#sexuality is fluid

[hwang-inhos-fish]

This crazy motherfucker hacked the 3% of my brain that's barely bisexual. He is HOT

[poetessmuse]

The song “We’ll Never Have Sex” shouldn’t be making me feel as sick to my stomach as it does.

Something about being loved so deeply, so purely that sex simply doesn’t matter. It’s good if it happens, it’s good if it doesn’t. Being comfortable enough to express your feelings and say “No” without the anxiety rotting your brain away that your partner will “find better” or simply leave, is something I will forever crave.

Sexuality and libido are so complex and so confusing. I’m either completely repulsed or completely into it and I crave someone who understands. I crave romantic gestures that are given to me with no… hidden motive or meaning?

Being kissed just because they want to kiss me. Being held just because they want to hold me. Taking a bath together to take a bath together and be skin to skin close, connecting with one another after a tiring weak and just being loved and loving.

“Depollute me, pretty baby”

Depollute me.

[carnalsaturn]

[cyanide-sippy-cup]

Oh for crying out-

Yall I'm so for real right now, if I have to see one more person say something like "a Lesbian can't date a Trans man, it's disrespectful to both identities!" I will lose my goddamn mind.

The problem here is that you are conflating "Lesbian" with "only likes girls" and Trans man with "guy who previously identified as a woman". And these are both true, however there is one very important aspect you forgot while piecing these together.

Sexuality and gender identity are both fluid.

You saw the labels and logically thought "well Lesbians like girls, therefore being interested in a Trans man would be invalidating to his gender identity". But you forgot that key factor. We don't choose who we are attracted to. It's what we've been saying this whole time while the hets tell us to choose straightness.

Nobody ever falls into labels perfectly. If they did, history would be much simpler. But nobody gets to choose the way they feel. This is how these labels were formed to begin with. You think there was always a word for Nonbinary? Nope. But people explored, they learned about themselves and realized they didn't fit the bubbles that were already made.

Hell, I've had a Lesbian friend confess she had feelings for me even while I was a guy. To look her in the eyes and tell her that she's not a Lesbian anymore, that she needs to find a new label because this one isn't for her? That is what's disrespectful to her identity, not her own feelings.

I'm not saying these words don't have meaning, they do. And the distinguishment between them is very important. But like all things, they are still fluid. There is a difference between man and woman but that doesn't stop yours truly from being here.

If the fluidity of these things did not exist, many of the labels you like to force people in would not either. And once we begin adding ridged borders to what dictates who people can be, we become the same as the people who would have us dead.

[catttexsits]

i may not know my sexuality but if I end up marrying a man, I just want him to be like father mulchay

[nichyevosobachka]

Need to touch up my hair, but felt good about myself in this shirt 👕 😆

[ghostslimu]

as much as i like the whole sentiment that being ace doesn't mean there's something wrong with you or you're traumatized, it's important to remember that there are people who identify as asexual due to being disordered or traumatized, who might also suffer from hypersexuality, and that doesn't make them any less asexual <3

[dyrewrites]

"I still don't know which I like..." my son said with this world-weary sigh.

Middle school is when a lot of kids start making these discoveries and it seems all of his friends have figured themselves out. To a point. While he's meandering in the 'everyone is pretty but I don't know if I care beyond that' stage.

So I told him, as I do whenever he says this, "that's fine, you don't need to know yet."

"I don't?"

I think he forgets every time, probably because it's a topic that so many put all this importance on. Like you're going to die if you don't have sex or something. Which is ludicrous. But we go over it a lot and I try to be patient, because no one was with me.

"You don't need to like either one," I told him, as I have before.

And he acted shocked, as he has before, "What, I can choose none?"

"Yeah, there's even a name for it."

"What. What is it."

"Asexual, meaning no sexual attraction to anyone."

"I didn't know that was an option."

"Well, it is. You have many options and whatever you decide is comfortable, your dad and I will love you anyway. Remember that, if nothing else."

"Okay, yeah. I still...I don't know what I like. But it's nice to know."

He was mumbling after, and hurrying because he chose to start this conversation at drop-off for school this morning.

Great timing, little man. Great timing.

[farmerlesbian]

Do you believe that sexuality can be fluid? I personally don’t belive in it, and yet am finding myself struggling with new feelings. I have gone from a homosexual trans man to a detransitioned bisexual woman, to now feeling disgust from men and only sexual attraction towards women. My life experiences seem to be disproving my theory and I’m confused.

some peoples identity changes over their lifetime, others don’t. sometimes it’s a matter of self-discovery, like figuring out who you are and finding the words for it. other times it’s your orientation is really changing over the years. it’s also worth noting that for a lot of cultures, orientation/sexuality and gender are connected and tied to one another. so when you’re discovering one, the other is being effected.

i think for me it’s not worth putting stake in one theory/model of sexuality or the other (fluid or not) since i see people having both experiences. i also understand that for a lot of people especially lesbians, the phrase “sexuality is fluid” gets used as kind of a denial of our identity. like people saying “ohhh well maybe it’ll change someday 👀 what if you find the Right Man someday??” so i absolutely get being bristly at the phrase and feeling defensive. i think it’s totally fair.

i think what i’m trying to say is don’t feel bad if your experience is lookin like your sexuality is changing over your life. you don’t need to try to fit yourself and your experience and your identity into your politics or a mold or anything. it sure sounds like your sexuality has gone through some changes, some fluidity and that’s ok. you don’t like owe the world a political theory that matches up with your own identity and experience. that’s so much pressure!! to put on yourself! some people’s sexuality is fluid, some people’s isn’t. i wouldn’t worry about it beyond that! it’s ok if your understanding of yourself changes over the course of your life 💖

[blurred-honey]

My sexuality is men in makeup and everybody else

[once-in-a-blue-moon-type-deal]

Do you ever have something that is extremely obvious to everyone but you?

I know that's a lot of people who experience that, but the people on here who know me in person will probably slap me in the face for this(I think one of them bullied me a few months ago about me liking women(in a friendly way))

But I am a lesbian I guess, the woman were just too pretty

[kentucky-daisey]

I'm very much not attracted to men, but Luke Evans can get it.

[machinedreamer]

Transphobia got me absolutely heated tonight once again so here’s a reminder in case you didn’t already know, if you believe in traditional gender roles and think there’s only two genders and believe trans people and anyone outside the “norm” should conform or die and whatever else bullshit like that, get the fuck off my page 🖕🏽

[yourfourthgradepetrock]

this is awesome!!

[hislittleraincloud]

I’m highly doubtful Jenna would let 70 year old Kevin Costner hit on her and “wear her down” to have her sit next to him. And I’m HIGHLY doubtful Jenna is the type of person to get with older men to get ahead in her career.

She was sitting next to Enrique, her stylist, for the majority of the show.

Skits have to be rehearsed before hand, so she most likely knew before hand.

People who write these blinds are fucking losers.

Eh, alright.

I wonder if she's fucked Enrique.

And don't give me the "HE'S GAY!" shit, either. Gay men can sleep a particular woman too and still consider themselves gay. It happens all the time. Just me wondering. She's much more than likely fag hagging for the common/average reason that beautiful women do.

As for sleeping with old men to get ahead, where did I say that? Did I say that? I didn't think I did, because I don't think THAT poorly of her skills.

Sleeping with old men for FUN is a different story. Honestly, I need to know who started the Depp rumor. They're an asshole LOL

[localdiscountgoth]

*sigh*

has sexuality crisis

AGAIN