#respect your kids

[comparison-anxiety]

Tw: suicidal ideation, child abuse

indirect mentions of SA, CSA, kidnapping, and incest

This made me cry so hard, because I never kept a diary, just because of the already deep-rooted fear of my mom and the broken trust that she had repeatedly and deliberately shattered since I was just three

that led me to some dark times from a little past 9; depression, suicidal thoughts.

I was too scared to come forward with anything for fear of punishment and humiliation so, at a young age, I found porn online.

this situation, and the terrifyingly necrotic fear about it, drove me deeper into the dark.

this was only compounded by another incident, a few weeks to months later.

I found a book, I read it, front to back. problem was, it was severely out of line with my parent’s belief system, and had some pretty heavy topics (SA, CSA, abuse, kidnapping, incest. It was a true story) (btw I still agree with everything in that book to this day)

my parents confronted me about it and screamed at me for hours, while I stuck to the story that I skipped to the last chapter and ended up thinking it was boring. (Hours. I wanna go back in time and protect 10-year-old me, she was so brave, she never cracked, stuck to the story, anyways)

my parents then cut me off from the world.

that’s a story for another post tho lol

so in conclusion, don’t break your kids trust please, it has, and will, destroy them in ways you’ll never know.

<33333

to all the other child abuse survivors out there, you are in my thoughts and prayers. We made it this far, we can survive it together.

"Should parents read their daughter's texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, “Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?”

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.

[actual-corpse]

Me: Music these days is so nasty. It's nothing but sex and drugs! I don't think minors should be listening to this!

Also, me: I listened to stuff like THIS as a child

[nenoname]

Cute wholesome fics where Stan teaches Soos or Wendy how to drive were always so funny to me because...

And while he insists that everyone in town has ran over McGucket before, we also know he ran over Toby too and absolutely did not give a shit (understandable in that case)

But then again...

Also bless Mr Honeypants

And another detail I love is that his car is casually filled with parking tickets

How many tickets are in Ford's name...

[egophiliac]

this is basically what happened, right?

(these guys are very lucky that everyone at NRC 1) has the combined intelligence of a sack of bricks, and 2) is easily distracted by shiny things.)

[ourdramaqueen]

Clearly that mother has no idea what "being supportive" actually means. Holy fuck.

This mom sounds so unpleasant to be around idk why her daughter even invited her in the first place

[plushiefucker]

its just so fascinating when people go on and on about how adults were always so nasty towards them or how scared and uncomfortable they felt in public or how they always felt so distant and alone from their families, and how they carry this hurt to this very day - only to be nasty to children, complain and mock kids who have meltdowns in public, and to never interact or genuinely love their kid family members. you love the idea of breaking generational curses in theory but lack the actual self-awareness to actually do so. truly, truly fascinating.

[ohitslen]

Something other about his eyes

Bonus! Based on this quick thing I did this afternoon and the idea took a bit more shape and turned into that thing from above uEK

[starchaserfanatic]

My mother got angry at me for reading. READING. Like regular books. As punishment she would take away literal books from me, simply because she didn’t like them. She shamed me for eating too much, and then when I wouldn’t eat as much, she would tell me to stop being anorexic (I know right, pick a side lady). My phone got taken from me every week, more often than not for no good reason, so I just bought another one for myself to use when she took mine. If I ate something in the fridge when she was gone, she would come home to yell at me for eating.

Your kids aren’t pawns, they are humans with feelings and boundaries that should be respected.

This is one of those scenarios where if you think you should parent like that, then you shouldn’t have kids. Because you’ll just have kids that will never want to speak to you, or see you.

Here’s an example, I haven’t spoken to my mother since I was fifteen, it’s been almost a decade. I’m happier without her then I ever was with her. Treat your kids with respect.

[atoriv-art]

older designs for my specialest guy

[faunandfloraas]

kittens say bye bye 🐾

[dreamsy990]

when i was a kid i fell in love with dandelions. when i told my parents, they said they were just weeds, not flowers at all. i was always upset on the dandelions behalf- why didnt people love them too? why were they a problem when they were just as pretty?

[ingravinoveritas]

For those who haven't heard this, this is a clip from the episode of David Tennant Does A Podcast With... featuring Olivia Colman, from 2019. In this clip, Olivia and David talk about people filming them without permission, the ubiquity of camera phones, and the idea of "home" as a sanctuary from loss of privacy. I thought it was something interesting to think about and consider, especially in the wake of recent events.

Transcript of notable bits below:

(Talking about a woman filming David on the set of Broadchurch) Olivia: "[...]And I was very defensive on your behalf, too." David: "I remem--Yes, there was that wonderful day on the pier at West Bay. Where I was having some microphone wire put down my trouser leg. It was very undignified." Olivia: "I think she was videoing you. From a table's distance away." David: "Yeah. I was very touched that you were furious, and you leapt at this woman. Although she sort of still didn't notice, did she? She sort of grinned and kept filming." --- Olivia: "I have friends that I adore and I like going to safe places with them--my home or their home or something." --- Olivia: "Now I noticed the world's changed. Everyone's got a fucking camera. And people are desensitized to fellow humans." David: "When you first lose that anonymity, it's quite threatening. It's much more threatening than you imagine it's going to be objectively. Cause you imagine that sort of--for want of a better word, celebrity--it somehow empowers you, but actually I think it's the opposite."

[proshippers-against-censorship]

I do want to clarify that I do not hate children. In fact, I work quite often with children, and have for many years.

Minors are just as permitted in fandom as adults, it's a space intended for everyone.

But waaaay too many parents are really taking a hands off approach to parenting nowadays, and there's a lot of really entitled kids (aka, brats) online that trod all over everyone else, expect every space to be child friendly, and ultimately get annoyed when certain spaces are kept for adults only.

And those are the kind of kids that I want nothing to do with. Especially when they reach an age where they should 100% know better and where multiple people are trying to correct them, but they're just ignoring em to continue being disrespectful.

Be respectful, not a brat.

Please.

[serpentface]

Don't get too attached

[ineed-to-sleep]

Jackie died. Jackie died and I'm devastated. I will never be the same person again

[ruegarding]

bianca being the exception to the revival trend of the big three girls bc she refuses to be brought back. she's not a lesson in second chances. this was it.