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I’m planning on seeing the movie opening weekend with my parents, and I’m honestly really nervous that there might be some fans cheering at Maria’s death… I want that scene to hit me emotionally and be impactful especially since my parents would be seeing it for the first time. And if dumb people start cheering it will take all the emotion away :/
Sorry I just felt like ranting it’s really been bugging me lately.
Sweetheart, never apologize for sharing your emotions with me. Ever. Thank you for trusting me enough to have this conversation.
Unfortunately, this is a conversation that I’ve had had with my family as well. This isn’t a conversation that anyone should have if you ask me. We’ve actually decided to go to an earlier showing to avoid the crowds in case something like that happens.
I’m sorry that this is a concern. I do wish that your viewing experience is good in some way or another.👉🥺👈
#sonic movie#sonic movie 3#Yeah. No. The ���BLONDE GIRL DEAD’ jokes are disgusting. Any time I see people joke about it I block them#mystery anon#off topic
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Is anyone in the Modern AU an equestrian? I feel like Twilight, Time, Malon, or Wild competed when they were young but had to quit at some point because life happens. (There’s also SO MUCH potential for angst/whump here with the plethora of injuries and/or trauma you can gain from the sport >:) )
sorry if this is incoherent its the middle of the night for me aldkdkd
Wild wouldn’t have had the time when he was younger 😔 but he loves animals and taking pictures of them and he’s close enough to Twi at this point that he’s been taken to the ranch (as all of Twi’s best friends eventually are aksmdkdk) and he’s gotten to see the horses :)
Malon ABSOLUTELY competed when she was younger, as did Twilight, but he stopped mid high school because of his mental health (he had a really great childhood and wonderful, loving, supportive parents, but unfortunately sometimes depression and anxiety just Are). He loves the horses on the ranch very very much, hes been a little bit sad since he officially moved into the apartment because he doesn’t get to see them every day and just ride through the fields anymore whenever he wants and driving through the city on his motorcycle just is Not the same💔
Not necessarily related to equestrian so much as Twi just being around a horse, but he has a scar on his forehead from when he was like 9-10 getting off a horse and his foot got caught in the stirrup and he stumbled and ended up falling and smacking his face REAL good on something and he split his poor head open. Twi remembers almost nothing about it, like he knows it was a thing that happened but he remembers the stories from his parents about it more than anything else, he’s got like third person pov memories of most of the ordeal and he finds that weird and tries not to think about it. All he really CLEARLY remembers was himself sobbing after getting his face stitched up and someone offering him a popsicle. TIME on the other hand, who watched it happen because he was right there with Twilight but couldn’t help him before he fell, occasionally still has nightmares about it- like at LEAST 2-3 times a year even though it’s been over a decade
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Gartic phone shenanigans with my friends lol
#my art#toontown corporate clash#chip revvington#dave brubot#buck ruffler#misty monsoon#brubuck#gamesaw#??? does that even count lol#idk most of the context is just my friends and I's vrchat moments loool#tw gun#??#sorry to anyone unfortunate enough to see these
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trying to not complain about the discrepancy between how much content fictional women and poc have vs the white dudes in every fucking fandom im in, because no one owes me fanart/fic and i can make shit myself, but holy fuck can any of you name a woman?
#despite this mentioning women specifically its actually inspired by the ao3 tag for lucy and the guy who waterboarded her having 500+ fics#while her with her canon black love interest has 36.....#yanno. in a way its still 'name a woman' because none of these writers see her as a full character with thoughts and feelings that#may not align with their own. shes a named y/n to 80% of the fandom instead of. oh i dunno. an interesting canon character#ugh#sorry that you wouldnt wanna kiss max but lucy is built different + dont care + she didnt ask + L#(unfortunately i am the one getting ratioed because lesbians with correct opinions suffer more than jesus)#AND ANOTHER THING!#her tag is literally (i fucking counted) over half just shipping content with the white guy. unusable without a blacklist i stg#its not enough that she has so much less content than him. she ALSO has to share half of hers as primarily focused on him#UGH.#im allowed to bitch a full novel in the tags because its my fucking post and you can reblog it without this commentary#im not even using full names so it wont show up in their tags. i dont have to further justify shit about fuck to anyone
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Is this canon? Technically no.
Is it even In character? Absolutely not!
Do I care? Not really!
Locus is my blorbo and i can put him in annoying situations, like having a small squad of annoying but just-good-enough-to-not-kill-them Feds, if i want to
#rvb#red vs blue#rvb locus#my art#batsy art#samuel ‘locus’ ortez#rvb oc: the clovers#necoda ‘neko’ micce#anton pavoz#neko looks tall when he’s next to anton and ivia#but he’s like barely 5’6 so when you stick him next to 6’2 locus#anton: ive seen his chest plate more than his helmet#ivia: you can see his chest plate? (shes 5’ even she cant see shit)#i dont have the spoons to work on my bigger pieces bc i have commissions coming up which yay money#but it means i need to consolidate my art energy for a bit and my brain is like nooo my blorbos#in the words of the fave: unfortunate!#i need to get paid tho#so instead: silly doodle time#little guys#no ivia bc i only had a small corner of my sketchbook left and she didnt fit sorry bestie#in my heart shes off helping dr grey she doesnt really get a lot of spare time to spend w her boys until the armies merge#and the medic population doubles#so do the soldiers but theyre consolidated now at the pirates shoot to kill with much better aim so…ya know#batsy do u ever not ramble in your tags? no this is my stream of thought for future me#and anyone bored enough to actually read my tags#i still have beef with the prefect helmet i hate drawing it i love its look im punting it into the sun
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Hi, I wrote my first evak fic in early 2023, before that I had been an avid reader for years. I know the fandom is a little quiet but there's this hardcore group of writers and readers that seem to have been around since the start and all know (of) each other. I don't know how to word this without sounding envious but it seems to me that group doesn't really read, comment on, give kudos or support new fics outside of their little circle. I want to believe it's a time issue but I have to say it comes across cliquey and a little hurtful. I really hope I am just being an insecure baby but I would be so happy if the established and popular writers would give me feedback and leave comments.
hiya! congratulations on writing and posting! i know it can be a big, scary jump from reading to writing and sharing, so applause for that in the first place.
i'm sorry your contributions to the fandom haven't been received the way you'd like them to be. if i'm included in this group of writers and readers, then, well my reasons for not reading/commenting/supporting are possibly going to be more hurtful than what you're already experiencing! i've whined about it years ago (first here, then here), and unfortunately it all still stands, because i have done absolutely zero work on bettering myself as a human being. i think i've read a handful of fics, mostly because they've been sent to me directly, with someone asking for my thoughts, and i managed to put in the effort to read it and offer a polite response. but there are also a bunch of fics that have been shared with me that i haven't read, even when i've said i would. i'm sorry if you have specifically done this with me in the past, because i have not treated your work, your creativity, with the respect it deserves.
i can't speak for anyone else, on how they choose to spend their time reading or writing, or the relationships they have with other fans. on the one active skam discord i'm in, i think a lot of them know each other from other fandoms, or have different relationships beyond writing/reading skam fic. also, as skam fades, people might only have the bandwidth for enjoying and supporting fanworks from established relationships, the same way you still want to support a favorite author even when you or they have changed genres or whatever.
but in reality i don't know the group where this is happening or why. i agree, it would be nice to receive more readers and commenters in general, and being jealous of the attention other people receive is natural. but i don't know how to change your relationship with that group, or my relationship with reading & supporting.
#y'all should see the tailspin i am in right now#i do not like examining my own habits because they are so disappointing!#but there's the explanation for why i don't read#IF I AM EVEN INCLUDED IN THIS GROUP???#or am i just supposed to commiserate as an outsider? IDK#of course i automatically assume i am at fault#i do know that the fact that i don't read fic has pissed people off before#unfortunately pissing people off is not enough to change my behavior#as anyone willing to scroll through my asks on this website could tell you#but also you would not want my comments if i felt obligated to give them#and i think the people i've beta'd for would agree#i do not go into it as a fan#or as an appreciation#i go into it very defensively#which is a shitty relationship to have with art#anyway i am sorry that this is your experience and that i may be contributing to it#i do not have a solution for you#nor do i want to like.....guilt people into reading fic#and the way i cope with this#the way i coped with it back in the day when the fandom had more popular writers and reading groups#was by hiding#and lowering my expectations#i gave nothing to the fandom and i expected nothing from it#kerryrants#aka how i tag the posts when i'm being an asshole
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one day ill become brave enough to draw overly edgy a rotten crowd shit just to caption it with the paper chase lyrics
#styx says#a rotten crowd#LISTEN. I MADE THAT AU THE DAY I LISTENED TO NOW YOU ARE ONE OF US FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER AND THEY ARE INSEPARABLE IN MY MIND FOREVER#unfortunately im too scared to let anyone but the besties see anything abt it. despite it being my absolute favorite batshit au of mine#also every singly tpc song was Made for a rotten crowd. i promise. john told me himself (were on a first name basis)#(says all of this whilst refusing to ever elaborate on whatever the hell a rotten crowd is outside of discord. this shits goin to my GRAVE*#(*no it isnt)#uhhhh sorry if this shows up in tags or whatever. tumblr is kinda shitty but i dont care enough to censor myself !
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had the longest day in the world... and tomorrow is gonna be longer........
#bro 😑 why did i schedule two back to back 'go be condescended to while helping someone' items#i care about these people. i WANT to do the cleaning and grocery shopping and errands etc etc for them. genuinely.#unfortunately i am now old enough to recognize that i find them both personally insufferable MOST of the time. i just hate having a#'conversation' with someone that can't ever allow you to be right. like even when i agree with her i'm still wrong because she has to be#Right And Correct about everything. more than anyone else can ever be! it's like please just go back to tv and let me clean your house!!!#i'm here to dust your fifteen million bookshelves! i'm SORRY that some of the books got out of order the last time this happened -#when i wasn't even here! that was you!!!!! just let me clean!!!#and the other person is my grandma which is just like okay are you inviting me over to have lunch bc you actually want to see me#or is this the first step of the next elaborate guilt trip youve constructed for me. bc i'm just.#you can only say i dont love you and have me give in so many times ma'am. and you are over the limit.
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Why is one of the funniest passtimes trying to figure out the biology lore of the vampires that exist in your character universe
Like legit a couple of months ago I went on an unsurprisingly unhinged ramble in the gc I'm in w my friends about whether vampires can or cannot shit which ended in the few vampire ocs I have being grouped into shitters and nonshitters (all depending on whether they're from a pure bloodline or a hybrid) then just a few minutes ago I saw a screencap of a cute little vampire ship idea post has caused all the vampires, hybrid or otherwise, to be invisible in mirrors.
One of said vampires is a drag queen with incredible make-up skills.
This means the only explanation is that he had a particularly helpful little brother.
And by particularly helpful I mean:
#apologies for the shite art it took me like. 5 minutes to sketch whoops#did put some effort into the colouring though to try make it a bit better looking buuuut it's still lazy as hell.. oh well#funnily enough the little fella ends up needing his brother to teach him how to apply makeup later in life bc he gets into streaming#and unfortunately for him cameras don't exactly pick up on his presence lol#shitty art#lore(?? does this even constitute as lore????) dumping#sort of a shitpost#vampire#vampires#god I'm so sorry#no I will not atone for my sins#IN MY DEFENCE this level of brain (dys)function is not my choice#I'm autistic and love speculative biology n fantasy shit#If I wasn't the one thinking this weird ass shit up it'd be someone else in the same boat as me#if it makes anyone who sees this feel any better I will try not to do any more species development for my main OC universe's vampires
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just saw a post about how lego needs to release less marvel sets and more ideas sets and like im going to be real with you. do you go into the lego aisle ever
#kbitycus talks#sorry im a fucking. legos nerd its a family trait. there are an insane amount of pre-existing incredible sets#that get released every goddamn month. and i see them every time!!!#like even beyond ideas sets. looking at the huge amnt of lego friends kits - those are incredible pieces of work#lego city & associated sets have also been going up in quality and uniqueness. there are a ton of botanical sets out#& if you go onto the lego website you get cool shit all the TIME#cannot stress this enough. the marvel sets may be visible but they are vastly outnumbered#i also am burdened w the unfortunate opinion that most of the sets they do for other franchises are really unique & fun!#the exceptions to this being the minecraft sets & a lot of marvel sets.#but there are a lot of unique & fun pieces and building strats you have to use for shit like the up house or clone commander helmets#and i can guarantee that anyone w two eyes and a walmart can literally go and witness incredible sets that lego releases#that arent remotely related to disney. in bulk. wowie#also the person in that posts tags pointing out that those lego sets get attention by vote: literally. be the change you want to see
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i worry a lot about some transfems and its not me trying to be like "im better than you" or some shit its bc some of them remind me of me when i was a kid and new into being considered a girl/woman and being really naive thinking people would treat me better than they would- like i knew people were gonna be shitty but i wasnt prepared for the sheer amount of dehumanization and being reduced to just a sex object... idk... I just want some of you out there to be careful...
#ik its hard to convey tone and emotion through text but i do really worry.#im sure people have felt the same way about me being new into being considered a guy too. Ik i wasnt prepared for how emotionally distant#guys can be. and how like. atomized we all are and how a lot of guys only know how to interact with the world through violence and#being a dick and .-. basically how a lot of guys are just bullies. idk.#i think if we have experiences that we think we can help others by sharing them and maybe preventing them from making the same mistakes#as us then we should share them yknow. idk.#for me at least it does in some ways feel like im a little kid again learning what its like to navigate a new social setting.#like i didnt realize how much playing pvp games with cis guys suck and ppl who grew up with that are just like. 'yeah. thats just how it is#im literally playing wow rn and playing on a pvp server and i literally never attack anyone sdhjdshjvvfd and ppl are just like.#dicks for NO REASON. im LITERALLY RUNNING AWAY. ugh#i get it dude! this is the only way you can feel like you have a big dick but cmon. you gotta accept the truth some day#^and having to learn to talk like that has been something ive had to adopt from dealing with cis dudes. fun#some transfems i want to grab by the shoulders and shake and be like 'DO YOU KNOW YOU'RE BEING TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF'#with a desperate plea in my gaze#'I WANT TO PROTECT YOU BUT I ALSO KNOW PPL HAVE TO LEARN SOME SOCIAL SHIT ON THEIR OWN BUT BY GOD ARE THERE#SOME THINGS I REALLY DO NOT WANT YOU TO HAVE TO FUCKING LEARN ABOUT THAT I HAVE NO CONTROL OVER AND#IS UNFORTUNATELY LIKELY TO HAPPEN TO ANY WOMAN'#why am i becoming a parent. i need to stop. problem is i care too much about people in spite of what ppl might think .-.#i worry so much thats why i yell at ppl online bc i dont want them to get hurt or do something to fuck themselves over idk.#i just... dont express it the best way. like a gym coach or something 🤦#i really am Dad Vibes now huh. how do i stop myself from becoming a dad. i dont even have kids.#well. i have a cat. the eternal rebellious teen. but still#i need to stop expressing my care and fear through anger. its not great. ppl misinterpret me too much w it. but im not mommy enough to#sugarcoat things and coddle people if i feel like thats whats happening. so idk.#i realize this might sound patronizing and im not trying to be at all. to transfems with more experience this is like 'duh' to them probabl#but I'm more talking to the young transfems I see online who seem like they dont go out much and i dont blame them at all for it#its fucking scary out here. especially as a woman. esp as someone alt righters fetishize. and im sorry.
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#I was watching this interview a TV station did with The Hives#and it's great it's lovely the interviewer clearly loves their music and is excited speak with them#unfortunately her mannerisms and style of interviewing is so similar to mine that I feel like I'm watching myself#and I had to turn it off out of self-consciousness#I *feel* like that. I am pretty sure I have that same tremble of nerves. I mean that much even I can hear *while* I'm talking#do I really sound so anxious? How do people sound so calm and authoritative fellas I do not have it :(#sorry to anyone who has ever had to endure an interview I've done#the bands are so calm in comparison because it'll be like one of thirty they'll do that day n all#anyway; on the flip side I love and miss media un-trainedness#I am actually not at all media trained myself but like in general people on screen seem to be. So you don't get the nerves and awkwardness#anymore. Is that a good thing? If you ever intend on catching a recording of *yourself* then maybe. But also seeing yourself can't ever be#normal you never get used to that. So we ask instead is it good for media in general?#I don't know. You lose some of that rawness wrt your guests! But also it does depend on the qs you ask.#You absolutely can get a guest comfortable enough to speak quite fluidly; that's when you're a good interviewer#anyway sorry for ranting raving and musing; sorry to anyone who's had to hear me attempt to do media but I can't hear it back meself
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dang it, i deleted one post i wanted to and one i didnt. but i found the thing!!! i was just going about it the wrong way
#im chatty today. sorry about that#but im not being overly negative so i guess that counts as a win for anyone who's been unfortunate enough to see me post#anyway. im gonna read the thing and if it's not so 'early 10s typical gamer-style offensive language/slur dropping' as i remember it being#then im defo gonna share#idk if any of yall are interested but itll be nice to have a place for me to find it easily again#idk#to the void with love
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Sorry for the ugliness of the view, or should I be the one sorry or the occupation? Of course, dear reader, you could not bear the ugliness of the scene, but what should I and my family say? We have been here since the third of December,
[ vertified by @nabulsi and @el-shab-hussein , num.221 on fundraising list ! ]
See the evidence below !
Note, the iron thing in the picture in the back is the primitive oven in which we bake our daily bread using firewood and plastic. CAN YOU IMAGINE ????!!!!!!! Is your food covered in sewage, urine and feces? Sorry for the words but this is crazy, I'm going to lose my mind!
We have been here since the third of December,in addition to the filth and waste, it explodes daily due to the presence of 30,000 thousand displaced people. It explodes and the place here is flooded with filth, sewage and dirt. It is definitely a hotbed of diseases. Why do I and my family have to live, sleep, eat and cook here?????? Do you see this little threshold? A few centimeters that separate us and it's not enough, a lot of insects and worms,If you go out with your shoes, they will get dirty and dirt will enter inside. We are inevitably stuck in dirt. Is there a decent person who would be satisfied with a life like this? I am tired. We are all exhausted by the disease. Everyone is here with yellow eyes and epidemic hepatitis. Everyone is like a zombie because of this tragic and inhuman situation in which we live. My family does not leave the bed due to the severity of illness and fatigue. [is there a bed? Of course NO, we sleep on the floor, specifically on dirt, but unfortunately we have begun... We get used to the tent like a house and we use its terminology. This habit and habituation is killing me. I cannot accept and do not want anyone to accept the humiliation we are experiencing Or try to beautify it in any way.]
If you would like to help even a little for my family, please do not hesitate for a moment. It is an unbearable situation. Our lives have been destroyed. Or you can help spread the link to our family to someone who might be able to help. Thank you for reading. Have a good day. At least someone should be happy today.
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#children of gaza#gaza fights for freedom#gaza under bombardment#north gaza#gaza fundraiser#gaza solidarity encampment#gaza under siege#all eyes on gaza#help gaza#gaza gofundme
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life as a hit man was dirty but simple, and gojo preferred keeping it that way. he didn’t know his clients names, they didn’t know his. he’d send over proof of his work, they’d wire in the money. dirty, yet simple.
so when he gets a message to kill the daughter of some oil tycoon, he doesn’t think much about it. sure he thinks it’s cheap to go for the kid, but what does he know. this is the most he’s ever been offered for a one shot job, so he’s not an idiot to turn this offer down.
and unfortunately, that meant his next confirmed target was you.
he gets your information, where you go to school, what apartment building you live in, where you like to eat. usually he prefers a straight shot to the head, but sometimes sneaking in something to your food lets him off easier.
gojo gets to know your routine. what you do at what time. what shows you watch, what your favorite sweater is. he watches from the high rises that faces yours, crouching down so none of your bodyguards could see the reflection of the magnifier of his rifle.
and gojo is used to taking out a wide range of people. men, women, grandpas, aunts. it’s just business to him. but there’s something about you that makes him hesitate to pull the trigger.
maybe it’s the fact that the weeks he’s spent trailing after you he’s noticed you’re pretty much a loner. you keep to yourself, never bothering anyone. you don’t seem to have my friends in your classes, or even out of them. gojo never questions to morals of his clients or who they ask him to kill, but judging you so far you seem to have done…nothing wrong.
you treat the old lady who works in the convenience story with such kindness that gojo wonders if you were born into this level of wealth, because most people of your status treat those beneath them like ants. you always hold the door open for your body guards despite them insisting they do it for you. you always buy some food for the stray cats in the alley you pass, and you never yell when you’re on the phone with your dad, even though gojo tracks those calls and feels the need to yell for you.
it all comes to a moment when you’re at your favorite coffee shop (he knows this because you come here so often), and you’ve managed to weasel away from your bodyguards. he knows they must be freaking out by now, but you just want some alone time.
he’s right there, right behind you, the little pouch of his condition of drugs that instantly kill in his pocket ready, and you turn around with your coffee cup and bump into him.
your eyes seen, letting out a shocked gasp as the iced drink stains his shirt and pants, the cup not empty on the floor.
“oh my god, oh my god,” you stutter out, scrambling to find some napkins, “i’m so so sorry! i didn’t even see you there - gosh,” you shove some napkins into his hands, trying to dapple the coffee away but it does nothing to help, “i can’t believe…!” you trail off, the two of you moving out of line so you don’t hold the others up and your shaking your head in dismay, mad at your clumsiness.
“it’s alright,” he assures you, waving it off as his eyes take in your appearance. “don’t even worry about it, accidents happen.” it’s the first time he’s seen you this close, and he feels that pouch growing heavier in his pocket.
because you’re pretty. really pretty. and he likes the plush of your cheeks, the scrunch of your brows, the way you’re nearly gnawing your lip raw. you seem even prettier in person, and there’s a lump forming in his chest, something he’s never felt before.
“no, no,” you murmur, trying to find the tide pen in your bag, only to realize you left it at home, “and it’s stained too, fuck. i am so sorry about this, you probably have somewhere to be and…” your words trail off as you scramble for your wallet, pulling out some cash as you push it into his hands.
it’s more than he needs to replace the shirt and pants, probably enough to buy him a couple pairs from ralph lauren, but you still seem to think it’s not enough as you look for more.
“it’s no worries at all, i keep an extra of shirts in my car for emergencies like this,” gojo lies smoothly and you look up from your purse, eyes wide in shame. fuck he really likes your eyes too.
“no, please take it, it’ll be on my mind all day if you don’t,” you insist, but he’s shaking his head defiantly, a reassuring smile on his face as he hands the money back to you.
“and it’ll be on my conscience all day if i take it,” he promises you, and after you realize he’s not going to retract his hands you take the cash, shoving it back into your wallet as heat settles all over your body.
of course with your luck you spill coffee all over the most attractive man you’ve ever met.
you still look worried, finding another napkin as you take out a pen from your purse, messily writing something down.
“this is my contact information if you ever need me to replace your clothes,” you hand it over to the man with an apologetic smile, “please don’t hesitate to call me, i know stains and that’s gonna be really hard to get out,” you go to say something else but your eyes dart to the large windows behaubd him, catching sight of your body guards who seem to have seen you, and your face falls.
“i’m really sorry, again, but i have to go,” you mutter as you speed off, waving goodbyes to the stranger as you duck your head down and leave the coffee shop, not wanting to cause another scene as three buff men race in to find you.
gojo stands there almost in a haze, looking at his stained white shirt to the napkin with your number and name on it.
almost as if he didn’t already know it, almost as if you weren’t the girl he’s supposed to kill.
and in that moment he realizes how screwed he is, because he’d rather down that packet right there than shoot you down, and he’s never felt this dread before.
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agh i know it can be rally difficult but especially if you are a marginalized person especially if you are a woman ESPECIALLY if you are trans please make sure that you’re not signaling insecurity to ppl via your dating app profiles or what have you. it can literally be a matter of your own physical safety.
as an example, i often see trans girls on hinge liable to put something like “i’ll fall for you if you show me any affection at all <3” on their profiles…and i know u just think it sounds quirkily self-deprecating and i KNOW that’s the way you really and truly feel but if i am someone who whether consciously or not is searching for a dynamic in which i have power over another person, a statement like that will make my ears perk up!!
furthermore, and especially for younger people, there are a lot of things that are very necessary to discuss with a partner that are ALSO very necessary to not reveal for a little while. if you have been abused in a certain way or if you are inexperienced, those are things that are unsafe to talk about with people you don’t know, no matter how honest and upfront you pride yourself on being. i’ve had someone tell me about all the sexual assault they’d experienced on a first date— and luckily for them i wasn’t interested in harming them or really into them at all— but again, imagine if i were someone who wanted power over another person! all their truthfulness and vulnerability would do is reveal them as an easy mark for my manipulation.
if you do encounter a critical situation with someone you haven’t spent enough time with yet, it should always be possible to say what instead of why: e.g. “i’m sorry, but i’d like to wait before having sex with you” or “i’d rather not hang out in that park, can we pick somewhere else?” instead of “i’d like to hold off on having sex BECAUSE i’ve never had sex before” or “i’d rather not hang out in that park BECAUSE that’s where i was assaulted.” again, both very important things to talk about with a partner, but unfortunately potentially dangerous things to discuss with someone you’ve not yet gotten close to! and anyone who seems to be sniffing around for signs of your inexperience or victimhood is not to be trusted anyway (note that sniffing around is different from a polite “oh, would you like to talk about it?” interest.)
i know it can be difficult to come across as more confident than you feel, but it is really necessary that you’re projecting a desire for something healthy and safe that will make you happy instead of saying outright that you’ll be fine with crumbs.
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