#some of yall act like people dont know their ship is toxic

[g-on-ef]

I find it funny that you think Stolitz is toxic yet you ship Angel Dust with his abuser.

You know I was scrolling through your blog cause I'm a nosy bitch and honey if your anons hate what I write/post about striker and Octavia or whatever head canon I create about them if they hate my writing they are more than welcome to come yell in my inbox {warning I have anon turned off so let's see how brave some of yall are}

Now onto your question sweetheart if I wanna ship Valentino and Angel Dust I can do it on MY BLOG if I wanna call out how an awful person Stolas is I can do it on MY BLOG

The difference between me shipping Angel Dust and Valentino vs the helluva boss fandumb is I know my ship is toxic I don't make excuses for it nor do I baby one of them and treat them like an innocent Saint that can't defend himself.

Yall do with Stolas yall act like he does nothing wrong despite every awful thing he's done some of yall act like Blitz is an asshole that deserves the worst cause Stolas can do nothing wrong.

Like I personally find it funny you're getting mad/annoyed at someone who never interacted with you cause of what they ship/create cause a lot of people don't like your ship got a problem with what I do/write than why don't you and your anon cowards create your own shit and leave me and every other person who loves Striker/blitzstrike alone

Have the year you deserve

[magical-glimpse]

Would yall like me to make a list of the the red flags i look out for in readers ? It is quite a personal list but i guess it can help people who reallht dont know how to go about it ?

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YES PLEASE DO

✨Red flags in BTS tarot readers ✨

what do i mean by red flags ? I mean little things that, when added up, can lead me to block or ignore a reader because they are not accurate or responsible. This is a personal list, according to my own values, and my experience on what tarot can or cannot do. If you don't find it helpful then just ignore me and make your own lol.

a reader who does not have any boundary whatsoever (accepts everything or does not say what they do not read on)

a reader who never refuses a reading on any topic

a reader who genders people they dont know the gender of (calling future spouses Mrs or Mr, gendering them in readings)

reads on appearances ( tarot can give clues in personal readings, but it does not accurately predict appearances)

openly ships certain people together

openly likes one member over the others ( i dont just mean biasing, i mean their entire blog is 90% one member)

dedicates a whole tarot blog on one member

has no problem reading on rumors

claims to read in order to "spill tea"

entire blog is about "spilling tea"

never explains where they get their info from: tarot? oracle ? intuition? clairs ? No friggin' idea bro.

shit talk the members or the people they are supposed to read on

says one of the bts' members energy is dark or manipulative

says a member or FS uses "black magic"

does not have any idea or even opinion on the theory behind tarot, just pulls cards and hope for the best i guess ?

cultural appropriation

gets kicked out of a member's energy, comes back, is surprised it's hard to read on them again

acts almighty about the fact they can read tarot

acts aggressively towards innocent questions

doxxes people

a reader who does many readings, every day, never stops, never takes breaks. Tarot takes energy, if someone can pull many readings daily they are either a super saiyen of tarot endurance or bad at actually reading.

Someone whose FS readings of members weirdly pairs up with their own characteristics

Someone whose readings are dragging a member or a FS through the mud (ex: saying jk is toxic and manipulative and a cheater, saying taehyung got someone pregnant and forced them to abort, someone using the very real fears from within the kpop industry to target an idol with no other proof than "tarot")

thinks "divine feminine" and "divine masculine" are determined, or linked to in anyway, to biology

created the blog before and making posts before learning tarot, their very first tarot readings are bts tarot readings,( unless they explicitly say their blog is for learning purposes )

you dont actually learn anything from the reader, they never explains the process, or the answer or anything about tarot

their readings are always extremely positive or extremely dark for no seemingly good reason

readers who acts like they are never wrong

readers who share leaked pictures from paparazzi

readers who call a FS some sort of honorific name or put them on an inhumane pedestal

readers who claim themself (or others) are the FS

readers who act childish in general

I guess there could potentially be more, but this is what covers my bases as of rn. Feel free to add more so we can discuss them.

[regretevator-confessions]

i think its very obvious that some of u are not familar with how fandom spaces work because yall are calling ships “toxic“ n then its just two characters who kinda dont like eachother 😭😭😭this is just what fandoms DO .making two characters in love even if it doesnt follow canon rules is just .normal fandom stuff dude. its not that serious..... i get not liking a ship but u dont have to act like its the scum of the earth just because people dont see these characters the same way u do

partybeetle? AWESOME SAUCE !!! i love them a lot and i see why its popular !! i mean yeahj pest isnt like .super fond of poob but hey guess what .puts my hand on your shoulder. I can imagine anything i want. if u seriously think theyre toxic n noone should ship them for the sole reason of “they dont always get along“ u would not survive like .any fanbase ever. I get its not everyones thing but cant we just hold hands and frolick in the field instead of yelling at eachother ❤️lalala

Also to people who say pest would be genuinely toxic and manipulative in any ship: hey do u know that just because someones rude doesnt mean theyd be abusive in a relationship? its very important u understand that pest is allowed to like people without being seen as “toxic“

thats all sorry for the yapfest....

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[raveneira]

Random but i miss 2020/21/22 when the KawaSara fandom was so active, now i barely see people talking about them or making content. Someone needs to bring back the KawaSara fandom somehow😭.

Ikr? its not much but I am trying to bring the fandom back to life as best I can but Im pretty much a one woman army lol plus a lot of personal life stuff has had me busy which hindered my efforts a bit that Im trying to make up for now, starting with hosting this years KawaSara week since the original organizers didn't do it last year and didn't appear to be going to this year either, so I took over because I knew we had support, fans were telling me how sad they were that it didn't happen last year and was begging for someone to organize it this year, so I took that upon myself to do because I didn't wanna see the week not happen this year either because nobody else stepped up to make it happen.

It sucks how so many got run off by bsa constantly harassing them and making them fearful of even making content for the ship because they knew they would get harassed and didn't wanna deal with it.

Alot of ppl also lost faith in the ship, which is understandable, but stupid IMO because there are ships that have gone through worse than KawaSara and became canon but for some reason ppl treated this like 'oh no, conflict, no way this is happening' and Im just like...danm yall really don't know how shipping works huh? but I mean to each their own but like Vegebul is right there if you wanna see a ship thats been through some REAL shit and look at em now.

It's like todays new age shipping everything has to be smooth sailing, super healthy, super pure, minimal to no conflict, for ppl to ship it and believe it'll be canon when that just isn't how it goes.

Like I even saw a shade tweet one time talkin about 'I actually like my ships vanilla, whats wrong with actually wanting a healthy ship built on mutual respect and positive development without any conflict or drama etc' and Im just like...OK? who tf said you couldn't? but these newbies actually treat shipping like some purity contest and have a weird superiority complex for liking the 'healthier' ships and anyone who doesn't like the 'healthy' ship are weird and horrible and don't care about xyz characters etc

Its so dumb, and childish, if all storytellers followed their logic then we wouldn't have some of the best ships in fiction because only the 'healthy' ones would be canon.

Nobody is saying they cant like healthy ships, but doing so does not make them superior to anyone else nor does it give them the right to dictate what other ppl should ship simply because they disagree and think only healthy ships should be supported, thats what ppl have a problem with. You can argue the opposite side has done the same but there is a big difference in severity between the two, 'healthy' shippers act way more superior and aggressive than 'toxic' shippers [as they call them] are.

But on the bright side KawaSara week has been announced to be happening this year and a surprising amount of ppl liked and retweeted it, so it just goes to show KawaSara fans DO still exist and enjoy the ship, they just went quiet or into hiding because of the harrassment.

And guess what? even tho the event page was specifically tagged KAWASARA don't you know antis 'somehow' found it? not even a day passed since it was posted before multiple antis flocked to the announcement to talk shit, that is a prime example right there why KawaSara fans got so quiet and discouraged from making content and talking about the ship, because THIS is what happens when you dare not fall in line with the BoruSara hivemind cult.

If you dont treat Sarada like Borutos exclusive property whos whole world and character revolves around him, then you don't care about Sarada or her feelings

Their logic not mine, so if you dare pair Sarada with someone other than Boruto who they believe owns her, then you don't care about her. If you don't support the narrative THEY set for her regardless if its been confirmed or stated as a canon fact or not, then you don't care about her because fanon interpretations > canon.

This is why I say this behavior screams insecure, I dunno how you could be the most popular ship with the biggest fandom and the most support, a hug in both the anime and manga, being 'fed good' more than any other ship, yet still be THIS triggered by KawaSara just EXISTING

keep in mind this is the ship they claim is dead, a crackship with zero chance of happening, yet they get so riled up everytime KawaSara is mentioned or so much as have a crumb together they all flock to try and discredit and undermine it, if KawaSara fans just have even a tiny bit of fun and happiness with the ship they come flocking to discourage you and make you feel bad.

That level of obsession with a ship you claim has NO CHANCE and is a non threat because your ship is already canon and set in stone, admit it or not, but their behavior screams that their threatened and arent really confident in their ship themselves which is why they feel the need to try and keep KawaSara down to lift themselves up because its the only way they feel secure, by making US go away, and when we don't, they get mad, because for some odd reason they just cant stand to see another shp besides BoruSara getting attention, love, and support, it drives them MAD.

Which is why you cant convince me their not insecure about their ship, that their not threatened by KawaSara, because to put it into perspective think about it like this, do you see SNS being bothered by SasuHinas existence? no right? know why? cuz their secure in their ship and don't feel threatened by SH, so SH is free to exist openly without SNS harassing them because they don't care, SH is irrelevant and has zero impact on them.

Thats how you would think BoruSara would be given how they boast about themselves, how much they have going for em, their popularity, their support, many moments, you'd think they'd be on cloud 9 not even paying little ol KawaSara and BoruSumi any mind but they do, and for some reason its KawaSara especially that gets under their skin more than anything which is strange tbh since thats the ship thats not even semi canon yet.

Lemme put that into perspective, they are more insecure about a ship thats not even semi canon yet, than BoruMitsu, BoruSumi, KawaAda and BoruAda that are semi canon [since many bsa also ship ksu] let that sink in.

I dunno why they have such a specific hatred towards KawaSara, maybe its because a lot of them hate Kawaki, and because Boruto is the top male prize and Sarada is the top female prize in their eyes, therefore nobody else is good enough for them but each other. And by top prizes, Im talking primarily about eugenics and status.

Read between the lines, what was Sakura? the pretty girl all the guys wanted, what was Sasuke? the cool handsome guy from a prestigious clan all the girls wanted, now what is Sarada? the cool pretty Uchiha princess, what is Boruto? the cool young lord all the girls fall for, their not subtle about it at all.

They discredit Sumire's feelings as insincere so she don't feel like a threat, they diminish and downplay Kawakis bond with team 7 and insist he's not even a part of it, they weirdly were fixated on Kawaki's body being inorganic and therefor concluding he was infertile and therefore couldn't have kids and therefore that'd be the end of the Uchiha clan if she was with him [which is telling of how they perceive her that her primary goal in the relationship would be popping babies, not love] they deny Kawaki as a part of the Uzumaki fam, saying he's unworthy, Naruto should disown him, etc etc, to keep him as the worthless orphan that deserves to die they want him to be.

Again, read between the lines, they dont give a danm about Boruto and Sarada together fr fr, this ship is about eugenics, this ship is about being able to brag about the young lord baggin the Uchiha heiress/Hokage, its about bragging rights, its about having the ship with the 2 biggest prizes, its about OP babies finally fulfilling their long weirdly held desire to see what those clan bloodlines mixed together would create, its about saying you don't want SS 2.0 except when its the ship you want then suddenly its A-ok

Foh man

Sorry I went on a bit of a rant but It really is annoying that KawaSara fans cant just exist in peace and always gotta hear them telling us why we shouldn't ship it, why it has no chance, why BoruSara is so superior and set in stone and we should just accept it yatta yatta yatta instead of just minding their danm business.

Yes I know all fandoms are guilty of this, but none like BoruSara, why? cuz its a far bigger fanbase with more support and they use it to their advantage, doesn't help that a lot of boruto stans support the ship as well as many Sarada fans [mostly Boruto stans tho] they even have SS and NH support too, so you cannot compare it. Their a much larger fandom with way more support that makes it extremely easy for them to bully every other fandom because their much smaller and they know it, everyone knows it, but they get away with it cuz whos gonna stop em? their the biggest and the loudest and therefore are right by default because the smaller fandoms are just 'haters' and 'jealous' 😒 lemme stop here

Bottom line I agree, it was nice back then before Ikemoto changed so much when he took over the writing after Kodachi left, ever since then he has completely butchered Sarada's character beyond recognition, not because she understandably cares and worries about her friend, but because thats ALL she cares and worries about, I don't think anyone has even noticed that Sarada hasn't mentioned Naruto or her mother once since the timeskip started besides that one speech that wasn't about either of them, but just about her defending Boruto, not about any grief over her idol being killed, not remorse for sending her dad away and leaving her mom without her husband, no the one and only time she mentions them is to defend Boruto which is abusmal, she didn't even mention her own dad until Boruto MADE her ask about him.

If thats the ship you want me to support then Im good, I don't want a ship where her only personality trait, motivations, goals, and character as a whole revolves entirely around a man and nothing else, just how to make HIS life better and being there for HIS pain and growth and only lifting HIM up while staying in the background doing nothing and having nothing going on for herself.

I know this may sound like 'but wait that makes it sound like KawaSara wont be canon' no Im not saying that, KawaSara is not off the table even with all that bs Ikemoto has done so far, like I said with Vegebul and just shipping in general, just because things look bad doesn't mean you lost, you haven't lost until somethings made official.

Are BoruSara together? no, are they semi canon? no, have either of them been shown or confirmed to have romantic feelings for each other? no, so nothing is lost yet, even if they were semi canon that still wouldn't be a loss because the other half has to reciprocate, like just cuz Sakura, Ino, and Karin liked Sasuke didn't mean he had to reciprocate any of them, just like even if Sarada liked Boruto doesn't mean he has to reciprocate those feelings or vice versa.

The only time a ship has truely 'lost' is when its actually dead, like one half of it dies for example, or its rival ship gets together, or their relationship is ruined beyond repair, like to the point of no possibility of redemption, only then has a ship truely 'lost' and 'died'

So no, none of this is me saying KawaSara cant still happen, it definitely can, especially with Ikemoto and Kishimoto saying Kawaki would be getting more development soon so there's that, if we get more Kawaki focus there might be some Sarada focus in there too in between. I don't wanna speculate tho but thats just a possibility Im throwing out there.

Regardless, sorry for the rant, but I'm really frustrated by this too because its 2024 now and ppl still cant leave KawaSara tf alone? thats what I meant when I said they take advantage of their size, they know they can silence us, but nobody can silence them, and that pisses me off but what can you do.

But hopefully the announcement of KawaSara week this year will get the fandom active and making content again for fans to enjoy, I will try to contribute something myself, I can understand why a lot of ppl might not wanna bother because of the hate they know they'll receive but I hope they don't let that stop them, it was bad enough KawaSara week wasn't hosted last year and everyone was really bummed about it, I don't want them to be happy seeing it happen this year only to not participate because antis wont let them have fun and enjoy the event in peace 🙏 I really hope the fam stays strong and don't let antis stop them from enjoying THEIR event.

[biggie-chcese]

Oooo the positive fandom questions sound fun how about 1, 8, 11 and 13?

list 3 positive things about your current fandom(s)

i did just answer this same question here, but i think ill challenge myself to list 3 new things.

the sheer amount of toxic yaoi and toxic yuri appreciation in the rain code fandom. yall are so fucking real for this

the tgaa fandom's uncanny ability to bring out the most banger character analyses. just, genuinely amazing. whether it's character study fanfiction or essays written out on tumblr, i eat it up because so many are legitimately compelling. this is especially a shoutout to @hikari-kaitou's many posts about translation differences and general analysis that really changed my perspective on some characters, as well as one of my favorites- this novel length kazuma analysis. these things live rent free in my head and i always admire people who are able to articulate so many complex thoughts around stories and characters like this

i've gained some really amazing friends through both of these fandoms. just, people i genuinely enjoy talking to and that in turn makes me enjoy the source material even more

8. you hope more people will come to appreciate ___ (a ship, a trope, an episode, etc)

found family where the roles are really nebulous. don't get me wrong, if people enjoy the classic "these are the parents and these are all the siblings they adopted" that's fine and dandy enjoy your media however you want! i even enjoy it often enough and think it's cute

but. on the rare occasion i see it depicted in a way that's hard to label, it makes me so extremely excited and filled with glee. i'm sorry im gonna ramble for a moment

so for example, yakou and yuma. as much as i also enjoy the yakou fathero headcanon, i've gone insane over the one or two times i've seen them depicted closer to canon's explicit dynamic of "shitty boss and intern who are also roommates and mentor/mentee, except who is the mentor and who is the mentee changes at the drop of a hat and they BOTH fucking suck at it!!! yakou is yuma's savior, and yuma is (unintentionally) yakou's nuclear hazard level threat. the game very subtly implies that these two go out for drinks together, and yuma "millions in debt" kokohead still has to pay often enough for him to be surprised at the idea of yakou offering to do so. yuma respects yakou greatly, but of the NDA, yuma is snippiest with yakou and quickest to call the man out on his bullshit. it takes more time for him to act this way with shinigami than his own fucking boss. there are more things i could say, but they're spoilers so dont worry about it.

yakou is almost the arataka reigen to yuma's mob, but i can't even confidently make that comparison because they feel more equal than that. they feel more casual than that. i struggle to put a label to it and that's what i love about them. i would love to see more of this in general, for both fandoms i'm in, because it's fun as hell whenever i do see it

11. if you're a writer or artist, what fic or piece of art are you proud of making?

you know what, i'm pretty proud of my latest art, because i've finally drawn a background i dont mind looking at! ^w^

13. your favorite type of fandom event (gift exchange, ship week, secret santa, prompt meme, etc)

gotta say ship week, since it's the only one of these listed that i've actively participated in. prompt memes and gift exchanges are amazing too! i think i'd wanna get in on those someday. i dont celebrate christmas so secret santa's out of the cards for me. it'd be cool to see more similar events that aren't themed around holidays.

[thetisming]

Juliet & Romeo: on again off again couple, nobody knows if they want them to be endgame but at the same time they honestly have so much chemistry that EVERYONE wants them to be canon except for the Romeo haters/Romeo fangirls/Juliet haters/Juliet lovers. kind of like jeffbritta but theres no jeffannie and it's less toxic and theyre less terrible people Juliet & May: similar to Caroline and Annie, May can just walk into Juliet's house whenever they want to tell her something. best friends and nothing can change that but theres at least one episode where they stop being friends, before making up in the end. at least one person ships them Juliet & Francois: wdym theyre not siblings?? Romeo & May: same as Juliet and Francois, but more people ship them (canonically gay character x technically not canonically bi character). the people who ship them dont understand their characters at all though. Romeo & Francois: best friends. a lot of shippers but not as many as Francois and May or Juliet and Romeo have. very close Francois & May: what the fuck were the writers even doing. what the fuck. theyre not canon?? are you sure??? are you fucking sure guys? what the fuck?? actors ship them, theres many episodes where their plot revolves around May's queerness and Francois. May makes a lot of comments about Francois and can be seen checking him out in various episodes. it's always played off as a joke and Francois always looks 'uncomfortable', but again, the actors ship them AND Francois's actor is queer so the 'uncomfortable with May doing that' looks more like 'uncomfortable with his sexuality'. in the backgrounds of episodes, Francois also checks out May but it's never quite as in focus as May's since Francois is meant to be straight. the show gives him various girlfriends to be like 'hes straight guys' but everyone is just like 'have yall heard of pansexuality' Juliet & Anne: some fans consider Anne to be Juliet's mother, but again shes more of her sister. she's the advice giver in the show. some people dont like her but most of them are sexist Juliet & Angelique: everyone forgets about Angelique even though shes always there for Juliet and is a big reason she got to where she is. she is Juliet's actual mother and it's mentioned that she raised her Juliet & William: there. is not really a relationship here other than That One Scene that was never brought up again Juliet & Lance: Lance acts like a father to Juliet and nobody really understands why except for the Francois & Juliet sibling truthers and the langelique truthers Romeo & Anne: she doesnt really like him but in the way that she loves him and hes like a son to her Romeo & William: William enables his bullshit and also is basically his father Romeo & Angelique: theyre really close but people just brush over their relationship?? like Jeff and Shirley but they (as in Romeo and Angelique) shouldnt fuck Romeo & Lance: theyre so fucking stupid and should never talk. but they do. and are friends Francois & Anne: they dont interact much Francois & William: they dont interact much Francois & Angelique: Angelique is his mother pretty much. they have a few scenes together and are shown to get along very well. they have at least one episode about them (after the wedding episode, it's about Francois dealing with his mother's death) Francois & Lance: i dont think i need to explain this one May & Anne: very sweet relationship! they care about each other a lot May & William: May questions him. a lot May & Angelique: theyre VERY close and it's clear that Angelique wants to take care of them and views them as her child May & Lance: they dont interact much

lowkey problematic/90s sitcom version of &j: 1. Juliet: main character that's actually pretty stupid but nobody wants to believe that she is (both in the show and the fandom). in all episodes 2. Anne: considered the mother figure but really shes more of an older sister. in about half of the episodes 3. William: the older sister's husband that gets mentioned a lot for jokes. in about a quarter of the episodes 4. May: the character that everyone makes homophobic and transphobic jokes about that isnt canonically trans but everyone kind of knows. token canonically gay character. they get a few random love interests and only really have any chemistry with one and that one only lasted a few episodes. one of them is just a plot device to build on Francois and May's friendship. we're unsure if the writer's knew what they were doing. Juliet's best friend. in almost all episodes 5. Romeo: on again off again love interest of Juliet. nobody's sure if theyre rooting for them or not. Del style gay jokes where 'how is he not canonically bisexual?'. in a lot of episodes but not all. he and Juliet are endgame (if the show actually finishes) but again, nobody knows if theyre happy about that or not. in almost all episodes 6. Francois: not canonically queer but everyone ships him with either May or Romeo. a few people ship him with Juliet, but most consider them to be siblings (this is the same with May and Romeo). incredibly queer coded, technically not canonically autistic but has a lot of symptoms that the show makes jokes about. in almost all episodes 7. Angelique: ACTUALLY the mother. not in the way that theyre her kids but shes the one that should be considered the mother. she's played off as a joke a lot of the time but theres some very dedicated fans who type long rants about her. in about half of the episodes 8. Lance: what the fuck is he even doing. nobody knows. he shows up sometimes as a plot device for Francois (who brings him up a lot as his father). Angelique mentions her boyfriend and everyone speculates that it's him and in one episode it is confirmed that yes, he is the boyfriend. the episode is a wedding episode. in about an eighth of the episodes

[depresseddepot]

this. may be a hot take. but people who argue that problematic situations in fiction genuinely affect the real life of the person reading them have the EXACT same argument as straight people who act like showing gay couples on TV shows is going to turn their kid gay

[correctproseka]

You know what, as a wlw im extremely tired of this fandom.

There are:

4 boys

15 girls

1 Mizuki

And the fandom manages to get the 4 boys twice as popular as the most popular wlw ship.

Up until a few months ago there were more wlw fics even if ruikasa and akitouya were always top 3 but then the genshin fujoshis entered this fandom but this isn't about that now.

I understand ruikasa and akitouya are great ships, but can't people spare the time to give wlw some love too or are people gonna continue being straight up lesbiphobic and misogynist?

MinoHaru and Anhane are THE MOST EXPLICIT SAID ships in the full game. And anhane still gets more attention because they're from vbs, a group with two boys. MinoHaru has so few fanfics actually dedicated to them, most of them are chatfics or background couples.

Its full on misogynist when:

The fandom treats leo/need and more more jump too, they're the only full female group (im not counting niigo because of Mizuki) and said as "boring" and the girls without personality, Saki saves actually because she is Tsukasa's sister.

Both of those groups has amazing stories that might not be for you, but it does not gives anyone the right to say its boring when you didn't even pay attention to it.

I've seen people call Kanade, Mafuyu, Ena boring even, but then go and amplify Tsukasa's depression (which is another fucked up thing) because sure, girls cant be as interesting as boys.

Treat Shiho, Ena and Airi as this assholes but turn around and say Akito is the best written character as if those 4 dont have the same thing of acting harsh but genuinely caring.

People put stuff like ruinene and mizurui as past abusive/toxic relationships for the sake of mlm.

People keep up putting Saki on the hospital or dead in favor of Tsukasa angst, which is not only misogynist but also ableist.

People treat Ena as this abusive older sister when really, it's not that at all. (Also used for Akito angst because people love doing this to the siblings apparently)

Its full on transphobic when:

People dont treat Mizuki as nonbinary, or their ships being nblw/nblm or even wlw would be more correct, people treat Mizuki differently. Yall barely treat them as a person, just for your ship. Mizuena and Mizumafu are extremely sexualized as if thats the only good thing for the character.

Its full on lesbiphobic when:

The 4 boys have more content than 15 girls.

A lot of the most popular wlw ship is just as a background for Akitouya. (Seriously dont even tag them when its not important to the story, when i want to see Akitouya i go to the akitouya tag).

In early fandom, people demonized Anhane to say how Akitouya is this great thing.

Someone had to write anhane fics near daily (Kohane420 if you're out there you're a legend) because there were more akian fics than anhane.

It's straight up homophobic when:

The mlm ships has a lot of fetishization and smut.

They change Tsukasa's personality to be an innocent bean who does no wrong and Rui's personality as this sexualized person just to write fanfic.

I wont be mad if you like the boy characters or the mlm ships because that is valid but sometimes you should stop and look at if there's any reason to that or if you're not leaving the girls behind for it.

[onlyifyoubadd]

I just read some insensitive ass shit!

now i wasn’t gonna come for anybody who saw that scene as “romantic”(that’s your business), but i see some folks are coming at people who are triggered saying “you should’ve known about that scene”, and that shit is fucked up. it’s victim blaming bullshit! it makes me look twice at people. cause tbh it means y’all have had some fucked experiences that you don’t wanna acknowledge, or are aware that you perpetuate fucked up narratives and don’t care. either way that’s toxic af.

First, why would i watch it? I can’t hope for something better in my queer content?? Queer folks have limited options and i’m drawn toward BLs. I knew from the promos that it would be something hard to watch, but i had NO CLUE how aggressive it would be, or that i would see shi de covering Shu Yi’s mouth for 10 min, which literally happens when people are r*ped!

y’all still wanna see sexual assault scenes?? fine! but it’s the writers responsibility to put up clear trigger warnings! because not everyone looks up spoilers to see exactly how every scene is going down cause what’s the fun in reading all the spoilers beforehand?

if they wanted to show Shi De in a desperate state, they still did not have to make it 10 min of Shu Yi being forced to deal with his emotions. shit i would’ve rather seen 10 min of them yelling at each other or even Shi De trying to hurt himself for the pain he cause. but no. instead we got 10 min of Shu Yi being thrown around the room and silenced. like he wasn’t already silenced enough by shi de literally ghosting him for 5 years.

and i love drama! i love dramatic love stories where people have to overcome a lot betrayal and lies. but there is something different that you are asking of someone after their body has been violated. YALL KNOW THIS. it ain’t different cause they’re men and are “used to being rough”! if viewers are upset from that scene don’t fucking act dumb like they don’t have a reason why! and if you wanna be really real, it wasn’t okay for Shi De to kiss him in the pool either! shit still wasn’t cute but hey, that’s usually in EVERY FUCKING BL. THERE ARE LINES WE DONT NEED TO CROSS AND THAT IS FULL ON ASSAULT SCENES.

this is a drama, we get that. but if we don’t demand more conscious writing then what the fuck are we even doing?

how do you think we got them to stop killing every gay character? by people demanding better storytelling! you don’t need to show Shi De forcing himself onto Shu Yi to show how desperate he is to be back with him. he could’ve cried over his pictures like what Teh did ITSAY by rubbing his face on something he’s touched or that smells like him. he could have turned it inward, but he choose to put all his shit on Shu Yi, like he didn’t already do that!

i don’t give a shit if i’m being sensitive. i loved this show, this ship, these characters from the start. but that scene sucked full stop!

i’m not saying everybody gotta boycot the show, i’m asking for bare minimum acknowledgment that we don’t need these scenes in BLs. cause we don’t!

[saint-hatice]

What do you have against Theonsa having oral sex... it's healthy to eat box and suck dick.

Lmaoooo yeah it is healthy to eat, I guess. I'm guessing this is a response to my theonsa rant which really addressed more than oral sex, but let's talk it out, shall we?

I got no problem with box eating, it's that I rarely see theon box eating in fics in a way that doesnt make it his sole function. A lot of theonsa fics go into 'I exist to serve Sansa I owe her my every thang' worship porn that it gets tiring. It's like theon is both utterly desexed while existing to serve another persons sexual satisfaction? Like on godddd a lot of these fics have theon going down on Sansa with thoughts like 'it doesnt matter if I dont have a dick we got one pussy between us and I just wanna serve that I dont need anything' and its honestly so damaging like if I dont laugh I'll cry. Theon loses all loyalty to his sister and his family to become Stark property (let's be real) because he 'realizes' that the Starks were the only ones who loved him and he has to spend the rest if his 'broken' (implied in fic) life serving them??? And then it's like dying or having his dick chopped off and entering into a position of servitude suddenly makes Theon zen and at peace with everything, like he has no more struggles outside of being worthy of Sansa and the Starks. Again, in fic. Like Theon has suddenly become a higher being while ultimately still being enslaved to this weird idea of like repenting. As far as I'm concerned, Theon is already redeemed he doesnt need to serve a further sentence and then fic writers make this punishment somehow some kind of honour theon chose???

Like theon can eat all the pussy he wants but acting like he doesnt have needs and a story of his own and an arc of his own and conflict of his own??? Is a disservice to him and its frankly not the kind of fic I wanna read. Writers really disempower theon further in fic and act like hes actually empowered??? If I dont laugh I'll cry lmaooooo

I ship theonsa where both characters are fully realised people with their own problems but also who can exist beyond their trauma. I'm not here for 'we're in love coz we share the same trauma' coz that's such a shallow and generalised look at this relationship. A lot of the theonsa fics are trying to work some worship angle in a way that's frankly dehumanising, turning Sansa into some holy relic and Theon into the penitent who worships her. I'm into that dynamic when its present as the toxic power trip that it is, especially in other ships where someone in a superior power position is being taken down (a deserved) peg or two. So Sansa stepping on Jon(or Petyr or whoever) a bit, I can get with it.

But Sansa stepping a dude who has BEEN stepped on being painted as this romantic thing is legit sickening. Can theon eat box and still be his own person? Idk fic writers, can he??? Does that reality exist for yall??? Let me know coz I ain't seen it from the majority of yall yet.

Actually tbh I've read a few fics where theon and Sansa are both presented respectfully and with thoughtfulness so this IS possible. But I'm saying the majority of fics dealing with theonsa are on some white woman saint and the eunuch who eats box loyally and without complain trip and I'm not with it.

[mikecardenmpreg]

seeing people ship an abuse victim with their abuser........i mean i know shipping isnt real i know theyre fictional characters and ultimately it doesnt matter but people really be out there bending over backwards to defend ABUSIVE (NOT just toxic but straight up ABUSIVE) relationships.......yeah that really makes me sick lol i was unhealthily in love with someone who both emotionally and physically abused me and it wasnt cute and gay and sweet and romantic and “a lil toxic” it was devastating and awful and it ruined my life and if you really think, like really really think, that under any circumstance, an abuse victim should stay with their abuser to work it out because sometimes the abuser has tender moments toward the victim, get the fuck out of my face and revaluate your life. abuse victims exist in real life and sometimes they see your nasty ass posts and are forced to relive moments in their life when someone they loved and trusted hit them repeatedly with a smile on their face but then turned around and acted tenderly, and then maybe that victim thinks they should have given their abuser one more chance, because maybe deep down, they hurt them because they were too afraid of their feelings to act appropriately.......no. absolutely not. 

if you found out in real life, regardless of the history between the two, that someone you loved was being abused by someone they loved. you wouldn’t be like “oh well they’re mentally ill and dealing with stuff and deep down they love you anyway” you’d be like “STAY AWAY FROM THAT PERSON!!!!!!” so why is it any different when it comes to fictional media????? why does their history matter? why do repressed emotions matter?? if someone is being abused why on earth are you like “they should work it out with their abuser maybe theyll come around and treat them right some day”?????? no!!!!!! NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! really bad yall!!!!! why dont you ship the victim with someone who treats them right? how is that so hard?

again i know none of this is real but i was abused by someone i loved and i have to relive it every time one of yall is like “uwu so cute and problematic”

[floralkittygambler]

Return of The Thing

Sort of. By thing, I mean me. But I love this movie and the meme. Ok, context for this post: - Where I’ve been - Why I left - Whats hip happening -  Where I’ve Been:

Long story short, I’ve had real life matters to deal with. Firstly, my entire household contracted COVID. Well, *almost*. We’ve been through constant testing, quarantine zones, and had the ambulance up numerous times. My parents and 2nd oldest sister were hit the hardest. My 3rd oldest sister was positive and asymptomatic. Now something none of us could predict that I would be completely COVID free despite my compromises. Despite that I was in close contact with them all, including the 2nd oldest who contracted it first and accidentally being coughed on a few times lol. I went through the exact same testing and yet nothing. No symptoms. No presence of COVID. And I took no precaution to isolate from my family as I presumed in our small house we’d all get it, so I was more preoccupied with caring for the sick. Ultimately, I’ve either gotten off scott free this time or there’s a chance I may actually either be highly resistant or even immune. Even then, I WILL be having the vaccine as and when my family are eligible. And we all still follow regulations set.  I’ve also had other real life obligations, much of it either mundane fixing up my living circumstances to more personal matters. Overall, I have been extremely preoccupied.

A mini update, the stray cat Big has been in our porch a lot more in recent times due to the snow as well as being even more affectionate. And Queefster passed away after a good life and a full tummy. Why I Left:

Aside from COVID, business, and my own health declining, I’ll be blunt. I left because of how disgustingly toxic most fandoms are nowadays, but Hazbin is one of the WORST for it. That includes harassment, death threats, mocking MI and triggering an ED. In fact, I’ve even seen others get rape and death threats. So yes, even if YOU are a decent fan, collectively most of you arent doing any favours. Even some critical blogs seem to be overtly catty in ways no one else seems to pick up on under this ‘look how blunt I am’ look and it’s just... You dont have to be a prick to have your say, to be honest and to disagree with the trending. That’s a few on and off of tumblr, and no one I follow anyways. 

In regards to my ‘sensitivities’ - two things: 1) Of course trauma is going to hurt, 2) Im fully aware of kids doing and receiving much of this, which hurts MORE. I have my own lil squids and Im worried of them eventually having to deal with this shit. And no, no one SHOULD have to put up with such rude and poor behaviour. Agree to disagree doesnt live in some people’s realities, but by God harassment and bullying seems ok if YOURE doing it or enticing it. That ISNT ok. Even if it seems like nothing to you it could kill another. I certainly will not take your shit. 

On huskerdust I STAND by my words. It’s fucking creepy and there is sexual harassment and obsession. And there are large triggers. I will not go into detail here because Ive done that dance before and I’ll be refining it again. YOU may like it, however it triggers my very real traumas as well as those in my bloodline. Be respectful and keep that shit away from me. And for goodness sake, parents PLEASE dont raise your children to behave as such online. And no, being anon isnt actually fully anonymous. Also to send hate and threats anon is not only traceable but also cowardice. Grow a pair and find a hobby. I avoid my traumas for the most part. I will not allow you to weaponise or diminish my own or others experiences for your fictional based gratification. Likewise, if it becomes canon, I’ll just make an AU where it is not. Simple. You can hate it but Im not your personal circus so go be toxic elsewhere. IF you like HD and follow me, honestly... Youre probably better to unfollow as I am deeply and passionately against it and stolitz, and valvox, and am very vocal on that. Dont mistake my traumas and discomfort as a personal attack - and dont personally attack me over it either. And before anyone claims homophobia, no. This is nothing to do with sexuality. You arent the victim. If you love these pairings with your soul to the point of a ‘stan’, then youre best off unfollowing because I really am too old for extremists and rabid fans more crazed than the infected in REC. Also I never used to hate angel but now... Fans behaviour is abhorrent and hes so over saturated that I honestly really dislike him now. Doesnt mean you have to hate him too, but just bloody respect that angel isnt loved by all, he can be triggering to some as well as toxically enabling [incl. past addicts], a vile homophobic gay stereotype and just overall a lack of knowledge and respect of sex workers as a whole. When you know a lot of the ins and outs and victims, it’s hard to overlook. I respect your triggering ships by avoiding that mess. Respect others.  The problem with Viv - and I will elaborate in the future - is that your audience is often a reflection of your work and it’s message/presentation. And most of the fandom Ive met are awful. Honestly, though lonesome I find more comfort keeping distant from fandoms because yall often extremely toxic and petty. Perhaps others have had better experiences than I however Im drawing a line in the sand. For MY sake. I’m annoyed with virtually anyone I sense great potential in that becomes wasted. Im angry at Viv because she can do so much better but is blocking HERSELF. This is from a creative and business mindset. When someone has potential that gets wasted - especially creatively - it burns me. Im just passionate on artistic fields. It doesnt mean I hate them. I hate the waste of full potential.

I’ll state things here people disagree with but encouraging harassment, hate or just being an overall cunt just aint on- It’s like people charade as being this fair being but its all bullshit. Self improve and sod off, I do NOT have time to parent you online. 

And obviously there are RL duties I must fulfil. Some in which I will need the publics assistance for if you can spare it. Overall, Im just... Fandoms behaviour generally disgusts me. Disappoints me. We SHOULD be better than this. It’s like listening to bloomin incels rant on fuckin chad or some bullshit pill theory instead of looking to improve themselves too. Honestly... I do mostly acknowledge my own flaws and faults and try to improve each day. It just feels fewer folk see that in themselves and do the same. And that’s coming from an old cunt whos far from fuckin perfect. Also, my fuckin laptop broke so I waited a week for a bloke nearby to fix it. What a fuckin lifesaver, he’s the real mvp!

Also Also, one of you did privately apologise and I appreciate that. I certainly hope we agree to disagree and continue to grow as people on our separate ways. Trust me, I dont forget small acts like this. Even the trauma that caused and the aftermath, please dont think I dont appreciate the apology. However you’re also entitled to know that the forgiveness and healing side may take longer for me due to various factors that occurred - much that few are aware of, including yourself especially. I wish you well and safety.

Hip Happenin Now:

Still busy but slowly visiting. I’ll reply and reblog soon, be patient please. Ive still many things to sort which take priority as well as other things. Im trying to get money n shit for a future and whatnot. Health issues are strong in the blood rn and Im spending extended time with both Big and the other pets to keep up harmony, especially now that Big is accepting slowly that our porch is a welcome shelter for him and he’s free to leave and stay whenever. Trust me, overloaded isnt even the word. Im prepping shit early this year and from now on. Also, my God Ive been dealing with more physical issues as well and had to play doctor. May even need medical interference but holy shit I could never see this coming. Still... It’s... An experience- If you could call it that. Staying more active and healthy. Cat’s nearly clawed my eye out in my sleep (to which I can only presume Billy got too close or hyper) but it’s fortunate placement so Im alright. Most of my body is in pain to the point of absolute normality at this rate. And I plan to make space for a better altar. Future of the Blog: 

Errr, it’s my fuckin space so it’s whatever I want really. Ill still have my Viv rants (ie, pros and cons of her work, HH/HB, other shit like that) however I just really dislike most the fandom at this point as well as the poor management and lack of professionalism and attitudes of staff. It’s just draggin me down and making me ill. I also want to showcase more of MY work (from redesigns to projects to some dumb 2am shit), cosplays, fashion, hobbies, spiritual practises - MY. SHIT. I feel like Ive strayed slightly. But I WILL be honest. And damn well will it upset people. And if it does and I’m genuinely ding something wrong/harmful - guide me patiently. Educate me. If it’s like this HD shit where Im not only allowed my opinions but justified on my traumas or mocking my disabilities or features, then just yeet yourself elsewhere. Also some of my gaming shit too. Getting to know folk who interact with my stuff and just... Create my space. For me. Something hopefully others can enjoy. Something that can function as a bit of an art portfolio as well. Critiques and whatnot.  But I will continually not stand for anyone’s shit or poor handling of serious matters. You will not cause me to doubt and invalidate my experiences like you have to others.  For now, Im tottering but slowly returning. For those who I previously and daily interacted with, I will get back to you. And Im sure you’re patient and understanding of my situation - it’s appreciated. But in terms of any fandom, more so if it’s known to be as hostile, I’d rather keep a healthy boundary between us. That’s for newer folk. Perhaps we may bond further and you’re welcome to try, however I do feel far safer not getting involved into other people’s shit any longer. I will put anon back on but any toxic shit will be reported as well as compiled so at least I have a reference on the actual toxic nature of fandoms. Likewise, Im slowly getting there but god theres a lot of fuckin work. So much that not even my closest friend has heard too much from me until recently. I’ll be returning to the grind for now as I have duties, as well as many demanding felines for my attention. Alongside some physical medical concerns which require additional care, I’ll be popping off now.  Im thankful for those who have checked in on me. I will reply shortly. Take care

[herosdoexistsblog]

Ok so we need to have a talk. I love this family but there is some serious toxic shit that has been going on for over a decade. Most of you know what I’m talking about. Bi dean is NOT canon. Destiel is NOT canon. Stop treating it like it is. Me and you can believe and ship all we want but need to stick to our corner better. Those who call us Destielhellers you are kinda doing the same thing we are and I don’t blame you. With all you have put up with it’s easy to go into attack mode. I myself have acted like it is canon and been a little bit if any at all hateful. When I notice this I feel horrible and apologize if I voiced it. This is me apologizing for myself and others. While the destiel fandom + the bi dean fandom are extremely toxic some of us just happen to ship it or have that head canon. We try our best to stay in our corner. I apologize to anyone who doesn’t ship it or has left the ship simply do to the toxicity of the fandom. I really don’t blame you. As for the queer baiting I think it is a thing. If it is in supernatural, yes, BUT this is because we want it sooo bad they feel the need to throw us a bone. Or we simply look into things too much, not all things but some things are too much. We are hurting ourselves. I’m a multi shipper and I find it hard to do that in this fandom I can’t read a lot of good dean/anyone to be honest because there is so much cas! I love cas I really do but the bringing him back so often I just recently realized is doing him a disservice and just not honoring him. The show is about two brothers, not two brothers + an angel. Now yes for a lot of characters death is not permanent, but they are not our “main” characters. No one stays on the show forever. Amd to the Wincest shippers,I really really hate your ship, BUT only because they’re brothers. If they weren’t brothers the ship would be so much more popular. Also I don’t care what you ship or how much you ship it, DONT BRING IT UP TO THE ACTORS! It’s not canon you shouldn’t do that I mena maybe a joke or small question here and there but that could seriously make them uncomfortable. It also has almost nothing with the plot of the show or them which is the whole point of the panels. They are to connect and learn about the people who are responsible for our entertainment and in J2Ms case saving some of our lives. They are also about the plot and our show in general which yes does include ships but by now we know what’s ok and not ok to bring up. If I’ve missed anything let ,e know but I am genuinely done with ship wars and just hate from BOTH ends. I hate that I partake in it sometimes. I leave you with this: be nice, tag properly on here (meaning tag it as ONLY the ship and not the characters involved and tag if it’s an incorrect quote). Let me know if I missed anything. Sorry for ranting and I LOVE YALL!