#smh amatonormativity

[unnecessarilygrandiose]

help i saw a spoiler the couch is NATALIA???

[butchnavi]

for being aroace af im an embarrassingly massive shipper. it's all YEAH I HATE ALLOS FUCK AMATONORMATIVITY until two women interact for 0.2 seconds in whatever media im consuming smh

[knifearo]

the agony of writing my favorite ships and seeing them as completely aromantic/queerplatonic/lovequeer but then ship culture gets ahold of them and suddenly it's ALL about. fucking. valentine's day :( this is why i never post my ship fics smh

anywaysssssss that was an excuse for me to come onto your asks and thank you for existing bc any time i feel slightly unenthusiastic about being aro i just. look through your posts and my day gets better <3 also your poetry is stunning and you're just overall very cool :)

dude cause here's the thing i love reading fanfic... a pairing enjoyer even... but GOD people are fucking weird about when you make characters aspec. anyway i think we should all be writing more aspec characters. together we can redefine relationships one day at a time through the ultrapowerful medium of internet fanfiction /j

(similar but unrelated gripe. godddd nothing has me rolling my eyes harder than bitches putting unearned love confessions in fanfic. amatonormativity does a lot of awful things societally but i think perhaps the worst is having a perfectly good author write a perfectly good fic only to end it with a total mood change of "i love you..." "i love you too..." they would not fucking say that actually!!!! denormalize love confessions there's no fucking reason for those guys to be using the l word like that. let them live)

u r always always welcome to stroll on in to the ask box whenever you please i love to have you here :) took me a while to answer this (<— guy who is terrible at answering asks in a reasonable time span) but! a delight to see and i'm so happy that this is a nice space for you <3 i love love love being aro it's one of the best parts of my life and i am so delighted to have the chance to share that with people. together! we can spread aro joy and delight in the beauty of a world where we are aromantic. you're SO sweet though ab my poetry thank you so much!!!! i am constantly in a state of "i need to write more poetry about aromanticism" and you know what. i need to write more poetry about aromanticism. very very flattered that you think i'm cool <3 sending affection your way, i hope you're enjoying the holiday season if you celebrate anything! xoxoxo

[fellator]

monogamy and amatonormativity will fucking rot some people's brain smh

[ailithnight]

🙄 *smh* Just say you hate single people why don't you. Since clearly ya think they don't need or deserve to have lives outside of their homes.

This person prolly just wanted to treat themself to a nice meal they didn't have to cook themself. An here you are bemoaning the "tragedy" of their mere existence because it doesn't meet your amatonormative expectations.

[eleiyaumei]

Things that keep me sane/from having an emotional breakdown during my EB replay/recording

appearances of Souji, Shinpachi and Shiranui

skipping info dumps and other historical stuff (I'm glad I'm only recording the romance ^^')

imagining Souma and Iba as Sakamaki Kanato and Yagami Light respectively (I did the opposite to get through Kanato's route in Haunted Dark Bridal and that was...interesting. Kaji Yuki really was underutilized in Hakuouki, his potential wasted smh...)

listening to Kazama while not reading the translation nor trying to understand what he's saying

Ono Daisuke's voice

not reading Chizuru's inner monologue when her thoughts and feelings are spiraling downwards (e.g. in Harada's route)

giving myself little tasks, like finding out how characters address each other/Chizuru or counting gendered statements

pretending/HCing that certain characters are queer to escape the cishetero- and amatonormativity of the franchise (Sannan is aroace that's why the romance in his route doesn't work - it's not because of the bad writing, ha...ha... But seriously, let Sannan be aroace, don't force a romance on him, please.)

distracting myself with videos or books

[aroacecatto]

"...sadly he does not end up with someone in the end..." (in reference to a book character)

shut up man, shut up. why the fuck is it a sad thing to not end up with someone in the end. you can be happy and fulfilled and everything people say you get from being with someone, without someone. not being with someone is not a sad thing.

[faggot-friday]

Are you texting your boyfriend?

~the crosswalk guy, because I checked my phone for all of two seconds (and it was Tumblr anyways)

[wormsslime]

#SGLFDKGDKFHSSKH#this is correct#but you know what WOULD solve it#violent kismesitude between faith and spike#look all im saying is that fandom has TRULY disregarded the power of a hate-based competitive romance in recent years#get the amatonormativity out of your ears and let characters have long-term fulfilling sexual rivalries#which are based in simultaneous mutual disdain and respect#the main problem then becomes buffy being the worst hinge known to mankind#which is probably unsolvable bless her heart#theyd start trying to kill each other over feeling unloved by buffy and she'd be like NOOO thats WRONG instead of getting in the cuck chair#wouldnt recognize it as a sexual outlet at all smh

soooooo true bestie ur brain and meat are massive

buffy loves faith and buffy loves spike but she could NOT date them both at the same time. you must understand. these are the 2 neediest most vindictive most self-hating people on the planet. their response to feeling unloved by buffy is to start killing people. i don’t think polysecure is gonna solve this one guys

[trisockatops]

Me: Hey, your wording on [x] is a little iffy and gives [bad implication]. It's important to watch what our wording means in the larger sphere of things, especially when posting publicly for anyone to take in.

Stubborn user: *While misidentifying me even though I've explicitly identified myself in context to their post* I'm not under any obligation to represent [x] group.

Me: When the fuck did I say you were? You can represent yourself while still watching your wording??? Interestingly enough, even words said in ignorance can have a larger impact. You can talk about your situation while recognizing it's not the only situation.

[olderthannetfic]

It's completely reasonable to ask people not to tag your art as ship.

I'm a proshipper and I don't like people tagging my art with wrong or irrelevant tags. Sometimes this applies to people tagging platonic works as ship (as if platonic intimacy doesn't exist, amatonormativity smh). Talk about how shippy the art looked on your private shipping discord all you want, but it's disrespectful to insist TO THE CREATOR that the work is romantic.

You shouldn't tag as ship if the work has "don't tag as ship" on it the same way you shouldn't tag "naruto" on art of some other blonde anime boy who is NOT naruto. It's just rude. Anyone who does tihs deserves to get blocked.

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Well, the question is what tumblr tags are. Public commentary for the OP? Organization for the reblogger's blog?

I stalk my activity page, but people are often surprised when I spot their tag commentary even now.

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is telling my classmates that academics were more important than relationships in highschool when they asked why i didn't have a boyfriend (hetero and amatonormativity two birds with one stone smh) and having the italic 'oh' moment after i graduated and figured out that I was just immune to romantic attraction :D

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[corvidcall]

sMh youre just bringing up amatonormativity in order to distract from your own obvious anti-fat bias. dont think i dont see the way youre bending over backwards to defend the inherent superiority of Some Thin Woman over a fat queen!!!!

A Moment’s Peace? We’ll See About That

[pega-chan]

not to be That Person but i'm really Not A Fan of how y'all are like "Ekko and Jinx's breakup hurts more when you realise he had a crush on her!1!!" like wow way to undermine friendship breakups, also a relationship with a romantic layer to it isn't more valuable than a platonic one. i have no issue with Timebomb as a ship but a romantic connection is not "deeper", friendship breakups can and do hurt just as much as romantic ones. check your internalised amatonormativity smh

[gladiolidiaries]

i’m crying laughing at the ask saying women view george as gay bc that’s so fucking true it doesn’t matter what sexuality he actually has when all the cis straight women who run across him clock him as such in 0.5 seconds. poki’s reactions on banter were so spot on

as an ace person i think it would be funny if dnf continued to exist in this unassailably ambiguous grey zone because like. how many collective hours have people spent debating What’s Going On? i want that number to go up 📈

thinking about george’s ace vibes or lack thereof: i would like to offer up aro or demiromantic as alternative options to consider as well. the way he was deconstructing the societal pressure around kids feels more of a romantically associated than sexuality thing to me. idk it feels familiar

i think dnf right now is either a romantic friendship or textbook queerplatonic. they live together, do taxes together, and put their lives on hold for each other. would they ever think to put their dynamic in those terms? unless wilbur confided in george about his aromantic feelings, fuck no lmao. i guess i never doom about whether dnf is “real” or not bc what i see is fascinating enough for me. why’s it got to be romantic to be real anyways? does it even matter? challenge your amatonormativity smh /s

Actually such a based anon, interesting perspective. I agree that dooming can be silly when what they have is already so interesting but we just haven't seen a lot of it lately so I get why people end up dooming.

[flyingbooks42]

tired of hearing about uwu smol bean aroaces. what about aroaces that kill.