#sex ration in india 2021

[journalistcafe]

देश में पहली बार महिलाओं की आबादी बढ़ी, प्रजनन दर में भी दर्ज की गई गिरावट

देश में पहली बार महिलाओं की आबादी बढ़ी, प्रजनन दर में भी दर्ज की गई गिरावट

आजादी के बाद ये भी पहली बार है जब महिलाओं की आबादी पुरुषों की अपेक्षा  1 हजार से ऊपर पहुंची है। यही नहीं, देश में प्रजनन दर में भी कमी आई है। है। नेशनल फैमिली एंड हेल्थ सर्वे (National Family and Health Survey) के अनुसार, अब हर 1,000 पुरुषों पर 1,020 महिलाएं हैं। इससे पहले 2015-16 में हुए NFHS-4 में ये आंकड़ा हर 1,000 पुरुषों पर 991 महिलाओं का था। गांव में बढ़ा सेक्स रेशियो: नेशनल फैमिली एंड…

[stories-me]

Potential Character for Mrs. Kelsey and Tumblr 11/18/2021: 

 Rajesh “Raj” Koothrapalli, Astrophysicist of the Big Bang Theory: 

 Appearance: (See above). 

From: Big Bang Theory. 

Personality: 

Originally from India, Raj is slightly clueless about American culture and idioms, and dislikes Indian food and his home country. 

He portrayed himself as a person who rose from poverty because it makes him appear heroic. Rajesh also tends to heavily rely on his family’s wealth for his own lifestyle, often wielding the family fortunes extravagantly. He enjoys his privileged lifestyle to such an extent that, when he wanted something off his father he offered to cut off the cleaning lady so that he could provide for himself, then muttering to Cinnamon that they were both going to be living like animals. Much like Howard would only consider that either his mother or Bernadette would do housework, or any work around his living space, Raj essentially never pays to survive – his parents pay his insurances and rent and he pays someone to buy food and even walk his dog. This leads to the speculation that, even though Raj is an adult, he acts like a spoiled child. 

In addition, Raj could be extremely pompous when it suited him: His protectiveness of his sister, or his view of her in general, is laughable in some respects – when he tells Howard to stay away from Priya and stated that she was way hotter than Howard’s girlfriend, the exact second after Howard agreed with him Raj snapped, “Dude, that’s my sister you’re talking about!”; later on, when he learns of Howard’s pact with Leonard that prohibits them from interest in Priya, Raj is sated when Howard says that they “pinky-swore” on the pact, but later on he explosively stated that defiling Priya superseded a pinky-swear. 

He used to have a psychological condition called selective mutism, a recognized social anxiety disorder which rendered him unable to talk to women (with some exceptions), although he quickly learned that he was able to temporarily overcome this problem by consuming either alcohol-containing foods and medicine or experimental anti-anxiety medication. Unfortunately, the alcohol altered his personality and the medications tended to have side effects, such as involuntary face and hand motions, loss of rationality, or jovially stripping naked in public without cognizance of its inappropriate nature. Raj was also able to speak in the presence of women if they were part of a crowd, if he was unaware of their presence, or if he believed that he has been drinking alcohol. Raj noted, however, that this obstacle was an improvement over his previous affliction, in which the presence of women would cause him to lose bladder control, a condition mostly remedied by the meditation methods of ancient Indian gurus. (He does still have a “nervous bladder” in the sense that he gets an urge to relieve himself when under stress.) When Lucy broke up with him In the season six finale, “The Bon Voyage Reaction,” he discovered while talking to Penny that he was… well, talking to Penny, even though he had not consumed any alcohol since the previous night, which made him realize that breaking things off with Lucy seemed to allowed him to finally overcome his selective mutism. As of season 7, he no longer requires alcohol in order to speak in front of females though it did temporarily return when he first tried to have sex with his arranged bride Anu. 

One of Raj’s primary personality quirks beside his selective mutism is his tendency to speak or act inappropriately in most situations. 

He complains that he is lonely, which leads to Raj hating himself and needing to be reassured of his value. While usually sweet, Rajesh Koothrappali sometimes smiles at his friends’ misfortunes, especially if he stands to selfishly benefit from said misfortunes. Whenever Raj gets an idea or wants to say something slightly controversial in a conversation, he whispers it in Howard or someone else's ear whenever a woman is around. Howard does refuse to say it out loud because he finds it stupid, offensive, or inappropriate, but he ends up saying it anyway through scoffing at Raj. He also has arguments with Howard often, being akin to those of a married couple. He is noted for using “gangsta” slang, such as “fo’ shizzle” and repeatedly using the word “dude”. 

He enjoys reading DC Comics, as do his friends, but he dislikes Aquaman. Raj often obsesses over almost-insignificant details in fiction, such as how toilets work in Atlantis, the possible symbolism of ponytails in Avatar, whether Wolverine’s prostate is made of adamantium, what zombies would eat if humanity was exterminated, how vampires would shave themselves since they can’t see their reflections, etc. He has experienced gaming addiction and, like Sheldon and Howard, he idolizes Stephen Hawking. Unlike the other guys, Raj has shown great interest in some non-geeky things likes John Grisham novels and Archie comics, the latter being shared with Zack. Raj also has an interest in a number of books, movies and TV shows which are generally targeted towards the female demographic, such as Twilight, The Good Wife, Grey’s Anatomy, Sex and the City, Eat, Pray, Love and Bridget Jones’s Diary. He follows his parents’ wishes and relays on them for money as seen in the episode with his drone. He parents heavily follow their religion which Raj also follows however breaks it whenever he is drunk. Eventually he stopped taking his parents’ money and moved into an apartment over his friend Bert’s garage. 

How he is like me: 

We both are more or less strangers in strange lands. Also, we both do things without thinking, at times (mostly, I get angry or frustrated for various reasons). 

[its-ashleyreads]

Finished: 16/01/2021

When He Was Wicked by Julia Quinn

“[He] took one look at Francesca Bridgerton and fell so fast and so hard into love it was a wonder he managed to remain standing.”

Rating:  ★★★★☆

Summary:

Michael Stirling, London’s most notorious rake, has finally fallen in love. The trouble is, the object of his desire, Francesca Bridgerton, is married to the Earl of Kilmartin, John Stirling, Michael’s cousin and closest friend. But when John suddenly dies without an heir Michael finds himself being thrust into John’s exceptionally large shoes. Francesca needs him now more than ever, but Michael doesn’t want to eclipse John’s life with his own and vows to, from then on, always keep a distance between himself and Francesca. If only it were that simple…

Review:

If Romancing Mister Bridgerton is the standard for heartwarming romance, then When He Was Wicked must be the standard for steamy romance. The last third of the novel was pretty much just sex – and I’m not mad about it. The rest of the story was a beautifully complex coming together of two grieving hearts, and after knowing so little about Francesca from the other novels, When He Was Wicked shed some much needed light on the most overlooked Bridgerton.

The way Julia Quinn wrote the grief of both Michael and Francesca broke my heart. Before John’s death they were all so young and carefree. Michael only worried about his feelings for Francesca, but at that point they were manageable. After John’s death, those same feelings were unbearable and he’d aged, what felt like a decade, in only a day. It was clear why he had to get away, from both his home and Francesca. Losing someone as close to him as John had been, someone as good as John had been, was a loss of innocence and it changed everything for him. And with Michael, who had been bottling feelings inside since the jump, Quinn wrote his grief as logical, matter of fact. Michael felt his grief deeply, but he was processing it by ignoring emotion, which is why Francesca was such a trigger for him. She was feeling everything that he couldn’t allow himself to, but once he returned from India and saw her again, the emotional aspect of his grief demanded attention, and after four years he finally processed it. Once he’d finished processing and realised that his life was meant for him, not for the memory of John, he became a much lighter character, but he also became impatient with Francesca who was still stuck in the middle of her heartache, when he himself had only just worked through his own.

Francesca’s grief was a lot more traditional in the way we see grief. She wailed, she wanted her closest friends and family surrounding her, she demanded the answers to impossible questions, but Francesca’s grief was also the perfect antithesis to Michael’s. While he was rational, she was irrational. He wanted to see no one; she wanted the comfort of her loved ones. He was able to find ways of working through his grief; she set up camp and lived in hers. And this is in no way me trying to disparage the way she dealt with her grief, I have done the very same thing, which may be why I sound more critical. But she grew comfortable in the knowledge that she would never be as happy as she was with John ever again. She went on her walks and ran the estates and spent time with her family, but all the while she was resigning herself to the fact that her happiest days were behind her. Sure, she still wanted things, she wasn’t unhappy, but she was holding herself back. So, when Michael showed up, essentially demanding that she get over it, she was paralyzed. Because she wanted Michael, and she wanted to move on, but grief was comfortable, it was safe. Not to mention the fact that he was Michael. Michael who was so closely tied to her life before John’s death, when she was still young and carefree, and it felt like a betrayal to live that life without John. So, she pushed all feelings she might have had for Michael aside, until he was sick, and she couldn’t anymore, which is when she broke free of the grief that was holding her down and was finally able to live her life as her own and not as a dedication to a man who was no longer there.

The emotional complexity of both Francesca and Michael, their love of John, and their love of each other, made for the steamiest sex scenes in the Bridgerton novels thus far. They were desperate for each other in a way that went beyond passion and devotion, it was instinctual. It was like they needed each other to breathe. The fact that Michael was always so insistent to get a clear ‘yes’ from Francesca before anything happened between them, because he wanted to make sure that she couldn’t brush it off later, because he wanted her to know that she wanted him as much as he wanted her, made their wicked dalliances vulnerable and sweet. The power that Francesca held over him during their forays, made what could have been just another sex scene, enthralling. When the two of them were together intimately, it was impossible to stop reading, not just because of the sex, but because of the love and the need that was between them from the very first.

I had so few issues with When He Was Wicked that I barely even remember them and they’re definitely not worth the time of me adding them to this review. Francesca Bridgerton surprised me, and I found myself liking both her and her story more than #2 himself, Benny Bridgerton. Her second epilogue in particular, was fantastic. But even so, Colin and Anthony remain untouchable at the top of my list.

[theomniscientway]

POLICY - Protection of Child Marriage(Amendment) Bill 2021

Prohibition of Child Marriage (Amendment) Bill 2021 was introduced in Lok Sabha by Smriti Irani, Union Minister for Women and Child Development and proposes amendments to the 2006 law with the recommendation of Jaya Jaitly Committee which seeks to raise the age of marriage of women from 18 to 21 years, making it equal for both men and women. This bill amends the definition of child to “a male or female who has not completed twenty-one years of age” and over-rides personal laws of Hindus, Muslims, Christians, Parsis and the Special Marriage Act, 1954. It also increases window for filing a petition to declare a child marriage void for both men and women to five years after attaining the age of 18.

The objectives of this bill is to encourage women to become self-reliant before marriage by aiding them to continue education. As data from longitudinal study reveals that only 10.3% of the girls who got married before 21 years of age went for higher education in comparison to 62.5% who got married after it. By bringing them at par with men in terms of marriageable age this bill provides equal rights to men and women and ensure gender neutrality. It also tries to improve nutrition levels and ensure mental, physical wellbeing of women. There are chances of decrease in the teenage pregnancies, maternal mortality rate, infant mortality rate and improvement in sex ratio at birth through this bill. According to the NFHS 2016 mortality rate was 59.2% among those who gave birth under the age of 20 years. A study by Ann Blanc shows that women after the age of 18 are proven to be comparatively healthier and more nourished, which naturally decreases the maternal mortality rate and shows positive side of the bill.

Objections this bill faces includes that late marriage does not ensure more women pursuing higher education or getting jobs. It also questions the rationality of an 18-year-old adult to make decision as a citizen to vote or give consent when they are not sensible enough to make their personal decisions regarding marriage. The real motive of the bill is not population control but to reduce maternal mortality rate. But a blanket ban over child marriages by further increasing the age of females from 18 to 21 won’t ensure a decrease in it. Government need to introduce initiatives to tackle with the social, economic, cultural factors and create awareness in the backward regions. Social beliefs in India which considers girl child as a burden leading to an attitude of people to marry their girls off as soon as possible needs to be resolved. This belief is based on the notions that younger girls can get married with lesser dowry than older woman and to protect their chastity from unwanted male attention or any form of sexual violence. Hence by just increasing the age won’t solve the problems or change the conventional beliefs. It also faces objections like when the existing law is still not able to eradicate the practice, how can a new bill be effective. To understand this, we need to go through loopholes of previous law which includes -–

· Burden on the child to challenge the validity of their marriage- Only the child bride/groom can challenge the validity of the marriage and annul it in their personal capacity. If the petitioner is minor, he/she need an adult best friend or guardian to file the petition which seems ideal but not in practice and highly unlikely.

· Officers are not punished for dereliction of duty- PCMA does not punish the child marriage prohibition officer (CMPO) for this resulting in lack of accountability and causing problems for children to access justice. Even if the child manages to approach them, CMPO require parents to sign a statement promising them to not force the marriage but later they sent the child back to their family which continues to force them to marry.

· Registration has not been made compulsory- Under the PCMA a lot of unreported child marriages exist. Compulsory registration of marriages in each state would be a step in the right direction as shown in the law commission’s report in 2017 and by the Supreme court in Smt. Seema Vs Ashwani Kumar case. The Independent Thought vs Union of India case of 2017 laid down that sexual intercourse by a man with his wife who is less than 18 years of age amounts to rape under the Indian Penal Code, 1860. This judgement is the first step in long journey as it discourages child marriages and allow FIRs to get registered against many men within child marriage.

· Inconsistencies with personal laws- It also hinder the implementation of the PCMA, since certain communities still allow child marriage and PCMA tries to prevent it leading to conflicts and several legal complications.

We also need to understand the context, culture and population dynamics of our country for better understanding of the issue. Unlike other developed countries India’s sex ratio is problematic and the influence family, culture and society carries on an individual’s reasoning cannot be neglected. So this bill act as a positive step in the right direction. However, there is need of some external measures to improve its implementation which includes rectifying the loopholes, increasing the representation of women in the panel to make decisions for themselves, reforms to ensure better implementation at local level considering the present COVID situation. It could be providing awareness in rural areas, eradicating poverty, ensuring compulsory higher education for women and providing financial assistance or making them self-reliant so they can act on their own. The bill is a good step but only by rectifying the loopholes and ensuring reforms we can ensure better implementation.