most in their relationship is how they both value loyalty and duty above all and are extremely rigid with themselves #and the people around them. How they both have to maintain distance from others bc of their positions as captain & vulcan #I hate when people dismiss Tuvok as not being remotely interested in Maryana or Noss - it erases an interesting struggle that he and Janewa #both share - their desire to stay loyal to their spouses vs the 70 years of loneliness that that loyalty demands of them #But they BOTH triumph and they BOTH remain loyal (Tuvok until he returns to T'Pel and Janeway until Mark informs her that it's over)#and for both of them it's a little bit insane for them to do that.#Isn't it more interesting that Janeway and Tuvok both have feelings for people other than their spouses but don't give in #to that temptation?#They're both people who live very fastidiously by codes. Either written codes or moral codes - they very rarely if ever do things because #it's what THEY want to do. I'd say they're the least emotion-driven members of the crew and yes I'm including Seven because Seven #has a very...how to describe? It's a blunt and insular selfishness. She does what SHE wants to do and doesn't really care about others.#To me that's emotion-driven. Or...personal desire-driven? Not a bad thing at all but very different from Janeway & Tuvok who #are always more 'this is logical' or 'this is for the crew' rarely do they think 'this is what I want' bc they can't afford to #for different reasons (captain & vulcan)#they both also are in the most 'caretaking' positions on the ship from my POV. Security and Captain - both are directly in charge of #ship and crew safety.#Janeway & Tuvok #star trek voyager #st voy #when I say caretaking I'm NOT saying they're everyone's mom and dad or whatever - I'm saying they're in positions where they always #have to think about the greater good and the crew as a whole and how much danger is acceptable etc etc.#Janeway is always killing herself for the crew but Tuvok is right there beside her

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fluentisonus · 2 months ago

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still chewing this one over so hopefully this makes sense but one very minor running thing I feel like we get w jean valjean is that without disliking women or even believing that they're in any way unequal to him he. hm. for the most part doesn't have much normal contact with adult women after his sister (and presumably none for the 19 years he was in prison) which means that. not that he doesn't understand women so much as i feel like idk. he makes the mistake of unconsciously assuming men-are-from-mars-women-are-from-venus style that he doesn't understand them (being aware of that lack of contact & under the impression women are fairly different to men), and because he's a guy who wants to understand things & is largely self taught (often from books) especially wrt social niceties, he ends up being very credulous, in that presumed lack of understanding, of commonly held beliefs & traditional, societally reinforced ideas of gender rolls & gender characteristics, and this sometimes ends up ultimately hurting women around him despite his genuine good intentions

like obviously firstly in montreuil-sur-mer where he wants the female workers to have "pure morals" and gives them a separate workroom to the men to "remain discreet" which I think he genuinely intended as a means of making it a good work environment for the workers -- women can have privacy & focus on work & nothing uncomfortable or untoward is being brought into the workplace etc -- but as we know this backfired horrendously because it essentially resulted in fantine being fired for having a child out of wedlock & everything she went through after. and given his reaction he doesn't seem to have ever considered this a potential effect of his rules -- like he doesn't seem to have understood how those sorts of rules end up ultimately punish the women involved more than anything

and the other main instance of course is with cosette and his assumption that essentially a woman has a father, & then she has a husband & having a husband no longer needs a father (this is strengthened a lot by his own feeling of his own taintedness -- it's not the main thing responsible for what happened by any means. but it's a part of it) & this assumption is incredibly hard on her!!! she obviously doesn't see it that way at all! but it never seems like it occurs to him not to think of it in that framework bc essentially society in general sees it that way

idk I guess what I find interesting abt this is that it's a big blind spot in a guy who's otherwise extremely willing to question social biases & generally likes to take people all on a level as just another sort of person like himself. again I think in his general behavior towards women interpersonally there's nothing bad & in fact there's a lot of genuine respect there & probably willingness to learn even (in fantine 's case), but it's like he just never worked out that these ideas about gender are about as true & helpful as ideas about class or criminality etc etc

#idk does that make sense. I'm trying to work out how to phrase it #some of this is also of course just hugo's own approach to women & gender roles which is sometimes uh. 😑#thoughts #les mis #i also kind of feel like his not being attracted to women makes him conscious of this sort of a remove he's at from normal relationships to #women socially speaking which maybe makes this worse <- not that that is a Real distance or cause for misunderstanding so much as #his perception of it makes him more uncertain of it. i guess. if that makes sense

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bitchycasenthusiast · 2 years ago

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I had a horrible dream that steven universe had a velma-like spin off called connie

#I actually didn’t mind it too much because steven and Connie were still together and cute #but they had grown up to college age and were in a long distance relationship #and she cheats on him with her roommate #(she puts the kibosh on it right away afterwards and also I think I didn’t mind because it’s college that’s when you experiment)#graphic violence graphic sex (or as graphic as my asexual ass would make it)#Connie’s going to school for some sort of culinary thing for some reason?#garnet kept showing up to lecture her about misuse of animal images #weird dream #personal #shoulda put this on my animation blog

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triptychofvoids · 2 months ago

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Hey, sorry if this was asked before, I was unable to find clarification by just browsing the posts you tagged with Heavy, or looking the word up (great search system, Tumblr, thank you). Could you elaborate on your opinions about Heavy? And, by extension, HeavyMedic, since it's clearly only really a platonic thing in your work.

Which isn't a complaint, to be clear, your work is honestly rather refreshing, considering how often Those Two are just "the couple" in so many fanworks.

i like heavy, we are good friends and im rather fond of him! in addition to being a a valued asset on the battlefield and a good test subject, hes a quite an agreeable and interesting person as well!

i just dont feel anything more than platonic towards him, and i fail to see why this is such a problem! i understand heavymedic is rather popular and it seems some people care about shipping characters more than anything else when it comes to fan interactions. originally when i first saw it i had no problem with it, and even found some of it amusing or endearing in some cases. but over time, well. it stops being endearing very quickly, especially when you can never get a break from it. its a shame too, because heavy is quite fun to draw and id love to draw more interactions between us, but at this point i tend to avoid drawing him or even talking about him altogether because some people sadly do not know how to behave

#to reiterate though #i will not stop or complain about other people from shipping it #i do not care #but do not bring it here.#imagine you have a good friend and everyone likes to ship you with said friend to a religious and obsessive degree #despite the fact that you are not only already in a committed relationship with someone else #but also do not have any sort of romantic feelings towards that friend #eventually it starts to taint even the friendship itself. you may start wanting to distance from that friend so people will leave it alone #unsurprisingly i have received anon hate over something as simple as 'do what you want i just dont want it here'#i digress #there is your answer #now i would prefer if everyone leave me alone about it <3 #the doc is in #and no i will not put this in the main tags #teammate mention #theres more but. i dare not say the rest aheh

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notonlymice · 1 year ago

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bookshop owner!Gold x tourist!Belle moodboard

#rumbelle #a holiday romance sort of thing #does it develop into a long-distance relationship? does belle stay? does she just leave one day? WHO KNOWS #rumbelle moodboard #not only mice but also moodboards #my rumbelle things #my things

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nonbinary-sticks-the-badger · 1 month ago

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nobody understands me… espio is so perfect for silver… but espio is also so perfect for shadow… but this gets complicated when youre a dadow truther… alas!

#sonic #espilver #shadespio #shadpio #genuinely i think especially for shadow espio is so perfect #like if shadow wanted to settle down with someone espio is the most similar to him #but also silver and espio is sort of (unintentionally) implied in canon #and theyre such a sweet couple in the sense that they have to be DEDICATED. long distance of 200 years relationship

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moe-broey · 26 days ago

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While the World's Slowest Slowburn makes the most logical sense, between Kiran and Alfonse. In my heart. Moe manages to find a way to get in an overly handsy way too intimate WAY too soon I just got my ass ghosted or perhaps dumped situationship with Alfonse. In a demisexuality and trust issues honoring way. ALL under Moe's assumption, that "Well he's Not gonna get attached to me so It's Fine."

#moe tag #moe lore #BUT. A BIG DISCLAIMER PERHAPS. is i can NEVER make up my mind on any 'official' sequence of events.#still i cannot resist. thinking what would be the funniest most unique form of torture to apply here #like moe sucking alfonse off before they even kiss. alfonse along the way getting to know moe #is making some fairly reasonable assumptions all things considered. given the information he has #and in a nonjudgmental way ofc ofc #only. as he slowly but surely unlocks more information from moe. the reality dawns on him.#the one relationship moe has ever been in was long distance. he doesn't quite grasp all of moe's explanation.#but they seemed to be something akin to pen pals. they never had a chance to meet.#moe's character is funky bc it IS very blunt and upfront and honest to a fault. HOWEVER.#DESPITE. ALSO being So Bad at hiding things. despite all of that. it still manages do this sort of thing.#like. so much. not telling him that it was moe who ghosted its old friend. him not even finding out #moe has a brother. it just straight up did not mention that until alfonse trying to comfort moe is like #'you must miss your sisters terribly... 😔' and moe is like. in the most autistic way possible. well yes.#but this isn't about them actually.#this is WELL into being friends w moe at this point. again no solid timelines but moe keeps Pulling This Shit #and then there's. gesturing broadly to all of mani #like i am ALWAYS caught between what would be the most piningful payoff or what would be just the Worst way to do it.#and EXTREMELY often. the funniest option wins. also alfonse is going to kill moe w hammers.#maybe the secret here though is. there's still a slowburn occurring here.

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prolibytherium · 1 year ago

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Absolutely death gripped clenched trying not to comment on reductive posts on ancient greek homosexual relationships

#It is neither wholly '0mg two gay guys in love!!' and 'I am humiliating and debasing a lower man by making a woman out of him'#There's heavy elements of that in how they conceptualized penetrator vs penetrated but the erastes (lover/protector) and eromenos (beloved)#relationship was significantly more complex than that #Like it is conceptualized as sort of a mentor/mentee relationship and a positive element for an adolescent's development #It was the subject of romantic plays and you get things like people in antiquity in heated debates over who is the #erastes and who is the eromenos between Achilles and Patroclus (to better depict them in plays)#The bottom line is more 'the socially accepted m/m relationships were (what we would now consider) an adult and a child #(or young man) with the age difference being a fundamental element to the dynamic.'#And more broadly being penetrated in sex assigned a 'lower' or 'womanly' role and it would not be conventionally accepted #for an older/more socially powerful man to recieve penetration (which certainly DID happen though)#So absolutely a moment in the history of male homosexuality and not something to just go 'ew ew bad evil ewwie' about but also #not something you want to project modern conceptions of LGBT identity upon #Also we know relatively little about relationships between women in ancient Greece due to lack of sources due to being a #highly patriarchal culture but we can't actually know that they did not involve similar power dynamic #Certainly not to the same extent or in such a well socially defined way (bc they conceptualize sex almost entirely through a lens of #penetration) but I think you should be treating relations between ancient Greek women with the same degree of #historical distance from our lives and identities today.#Ok death grip failed I just typed an entire rant. Fiuck it

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persephonaae · 2 months ago

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I think there’s something to be said about my weird self fulfilling prophecy with Persephone, I don’t think she will ever stop being the ruling force of my life

#not meant in a religious way #or. At the very least not in any sort of practiced way of religion recognized by someone in a normal way #strong and complex relationship with my mother. strong and complex relationship with being a young girl who one day grew up.#just so happened to work out to be in a long distance relationship. my new job I’m working in plant and botanical design #and then there’s the whole thing about being really good at finding dead things #it’s always gonna cycle back to her in some round about way or another

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ignitelimelight · 5 months ago

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So my sister and I just got in a fight over pre-shrunk fabric?? She was bitching about work and she said that if you buy pre-shrunk clothes or pre-shrink your fabric before sewing, you don't care about your appearance or your clothes. I was surprised by this, because in my 20+ years of sewing I've learned that pre-shrinking is a valuable tool for costuming and other types of sewing construction. I said as much, not confrontational but just expressing my fact in comparison to her 10 years in couture fashion. She persisted, and I was like "hey maybe a value judgment on a tool is not the move, but also we don't need to get into it". She called pre-shrunk fashion LL Bean slobs and that it seems like we can't talk without getting into something these days, I asked if this was a fight (because autism), she said yes and hung up in a huff.

How the heck did this happen?? Also maybe calling your autistic sibling to bitch about the finer details of what boils down to status symbols isn't the move. Also we were talking about the neutral subject of sewing from two different perspectives (costuming vs couture). Anyway I think I don't really like my sister these days, she never asks about me and only ever calls to bitch about work and her boyfriend :/

#gonna talk to my therapist about how to sort of distance myself from her #i'm still gonna have a relationship with her #but i'm not interested in having a close one with someone who isn'r interested in having a meaningful one with me

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bumblingbabooshka · 1 year ago

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Learning Curve Hall-of-Famer right here. Tuvok making Chell clean the transporter room with the equivalent of a toothbrush as, I assume, a punishment of some sort & Harry coming out of left field with a 'You missed a spot <3' just to kick him while he's down. Harry, the man's gonna be there LITERALLY all day. Absolute bastards these Starfleet types <- said with love

#learning curve #Tuvok confiscating the Bajoran earring is obviously bad but his entire method of training is also just so ... it's a Lot #He's such a drill sargent v_v It's moments like these that make me think he and Harry would well together in the mirrorverse #B'Elanna: ?? But he'll be at it for hours! / Kim: (knowing that's the point) : ) .....#B'Elanna: Well good luck! / Harry: You missed a spot : )#Tuvok: Ten laps around the ship in increased gravity. Ten more laps if you talk back to me. Twenty. Thirty. Forty.#Twenty six hours scrubbing the floor as punishment. No stopping for water. I expect you to improve daily or I will consider this a failure.#Also Tuvok: I just don't understand why they aren't responding well to my training....hmm.... / Neelix: ................ : ) Um.#People like to focus on Tuvok as a good mentor or father figure but I really think that's only to very select and specific people about #select & specific things - this rigidity and lack of compassion and inability to understand others and general #vibe of being uncaring is also part of his personality #Like what Neelix said: 'That's the problem - you have no feeling for me but you have feelings against me' <- That sort of vibe #<- And also the fact that he's very close with Janeway despite (or perhaps because of) this is another interest component of them #Janeway who at the start of the show stated explictly that she was comfortable with her distance as Captain (which hints that she's not #like say - Pike. Who wants to get to know his crew intimately)#Idk I just think it's interesting!#Janeway & Tuvok as colder than other Human/Vulcan pairs is something that intrigues me. Janeway being comfortable with distance from others #and heavily segmenting her personal vs private lives and Tuvok who is the most quintessential Vulcan also being the closest to her for the #longest time (They've been friends 20 years prior to the show's opening)#There's no component of their relationship which demands Tuvok be more Human which is something I /WISH/....we EXPLORED more....the #Janeway-Tuvok friendship....it's SO telling that other Main Vulcan-Human pairs are like the most delved into relationships on screen but #Tuvok & Janeway's relationship is paid lip service but never REALLY is any time devoted to it explicitly. I wonder why that IS.

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camelspit · 8 months ago

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Oooh why are you a Lava Cake hater? I’m so curious

😔😔😔 ive been discovered /j

I'm not even really a hater I'm just strongly. disinterested in it. It doesn't do anything for me, and I'm struggling to see how it got so popular (no hate to the shippers though lmao have fun!!!)

maybe this is gods revenge for the garvar era. punishing me for my crackship with another one. 😔

#i think im probably going to block the lava cake tag #theres so much of it in the main tag now and i just cant make myself care #i think fitz and marella could have an interesting dynamic?#in the first book she was sort of on dexs side about the whole vackers better than thou shit #she was the not like other girls gossip girl and he was the popular boy.#in a cheesy 2000s highschool movie? I think they have potential #and in canon it might be interesting to explore their relationship #when shes grown into an ability that marks her as a reject and unmatchable with him #but in canon i also cant see what would attract them to eachother in the first place.#maybe just prolonged exposure over the years slowly wearing away that distance between them?#sorry about the rambling tags lmao im just kind of writing down my thought process #now that im being forced to think about it though. i think it does have some potential.#it does seem like it can be an interesting dynamic but i still cant fully see it as romantic. if that makes sense.#kotlc

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telephone-junkie · 8 months ago

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being an e-groupie is so hard. im standing outside your tour bus… metaphorically

#a long distance relationship of sorts

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