#safe women spaces

[jharu-thalren]

Me:

can you list me arguments, for the validity of this conserns for Trans activism?

Chatgpt:

Here’s a list of arguments that support the validity of concerns some biological women have regarding certain aspects of trans activism. These arguments aim to articulate why these concerns might be viewed as legitimate by those raising them:

### **1. Access to Women-Only Spaces**

- **Privacy and Safety:** Women’s shelters, bathrooms, and locker rooms were established to protect biological women from male violence and provide spaces free from male presence. Allowing access based solely on gender identity may increase risks, especially if policies are exploited by bad actors.

- **Trauma Considerations:** Women who are survivors of sexual violence may feel unsafe or retraumatized by sharing intimate spaces with anyone they perceive as male-bodied, regardless of that person's gender identity.

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### **2. Fairness in Sports**

- **Biological Advantages:** Scientific studies suggest that trans women who have gone through male puberty retain physical advantages, such as increased muscle mass, lung capacity, and bone density, even after hormone therapy. These advantages can create unfair competition in women’s sports.

- **Loss of Opportunities:** Biological women may lose scholarships, titles, or careers in sports if they compete against trans women with physical advantages.

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### **3. Erosion of Sex-Based Language**

- **Impact on Advocacy:** Redefining terms like "woman" to include trans women may dilute the ability to address sex-specific issues, such as reproductive rights, female genital mutilation, or pay inequity, which affect biological women specifically.

- **Loss of Visibility:** Language changes, such as using “pregnant people” instead of “pregnant women,” might make biological women feel erased in discussions about their unique health and social challenges.

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### **4. Risks of Suppressing Dissent**

- **Chilling Effect on Free Speech:** Women who raise concerns about the impact of trans activism on sex-based rights often face social ostracism, harassment, or job loss, discouraging open discussion.

- **Alienation from Feminism:** Many feminists who prioritize sex-based rights feel excluded or vilified within feminist spaces dominated by gender-identity-focused activism.

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### **5. Safety in Shelters and Prisons**

- **Increased Vulnerability:** Cases have been documented where biological women in shelters or prisons were assaulted by trans women, especially individuals with intact male anatomy.

- **Policy Exploitation:** Open-access policies might be abused by non-trans individuals claiming a gender identity to gain access to these spaces.

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### **6. Concerns About Medicalization**

- **Impact on Young Girls:** Some fear that gender self-identification policies may lead to young girls exploring their identity through medical transition without adequate safeguards or understanding of long-term consequences.

- **Focus on Social Factors:** Critics argue that societal pressures or trauma (e.g., discomfort with puberty or misogyny) influencing girls to identify as trans are not adequately addressed, leading to potentially irreversible medical interventions.

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### **7. Resource Allocation**

- **Stretching Limited Resources:** In some contexts, resources originally designated for biological women, such as shelters or scholarships, are reallocated to include trans women, potentially disadvantaging biological women in need.

- **Healthcare Prioritization:** Critics worry that medical resources (e.g., funding, research) could shift focus from women’s health issues, like breast cancer or maternal mortality, to gender-related treatments.

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### **8. Misalignment with Sex-Based Oppression**

- **Neglect of Biological Realities:** Sex-based oppression, such as violence, reproductive exploitation, or societal restrictions, is rooted in biological differences. Broadening the definition of "woman" might dilute efforts to address these specific issues.

- **Conflict of Interests:** Policies based on gender identity may unintentionally undermine protections built to combat sex-based discrimination.

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### Supporting Examples and Evidence

1. **Documented Cases of Misuse:**

- Reports of individuals abusing gender identity policies to access women-only spaces for harmful purposes.

2. **Sports Disparities:**

- Examples of trans women outperforming cisgender women in sports due to retained physical advantages.

3. **Language Impact:**

- Controversies over terms like “pregnant people” leading to backlash from women who feel excluded from discourse.

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### The Argument for Careful Consideration

These concerns don’t imply opposition to trans rights but highlight areas where competing interests between sex-based rights and gender identity rights arise. Validating these concerns doesn’t negate the struggles of trans individuals but instead calls for nuanced policies and discussions that respect both groups.

[nyxsealia]

Reblog to give a trans person a hug this pride month 🩵🤍🩷

[feministfang]

❣️I love/support "selfish" girls for always choosing themselves and not caring about the rest of the world.

❣️I love/support "rude" girls for putting people in their place who cross their boundaries.

❣️I love/support "narcissistic" girls for being self-obsessed and loving themselves extremely.

❣️I love/support "greedy" rich girls for not letting anyone decide what to do with their hard-earned money and spending it all spoiling themselves.

❣️I love/support "greedy" successful girls for taking up as many spaces as they want unapologetically.

❣️I love/support "crazy" girls for letting out their anger instead of bottling it up inside.

❣️I love/support "rebellious" girls for not putting up with patriarchal bullshit and not doing anything for a man.

❣️I love/support "weird" girls for always being authentic and doing whatever they love to do.

❣️I love/support "self-centred" girls for only making themselves their centre of attention.

If you were ever labelled any of these/or other terms for whatever reasons, i hope you know you are doing everything right. You don’t owe your energy and time to anybody. You don’t owe your presence to anybody. Be selfish. Be greedy. Stay obsessed with yourself. And if anyone dares to bark at you for that, put a headphone on and blast your favourite song at the highest volume. (or maybe punch them so hard they won’t be able to speak again)

Stay authentically powerful, they will adjust. 🐬❤️

[ayaahh00]

Social media apps are supportive of men and curated for them. Women's comments and posts constantly get removed when they fight back against men's misogyny or call men out. On TikTok, when I reply back to a man saying both men and women are bad, pointing out that women can never be 5% as bad as men given that over 95% of crimes are committed by men, my comment was removed despite gaining many likes. It was removed due to mass reports from men and incels. Meanwhile, misogynistic replies from men remain. When I report these, nothing happens, but their mass reports against women are effective. It's exhausting, and it feels like there's no safe space for women on social media as long as men are there. Men will never allow us to have a single safe space, taking over and mass reporting to silence us. It's suffocating how men get to post whatever they want online and can mass report anything by women. Every social media platform is tailored for and controlled by men. Women work in these companies too, but the majority are men. It's incredibly tiring.

[dykedvonte]

You ever just see a Mouthwashing take that makes you want to bang your head into a wall? I literally just saw someone claim Curly couldn't have been emotionally abused by Jimmy before the crash because he was in a higher position of power than Jimmy.

-Shrimp Anon

The mouthwashing fandom has shown me that people genuinely do believe that certain types of abuse are not as detrimental as other types especially when they deem those immune/resistant, ergo, believing one is objectively worse no matter how it affects the person nor the intersections of power, history and dynamics at play.

Get ready cause this is a yap session:

Cause like it's heavily implied that Curly and Jimmy's friendship was toxic and abusive, pointedly in the direction of how Jimmy uses Curly's belief/comfort in him. Curly wasn't forced to enable Jimmy but he was emotional and mentally on edge around him in almost every scene in some way. Mental and emotional abuse are not contingent on what positions you have at work. Yeah, he's Jimmy's boss but he was Jimmy's friend first and it's like getting into Psych discussion to talk about how social power tends to overshadow any perceived organizational power in the human mind. People are concerned about their jobs ofc but they tend to hang onto and put more value/investment into their personal relationships, hence why there tends to be laws and restrictions around mixing the two.

I always see the sentiments that "Curly is a grown ass man", "Curly is bigger than Jimmy", "Curly is Jimmy's boss", "He just needed a backbone" as criticisms of Curly and while I do agree that on the surface level all of these to be true and viable ways Curly could've taken more control of the situation, I often look at the parallels of Anya and Curly as victims of Jimmy pre/post crash.

The way Jimmy talks to Anya post crash is how he talked to Curly in the pre-crash segments. It's hard to pin-point mainly because we know he hates and wants nothing to do with Anya compared to his contrary but similarly handled obsessions with Curly. It's a weird sort of "honey-moon" effect of abuse Jimmy does in terms of emotional and mental victimization. He is always horrid to Anya, always talking down or questioning her abilities and thoughts in a situation, this of course includes the harassment and assault. However, he has a moment of attempted gentleness/conditioning when he question her about the mouthwash when she's contemplating drinking it at the table. The key difference is he has no personal investment in Jimmy outside wanting nothing to do with him, meaning there is no sort of romanticized version of him that he can condition her off of. He knows this, hence, why he always reverts to trying to make her to scared to oppose him.

This sort of give and take of "kindness" doesn't work on her because she knows he is just doing it to take more from her than whatever he could possibly give but it reflects even the "softer" scenes between him and Curly where he always rewords or rephrases Curly's sentiments and concerns to sound more shallow. He is feigning a deeper understanding by reworking Curly's emotions into something bad and needing to be hidden. Everything is laced with envy and resentment, an outburst just around the corner, I mean he even slams the table in the birthday party scene, a tactic in emotional manipulation to set the victim on edge and cloud their ability to respond. Even if Curly knows Jimmy won't get physical in that moment, the physical actions is intended to make him back down in the confrontation in case it does. This is something that is just not person specific. It ingrains itself into how you interact with the world and life and it shows in major and minor ways with Curly.

Post-crash, the abusive nature is more in tandem to the physical victimization Anya went through and the stripping of voice and autonomy we see take place. Like the parasite in HFIM, Jimmy speaks for Curly most of the time and puts words in his mouth, similarly to how he takes Anya's plans as his own. He very commonly, with the both of them mind you, supplements the worst aspects of himself into them; pettiness, selfishness, lack of understanding... And tries to cover himself with their best qualities; kindness, planning, initiative, etc...

These parallel are just to say that positional power has little to do with if a person can be abused and how it can even be flipped to further the abuse. There is no doubt that Curly could've picked up on Jimmy's envy of his position hence another reason he never confronted him as a Captain but as a friend as doing so would immediately put Jimmy in a space to be confrontational/combative.

I think the disdain some people have when they talk about the heavily implied if not implicitly stated emotional/mental abuse Curly experienced being Jimmy's friend is when treating it as an excuse to why he didn't do more. I can understand that completely because it is not an excuse to why he didn't do more but is a very real reason people in his position in these scenarios can experience whether in the context of a work or social environment. However, I also think the way people talk about it really does demonstrate a bigger problem when talking about abuse when somehow who is/was abused is either part of the issue or enabled it.

Harkening back to the sentiments about Curly's inaction regarding Jimmy, I think the exact phrases I used/have seen show how there is an inherent belief that it is easier to overpower the effects of emotional/mental abuse that go in tandem with the perception of Curly as someone who should be able to. There is not an age you suddenly stop being susceptible to abuse nor a set point or low where you realize how it has affected you. You don't suddenly know to stand up or put a face on to face your abuser nor admit that you inadvertently enabled them to subjugate someone else to the same treatment. Maybe it's my psych brain but their is this growing belief that direct action is somehow easy or always the best method with the game shows you instances where it is not always the case. In real life that rings true too. He should have done more, but it's not impossible to see why he struggled to find a way or didn't even if it makes us mad.

It's not easy to suddenly gain a "back-bone". You don't immediately want to resort to aggression, especially if it mirrors the type you were a victim to. You don't want to believe you allowed yourself to be treated this bad, let it get that bad or allowed something bad to happen to someone else. It is easy to be in denial, to retreat to your thoughts or make excuses to avoid the painful truth. It's frustrating but in a way we know is relatable. It why we both hate and love Curly for it. We know we'd be better, we think we'd be better, we like to think we wouldn't falter in the same ways but it's always easier to say that from the outside looking in. It's easy to see what he was doing wrong because we are seeing it, not him, but the game really does make you picture what you would do if this was your raw reality and it's why this debate about Curly seems so never ending/contradictory. We can all say what we'd do but bottom line is that's much different when you're in the moment with all the emotions and human feelings attached.

I personally think Mouthwashing tackles the themes of rape culture, enabling, toxic masculinity, types of abuse and patriarchy in ways that are meant to deconstruct the typical straightforward views we mostly have of these concepts and how little subtilities of them are just as, if not more, detrimental than the overt/obvious parts. The game deals with the idea of little details and bigger picture in a way to show that sometimes the bigger picture is not the issue but the little details that make it up. It's why I have a personal dislike of depictions of Jimmy as the typical horrible person who would of course do something like this because the game is about noticing the little warning signs, the foreshadowing and foresight.

It's why I dislike the typical discussion of "bro code" and "boys will be boys" for the game because the game makes a point to avoid the standard depictions of such. It is about the type of men who still enable despite not condoning, agreeing or even perpetuating harmful beliefs because they can't see the little details or the ways it seeps into their everyday. The severity is not obvious to them as it was not obvious to Curly, Swansea or even Daisuke the way it was to a woman like Anya. There are little details about Jimmy that should ring alarms but if you are too naive like Daisuke, too distant like Swansea or too conditioned like Curly, they are just off markers.

There is 100% more constructive/concise ways to say "Curly was a victim of Jimmy's abuse on an emotional and mental aspect that clouded his judgements and perceptions in the scenario" while also critiquing on the side of "Curly still had a responsibility to protect Anya as a crew mate and Captain that he failed to do due to biases and stigma's he failed to surpass" without the weird condemnation people give him about should've knowing better than to let himself be manipulated by a person he considered a close, if not family/best-friend and had his own reasons to trust initially. Also stop being weird about victims of abuse in general with this fandom, like sorry not everyone has a like social epiphany the moment someone's nasty to them. People are treating it like you immediately know when you are in a toxic relationship immediately or comprehend when a person is actively dangerous and either it's your fault for not knowing how to leave/cut them off or you deserve it. Like the hypocrisy of people believing how certain fans treat the story reflect their irl views but not their own is crazy.

End statement is: I honestly don't even know man, I've been writing this too long and just like no man on that ship was perfect or really helped Anya when it mattered and I feel like pitting them against each other in discussion on who did the least or most or how it was justified sucks cause in the end Anya always did the most and best thing for herself.

[blue-willow-tree]

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🍬: 18 | she/her 🪩: 19 | she/her 💌: 19 | she/her

✨: 20 | she/her 🦭: 18 | she/her 🛸: 18 | she/they/her

🌷: 23 | she/her 🍀: 20 | she/her 💫: 23 | she/her

🌙: 29 | she/her. 🪐: 21 | she/her ⭐: 18 | she/they

🍓: 23 | she/her 🎀: 21 | she/her 🪼: she/her

🐻: 18 | she/her 🧸: 22 | she/her 🗡️: 20 | she/they

🤎: 26 | she/her/they/them (sometimes he/him)

💙: 19 | she/her 🐞: 20 | she/they 🦦: 18 | she/her

🩷: 20 | she/her 🦊: 22 | she/her 🐼: 31 | she/her

🔮: 30 | she/her 🐇: 18 | she/her 👸: 21 | she/her

🪽🐾: 19 | all pronouns 🦓: 18 | she/her 🎧: 18 | she/they

🐿️: 18 | they/them 🕊️: 21 | she/her 🐨: 24 | she/her

💚: 18 they/she. 🌌: 29 | she/her. 🐮: 18 | she/her

🩶: 20 | she/her 🦌: 21 | they/them. 🥁: 21 | she/her

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🐺: 20 | she/they 🥐: 18 (soon 19 x) | she/her

🍒: 19 | she/her ⚰️: 19 | she/her 🍎: 18 | she/her

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HARD NO's:

Scat, watersports, gore, vore, cis het men, anal, anything that involves cheating.

[aman1taverna]

what the actual fuck? all of the comments were supporting this dude even after this disgustingly misogynistic comment. I feel so bad for the women at that event.

"I don't even act like a man" yes you do. you're just completely delusional. @redditreceipts

[balkanradfem]

I've managed to curate my small misogyny-free space both online and in real life, and now I'm no longer used to misogyny, it's no longer normal to me. So when I accidentally glimpse it, I'm not desensitized to it, I'm always shocked and unbelieving.

If I notice a m*n talking about a woman like she's 'just some ***' I'm immediately aware that this is in fact a demonic creature who needs to be burned. If I see anyone using a slur against women or pretending women are at fault for any of the world's issues, the hair on my neck stands up at the unbelievable amount of hatred.

Anyone implying that women should be in any way controlled, punished, forced to do anything against their will or dedicate their lives to anyone but themselves, is preposterous and villainous to me, I'm at loss that someone could even think that way about a half of the human population who are creators and administrators of life.

I know I am in a bubble, but it feels different knowing deeply in your heart that all of this is not normal, that casual or normalized hatred against women is absolutely insane, that it's sharp and painful and dehumanizing at every turn. It's insane to realize that women just have to live like this, believing all of that is normal, that I once lived like this, wondering what was wrong with me and why I couldn't just be what everyone was expecting me to.

I think still, if I can make a small space without this hate present in it, without anyone or anything implying we should be anything but free, anything but full complete human beings with absolute control over our lives, then we can strengthen and grow these spaces, and get more women in, have more women experience what life is like when hatred is removed. There is hope for women.

[creating-tabs]

Break the chains... and be beautiful in sin.

Lilith in Act One of Diablo IV

[redditreceipts]

Jinwar is a village for women and children in the Autonomous Administration of Nort and East Syria (also known as Rojava). It was built during the Syrian civil war, and is home to Kurdish, Arab and Yezidi women.

Some of the women have even been part of the YPJ, the Kurdish all-female fighting force within the Syrian Defense Forces.

Many of the women who have found refuge in Jinwar have been assaulted by soldiers or fled ISIS. In 2015, the UN concluded that about 40 percent of women and girls have experienced sexual violence while trying to access aid.

The village was inspired by the women's village in Umoja, Kenya, and the only men who are allowed inside the village are visitors who can come in by day. I think that this kinda shows how important it is for women all around the world to connect and to show to our sisters how stuff can be done.

I mean, building something like that in the face of ISIS???? In one of the most brutal warzones of the world, in Syria?? Building a multi-ethnic, multi-cultural and ecological village? Pardon me if I'm wrong, but I think that only women would be able to do something like this.

source, source, source, source

[raviollies]

I dont understand the trend of fandoms trying to make all characters friends and erase any conflict between them as if that's an indictment of either of those characters as people.

Sometimes two fundamentaly good people exist in completely different worlds. Sometimes people just don't like each other. Conflict is just as integral to interesting development as friendship/romance. I don't understand why people are so desperate to sand characters down to featureless monoliths

[tlacatecctzin]

[niiwa-angel]

My little rant in regards to the "what about trans women!!!" Hysteria among liberals.

Trump has won the presidential race in the United States, Poilievre is looking more and more like the likely choice for the Canadian 2025 federal election, and right wing candidates are winning all across Europe. With that, women's rights are on the fritz. We're at risk of losing our right to abortion, no fault divorce, access to birth control, weakening of domestic violence protections, and so much more and YET!! We can't escape the crowd of people shouting "but what about trans women?!"

Trans 'women' can take off the wig and go back to their male privilege, with their male employment protections and their male advantage in pay.

Trans 'women' can go back to being called 'Stephen' rather than 'Stephanie' and they'll always have access to education and healthcare.

Trans 'women' can take off the makeup and they don't have to worry about being harassed at the grocery store, by people at restaurants and bars, and at work.

Real women can't do that. Butch women are not exempt from misogyny, they are still at risk of being harassed, of being passed over for promotions, and will still be harmed by abortion bans. Women who don't wear makeup are still taken less seriously as professionals. Women, regardless of race, religion, class, career, or education are at risk of being raped, getting pregnant, being victims of domestic violence, and medical misogyny.

That's why trans 'men' are still victims of misogyny. Regardless of how they identify, they will be harmed by abortion bans, weakened domestic violence laws and protections, weakened employment protections, and reduced access to birth control. They cannot identify out of their oppression.

Real women cannot take off our oppression with a change of clothes, or changing our names, or cutting our hair. Trans 'women' can. And if you can stop being oppressed with a change of clothes, you aren't oppressed.

[misandresther]

Women are angry, and it isn’t hard to figure out why.

We are underpaid and overworked. Too sensitive, or not sensitive enough. Too dowdy or too made-up. Too big or too thin. Sluts or prudes. We are harassed, told we are asking for it, and asked if it would kill us to smile. Yes, yes it would.

Contrary to the rhetoric of popular “self-help” and an entire lifetime of being told otherwise, our rage is one of the most important resources we have, our sharpest tool against both personal and political oppression. We’ve been told for so long to bottle up our anger, letting it corrode our bodies and minds in ways we don’t even realize. Yet our anger is a vital instrument, our radar for injustice and a catalyst for change. On the flip side, the societal and cultural belittlement of our anger is a cunning way of limiting and controlling our power.

We are so often told to resist our rage or punished for justifiably expressing it, yet how many remarkable achievements in this world would never have gotten off the ground without the kernel of anger that fueled them?

— "Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger", by Soraya Chemaly

[cocoabuttavasa]

you are too full of life and love to be half loved by someone. you deserve a love that feels satiating for your spirit. you deserve a love that makes you feel seen. you deserve a love that makes you feel heard. you deserve a love that listens and a love that is patient. you deserve a love that is kind and a love that feels warm. you deserve a love that makes your heart explode and a love that sends shivers down your spine. you deserve a love that takes the time to study you, that takes the time to understand your mind. you deserve a love that is patient and compassionate. you deserve a love that grows old. you deserve a love that doesn’t judge but instead accepts you wholeheartedly; flaws and all. you deserve a love that sends tingles through your whole body and leaves butterflies swarming in your stomach. you deserve a love that gives you 80 on the days that you can only give 20. you deserve a love that sends you into overdrive at the slightest thought of their touch. you deserve a love that lasts. you see how you simply read this, you deserve a love that is simple and extraordinary all in one. you deserve to be felt, you deserve to be loved. you deserve love.