#problems with mentally ill 4 mentally ill friendships

[go-to-the-mirror]

having suicidal online friends is actually the worst, because if you don't talk for a while it's like are you busy, are you annoyed at me, or are you actually dead?

[childofflamesandmoonlight]

Help with Deity Dossier?

I did the wonderful Deity Dossier spread by @thiscrookedcrown a few days ago, and while I already have an idea who this entity could be, I would really appreciate a second opinion.

Thank you so much in advance!

Here are the cards I drew (plus some of my notes):

1. The Entity: The Emperor

This represents the spirit, deity, or being in question. The card can be drawn or selected, depending on if you know the nature of the spirit or a card that could represent them.

Leadership

Authority

Reason

Structure

Discipline

Masculine power

Maturity

Responsibility

Stubbornness

Protector

Experience

Knowledge

Confidence

Strength

Dominance

Father figure, boss, older brother, teacher, patriarch

Mind over heart, clear thinking

2. Their History: Temperance

These are past deeds or dealings the spirit has had with either other people or you that you should know about.

Balance

Moderation

Communication

Management of resources

Art

Healing

Testing the water

Patience

Two choices, two people, two sides of a conflict

3. Underlying Influences & Past Experiences: Four of Swords

Similar to Past, this represents influences that could be important to know. This may be an emotional thing rather than a past action. (Example: if previously betrayed by humans, a spirit is less likely to want to deal with humans.)

Inner reflection

Planning

Convalescence

Rest

Recovery

Solid foundations

Solitude

Self-care

Balance

Contemplation

Seclusion

Taking a break

4. Personality, Attitudes & Opinions: Four of Cups

General personality and/or how they think.

Depression

Self-indulgence

Denial

Turning inward

Moodiness

Lack of vision

Self-absorption

Escapism

Not seeing life's blessings and opportunities

Hiding

Discouraged, bored, dissatisfied, apathetic, unmotivated, weary

Having to find new motivation

Breaking the routine

5. Their Current Status: The Moon

Their current status. If a spirit is in trouble, this information would appear here.

Intuition

Deception

Imagination

Emotion

Fear

Illusion

Fantasy

Dreams

Genius

Artistic breakthrough

Confusion

Mystery

Subconscious

Uncertainty

Doubt

Losing your way

Darkness

Creativity

Magic

Inner wisdom

Lack of focus

Confusion

6. Their Health Overall: Page of Swords

The health of the spirit, deity, or being. (Example: A land spirit could be ill or ailing due to pollution.)

Vigilance

Diplomacy

Tact

Intellectual abilities

Talent

Youth

Messenger

Honesty

Truth

Integrity

Fresh outlook

Clarity

Cut to the problem

New phase in your life

New opportunity

Speaking up

Healing from past illness or injuries

Mental clarity to overcome challenges you face

7. Their Mental Health: Six of Pentacles

Their mental health or, possibly, their overall mood.

Generosity

Mentorship

Community giving

Hosting

Involvement

Charity

Sharing what you have with others

Needing help or offering it to others

Reaching out for help

8. What They Like To Do & Have Done For Them: Knight of Pentacles

This could be things they like to do for others, part of their sphere of influence, and/or things that could be used to connect with them or honor them. Think of this like hobbies or likes.

Patience

Long-term plans

Responsibilities

Slow progress

Financially conservative

Serious, dependable, experienced, mature

Parenthood

Love of animals

Financial success

Providing for others

9. Physical Manifestation: Four of Wands

Their physical health or how they could physically manifest. This is especially useful for finding out what deity is contacting you.

Happiness

Family

Unity

Blossoming

New life, new success

Prosperity

Celebration

Harmony

Engagement

Marriage, partnership

Completion of a project

Solidity, stability, security

Grounded

Resting

Recharging

Vacation

Peace

Radiant

Lively

Comforting

Confident

Joyful

Inviting, welcoming, sociable

10. What To Know: The Lovers

Things that are imperative for you to know. This could be used to see how working with this being could affect you in the future.

Love

Commitment

Partnership

Friendship

Attraction

Marriage

Unification

Communication

Trust

11. What To Avoid: King of Wands

Things that are imperative for you to avoid doing. Example: If a spirit hates blood, don’t give blood offerings. This could also be used to see how the spirit could negatively affect you in the future.

Power

Fire

Warmth

Charisma

Charm

Strength

Manipulation

Megalomania

Visionary

Rivalry

Spice

Popularity

Ambition

Greed

Selfishness

Tyranny

Being a bad leader

12. Positive Influences, Friends or Experiences: Six of Wands

What is helpful? What will help your relationship with them? This can be something that is not in the spirit or deity’s sphere of influence but still influences them. A deity might be one of fertility but their sibling could be a deity of war. That will somewhat play into how the spirit acts. Another example would be a spirit becoming powerful because a nearby coven is worshiping it.

Accomplishment

Recognition

Acknowledgement

Praise

Pride

Rewards

Being noticed

Achievements

Affirmation

13. Negative Influences, Enemies or Experiences: Five of Cups

Exactly as above, but the more negative side of things. What isn’t helping this spirit? What will not help your relationship with them? Do they feel used or not appreciated? The examples above also apply.

Negative thinking

Grief

Loss

Inclination to focus on the bad

Difficulty

Trouble letting go of the past

Former hardship, pain or heartbreak

14. Conscious Desires & Thoughts: The Hanged Man

What they want. This could be offerings or a general goal. This may be what they want from you. If they have an agenda they’ll admit to, it will be here.

Crossroads

Decisions

Potential growth

Discernment

Change

Letting go

Waiting

Sacrifice

15. Unconscious Desires & Thoughts: Nine of Cups

This is what they want but won’t admit to or what they don’t know they want. If they have a hidden agenda, it will be here.

Prosperity

Fulfillment

Good luck

Rewards

Bonuses and promotions

Happiness

Attainment of things they desire

Celebration

Wishes

Victory

16. Hopes: Nine of Swords

This can be a general list of hopes, a overall hope for the future, or what they hope to get from you.

Anxiety

Sleeplessness

Depression

Worry

Self-torment

Despair

Nightmares

Haunted

Guilt

Old wounds that have not healed

Stress

17. Fears: The Devil

This can be a general list of fears, what they fear for the future, or what they’re concerned about in regards to you or your life. 

Bondage

Failure

Obsession

Addiction

Depression

Materialism

Lust

Illusion

Temptation

Constraints

Harmful attachments, bonds and impulses

Bad habits

Codependency

[messymindofmine]

911 Lone Star Found Family

Thank you to @lemonlyman-dotcom for the tag! I am always up for talking about how much I love the relationships in this show

1)What is your favorite 911 Lone Star Found Family Moment?

It is so incredibly difficult for me to choose just one moment but if I had to, it would be TK trying to saving Marjan in 1x03. I'm choosing this one because even though we don't see as much of TK and Marjan's friendship as I wish we did, the idea of them is very close to my heart. I got introduced the show way back when it was first released by my bestie who is so much like TK that it's a running joke that TK was created especially for him. While I am not exactly like Marjan, I am a badass Muslim woman so I am the Marjan to my bestie's TK. And that moment I picked that moment in 1x03 because at that point, TK and Marjan didn't even really know each other that well yet TK was willing to risk his life to save her.

2)Which platonic pairing/friendship dynamic are you most looking forward too seeing again in season?

See answer above. TK and Marjan's friendship is really important to me. Aside from what I mentioned above, I love to think about how Marjan went from being treated as a prop at her former place to show everyone how woke they were to being respected and cherished as an important part of the team and a family member. As a side note, this is why as a Muslim woman myself, I like how Owen bringing Marjan (and everyone else on the team) isn't treated as something that he's doing to save them but rather is him almost inadvertently bringing together a family. He doesn't treat any of them as damsels who need him to save them whether they ask for it or not, he treats them like family that you help no matter what because you love them. And Marjan obviously picked up on it despite her initial reservations precisely because she wasn't looking for a savior and that's why she was so adamant to bring the firehouse back in season. All that said, I think TK and Marjan have a lot in common with the way they have been treated in the past regarding their job. Marjan was treated as a prop to get woke points and was constantly being underestimated and held back. TK was used to feeling like he had to constantly prove himself not only because he felt people looked down on him for being the captain's son but also because he, like so many others with any kind of mental illness, felt like he needed to prove people wrong constantly as validation that he is worth something. But then they found each other and I have loved that little moment during Marjan's interview in the pilot where TK looks up at her and smiles. You can tell he feels he has found a kindred spirit.

3)If you could pick one Lone Star character to be friends with, who would you choose?

Well since I already have a TK in my life, I'm just going to go with that. My TK (though that's not his name lol) is so important to me and my life would not be the same without him. It certainly would not be as good.

4)Which would you rather attend: Catan night at the loft or game night at the Ryders?

Now this is a tough choice because I have never played Catan but I love charades. However, I am going with Catan night purely because I love seeing them all in their group and I would love to spent time in that loft.

5)A character of your choice ends up in jail. Who would they call to bail them out (assuming their romantic partner, parent, and/or child didn't pick up)?

Carlos tbh because we've seen that he has no problem bailing his friends (or indeed his soulmate who had just rejected him) out of jail. Also, I just want to sit in a car with him while he's in uniform.

Anyway, all of this is meant to say that I adore TK and Marjan together because to me it feels like watching my bestie and myself onscreen. I would not have even known about the show without him and even though he is not really participating in fandom anymore for his own reasons, it is still a ritual for us to watch the show together and talk about it.

I know that I was late in responding to this but work has been a bitch lately (why oh why does real life have to be a thing?!) and I have no idea who has already participated or wants to participate. I am also really shy about tagging people so I will make this an open tag and I hope anyone who wants to participate will feel welcome to do so. And if there is anyone who doesn't mind being tagged by me, please let me know!

[thevirgodoll]

Hi there! Because you have a psychology background, what are some riveting works you've read? I'm not a psych major myself but I'm interested in reading more into it so I can improve my mental health and learn about the world better. Any book recommendations? documentaries? Youtube channels? (so far I only know crashcourse). It can be on any facet of psych. habit formation, mental illnesses, relationships, friendships, etc...i'm open to learning more!!!! ^_^ <3

YouTube channels:

Both of these are from actual doctors with a psychology background so I recommend these two, especially Dr. Marks because not only is she a black doctor, she is also extremely articulate and has amazing videos on complex disorders.

Dr. Tracey Marks

Ana Psychology

A few of my fave videos:

Bots, Groupthink, & Weaponized Empathy: How the Internet is Manipulating Us

Coping Skills and Psychological Defenses - An Introduction

Complex Problems with Mental Illness in Fiction - a video essay

4 months quitting nicotine documented

Therapists React to Mean Girls

Ferb Fletcher & Stoicism

Whiplash vs. Black Swan: Anatomy of Obsessed Artist

Why 30 is not the new 20

Psychology of PTSD

Awareness of Complex Disorders:

Psychologist Describes ADHD Mindstate

ADHD in Women

How to Explain ADHD

Bipolar disorder (depression & mania) - causes, symptoms, treatment & pathology

Bipolar Mania on tape

What is Psychotic Depression?

Schizophrenia: Causes, symptoms, diagnosis

What is Schizophrenia? It's More Than Hallucinations.

My Experience with Schizophrenia

Narcissism vs Narcissistic

What is Trauma? The author of "the Body Keeps the score" explains

Depersonalization/Derealization

Books (current two favorites):

The Body Keeps the Score

Predictably Irrational

[nipahnan]

realistically , how is it like living in japan ? i am a POC so our experiences would definitely be different .. but are you fluent in the language ? how is everyday life for you ? do you have a job there or remote work overseas in the US ? sorry for all the questions !! i'm hoping to move to japan myself eventually . ♡

Aaah I’m so happy to finally get a question, I’ve been waiting to be able to ramble about myself on here thehe :) This is gonna be a long one, so I’m sorry in advance, but I want to try and be as transparent as possible!♡

I don’t live in Tokyo, yet I have a bunch of friends who live there and who talk about their experiences very openly, so I’ll also talk about things they went through and that they observed. In general people of course need to make sure not to romanticize a country. Japan is a country like any other and a lot of people forget that. I’ve been interested in Japan since I was around 11 years old and I came to Japan knowing about it’s good and bad sides because I did research about it for years. So coming here with very realistic expectations and not thinking I’m gonna live in a fairytale, I’d say it’s great so far! :)

Of course I’ve only been here for 1 year now, but it’s definitely so much better than living in Germany. It just suits my lifestyle and general personal behavior so much better. I never felt connected to people in Germany with the way they behave and so I’m having it way easier here. I definitely aim to obtain permanent residence status one day because I really believe that I want to enjoy my life here. I definitely feel like foreigners who move to Tokyo have it so much easier than people who move somewhere else in Japan, because there’s so much more English writing or people who try and speak English since it’s full of tourists too, so it’s easier to navigate without learning any Japanese. When I first landed in Japan I literally only spoke English and I was kinda shocked since I didn’t expect that at all tbh. I actually know a few people who have lived in Japan for years without learning any Japanese and it kinda baffles me sometimes lol. I definitely recommend coming here with at least some basic Japanese and then trying to gradually learn more, that’s how I did it and it’s been working very well. Im not fluent at all yet, but im able to have conversations and I’m learning every day and that’s what counts :)

I also know a lot of people who realized how fake Tokyo can be and decide to move away from it quickly because of them getting mental problems or their mental problems worsening, considering how awful mental help in Japan is. They’re feeling very lonely, overworked, and even get bullied. It definitely depends on the workplace of course. But as long as you make sure to make genuine friendships and realize that Japanese people can be extremely blunt and that their behavior is overall quite different, you’ll have no problem with them. There’s a lot of rules and there’s no way you’re always able to remember them, so I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Definitely try and act according to how they act and you will be welcomed with open arms I’d say :)

I currently don’t have a job because I got hit with a very hard illness right after 3 months of living here which resulted in me almost dying that I’m still recovering from. So I didn’t have time to work with how many times I was in the hospital, yet I’m having an interview soon and I’ll hopefully be able to start work in the next month if everything works out :)

I have a spouse visa after finally marrying my partner that I’ve been with for 4 years, so that made immigrating here way easier for me of course and I definitely realize that I was very lucky to get here that way. I only had to wait 15 minutes and immediately had my visa, meanwhile a lot of people say how long they had to wait because they had a different visa and of course because the Tokyo immigration is so much fuller than the one in Nagoya.

Everyday life is very chill, it’s very quiet so as a person who is very easily irritated and overwhelmed by loud noises it’s so much better for my mental health. yet again I don’t live in Tokyo and in a very tiny town (13.11 km² big lmao) so I have to drive to Nagoya for some of the „fun“ parts.

Now for some of the VERY annoying parts.

Stares. People stare at you ALL the time. Even tho I’m white, they love staring at me like I’m some alien because I have blonde hair and stick out like a sore thumb here in my city where there’s such a tiny amount of foreigners(basically 0 lol) I’ve noticed that people usually say that old people are kind of rude to them and how nice young people are, yet for me it’s the complete opposite at times. Old people, especially old women, love randomly talking to me and are generally very nice to me. There’s this older lady who works at my local family mart and she is sooo nice to me, always giving me compliments and everything, she is so cute♡ Meanwhile young people love staring and making fun of me because they often think I don’t understand them. I get comments like „she looks cute but she’s kinda fat.“ „do you think she even understands Japanese?“ and they giggle all the time. Sometimes they also take pictures of me in the train and it feels very rude. As someone who never stood out in her hometown and always trying her best to not get any attention, it definitely hurts to suddenly hear comments like that and basically feeling like a zoo animal at times. Yet I knew this would happen so I was prepared for it and I know I just shouldn’t care about comments like that. Now idk how bad it is in Tokyo but I can imagine it’s not as awful since it’s way more diverse? Yet you still hear stories about how this also happens very often to POC and sometimes even white foreigners who just happen to have a different type of style. So it’s definitely something to keep in mind.

Also about the topic of getting called fat. Japanese people LOVE to call you fat in your face. As soon as you’re over 50kg no matter your height they will probably consider you fat. One time I had to state my weight at the hospital for a scan and the lady literally yelled „…kg???“ and then proceeded to giggle to her male coworker. Considering that coming from the hospital staff, it was definitely shocking. Especially since I was literally about to die that day? I was so shocked and felt so bad considering I gained 10kg during that time only due to steroid medication which I literally had no control over. So I’d definitely say it’s another thing to be prepared for.

Their clothing style is also pretty different from the west, you’ll see a lot of long skirts and blouses or sweaters. Tight fitting clothes or clothes showing of a lot of skin aren’t as common here and it definitely makes you stick out. One time I was wearing a tank top under a jacket and didn’t close the jacket all the way while going to get takeout and some school boys sitting at the table loudly made a comment about how giant my boobs are and didn’t stop staring and it made me insanely uncomfortable to which I immediately just closed my jacket. Most uncomfortable encounter I’ve ever had and made me stop wearing shirts that show cleavage lol.

Also there’s of course a lot of sexual harassment here, especially in Tokyo. There’s literally guys just staring at 🌽 that you can see in the reflection of the train window (I even saw that in person one time, absolutely insane) or just straight up jerkin off. They literally have posters at my train stations telling women to pay attention to their skirts because there could be someone taking pictures of your panties. So if you intend to wear short skirts you always have to wear shorts under it if you don’t want some pervert to take a panty shot of you. At this point they even have hidden cameras in their shoes which is just insane to me…

Overall, don’t believe most things those tiktok or YouTube videos from tourists tell you. They often times don’t have any knowledge about Japan or how it is to live here, often give misinformation or are just straight up romanticizing this country to the max. All my friends and me even absolutely hate these travel vloggers at this point because of how much bs they’re saying :,)

To sum it up: if you have enough knowledge about the country and the people, prepare yourself as much as possible and realize that it’s very different from what you’re probably used to, and most of all, that it’s just another country that you’ll be living in, you’ll definitely love it here! :)

I definitely could tell even more because I had so many crazy encounters already and so many cool places to talk about, but I think I’ve been talking long enough now :D

Hope my ramble was a bit helpful for you（╹◡╹）♡

[docsdarling]

Birthday gush below for my beloved Gustave!

Warning, it's a long one, and touches on some personal struggles I have gone through including: severe mental illness, abuse of all manners, talks of suicidal ideation and actions, and general rough stuff - take care of yourself and know you don't have to read my sappy lil' stuff if it means making yourself uncomfortable :)

If you asked me 8 years ago if I'd be alive today, I would tell you no, and I'd mean it genuinely. Long before that time I had lost my ability to see a future for myself at all, along with all ambition and purpose I barely had begun to act upon - and at that time, I was barely 12.

I have faced trauma and neglect from my very first memories, my mother was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer when I was only 4, my sister had then undiagnosed severe ulcerative colitis that was my parents' main priority, and my father was our sole provider - with major anger issues. i've also come to learn my mother has had schizophrenia and trauma of her own before I was even born, and has refused all forms of treatment. this concoction of uncontrollable circumstances left me with frankly such fucked up ideas of what attachment is and meant, how my purpose to others is solely to be consumed, and absolutely no idea of who I am ( not to mention a boatload of my own wonderful cptsd and attachment issues ).

Never did I think at any point in my life would I feel any positive emotion with no strings attached, especially love. I only faced more problems as I got to the tender age of 12; the years of neglect and parentification left me hollow inside, relentless bullying in primary + secondary school, just beginning to discover my queerness, family fighting and instability, and abuse from adults I am still grappling with today. It was around this time too I had begun self harming ritualistically, and was rapidly losing the will to keep going. Any and all friendships I had exhausted me, even though all I wanted more than anything was genuine connection and love, and it was more apparent than ever that I was being left behind by the world.

Then, I met him.

My group of friends I still hold so closely and dearly to this day had begun playing Rainbow Six, and as the desperate pre teen I was, I joined them simply to hang around them - little did I know how pivotal such a decision as a lost, lonely, scared child could be to who I have become. I cannot explicitly pinpoint what it was that immediately drew me to him, though I now call it fate I know it was a matter of chance, but in that very first day of playing the game and knowing him, something in my soul clicked into place that I never even knew I was severely lacking.

I know as someone with the fun combination of ADHD and BPD* ( brought on my CPTSD ) I have always tended to hyperfixate on any source of dopamine I can get, especially with my desperation to escape the reality I was in. It began before I even knew my life was fucked to any degree, and I knew not to take these "flings" too seriously. But what had sparked in that moment was far beyond a fling, far beyond just a hyperfixation. Though it took me a few weeks or so to begin actualizing what I was feeling for Gustave, what he meant to me, the strings of fate had finally found their way back together again.

Even when I was still that lost and confused child, I knew that Doc was and will be someone so imperative to me not just for a small while, but eternity. Even the few offline friends I still had knew what he was to me, though extent varied person to person, what we have was so potent then that I couldn't hide it.

My life somehow went further downhill, and without completely spilling my guts ( ironic for what I've said so far lol ), I dropped out of highschool only a few months into freshman year. I was completely beyond burnout. Every waking moment was an anxious, painful mess of stressors left and right, expectations I knew I never was going to be able to meet and the deep, burning failure I felt at every turn. No more than a day or two would go by without a breakdown, and my self harm was at an all time high as I completely isolated myself from what few strands of connection I had to the world around me. There was no reason for me to keep going, no light at the end of the tunnel -

except for Gustave.

Though I am now facing the repercussions of the severe isolation I went through and my problems with heavy dissociation as my only coping mechanism, my saving grace through this dark period in my life was Rainbow Six, specifically Doc. It had been 3 years since we met, and my feelings had grown exponentially in that time. My biggest vice has been the harsh and cruel way I treat myself and see the world around me. My entire life had been molded by only being worthy if I served others, I only could ever see myself as an extension of someone else, and when I had no one to do so for, I was nothing short of abusive to myself, seeing treating myself with kindness and care as a sign of weakness.

However, Gustave's core being is his empathy and kindness. Though it may not be gentle and soft at all times, his driving force has been caring. For others, the world around him - and it was the complete opposite of a weakness, it's what makes him exceptional. How could I treat myself so awfully for being fundamentally identical to the person that matters the most to me? I was already head over heels with him at this time already, calling him mine and myself his in all circles I ran in, detailing our lives and how they intertwined, and I had been so focused on what was crumbling around me to realize the change within me that he had lit.

It began in small ways I hadn't even caught; choosing clothes that were comfortable rather than performative, making sure to keep up with bathing myself and other personal hygiene things, being able to look in mirrors without feeling utter disgust and hatred. I had begun caring for myself, using his care for me as a guide. Behind every scared decision to do better for myself, to be brave and not give into my vices or illnesses, was Gustave. Whether it was "forcing" myself to eat on days where I didn't feel like I could or refusing to let me speak so cruelly to myself, and the eventual decision to stop cutting myself no matter how bad the urge was, all of it happened from his support and presence in my life.

I mean it point-blank seriously when I say I would not be alive today without him. I have attempted on my life at multiple points, been hospitalized for such, and still struggle with the occasional urge when shit gets tough, and it's Gustave who taught me how to step back from that ledge and keep fighting. Not only because he had planted the seeds for my still growing self-love, but because that light at the end of the tunnel finally had reappeared - and he was the one holding it. No matter how shitty of a day I had, what scars littered my body and where they came from, what baggage that I bring to the table, he would be waiting for me with open arms and nothing but sheer adoration all just for me - and I never had to earn it.

Love to me had always been a painful thing, something I had to fight tooth and nail for, and even when it was all "good", there still was a terrifying feeling that at any second it'd be ripped from me. I felt this way towards everyone, whether family, friends, or past partners, love always was a double edged sword to me. But something, some inexplicable thing, about Gustave completely disarmed me. To this very day, there is only an extreme select few who I truly feel safe with, and he's the top of that very list. With him, love no longer felt like I was being flayed alive, it was very much the opposite.

Words escape me whenever I attempt to describe what Gustave is to me, what I feel for him and vice versa, but the best way I can put it is simply this - he is my home. The epicenter of safety, care, love, belonging, and so, so much more, he is what love is to me, plain and simple. Though I do also have two other f/os I am married to, Gustave is truly who I see as my husband, my life partner, my lover, my other half. I still hesitate on calling myself ficto, but I know regardless of what labels I find myself under, the love we have for each other is raw, deep, serious, and real. No matter what time has in store for us, where we may go or what we may become, I am always 100% certain that we will always be at each other's side.

To share another year with Gustave in any form is an utter gift, no matter what. This last year was a tough one for us, between me needing some heavy surgery, Gustave getting hurt himself, and us moving over 1,000 miles from where I spent most of my childhood, it has been full of roadblocks - but not a single one could tear us apart. It is nothing short of a privilege to me to call myself Gus' spouse, to be able to love him so up close and personally and to be there for him through it all, there is not a single other soul I could ever bare my own to, as we truly are made of the same stardust <3

My angel is 40 now! We've had a relatively quiet and personal day to celebrate, Gustave has never been one for over the top flashiness or even large-scale celebration, but that doesn't mean I haven't been showering him with the utmost love and affection :)c Life is a strange, complex thing that is completely unpredictable, and though there will undoubtedly be hardships in the future, nothing can wipe me off the face of this planet as long as I get to spend each moment here with my Gustave 💙

[tranakin-skywalker]

20, 21, 22 for anakin for the ask game?

20. Which other character is the ideal best friend for this character, the amount of screentime they share doesn't matter?

I feel like Obi-Wan is the easy answer here (doesn't mean it's not true though, two halves of a whole warrior- yadayada. They are so mentally ill about each other but separate them and everything breaks)

Goddamn this is a lot harder to answer than I thought it would be. The problem with Anakin is he doesn't really have friends. He'd got people he's friendly with, certainly, but those seem more like familiar acquaintances than real friendships. Anakin jumps straight over the friendship stage and right into insane codependent batshittery. There is no in-between. If you're going to be buds with Anakin Skywalker you have to be chill with him dropping the fact that he will gladly burn down the entire galaxy for you into casual conversation. That's not a thing for the faint of heart.

Now that I think about it though, Anakin and Sabe as BBFs would be really fun (I am maybe feeling shrimp emotions over the 2020 Darth Vader comics. Just a bit.) Canon gave them a rocky reintroduction but I think if Sabe had been brought in on the whole secret marriage thing, she and Anakin could have really hit it off.

21. If you're a fic writer and have written for this character, what's your favorite thing to do when you're writing for this character? What's something you don't like?

I don't think this is something that's really shown up in anything I've published yet, but I think it's really really fun to make Anakin do domestic stuff, because there is something just so off about it. He is entirely incapable of doing Normal People things because of his general Everything. Like, I don't think this is a guy capable of doing normal housecleaning. Instead, he is going on a 3 am spiral deep cleaning the bathroom floor with an old toothbrush because he did something that his poor hell brain interprets as some great moral failure (broke Obi-Wan's mug on accident) and this is the only way to make it right. Trauma of being a child slave, you know?

Like holy shit, the neurosis of this guy make is so that every little thing he does has this extra layer of 'what the shit??' intensity behind it. I think that's fun.

Something I dislike having to do (at least 4/5 times) is figure out how to write his dialogue. Sometimes it comes pretty easy but half the time I'm wondering if I'm writing his lines in character. His dialogue is just all over the place, so it's hard to know. Guy says "You are in my very soul, tormenting me," full pussy. Which is, ya know, something I have to keep in mind.

Honestly my quick cheat is to come up with the most autistic delivery of what I want him to say and I'm usually golden lmao

22. If you're a fic reader, what's something you like in fics when it comes to this character? Something you don't like?

When people write him smart. Like, holy shit, I don't think there's a bigger turn off for me when reading a fic as when the author makes Anakin an idiot. This is a character who is scary smart both in a traditional sense, but also tactically. Child fucking prodigy material. I really appreciate it when a fic acknowledges his intelligence.

And (maybe controversial take??) I think he's actually very emotionally aware, both of his own emotions and of the people around him. He just has a hard time translating that awareness into appropriate action. I think he's deeply in tune with what other people are thinking and feeling (maybe too much), it's just when it comes to actually doing something about that where he fumbles hard.

Fics that treat Anakin like he's completely oblivious to the emotions of other people just rub me the wrong way.

[isawken]

haha heyyyyy jesties

this year has been rough stuff. and the problem is nothing life shattering has happened so i don’t even get to have a spectacular mental breakdown. it’s just been a lot of grind and disappointment and struggle to keep up or have any energy to do anything other than the bare minimum. to everyone who reached out to me with love or kindness or memes and waited weeks or more for a response i love you. and i’m so sorry for my total absence of personhood. i’ve never gotten a dm even if it’s just a silly post and an “i thought of you” that i didn’t like. and your patience with me is appreciated more than you know.

i have some stuff i want to work on. some hobbies i want to pick up again. some friendships i want to recultivate. some pieces of my life i want to try to rekindle. i used to have so much creative energy and impulse. did you know i used to make zines? i fuckin loved making zines. the tactile experience of cutting up thick paper and punching holes and using thread to bind em and filling it with vague thoughts and little collages and splashes of acrylic paint. that shit ruled. about a month ago i tried making one for the first time in years. i cut up some old paper and dusted off the ol' hole punch. this time instead of my usual embroidery thread i used necklace chain to bind it. i was proud of that idea. when it came time to put stuff in it i choked. i had no creative thought. i forced myself to cover the first page with orange and yellow crayola markers. but that was it. i had nothing other than that. just hasty sloppy color thoughtlessly and restlessly thrown down. a dull background promised to a more interesting foreground that never came.

that shit did not rule.

in 1883 in pecos texas the first recorded rodeo takes place. in 2001 rob smets attends the PBR world finals in jeans and a sports jersey bearing sponsor logos. in 1780 joseph grimaldi makes his stage debut at 2 years old at london’s famed drury lane. in the many, many years before any white person ever laid eyes on it, a man in what you’d now call northern arizona paints his body in black and white stripes and puts corn husks in his hair. in 1557 ivan the terrible acts as pallbearer to a man who walked naked in the streets of moscow, even in the dead of winter. 1568 the gelosi acting company coalesces in italy to perform the hot new style of live improv entertainment. in 2017 the ringling bro’s circus performs its last show, 146 years after the titular brothers first formed it. all of these moments (and more!) live in my head rolling around like marbles and one day i’ll tell you all why.

i’ve been on mood stabilizers for so long it’s hard for me to tell if this has just been a really long depressive swing or if this is just how i am now. if this is just what getting older is like. i don’t really think it is. i am like 90% sure this will not last. but the two questions that follow are always 1. how do i get out of it, and 2. what if it is tho xD?

i recently went down to southeastern ohio to visit my family. went up the mountain at 1 am saturday night to help my gramma grab the 8 year old boy she’s been helping to take care of from his strung out mother. the next day i saw my various other relations, aunts and cousins however many times removed. i hung out with my second cousin. same age as me, with two twin girls, 4 years old. she’s a great mom. and enjoys it, too. got a decent husband with a good job. obviously i don’t know her struggles. not like we talk often. but she seemed overall pleased when she spoke about her life. i told her about my work from home job and my loving partner of 8 years and my plans for the future. she told me i was living the dream. and like. i kind of am. so why do i wake up every morning in various states of hangover (it's the mental illness)

i live in one of the cloudiest cities in these united states. my house is about 500 square feet. it’s dark at 5pm now. i already miss the sun. i want to get sunburned again. i want to be sweaty. i want to put talcum powder in my skort. i want to get through this winter without having to rub snow on my face to stave off more serious impulses. i want to check the 5 items off my to do list.

all of my want is like a song stuck in my head.

i miss that stickbug meme

i should dress up like a clown again

maybe tomorrow i’ll just lay under my weighted blanket for 5 hours

or maybe i’ll actually do something i like to do and feel good and real and human about it. who knows. only time will tell. and in the meantime. thanks if you read this <3

[hezuart]

hi, a while ago you mentioned you where writing a fic focusing on roxas and vanitas, i was wondering if that's still happening because it sounds very interesting!

Aaaa!! I'm so glad someone is excited over my fics. Now, the question is... WHICH one are you talking about? Initially, I think I mentioned one with this old summary: Involves a rare, impossible meeting between Roxas and Vanitas. Their other halves are locked away asleep, safe and sound. But they are awake. And being hunted. Their forbidden meeting will spark confusion, changed alliances, and perhaps more. (Unclear if RoxasxVanitas just yet, fic is still a WIP.)  Now this fic ended up splitting into two. The original idea was... when Sora splits his soul in KH1, Vanitas is freed around the time that Roxas is created. Vanitas would try to find Xehanort, only to come in contact with Xemnas instead. I think Vanitas was gonna join the Organization later on, around the time Roxas tries to leave it after the betrayal of Xion and Axel. Vanitas would assist Roxas so he would never be captured at the hands of Riku, and well, that sets off a whole boatload of problems. I haven't gotten back to this fic since its first chapter draft, but I do want to return to it. I ended up splitting some ideas from this fic and put them to a different Vanitas and Roxas fic. I decided that this fic above would probably end up being a romantic VanitasXRoxas fic. Where as this current one, I think I'm trying to keep it Vanitas & Roxas platonic. Summary for this one: After Sora saves Kairi in the final battle against Xehanort, he mysteriously disappears. Roxas and the others are in a panic trying to find him. At the end of the first week searching for Sora, Roxas goes to bed bone-deep exhausted and empty-handed. Only to wake up in Ventus's body a decade into the past. Roxas, undergoing an identity crisis while desperately trying to find a way home to his own body in the future... tries his best to keep up the facade of being Ventus, but a certain somebody... (Vanitas) notices something is off. What will happen when the others find out?

Title: "Time in the Daylight", "Laws of Time: Daylight", "Daybreaking Time".... Something about morning sunlight and time. Can't decide yet. Chapters: 19+ Pages: 209+ Words: 73,609

I kept thinking I was almost done with it, but then the story just kept expanding and expanding... I still think I'm rather close. I'm in the final act of it all. I haven't gotten back to it in a while, the past two months have been... a lot. (Work, illness, several other projects that take priority, travel, friendship upkeep)

but! That's why I don't release my fics until they're DONE! Cuz I know I'd suck at consistent updates and they would be at risk for being unfinished or dropped! So yeah, one is in deep progress, probably 3/4ths done. The other is still in the first draft I won't get around to for a little while. I ended up re-organizing or changing up my fics by priority. 1. Roxas & Vanitas (current fic) 2. Albus Potter fic where he inherits a snake appearance thanks to Voldemort. A body horror angst fic where he has to deal with the fallout while his father has a mental breakdown and freak out over it. 3. Code Geass "Fix it" time travel fic where Lelouch goes back in time to try to change the horrifying events of the war. 4. Then maybeeeee that Robin is captured by the Gotham Owls fic. Unless I come up with a different one that peaks my interest more. And somewhere between here I'd start up that VanitasXRoxas fic again.

[darkfictionjude]

[Singer MC]

How would the family and RO react to listening to MC's entire album and which ones would get stuck in their head due to how catchy they are.

Track list:

1. Fun House: it's about their arrival in the asylum and all the horrible experiences they lived while there.

2. Cursed: it's about MC's birth and how their parents and people around them have always scorned and hated them for being ill.

3. Mad House: its about their family life and how messed up it was for their siblings and themselves.

4. Damnned: its about their mental illness and how they dont care about people expectation and how hard it is for someone with mental illness to live without having assholes annoying you or pressing your buttons.

5. Birds of a feather: its about their meeting and eventual friendship with Nia.

6. Blame it on me: it's a prelude to the start of Orla and MC's deteriorating sibling relationship and the battles with their worsening mental health.

7. Bad Blood: MC sings from Orla's perspective and showcases their uncanny ability to mimic voices to perfection mimicking Orla's voice, How Sal failed them Aswell As their Mother treating her like a doll and the impossible expectations forced upon her and how much she Hates MC.

8. Mister Sunshine: Its about Sal and their toxic positivity where MC verbally violates him with vicous bars using his own mindset against him and showing how much he ends up hurting them and making things worse instead of helping them and how he forsake Percy and Orla because he thinks they can't take care of themselves.

9. Money can't show Love: it's about Percy and their dependency on money that makes their heart hurt and how much loves and hugs they would give them and how if he wasn't there they would have received fathers beatings and how much it eats them up inside and how ironically he's a better brother than Sal even do he's a dick because he doesn't make them feel like their being choked.

10. Loverboy: MC sings in Lorcan's perspective mimicking his voice, it's about Lorcan and Orla's relationship and how obsessed he is to Orla and how much of angel she is to everyone including him while roasting the shit out off him and highlighting how he would bully MC and how he would be blinded from the truth.

11. Summer 92: MC sings about the event that got them that scar and how much they which Orla was gone from their life [leave this one out due to possible spoilers].

12. Haunted: Its about them dealing with Orla's death even do they didnt have a good relationship they cared about her and how they feel haunted because even if she's gone the pain she inflicted on them are still there.

13. Dementia: this one is about how fucked up they feel their mental state and their memory problems is.

14. Return to Hell: it's about their return and recent experiences and how much they hate being treated differently and how everyone seems to lack basic human decency being up in their case abouttheir mental health as if they cared and threatening the girl who was saying they where bald and wearing saying they where going to make her bald if she didn't leave them alone.

15. Pretender: it's about how they feel about Irme and how they feel fake even if their being truthful but they don't mind him being a pretender since they do it to so people leave them alone.

16. Birdcage: it's about how they feel about Nia and how they feel she betrayed them even do that doesnt chage the fact she changed her friend to birdcage and how she doesnt talk and MC unleashes a verbal butchery on how she should talk to them instead of pretending to be in a birdcage.

17. Migraine: it's about how they feel about Lorcan and how sorry they feel for him even do he's an asshole who gave everything to Orla and didn't get anything back for his troubles.

18. 3 Way Street: this one is about the quests and what happened in them.

19. Green Card [yes the name was intentional]: it's a Savage Diss track aimed towards the mayor for being useless as a mayor the delivery is delivered in a mocking manner and it's aimed to get under his skin which it does.

20. Bad comedy: this one is about the revelation of MC's parent at the end of the current game and how they feel they have been lied to and how their life feels like a joke.

Wow you put some thought and detail into this damn but also who does mc think they are releasing 20 tracks on a debut album💀 in celebration of the milestone I will answer this full cast ask but no others because I’ve expressed my dislike for them

Regarding 19. Actually the mayor didn’t get into the country on a green card. I can’t say anything more about that but yeah no green card especially since I’ve never specified if the town is in the US or Canada and that the mayor came to English-speaking North America before the creation of the green card as we know it in the 40s. Also that man doesn’t listen to modern day music nor would he be angry at anything like a diss track, he would find it childish if he let a child anger him.

Imre finds his song very funny, and completely inaccurate in his motives. But is it the most catchiest to him.

Nia thinks her song is incredibly stupid and is surprised that mc seems to know her so little. No song gets stuck in her head but does like birds of a feather.

Lorcan thinks your full of shit of you think you know anything about his relationship with Orla. She might’ve hated you but she didn’t hate him. She gave him more than you can ever think. Nothing gets stuck in his head because he refuses to listen to anything else.

Victor & Prudence: hell will freeze over before these two ever sit down and listen to an album, apart from the fact they think it’s idiotic for mc to do this they also bemoan the state of modern music. Back in their day…

Sally: goes in one ear and out the other. He takes the songs at face value and doesn’t really listen to the lyrics, consciously or obliviously? Who knows. Mister sunshine gets stuck in his head, he actually does think it’s a happy song.

Percy: ridicules the songs about him. More than that, actually he verbally insults you and says that if he hears that album in the house the rug will be set on fire

Orla: laughs just laughs and laughs to the point of wiping tears. Tells you to find an career because clearly this isn’t for you. Also because you insist on talking about her trauma with no right she’ll expose things about you, it’s only fair right?

[yellowbluemoonshine]

Hey,manhwa anon,I was wondering if u have read seasons of blossom(sob) its recently ended so it'd be the best time to read I think you would like this story alot and as you said u liked romance in the response that make me more confident that u would like it

It's has romance but it's also touches other topic such as friendship,su1c1de,being bullied, pressure from parents to get grades etc nd imo all couple r good(execpt for one which I personally don't like) it's has 4 szn all have diff mc but! All of the characters r connected somehow it's funny,has good romance,touches serious topic,they help e/o through hardship

I love it nd I like ur opinion on many things so I wanted you to read this & give your opinions😅

Hey, anon, from this post. Thanks for your rec. Actually, i read first season before and maybe season 2 too, i dont really remember though. But i didnt complete it before but after getting your message, i decided to give another chance and i recently restarted it and finished the whole story. Also you made me curious about which one you didnt like, lol, let me know. And Here’s my opinion about series;

First of all, art is good and characters are generally good too . Though i prefer romance as sub-plot more because when it become main plot, it has cliches. I think this story make certain post too quick, like characters moving on, changing mind and growing and falling in love happened to fast, to the point i find it unrealistic. Though, i would still say this story is far better than most romances, at least.

Season 1; I think this one was my less interested in. I hate love triangle and misunderstandings, and all that fake boyfrien thing so cliche but also, i really didnt root for main couple since Jaemin and Bomi had a thing. And i thought what Bomi did is so unfair to Seounhi, Jaemin and Jinyoung, it was really frustrating because i think it was selfish act so. And i kinda felt sad about it and i wasnt big fan of Jinyeong and his brutal honesty and rudeness. He is cute but dude needs to learn some manners. But other than that, they look good together so i didnt really hate it. But i kinda get bored and forced myself to continue. And another problem with this one is the way Bomi described her feelings for Jaemin and Jinyoung. She says she feels more comfortable with Jaemin while to her, Jinyoung is unexpected, make her explode etc...I mean, actually love is all about feeling comfort, not unexpected events or excitement, thats more like lust and crush but we can also say love is different to anyone so. The fact that she fall in love with Jinyeong cause he is more rude while Jaemin was just kind...I mean, she just said she fell in love with Jinyoung because she felt more comfortable with his honesty at last scene of spring season, just like she said before when she talked with Jaemin.

Season 2; This one might be my favorite. Ironically, summer is my favorite season too. At first, i thought it was gonna be Jaemin x Somang but it turn out to be about Hamin and Somang. And you might say, Hamin is also rude to her so i wouldnt like it but actually, i love them together a lot. Their interaction happens so naturally and its also funny. Also sad. Jaemin and Somang making connection together is also very nice too. Something i didnt like, ‘its everyone’s fault but noone’s fault’ speech. Like , i get what she was trying to say but honestly, it is Hamin’s parents and school’s fault for him ending up like that. They are responsible for what happenned to Hamin. Its nowhere near to Jaemin and Somang, they were innocent. Also i wish story showed Jaemin’s tension building up in spring season, it would be better. Btw, i also like the fact that Hamin didnt kill himself because he was just in darkness but because he witnessed the light he couldnt reach make him suicide because thats how mental illness works. We dont feel miserable until we saw some people have better. Thats so realistic. And as last, i wish Jaemin and Hamin didnt look too similar. I mean, they look like twins, i feel weird when i see him with Somang and others lol. And this also the season i started to warm up to Seonhui and other mcs because they were kinda annoying at start/first season.

Season 3; This one might be my second favorite. At first i was so sure that i wouldnt like it because Gaeul’s revenge plan and using his feelings, also the fact that he was kinda related to her bullying but i actually liked it because they were so good together. The chemistry...between serious mature girl and kinda silly dense boy. My only issues would be she became too comfortable with someone who is indirectly related to her bullying, like that kind of discomfort dont go that easiely. And bully girl's plan was too silly and it got destroyed too quickly, it was kinda unrealistic. And even though Gauel was already comfortable with Subin, what was the point of them breaking up? I wish at least we saw her discomfort with Subin’s presence so it would make more sense that her wanting a little time and space. And one more thing, i hate the idea that Subin had to take care of that bully kid, just because he was indirectly related to his bullying as child....because i disagree. He doesnt have to be friends with him/them, after all they did. Another couple of the autumn season, i actually ship Jaemin and Seonhui more but i kinda warmed up with the idea of Seonhui and Jaehyeon more at the end of fall season and winter season. Like, i kinda like them too because they are cute together.

Season 4; And the winter season. I was waiting for this one since the beginning to the point sometimes i couldnt focus on others because how can i, when there is a bullying at the background? So messed up. But i was actually disappointed with this season. Because even though, i am glad to see other main characters with happy moments, we hardly get Dongchae as main character. He deserved more screentimes, more narrative but he was like a side character in his own story. I was also very dissapointed in Jaemin in this season. He literally lost his brother because of bullying but he saw someone else is also dealing with it and he said its none of my business and only interested in because he fell in love with his sister....Eunchae is good girl, i get it but your brother is being bullied and you have time for romance with random dude you just met? It was actually frustrating to read because Dongchae was suffering to the point that he was planning to kill himself while everyone is being lovey-dovey. It was painful to read. Though, i love his connection with Hamin and everyone coming together to save him from suicide. But instead of last minute speech before he was about to kill himself, we could’ve get more effort. Because you cant change someone who wants to kill himself’s mind that easiely. I wish we saw all that small efforts for Dongchae and that saving scene would be the last one, the one that finally reach Dongchae’s hearth but it all happenned one time. Until that moment they all (later Jinyoung’s friend too) ignored him when they know what was happening, so it was so annoying and disappointing but generally, ending is good. I didnt really ship Eunchane and Jaemin, Gyuri and Dongchae etc. And i ship Somang only with Hamin, not with glasses friend of Subin. And i am glad that Subin and Gaeul meet again and end up together. Anddddd i must admit i love the speech of ‘if you dont know how to love yourself, i will teach you’. That was amazing.

This is all but there might be things i forgot to say so for now, thats it. Despite some of the issues etc, i did have good/sad/emotional etc times too. So i think it was worth to read and give it another chance so again, thanks for rec. it to me.

[angletic]

Numbers 1, 4, 28, and 38 for Fen. and for yourself, E ?

OMGGGG FEN. i wrote a lot for these so ill put it under a cut ( :

1: "What’s the maximum amount of time your character can sit still with nothing to do?" Contrary to fen's very B| disposition, i think fen would literally explode if not working towards something. she might look like shes sitting around doing nothing sometimes but her mind is actually just clearing itself to try and route a solution to some problem one of her projects has hit. This is actually something thats very important about her in canon; she she feels something is a waste of time or worthless she won't do it even if recommended to her by a trustworthy source or something that sounds like it would literally solve all problems. i think even though she has self esteem issues she always trusts her perception on the individual worth of doing things. (being abit vague since this is spoileryyy lol)

4: "How easy is it to earn their trust?" Fen honestly has a super jank perception of trust. I dont think she views it as a "thing" you can assign to someone like the rest of us. I think she's immune to that boy-who-cried-wolf mentality because even if someone lied to her 15000 times, she still knows there's a CHANCE theyre telling the truth and assesses what was said accordingly. She always judges someones words on a very individual basis and weighs the probable truth behind them in accordance to what she knows. If she wasnt able to come to a conclusion, she'd probably bluntly ask you questions about whatever you said to get more information and see where youre coming from/what you meant or to just gather more information in the first place, which she then weighs against what she knows and may lead to MORE questions, and she does this until the person shes talking to gets pissed off and leaves (to which she is like Ok whatever B|), or she finally comes to a conclusion regarding its validity. This throws off many-a lie sent her way (read: vel lmfao). i don't think the number of questions she'd ask would change whether she was talking to a stranger or her best friend, but their tolerance for her questions and ability to communicate ideas in a way she best understands would and would thus shorten the interaction by a lot. Though if someone like nymt told her something and to just 'trust her' on it, i do think she's one of the few people fen would just do as such, but even though its her bestie it would feel very wrong and alien to not be in control/understand whats going on, and i don't think nymt would do that to her. even just a brief "i need you to trust me on x its about y and i cant tell you the specifics until z" would feel better because she understands what it vaguely relates to, that theres a REASON for her not knowing and time when she can expect to have this gap in knowledge filled in. trust in the "friendship" was is a lot harder to explain since i the way fen thinks doesnt enable her to 'distrust' anyone like most people would? Like obviously if she was deeply wronged by someone (like druid) she would distrust them, but i think that has more to do wit that fact that shes the one person to truly scare her and hurt her in unimaginable ways then regarding the fact druid went bad on their deal. If it was just the deal thing, fen would be sour and short regarding her but she'd still weigh what was said to her normally. Friendship-wise, i'd read E, the question directed toward me and if i'd be friends with fen. I wrote that part before this one and it explains how fen approaches friendship LMAO.

28: "Would they prefer a lie over an unpleasant truth?" Unpleasant truth always. Fen generally sees a lot of the stuff people would lie about to be not a big deal (ex. to spare her feelings, theyre embarrassed or uncomfortable, etc). It just annoys and confuses her to have had the Wrong Information about something the whole time and she struggles to see why they would lie in the first place. I think fen only lies like once in the story and thats about her wing; otherwise shes completely honest even if it makes her come across as brash or tonally inappropriate for the situation (half the time she doesnt even notice this is how shes being perceived LMAO). fen is an outcast in feyton, but the people there dont like. go out of their way to bully her or anything. Maybe when she was a kid yea that thats because she was in 2nd grade and children can be very mean. shes an adult now and mostly, people's othering of her is very lowkey and insidious. Like pitying glances or using a softer tone with her or something. Fen isnt very socially conscious but he super hard not to notice when shes being treated like a person with nymt and vel and later when she becomes WM and everyone sees her as a respectable and powerful figure, compared to how most other people are so soft and 'nice' with her. I think now that shes an adult she appreciates when children just say what theyre thinking no matter how brash and mean it comes across as opposed to the placating pity everyone else throws her way. she feels more like an equal when kids do that (trusting her with their honest thoughts) which is ironic, since theyre children and being treated like a child is exactly what most adults treat her like. Its hard for her to win, hence why she isolates herself. i think this babying has warped her views on a lot of things a fair bit. she has like no respect for her science and sees it more as a hobby as opposed to like. super impressive groundbreaking physics due to people treating her as a child who always needs help or an eye on her, but also feels super defensive when people imply she cant do something and will immediately turn to it so solve whatever problem people think she cant solve. it also messes with her understanding of compassion as well. clara is a lot like a parental figure to her who took over after her dad died, but fen sometimes gets frustrated by her worrying for her safety since her "are you sure you can handle going mining in that cave?" sounds a lot like the way people talk down and underestimate her in that guise-of-compassion voice. though i dont think clara is perfect as well and certainly sometimes does think fen is genuinely incapable of doing things most fairies can do due to her lack of flight and magic, but she does mean well, and both do care about each other.

38: "What memory do they revisit the most often?" any memories with her dad. There's no specific memory shes a big fan of with anyone, moreso thinking of her positive interactions with others and how she appreciates those people being around her still. But she can go hang out with nymt still and appreciate her company, whereas she cant do that with her dad. in a negative note, she often revisits the night she met the druid. she revisits this one a lot more than the nicer ones, seeing as her big rainbow wing is always behind her. and for meeee, E: "Are they someone you would get along with? Would they get along with you?" Fen honestly has the potential to get along well with anyone. so long as you respect her and her low social battery and arent mean or condescending towards her i think she'd let you hang around. she pretty passive when it comes to making friends with people so if you tried hard enough you could insert yourself into her life with little effort (read: VEL LOL). I would totally be besties with fen just on principle, but i also think the way she goes about her relationships and her unbelievably low-maintenance chill-vibes makes for an excellent friend. i don't think you'd have to worry about weirding her out in any way, nor would she spring some bullshit on you out of nowhere. Her bluntness ensures that if she had a problem you'd be the first to hear about it, and fen is always down to try and fix problems in your relationship if you are. Plus a lot of this weird understanding of common concepts like trust and friendship and all this is based a lot on how i commonly approach these ideas (though fen is them taken to a bit more of an extreme) so i think wed get along just by being on similar brainwaves.

[savsotjournal]

The Impact of Social Support Networks on Mental Health: An OT Perspective

Our relationships with friends, family, and community members have a big impact on our happiness and general well-being. However, some people find it difficult to establish and maintain these relationships. Occupational therapy (OT) can help with that. (Golden-User, 2024)

Why Are Social Connections Important:

1. Emotional Support: Good relationships offer a strong support system. When you have people to talk to, share experiences with, and lean on, it’s easier to handle life’s ups and downs. Emotional support helps reduce stress and makes tough times more manageable. (Hood, 2020)

2. Better Health: Studies show that people with strong social networks tend to be healthier. They have lower rates of illness and better immune systems. Social support encourages healthier habits and can even speed up recovery from illness or injury. (Umberson & Montez, 2010)

3. Happiness and Well-being: Being connected with others boosts our mood and increases life satisfaction. Positive interactions help reduce feelings of loneliness, improve self-esteem, and provide a sense of belonging and purpose. (Mayo Clinic, 2022)

4. Coping with Challenges: Friends and family provide practical help and encouragement, making it easier to face and overcome challenges. A supportive network can help build resilience and improve our ability to cope with difficult situations. (Thatcher, 2020)

How Occupational Therapy Supports Social Connections:

1. Developing Social Skills: Occupational therapists assist people in developing social skills like reading social cues and communicating with others. OT offers specific ways to facilitate and improve social relationships for people with social problems, such as autism or anxiety etc.

2. Encouraging Community Involvement: OT practitioners assist people in finding ways to connect with their communities. This might include joining local groups, participating in events, or volunteering. Getting involved helps build social networks and fosters a sense of community. (Gallant, 2022)

3. Integrating Social Activities into Daily Life: Occupational therapists assist people in integrating social activities into their everyday routines. This could be arranging frequent visits with friends and family, organising events for a group, or figuring out how to fit social time into daily living.

4. Addressing Mental Health: Many OT programs focus on mental health issues, such as depression or anxiety, which can impact social interactions. By helping manage these conditions, OT supports individuals in building and maintaining healthy relationships. (Homewood Health Centre, 2023)

5. Supporting Families and Caregivers: OT also helps families and caregivers improve communication and understanding. This support helps strengthen family bonds and creates a more supportive environment.

(Community Therapy, 2022)

References:

Golden-User. (2024). What does an occupational therapist do for mental health? - Golden care. Golden Care. https://goldencaretherapy.com/blogs-what-does-an-occupational-therapist-do-for-mental-health/

Hood, J. (2022). Importance of a support system | Highland Springs Clinic. Highland Springs. https://highlandspringsclinic.org/the-benefits-and-importance-of-a-support-system/

Umberson, D., & Montez, J. K. (2010). Social relationships and health: a flashpoint for health policy. Journal of health and social behavior, 51 Suppl(Suppl), S54–S66. https://doi.org/10.1177/0022146510383501

Mayo Clinic. (2022). Friendships: Enrich your life and improve your health. Mayo Clinic. https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/friendships/art-20044860

Thatcher, T. (2020). Top 10 Benefits of Spending Time with Family | Highland Springs. Highland Springs. https://highlandspringsclinic.org/the-top-ten-benefits-of-spending-time-with-family/

Gallant, F. (2022). The OT tips on Increasing your Social Support! NCCO Rehabilitation. https://www.nccorehabilitationservices.com/post/ot-tips-on-increasing-your-social-support

Homewood Health Centre. (2023). The role of occupational therapy in mental health treatment. Homewood Health Centre. https://homewoodhealthcentre.com/articles/the-role-of-occupational-therapy-in-mental-health-treatment/

Cherry, K. (2023). How social support contributes to psychological health. Verywell Mind. https://www.verywellmind.com/social-support-for-psychological-health-4119970

Community Therapy. (2022). Mental Health Occupational Therapy | NDIS | Newcastle | Central Coast. https://www.communitytherapy.com.au/occupational-therapy/mental-health/

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How The Addiction Affects Individuals?

Substance abuse is an issue, that can affect a lot of people all around, and it is necessary to seek help, only the Substance Abuse Treatment In Mumbai can provide everyone with the right set of guidance and support for a healthy life. Today, in this article, we are going to shed some light on how THC addiction affects individuals.

1. Physical Health

Respiratory Issues: Smoking marijuana can lead to respiratory problems, including chronic bronchitis and other lung issues due to inhaling smoke and toxins.

Weakened Immune System: Chronic use may impair the immune system, making individuals more susceptible to infections.

Cardiovascular Effects: THC can increase heart rate and blood pressure, potentially leading to cardiovascular problems, especially in individuals with pre-existing conditions.

2. Mental Health

Anxiety and Paranoia: High doses of THC can cause stress, paranoia, and panic attacks, particularly in susceptible individuals.

Depression: Long-term use can contribute to depression and exacerbate existing mental health issues.

Cognitive Impairment: Chronic use can lead to persistent cognitive deficits and difficulties with problem-solving and critical thinking.

Psychosis: In some cases, high doses of THC can trigger psychotic symptoms, such as hallucinations and delusions, especially in those predisposed to mental illnesses like schizophrenia.

3. Behavioral Changes

Motivational Issues: THC addiction can lead to decreased motivation and productivity, often referred to as "a motivational syndrome." This can affect work, school, and daily responsibilities.

Social Withdrawal: Individuals may withdraw from social interactions and activities they once enjoyed, leading to isolation and strained relationships.

Risky Behaviors: Increased risk-taking behavior, such as driving under the influence or engaging in unsafe activities, can result from impaired judgment and coordination.

4. Academic and Professional Impact

Poor Academic Performance: Students with THC addiction often experience declining grades, missed classes, and difficulty focusing on their studies.

Workplace Issues: Reduced productivity, absenteeism, and workplace accidents can occur due to impaired cognitive and motor functions. THC use can also jeopardize job security and career prospects.

5. Social and Interpersonal Relationships

Family Strain: Addiction can lead to conflicts, mistrust, and emotional distance within families, affecting the overall family dynamic.

Friendship Problems: Relationships with friends may suffer due to changes in behavior, prioritizing drug use over social activities, and unreliability.

Legal Issues: Illegal use or possession of marijuana can lead to legal problems, including arrests, fines, and a criminal record, which can further strain relationships and social standing.

Reach out to the Best Drugs De-addiction Center in Mumbai today and get the right set of treatment plans.

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Bucky's Greatest Battle

read it on the AO3 at https://ift.tt/r8ptzT9 by throughitall (bethebest22) Following their intense mission against the Flag Smashers, Bucky Barnes and Sam Wilson have grown from colleagues to close friends. However, their bond faces a significant challenge when Sam learns that Bucky is hiding serious medical problems. Together, they confront the gravity of Bucky's health issues while navigating external threats and the complexities of life and friendship. Words: 5274, Chapters: 4/?, Language: English Fandoms: The Falcon and the Winter Soldier (TV), Captain America (Movies), Marvel Cinematic Universe Rating: Not Rated Warnings: Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings Characters: James "Bucky" Barnes, Sam Wilson (Marvel), Sarah Wilson (Marvel), AJ Wilson, Cass Wilson, Joaquín Torres, Christina Raynor, Stephen Strange Additional Tags: Sickfic, Sick Character, Sick Bucky Barnes, Bucky Barnes Needs a Hug, Bucky Barnes Feels, Hurt Bucky Barnes, Sam Wilson is a Gift, Bucky Barnes & Sam Wilson Friendship, Bucky Barnes Recovering, Mental Health Issues, Bucky Barnes Has PTSD, Bucky Barnes Has Issues, Protective Sam Wilson, Sam Wilson Needs a Hug, Graphic Depictions of Illness, Illnesses, Cancer, Mentions of Cancer, Bucky Barnes Has Panic Attacks, Medical Procedures, Medical Trauma, Medical Jargon, Headaches & Migraines, Brain Surgery, Vomiting, Seizures, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder - PTSD read it on the AO3 at https://ift.tt/r8ptzT9

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7 Surprising Benefits of Developing a Positive Attitude

A positive attitude is more than just a pleasant personality trait; it can be a game-changer in various aspects of life. While many are aware of the general advantages of having a positive outlook, some surprising benefits might not be immediately apparent. In this article, we'll delve into seven unexpected advantages that come with developing and maintaining a positive attitude.

Enhanced Problem-Solving Skills

A positive attitude isn't just about seeing the glass as half full; it can significantly enhance your cognitive abilities, including problem-solving skills. Research suggests that individuals with a positive mindset tend to approach challenges with a more open and creative mindset, leading to innovative solutions and a more effective approach to problem-solving.

2. Increased Resilience to Stress

Life is full of stressors, but a positive attitude can act as a buffer against the negative effects of stress. People with a positive outlook tend to cope better with stressful situations, exhibiting greater resilience. This resilience not only helps them navigate challenging times but also minimizes the long-term impact of stress on their mental and physical well-being.

3. Strengthened Social Connections

Developing a positive attitude can significantly impact your social life. Positive individuals are often more approachable and enjoyable to be around, leading to the creation and maintenance of strong social connections. Friendships and relationships flourish when they are built on a foundation of optimism, creating a positive and supportive social circle.

4. Boosted Immune System Function

Believe it or not, maintaining a positive attitude can contribute to a healthier immune system. Studies have shown that positive emotions and thoughts can stimulate the production of immune-boosting chemicals, providing a protective effect against illnesses. A positive mindset, therefore, can contribute not only to emotional well-being but also to overall physical health.

5. Improved Decision-Making Abilities

When faced with choices, individuals with a positive attitude tend to make better decisions. Positivity enhances cognitive flexibility, allowing for a more comprehensive consideration of options. This positive mindset can lead to decisions that are not only more optimistic but also well-thought-out and beneficial in the long run.

6. Increased Productivity and Creativity

Positivity can be a driving force in professional settings. Employees with a positive attitude often exhibit higher levels of productivity and creativity. A positive work environment fosters innovation, collaboration, and a willingness to take on challenges, resulting in improved job performance and career success.

7. Longer life span

Perhaps one of the most surprising benefits of a positive attitude is its potential impact on longevity. Research suggests that individuals who maintain a positive outlook on life may live longer than their more pessimistic counterparts. The reasons for this connection are complex and multifaceted, involving a combination of healthier lifestyle choices, reduced stress, and enhanced overall well-being.

Conclusion

While the benefits of a positive attitude are widely acknowledged, the surprising advantages go beyond just a brighter outlook. From improved problem-solving skills to a longer lifespan, maintaining positivity can positively impact various aspects of life. Embracing a positive attitude isn't just about feeling good; it's about unlocking a range of unexpected benefits that can lead to a more fulfilling and meaningful life.