#so im glad to have a diagnosis. and out of all the options it could have been its the most mild one :-)

[mozukumi]

[allsadnshit]

hi izzy im 22 and i have a family history of endo and have been experiencing frightening symptoms and i dont really know who else to talk to in this regard and i hope this isnt rude to send. i am just curious how u went about getting ur diagnosis and what u think are some good first steps for someone experiencing these things. my mom spent a lot of time on a lot of endless painkillers as i was growing up. and im very afraid of reproductive care bc of how archaic it is! love you thank you <3 theres no need to answer if u feel this is too invasive, i appreciate ur time

It's honestly a head start that you already know you have a family history of endo! Although diagnosis is still difficult to get considering surgery is the only official way to get one...you're honestly much more likely to be recommended a surgeon etc if you have your families medical records with it! So that's really good!

Unfortunately I will say for myself and the people I know personally with endo, getting excision surgery wasn't a relief for symptoms as it has often been advertised for some people, so in terms of pain management I don't want to be getting more surgeries myself so I wouldn't tell anyone else too either! That's a pretty personal choice considering risks and recovery, so you will have to think on that pretty seriously if you think excision could help you and make sure you are looking into what the hospitals near you offer.

For myself, diagnosis was really important since I don't have my moms medical records to assist me with understanding my health. I don't think I could be where I am at recovery, management, or socially without having the official diagnosis from laparoscopy so that was really important to me, even though diagnosis didn't do anything for me in terms in qualifying for disability or anything like that! Unfortunately with the medical system you need that paper trail if you plan to do anything in the hospital system in the future, so I am ultimately glad I got my diagnosis even though it hasn't changed things for me in terms of lifestyle or pain.

If you want to start with an obgyn, that's what most people do! And they probably won't let you talk to a specialist before you rule out the basics with getting scans and blood tests first to confirm they can't more easily see why you are in so much pain. But even if your obgyn doesn't help you, you can at least search for a surgeon after that initial intake process being able to say "I already had tests and scans done, it was inconclusive, so I need to move towards surgery for diagnosis".

Obviously I won't have a solution or answer for the broader scope of what to do because even if you do have endo, it's dynamic and can affect people so differently that it really isn't a one size fits all. If anything, I really really do NOT recommend going on any form of hormone or birth control for pain management no matter how hard it's pushed on you. I really don't believe in that method and it's another way to cover up symptoms rather than getting to the root of healing or understanding.

The biggest changes for me have come with lifestyle: changing my diet to healthier less processed options which means not eating out 90% of the time and cooking with really good quality ingredients, getting a nutritionalist who's worked with endo before, cutting back on manual labor working hours, and processing the trauma of chronic illness in therapy and pin pointing places in my life that need my attention or serious over haul for me to rebalance my stress. Stress and endo are soooo tied together because it's hormone effected so it absolutely cannot be overlooked.

Sorry to hear you are suffering in this way! I no longer take any pain medication because of a similar fear. I recommend tiger balm muscle rub lotion on your lower back, getsomedays cramp cream on your front, and a hot rice heating pad on top for pain relief + drink water + sleep well at all costs. It's a marathon not a race!

[weaselishmcdiesel]

AHSJSJ in reference to https://at.tumblr.com/weaselishmcdiesel/idk-if-youre-being-serious-in-the-tags-but-if-you/b7me6xnnx57f (i was the anon in question)

its definitely less “official” than proper therapist, but the letter of recommendation for an emotional supper pet you get is in fact from a Real Certified Therapist (at least mine was, i checked), and it carries no indication of being provided through the website, so i doubt people would be like “oh this isn’t legitimate”

in general is it cutting corners? certainly, but it is a good option if you dont have access to/funds for a proper diagnosis, and if you genuinely think an emotional support animal would make your life better, its worth researching. i dont know if i’d call it “fake” per say, but it is for sure easier to fake than yknow a proper diagnosis, so i see why this would be an issue nonetheless. two sides to everything etc etc

(if youre curious to know more or see my letter i’m happy to send it through dms or whatever)

oo, erm, please take the rest of my response in the context that i really have, maybe a collective of 3 hours worth of research on this topic as i was originally planning not to use an ESA site at all, and im not aware of the specifics of any experience using official, medical, therapy options.

im really glad that everything went smoothly for you, and i hope that more people can have access to treatment just as easily and with just as much documentation to prove it.

But the conduct surrounding the treatment of mental health is unfairly complicated so it's not unwise to be picky about which route one takes to receive the documentation and care they require. ideally, no one would have to worry if the letter they acquired IS legitimate and they could collect the proper benefits. unfortunately, i dont know if my school cares about my mental health more than their precious building so much so that they would dig around and find some critical loophole to keep my pet out

the research i DID do uncovered reviews stating that people had their pettable letters denied and in some cases there was fine print that prevented them from getting refunded. the question at the end of the day is do i trust the ESA site to give me valid documentation MORE than i trust my school to be OVERLY, even MALICIOUSLY nitpicky about the legitimacy of my paperwork.

and, i personally would have to be cautious since it's more than a simple drive my cat would have to endure but a plane ride too, and another one back if he's suddenly denied an ESA position, so i can't risk the letter having even one pitfall. i do hope you understand everyone's apprehension ^^ I will continue doing my research and hope that in the end i dont give my school one more reason to be even more strict with ESA especially for people who need them more than me (because there are, probably, people who poorly fake the papers and then make it harder for the rest of us as the other user is calling attention to)

[falcqns]

Not shifting related but, I’m glad that getting your adhd diagnosis has helped your mental health! 💜 from, someone who is considering whether she should seek a diagnosis herself

hi bby!! thank you so much!!

and if you feel like you want that, go for it! its definitely scary, and it took my MONTHS to work up the courage to make that phone call to my doctors. theres some conflicting info out there about how to get a diagnosis, so here's what i did to get mine:

i made an appointment with the doctor for just adhd. i called and said "i think i might have ADHD and was wondering if i could talk to [doctors name] about possibly getting a diagnosis?" and they scheduled me in.

at the appointment, they had me fill out an ADHD Self Report. i don't know where you're from, but this is what it looks like in ontario:

3. the doctor came in, and we discussed why i was there, why i was searching for a diagnosis, and asked me things like "have your parents thought about getting one when you were younger?" "did your teachers ever talk to your parents about missing assignments often" "did you struggle a lot in school" and "were you in a lot of sports and activities as a child" (which i was, like 40 hours a week i was either at bible club, basketball practise, school, dance, karate, or swimming) and then he went over the checklist.

4. he said that i had hit the top few markers for diagnosing adhd in adults, and that he didn't even want to refer me to a specialist because he could see that i definitely had it. not all doctors can do this, but mine is trained in psychology, and can diagnose things like adhd and autism, but he often likes to get a second opinion just in case.

5. we discussed certain treatments available, and he gave me options for my medication. he went very in depth in explaining what exactly adhd is, how it forms, how its treated, and what the medications were and the specific doses and things and gave me his opinion, but said the choice was ultimately up to me. we made a decision based on my work and school schedule and settled on Vyvanse.

6. he did send me for some testing (bloodwork and ecg) just to ensure i didn't have any conditions that could conflict with Vyvanse and cause permanent damage, and then scheduled a follow up.

it was definitely really easy for me, but i know that its not easy for everyone. i know some people spend years trying to get a diagnosis, and i am fully aware i got lucky.

i don't know what medication you'll be put on, but if you're put on a stimulant, such as Vyvanse, here's my experience and some tips: 1. always, ALWAYS, eat before you take them. they are a stimulant, and there fore will repress your appetite. that doesn't mean you won't be hungry, it just means you wont be able to feel or recognize your hunger cues.

2. don't worry about coffee conflicting with it. coffee and sports drinks don't work for people with adhd the same way they'd work for people without it. our brains are short in dopamine, and from my knowledge and what my doctor told me (i might be misremembering), because our brains are short in dopamine, we don't get the same 'rush of energy' as a non adhd person because our brains just dont have the dopamine to provide it. your medication will provide you with that boost, so theoretically, you could condition your body to respond to caffeine by taking your meds with coffee, but dont hold me to that, i could be wrong lol.

3. prepare for a rough first week. i was on 30mg for one week, 40mg for two weeks, and 50mg for the next month, and now am on 60mg. the first week of starting each dose was rough. when the medication was working, i was fine. i have tons of energy, im happier, and a lot less anxious. but by the time 5:30 rolls around, i'm completely different. im hangry, im overstimulated, and severely irritable. this is not you being a bitch when this happens, this is just your medication, so don't feel guilty about yelling or screaming at your family, because its just a side effect, and wont last more than a week.

4. take melatonin if you cant fall asleep! it works wonders, and doesnt conflict with the meds at all.

5. you might feel an urge to stim more, and i say give into it, as long as you arent hurting yourself or someone else. so rock, flap your hands, tap your feet and hum as much as you want!

6. don't feel pressured to change immediately. it will take time, but i guarantee you'll see a small shift in yourself right away. i know i did.

7. don't feel shame for needing a break, or feeling bad because you missed a dose. as long as you are taking the medication regularly, it will work! my best friend was diagnosed a week after i was, and only takes hers monday-friday, because thats when she needs it. she also likes to party a lot, and is a drinker, and her meds can conflict and cause some problems, so she doesnt take them! but she takes them mon-fri, and they still work. your meds and your body are yours, and you know yourself better than anyone else. if you need a break, take that break. you'll feel better.

i hope this helped, my love, and good luck on getting your diagnosis. it may seem scary, but the scariest part is taking that first step. i believe in you, good luck! <3

[bananonbinary]

I noticed in your tags you mentioned getting an autism diagnosis at an older age. I'm fairly certain I am but I'm not sure if it's worth it to get diagnosed because I hear people talk about how hard and expensive it is to get.

I meant to ask how did you go about it but I sent the ask too soon.

uhh well. it WAS really hard for me. i dont think my experience was super typical tho? at least, i hope not. (this is going to be kinda bleak, but i really don’t think it’s what you have to look forward to or anything. hopefully it could provide more of a roadmap for what not to do)

1) im actually pretty “““low-functioning,”““ which is a stupid term, but is relevant here because phone calls to strangers are basically impossible for me, and its very difficult for me to actually talk to People In Authority without freezing up and losing my voice. so i a) hit a lot of roadblocks that couldve been easily avoided by someone more outspoken, and b) had to rely a lot on my family to help have these conversations anyway. which i recognize isn’t really an option for a lot of people.

2) this all ended fairly recently and im still pretty mad about it, so it probably is a lil more negative than it has to be

the actual process was several years of nothing, followed by finally getting it done in a few months, and it was basically:

me: “hey the office i go to for mental health shit, i need a new psychiatrist, and i’m also pretty sure i have autism, do you have anyone who could help me get diagnosed with that?”

them: “sure here’s this guy” (guy does not know shit about autism, but waffles every time we ask and does not reveal that fact to us until several MONTHS later)

me: “hey guy i’m stuck with as a psychiatrist at the moment, i’m pretty sure i have autism, how do i get diagnosed”

them: “there is no way to diagnose autism in adults, and also autistic people are just spinning in circles and arent aware of the world around them, you aren’t autistic” (blatant lies AND heavy ableism lmao. i finally fired that asshole recently and it was supremely satisfying)

me: “hey my gp, im pretty sure im on the autism spectrum and my mental health professionals are fucking useless, pls help?”

them: “oh man, i love those mental health people :) anyway, aren’t we all on the autism spectrum somewhere? now, lets talk about your weight instead”

me: “hey local autism clinics, im pretty sure i’m autistic, any chance-”

them: “no. we only work with kids, and also need a referral from your gp. and we’re not taking any new patients at this time anyway”

finally, FINALLY, like 3 years later, i found a really great therapist, who’s also a licensed clinical social worker. for the record, i found her out of state and all of our appointments are by video call. highly recommend looking for this sort of set up if you’re having trouble finding mental healthcare professionals that don’t fucking suck in your area, because i promise having good therapy remotely is leagues better than shit therapy in person.

within like 3 months i told her i’m pretty sure i’m autistic, but couldn’t find any way to get diagnosed without my gp on board. she did some research for me, and reached out to a colleague of hers in the area that works with autistic people.

i got an appointment with said colleague (who was great), who basically went through the dsm checklist, said “yep youre autistic” and referred me to another doctor to actually get diagnosed.

that doctor sucked, and literally just went through the same damn checklist the previous doctor went through, but this time charged me $1500 for it, and didnt take our insurance. also said i couldnt be low functioning because i have thought about my gender identity. so, yikes.

but i got the diagnosis! huzzah!

and now my therapist is helping me to set up an appointment to work with an occupational therapist for sensory processing issues, so i can actually FINALLY get some goddamn help (which technically didn’t need the autism diagnosis but none of those shit doctors believed i HAD sensory processing issues until i got it, so). AND family is helping me finally figure out how to apply for disability so i can have some actual agency in my life. we’re also talking to that first doctor who said i was autistic, and she’s got loads to say about how antidepressants and shit dont even work in the expected way in autistic brains, and is hopefully gonna help me find things for non-autism mental health issues that actually, you know, work for me for the first time in my life.

the moral of this story is, it’s REALLY REALLY HARD to try and get a diagnosis if you don’t have a professional on your side. but if you do, it can be really good, and you just need to worry about the money issue. once i found someone who was willing to help me, even though she’s not actually a medical doctor or even in the same state as me, things moved shockingly quickly. and are still moving quickly. i’m really glad i actually did it, because i very desperately need help and i am very, very close to actually receiving it. most of the pain of this story boils down to me floundering because i had no clue what i was actually supposed to do, and no one i asked would give me a hint.

so...is it worth it? depends. even if you actually skip to the end there, i’m pretty sure the random ableism and ungodly price is pretty typical. so, if you think the potential opportunities a diagnosis presents is worth that part (which it super was in my case), then go for it! but if that doesn’t quite balance out for you, remember that there’s tons of good people with good advice in the autistic community who don’t care if you’re professionally diagnosed or not.

[clintbartonswife]

You and Me

Pairings: Rhodey x Reader, Tony Stark Summary: After Civil War, you and Tony help Rhodey adjust @whumptober2019 #29 : Numb Warning: mentions of paralysation, struggling mental health masterlist  || whumptober masterpost

“T, talk to me” 

You were frantic. Having been on the other side of the airport when he went down, you only turned around to see the end result, Rhodey’s body slamming unforgivably into the hard ground below.

“He’s alive”

The tension immediately left your body, and you found yourself tugging Tony fiercely in to a hug. You felt him shaking slightly, his injury weighing heavily on both of you.

“I’m so sorry y/n - I couldn’t get to him on time-”

“Tony, shush. This is not your fault, okay? Now shut up and hold my hand so I don't back out of seeing him”

Tony gave you a weak laugh, hand gripping yours tightly as you walked into the hospital room, squeezing gently as you let out a quiet gasp. 

“Hey baby”

His weak voice was enough to send you into tears, letting go of Tony’s hand as you (carefully) launched yourself at him, tucking your face into it’s usual place in the crook of his neck. Rhodey’s arms came up to hold you, rubbing soothing circles on your back as you cried, the two men having a quick conversation above your head. You were vaguely aware of Tony leaving the room as you tried to regain control of your crying.

“Im sorry” you sobbed, “I promised myself I wouldn’t cry”

“It shows you care” Rhodey smiled, hands reaching up to cup your cheeks, dislodging you from your current position and moving you so that the two of you were face to face, “I can’t say I wasn’t expecting at least a few”

“Asshole”

He just hummed at the affectionate insult, fingers gently swiping away the tears that marked your cheeks. You giggled wryly at his caring gestures, pressing a kiss to his forehead.

“I think you missed” he said cheekily, pouting his lips.

Rolling your eyes, you leant in to press a kiss to his lips. It was soft and tearful, careful in all the ways it never had been before, yet with all the tender love that had always existed since you were just kids back in college.

“I’m glad you’re not dead” you mumbled against his lips, hand slipping into his.

“And leave you to deal with Tony by yourself? Babygirl I would never”

You chuckled, shaking your head slightly in disbelief. Through all of the shit he was still Rhodey through and through.

After a few more gentle kisses, you backed away slightly, moving one of the chairs to be pressed right up next to his bedside, his hand still firmly grasped in yours.

“Do we know what’s wrong yet?”

“No. They did a few scans but they said they’re gonna need to transfer me to another hospital” he explained, holding up his hand when he saw you go to interrupt, “Tony’s already jumping in with that, getting me as close to the compound as possible”

You nodded silently, eyes dropping to where your fingers were intertwined. You allowed the touch to calm you, ground you in the moment before you continued speaking.

“You’re gonna be okay James” you said, convincing yourself at the same time as him, “you’re gonna be okay”

He squeezed your hand, his other moving to lift your chin up to face him, a knowing smile on his lips.

“This? This is nothing. As long as I’ve got you and Tony by my side, I can do anything”

You nodded at the pure determination in his voice, keeping the fresh wave of tears at bay by pure will power alone.

“You and me”

His smile widened.

“You and me”

You held his hand the day his results came back, Tony on his other side, hand resting on his shoulder.

Paralysation from the waist down. Most likely permenant.

He had kept it together until Tony had left to discuss treatment with the doctor, letting the tears fall once the room dissolved into silence.

“I guess I can’t be Iron Patriot anymore” he chuckled mirthlessly through the falling of his tears, “all of those missions and I get injured in a fucking spat between the group”

It was all you could do to murmur comforting bullshit that neither of you believed was true, your hand running up and down his arm in soothing motions that made you feel dizzy the longer you focused on it.

“This isn’t the end Rhodey” you had said, voice gritty with stubborn determination, “I’m not gonna let it be the end for you”

The double meaning didn’t escape the both of you. 

“I’m just sick of the numbness” he had said through gritted teeth, staring up at the ceiling defiantly, tears still falling down his cheeks. Not knowing what else to do, you had climbed onto the bed, curling up next to him and resting you head on his chest, listening to his heart beat.

“It’s you and me, like it has been forever”

“You and me” he had replied hoarsely.

Physical therapy is a bitch, plain and simple.

As soon as Rhodey’s diagnosis came back, Tony had locked himself into his lab to create a machine that could help Rhodey, to provide his spine enough support to allow his legs to work again.

At first the idea had seemed bordering on impossible, but of course Tony had made a functional model in under a week, and had made several options by the time Rhodey was discharged from the hospital.

With help from a (very expensive) physical therapist, Rhodey began working on his core strength every day, his determination never swaying.

All the while he would be cracking jokes at the expense of Tony, and the three of you worked like nothing had changed - that was until he went to go and get something and remembered that he was essentially bedbound.

That first month was the worst. Once they were sure that using a wheelchair wouldn't further damage his spine, the nurses brought him one which Tony immediately replaced with one of his own creation. (Rhodey had said to you one night that he would’ve complained if the seat on Tony’s one wasn't so comfortable)

With his regained mobility, Rhodey had also found his smile again.

Of course, it still came with challenges.

Getting out of bed and into the chair was painful, and the choked groans he emitted as he moved were enough to make you tear up. That was nothing compared to the actual physical therapy, the initial exercises making him achy and resigned, the helplessness of his situation finally hitting him.

All the while you were there, reassuring (Tony called it bribing) him with words and kisses, your faith in him never wavering. You held his hand through every meeting, went with him to every appointment, listened to every piece of advice, all in the hope of making it easier for him.

His smile brightened when he was released from the hospital to the compound, Tony arranging a group of the top medical professionals to be in charge of his case.

“You two are sickening” Tony had said, walking in to a PT session where Rhodey was working on his core muscles, receiving a kiss from you every time he completed a rep, “I’m actually going to puke”

“Shut it Tones” Rhodey grinned, stealing another kiss, “I’m healing”

“I know you are boo bear, but could you two try to not fuck in my compound?”

You had snorted at this, turning around to fix Tony with a look.

“Really? You think that after all of our years of dating we never fucked under your roof?” You had sniggered, “Tony, we had sex in your apartment at college”

Tony had blanched, ears going red as Rhodey burst into laughter, running out of the room as he mumbled excuses about working on improvements in the lab.

After months of physical training Rhodey finally received the green light to try the walking aid that Tony had made, the idea both exciting and terrifying to him.

The night before, as the two of you were lying in bed, he admitted his thoughts to you.

“What if this doesn’t work?” He whispered, hand brushing through your hair, “Tony’s so sure, but what if I’m stuck in the chair for the rest of my life”

You sighed heavily, cuddling closer to him.

“If it doesn’t work then nothing changes” you said eventually, “we still love each other, Tony is still an annoying little shit, you still get out of this bed every day. The only difference is that I’ll finally be taller than you”

He chuckled slightly, humming absentmindedly at your answer. You listened to his heartbeat as you waited for a response, the constant noise becoming incredibly comforting ever since his accident.

When he didn’t say anything else, you tilted your head up to look at him in the eyes, a small smile on your face.

“We’re gonna be okay James. You and me”

“You and me”

Which is why as you stood at the end of the room, Rhodey standing up with his legs in robotic braces, you were crying.

Tony was walking by his side, ready to grab him in case he fell, laughing in spite of his wet eyes.

“You’re looking like bambi there” he teased, gesturing to Rhodey’s shaky legs.

“Yeah, well you try to walk with legs that don’t fucking move and tell me that you wouldn’t be shaking too” he bit back, a teasing tone in his voice, hands on the rails either side of him.

He looked up for a second, taking his eyes off of his feet to look at you, his composure almost breaking when he saw the tears cascading down your cheeks.

“Aw, shit y/n you can’t do that or I’m going to cry -“ he broke off as his voice gave out, as he forced the tears back down, “come here”

You broke off into a sob, rushing over to him and gently easing yourself into his arms, having the first upstanding hug with him in months.

The moment was seemingly too much for the both of you, as you each started to cry.

“Is this a couples moment or can I wiggle in on this one?” Tony asked, his voice betraying his tears.

“Get in here” you giggled, moving to the side slightly so that he could fit in.

The three of you stood there for what seemed like forever, silently crying with the knowledge that Rhodey was going to be okay.

In the back of your mind, you realised that this was all you needed. Your boys. Healthy and happy.

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[clementiens]

Hey I’m struggling with a fresh lifetime autoimmune diagnosis that might see me disabled in the future.... and it’s nice to have a lead on my pain but it’s hard with this being definite. And you seem so positive I was wondering if you had any coping advice? Your blog and others like you is a huge inspiration being open with chronic illness.

i wish i had something a little more like..Quickly Helpful, but a concept i saw that did help me a lot especially earlier was radical acceptance, which was basically like. accept what you cant change, so you can actually get on with changing what you can. like i just cant change that i have chronic pain and my joints dislocate and all this other stuff, but i can change how my room is arranged so i can get around more comfortably, and i can change some of my goals OR How i plan on achieving those goals so its actually feasible within the limitations that i have. its going to be more productive and im going to be Happier if i try to work within that to figure out how to make a life i want to live, rather than put all my time and energy (mentally or with trying Every Every Everything anyone suggests, even if its not actually like. realistically going to do anything) into Getting Better. it made a lot of stress by setting up this feeling of constantly waiting for my life to start (so i wasnt really trying to do anything with the life i had at the time), while also feeling like a failure when things stayed how they were or progressed. accepting my body and my health for what it was so i could move on with my life made a big difference for me, even though it is kind of a work in progress, so also dont feel bad for feeling bad, its okay to be like “yeah this sucks.” (i sometimes felt like i was being a Bad Disabled Person or giving into misery stereotypes or some bullshit like that if i wasnt always feeling totally fine about being disabled, but youre entitled to feel how youre going to feel about the situation youre in.)

ive seen a lot of disabled people and specifically disabled activists talk about how harmful the Level of focus and attention on cures/Getting Better can be, when its at the expense of a lot more focus and attention (and funding) than things like services and programs for disabled people get, even though thats what would actually help us Right Now. (ofc this is like layered and not a one size fits all issue but like as far as the pressure to get better that can end up just turning into an unnecessary stress.) finding out more about the disability rights movement and reading more of what disabled people had to say about these things also helped, and i cant even really pin down why, it was just like. there are other people in this boat too, and theyre fighting, and if theyre fighting then this life can be and is worth fighting for and putting my foot down for. it was just really reassuring i guess.

when i was first diagnosed i was flipping a lot between feeling relieved to know what was going on, and being like “oh, so it is actually that bad. that sucks.“ i had to just let myself feel that, which im pretty sure ive also seen people bring up when talking about radical acceptance, like that its completely okay to feel shitty about it or angry or grieve. trying to force those feelings down doesnt really help anything, and at least in my experience it just ends up creeping out elsewhere usually VERY inconveniently, so give yourself some time and space to feel what youre feeling without pressure, so you can go back out and the feeling isnt still hanging on you quite so much. 

BUT ALSO having a diagnosis does mean you can do something about it, even if it just gives you more solid limitations so you can know more about, like, how to ration your energy and pain tolerance, so im glad you were able to get that nailed down! its the biggest pain in the ass!

finding groups for your specific diagnosis can be good too i think, both for the feeling like other people are in the same boat but they also can have some good information about a lot of things, like certain physical therapy that did or didnt work and why, is this an EDS thing or is this normal, etc. and i think therapy is good too if its an option. i was told to Go See A Therapist when i first brought up chronic pain, which was super frustrating, but i do still have trouble with things like “i cant financially support myself right now” spiraling into “AND SO im a drain and im worthless and i suck, like, just in general,” which is where having a therapist comes in. the first thought is just objectively true but the second thought is taking it to an irrational level and it can be really easy to slip into that kind of spiral without some help, but that could also just be things like worksheets online if therapy isnt an option or whatever. (i love when my therapist sends me those.)

i hope at least some of this can be helpful and sorry if it turned into kind of an essay, but im glad you at least got some answers! this feels kind of jumbled up but im not really sure how to unjumble it so i can clarify something if its not clear

[inkytsuki]

Genuinely i am actually losing it and I apologize to my buddies if I've seemed super absent and withdrawn lately

My health is really really not great and I'm having to come to terms with a lot of stuff that I really shouldn't have to at 26, and there's currently a lot of fear of the unknown. I'm in near constant pain, I can't walk like I used to, and I've begun getting winded and having fainting spells after only a few minutes on my feet. There's a lot going wrong, and my surgery I had in April severely exacerbated a lot of problems.

I don't even know where to start and I have had consistent trouble finding doctors who will listen, and this is where I've ended up now. Chronic pain and fatigue, malaise, weakness, joint pain, muscle spasms, difficulty walking and holding myself upright, light-headedness, nearly dying from malnutrition and having to discover I have pernicious anemia (still no diagnosis I have to get a doctor, but I found out my grandmother has it too) and have had it for my entire life on my own while doctors told me I wasn't at an unhealthy weight when I telling them I'd lost the ability to eat for a year. It didn't get better until I started taking b12 because I was developing jaundice and it was a last ditch effort before I went to the emergency room for help.

I've had to do research on my own to connect dots to my own conditions to try to find reasonable options for my state at the moment, reading medical papers as they are published...and there are so many things that are connected that make complete sense. I think the majority of my problems are pernicious anemia and potentially secondary adrenal failure due to my pseudotumor cerebri (which guess what guys.....it's been correlated to pernicious anemia. Particularly in infants. And guess who was born with the condition and has a grandmother diagnosed with pernicious anemia and a mother who has struggled with b12 in the past :) ) having put pressure on my pituitary gland for so long.

Along with sciatica, which could be due to the pressure in my spinal column, b12 deficiency causes nerve damage and though I've been taking it daily for the last 3 months, it can take 2 whole years before your deficiency is in good standing (and it can be silent for 20 years before you show symptoms. And 20 years old is when i started getting sicker and sicker.) I don't know how much of this will be permanent. And I'm so tired all the time, and the financial aspect stresses me out so much. And literally everything I keep getting diagnosed with is easily exacerbated by stress.

And disability is impossible for me to get on. We have insurance but the premiums are ridiculous and I'm just too fucking sick for it to be helpful.

I feel like ass and Im honestly just. Ashamed of where I'm at and what I'm going through, even though I know I shouldn't be. I feel weak and I feel like this is all my fault for being so consumed with anxiety until my adhd was treated. But genuinely, so much of this was undetected bc the symptoms can mimic adhd and other mental illness.

But I do know my slurring speech will probably never get better. It's been an issue for a long time now, and though Adderall improves my stutter a lot, it isn't cured and my slurring has shown no improvement.

I'm just exhausted. I'm tired of fighting for people in care professions to listen to what I'm saying. I'm tired of doctors seeing abnormalities on my chart and saying "it's probably fine. You're young" and then looking at my own charts from the last 13 years and seeing the same problems show up in my blood work time after time.

And having the cleft lift surgery only to find out months later from doing research that it's possible that I will have pain in that area for the rest of my life now, especially if I already have chronic pain and no one warning me. I needed the surgery. But I wish I'd known.

I'm just exhausted. Genuinely. And it's nothing personal to anyone. I don't even have the energy for myself at the moment. I just want to sleep all the time. Even when I'm awake, I spend the entire day trying to keep myself from thinking on all of this. And then I have people in my family who keep thinking they know my body and my pain better than me, telling me that my pain isn't that bad and that I'm okay.

But when I explained to my father I was showing signs of P.A. and S.A.I. he panicked. And said it made sense. After downplaying everything time and time again. And while im glad for the support, why didn't you show that same concern when I first told you I had started using the cane to help me stay balanced get around and that I needed a shower chair now because I kept collapsing in the shower due to exhaustion? Why was your first instinct to tell me I was overreacting? Being melodramatic? A hypochondriac?

Why do I have to actively show signs of serious, life-threatening illness before I'm shown compassion and care? Why can't you just believe me when I say I'm in pain? Why can't you understand that my agoraphobia is due to not wanting to answer questions about why I don't come out anymore and why I can't do certain things? To hating the way that people stare when I go to the grocery store and I'm out of breath after 5 minutes and having to take a break just to breathe?

I told Sam earlier I feel like everything is a performance and I'm being judged on it constantly. And there is no way to ever please the audience. And I'm done. I don't care anymore.

[kingofkate]

So I apologize in advance because I'm not writing this to anyone in particular. I need somewhere to vent and currently have nowhere in my life to do that. So here I go yelling into the void.

I made a friend a few months ago, and things were really great. I was isolated with very few friends where I live (in a small town overseas) so it was great to meet someone from my country who had similar interests as me.

We used to laugh and joke all the time and they would always joke that we were basically the same person. But lately something changed.

I dont know if it is me or them, but suddenly they dont laugh anymore. Instead of jokingly saying "haha stop" at a cheesy joke they just ignore it and criticize me.

I used to reach out to them when something funny or bad happened in my life for advice of just a shoulder to lean on in times when I felt down or wanted to share. But recently every time I reach out, whether I'm sad or happy, it's always criticism.

I come out of every situation feeling like I'm the biggest idiot in the world because no matter how I defend myself they always shoot back "no, you're wrong."

I had a bad trip where I was stuck in a city I didnt speak the language and got kicked from a taxi and was scared so I reached out to them to say I was worried and needed a voice by my side for a moment to calm down. They told me it's my fault for not learning the language more even though I WAS using the language the guy just didnt understand me and asked me to leave. Then my friend kept asking me why I even went there to begin with when i could have went somewhere closer they liked more. I said i wanted to get out of my comfort zone and despite the hardships I was happy I was there. Every message was just why would you go there? There are better options. I dont understand why you went there. Until I eventually just said "look, this was my decision and I'm glad I made it. End of discussion" and came away feeling worse because I just needed them to say you'll get through it, I'm here. And instead I got a lecture about my decisions and how I'm wrong.

This has been going on for months and every time we talk I always just feel worse after. Today is sort of the last straw when I realized that they dont care what I say, they just want an excuse to argue and put me down.

I was joking saying that I wish our schedules matched up one day so we could see each other. They said it wouldn't matter because we wouldn't see each other much anyway. I said it would still be nice to have someone to walk to work with in the morning so I wasnt so lonely. They said it wouldn't matter. I finished with "my day would be better seeing you in the morning even if it's only for a few minutes" and they just said "it would be nothing but a commute to work for me".

I decided you know what? Fuck it. All I was saying is that your friendship means a lot to me and you make me happier when I get to see you even for a few minutes. But you just have to argue! It wasnt even a situation! Our schedules wont match up and it was hypothetical. Now I just feel stupid for feeling happiness at an imaginary situation where I get to see you more. And you know what? That's not friendship.

This is the type of person who diagnosis you with a personality and just sticks with that and doesnt change how they see you. I relied on them on a trip we went on? They constantly comment on how I couldn't survive on my own. They talk about a friend they have and say they are fragile. I say I'd love to meet this friend. They say they wont like me because I'm too chaotic. As if I cant read the room and change how I act to make people more comfortable.

It's a constant back and forth between telling me how to live my life and criticizing me when I try to improve myself in ways that matter to me.

I need to get out more? I try doing day trips to new places despite the anxiety because I want to. Is that good enough? No the place I chose to go was a stupid choice because there are better places close by.

I need to make more friends? I ask to be introduced to their friends because I literally dont know anyone else. No, they wont like me because I'm "too crazy".

I need to learn the language better? I go out of my way to ask coworkers for help, wrote down as many useful sentences as possible, and practice my speaking before I get there. One bad situation happens? Dude, you REALLY need to make a better effort to learn the language.

Maybe I'm just being too sensitive. Maybe im taking things to personally. But I dont care. My mental health shouldn't be in a worse place every time I talk to you. That's not friendship.

And no, I'm not going to tell them any of this because I know their mental health isnt in a great place. They dont need me criticizing them about how they talk to me.

So from here on out I'm not going to contact them. If they reach out to me I'll respond. But they clearly have no interest in hearing about my life, so I wont trouble them with that anymore.

Doing this isolates me more because they were the only other person who was in a similar situation to mine and all my friends are in a different tome zone on the opposite side of the world and dont understand the position I'm in.

I'm not looking for pity or advice with this post. I just need a place to rant because I have no one else to talk to.

Thanks for reading.

[ghoulangerlee]

this is a pretty heavy post like, feel free to ignore it bc im just. in a really bad place right now and i need to vent and say things other than ‘im so tired’ because it doesn’t accurately encompass how i actually feel

So, like. 2012? Sometime after my mom died I got into a really bad place mentally, with everything piling up; my shit life, my shit aunt, my shit roommate, just shit after shit, my money kept going to bills, i didnt eat for weeks at a time. 

I was in a really bad place. Like, horrifically bad. Only made worse by my aunt taking me to the hospital and telling the doctors there I was suicidal. To be fair, I was, but being locked in, what’s essentially a cell with a wooden bed? Not Fun. 

I tried getting better, I went to a therapist and a psychiatrist, got on medicine. talk about my problems, tried moving on. 

it didnt work. i felt a sense of uselessness around that time. i was 20 and my mom died less than a year ago. 

i’d been nursing my bad health since i was a kid, and when mom’s diagnosis came when i was 17...it was a lot to handle. and as time went on, my aunt got more distant until it was me, a barely old enough fresh high school graduate, trying to juggle college, full time work and taking care of my sick (and dying) mom. 

two years is a lot of time to have that much pressure put on you. and it does a lot to a person’s psyche when you go from being On at all times, to suddenly, you’re sitting in a hospice, telling your mom it’s okay to rest now. you’ll be fine. 

you start feeling useless, i guess. you just. don’t know what to do anymore. your mom’s gone, you’re out of work for a week to “mourn” but really. you spend the week staring at the wall wondering what you could have done better. 

(the spoiler is, nothing. nothing. death is fucked up. mom knew. the whole time she was going through the stages, making herself okay with the idea of dying. im glad she’s resting now. the last few years of her life were hard. too hard for one woman to handle.)

some could say that my anger and depression and sadness and just emptiness came from grief, maybe. maybe im still not over it. (spoiler: im not). 

i remember, my aunt calling me the day my roommate was in the hospital, i was with her, sitting with her. and i’d called my manager to let him know that i was on my way to work, i shouldn’t be late but if traffic gets bad, then i might be late. 

my aunt calls, yells at me, calls me a lot of names to the point im sobbing in my roommates hospital room. not an uncommon occurrence at that point. my aunt making me cry. i was 20 and my aunt had been doing that for about 10 years at that point. 

my roommate takes the phone, says something i can’t remember to her and hangs up. and then she calls a nurse who takes me aside, sits me down in a room and asks me if i need to leave. if my aunt’s abusing me or hurting me. 

it was a long day at the hospital. and then, later on that night, as im about to take myself to the local hospital to find out what i need in order to see a therapist, my aunt hijacks my plans and drags me there herself. takes me to the ER, tells them she’s worried about her niece’s who’s suicidal. 

and anyway. to make a long story short. i spend a lot of time in this tiny box of a room, with no shoes or pants or shirt. in my underwear and a gown, sitting on a wooden frame bed with no blanket. 

when i finally get my aunt out of the room, and i talk to the psych lady who came down from the ward, she asks me if i need to leave my aunt, asks if my aunt’s hurt me or hit me. 

at the time, i didnt realize that abuse in the context she was asking also meant verbal, mental and emotional. i didnt realize that’s what my aunt was doing until way later. 

the more i talked to a therapist later on, the more i realized that things were messed up. that my aunt’s treatment of me wasn’t right. that my aunt, as a whole, is abusive. 

i was 20 when i tried to commit suicide. 

i dont talk about it ever, because it was a point in my life i’ve been trying hard to forget. 

i was just. so wrung out. my roommate left me with a 300 dollar power bill despite “promising” to pay her share. my landlord kept bothering me about rent even though i’d always remind her when i’d get paid, my aunt wouldn’t stop. and i just felt alone. 

so fucking alone. i was empty and hollow and my house and life were a fucking mess. 

at that point, i’d been trying to think of a way that seemed natural i guess. just. something that no one would realize i’d done it on purpose. 

i didn’t have any money for food, so starving myself seemed like the best option. and so, i didnt eat. for days and then weeks and then months. 

my dumb brain just, thought that, well, ive already got bad stomach problems. my stomach already bleeds. if i don’t eat then the acid just gets worse, it’ll make me bleed. 

didn’t count on passing out during work and being rushed to the ER. 

i lied then and said it was because i didn’t have the money to eat. and so afterwards, my manager and coworkers made sure i ate something. 

but i mean, it wasn’t a glamorous experience. until today, i hadn’t told anyone that me not eating for those months was actually me trying to sabotage my own life. 

but yeah. 

what all this is leading up to is. i feel myself slipping back into that mindset. only this time, i can’t get out of it. i don’t have a therapist, or medication to help. my aunt is on my ass constantly and won’t let me get a job without threatening me homelessness. 

and its tearing me up on the inside. ive been in so much physical pain these past few days. everyday its hard to get out of bed and find the will to do anything.

we had an argument the other day, because i finally couldn’t handle her yelling. i told her how i felt about her and she told me to leave the room. so i went outside. and. fuck. i kept mapping out the quickest way to get to the busy street where all the cars were. if i could just get out there without her seeing then i could just...

when i keep saying im tired, i mean it as, this bone deep i can’t take it anymore tired. the i need to get out of here before something happens to me tired. the i am at the end of my line and if something doesn’t change soon im going to die tired. 

im trying so hard to stay okay. to keep all this in and not bombard people with it. hatching plans and trying to figure out how to get the money to leave. where to go when i do leave. 

but god its so hard. im just so tired.

and i dont know what to do. 

my aunt “paid” me for the last transport and i got 75 dollars. two days of nonstop driving and caring for 16 dogs. 75 dollars. that’s for groceries and my phone bill. and absolutely nothing for savings. 

fuck.

[rose-skunk]

@thoughtsareclouded it's not really me having a say in whether I pick them or not, my fear for harming myself too much and too badly is what keeps me in line. My urges aren't as strong as others so it's easier to resist sometimes, especially when fear plays a factor in that for me. Do you have any fidget/stim toys? Those really help to occupy the hands and keep them busy while also stimulating you so you don't sit there with an itch to pick. I recommend toys that will keep your full hand or both hands busy, I have an infinity cube that flips around in your hand to make a cube infinitely

Here's a video showing what it is

And here's a video showing how to make your own if you have enough dice or evenly sized cubes lying around (I feel like the actual toy would be more satisfying though)

There's also tangles

I haven't used one before but I know it's a lot of people's preferred stim toys and I think it's because of the same reason I like my infinity cube so much. I also have a classic fidget cube but imo it's overhyped and not even that great of a stim toy

It's a jack of all stims but a master of none if you know what I mean. Also, video games! If you have a console or PC or whatever to play while recovering, the game takes your attention away from the urges and using a controller or the mouse and keyboard occupies both hands! Even a little game on your phone that you like to play can be a good distraction. I have multiple nonogram apps on my phone because I love squares and cubes a lot I guess. They're little brain puzzles and you get to make a picture while you solve it! It's tough to get a hang of at first but once you get it down it's so much fun to play.

Just anything that you can do with one or both hands will be a big help, you can also carry stim toys with you if you're worried about doing it at any time. If you can manage and bear to wear gloves while recovering, that might help you get through it by having a physical barrier between your fingers and your stitches. The lack of sensitivity with gloves can help keep you from touching your stitches cause it's harder to feel them. You could also try to cover whatever part of your body has the stitches, long sleeved shirts or jackets, pants, socks. If it can't be covered by clothes then maybe ask if you could keep the bandages on until you get your stitches out? If they don't need to be uncovered then don't uncover them, that's only if your doctors say it's okay. If none of that is an option for you then maybe you could ask someone in your life to check on you, if you live with someone you could ask if they could stay with you for a some time to make sure you don't pick. Im sorry if none of these work or if this is all stuff you've heard/tried before. I know that if I need to give my skin a break to heal from picking then I'll just focus more heavily on another bfrb I have. That might not sound like the best advice, "do harm to a Different part of your body" but if it keeps you away from your stitches to let them heal right, then it'll probably be less damage in the end. I also don't have an official derma diagnosis but I think we both know that we don't need to be told by a professional that we pick our skin too much when we experience that on a weekly/daily basis. I think the most good a diagnosis would do for you is to get legitimate mental help for it. I hope your recovery is smooth and know that I believe in you and your abilities to overcome this. Don't be afraid to ask for help from your loved ones if you need it. I know it makes me feel weak but sometimes it's necessary and you'll be glad you did. I really hope you're doing okay ❤

Does anyone else with derma or any other bfrbs get imposter syndrome sometimes when you read about other people's experiences with it? For example, I had a surgery on my stomach that left me with 5 incisions that were closed with surgical glue and I never picked at those even if I really wanted to. Sometimes I would play around with the edge as it started to peel away, but the thought of pulling it off early skeeved me out and made me worry about opening a hole in my stomach. With extreme things like that, I can have good self restraint and it makes me feel like "I had some self control here for this one thing, maybe I'm faking it?" But at the same time as I was getting prepared for surgery, the weeks leading up to it made my picking the worst it's ever been in my life (from stress and stuff), and I've had derma pretty much all my life. Like, there is not one part of my body that doesn't have some kind of scar on it from derma. I've had these scars for a long time, some fade but I'll just make more. Some of these picking scars will be for life too, but I didn't open my surgical wounds in recovery and that kind of stuff puts doubts in my mind. I will never know what it's like to not feel compelled to pick at my skin, yet somehow, if my derma isn't as bad as someone else's, my mind thinks "do I really have derma?"

[drferox]

20 Questions with Dr Ferox #20

Sometimes it blows my mind how many questions and comments you all have and want to share. This makes 400 we’ve got to in this format. Once again I’ve tried to tag people, but if you sent a question on Anon you’ll have to look yourself to see if you were answered.

@crazy-aquarium-lady said: Do you have any experience with farm or large animals in general? Goats for instance?

I spent the first few years of my veterinary career working in mixed practice, which included large animals and goats. I really did enjoy goats, though they often weren't kept as seriously as other livestock, but I'd have to admit I'm somewhat out of practice with large animals.

Anonymous said: omg all of your animal names are incredible. i once met two cocker spaniels called Beans and Trousers and that was pretty amazing

Bean and Trousers are great names too

@sketchingblanks said: Hi there Dr. Fox! Thank you for your wonderful blog and all that you do. My dwarf hamster recently passed away at the age of 3 and I'm a wildlife rehabilitator who has dealt with animal death many times before, but it's never quite the same when it's one of your own. However it did make me wonder what is the smallest animal you have ever worked with? Was it more fun or challenging? Question tax: How do you take your tea? I usually have something herbal (like peppermint/spearmint) with honey.

The smallest patient I've personally dealt with was a mouse. But the finch with the broken leg was pretty close. Believe it or not I don’t actually drink tea.

Anonymous said: Question: have you ever treated an arthropod (specifically tarantulas, because they can rupture their abdomen pretty easily) or know someone who specializes in that? Because I'm quite interested in knowing if vets provide care to arthropods, or if its better for the owner to perform medical care to their tarantula at home (ICU's, helping a bad molt, treating hemolymph leaks, etc).

I haven't personally treated an arthropod, though I learned a bit about them during work experience at the Melbourne Aquarium, most of their medicine seemed to be 'just don't make them sick'. There are vets that will treat them though, the Bird & Exotic Animal Clinic is my go-to for exotics (you should check out their facebook page).

Anonymous said: You dont have to reply to this if you dont want to, i just wanted to say i have rats and i love them so much and i will do anything they need at the vets. Because idk i thought maybe you might need encouragement that there are people who prioritize exotic animals health. I hear a lot of stories of people that wont get vet care for their rats but not a lot about people who do. Thought it might give you a little bright light amongst all the dark. Have a great day youre amazing.

People like you are definitely out there. Thank you for your comment.

Anonymous said: just needed to blow off a bit of steam because this still annoys me, but my father told me that taking a hamster to the vet to make sure she's healthy before taking her to college with me as a support pet was "a waste of money." granted, he hasn't taken the family cat to the vet in about seven years, so he generally seems to think that veterinary care is a waste of money. i love my hammy and i just want to make sure she's healthy, but since she isn't a cat or dog, she's "not worth it"

Anon, sounds like your father would think any dollar spent at a vet clinic is a waste of money, regardless of what sort of animal it was. There's not much you can do to change people's minds about this, so just do what you need to do.

Anonymous said: It's amazing how many people don't understand how economics works. They seem to expect vets to do everything for free or for cheap, but if they did that, how could they afford to eat? And besides that, you guys DESERVE to be paid for your time and effort. I wish more people thought about it like that instead of just looking at their bill and thinking that their pet's life isn't worth that much. Thank you for everything you do.

Veterinary medicine is one of the fields where people seem to think it's criminal for a practice to make a profit. Most other professions are not vilified for making a wage, but we're expected to like our jobs enough to work for free. Partly this is our own fault because we start to believe it after a while but we do frequently undercharge, do desexing surgery at cost, and treat strays and wildlife for free. The difficulty is most of this charity is invisible

Anonymous said: I want to say thank you as well because I thought I wanted to become a vet for the longest time, but reading this blog among others has actually taught me that it probably wouldn't be right for me. Now I'm more interested in something like a research professor. The amount of respect I have for you is boundless. I love seeing your work and following you and I think it's a good thing that I stumbled across this blog. This way I won't be stuck in a career that I wouldn't like.

Being stuck doing something you don't really like isn't a fun place to be. I'm glad you've found some more options and hope everything works out great for you.

Anonymous said: My favourite part of your blog has always been your vet stories, so I've been curious -- What kind of case/problem gives you the most satisfaction to solve?

Anything where I actually find a treatable diagnosis. Animals that get better 'mysteriously' are great and all, but I want to know why. And getting the answer is only bitter sweet if the answer is catastrophic or terminal. EPI, Addison’s and reconstructive cases are my favourite, because you can do so much good for them.

@daedricprincessxoxo said: Cute story for happiness: So a nurse-for-people brought in her dog for a sick visit. Unlike most human med people I've met, she was so respectful of those of us in veterinary medicine, and absolutely fascinated by how similar it all was to human medicine. Not only was she a dream client, her dog had freckles on its nose, which the vet adored too. What was funny is when she referred to the dog's spay as a hysterectomy instead.

It's great when you get a good one instead of a know-it-all. Technically a dog spay is an ovariohysterectomy though, we take those pesky ovaries out too.

Anonymous said: Im a vet assistant at a local shelter, and while helping a family look at dogs they remarked to me, "yeah our daughter is allergic to dog FUR but not dog HAIR. Do you know which dogs have just hair?" Needless to say, i was a little speechless and just recommended a poodle. Theres no real difference....right?

It's only semantics but some people like to use it to feel special. Hair and fur are chemically the same, if you're really allergic to one you're allergic to both, but hair is finer and typically longer so either doesn't shed or sheds much more rarely. It's weirdly common for poodle owner to be proud that their dogs have hair instead of fur. As long as they end up loving the dog, it doesn't really matter.

Anonymous said: Here's one: I work at a pet store. A man came in asking for a remote electric shock collar for a 3 lb Yorkie. Told him we carried nothing small enough to be safe. He told me it wasn't for barking - he and his wife had cattle, and when they went to visit the herd the dog would go pelting towards the cows. He said, "I just need something to drop er so she don't get stomped." I suggested a leash. He replied, "Nah, she don't like leashes."

Nothing the general public does or says surprises me anymore.

Anonymous said: I have a natural English Cocker. Her tail is heavy, constantly wagging, and a hazard to any legs in the vicinity :) Where I am there's a lot of working cockers, and hunters will swear up and down that docking is necessary because they'll ruin their tails in the brambles, etc. I'm not convinced - my (pet) dog loves diving into thick cover and this has never been an issue. Their ears are surely more of a risk, I'd think, but no-one's trying to crop those. Is there any real merit to docking?

No, there is no real merit to docking healthy tails and you're correct in assuming the ears of cocker spaniels are far more problematic for these dogs. Cocker Spaniels are the most notorious breed for difficult, drug resistant ear infections, with quite a few of them requiring lateral or total ear canal ablation surgery, but nobody would even think about docking Cocker Spaniel ears. This is because docking and cropping are done for aesthetics, not function.

@cakeandpi said: A long time ago, I took my cat in to the vet because he was limping badly and did not want to be handled. Turns out, rather than breaking his leg or anything like that, his hip joint had essentially eroded away and - to quote - “looked like swiss cheese”. His leg was amputated and it healed nicely, though he never let anyone close to that part of his body again. He had a long, easy, and mobile life, until he was roughly 18 years old (he was a shelter rescue) when his kidneys finally gave out on him for good. Whatever happened to his hip bone, it was unusual enough that the vet sent a sample to a vet research clinic. It’s been a few years since my cat passed, and even more since his amputation, but it helps a little to think that that sample might one day help, I don’t know, with orthopedic research or something of the sort. Maybe. Question tax: I really like your fantasy-animal science posts!

I of course have no way of knowing where the hip bone went, but I'm sure somebody, somewhere will make use of it. Veterinary Medicine is advancing all the time, which is the best thing about science, and accumulating raw materials and data is critical for us to be able to do so.

Anonymous said: hi dr ferox! i love your blog! earlier today my sister cut our cat's claws with human nail trimmers. i know you're not supposed to do that, but i don't know why. i looked at his claws after she told me she did it and they don't look hurt. should i be worried? thank you so much!

I use human nail trimmers on my cats' nails all the time. It's fine if your technique is good, though they're not the easiest device to use for that purpose.

@gemma-handyman said: Dear Dr Ferox, I've tried to find the answer via google but have come up short. Do you know why some cats have such an affinity for loaves of bread? For instance, my grandmother's cat, Cece, would drag loaves beneath my grandmother's bed and fiercely protect the pilfered loaf. She's not the only cat I've heard of with a strange penchant for gluten and carbohydrates. Do you know why some cats love loaves of bread? Question tax: came for the mythical breed breakdowns- stayed for the irl info

Cats can digest carbohydrates, and from a metabolic point of view they're likely treating it as glycogen in terms of dehydration. Some cats like novel chewing textures, celery leaves is another common thing for cats to like, so may be just chewing it for fun.

Anonymous said: I want to be a vet tech but everyone always says I'm selling myself short... vet techs are just as useful right?

Of course they are. Have you ever seen a human hospital function without nurses?

Anonymous said: So our clinic has a batch of neonate puppies. 10 of them. I'm clearly not going to be able to sleep for the foreseeable future, as I'm on puppy duty. At least they're cute.

Good luck bottle feeding the little squeakers. They'll turn into waddling balls of chaos soon enough.

@fndm-trsh-sht said: my cat is a lil shit- but a cute lil shit- t h a t i s a l l- *slinks awaayyy*

Most cats are buddy, but we love them anyway.

Anonymous said: Something about the angle of trashbags ears reminds me of a goblin. Hes wonderful

He is a bit of a gremlin, he's starting to grow into his ears though.

[thenightisland]

you know the drill:

this is becoming like its own series but idk how else to explain this awful year i don’t even feeling like properly linking so here’s just the URLs of the other ones in the series: 1. http://thenightisland.tumblr.com/post/161087786689/explanationsupdates-under-the-cutmore-i 2. http://thenightisland.tumblr.com/post/161920216354/additional-updatesexplanations-under-the-cut 3. http://thenightisland.tumblr.com/post/163767959805/updates-under-the-cutmore-post-one-post-two-on 4. http://thenightisland.tumblr.com/post/164398486219/on-the-fourth-edition-of-what-the-fuck-is

one of the assessors got jumped a while back. she was just walking past a pt in the main assessment dept and he jumped up, punched her in the back of the head, took her to the ground and beat the fuck out of her. she was out for weeks and weeks and had broken facial bones. i can’t believe she didn’t quit.

our nurse executive quit though. not like, went prn or gave two weeks notice, like just straight up was like I’M DONE and walked out which honestly is the closest i’ve ever come to respecting him.

while having more psychologically unstable pts isn’t new, having more medically unstable pts has been a problem lately. like our crash cart is not like a medical hospital’s crash cart it’s like. an ambu bag some iv supplies and a stethoscope no lifesaving medications. when a pt has a medical issue we send them out to a medical hospital because obv we don’t have the resources to treat complex medical issues where we work. which didn’t used to be an issue because you’d used to see maybe two medical codes a year on my unit. we’ve had /ten/ since my last update post /just on my shift/. two of which weren’t even “pt is going downhill fast” codes they were “pt has no heartbeat and isn’t breathing” like we had to fucking bring two people back from the goddamn dead /within ten minutes of each other/. we’re all like we’re psych nurses man if we wanted to do this shit we’d work er. [and the er we’re required to send these pts to is awful like they sent us back a guy who had almost died twice in three days who had an /untreated brain tumor/ bc obv he’s totally fine]. or we’ve been doing mash unit style medicine like the suicidal kid with partial thickness burns all over his chest and neck that literally no one was doing anything about. we were debriding burns with a mixture of different PO IM and SQ drugs to achieve the same effect as IV morphine because debriding is extremely painful but not doing it will just make things worse and no one else seemed to care so we just fucking did it. like we’ve done so much medical nursing lately. like the one with the uncontrolled severe seizures that led to the medical hospital labeling her first break schizophrenia despite no family history of mental illness but /five different medical issues that all cause psychosis/. or the one they let on the unit despite being on the do not readmit who has untreated hiv that he actively tries to give to other people and /active tuberculosis/. or the one with the aneurysm. or the one with severe CHF. and on and on and on. and remember: we’re not the most medically unstable unit in the hospital because we have a 40 bed /geriatric psych unit/ so you can imagine the kind of pts /they’re/ getting. on the plus side, all of our ten odd codes lived.

my personal life is still a goddamn mess, of course, but that’s a given. don’t even know where to begin with all that. and i can’t talk about a lot of it which makes it that much more fun.

i had an entire crisis about the odyssey [which tbh is still kind of going on even after /weeks/] because i’m getting so cagey in memphis because i fucking hate this town. and i just got back from new orleans which is the closest thing i have to an ithaca at the moment and it killed me to come back to this fucking city.

i’m also really paranoid right now because after i come back from vacations, something terrible always happens and i’m not exaggerating it’s like clockwork to the point that the bad things have all happened between friday and sunday after i’ve returned from my vacation, each time, without fail. well that would be this weekend so i am just waiting to see what great horrors await me this goddamn time. [last time, it was the whole coworker killed in vehicular homicide thing]. but i guess paranoia isn’t the right word. you’re only paranoid if you’re wrong, and my life has already set the precedent. so i guess anxious is the better word.

the anxiety is increased given that my mother has been out of work all week because they’ve had trouble regulating her blood sugar and so she’s been really sick and even said so herself she’ll probably end up in the er over the weekend because she doesn’t think she can make it till her next doc appt because she’s miserable, and she’s already been in the er once when this weird shit started happening a month or so ago so the Vacation Curse has me even more concerned than usual, which is saying something. 

there’s a new psych doc working now and everyone is really unsettled by him and we’re pretty sure he’s a genuine psychopath like completely without exaggeration and he’s already done a lot of really creepy things to/with staff members and one nurse said in passing “i’ve known a lot of doctors like him he’ll end up fucking a pt at some point” which we initially left to hyperbole but he’s been doing shit like transporting female pts to other units without the staff’s consent in his own car which is like all kinds of not allowed, and the way he talks to some of the staff is just downright rapey honestly. and so we had a rough case this summer who, through the combined efforts of my squad, we got her from a diagnosis of intellectual disability with schizophrenia, nonverbal, self harming all the time, history of physical and sexual abuse, constantly in restraints and on a 1:1 obs level to a new diagnosis of autism spec with ptsd because her “hallucinations” were /flashbacks/ and she ended up very social and verbose and like fucking read william blake for fun and had a great sense of humor and was off all special observations and had a transfer to another facility pending so she could get more 1:1 long term therapy, and the creepy doctor was covering her case while her actual doc was out of town and he rode all the way to the other hospital with her which is another thing you do not do, and we found out from a coworker that she is now a /2:1/ [two staff members within arm’s reach 24/7], self harming again, in full shutdown/meltdown mode, and nonverbal. and it was such a rapid deterioration that all of us lost sleep over the possibility that this creepy doctor might have done something because even after she was at the other hospital and therefore no longer our pt, /he kept going to see her/. which fucked us up a lot because we were the ones who worked so hard for so long with her. like even the thought of it.

recently had 25th birthday so naturally had a crisis about that because i’d always said my goal was to be out of memphis by 25 and yet here we are. 

another of our fave pts, esp one of /my/ fave pts, died out of literally nowhere. the day before my birthday. so that was great.

also felt really surreal to see the news about the convictions in the holly bobo case, which i found out about when one of my coworkers was reading the news on his phone during a lull one night i forgot that to him and everyone else it’s a national news story [hell it even has its own wikpedia page] but to me it’s just /holly/ because she was /in the class above me in our nursing program/. my first semester in college i remember seeing her face on missing posters on every building on campus. so it was really a weird moment of dissociation for me. glad the motherfucker was found guilty on all charges, obv. 

the tech of mine who got his skull slammed into the floor, the one who’s been out with what can only be called severe psychological trauma, is supposed to be coming back the third week in october. which i just. i mean i’m glad because he’s one of our best guys, but i’m also like /why the fuck would he come back/ because he could be a fucking english professor again. motherfucker spent part of his youth growing up in italy and montreal, lived on the west coast for years, /was/ a college professor, did time as a script doctor in LA, and was a fucking thriller novelist who just gone girled himself for whatever reason and ended up working with us. there’s literally a reddit thread asking if anyone knows what happened to him and i want to be like don’t worry it’s fine he works with me. but so we’re like why would you come back to this place after what happened to you when you have so many other options available to you????? what are you running from that makes you so desperate to keep centering your life around a locked acute psych ward???? why did you gone girl yourself to begin with??? like he was screwed up enough there for a while that he wasn’t even answering his calls or texts and our boss had to send the police to do welfare checks on him because he lives alone so it’s like man why not go back to the life you had before and /get away from all of this/ it’s not like my situation where i’d rather be living a different life but have never done so, he already has the foundation because he’s already lived a different life he has an in that i don’t have and i can’t for the life of me figure out why he thinks working as an acute pysch tech is the better option. 

but i mean. we /do/ call our unit the hotel california for a reason.

[ionica01]

Subjective

So I was working on a Karmanami fic (sorry for being so jnactive lately!) but while browsing through ao3 I found a great fanfic for Nakamura x Asano and I fell in live with this ship. Sue me if you want, but we all know Nakamura had a thing for Nagisa but gave up on him because Kayano and her best friend was Karma... So I think these teo really work together! And of course I immediately started writing. The karmanami should be out soon too! "I can't believe that guy!" Nakamura procedeed to complain as she dropped her things on the chair next to hers and let herself dramatically fall into her own chair, stretching her hands behind her back. "And the reason you are telling me this is..." The man in front of her questioned, looking rather amused at his lunch companion. "Because Karma is too busy with his girlfriend to listen to my stories!" Rio sighed, letting her head fall on her arms in a "drama queen" fashion. "So I am simply a substitute." The man concluded rather than asked, smirking slyly. "Oh, stop being such a downer Asano! You shouldbe glad that I'm willing to entertain you with my stories!" Nakamura pouted, grabbing the menu and quickly broswing through it. Asano picked his own menu, covering his expression with it and letting out a small chuckle that he had stiffled for a while now. His friendship with Rio Nakamura was still a mistery. Being in the same class as Karma, Asano was in permanent competition with someone worthy, but this didn't only affect his learning. With time, he and Karma started going for wagers outside the classroom .It was strange, but his relationship with the red-headed wasn't only a competition, but some kind of rivalry friendship, as they came to respect one another and also learn some of their weaknesses. As such, Karma learned that Asano hated strawberry milk ("just one more thing to prove the bastard had worthless taste!" as he claimed) and Asano came to learn that Karma liked to read chemistry articles in his free time ("never thought a man could be so weak to a woman's charms" the former claimed). Another one of the perks of knowing Karma was getting to know all the intersting former 3-E class members he interacted with. Asano took a special liking to those who scored high on the end of second term tests, such as Nakamura and Isogai or Kataoka, who were all open enough to give him a second chance (or mock him whenever he lost to Karma, in Rio's case). The five virtuoses were all rather reluctant at mingling with class E's students at first, but after seeing how their leader gained respect for them, they gave in. As such, Asano's highschool years were filled with learning more about his opponent and his friends. Out of all of them, Asano resonated the most with Nakamura: she was a foul mouth like Karma, and almost as smart as him. Moreover, her resolve to be a diplomat was something he admired and they often discussed topics such as politics and the right way to tackle a sensitive issue. Over the years, they grew as good friends and she started turning to him whenever Karma would be tol busy to plot something with her or listen to her rambles. Of course he wasn't the evil trickster in person, but he did provide her with scary ways to take revenge if ever needed and he could keep a calm head on his shoulders. This time, however, it seemed like she needed love advice. Or at least a way to take revenge on a guy who stood her up. Asano closed his menu after regainig his composer and looked over to his... Friend. The word sounded weird in his thoughts and even stranger when he tried saying it aloud, like it could chocke him. However, it was undeniable that she was a friend. After all, not everyone keeps in touch even when studying oversees and most definetely most aquantiances don't face-time each other just because they are bored. "So, what happened?" He finally asked. "Huh?" She answered as if he distupted her train of thoughts. Looking up from the menu, she exclaimed : "Oh. That. Ughh." She grimaced, closing the menu loudly. "Listen to this! Your friend Ren asked me out!" She pointed at Asano, who looked taken aback by her remark. "Ren did?" "Yeah! Like what, now that he can't make his way to Kanzaki he tries the remaining options?! And I wasn't even the first one on his list!" She puffed, crossing her arms. "He tried Hayami first! But that was taken, too, so he went to Hinano-chan who turned him flat down and THEN to me." She exclaimed uncreduosly. "I was FOURTH on his list! Cand you BELIEVE him?!" She esclaimed, slamming the table with her hand. "Am I a fourth option?!!" She repeated as if it was the most despicable thing on earth. Asano surpressed a laugh: to think someone would get down just because of such a thing. It was well-known that Ren was a womanizer, but it still fazed Rio that she could be so down on his list. Honestly, it fazed Asano too that his friend only placed Nakamura so down on his list. Practically speaking, she was a girl that could bring many advantages: a high income, fluent English that was mandatory in negotiations, as well as a high persuasive power and a flexible mind that could easily find solutions. "Well, you know Ren." He tried calming her down. "He's a womanizer. I don't think he ranks you or anything... He's more impulsive and attacks who he sees." "And he sees me more often than Hinano-chan!" Wrong argument, Asano realised. "So that's not..." "May I take your order?" The friendly waiter asked. "Sure." Asano gave him a buisness smile, internally thanking him for giving him more time to think. After they ordered, an awkward silence installed between the two, as Rio lost her angriness and instead weakly asked again, with a sad vibe: "am I really that bad?" "Oh, come on, Nakamura, don't be such a downer!" Asano used the same line as her with a smirk, which did seem to help make her feel better. "You know as well as I do that Ren's not so much about quality as he is about quantity." He added. "Hey! Are you calling my friends unqualified?" Rio pointed out, but her words were calmer and warmer and she didn't do a good job at hiding her smile, so Asano continued. "Not at all, I wouldn't dare. I am merely pointing out that Ren's ranking is of no meaning." He retailed. "Of course, you are right. But you have to admit that even so, he was a jerk." "I do not deny that fact." Rio giggled. "However, you don't knkw that from me" asano cauciously added. "Did you say something about the womanizer? Oh, you meant Maehara, right?" Nakamura trailed off, changing the subject. For the rest of the meal, the two didn't bring up Ren anymore and they enjoyed their normal time together: politics, work, catching up and talking about how Asano was bound to be a forever alone because all the women were after his money and none of his secretaries were reliable. "Don't laugh, Nakamura! This is a serious issue! I need a competent worker to do his job to get my appointments in order and all I get are silly and sloppy women!" "Because you have a magnet for these kind of people! But I'm sure the allmighty Asano can manage on his own?" She smirked. "Yes of course. But it gives me a headache every time." He sighed. "And that's why I'm here to heal you~" he blonde laughed. 'Heal' was indeed a good word. Asano enjoyed his time with her and never considered it a waste of time. Moreover, she was always capable of keeping up with his work and let his complain. He could let his guard down around her and still feel safe. "I wish you were my secretary." He honestly said. "Now, now! How could I deprive so many women of their wish to get into your pants? I'm not that mean." She laughed it off, but a trail of rose still colored her cheeks. Lunch was over before either of them could notice and they had to go back to their daily routines. "What now?" Nakamura asked as they walked together to the underground subway station. "Meeting with the CEO of a cars' factory." Asano answered bored. He never liked cars to begin with: they made him nautious. "There there." The woman patted his arm with petty mixed with a sly smirk. She knew fully well that her friend hated cars: she had pictures from their last trip to the sea where the driver had to pull the car over for asano to puke. Her and Karma were all over the place taking photos of him (but of course Karma had to erase them because Manami scolded him, no worries: she the pics later). However, she couldn't help but joke: "fast and furious?" "Nakamura." Asano turned to her with a mixed expression: half amused and half serious, "you're getting weaker with your comebacks." "No!" She fake gasped, pointing a thinking finger to her chin: "it must be my Ren-allergy acting up!" She found the diagnosis. Asano laughed a bit, which earned himself a strange gaze from Nakamura. "That's rare." "Must be my being-fourth-on-the-list allergy." He joked. As soon as the words left his mouth, he turned with a worried expression to his fellow, afraid he could have hurt her. To his surprise, she was smiling: "Glad to see you suffer from it too! We are now oficially allergy buddies!" She said, pretending to sneeze. Asano looked at her in disbelief mixed with fondness: what kind of idiot would put this woman on the fourth place? Objectively speaking, she was smart, funny and could always heal headaches. "For the record" he started as they made it to the station, where they had to part ways, as they were going im opposite directions. "You'd be first on my list." That was a subjective point of view, of course. For a few moments Nakamura remained speechless, holding his stare as she stared back at him. Finally, she answered: "I never made of list. But I just ran the possibilities through my head and you win by far." She stated, matter-of-factly. He never expected that: a joke, brushing it off: yes. Accepting the challenge: no. "Are you free tonight?" He suddenly asked. "Got work until ten." She responded with her usual tone. "Can I pick you up at 10:15?" He said again, with a buisness tone. "That's not within working hours" she laughed, nodding. "And for the record" she added as the next train was announced "you'll have to cure my headache because I have a meeting with a French diplomat next and his accent is killing me!" And with that, she got onto the train and left. A fine woman, Asano thought. And despite being subjective, that was a fact for him.

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Why did people invent insurance, what was their reasoning behind it? And why did we make auto insurance mandatory...or the insurance for your home? Wasn' t it conceived to help in case of catastrophic events? Isn't the purpose of health inurance similar..to help pay for the catastrophic or complex diseases? How is making this mandatory different from making auto insurance mandatory?""

Liberals: You are required by law to purchase automobile insurance. Why not health insurance?

The reason you are required by law to purchase auto insurance is so that you cannot screw over society by making them pay for your car accidents when you can't pay for them yourself. Same with health insurance. People get sick and then others end up paying for them. It's much easier to require everyone to pay health insurance, just as with auto insurance. Do you agree?""

So can I lie about my grades to the car insurance company?

So im 17 and getting my license in a couple of days. Apparently i need car insurance to drive by myself. Seeing as how my parentals want to pay less, they want as much discounts as possible (who doesnt?). So i kinda have like a 2.5 GPA and you need a 3.0 for the discount. So, im thinking i can get a report card, scan it and change the grades. When i do that, i just give it to whatever insurance company and they'll give me the discount. Sounds fool proof. Now, is it? Can the insurance company find out my real grades? i doubt they actually look. So can someone fill me in?""

Oregon car insurance?

Can I give my daughter my car registered in my name and she get car insurance for it?

Is Car Insurance paid Monthly or Yearly?

I was reading an article about the Toyota Prius and it said insurance is about $1400. Is that $1400 a month or a year?

How much is insurance on a 250-500cc bike?

Im probably going to purchase a ninja 250, but whats the average insurance price? or in California?""

What could happen to me if i didnt tell insurance company?

that i was done for drink drive 3 yrs ago... wana apply for my licence back have checked insurance and said i have a drink drive conviction will cost 1,790....when i dont say then it costs me 400 quid... what do i do and what can happen and how wld they find out and who can find out..... thanx all in advance x""

Health Insurance - What's your stance?

Should everyone be required to have health insurance? If you want to keep it hypothetical, assume health care is inexpensive and available. If NO, who will pay for the care of the ...show more""

Cheapest Auto Insurance In NJ?

What's the cheapest auto insurance company in NJ for someone who is a first time driver and doesn't have anyone elses insurance to go off of? I keep getting different quotes, rangeing between 200-400$ a month, which is a little bit insane. Are these quotes just accounting for things that I don't really need?""

""When getting an auto insurance quote, can you lie?""

if you lie to get discounts, can they find out and do anything? i'm about to buy new insurance, and they ask if you had any violations in the past 6 months, and i do, but if i skip that part, can i get in trouble? also do they do a background check if you say your a good student when you don't go to school at all?""

Young Drivers Car Insurance!!!?

I've been shopping around for car insurance and for a car on my own I cant get it below 4,000 so to get this lower I was going to add my dad as the main driver and put me as an additional driver which got it down to 1,600, that was the plan until my mum told me it was illegal and called 'fronting' so that's out the window but then I was told when I buy my car to get my dad to buy it in his name, and then do the whole main driver and additional driver thing and it should be okay, is this true? If not can someone please give me some advice on how to get cheap car insurance, I'm going to be 18, it will be my first car and anything below a 1.4 engine size. Thanks""

OK here's a good one. I have a 2002 Dodge 4 door Neon. I need insurance fast. But I need it cheap.?

As cheap as I can get it. I need it for work. I have not had it covered before. Also I live in Illinois. Im seperated and the only one driving it. And I need it fast and cheap. Any ideas on where I can go? Please I need only serious answers, please! Ty""

I'm pregnant and have no insurance. What are my options?

I recently found out I am pregnant. I am 21 and a full time student in college. My boyfriend is willing to help as much as he can, but I feel like it still won't be enough. I want to know where do I find out how to get Medicaid. And what other options do I have? How do I get temporary insurance while I find out if I am eligible to receive Medicaid? Are their any special programs in Maryland that can help me? I am so confused if I should try asking the Department of Social Services or the Department of Human Health Services. Please help!""

I need to buy a car cheap on gas/insurance. i have 2 boys and they need car seats..?

The car seats can be the smaller skinnier type. I am debating with a nissan sentra and maybe a mitsubishi lancer. I need something basic with a great warranty and still a little room. What do you think? Anyone own a lancer or sentra with pointers on if its a good car for a couple carseats?

Do I need insurance on a 50cc scooter?

I'm getting one because I don't want to get a different license and it's convenient. I'll get tags on it, that's easy. Do I also need to get insurance for it to be street legal?

""I am starting a Cleaning service, I need to be insured can some one help me find good affordable business ins?

I need to find a insurance company that will have some affordable business insurance it will only be my self and 1 other person please help!!!

About how much will auto insurance cost me?

For an 18 year old male, about how much will car insurance be for a pre owned certified toyota corolla?""

Need a ballpark insurance estimate?

hello all, i dont actually HAVE this car, but i plan on having it soon here (within the next 6 months) and was just wondering if someone could give me their best ballpark estimate 18 year old male Lives with parents still No Traffic Violations ; 1 small fender bender about 3 months after i got my license (if that matters) 2002 Ford Explorer XLS 4x4 I have taken Drivers Ed Single (well, not married anyway) please and thanks""

What is an average price for mobile home insurance in california ...los angeles?

12 ft. by 50 ft. 0r 20 ft. by 48 ft. and the year matters too if 1970s...1980s...1990s... ? and my age is 50

If i cancel my car insurance will the rate later go up?

If I cancel my current monthly car insurance plan for my car, will getting a new play later down the line increase its premiums? i am wondering a few months down the line, or other time frames. i will not drive my car after this cancellation. currently my annual insurance is around $5,600.00 I am 24, male, live in toronto.""

Insurance cost for jeep patriot?

I am currently thinking of buying a 2008 jeep patriot. I am worried if the unsurance cost for it would be high?

Is a salvage title more expensive to insure?

I live in Oregon by the way. I am looking at buying a used car with a salvage title.

How much would it cost to replace a bumper on a Honda Ridgeline?

I ran into a wood carport the other day in my Dad's truck, and totally ruined his bumper. We have car insurance, but even with that how much do you think it would cost? Would insurance go up, and by how much do you assume? Also, the tail light is broken, how much should that cost? I'm just trying to see how much money I should start earning to pay him back. Thanks!""

Auto Insurance Company?

How long dose it take for your insurance company to paid lost wages. Do they paid lost wages once a month or every two weeks,also in the state of michigan how much can you receive for lost wages.""

Young driver trying to get insurance. Need help.?

I have been looking for a reasonable quote for at least a month now and cannot get anything better then 4000. I am 17 and passed my test in august. The reason insurance is so high for me is because of where I live. I know this because insurance company's have said that they cannot insure me because of where I live and if I change my address when trying to get a quote if I use my Nan's address instead of mine it goes from 400- to 1600. Is it illegal to have my insurance under my Nan's house? Is there anything I can do please help.

What lowers insurance for a car?

I am a 21 yr old male, and I know that I fall under the category of drivers who are not married, male, below 25 so insurance will be more expensive on me. What I want to know is what features make a car insurance less expensive? I know one big one is that it is a sedan and not a coupe. What else? (What are the big insurance savers?)""

Is car insurance cheaper for used cars than new?

I hear a lot that when getting you're first car that you're supposed to buy a used car and not a new car because auto-insurance is going to be cheaper. Is there any truth behind this?

Is there a life insurance that can be purchased for a 90 year old lady?

Is there a life insurance that can be purchased for a 90 year old lady?

Does a years moped insurance give you a years no claims bonus for a car the next year?

Just wondering. i'm 16 and i'm after getting a ped, but i don't think my dad will let me. If the years insurance on a moped carries over for a car next year when i can drive (which will make my car insurance cheaper) then i think i can persuade him. Anyone know if it does? any answers will be much appreciated :)""

""Crashed fathers car, i have open insurance, car is still insureed in guys name bought car from?""

hi bought car, put it in my fathers name, before got chance to insure it, some lady totally at fault(for the accident) crashed into me. father has no insurance on car but he is the registered owner. the guy i bought the car off never cancelled his insurance on the car but was not the registered owner when i crashed. i have another policy on another car that says i have open insurance so long as the car is insured. well the car is insured but is the insurance void since seller is no longer the registered owner of the car. am i insured. thx for your time""

Do I need to buy car insurance if I am a tourist borrowing my friend's car which is insured?

I'm a tourist in the U.S, and I want to use my friend's car occasionally, her car is insured but my name is not on her insurance policy, do I need to be on it to be covered?, Also, in case an officer asks me to pull over, do I need to be on the car insurance or just show him the car is insured?""

How can I get health insurance for my foreign-born mother-in-law?

We live in California, she's from Japan and is 74 years old.""

Does anyone have any personal experience with Transamerica Life Insurance? Positive or Negative?

Life Insurance Companies

What is the average cost of insurance for new drivers in Massachusetts?

During late November, I will be receiving my license and will have the responsibility of paying for my own car as well as insurance. At that time, I will be roughly 16 and a half years old. I am looking to purchase a late 1990's Honda car but can not narrow it down further as I do not know specifically what car I will have. I heard during my drivers education class that grades effect your cost of insurance. I am a straight A students that takes challenging classes as well as having a part time job. I live in a city environment in Massachusetts with a population of less than 50,000 residents if that matters. What do you think will be roughly the cost of insurance for my situation?""

How much does Mexico Insurance cost for SUV 1 Day Trip?

We are going for a day trip to Juarez, Mexico to do some shopping and that is it. Could risk not having the insurance and may do that. If I decide to purchase insurance how much approximately should it cost for an SUV one day trip? How much approximately for a 4-door one day trip? If you are marketing something don't respond I don't want your unbiased sales pitch. Are any of the online companies reputable? if so, who?""

Canceled Car Insurance?

So, I found out today, that State Farm canceled my car insurance. My coverage was good through Feb. 1st. My billing date is also Feb. 1st, but they usually charge me a day or two late. They charged me today for my renter's insurance, which is how I found out that I have no car insurance. State Farm never informed me that they were canceling my policy. They said I have had too many incidents. I have had 2 accidents and 1 ticket in the past 2 years. One accident was my fault and the other was not. The ticket was because of the accident. My question is: What can I do to get insurance with another company when I have not had insurance for the past 4 days (even though I didn't know it) and is it going to be a lot more expensive because I do not have a current policy?""

""Will defensive driving reduce your insurance rates? If so, by how much?

I pay 190.00 a month to farmer's group for car insurance. How much less will it be if I take defensive driving?

Motorcycle insurance for a 16 year old?

I was wondering what an average motorcycle insurance rate is for a 16 year old male in VA, good grades, no tickets, i plan on taking the MSF course, no accidents, would drive a substantial amount, play sports (i don't know what really factors into insurance costs, so i just listed some stuff i figured or have heard affects motorcycle insurance)""

Car insurance question?

if my tires got slashed and i called my insurance company, will they put a point on my record?""

Car Insurance Question..?

I don't have car insurance, but I have a driver's license. I am 16 years old living in Arkansas and I don't drive much. My parents have insurance and when they added me to the policy (of 2 cars), it went from $150 a month to $350, which we can't afford. We cancelled that insurance (with geico) and now have esurance, where my parents pay $135 monthly (with the same coverage), without me added. Should I be added on the policy, even though I don't drive much? If I'm driving and get in an accident, can I say that I was just burrowing my dad's car? Will I be covered under him then? (since i don't have my own car) I am confused. How does this work? thanks""

Do I need insurance on a 50cc scooter?

I'm getting one because I don't want to get a different license and it's convenient. I'll get tags on it, that's easy. Do I also need to get insurance for it to be street legal?

Would it cost alot to add a second weekend car onto my Insurance?

I am thinking of getting a older blazer from the later 70's to take out on the weekends to go rompin' and 4x4ing, would it cost alot to add it onto my insurance? Would there be a discount since it is not my daily driver car?""

Is there any way my parents can get my license suspended? and for new drivers how much is the insurance?

my dad is saying he doesnt want me to drive cuz im gonna visit my boyfriend. nd i jst wanna know if he cld suspend my license? my dad doesnt want to pay for my insurance nd i have to pay for it. nd was wondering how much its gonna cost me.

What is a good place to get affordable health insurence if your employer dosn't offer any?

What is a good place to get affordable health insurence if your employer dosn't offer any?

How can i find a good health insurance company?

I have health insurance right now and i just got a HUGE bill in the mail for what the health insurance did not cover. HELP are all insurance companies out to screw you!? I am sooo frustrated! I am a young person barely making ends meet

What car is very cheap to insure? Im 17 and really want a car!?

I was thinking about the peugeot 106 before ad the saxo but apparentley its too expensive, i just want to know a car that i can get quite cheap insurance for, bearing in mind im 17!""

Renters insurance question

ok, i have renters insurance, and have and had it for about a year from the same company we get our car insurance from. maybe this is a stupid question, but i am asking so please be polite and honest. i am looking into renting (moving) and i was just curious as to if this is something we would want to bring our potetential new landlord (s) and if this will influence his/her decision. also our renters insurance is paid up for another year already.""

My insurance rates went up for buying a prius?

E-surance added 300 dollars to my 6 month term for buying a Prius. They said it is a new car, and that they cant find the safety ratings. Is this just non sense, and is their another insurance company that wont penalize me for buying a safer, fuel efficent car?""

How much dwelling coverage is sufficient for a home owner's insurance.?

My current insurance covers $480,000 for the dwelling (bot house for $1 mil but i'ts probably worth 700K now). It's 1500 sq feet. I got a really affordable quote for $240K coverage, but is that too low? The salesman said anything more is probably over-insured. The home is in a nice area, has upgraded plumbing, electrical, newer roof but the structure itself is extremely old.""

Can i get a no insurance ticket if the car was insured but my name isn't under the insurance?

i got pulled over and i was driving my brothers car so the cop gave me a ticket for no insurance cause he said that my name wasnt under the insurance. If i go to court and show the insurance that i had in the car will they still fine me?

What is the best affordable health insurance for students out there?

I am thinking about changing my provider and was wandering if anybody has any recomendations?

""Do you have to have insurance if you don't have a car, just a license?

my parents have USAA auto insurance and i was wondering if i could get my license and be able to drive their cars with me paying for insurance. if i have to pay insurance whats the rate i would have to pay?

""Will my regular auto insurance go up if I get a motorcycle license, I won't have a bike yet, just the license?""

Will my regular auto insurance go up if I get a motorcycle license, I won't have a bike yet, just the license?""

What insurance company do cheap American car insurance for young drivers?

I'm 19 years old and I'm considering getting a 1985 Ford Mustang 5L V8 in England. The question is who is going to insure me at a reasonable price? I'm not looking at using the car everyday, I probably wont put 4k miles on the clock in a year. Please, can anyone help me?""

SR-22 for DUI in California? Secondary liability insurance?

Has anyone ever heard of Secondary Insurance? How does it work? Is it legal? My attorney recommended a guy for this policy, and it sounds too good to be true. They create a Shell liability policy for my person, unattached to my car, and my auto rates won't increase? Is this a total scam? I need to get a SR-22 to get my lisence back. Any help is appreciated and of course bested""

How much is car insurance on a 2002 mustang convertable?

How much is car insurance on a 2002 mustang convertable?

Does alaska have state insurance like Tenn.Care?

Does Alaska have state insurance?

Any estimations on how much my car insurance will be? Uk.?

Im 17 in november, in gonna start to drive but i was wondering if anyone iceby ideas on how much my car insurance would be based on what i tell you. I live in the uk. I cant go on my parents insurance because they dont drive. In gonna get a 1.4 or 1.6 engine car. An thats all i can tell you, can anyone please have a rough estimation on prices?""

I'm moving to Alaska and I need advice about health insurance.?

I'm moving to Alaska in January and will be needing health insurance. Is there any cheap insurance there or something you can get based on your income? I will be getting a job eventually,but I need something before that and if the job is only part-time. My dad had lived there all his life and I will be moving in with him. Does that make a difference with anything?""

About how much is high point auto insurance a month?

Well, I just recently got my license and I wanted to buy a car, but my mom said that it's a bad idea and one of the reasons is because of how expensive insurance is. My friend told me her insurance- high point- is only 60 dollars a month. I'm not sure if that's true, because that sounds really really cheap. Does anyone have this or know approximately how much this auto insurance would be a month?""

1999 toyota camry insurance cost?

1999 toyota camry insurance cost?

Insurance cost in the UK?

A basic question - what is the average insurance cost for a car which falls into Group 3 category in the UK. And how is it decided which car falls into which category?

""What should I do, i cant find a job but I can nanny. How do nannys get insurance? help?""

I was laid off about a week ago. I graduated from college with 3 degrees that I guess are useless ( Associate in graphic design , B.A in Advertising and minor in Marketing) I have been looking for jobs since i graduated un 2011.I nannied for the first year. Then found one with awful pay and 60 plus hours did that for a year. Found a new job the paid great until they changed my pay in 3 weeks and then laid me off right before my insurance would kick in and said we are just looking for part-time. So here i am again I love nannying but I cant get insurance I applied for mass health ( lets be real, that i wont see for months) I though about severing two but I do want a life. I have a great bf and we will get married and everything but that wont be till like 2 or 3 years. I cant wait that long for insurance. Any ideas?? I be applying for months and nothin. I have had my resume and cover looked at by professionals so i don't know whats wrong.""

Pittsburgh car (auto) insurance?

Where can I get auto insurance in Pittsburgh? What do you recommend? I bought a car recently and I'd like to find a cheap way to insure it.

Is it true that my auto insurance rate will increase even if I repair my car privately?

My new 2009 honda civic's rear bumper got a little bit disfigured and scraped after a stupid little accident. Is there any way the insurance company would find out if I repair it privately (not through the insurance company)? If I bring it to the dealer body shop or a third party body shop, will they report it to the insurance company? I heard they will register the damage with the car's VIN to Carfax and that way the insurance company will know. Is that true?? Please advise. Thanks!""

Against my religion to have health insurance?

I live in the US and it is against my religion to have health insurance. If I will be forced to buy Obamacare, it will disrespect my God and I will never be allowed entry to paradise. I don't want to ruin my mortal life and my afterlife. Am I exempt from buying Obamacare now since it's very intolerant and hateful to force a man of God like myself to purchase this health insurance?""

Do I need insurance on a 50cc scooter?

I'm getting one because I don't want to get a different license and it's convenient. I'll get tags on it, that's easy. Do I also need to get insurance for it to be street legal?

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/state-farm-insurance-cindy-jones"

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24 People Share The Grossest, Most Unsettling Thing They Ever Experienced While Hooking Up

1.Sixty Two Stitches

Girl beneath me, rolls me over onto my back – in the process we roll off the bed and we land on the floor, me on the bottom and her still straddling me. Her leg went straight through a big glass of water. Blood everywhere. She had lacerated her leg straight to the bone in a clean cut: I could see her muscle. Within ten minutes of our initial playing around there were 6 firemen and 3 policemen in the room (she was mental and shouted down the phone that I had a gun so they would come sooner). I was high and drunk and so her roomie took control. Paralysed by shock and weed, I had to hide while they took her in the ambulance as she was THAT crazy that I was expecting her to call rape.

She required 62 stitches, 40 on the muscle covering her shin.

This is the singular most traumatic experience of my life.

2. Bless You

He pulled it out to come on my face, I was unprepared and snorted his semen up my nose. We started making out and I sneezed his semen onto his own face.

Probably grosser for him than for me, but not by much.

3. Love Conquers All

My story probably doesn’t compare to any of these but here goes:

I had recently found a new girlfriend. A cute, blonde girl with lots of curves in all the right places. We had been together for a little while (this was back when I was a Jr. in college and she was a freshman) when we went to this huge party. We both ended up getting totally trashed and wound up back at my place. Needless to say I was waaay to drunk to get any bidnass done that night. The next morning we woke up and started to get it on. For some reason, Im always really randy after a night of heavy drinking. Anyway…midway through the sex, we are doing it doggy style with her on all 4 at the edge of the bed and me standing behind her on the floor. I am hammering away like a rabid jackrabbit when, all of a sudden, i get that sour food, extra saliva feeling in my mouth. I knew what was coming but it was too late. As the puke surged up my esophagus, I clenched my hands over my mouth in a death grip, but to no avail. I spun around and tried to aim for my waste bin….but it was no use. I ended up projectile vomiting in about a ¾ circle. I managed to go from her right side, across that wall, across the wall behind me (and the bookcase that was there), all over the waste bin, and i over spun and went passed the waste bin and got it on my floor and the bed on her left side. Luckily, only some puke flak got on her back….

She’s a great girl though, that was 3 years ago and we are still together…

4.Legit Upsetting

Three words.

Anal sex. Pinworms.

It’s fucking nasty to pull your dick out and see a dozen or so worms writhing around on the condom.

5.Butt Stuff Isn’t For The Timid

So, the boy and I like some backdoor fun from time to time. We talk about it more than we do it because it’s tiresome to get ready and clean up after… usually worth it though ;). One Saturday afternoon, the boy is performing some world class cuminonumbulus when I feel a pressure at my nether orifice. I soon realised he was using some beads on me. We had some filthy and very very satisfying sex, then I went to the bathroom to clean up without removing the beads.

I’m so glad I did that.

I sat on the toilet to get the beads out.

I’m so glad I did that.

Those beads were solidly embedded in a great big turd.

I just stared at it dumbly for a moment before the smell hit me.

6. Definitely Karma At Work

I accidentally shit once while fucking a girl.

I was pretty drunk and had to fart.

I had the runs, and well. You know… I pooped. It was especially runny, it felt weird landing on the back of my thighs. It really sucked, but I kept on at it for a few more minutes.. Then I felt the bubble guts. I was torn. I was drunk, so I was debating if I wanted to just shit and keep going or get up and run away. Some how those were my only two options.

My body had a third option.

I decided to get up and just leave but I didn’t want get my pants all covered in shit.

So I did a quick wipe with the boxers, threw my jeans on.. and pretty much just walked out.

I was really upset at myself for how I handled it.

I started to walk home and I fell down and shit myself.

I think it could have been karma.

7.Busted

We were messing around in the car waiting for the class to start where I had to write my midterm exam. So to relieve some pressure I suggested a quick one. She agreed. We were in the school parking lot and right when I finished and was about to pull the condom (my gf was in the front seat already) our prof parks right next to us. I was terrified to say the least.

He said/gestured if I was coming to class and soI rolled my window down with my hand on my crotch and said yes. He said, “Do you mind helping me with these papers?” with the best poker face ever! I had no other choice but to say yes. So I pulled my pants up and walked with him with the cum filled condom still on my penis.

I was in the class for one hour and 45 mins and had to write the test with the condom on my dick. Every time I moved I died a little inside.

8.Banjo String

I split my ‘banjo string’ if you know what I mean. Blood EVERYWHERE.

9. “Deaf Girl Down”

I went to college at a school with a large deaf population, so there a couple thousand deaf kids running around campus at any given time. First big party night of the fall, and everyone is getting shitfaced. Two of my roommates and I had returned to the apt for a quick smoke session.

So in barges our other roommate with a girl of clearly questionable virtue, and immediately they run upstairs to his bedroom without another word. Our roommate was a lanky ginger with a scruffy red beard and mustache… we used to call him brother Hezekiah.

So about 5-10 minutes go by, and all of a sudden this girl comes bounding down the stairs half dressed at best and runs out the door. Our roommate closely follows jumps down the last stair to the landing, and starts yelling “deaf girl down! deaf girl down!”.

We start laughing hysterically and as I’m about to ask him wtf happened, i notice the blood running down his redbearded chin to his neck and chest. It was truly a vulgar site…at that point I literally fell to the floor laughing.

Long story short, she was deaf and couldn’t seem to communicate to him not to go down on her because she was on her period. She fled the scene in mortified embarrassment.

My roommate, despite our advice to the contrary, splashed some water on his face and went back out to party.

10. Cheesy

Going down on a guy can be like being locked in the trunk of a car with old cheese. WASH YOUR BALLS! And it wouldn’t hurt to trim a lil. The grossest sexual encounter I’ve had was a guy who sweat so profusely it was dripping on me, then he flipped his sweaty ass around into my face to attempt what I can only assume was a 69 position but was more like being force fed a butt sandwich and I could see the sweat glistening on his ass/ball hair, that, and the cheese smell coming from his balls made my eyes water and I threw him off me and ran to the shower. 30 minutes of soap and hot water and I still didn’t feel clean.

11. Drank A Drugged Drink Intended For A Girl

I once got drugged, no shit.

Went to a swingers club with my chick at the time, was hanging out and having a great time. At some point I figure I must have picked up the wrong champagne glass that was meant for this hot ukranian girl next to me.

About an hour later we were going in the taxi back to our apt with another girl my gf had met there at the club when I was violently sick and started to black out, in the front of the cab. Barely made it home, then collapsed for about 15 hours. Aparently my gf and the chick had to pay the taxi guy like 100 bucks and it was a big mess. Of course my 3some was off, thanks asshole.

I totally didn’t think that ‘date rape drug in your drink’ urban legend was true until that night.

12. The Most Horrible Of Horror Stories

So this one time I’m having sex with my girlfriend right, and it was all good and sexy so we finish up and everything seems cool.

Then about 9 months later a fucking little comes out of her pussy! I mean just like pops out and I saw that shit with my own eyes!

The little fucker is still living with us.

13. What A Trooper

A girl I had been dating for awhile climbed on me for 69. As she scooted back, I saw something white, realized too late that it was a clump of toilet paper, and got it in my mouth. Pretty nasty, but I spit it out and kept going.

14. Cats Hate You

Last summer my husband and I were living with roommates who had a cat. We were drinking and started getting hot and heavy, he stripped down and jumped on the bed, said something about it being wet and jumped back up. One of us had left our bedroom door cracked and the cat had gotten stuck in the room, and pooped all over our bed. Worse is that apparently this cat was sick with worms. My poor husband was covered in kitty diarrhea, blood and worms.

15. The Mystery Throat Infection

I went down on my girlfriend when neither of us had realized she had a yeast infection. I knew something was off, but kept going anyway. Two days later I had a sore throat and when I looked at it in the mirror it was all white and nasty. Then, she went to the doctor, got her diagnosis, and when she told me about it I put 2 and 2 together and realized that I had a yeast infection in my throat. Ugh. It went away pretty quickly on its own though.

16. She Needed Help…

Having sex with my wife, and then noticing that something didn’t feel quite right, she still had a tampon in from 4 days prior…and i had to help pull it out….

17. Roommate Walked In And Immediately Regretted It

Freshman year of college, I met this guy and brought him back to my dorm (I’m also a guy). He seemed nice and everything, and he was cute, and we started to fuck around. Eventually he decided he wanted to bottom (i.e. get fucked), and so we started having intercourse…

I started to smell the distinct smell of fecal matter very soon. I thought “whatever, I guess you should expect a little smell when having anal sex.” I continued, and the smell continued to get worse.

Eventually, we finish, and I pull out – only to see a of shit spew out of his ass. It was everywhere. I mean, fucking everywhere. It was explosive diarrhea-type shit, on my bed, on me, on the wall even.

… and then my roomate walked in.

I found out later that the dude had a severe bowel problem of some kind, and really shouldn’t have bottomed. My ex-roomate is still a friend of mine, and I still have to assure him that that’s not what gay sex generally looks like.

18. The Most Polite Lady Ever

I have to steal a friend’s story here, so here’s to you Nate!

So Nate was in South Carolina for the summer, and he went out for a night of drinking. He met an older lady (Nate was 21, she was in her 40’s) and apparently hit it off. They left together, but since Nate was staying with his aunt and uncle, and she was married, they didn’t have a proper place to go have a fuck. They decide to just pull over and have at it right there in some random field.

So, Nate get’s off, they get back in the car, he drops her off, and he goes home to get some rest. He went to the bathroom to piss out some of the beer he drank that night and looked down at his dick. It was GREEN. So, naturally, he freaks out and calls the girl up immediately (apparently they had exchanged numbers).

She answers and he immediately demands to know what the fuck is up with his dick being all green. To which the random older woman replies:

I guess it isn’t that gross, but I thought it was worth noting.

19. This Is A Girl That Fears Nothing

I was going down on this guy that I had just started seeing. He is uncircumcised so I pull the skin down around the tip and see *shudder… cottage cheese. I just could not go on but being the resourceful girl that I am, I stood up, walked over to the sink, ran some warm water on a wash cloth, came back, playfully cleaned him up and went back at it.

20.Seems An Overreation

First year of university. I’m escorted back to my domicile by a young gallant. Once we get in, I’m naked, admiring his rather lovely body and ignoring his rather stilted pillow talk. All was going well… until my period started.

That pretty much killed the mood, and I can understand. But I thought it was a bit disproportionate when he got his phone out and CALLED HIS MUM FOR A RIDE HOME. Especially since he was STILL NAKED AND ERECT. I watched this punk rock dude, naked but for mohawk and piercings, stiffy gently bouncing, politely tell his mother where he was and that yes, he’d submitted his coursework.

That was a bit wrong.

21. Like Drinking From A Latex Cup

In Beijing, I hooked up with this woman I met at a bar. Right after we finished going at it, She asks me, in Chinese, if she can drink my water. I couldn’t understand what she meant. I didn’t have a bottle of water or anything. It turns out the word for ‘water’ actually means ‘liquid’ in general. She point towards the used condom I was still holding, took it from my hand, tipped it up, and drank it down–sucking the condom inside out to get every last drop. I died a little on the inside.

It was the most disgusting thing I’d ever seen. What made it worse was when I tried to share my gross story with a co-worker. Instead of sharing my revulsion, he asked for her phone number.

I’m sure condoms taste nasty. I don’t know why she couldn’t have just told me ahead of time. I would have been perfectly happy to pull out, remove the condom, and finish in her mouth without having to use the condom as a nasty, latex cup.

22. Class Act All The Way

I did hook up with a girl once who’s “pubic area” smelled of death itself, but what can you say about a 22 yr old girl (who’s man is in jail) that you pick up in a Jewish cemetery at 2 am, get head from 5 min later and then try and fuck in a ditch behind her house… We went back to her house, I passed out, and woke up to realise I was sleeping on a dog turd on her bed room floor. I was amazed it was the ONLY turd I slept on. I was classy people at 16.

23. With Friends Like These…

It wasn’t gross for me personally:

My buddy and I met these 2 chicks. Way leads on to way and we’re in the hotel room, all four of us. It’s very “dear penthouse” in there – switching back and forth and such – and then we go for the epic DP. I’m pretty fucked up, but draw backdoor duty. My buddy’s got a girl on his face (straddling his shoulders) and one on his hips. I feel myself getting ready, so I pull out, walk around and… uh… come on my buddy’s face because I thought it would be hilarious.

The fallout – I’m laughing maniacally, and both girls end up laughing. My friend is pissed off, but finishes, but then punches me in the face, several times. I was laughing the whole time, but had a pretty nasty black eye.

The fallout, part the second: a few days later at lunch another friend asked how I got the black eye. My buddy just slammed his lunch tray down on the table and stormed off as I start laughing uncontrollably again.

24. Man Endures The Unendurable…Gets Blamed For It

This is the sad case of Carrie “fisher”. I met this lovely Canadian girl at a dive bar in Sydney and in my drunken suave state managed to procure her phone number. SO I called and 6 days later on the Friday I went over to her flat for dinner. I ended up talking to her gay flatmate most of the time, mostly about planes and didn’t really hit it off with the Canadian named Carrie.

Finally everyone went to bed and Carrie and I were left alone to talk in the kitchen. The kitchen talk led to kitchen kissing and before you know it I had found out that she was not wearing any panties. But through my Holmes like deductive skills I knew that something wasn’t quite right and so I sheepishly asked her: “Do you have something inside?” to which I received an unprovoked: “No, I’ve just got a shallow pussy”. My prudishness set in. And let me say I am one of those conservative looking inwardly extreme people. Suffice it to say I kept on and again was met with “resistance”. I plucked up the courage to say: “No , I really think you have something in there” and with deft and nimble fingers, proceeded to slide out and uncork a hard, 7 day old, mucous encrusted tampon.

“The Silver Slug Incident” as Carrie’s house would later call it as though it was all a big joke and not remotely gross. It flopped to the floor with a “flop” and it was kind of like Alladin’s lamp, except that the genie was the worst smell. Kind of like when you walk pass a plot of land and turn to your friend and say: “wow, smells like something is dead in there”. It was the stench of something so putrid and rotten and it went deep inside me. After seeing smelling it she immediately stated: “Oh, my god I am sooo embarrassed.” I, of course, was embarrassed for her and nervously asked if she wanted a bath. “What do you mean?” Not knowing what to say I said with a question: “with me?” Cut to having a bath Cut from bath to spending the night and actually having sex with her because I was to wimpy to say: “That’s gross and I am outta here!”

Cut to the next week in the dvd store that I worked at. She comes in and rents Spiderman. We talk in that “I’m not acknowledging what happened” way. Her flatmate-a girl comes in and also gets Spiderman and with a tiny dvd store full of customers yells out as she leaves: “Oh and by the way…you gave Carrie a yeast infection!”

from All Of Beer http://allofbeer.com/24-people-share-the-grossest-most-unsettling-thing-they-ever-experienced-while-hooking-up/ from All of Beer https://allofbeercom.tumblr.com/post/169088351967