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close call maybe?
#an art#sdr2#super danganronpa 2#danganronpa 2#kuzuhina#You'll never guess what my latest inspo is (watchmen)#Also something else tho. Sth crazy happened that I can't easily talk about but it is. Gonna have an effect#fuyuhiko kuzuryu#hajime hinata#My usual Thing that I Have: i think pressing lips against someone is very sweet. Not even a kiss per se just kind of yknow#Pushing your face mouth first into something out of emotion. You ever pressed your hand to your mouth in shock? Like that.#Again the mouth and hands are Important parts of the body regardless of romance. Sometimes your instinct is to:#Grab with hands. And test with mouth. It's instinct. Something Something touch and breath and shit GAY HOURS
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To the next adventure...
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[A drawing of Nicky, Joe, Quynh, and Andy from The Old Guard. They are all in profile, walking in a straight line facing the sun. They are dressed in medieval clothing and armour, and each carry their own weapons and bags. Nicky has his sword, a crossbow, a quiver of bolts, a dagger at his belt and another strapped to his ankle. Joe is holding his sword, a bag, and a coin purse. Quynh's bow is over her back, and her quiver is at her hip. Two daggers are strapped to her belt, one of them matching Nicky's. Andy is holding her axe, two bags, and a dagger. They each have serene expressions and closed eyes, as if they're not in a hurry. In the background, the seasons change from winter to spring, summer, fall. There is an old tree behind them, and its branches change with the seasons.]
#tog#the old guard#nicolo di genova#yusuf al kaysani#quynh#andromache of scythia#the old gays#siggy draws#FINALLY. this took... 3 months altogether? FUCK i miss these four.#apologies if my image description is super long. i really enjoy drawing all these tiny details...#director's commentary as usual:#when i draw stuff like this it's usually because i'm working on a big fic. and i am. but also it is taking me over a year so far#because i'm finishing my undergrad. but i do plan to finish the fic!#regardless they could be walking anywhere.#tried to keep it sometime around the 14th century. i always try to put them in clothes that reflect their personalities -#- and places of origin more or less.#andromache's mail is old af and not in good shape. only she and nicolo have spurs so i guess they would be the riders if they had horses#but i am not about to attempt to draw a horse lol#details i like: nicky's little hat to protect his hair from his chainmail. his and quynh's matching daggers. yusuf's fancy-boy armour.#quynh's leg wraps and her jerkin. and andy's super old chainmail and her whip braids <3#where are they going? where did they come from? it's up to ye.
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Quickly posting this now so I don't forget later lol
Happy anniversary to the Cat Gay Panic AU! @krossheadquarters
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For the last few weeks, Cross had been transformed into a cat every night. Why it started and what caused it, he couldn’t be sure, but it was almost routine at this point. Killer had found and picked him up on his first night and he’d been returning to Nightmare’s castle to hide out in Killer’s room ever since.
Until this night.
He’d hopped up onto the windowsill of Killer’s room only to find it empty. Well, Killer’s other cats were there, but the monster himself was mysteriously absent. On any other night Cross might have just turned around and left, or made himself comfy and waited to see when Killer might return, but something different had happened today.
Their teams had met up in the field earlier in the day, the usual fight for an AUs survival in the balance. At some point Killer had snuck up on him, and out of instinct Cross had dealt him a pretty hard blow. He wouldn’t have normally been so rough but it caught him off guard, and although it succeeded in getting Nightmare and his gang to retreat, he couldn't help but feel guilt tangling amongst his ribs as he’d watched Killer get carried off.
His relationship with Killer was something that was also getting tangled. They used to just simply be enemies, rivals on opposing teams, but ever since Killer started doting on him so sweetly in cat form Cross had become conflicted. Seeing a new gentler side to his rival had introduced all kinds of confusing feelings. Did he really… like Killer? If anybody else had been asking him that he would have told them no immediately, definitively. Certainly not.
Though, it made it much harder to explain why he was treading around Nightmare’s castle looking for him.
He should have just stayed in the room or gone home, but seeing Killer’s door was ajar had been too tempting. Even as an inconspicuous little cat, Cross felt his soul pounding as he darted down hallways and around corners. Sure, Killer may have been taking in strays like a shelter, but that didn’t mean the others would be so kind if they found him.
Why was he even doing this??
It was a silly question, he knew perfectly well why. He just needed to make sure Killer was okay. He felt guilty enough about hurting him earlier, now that the other was missing from his room it just weighed too heavily on Cross’s mind.
Finally, as he approached an open door, he heard familiar voices. He could hear Killer’s voice! Cross hurried over and peeked inside the room and sure enough, there was Killer lying on a bed.
There were two other beds in the room with sterile white sheets, and the walls were lined with cabinets full of bottles and jars and boxes. It looked like some kind of infirmary, but Cross had never imagined Nightmare’s group would have one. He didn’t have much time to think on it though, as once again his instincts took over when he saw Killer and he let out a little chirp as his tail raised up to greet him.
Killer shifted at the noise and propped himself up on one elbow to look down, his whole face breaking out into a grin as he saw the other. Cross refused to acknowledge the purr he let out at seeing that smile directed at him.
“Oreo!” he cheered. “you found me!”
Cross started happily trotting towards him, but stopped dead in his tracks as another figure stepped around the bed. A big dark goopy figure that fixed him with a suspicious stare, he could feel his back raising as he stared back into the single cyan eye.
It felt like he spent several minutes under Nightmare’s scrutinising gaze, waiting to be picked up with a tentacle and turned into paste or thrown from a window, but really it was only seconds.
“I don’t remember this one.” Nightmare finally uttered, turning his sceptical expression on Killer. “Are you still bringing in strays?”
“only sometimes,” Killer replied, far too casually for the look he was getting. “this one doesn’t stay all day, he only shows up at night.”
Nightmare was doing something to the top of the bed but Cross couldn’t make out what, it was too high up. All he could see was a strange blue-green glow coming off it. He did see Killer’s hand though, since the other was leaning it as far down from the bed as he could reach and motioning for Cross to come over.
Now that Nightmare seemed distracted enough, Cross continued his little dash over to meet Killer’s hand and happily purred as the other stroked his head.
“I wish you would stop bringing in these creatures who need so much care and attention.” Nightmare chided.
It wasn’t how Cross had ever imagined Nightmare reprimanding his henchmen. No yelling, no threats, no swinging them around. He sounded more exasperated than angry, like a desperate teacher trying to reason with the rowdiest child in their class.
“isn’t that what I said to you when you brought in Horror? you didn’t listen to me either.”
Cross didn’t need to see over the bed, he could hear the smug grin Killer was wearing for that remark. It was one thing to have that attitude with the enemy team, but it was another to speak like that to the powerful monster giving you orders. It made his fur start to stand up a little, was he trying to get himself killed??
There was a beat of silence that felt icy cold to Cross, but he must have been the only one as Killer kept petting him as though nothing was happening.
“I don’t have to heal you, you know.” Nightmare responded finally. “I can very easily let you lie here and heal slowly with time like everyone else.”
“yeah but you wouldn’t do that, you love me too much.” Killer chimed with all the confidence in the world.
Healing him…? Cross knew Dream had some basic healing magic, but he never suspected Nightmare would too, what good would it be to him? Was he actually fixing Killer’s injuries?
Suddenly Killer let out a little yelp, like someone had pressed their cold hands against him. Cross felt his back going up again and a hiss rising in his throat.
“okay okay, no more cats” Killer relented. After a moment he added, much quieter “…this month.”
He could hear Nightmare heave a sigh and the strange glow disappeared from over the top of the bed.
“I should have condemned you to the void long ago and avoided all this trouble.” He said, sounding more weary than annoyed.
“love you too boss!” Killer replied, and from the sound of it he was grinning widely again.
“Stay in here for the night and it should be fixed by morning, don’t do anything foolish before it’s healed.”
Nightmare stepped around the bed to leave and caught sight of Cross again, who tried to make himself look somewhat big and imposing. If only to cover up the chill of fear that ran through him at having Nightmare look down at him like that.
“And make sure that beast doesn’t destroy anything in here, or I shall make a rug out of it.” He added before walking out.
Cross could feel his fur standing on end, he didn’t take a threat from the god of negativity lightly. Killer must have been used to it though, as Cross heard him making little “pss pss” noises at him as he leaned over the bed.
“aw, don’t listen to him,” Killer cooed when he saw how riled up Cross had gotten. He smoothed his hand over Cross’s head and gave him a comforting little scratch behind the ear. “he’s just grumpy cause we lost, he won’t hurt you.”
Cross had no such confidence. Although… Killer did have a pretty sizeable collection of cats who seemed calm as could be in his room. If he was able to keep so many for this long maybe Nightmare really didn’t bother with them, but it was still very jarring to hear his greatest enemy talked about like he was nothing more than a crabby old neighbour.
“c’mere little guy, can you get up here okay?” He said, motioning for Cross to jump onto the bed with him.
With a little preparation (and some butt wiggles), Cross managed to leap up next to him, and was immediately greeted by two arms pulling him in and nuzzling on the top of his head. He didn’t bother fighting the purrs that erupted from this, it wasn’t because he liked Killer. He just enjoyed the affection, that was all.
“aw, I missed you too” Killer mumbled into the top of Cross’s head before planting a little kiss there.
It was apparently something Killer did pretty often to his cats, but Cross still wasn’t used to it as he immediately let out a little surprised chirp and began kicking his paws around. Thank the stars cats couldn’t blush, or he would be ruined.
“ah!” Killer sucked in a breath as one of Cross’s paws met his ribs, the same place where he’d struck Killer earlier.
Cross jumped at the sound, trying so hard to back away from the spot he almost fell right off the bed. Killer readjusted himself and rubbed at his chest but didn’t seem too annoyed, he even held out a hand to coax Cross closer again.
“heh, careful there oreo, can’t be stepping on me there.”
Cross walked back to Killer’s face like he was stepping over landmines, testing each spot with a delicate paw before putting any weight on it. Killer let out a little chuckle at his weird movements and wrapped an arm around him when he was close enough. He let out a quiet, apologetic meow.
“it’s okay buddy, it’s not your fault.” Killer explained. “Criss-cross got me pretty good, did a real number on me.”
He continued rubbing one thumb up and down on Cross’s cheek as he went on, sounding almost a little bit sad.
“we haven’t been as rough with each other lately, we were kinda having fun with it a little bit, talking shit to each other while we fought and all. I was starting to think maybe he likes me, but… I guess not.”
Cross let out what sounded more like a bark than a meow. No!!! That was an accident, he didn’t mean to hit so hard! It wasn’t that he didn’t like him just- just-
“heh, what? you think different?” Killer asked, amused at Cross’s little panicked outburst.
“Rrrrow!” Cross responded defiantly. Killer just laughed.
“eh what do you know, you haven’t even met the guy yet.”
Cross tried not to sulk as Killer resumed petting him. He pressed his face into Killer’s neck as the purring kicked up again, making the other giggle as his whiskers tickled the top of his spine.
“oh well, at least you like me don’t you oreo?”
After a second’s pause, Cross meowed back, with confidence this time.
#UTDR#UTMV#CGPAUAnniversary#Kross ship#I wanted to try and do something for this cause I still think about this AU sometimes#It's super rushed and basic but still#Also I had to make it a little bit dadmare cause I don't know any other way lol#Happy gay cat anniversary to all who celebrate 🎉
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omagah I just realized I haven't posted my lego riddler/scarecrow lovechild yet 🙊

my muffin ✨✨✨
because your lego oc doesn't talk in the game, I got the idea of riddler and scarecrow adopting a mute child stuck in my head now, and I love it
I've been having a blast with this game. There's definitely been some...moments. Which add to the riddler and scarecrow lore I collect in my head. Especially scarecrow revealed some things I didn't know about him. I'll be making a separate post about that 👀
#name's very original I know#I keep confusing him with scarecrow tho all the time when playing bc of the hat#maybe I'll draw the scriddler child idea sometime#lego batman#dc#batman#scriddler#lego oc#jonathan crane#edward nygma#riddler#the riddler#the scarecrow#scarecrow#my baby#lego dc super villains#game#lego games#dc rogues#dc oc#love child#child#gay baby
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And thats a wrap folks!! Happy day 30 and 31 of hermit-a-day-may to all who celebrate!
This has been a great month full of so much cool art. A huge thank you to Luna for organizing this event for the second year in a row. You do so much to make sure this happens and it is SO appreciated.
So, same time next year?
#fanart#my art#hermitblr#hermitaday#hermitcraft#also a big thanks to my lovely moots ghost and tissy for keeping me company while I worked on this XD you two are absolutely lovely#mcyt#oh and happy gay month everyone!! Cant wait to see all the multi-million dollar corporations throw up rainbows for a month :DD#no really tho happy pride <3#hermitcraft art#hermitcraft fanart#hermitcraft season 10#joel smallishbeans#smallishbeans#smallishbeans art#hermitcraft joel#hermitcraft rendog#rendog#hermitcraft ren#super happy with the fact I managed to do all of the main prompts this month (plus tfc)#A lot more consistent than last year even if I sometimes posted every other day :)#right! take care everyone and thank you for an incredible month <3#no matter how crazy life irl and online has been for me recently having the daily prompt has kept me keeping track of the days so thank you
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good-ending!kakashi and itachi need to have a little former traumatized geniuses cooking club where they get comfortable with making little "mistakes" and putting imperfect dishes on the table and improvising without needing to explain themselves like it's life or death
#the “former” is aspirational and v cute#probably sai and tenzo also join at some point#of course gai joins in occasionally because he's not to be outdone by his rival with cooking of all things#and also with these four it can get depressing quick#iruka is invited once as a courtesy when he shows up to work with one too many kitchen injuries lol#if there's one thing they're not the cooking club is not clumsy#... unfortunately he is quietly assigned a buddy any future attendances#usually itachi because itachi can put out fires very quickly#or sai because sai is (frustratingly) talented in the kitchen and doesn't feel he's missing out on practice#neji might also participate sometimes! he wasn't ever anbu but he probably needs the therapy-ness of it#he's not a huge group activities person but sai invites him and he's surprised by how low-key it is#he gets a little competitive with itachi lol#since itachi doesn't care about things like using all whole-grains or only organics or attempting to make a recipe vegan#he's very good at following directions don't get me wrong but he's not much of an experimenter unless he knows a dish super well#while neji just knows which replacements to use after doing it for so long#neji isn't super militant about it but he watches his diet to make sure it isn't imbalanced/overly protein heavy#and like itachi he doesn't care for strong tasting meat so he'll preferentially choose fish or plant proteins#this is what finally makes things more easy between the two of them! some of the others want to make a meat-heavy dish one time#but itachi isn't feeling it and neji shows him how to do a tofu alternative!#long tags#naruto#from the margins#hatake kakashi#uchiha itachi#hyuga neji#sai#yamato tenzo#umino iruka#omegaverse
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here, have a quick lil fem!crowley sketch (w/ ichor tears bc i adore angst, apparently)
#not super happy w/ this and probably will never finish it but whatever#tempted to post a photo of myself because i always seem to base the hair and mouth/jaw of fem!crowley off of myself adsjasdl#like u know how some artists just look like their work??? that's me (sometimes) but also i'm not NEARLY as pretty as nanny ashtoreth etc.#i look a little like a possum that was hidden in a trash bin for a couple weeks :) so maybe not like fem!crowley in the least lmao#DAVINA MY BELOVED. i am literally so gay for her ugh#good omens#crowley#ineffable husbands#good omens 2#aziracrow#aziraphale#go2#ineffable lovers#ineffable wives#good omens season 2#good omens angst#fem!crowley#crowley angst#gomens#gomens 2#david tennant#gomens fanart#gomens art#gay omens#good omens art#my art#good omens fanart#anthony j crowley#fem!crowley art
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Hey guys stop calling my gf a fag that's so rude
#gotta put this here and say I'm not actually dating anyone#I just act super gay with the homies sometimes
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CONFETII 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 I’m needing more ideas to draw them …. Any middle school or highschool headcannons you have for them are 100% appreciated

#HEADCANNON TIME#Neil has a hard time with affection but without thinking he’ll do it so casually#they could be chilling and hed put his arm over his shoulder and sk will be like huh???? in a good way#Neil has perfect teeth since he takes care of them good#sk.. does not. needs braces for the gap and has way too many teeth in his mouth#when they kiss their teeth clink sometimes and Neil cringes SO HARD#sk will try and kiss him on the cheek but it never works super well#if they kiss on the lips it will be Neil initiating it cus he has to be in control of the situation#Neil tries to not use axe body spray#Sk smells like flowers cus of his moms perfume and gets called gay 💀#he doesn’t know why eveyone calls him gay it’s jsut what his mom used on him#they both have packed cold lunches#sks mom packs his lunch and gets sweet notes#Carl sneaks the note into Neil’s lunch and he gets sooo embarrassed cus of it#they play video games at sks house (Neil doesn’t feel comfortable being sk over cus it would be a whole thing) and they play WoW#weirdly enough sk is the cold one and Neil is the hot one#sk is a big ice pack and Neil needs him to survive#okay that’s it :3#camp camp#campcamp#spacekid campcamp#cc space kid#campcamp ship#neil camp camp#cc neil#neilsquared#neil²#neil x spacekid#neil x space kid#spaceneil
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thank GOD I wasn’t the only one who watched this and thought “this is gay”
#LMAOO#GO WATCH KENADIAN NOW HES AWESOME!! I also watch wifies sometimes :3#unironically tho this whole ‘series’ is super cool and I love the character development and such#I’ve already watched kenadian’s video twice today without skipping anything#I’m so invested in this. sorry for saying it’s gay. it just. well. 🥺
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guys cmon. be ffr please. akemi did Not love taigen. the only reason why she was desperate to search for him to the point of putting herself in danger is because she didn't want to get married to an abusive man (which she believed at the time that takayoshi was). when seki tried to dissuade her from running off, her reason was not "but i love taigen and wanna be with him 🥺" it was because she refused to be controlled and have her autonomy taken from her; she literally says "i won't be locked away in edo married to a stranger." and when seki still tries to argue that getting married to the heir of the shogun would be better than getting caught by brigands, she then says "that kind of man"—referring to takayoshi—"treats women like animals. they say he's a tyrant." and when seki chuckles and says "what man isn't?" her response is "you." she doesn't even talk about taigen. she is using him as much as he was using her. they both see—or, well, saw—each other as means to an end. for taigen he saw that marrying into the tokunobu clan would elevate his status and wealth. for akemi she wanted the right to choose who she married, and she wanted that person to be someone kind. that's it! neither of them loved each other. but since they were courting of course they acted sweet to each other, and they do still care for one another, especially due to their romantic history. but let's be real! akemi is a boss bitch who dropped taigen and forgot all about his ass as soon as she saw takayoshi was a nice guy. because duh? not only is takayoshi a better lover (it's implied their lovemaking lasted a long time) but he's also kinder towards her and presents her with an opportunity to claim power and freedom, which she would not have if she had married taigen, as she would have still been stuck under her father's thumb. so literally why should she settle for taigen's stupid ass! she may be a little naive at times but she's still incredibly intelligent. she would not do something stupid for the sake of "love." you know who would though? taigen.
#blue eye samurai#wank.mp3#kinda?#fandom.rtf#shut up haydar#like out of the 4 main characters#akemi is the brains (the mental aspect)#she mainly uses reason and rhetoric. that's why she's so good at persuasion and manipulation.#ringo is the soul (spiritual aspect)#ringo serves as the show's moral compass and gets mizu to follow her morality#taigen is the heart (emotional aspect)#taigen will always impulsively follow his feelings (he's so brash for this reason. if he feels angry he will act on it etc)#mizu is the body (physical aspect)#mizu suppresses her emotions. her reason. and her morals. she only lets her skills and primal instincts guide her.#that's why she's almost super human sometimes#but anyway yeah#akemi? is a strong-willed self-empowered woman! she is not some damsel. she is intelligent though somewhat naive#please do not mischaracterise her cuz she is a boss bitch! she is a queen a cuntress a baddie#also on that note. the nature of taigen and akemi's rship is one of the reasons why im not keen on a polycule ending#like please explore it in fanfic and fandom! i personally just dont want it canon. i just dont see it working!#like literally i dont even think taigen found her attractive...#i mean he did obv find her very beautiful as everyone does. but did yall SEE his face when she propositioned him?#no desire in that man's eyes. he is GAY! his sexuality is men + mizu. he is a raging and bitchy bisexual!
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new ocs??? after like what half a year???
#basic premis is that this 35ish american gay guy(TWINKKKKK) goes to live with this british gal who HATES him#she's super nice and kinda has a rbf but she just hates this guys guts#no one else just him#and dude is okay with that lol#moral of the story is friendship <3#gal also has a sister who is super into fashion and chills with the american guy sometimes#batrambles#oc art
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it's really interesting being The Office Gay at my job because all the women there will be talking about how useless and annoying their husbands are until I need something done that 'traditionally' a man might do (fixing car, moving objects around, plumbing, etc) because then they're all volunteering their suddenly very skilled men to do work for me and my wife. I have so many part-time husbands on standby
#i've never had men in my life like literally Ever so i do all these things on my own anyways. same with my wife#but i do find it charming in a way that apparently these gals just get their bfs/husbands to do it for them#and assume that i likely need a guy to do it too? but since i'm gay we must double need assistance#so many will be like 'ugh my man is so pouty about snaking the drain - but if you gays ever need him i'll make him do it'#i was complaining about needing to move furniture around and one said she could ask her husband to do it for me#like that's so sweet but i do have the ability to push furniture around tho thank u#sometimes you can feel yourself being an alien to cis straight people but it's actually harmlessly endearing#this job has spoiled me though. i doubt future jobs will have super inclusive women offering their husbands to do my bidding U_U 🎻#prawn posts
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I think that if you are a lesbian and work you should be paid a little extra for the days that you have to hear about thirty different jakeys.
#by bug#it is a joke! it is a joke ok#I will continue to listen about the jakeys#but sometimes when you bring up women people look at you uncomfortably and it’s like :(#I get excited bc on Thursdays I meet with my mentor and she talks about her wife a lot and I’m like yessss tell me about your wife#it’s like me and her and one other person#and tbf most people at my work are super chill but I think some of them just don’t know what to say to gay people lol#again tho I say it in jest bc tbh I’m just happy I get to work w cool women in geosciences
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I have the brain of a fallow deer i think because when i look at my beloved wrestleboys (or really any incredibly huge buff person) i feel the instinctive response in my brain of holy fuck this guy could eat me. Like i am some sort of prey animal. What's wrong with me. It contributes to the sense of awe when watching the sport but it's also another sign to never ever ever go to real life events lest i bolt in panic and dash in front of a passing Subaru.
#jay talkin#huge doesnt have to mean tall either the guy i am most often thinking abt is nearly 2 inches shorter than me#just buff as shit yknow. but its true u look st ppl like that n yr like holy shit#i rlly havent been around ppl w that kind of physique ever so it kinda awe strikes me n sets off like#the brain firing on so many different weird cylinders#i grew up watching worlds strongest man competitions so its not a NEW sensation i just still think its funny#my little frightened brain goes wow i am looking at an apex predator im gonna get hunted#and i go wow thats so awesome. well anyways i wanna look like him and also fuck him. enjoy that combo of thoughts#i'm like a fallow deer if the deer was fucking faggy as shit and gay for the wolf it glimpsed one time#oh i dont think im making much sense. i feel very woozy the sickness bug got me weird#but yeah yknow sometimes u see giant dudes and u go fucking christ. wow. u are so outside of what everyday ppl around me look like#like i wanna be you i think yr hot i also kind of just wanna compare to u like lemme touch lemme just. see#the difference. yknow. yknow. not even always hornily ok. just curious. but also i feel like u can eat me and thats scary#anyway whatever (runs off embarrased) kyaaaa (trips over own enormous dick and falls into vat of liquid steel)#also no please don't analyse this as 'well its bc yr scared of men' i super am not its not a gender thing#does not apply to my life experiences. i'm scared of deep water and large bouncy castles if theyre enclosed. ok.
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something i needed to hear when i was younger, and depending on the pockets of the internet and the kinds of real life people you're around some people probably still need to hear it. ultimately, using a label is for you. you don't have to know for sure if you're a lesbian, or bisexual, or pansexual, or asexual, or something else. you're allowed to just say you're whatever label is helpful for you at the time to explain to people so they're understanding, or help yourself find community with people who can connect with you about shared experiences. some people use queer because it's an umbrella term and they don't need to explain the specific nuances of which labels apply to them, and they can use the broad queer label to just find other people with roughly similar experiences. some people use gay as an umbrella term for similar reasons. some people use ace and asexual as umbrella terms because they're demisexual or demiromantic and trying to find anyone who's going to somewhat relate to what they're going through.
maybe you have NO IDEA what label fits you! you're still figuring yourself out. you're allowed to try to connect to various communities to see where you relate, what shared experience or aid you find. (and this applies broader too: labels like your favorite fashion, the music you like, the hobbies you have, sometimes you like something no one in 100 miles specifically made a group for but your hobby might fall under a bigger umbrella you CAN relate to - like liking X specific board game might find ppl who relate at a bigger tabletop game convention, or a person into costumes could go to a Anime/Video Game Convention and relate at least a bit with cosplayers). you're allowed to CHANGE. First, just to change as you grow. You will be a different person over time in some ways, that's just how life works. You're allowed to change the way you label yourself. Second, you're allowed to not be sure the labels you use for yourself fits, to try out ones until you see which fits (as in - which labels help you connect to people who understand what you feel/like/are), and allowed to change labels if they stop fitting.
and finally: you are allowed to NOT tell people your label. If you label yourself, it is to make your own life easier - to help others like you find you, to help find people like you, to build community. strangers who may hurt you have NO right to your label. you don't have to tell them shit. you are allowed to lie. You're allowed to not tell your parent your sexuality, if you're afraid they'll throw you out of the house or harm you. You're allowed to not tell your work your sexuality. You're allowed to not tell strangers, in person or online, whenever you feel you do not want to share how you identify. (And again this can apply to more than sexuality: if you're goth and in a school with uniforms scared people will bully you if you bring up you're goth, you're allowed to not tell them - although sometimes teenagers find joy in declaring who they are including around people who would not respect it, so if you want to declare proudly what you like or who you are then go for it. You're allowed to not mention to your boss that you're trying for a kid, maybe you're worried they'd discriminate if they knew that, or pass you over for promotion, or would treat you different, or you just don't want to discuss your personal life at work. Maybe you're into kink and you just don't want to mention that to work friends, because you dislike discussing sex related things with work friends, and maybe you only want to tell them if they become a friend that goes to bars with you. Maybe you love drawing furry art, or getting furry art commissioned, and you love discussing it at conventions where you can meet other furries and tell artists how talented they are and buy some of their art, but you don't want to mention that to grandma and explain what furry is. You're ALLOWED to decide if and when you share a label you relate with. You are still a good person if you refuse to come out to your school as gay, or if you don't mention online that you're trans, or if you don't want to discuss trying for kids at work. My point is just: labels are for YOU to feel safer, to find connection with others who may relate to the label. They aren't necessarily things you have to be honest about, and perfectly sure about, to be moral. You're allowed to lie and omit to protect your safety. You're allowed to change your mind, or be unsure which label fits best.
#rant#the confidence you're seeking with labels... sometimes doesn't come until years of exploring yourself#...........................................................................................................................................#also the safety thing. people in general are allowed to lie for safety. idk what else to tell you#like if you're on 4chan and you're black or gay or trans you're allowed to just not mention that shit while you look for whatever you're#looking for. hell on tumblr it may be safer if ur a trans girl to not mention it to avoid the ceo#on the other hand you might choose to mention ur trans to find community with other trans people on tumblr#both are valid choices!#if you're super into unions ur allowed to not mention that shit to ur boss until you've already done the work of putting together a union#(at which point u cant really hide that ur in a union now)#if youre trying for a kid u cant hide the baby bump (probably) but u are allowed to control when you reveal the information to coworkers an
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