#reblog of that good dnf shit

[vettelsvee]

DON'T BELIEVE WHAT THEY SAY | Oscar Piastri

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oscar piastri x gf!reader

summary: reader is quite insecure about herself due to fans and paps comments, and oscar tries to comfort her

word count: 1206

warning: wait till the end and tell me if you'd like a part 2 *kiss kiss*. reader feeling insecure about herself and thinking she's not good enough (remember: you are good enough, don't hear what others say!). use of y/n. corrected the translation at almost 1am so i apologize if there are mistakes

you can send your one shots requests here! feedback as well as comments and reblogs are truly appreciated! <3

After a long day in the paddock, and after a race that was supposed to be the highlight of the season but ended in a DNF for Oscar, your boyfriend decided to cheer both of you up by inviting you to have dinner in a fancy restaurant. You have been in a relationship for several years since you both were high school sweethearts, so sometimes the romance wore thin. Today, he wanted to give his best after a day worth to forget.

Lately, he had noticed that your behavior was a bit strange. You seemed uncomfortable with yourself, and your self-esteem was at an all-time low, judging by the unpleasant comments you had been making lately about herself. Moreover, the media and "fans" criticism didn't help either, as paparazzi and journalists had been harassing and spreading rumors about Oscar cheating on you, or that you have been gaining too much weight for Piastri’s liking. All of them, among others, were damaging your relationship slowly. 

For those two reasons, and because he felt like changing the scenery after the weekly training stress, Oscar told you that you would go out to enjoy a peaceful dinner. He was conscious of all of those criticism, and he was going to remind you how special you were to him and most of it, how perfect you were for him. Also, that you shouldn’t give a damn shit about others opinions, specially when Oscar was the one dating and loving you.

Although you initially resisted to go because you didn’t want to be the center of attention once again, you finally accepted because you knew it hadn’t been an easy day for your boyfriend. You dressed in a beautiful electric blue dress he had gifted you for you birthday las year, and decided not to wear makeup and jewelry. However, you still felt nervous. It was the presence of paparazzi, who followed you wherever you went, made you feel increasingly insecure about yourself and your relationship once again.

In those moments, you thought that Oscar deserved a girl better than you.

"Love," you addressed you boyfriend, a bit hesitant. "Do I look fine like this?"

"My God, Y/N… You're perfect. You always are."

You looked at yourself in the mirror once again. You tried to fake a smile, but you didn't like what you saw in front of you.

"I don't know… I feel a bit ridiculous in this dress," you explained. "Do I look too fat? I don’t think this color suits me very well either..."

"Don't say that," Oscar scolded, approaching you. "It looks amazing on you. Do you remember when I gave it to you? You loved it! You have been wanting it, for months actually, and even though you didn't say it, your face said it all."

"Yes, I remember perfectly, but the problem is that I don't feel comfortable with myself," you continued. "I'm tired of everything that's being said about us and the opinions people seem to have about us. To be honest with you, every day I feel more like… well, that I don’t deserve to be in your life. At least, not as your girlfriend.”  

Oscar sighed. He knew you were right. He was pretty conscious about the media and obsessive fans’ behaviour towards you, and he didn’t like that part of fame either, especially when it was for no reason, and because they had no right to comment on your relationship, which was definitely private, but not secret.

You started to cry shily. He did nothing but hesitate to hug you and make your head rest on his chest. He immediately starting to stroke your hair while gently rocking you from side to side, trying his best to calm you down.

"That shouldn't worry you because you're the most important person to me," he assured you. "I love you just the way you are, for the worst and the better, and I’ll keep doing so every day for the rest of my life, ok?."

"Yeah, I know," you said, pulling away from him quite angrily, "The thing here is that I don't care about what you think, but what other people think. I hate that there are people who are spending their free time, or not so free, making theories about us as if we were a Marvel movie!t”

"Darling..."

"Don’t," you exclaimed, interrupting him, "I understand, and I respect, that you're a public figure, but that doesn't mean I can't be tired of the treatment I receive from girls that are in love with you! Aren't they such big fans of yours, and do they admire and love you so much, that they can't have a minimum of respect for the person you share your life with?"

Oscar knew you were right.

"Don't let that worry you," he explained. "What matters is that you and I love each other, and it's not a fake relationship like many out there, so don't let the negative comments affect you. Remember: those people don't deserve even a second of your thoughts."

"Well..." you replied simply. "It's difficult, Osc… I feel like people are analyzing and judging me all the time, no matter what I do."

Your boyfriend sighed again. He didn't know what to do to calm you down. Seeing you hurt made him feel really bad. Although he was familiar with the daily attention and hate comments, it didn't mean you, his girlfriend, had to get used to them. He felt frustrated and worried for you because, even though he knew you were aware that negative attention was part of the deal you signed when you started dating back in high school, it didn't mean you weren't bothered by seeing the love of your life being constantly mocked.

Oscar started thinking what to do. He wanted to make you happy, but if going out to have dinner isn’t what you desired that night… 

"What do you think if, instead of going out, we stay here, at the hotel?" he proposed to you. Immediately, you seemed a bit cheered up by the suggestion. "We can order something and have dinner in bed while watching a movie or a series you fancy."

"Really? You don't mind? I'm sure you already had the reservation made, and I really feel so bad..."

"Of course I don't mind," he explained, giving you a kiss on the forehead. "You are the most important thing in my life, so I will do whatever it takes to make you feel better."

Your eyes were still red, but you tried to feel better and fake you were ok. You hugged Oscar and thanked him again for what he just did.

Immediately, you both snuggled up in bed while watching a movie you chose, while Oscar phoned to the hotel’s reception so you could have room service for dinner. Pizza, most specifically, as you wanted it and told your boyfriend.

You didn’t know, but that moment made Oscar the happiest man on earth. He made you smile, even amidst the sadness. However, it was time to start thinking how he could propose to you in a different way because your insecurity, sadly, ruined his plans to kneel and pull the question.

[dteamain]

i haven't always agreed with you on most things but you're right. i've always leaned more to the dnf side of things but lately a lot of them have been so intense it's scary. i don't know for sure dnf are dating because i don't know them, i don't think they're not for sure, there's signs so i just think of it as 'probably but not sure'. except if i say that i think people would turn on me. the thing is i don't ship. i don't care. but now i'm worried of saying the wrong thing.

it’s never been about people having to agree with me i literally don’t care it’s not about people following me either like if my content doesn’t spark joy great move on I get it. I have been nothing but understanding with people anytime I have had an issue with someone publicly I have reached out personally to deal with it and made it very clear that I don’t care if our opinions are different even if I just get laughed at

Exhibit A:

what baffles me is that because I am up front about my thoughts and opinions all of a sudden I’m not allowed to reblog someone’s dnf art or posts saying omg I love dream like that’s all I want I never ever ever actively engaged with someone in a negative way unless they brought me into it first I leave everyone alone the second I realize they no longer like me but they all get to sit on their private twitters and mock me and my friends to 200 of their closest tumblr followers and they get to be down right mean to people who simply mind their business and I get to find this all out because people who I thought were at least on good terms with me are liking this shit and being complacent in it and its exhausting when really all I want to do is enjoy dteam.

This fandom will always be toxic as long as people are being fake and untruthful on their main blogs well putting their true thoughts and feelings and lowkey bullying people on their side blogs and privates like its fucking normal.

and for some reason lots of people think I should just shut up and take this treatment rather than speak up about this shitty behaviour.

my friendship is not conditioned to who you ship or who you main and it never will be and I will always be upset when someone won’t extend the same branch to me.

[lokiinmediasideblog]

Ngl frigga didnt trust things to thor. She burdened him eiyh stuff a parent doesnt need to burdrn their child

That's a valid HC and I think this anon was sent in response to me reblogging someone else's post about Frigga talking more to Thor.

I don't want this to come off as shit-talking of people's HCs. These are just my personal opinions on Frigga. I am not some fandom authority. I assume that's what the anon wanted?

And well, I agree in general that parents treating their kids as friends rather than children is harmful to their development.

So if you're still here and wanna hear my PERSONAL thoughts on Frigga:

DISCLAIMER: I have not watched TLAT and I don't want to. The lack of Loki, presence of Korg, and that very random uncomfortable ogling scene meant to market the movie got it on my DNF list. This may sound hypocritical because I watched the Loki series, but people get stripped while being processed in prisons IRL and Loki's a prisoner! I only watched the Avengers movies after the first one once and never want to watch them again because they give me headaches.

I think people either make Frigga a saint that saved Loki from Odin's wrath, or in pushback by people annoyed by the various "saintly Frigga" portrayals, some horrid woman that for some bizarre reason mistreated her only biological heir and preferred her adopted child because Zuko/Azula and Ursa (I see too many comparisons). I don't vibe with either of those HCs.

She's not a good adoptive parent because there are clear cannon signs of fucked up parenting towards Loki, such as "Because I'm the monster that parents tell their children about at night?" The very least Odin and Frigga could have done while raising a Jotun is not to tell those stories to their children. And guess what? They are king and queen of Asgard. When people say they were good but couldn't have done shit about it, that's a fucking lie. Despite those massive psychologically-abusive-on-hindsight fuckups, she cared about Loki. She prevented Odin from executing Loki and tried to keep him comfortable during his imprisonment. She also taught Loki magic. Not a good mother but she cared.

I don't think she hated Thor, parentified (as princes of similar ages, I don't think any of them were parentified, but they have trauma from being privileged child soldiers and killing at a young age (my HC)), or didn't care for him. I think in Thor (2011) it's pretty clear that ONLY ODIN has the power to give Thor his powers back. That's a DEFINITE power imbalance between Odin and the rest of the family. This is backed up in a deleted scene where Frigga asks and argues with Odin to bring Thor back (It should have been in the movie!). She also cared enough about Thor's happiness to die protecting Jane. And you all know how uppity Asgardians are!

[anomalocrisis]

Fucking pinned post bc people are following and im scared! :D

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ALSO EYESTRAINING

AND ALSO UNREALITY AND LIMINAL SPACES AND ANALOGUE HORROR

it's all tagged, tho.

WE FUCK ALIENS, MONSTERS AND ROBOTS IN THIS PLACE

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[jestbee]

I posted 1,075 times in 2022

That's 380 more posts than 2021!

589 posts created (55%)

486 posts reblogged (45%)

Blogs I reblogged the most:

@lostinmcyt

@masterbaited

@jestbee

@alittledizzy

@scoops404

I tagged 938 of my posts in 2022

Only 13% of my posts had no tags

#mc - 598 posts

#jane answers - 231 posts

#dnf - 170 posts

#dream - 96 posts

#dnp - 81 posts

#gnf - 56 posts

#atsoop - 42 posts

#dnf fic - 41 posts

#dreamnotfound - 38 posts

#dteam - 28 posts

Longest Tag: 139 characters

#dream was like here is where u dud an awesome play and fished some pearls and george was like yeah well here is where i died multiple times

My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

I choose to believe they're getting the entire howell-lester clan together for Xmas, somehow I think Adrian and Cornelia might get along?

80 notes - Posted November 28, 2022

#4

Oh noo hope you feel better soon and it heals fast!!

I'm thinking about sapnap. How devoted he is to them, how much he loves them. He moved to dream and drove from Texas to Florida with one day notice and when George said he was lonely in London, the next day he renewed his visa :(( they all have such a strong bond, they choose eachother over anything else..

Sapnap is ride or die. Dream once said the thing he loves most about Sapnap is that he "has never once doubted that Sapnap is [his] boy and will have his back through anything". And you can see it.

Like, however much Sapnap and George have a sibling-like rivalry, Sapnap would go to war for George if he asked. (And he might, knowing George).

He was "just the cameraman for now" and made sure George and Dream were both okay during their meeting and was happy to take a back seat and that in itself is fucking amazing.

And it's not just dteam. He and Karl have a tax that if you cross one you pay the price of having crossed the other by default. He defends his fans in valo lobbies when people try to talk shit. Hes allowed to rio the shit out of his friends but if anyone else tries it he'll kill them with a glance. Heck, even for all the ways he has a tendency to get caught up in trying to seem cool, he's never once rolled over on his friends or what they do and the game they play even when it would have been easier to do so.

Sapnap is ride or fucking die.

83 notes - Posted November 22, 2022

#3

i like how phil sits next to dan when they eat rather than across from him

If I had Phil Lester in the house I'd sit next to him too

104 notes - Posted June 11, 2022

#2

I cannot shut up about how Dan was in that video. Like, it had such good vibes. Relaxed, mature, comfortable?

The persona as we know it was gone, remember when he seemed so angry all the time? It's just so so sooooo nice to see him happy and proud of a thing.

After everything he's been through to come out the other side like that. You love to see it

189 notes - Posted May 21, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

All the sunlight of our past (COMPLETE)

Phan, E

Tags: Exes to lovers, canon divergence, secret identity

Summary:

YouTube is a mess.

Phil's been struggling with it for a while and has just taken a job as a video editor to make ends meet while he figures out whether he still loves it anymore.

Dan's channel has been dead ever since he started working at BBC Radio One and the two haven't seen each other in years.

During a chance meeting in 2019, Dan gets papped coming out of a gay club and his life is sent in to turmoil. He blames Phil, because it had been his idea to go there in the first place, so they're straight back to not talking.

The only recourse Dan has to salvage his career is to return to his YouTube channel after all these years and make a coming out video on his own terms. What he doesn't know is that Phil is the editor he just hired to help him with it.

Notes:

Written for @oldschoolpbb with accompanying art by @snekydingdong

[Read on ao3]

195 notes - Posted May 14, 2022

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[zerabsurdity]

Zera \\ she/her \\ 21 \\ European

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-> #zerahh (hazbin hotel stuff, with a shit ton of radiostatic and huskerdust)

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-> #zeras4cc (reblogs of custom content I use)

-> #zeras4lookbook and #zeranamesong (for lookboks and the latest lookbook series I'm doing, on pause)

-> #zerayt (content creators not related to the dream team or not mcyts)

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-> #zerahs (heartstopper posting, osemanverse in general also)

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[xaurianqueen97]

Hello you lot, I am 27, she/her, on antidepressants, have insomnia, but online I like to generally have a good time. Online I like to go by Lily, I post whatever catches my fancy and my current obsession changes every few months when I burn out. I like to play those cross stitch games on my phone or dig big holes in Minecraft while I listen to podcasts or YouTube videos because I also have ADHD.

I came of age on fanfiction.net and used to roleplay on Rise of Kings, if any of you remember that old minecraft server lemme know, I miss it dearly. I wrote a bit of fanfiction (nothing completed) a decade ago and have been trying to get back into it ever since. On a good day I'll write a few hundred words. Most of my writing habit is carrying a pen and notebook in my purse at all times and hoarding notebooks in general. I have dozens.

I'm a supporter of original characters, a mary sue apologist (they are not all built the same), and I think one should write fanfiction for yourself first, if other folks like it that's a bonus.

My tumblr name is a reference to a universe/lore I've been building since I was a child, it's still under development and I can only talk about small chunks before I run into a plot hole i haven't fixed or some history I haven't finished. I adore Xaurius to the death, along with its rulers, the Raven family. My precious, tortured babies.

I try to comply with DNFs but if I follow you on accident go ahead and let me know, or block me, and I apologize in advance for the inconvenience.

I like interacting with folks, but I don't always respond super often cause mental health, work, real life/adult shit, or I just can't think of a good response at the time.

Anyway, love y'all, sorry my early reblogs aren't tagged, I tried doing so but it took like 7 straight minutes to scroll back to my first posts and while I enjoy repetitive tasks I don't enjoy them THAT much.

Oh, and I have read through tumblr a bunch over the years, but early 2024 is when I properly started using it as intended. I enjoy it a lot!

I'll add more stuff here and relevant tags later.

[rose-tinted-ruse]

⛤ mal/malice/malison. i also respond to “prince” or “your highness” (i’m half-joking). nonhuman (loser vampire) host of a diagnosed DID system consisting of primarily introjects. body and host are both 24. blog run by me and used by a few other alters who will each have their own respective tag.

⛤ i don’t do system discourse on this blog and will block you if you try it with me. take that shit elsewhere. however, if you have genuine, good-faith questions about system stuff, feel free to ask as i’m relatively open about it for the most part.

⛤ audhd, disabled, trauma survivor of multiple types. transmasc, nonbinary, gender fluid. pronouns are he/they/it.

⛤ witch, tarot reader, hellenic pagan. primary deities are hades, persephone, apollo, athena, aphrodite, and dionysus.

⛤ unapologetically fat, unapologetically body positive. this does not mean my blog is a safe space for ed blogs. if you post anything even remotely related to any of this, dnf and dni.

⛤ mlm, t4t, nb4nb, sys4sys. sub with some very rare and very specific switchy tendencies. absolute bottom. couldn’t top to save my life.

⛤ this is my only blog. i follow, like, reblog, and message from this blog and this blog exclusively.

⛤ blog contents, limits, and dni under the cut. remember that if you interact with me without reading this post and understanding my limits, you are violating my consent.

⛤ all content is tagged appropriately for blacklisting purposes, and if i forget to tag something, feel free to dm or send me an ask and remind me to tag it. here’s a list of what you’ll mostly find in this blog:

- royalty kink

- hierophilia

- corruption

- teratophilia

- size kink

- bdsm

- worship

- cnc

- somnophilia

- exhibitionism

- breeding

- piss

- pet play

- free use

- referring to others as titles (daddy, sir, etc). these are titles only. ageplay and ddlg/ddlb dynamics make me extremely uncomfortable.

- there may be the occasional random other post thrown in, but 95% of this blog is nsfw.

⛤ limits (i will not block you if you post these things but do not want any of them directed at me):

- sc4t

- v0mit

- feet

- i hate, hate, absolutely fucking hate being referred to as daddy, sir, master, or other similar titles. do not refer to me using these titles.

- for personal reasons, i’m not a fan of calling people mommy. madam, ma’am, and mistress are not necessarily off the table, as long as they are not directed at me.

- feminine nicknames/pet names of any kind. i especially hate the word pr!ncess.

- spanking

- spitting

- intoxication, mind control, or anything in that zone

- gaslighting/manipulation

- i hate the word k!tten. do not refer to me using that term.

- i personally don’t like feederism content. don’t direct it at me.

- lesbians/wlw can follow and interact with my blog, but i would rather they not dm me, reblog my original posts, or send me asks!!

- if you are over 18 you are free to follow and interact with my blog, but i will not engage with you unless you are 21+. this is for my own comfort.

⛤ asks are open. if we are mutuals feel free to send me an ask me any time, although i’m very autistic and may not rly know how to respond. my dms are also open but im terrible at responding to them. if you wanna talk you gotta message me first tho lol sorry

⛤ dnf + dni: m!nors (this means under the age of 18), system discourse, cishet men (cis bi/pan + cis gay dudes are cool as long as you don’t see me as a girl), cishet women (cis bi/pan women ok, again as long as you don’t see me as a girl), men dni blogs, ageless, blank, misgendering, detrans, truscum/transmed, ddlg/ddlb, ageplayers, ed blogs, chasers, inc3st, fauxcest, pro-cop, terfs, maps + nomaps, pro-shippers, racists, race-play, freaks, bigots, or bootlickers of any kind. all of these things will result in an immediate block.

[veggietalesyaoisworld]

this blog is mostly about nothing, i just reblog shit i like and what-not. mostly i interact with my mutuals

MINORS DNI/DNF!!!! there is nsfw content on my blog, so you have been warned

there's not much else to say other then my primary fandoms which are jjk and one piece. and in the past death note

oh uh if you want to find posts where im just talking about random shit it's just under #veggietalesyaoisworld and we're all just living in it (very creative i know). i wont add my fandom posts to that tag so good luck finding them

i also dont tag my reblogs so finding my fandom posts is a little simpler

thanks for reading 🫡

AND BTW MY BLOG IS NOT ABOUT VEGGIETALES YAOI THIS IS A JOKE

[qsmpbutwithsignlanguage]

https://qsmpbutwithsignlanguage.tumblr.com/post/744145427243335680/breaking-my-silence-for-1-one-moment-to-say-that

this is your reblog. forgive me if i am reading it wrong but the fact that op describes q as a "law student doing shady labor practices" comes across to me as them shitting on him. q has said he was not aware of what was going on and we have no reason to doubt he's telling the truth. as i said maybe i'm not reading it correctly but dream and dnf stans never have good intentions towards quackity.

yeah, you know what, that's an entirely fair thing to look at me weird for reblogging. I took it very surface level, just a one-off joke, but it's rooted in annoyance and falsehoods, and I can get why it's kinda a shitty thing for me to reblog

[fandom-madness69]

(in reference to Markiplier's video "Endless Cycle of Death" on his FNAF playlist) One more time. One more time! On more tiiiiiiiiiiimmmmmmmeeeeeeee -jumpscare here-

Re-introduction Post

My name on the Internet is Avery, Aves, or Vid (I wish I still had proof of my nickname for this one especially after that one Hazbin episode title)

My pronouns are she/her/hers and I'm non conforming I also just identify as gay/queer because I just find grown adults really attractive okay xP (I have strong feelings about this and sometimes post about it so if you're a part of the LGBTQ2IA community then please just understand I've been here for 2 decades because I realized I liked men and women at 7 I shit you not, so I'm not baselessly running my mouth okay?)

I'm 27 and I have a kid, a husband, a boyfriend and someone I'm debating on giving a second chance (ethical non-monogamy)

I am relenting my minors DNI and DNF rule (hesitantly) but moving forward you will be able to find this banner at least at the top of every post (if not 2-3 times more plus a break in the post to give you time to scroll away) minors should not interact with

I'm mostly here for fandom stuff but there's only a handful I'll post about on here (I'll like and reblog from a bunch of stuff also DW you never have to worry about me reposting your stuff) because y'all might think this place is algorithmless but it's not

These are the few fandoms I'll post about consistently:

-PJO (obviously)

-Good Omens

-JJK (mostly smut. Like 95% smut)

-She-Ra (kinda only when I'm rewatching it)

There will be times I post about my plants (in case you were curious, the sunflowers all died 2/4 from my son, 1/4 from too many direct UVs from my lamp and 1/4 form not having enough space to dig its roots properly apparently they need like 6+ feet above and below ground. Who knew?) and that will only increase in frequency in about 2 months when I can reasonably start buckling down the resources for my garden.

I do have two side blogs but one wont have anymore post uploads unless I decide to pick another niche She-Ra moment to catalog for you guys. The second is on an indefinite hiatus because I don't have the time to do daily, let alone weekly, posts. They can be found here (fluff) and here (Hey Adora).

I also have other social media in case you want to follow me there too. I don't usually link them all to the same account because I just really have never liked the idea of everyone following me everywhere. Doesn't leave me any space to talk shit. I had a discord for my Tumblr but anything I post not fandom related goes like 99% ignored (shout-out to @/scrawlingwithstyle for always liking my personal posts you are amazing) so I won't try to set one of those up again for a while.

My personal tags are #vid speaks #vid rants and #vid's beef

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[olderthannetfic]

Hey friend. Well, an apparently a post I made has exploded. And a super friendly person has said that we're anti-ao3 and about censorship because the post was asking people to stop being cruel in bookmarks. I was pleasantly surprised, tbh, by the reception of the post. And then utterly shocked when it sped right past my usual ~50 note count to spread like fire. Right now it's at 14k notes, and while I'm really sad at how many people have said they have had cruel and hurtful comments- the overall reception has been good! A few people didn't know and adjusted their bookmarks. Many people just liked it. But about... 5? People doubled down insisting bookmarks are for readers and we shouldn't tell them how to use them. It's utterly baffling- the willful misunderstanding of the request. But this last one is accusing us of censorship and you know? I figured I'd reach out to accounts more used to handling this shit. So I'm talking to you, as you're quite level headed in the discourse I've read. Whether or not bookmarks are for readers... is really a moot point, isn't it? But asking them not to be cruel in their notes, as we are, is it truly so unreasonable? (Horribly optimistic, I know, but asking doesn't harm.)

--

Well... I think it's really a question of what "cruel" means to you, you know?

For me, direct insults to the author are too cruel. I'm talking stuff like "This stupid cunt can't write." Insult insults against their actual person, not just "I think this fic was poorly written". Threats are, of course, not acceptable.

I've been sent your post already, and I don't think I entirely agree with how you see bookmarks. Perhaps the tone of the pushback put your back up a bit, but underneath all that is a legitimate fundamental disagreement about what bookmarks are for and how much concrit or negativity should be visible publicly.

My view is that a very high level of concrit and even negative reviewing is fine in public... But not in the author's space.

The author's space is the comments on their fic, comments or reblogs on their posts, their email, etc. Basically, places you know will directly send the author notifications or emails to their inbox are places you post when you want to shove your comment in the author's eyeballs. I think unsolicited concrit and/or negative reviews are undesirable in such places.

Now, bookmarks on AO3, bookmarks on pinboard, recs posts on tumblr, recs communities on Dreamwidth, and the like are not the author's space. They're readers' spaces to discuss what they thought. It's true that sometimes what readers think hurts to hear. That's a good reason for authors to be careful about looking.

I do think that some AO3 users don't realize their bookmarks are public by default, and for them, a post like that is a good reminder.

But for others who are just using the bookmarks as fanfic Goodreads... that's what the bookmarking feature is for, and they're not doing anything incorrect.

So, again, does "cruel" mean insulting the author as a person, calling them rude words and slurs? Or does "cruel" mean bookmarking them with "1/5 stars, DNF, needs SPAG edit"?

AO3 has had an increased bullying problem in recent years, so I can well believe that people are getting bookmarks I too would consider cruel, full of personal attacks and anti bullshit. But I also see a lot of people calling "1/5 stars" cruel, and I'd consider that fair game and useful to other readers.

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But as for the virality part, it will probably die down before too long. Most people won't remember that you're the OP of that post or have any particular association with your username from it. Anything that involves feedback for fic or AO3 itself tends to make the rounds like wildfire and people have a lot of passionate opinions.

I think the worst thing you can do is get defensive. If most of the replies are agreeing with you already, it's kind of petty to be really upset about the 5 that aren't. Being petty tends to attract more wank than just going "Whatever. I've thought through my philosophy, and I'm sticking to it."

[badguns]

about me

21, she/her, south asian

used to be an og tumblr user from 2013, and now im back here

im american and studying abroad rn for my masters in biology so i'll talk about american politics. my family is south asian and jewish so please don't take offense if I make any jokes regarding that <3

i might seem mean but its all in good jest.

reblogging mostly aesthetic things regarding fashion, tv shows, kpop, anime, video games etc...might make a rant vlog sometime idk

btw I listen to literally every artist out there anything i say would be a joke

idc about followers or what now this place is just for fun. feel free to message me

dni/dnf if ur a terf, support israel, anti-feminism, incest-shipper, proshipper, and basic dni. DO NOT interact w me if you support anyone who was accused of SA and hasn't been proven innocent, i don't wanna deal with people that support shit

[kithmet]

CHRISSY I reread golden like daylight this morning at like 6 am so so so blearily amd captivated and it was so so so good all over again and I saw the quote I just reblogged and it reminded me SO MUCH of your writing like wow so I’m glad you saw it too. “of course you love me you’re wearing one of my socks” is so true to your dnf i i i i i

CHAR YOU ARE SO LOVELY 😭 YOU ANGEL! AND THAT IS SUCH A COMPLIMENT TOO... I am immensely honoured. I saw that quote and it fucking knocked me out, holy shit. Like yes, that is them.

I have oddly been thinking of that fic a lot today idk why, it’s so nice to see that it’s loved by people. :’) so much was put into that one and I’m glad you like it, I’m flattered. 💛

[kiloxy]

Dream’s Ambiguous Sexuality:

Disclaimer: This post is not about speculating about Dream’s sexuality. It’s not to label him, not to make any assumptions. It is just something I want to start a dialogue about.  This is important! I believe all Dream fans and fans in the dnf community need to read this!

I’ve wanted to make this post for a while but felt a little nervous to, but here we go. Here on tumblr I see people very respectful about Dream’s boundaries and his ambiguous sexuality. People will refrain from labeling him, or speculating about his sexuality. I think this is wonderful! It’s fantastic, but there is something I see a lot of people doing. 

I think it’s something easy to do without knowing, and I don’t blame anyone who does this for not knowing the effect it can have. Basically, while still respecting Dream’s boundaries and not speculating his sexuality, I still see something potentially harmful happening. And that’s expecting a label. An as someone with an ambiguous sexuality myself I’d like to say: 

An ambiguous sexuality is not the precedent to a label. 

An ambiguous sexuality should not come with the expectation of an eventual label.

Dream does not ever, ever have to have a label. He can just be someone with an ambiguous sexuality.

Him saying he has an ambiguous sexuality does not automatically mean he’s questioning. It does not automatically mean he’s searching for a label. It does not mean he will eventually come out as something. 

I’m not saying that he’s not questioning, I am just saying his ambiguous sexuality does not equal questioning. An ambiguous sexuality is not a means to an end. 

He may be questioning, he may eventually have a label for his sexuality, but he may also always have an ambiguous sexuality. And while I see people respecting him and not speculating I also see people unknowingly perpetuating the idea that it’s expected he eventually will have a label. That he will come out or that he is 100% questioning. 

This may be the case... but it’s also could not be! 

As someone with an ambiguous sexuality it’s hard. It’s hard because there’s always the idea that you will eventually find a label, that you are searching for one, questioning. And that can be stressful! 

Having an ambiguous sexuality may just mean that you are who you are. You don’t want a label. 

You can be comfortable with your sexuality, but when so many people expect an answer from you, are waiting for something more it’s discouraging. Labels can change so quick, some may not feel right, some may feel better than others, but constantly searching for the right one because people expect a label is tiring. There may not be one!

And why would you want to overthink it when you can just feel how you feel. 

Now this isn’t meant to attack anyone who does this, just to shine a light on it and open a dialogue. I myself, someone with an ambiguous sexuality, has probably been guilty of furthering this idea myself. It’s okay, it happens, but can we maybe be a little more cautious about it? Maybe double check the way we phrase things about his ambiguous sexuality. 

I’m a dnf shipper and I see this quite a bit in posts. It’s very subtle and easy to do, so I get it! But let’s try and be more on top of this and even just acknowledge that these unspoken expectations exist. Just being more aware about it is helpful! 

Ask yourself if you’ve unknowingly begun to expect a label someday. 

Have you accidentally written off the validity of an ambiguous sexuality? Have you just categorized him as someone closeted? Are you assuming he must be a certain kind of sexuality? Have you assumed he doesn’t know who he is? Who he can love?

These are all questions we should ask ourselves. There’s no shame if you’ve thought these things. Just be aware of them! Try and break these assumptions! Double check the way you phrase things, check in with yourself to see if you’re making assumptions. See if you can break them. 

These small assumptions that are unknowingly perpetuated lead to unpleasant shit. People who have an ambiguous sexuality may get questions like:

“So have you figured out what you are yet?”

“Are you gay?”

“You out yet?”

“You exploring your sexuality?”

“Any closer to figuring it out?”

Or worse when they start dating someone and it’s:

“Oh so you are gay!”

“So you’re straight!”

“You’re bi then!”

It’s not anyone’s place to say any of this. And I know it can come from a good place! And the love and support in this community is great. It’s so supportive and welcoming and I love it here so much. But,

If Dream does start dating someone, male or female, it’s not an answer or conclusion to his ambiguous sexuality. 

Let’s be aware of these assumptions we may hold about what an ambiguous sexuality is, so we can avoid situations and questions like the ones above! It can place pressure and expectation on someone to label themselves. Dream should be able to feel okay having an ambiguous sexuality forever. He shouldn’t feel like he should be searching for a label that works, like he needs to defend who he is by who he dates. 

Let’s go through some ways we can rephrase things better:

“I don’t want to speculate the sexuality of someone who is questioning.”

Can be, 

“I don’t want to speculate his sexuality, he might be questioning.”

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“He has said he has an ambiguous sexuality, he must be figuring himself out.”

Can be, 

“He has said he has an ambiguous sexuality, so let’s not apply labels.”

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“I don’t want to speak for someone who is searching for their sexuality.”

Can be, 

“He has stated he has an ambiguous sexuality. I am not going to assign a label or speak for his sexuality.”

These are some minor fixes! And they can make a world of a difference. And you can see the care and respect already used in the originals, they’re just a little misguided. 

It’s something I feel is looked over and needs to be said. Remember not to get down on yourself if you’ve made these assumptions or you’ve said these things, just work on breaking them! 

That concludes this post, 

If you have any questions, would like to start a conversation, have some input, or a reaction my inbox is open! 

And please share this, it needs to be heard. A reblog is free. 

[caseywond3r]

(this can now be read on my AO3, as well!!)

(started out as a reblog/response to this post by @phibii, but it got too long. still please go give the original post some love!!)

(also, please note that this is all in good fun. I don't actually ship DNF and I am not speculating about their sexualities or relationship. this is just a lighthearted drabble based on their internet personalities.)

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George sits in Dream's lap while he's editing. Dream isn't really sure why. It just started one day when George decided he wasn't getting enough attention because Dream was too focused on his work. He's like a cat. He wants Dream's attention any time he's busy. He's not even that clingy usually, but he gets frustrated when he doesn't at least have the option of having Dream's undivided attention. So, he sits in his lap while he edits.

Dream loses his shit a little bit at first, doing his, "what? WHAT?" that he always does when George flirts with him, but he's also so used to George's antics that after the first time it happens, he's just like, "Okay. I guess this is a thing now." It becomes one of their things, one of the thousand little rituals they share, and neither would ever admit to it, but they really enjoy it. It feels safe, it feels warm. It makes them feel closer to one another, not only physically, but emotionally. Maybe Dream even starts putting out more videos just because he knows that George will sit on his lap when he's busy with editing—though that's probably just wishful thinking on my part. And maybe he doesn't fully realise that it isn't a solely platonic affection because it's George, ya know? This is his best friend and he loves him dearly and it's normal to want to spend time together and be close to each other, ya know? And yeah, when Sapnap walks in on them like this, he makes fun of them, but what does he know? This is normal.

Except... A few days later, when Sapnap tries to sit on Dream's lap as a joke, to make fun of him for doing it with George, Dream pushes him off immediately. It doesn't feel all nice and warm and sweet with Sapnap. Not like it does with George, despite being equally as good of friends with Sapnap. That's when Dream finally realises, This isn't normal at all.

He's nervous now. He doesn't know what he's feeling and he doesn't know if he'll ever be able to label it. After all, it's always been there, hasn't it? He's always felt this way. He just didn't realise that what he was feeling wasn't normal.

He puts off recording for weeks on end. The fans are ticked. They're trying to be supportive of his break, but what can they say? They miss their streamer. After two months with zero YouTube videos, Dream runs out of excuses. He records his new video and dodges George's thinly veiled questions about when he plans to edit it, waiting until George is out with friends to do so.

The hours stretch on and Dream is getting more and more frustrated. His ADHD is flaring up. He can't focus on anything. Every click of his keyboard is too loud, every flash of his monitor is too loud. Something is just wrong and he's not stupid, he knows what it is, but he can't admit it. Because if he admits it, then it becomes real, and he's not ready for it to become real.

So, he sits, and he tries not to let the frustration spill out from his eyes, and he tries not to let his mind wander into wondering why he feels this way about his best friend. He hears the front door open and he can only hope that it's Sapnap because he hasn't gotten enough work done to go to bed now and hide under the covers and pretend he isn't awake when George comes in to check on him.

Unfortunately, Dream doesn't always get what he wants.

The door creaks open and Dream knows without even looking that it's George. He's the only one in the house who never learned how to knock. George pauses for a second in the doorway, noting Dream's screen curiously, before stepping forward into his line of sight.

"Dream?"

Dream's glassy, bloodshot eyes respond for him.

"Hey, what's wrong?" George asks. "Are you okay?"

"No," Dream snaps. "I'm not fucking okay. I can't fucking focus on any of this shit. I haven't gotten a single thing done tonight."

George steps ever closer, pulling Dream into a hug. With Dream in his desk chair, George finally gets to feel taller than him as he pulls Dream against him and feels his face press into his stomach. "It's okay, Dream. You're trying your best. Sometimes, you just need to call it quits and start again tomorrow."

"I can't. I've already put it off for too long."

"Well, then, at least let me keep you company."

"No." Dream rips himself away from George, pushing his chair back a few feet.

"Why not?"

"Because... Because... I don't feel right."

"What do you mean? Are you sick?"

"No, I'm not sick. Dammit, George, I just... I don't feel what I'm supposed to feel for you. I don't know what I feel at all."

George doesn't look disgusted, and Dream thinks he must've misunderstood him. If George knew about all of Dream's big, swirling, terrifying feelings, there's no way he'd be so steady. Almost like he's trying to calm a frightened animal, when he asks, "Does it matter?"

"What?"

"Whatever you feel, it isn't wrong. I feel it, too, I guess. And I don't know what it is either, but it doesn't really matter, does it? Because we both feel it. We both care a lot about each other and we both love to be around each other. How can that be wrong?"

Dream chews on the inside of his cheek, trying to think of all the million reasons why this is a terrible idea—whatever this is. He can't. He can't think of a single goddamn thing. Reluctantly, he pushes himself back toward George, opening his arms.

Instead of sitting on Dream's knee, facing the computer, like he normally does, George sits facing Dream, smaller thighs bracketing larger ones, and rests his head in the crook of Dream's neck, deep and slow breaths fanning out against the tanned skin.

It takes Dream a few minutes to find the courage to ask, "What are we?"

George pulls away from Dream's neck, giggling like that's the stupidest question he's ever heard. "We're us, idiot."

Dream chews on that for a second, lets the words perforate his stupid brain and calm the rushing blood in his ears. "I think I like that," he says finally.

"Yeah?"

"Yeah." He pulls George back in to rest against his neck, tucking his own face into the pillow of George's hair. "I like us."