#reblogs are OFF

[genderqueerpositivity]

Note that I'm straight up blocking people who reblog my shit with comments promoting voting third party because I'm honestly done entertaining it and I won't let you use my posts to promote it.

If at this point, you still can't be bothered to go out and do the absolute minimum in order to prevent a literal Hitler-idolizing right-wing authoritarian fascist who has already promised the mass deportation of millions of people and the potential opening of detention camps on American soil from reassuming the role of Commander-in-Chief with the power of one of the largest militaries in the world at his fingertips, then you aren't as much of an antifascist as you claim to be.

Jill Stein will never be the president, go deny reality elsewhere. ✨

[vaspider]

Hey, just a lil hint, but if you feel it necessary to come onto a post where people are talking about a ship dynamic they like to read about, especially if people branch off into saying 'yeah, this reminds me of my own relationship because my experience was very similar,' and say things like 'amatonormativity has rotted your brain,' you are not clever, cute, funny, or awesome.

You're just doing the 'I am uncomfortable when we are not about me' thing, and that means you are acting like a dick.

Does this not match what you like, or your experience? That's okay. You can just, you know. Be quiet. Keep scrolling. Leave people alone. Let them enjoy things.

[luna-loveboop]

WHY IS THIS SOMETHING I AM EVER COMING ACROSS

I tapped on the haunted tag accidentally and it's like omg look at the top blogs for this crack torment and then it's ME please guys

Why

[mywingsareonwheels]

Hmm. For Various Reasons I am starting to strongly suspect that I have OCD, especially moral OCD/scrupulosity. I may (will) need to alter some of my habits on social media accordingly. Including adopting a "guilt tripping is an instant block even I fully agree with everything else you're saying" practice, at least until I'm out of the current flare-up.

It's not that activism/social justice work never = dealing with discomfort, pain, shame, sorrow. But there's a profound difference accepting those things as a necessary part of good work and... what I have going through my brain nearly all of the time I'm awake and some of the time when I'm asleep. I've been on the wrong side of that line for so damn long, and I'm so extremely unwell in other ways elsewise (both physically and mentally) and... yeah. Self-destruction is not a moral obligation, so I'm going to try to stop doing it. :-)

(Two reminders to everybody, also: 1) even for those who are mentally well, an emphasis on the secular equivalent of Calvinist-style personal salvation is an awful way to run what should be a set of collective movements, 2) social media-type activism isn't necessarily the right form of activism for you and is infinitely far from being the only kind out there; we don't all have to do the same things (in fact, we will not succeed in collectively making the world better if we try to).)

[hackfurs]

my hair has grown out a bunch since i took this and using a headband to keep it all back isnt enough anymore lol ive started thinking about getting a shorter haircut again. sometimes i feel like i look better with shorter hair anyway.

[spacedustpan]

Boats aand Birds cover feat. Big Al by Azuralunar

This is still one of my favorite Big Al covers. 💖

[apostate-in-an-alcove]

I don't want to darken my heart with hate but Israelis and zionists are all subhuman monsters to me at this point. You will never be able to redeem the name and image of either of those groups to me ever again in my lifetime.

[bittersweetblasphemy]

hey y'all can we not do the "no more cis" and "people aren't allowed to be cis" stuff? i get that this is probably coming from a place of anger and hurt but please maybe think twice about that kind of rhetoric? I'm against compulsive gender expressions as much as the next it/it's pronouns whatever. but can we please just not?

cisgender people are not a monolith. and you wanting to persecute someone's gender identity is not somehow morally superior because it's people who happen to identify with traditional gender expressions of their birth sex that you want eradicated.

[system-of-a-feather]

Also for the record I DO struggle externally as well. Yes not to the level of High Support Needs (clinical and identity label) but I am not just "oh basically a normal not-disabled person other than internally" it's just that those needs are invisible to most people and I do detest that the anon - intentionally or not - implied that my struggle was solely internal. Take some nuance and read the room. I apologize for the slip up and appreciate the "you said something incorrect" so I can correct myself, but honestly that anon was not appreciated because of their complete lack of situational awareness.

Its very appropriate to comment on a vent about not having your needs taken seriously and not given support by 1) assuming malice in someone venting 2) assuming the level of struggle a person has based on them stating they have superficial and socially acceptable ability to keep things up and 3) having an undertone of "others have it worse" /s

Really did not hit at a good time honestly.

[stellawolfearts]

Beneath the Veil

Self portrait ig. had this piece on my mind for a couple days so i finnally decided to paint it.

and no. this is not vent art. its not vent art. i would never post my vent art publicly i dont see the need for that. this is more of just...art with emotion.

im. bad at talking. bout the big and serious stuff. its not that i dont have people to talk to i just...its hard too. without this bad guilty feeling stabbing me in the chest. im getting better but its a process. so, thought putting emotions into art could be a good idea. idk. i might end up deleting this but its midnight here so...ynow. late night impulsivity.

i guess...the meaning behind it is pretty clear. think of emotions represented through color. the greyscale with a slight tint of red. then that one little opening, with bright colors....

[greenbeany]

So not to endeavour to make someone else's abuse about my own, but when these allegations reached me (last Thursday) I was already having a pretty bad day, feeling some bad emotions regarding a situation I was in. So now to see Wilbur confirm this situation happened (not that I ever doubted Shelby) but refuse to apologise or take accountability for them, I feel disgusting having anything that he has profited from. And I've come to the conclusion that I am allowed to feel betrayed and upset about this.

[plusthreerabbits]

Being responsible for an animal isn't always love & rainbows. Sometimes it's fear. Chewie & Shion put themselves in danger during porch time today and it took me HOURS to calm down. They are safe, but I don't want to talk about it.

[vaspider]

just a heads up that that post abt ppl reconnecting is by a like. meeeega z*onist. i usually am like eh ppl dont need to check usernames for everyone they reblog but for that one since its like. relatatef to an extent to the post i wanted to let you know for you and the people who follow u! i hope u are having whatever the best day for ur circumstances is

You're not Jewish, by your own admission. I went to make sure, before I started talking. You have some Jewish heritage, and you might look at converting, but you're not Jewish, so let's start there. And I am going to be as patient as I possibly can under the circumstances.

You have essentially just walked into the living room of a family that you're not a part of and said, "that thing that was just said about connecting with this family that I'm not a part of? You should not listen to it because it came from a term that those of us outside this family have rendered meaningless by overuse and abuse. You should not interact with that person because I am telling you they're a Bad one of y'all, because I've determined this word is Bad, and everyone has beaten it into the ground."

How do you think that would go, if you walked into my living room and pointed at someone there, as a complete and total stranger, and said, 'you should take my value statement about one of the people in your extended family'? Do you think it would go well, whether or not I agreed with that family member, that you've interjected yourself into intrafamily discussions, especially intrafamily discussions about our family's emotional survival and connection?

Because that's what this is, to be clear. Those people? They are my family. You just came in off the street and said, "Take my word on your family. They're bad. You shouldn't interact with them."

What's more, one of the two people you're pointing at, the only two people who spoke on that post, is someone who was present, and indeed the sole official witness, at a moment in my life which rates in terms of joy and personal meaning right up there with my wedding and the moment the midwife placed my daughter, naked and screaming, on my belly. You just came in to my living room and said, "The person who witnessed your mikveh immersion seven years ago? Bad. Take it from me, person who has never spoken to you before."

Do you also walk into drag shows, point at the person on the stage, and yell, "That's a groomer!"? Because that's basically what y'all sound like when you do this: you're coming in from the outside, wielding a word you've effectively rendered meaningless against people who belong here.

I'm real fucking tired of -- literally every time I interact with any post about Jewishness at all -- someone lunging in to tell me that There Be Bad Jews, or demanding that, because I am interacting with members of my family, I answer a bunch of fucking "when did you stop beating your wife" questions.

That was literally just in the last 24h. One post about how Judaism survives because we reconnect with each other, one post about how American institutions like Chabad are being labeled 'Israeli' as a means of smearing them. Literally dealing with living as a fucking Jew in the diaspora is now simply Not Allowed To Be Spoken Of, apparently, unless I strictly validate that everyone in the thread is not a Bad Bad Zionist, which of course applies to every Jew who says something we don't like, regardless of their repeatedly-stated values or self-identification.

It's almost like the end point of all of that is Jews simply not talking about being Jewish anywhere that they might be seen by someone who doesn't like that. If we can only speak about being Jewish if our Judaism meets the strict, ever-changing ethical purity standards of a bunch of Puritan-descended American leftists, then we can't speak about our lives at all, can we?

Funny, that.

Anyway, you have self-declared Zionists in your last 30 reblogs, so like, if you want to spend time endlessly policing someone's blog, make it your own.

Nobody ever send me asks like this ever again. This is the last one I'll even vaguely humor.

[kvothes]

so true

[dendrochronologies]

maya angelou saying the funniest thing anyone has ever said about editing, which i can never let myself forget EVER AGAIN [x]

[joeyclaire]