#pseudosexuality moment

[follows-the-bees]

A while ago I made a post comparing character traits and audience reactions to them of SPN with OFMD (Dean is to Ed, Stede is to Cas (and Sam), and Izzy is to John) but left it at that. But as I'm writing fics about both of them I really am noticing the similarities even more and you know what, I do want to elaborate. Similar characters traits and then on audience perception/reaction.

Dean and Ed

Characteristics: both underneath it all are soft but have been forced to be hard due to the world/harsh circumstances they are in. When left to their own devices, they will always choose softness first. Both of them want a partner not just for physical intimacy but emotional, they want to be loved and really seen for who they are, not the mask they put up. (Sexual: both are shown with sub undertones)

The childhood trauma in both is strong and affects them as middle-aged adults. When they are in moments of high trauma they become selectively mute.

They also wear a (metaphorical) mask a lot of the time. Their main journey is growing and learning to be comfortable and love all aspects of themselves.

Audience perspection: some of the audience falls for that mask and think those are the traits of the characters. (I.e. Dean is some womanizer with toxic masculinity he never outgrows, Ed is a violent man, etc.) They can also be divisive and there's no in between: you either love or hate them.

Stede and Cas (and Sam)

Stede and Cas are outsiders in their worlds, just a little bit out of touch with it: Stede lives in books and fantasy and is forced into societal expectations that are not truly him. Cas is an angel who has to learn the world of humans. (both can be read as neurodivergent)

Audience perception: audiences often HC them as neurodivergent.

Sam, Cas, and Stede are also accused of being selfish (and while this isn't 100% true, it is not to the extreme as sole claim it to be). Selfish has a negative connotation, but both acted in a way to get away from a bad situation, last extreme action. Sam leaves for college to get away from the hunter life and home situation that makes him uncomfortable. Stede also does the same thing, he leaves his home life for the sea. It is years of built up frustration and a last resort to get out of there. (We even learn in the pilot: "do you want to live?" "I don't know!" And Cas will leave to try to do things so. His own. Not including Dean and Sam because he's trying to protect them.

Izzy and John

Characteristics: now you would think the comparison would end before it started with John being the literal father of Dean and Izzy being a father-figure to Ed, but my friend, you have not forgotten to exclude ships in your searches. *Shudders* also, Ed looks at Izzy as a father-figure, while Izzy looks at him in a pseudosexual power thing with the Blackbeard.

Both of them represent the old ways, the man up, pull-yourself-up-by-your-bootstraps toxic masculinity. John causes both parentification and enmeshment with his oldest, Dean, Izzy caused Ed to keep up the Blackbeard persona for years past when he wanted/needed to. Izzy was based on Iago from Othello, and Salieri from Amadeus.

Audience: both are canonically abusive, emotionally and John is implied physically as well. Izzy is shown being physically abusive to others Fang and Black Pete. But a small group of fans will hand wave the abuse of both with the "they were just trying to do their best — trying to keep the subjects (of their abuse) alive in a rough world."

[stormbreaker101]

actually i have full on thoughts about wizbat specifically w nora. gonna put them under a cut bc they may get long and they will veer towards some potentially nsft topics. you have been warned.

also this post mostly focuses on nora rather than batsy.

So. Nora is ace, 100%, but the Cave Scene definitely taught her something about herself. She absolutely enjoyed that moment, as embarrassing as it is to admit it. She tried to file that moment away as like 'oh obviously that's just... another part of romance. Another part of having a totally normal crush on someone. Anyway no time to dwell on that, we have a Spiral to save. Mellori stop asking me why I'm blushing.'

See, I think Nora is asexual, as in she doesn't feel sexual attraction to others typically, nor is she into any of the 'typical' actions or bodyparts. However, she isn't against participating in pseudosexual actions with a select few people, like the Cave Scene. She reciprocates, without ever outright going down.

She's absolutely more domme leaning. Bat was not an exception by any means. She thrives in the mix between having her own autonomy and control, and being given the trust and permission of her partners. They love and need her, of course she'll honor their desires, in a way that doesn't compromise her own boundaries. She doesn't want to deal with any nether parts (her own or her partners') but hey that leaves the rest of the body and magic as free real estate.

Also like, Nora can't help it that Bat and Renee are just the cutest and sweetest and most flusterable nerds out there. <3 (get other OC jumpscared lol)

There's also absolutely the element of 'former child soldier'-ism going on. Nora is used to causing harm. Combat is the name of the game. But typically that aggression is reserved for enemies. People that Nora has to stop, one way or another. So the fact that her partners don't mind- nay, want- her to be rough with them is a change of pace. It's a literal perversion (as in, deviation and recontextualization) of a duty and responsibility that Nora has had to carry on her shoulders for years. She's wanted and desired for her strength, not as a weapon to be aimed at others, but as a partner. She's being seen in a way she typically isn't.

I think all of this applies threefold after Nora's fall into and escape from the Abyss. The Abyss is a force that wants her to be aggressive and monstrous and hungering and hunting. Nora doesn't want to lose her humanity by giving in to the Abyss's desires too much. But her partners have already proved that Nora's roughness and aggression is something desirable, acceptable, human. She's not a monster, she's the same Nora they love, as a person and equal and subs to her ace domme.

Obviously there's more to Nora's romantic-ish relationships (i say -ish bc Nora and Bat do end up not as a normal romantic thing, but as some qpr friends with benefits with love that transcends mortal definitions) that Im not touching on in this post. There are of course times where Nora wants to be given gentility rather than trust. Times where she wants someone to hold her for a change. It's just that those dynamics never touch upon sexuality. Because she's ace. Plain and simple.

[shehungthemoon]

Aw hi!!! Ty ty for the tag 🥰🎀 & do you mean... Africa by TOTO?!!? Iconic omg

Last song: Hip Hop Hooray by Naughty by Nature

Favorite color: Always changing! Feeling teal at the moment I think though!

Currently watching: Jumping thru some old episodes of ATLA and catching up on Cobra Kai!

Sweet/savory/spicy: Hmmm. I think as I age I'm tending more toward savory! Sugar's a bad promise now.

Relationship status: Currently in pseudosexual relationships with half a dozen tumblr mutuals...

Current obsession: For some reason I've fallen back into harringrove the past few days? Like DEEP. Out of nowhere. They're so stupid good. (And also, more overwhelming and seriously, my Judaism. IF THAT COUNTS lmao)

Last thing I googled: lol "police officer vs sheriff"

Tagging a few fav people that I've been seeing around lately! @cyanocitta-cristata-bromia @midnightestsun @mirabilefuturum @adizzyninja @camshaft22 @alcibiades-hacks-it

Tag game! nine people you’d like to get to know better

Thanks for the tag @laurenshippen I haven't done a tag game in FOREVER!

last song: "Hold Me Tight Or Don't" by Fall Out Boy

favorite color: shifts between shades of blue/green but rn I am digging Forest Green or Teal!

currently watching: nothinggggg D: I usually follow one tv series at a time and I am in between shows! WWDITS when will you return from the war

sweet/savory/spicy: I have such a sweet tooth

relationship status: :)

current obsession: still in my Baldur's Gate 3 hyperfixation

last thing you googled: how to get a specific achievement in BG3 LOOK I can stop any time!!!

tagging (only if ya want to!): @chemicallywrit, @lookingstunning, @fyeahaudiodrama, @itmeblog, @thefearandnow @the-sassy-composer, @saucymincks, @boombox-fuckboy, @see-arcane

[centrumlumina]

I didn’t want to have to say this, but: anyone who thinks that the Boathouse Scene was a “Girlboss moment” has completely missed the point of Katya’s character arc and, frankly, the movie as a whole.

Katya’s arc is about the ways that her life is defined by the men around her. Goncharov, Andrey, Valery - they all have their own ideas of how she should act, who she should be. She doesn’t want to be a housewife, but in the strictly gendered society she lives in, she isn’t allowed to seek fulfilment beyond that.

The subtext of the conversation in the market is pretty blatant - Katya wants to be allowed to discover who she really is away from the obligations of her family, lovers, and husband. Sofia giving her the apple represents the offer of that freedom. Some people have interpreted this as a temptation - the serpent with Eve, and all the pseudosexual tension that implies - but I view it as an intentional subversion of that image, given the way Sofia is haloed in light throughout the scene. (The homoeroticism is real, though!)

I can see where some people get confused by the ending, because Katya does successfully escape her domestic life - but she doesn’t achieve that through the spiritual offer of self-knowledge Sofia represents! Her love for Goncharov and Andrey won’t allow that. Instead she betrays Sofia and winds up in the boathouse, holding the gun; the men around her have finally dragged her into their life of violence. She might survive the end of the movie, but she has lost everything she cared about, and instead of pursuing the independence she initially wanted, it’s implied (I heard confirmed in a cast interview? if anyone has a source for that let me know!) that she returns to Russia to pursue further vengeance.

Katya’s story arc is not about her being a Girlboss - she isn’t beating the men at their own game, or if she is it’s not a game worth playing. Katya is a tragedy, and a warning about the way the violence of men damages the women around them. Killing is never something to aspire to - it is only, as Valery says, “a clock ticking down to midnight.”

[nikadd]

i only care about drama and having fun on the internet which is why i propose that jensen ackles should guest star on succession. im thinking he should be a beto o'rourke-type hot texas presidential hopeful democrat running against the roys' far right choice (you tell him he's gonna be texan and he would sign up asap)

here are my ideas for how the characters would have scenes/storylines with him:

logan: wishes that man didn't exist. i want the word "euthanize" to come out of brian cox's mouth.

connor: is 100% sure that he's a communist.

kendall: they went to college together. kendall keeps bringing up college-time memories and events in a very awkward and swagless way. jensen's character also has daddy issues so they gotta talk abt it at some point in some fucked up way. i think they should get drunk and just sit against a wall and talk shit about their fathers.

roman: on a recon mission to find out what's the deal with this dude bc roman's in a pseudosexual relationship with that nazi guy and so he has to protect his interests. a yet another homoerotic scene set in a public bathroom.

shiv: trying to use her democratic connections. they probably fucked a long time ago. she thinks it might work on him but no dice.

tom: somehow bothered over everyone talking how hot that guy is. has come up with a few choice fanciful words and descriptions for him. as he's team logan rn, has to deal with that dude but also delegates some of it to greg.

greg: is somehow almost recruited into jensen's character's campaign staff????? like he's having his west wing moment.

[pansexual-pied-piper]

I thought I would share this with people bc it's goddamn hilarious. It's from the AIDS Project Newsletter (1988), the entire thing can be found here:

https://digitalcommons.usm.maine.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1013&context=aids_newsletter

(Excuse the ugly link, I'm on mobile. Also shoutout to @posi-pan whom I stole the link off of and whose blog y'all should check out.)

A SEXUAL GLOSSARY By Diane White

Sexuality seems to get more and more confusing every day. There's the Boy George look, Michael Jackson as Peter Pan, Annie Lennox as him/herself, actors playing women, actresses playing men, bi's, trannies, androgynes, one-sex-fits-all.

Where will it all end? It probably never will. Meanwhile, here's a short glossary to help those who may be bewildered by the new trends and terms.

Ambisexual: Someone who is sexual on both the right and the left sides.

Antisexual: One who is militantly opposed to sex in any form.

A-sexual: Better than B-sexual or C-sexual. The highest grade.

Autosexual: (a) A person who wants himself all to himself, or (b) someone drawn to cars.

Bisexual: A person who engages in sexual activity once every two years. (See "semisexual" for comparison.)

Cinesexual: One who is addicted to sex in movies.

Circumsexual: (a) A person who is sexual on all sides, or (b) someone who likes to give others the runaround.

Disexual: A passionate admirer of the Princess of Wales.

Exsexual: Someone who engages in sex with a former spouse.

Extrasexual: (a) Somebody extremely sexy, or (b) a person who has a fling with a being from outer space, then sells his or her story to the National Enquirer.

Hypersexual: One who exaggerates his or her experience.

Hypnosexual: Someone who puts his or her partner to sleep. (Compare to "narcosexual")

Insexual: The opposite of outsexual, used to describe anything that's fashionable at the moment, such as androgyny.

Maxisexual: Popular leading man in countless X-rated movies.

Megasexual: Elephants. Whales too. And hippopotamuses.

Minisexual: What turns Mickey on.

Narcosexual: A person who falls asleep during sex.

Nonsexual: Someone who never says "Oui"

Omnisexual: People who are excited by back copies of Omni magazine.

Pansexual: Someone who emulates Michael Jackson.

Parasexual: (a) One who is qualified to advise about sex but not to engage in it, or (b) someone who engages in sex while (1) sky-diving or (2) holding a small umbrella to ward off the sun.

Phonosexual: A person who likes to talk about it on the telephone, preferably long-distance.

Pixisexual: One who is fond of elves. Polysexual: One who is turned on by manmade fibers.

Prosexual: (a) Someone in favor of sex, or (b) a classification (compared, for example, to "semiprosexual).

Protosexual: Pertaining to sexual etiquette.

Pseudosexual: A person who pretends to be interested in sex but isn't.

Quasisexual: (a) Something resembling sex, or (b) a person who's all talk.

Resexual: Somebody who's middle-age crazy.

Retrosexual: Someone who fantasizes about sex during the 50's.

Semisexual: One who engages in sex twice a year.

Stereosexual: A person who insists on wearing his Sony Walkman at all times.

Subsexual: (a) Sex involving small cars, or (b) what Robert Mitchum was in "The Enemy Below".

Synsexual: Something you shouldn't be doing.

Tautosexual: Pertaining to the pointless repetition of sex.

Trisexual: A person with whom sex is a trying experience.

[formshaper-a]

[ PULL ]:  sender  pulls  receivers  hair. - Alan @ Merrick

It was the kind of weird, pseudosexual move that powerful men liked to pull to prove they were a threat. Merrick had seen his fair share of that kind of thing in the army: angry men liked to get physical, to bully up into each other's space and lay hands on each other to see who would freeze first. He'd never had much care for it then and had even less for it now. It was cold enough and high enough up here that his brain felt sluggish and frostbitten. His nerves felt like someone had gone over them with sandpaper, every sound or touch amplified: the lightest spark of pain felt like someone putting out cigarettes on his skin. Alan's hand yanking his hair was like a wildfire.

Refusing to give him the satisfaction of crying out, Merrick grabbed for the handle of his cane before he could go completely off balance--and drove it up hard into the underside of Alan's chin. If it came to real blows he didn't know what chance he'd stand. Ex-Navy or not, he had barely been able to walk for over a year and that kind of stillness made your muscles waste away.

But the moment his cane connected with Alan's jaw, Merrick felt powerful in a way he hadn't in years. The risk was worth it, just to feel strong again.

"Try that again," he warned, injecting as much frost into his voice as he could, "And we're going to have a problem."

[mars-ipan]

talking to my mom is such a blast. meeting of the minds

[mars-ipan]

ough periods are SO weird when ur genderfluid and sex ambivalent

[mars-ipan]

been drawing on a discord call and actually like most of the things i made. so now tumblr gets an art dump

my comms r open btw ^_^

[mars-ipan]

so i'm really normal about @spinecurlingmice's magikink au and think about it a regular amount. happy fingers in his ass sunday btw <3

[mars-ipan]

“how are you into that that’s so gross” exactly. that’s what makes it hot. keep up

[mars-ipan]

collar with an engraved tag on it but instead of “SLUT” or “PUPPY” it says “CHEW TOY”

[mars-ipan]

i don’t smoke for several reasons (one of which being my lungs can sometimes just choose to damage themselves on their own) but sometimes i think about shotgunning and like….

ough

[mars-ipan]

MICEYS MAGIKINK COMPILATION WHO CHEERED

[mars-ipan]

Priest AU has consumed me. I was wondering whether to be anonymous, but I have E rated fics on AO3, so I think it won’t matter.

I just keep thinking about Hajime going back home after one of his lowkey sensual sessions with Komaeda, and he just, he *has* to. So he rushes to bed, and rips off his pants and underwear. He thinks about how he was kneeling right in front of Komaeda, how is crotch was in front of him and how hard he tried not to imagine something in his mouth. But now his mouth is empty and the only thing he has is his pillow to bite into. He strokes himself and his noises are muffled by the pillow, at what point the friction is too much so he scrambles for the unscented lotion at his bedside drawer for totally not sinful acts. And now that it’s slicker it’s better, but it’s not enough. His mind wanders to the magazine he found a way back, to the spread of a man nude and spread open on someone’s cock. Immediately, without thinking, he brings two of his fingers to his raised ass, stroking over his rim. He scared to go any further, but even that feels good, he can’t help but imagine what it would feel like to be breached. And he imagines Pastor Komaeda. Sweet, beautiful, forgiving Pastor Komaeda on top of him as he fills him with his cock, how he would encourage him and say how well he’s taking him. Or he’ll be disappointed, but thinking about his condescending tone over how dirty Hajime is only makes him closer to the edge. He would be used anyways, he thinks as he remains on his knees with his ass in the air, pumping his cock and braving his fingers over his pucker. And when he imagines Komaeda’s seed filling him, Hajime cries out into the damp pillow as he comes over his sheets. Immediately after his high the guilt crashes into him. He can’t believe he did something so sinful, even escalated more than usual. He needs to confess the Paster Komaeda as soon as he can. He will be so disappointed in him he’s sure.

Anyways, tldr, Hajime bigger fantasies about Komaeda lol. I have a dirty mind, and it has been enabled. I just hope people won’t blame me for being this explicit on main lol

this is such a yummy ask to get at ten in the morning