#preemptively putting this in

[aropride]

i’ve begun saying people “obviously aren’t in a romantic relationship, they have something deeper and more intimate going on” as this seems to confuse and upset alloromantics

(ID: a banner with text over the aro flag. the text says: i don't care about blorbotags go wild but this post is about hating the hierarchial system of relationships & if you're mad about it you're probably been poisoned by ace discourse brainworms. and are also proving my point. /end ID)

[chiimeramanticore]

compilation of this type of post

edit: idk how much this is gonna do but since making this post i got covid and need some help, please consider it

[wtfforged]

figuring out how to draw that thing. the chilchug. and laois i guess whatever

[mamawasatesttube]

its just like. such a shame in a way you know?? bc in the comics tim and kon genuinely have such a fun relationship. they are best friends!! they bicker but they love each other!! they have a deep bond of trust from pretty early on even WHILE they're bickering!! they learn how to communicate with each other and they have a clear arc of growing closer and leaning into each other. and yeah, we all know tim goes off the deep end when kon dies (yippee!!) but thats like... just the tip of the iceberg. kon goes to him when he feels uncertain about his powers! kon likes it when tim's "the man with the plan"! kon knows how to read him so incredibly well just from his costume! kon has a red mercy nightmare about tim dying in front of him while hating him! kon calls him his best friend SO early on, even before he knows his name!! they hang out, they make each other laugh!

...and yet in fanon they just get relegated to boomer style "i hate my wife" jokes wherein tim is always annoyed with kon for some reason, flanderized into homophobic stereotypes (why is tim always "the girl" whose virginity must be defended by her owners i mean brothers/father, in this gay relationship? let's ponder), or treated as just some default background pair who never get any characterization. particularly kon. (kon baby im SO sorry the people who brag about how they don't read comics do all of that to you.)

like... dude... this is tragic... theres SO much good here and NONE of it shows up in the tags save for once in a blue moon...

[andavs]

[meirimerens]

i had warned you. patho equestrian au image dump with elusive lore.

all competition outfits were made to be FEI guidelines-compliant (except for the Yulia's Hunter, which is not regulated by the FEI, which complies to the standards of Hunter/Equitation competitions regulatory bodies i could find), and if they're not it's not on purpose and will ask you to pretend they are.

characters that are not depicted in this imageset i either do not see as pivotal or even accessory to this AU OR i just didn't want to draw them because i'd like to. do something else with my life eventually. as it were.

this au takes place exactly where it takes place. typically western/american sporting disciplines such as barrel racing, calf roping, rodeo, [...] are not included in this au because these disciplines are not widely exported outside of its north-american birthplace, go figure, as they are historically anchored in the cattle herding and ranching traditions of vaqueros and cowboys on the great northern american plains, and depend of a historical, political, anthropological and geographical context that was not replicated in europe or asia (because we have our own things). Exception is made for Yulia's Hunter/Equitation competition, as Hunter/Equitation is a sporting discipline itself based on westen european (typically british) upper-class horseback fox-hunting traditions, so it's a "what goes around comes around" type of deal. also isn't she dapper lol.

a horse's height is measured at the withers, which is the ridge between their shoulder blades, appearing as a bump between their neck and back, just behind which the saddle is put, so if a horse's height appears "small" for a big animal, it's because the length of the neck is not counted in that height.

[toskarin]

guy who's so hardline that he even insists his roguelikes are run on 3.5e

[inkedmyths]

(DISCLAIMER: If you know the poll this is referencing/a response to THIS IS A JOKE i just really like fruit and couldn't vote on that poll so I made one I could)

[possamble]

Going back to work after this but

[bumblingest-bee]

mark my words if people start fucking roleplaying as assassins characters or some shit again im killing everyone on this website and then myself

[kadextra]

idk guys but the urgency I’m getting from q!Bad’s 4D chess moves lately is making me concerned. he is usually calm and collected when orchestrating stuff but the past few days has shown the opposite, he’s acting quickly

he even blatantly said that he’s trying to help q!Cellbit asap- because they are close friends, he feels responsible to help, but also because he was “relying on cellbit’s mental state to be stable for what could happen” which is…. really worrying to say?? and today he rushed to drop baghera on bagi’s doorstep and have them talk because “we need to rely on our friends. somewhat.”

It’s very obvious q!Bad is trying his best to hurry up a possible q!Cellbit solution + attempt to unite his friends before the 4th.

[This is all speculation from here]

Personally? I’m thinking the urgency is because his help is needed right now, and past the 4th he won’t be available to help anymore- and knows it, so he needs to do as much as possible now. and he would’ve liked q!Cellbit to be the mentally sound one if he can’t be. methinks down in purgatory he will go one-track mind to save the eggs, and based off the things he’s saying….

“What happens when those you care about get in your way…?”

“I lacked commitment, but I won’t anymore.”

“Even if I have to kill every single person on the island to get the eggs back”

“It’s been a while since I’ve gotten to cut loose”

“I don’t think you guys (the eggs) are gonna be happy with me when it’s all over…”

….feels like clear foreshadowing that he might go on an insane murdering-his-friends spree or something if everything goes horribly wrong. today he basically told q!Bagi that it could happen too. or alternatively this is all a fake out, and he tragically self-sacrifices? idk yall!!! either way I’m terrified!!

[shesmore-shoebill]

"there's a word for that, isn't there?" "anxiety." "yes."

[david-talks-sw]

Obi-Wan: Do you really think-- Vader: -- No! I don't. I never think! Head empty, no thoughts! You know me Obi-Wan why are you even asking?!

[mabaris]

like i know this was intentional but it makes me laff every time

[lilalilan]

Finally got done watching the new Quinton Reviews video and have some thoughts. If you're not familiar with the video in question just know that I will be talking about child abuse so be prepared.

Something he did a really good job navigating is talking about behavior that was clearly abusive, but that doesn't neatly fall into the main categories of abuse we use, those being Physical, Emotional, and Sexual.

People really don't know how to handle things that clearly weren't okay but that don't fall neatly into those categories. I've even struggled with trying to understand my own experiences, which I'm going to use as an example. One of the things I experienced growing up was one of my parents asking me for massages and not being allowed to say no. Physical contact like that leads people towards wanting to categorize it as sexual abuse, but it wasn't sexual. And so people, with hesitation, refer to it as physical abuse. But our general cultural conception of physical abuse is physical violence, so I've never felt comfortable calling it physical abuse because I don't want it to come off as though I'm claiming I experienced something that I didn't. So I've generally had to go with explaining the specifics, and I hate that because I don't want to have to get into the specifics with everyone who I needs to understand what I've been through.

And I think that same line of thinking is why people to try and accuse Dan Schneider of child sex abuse even though (from my understanding) there is no evidence for that. They understand his behavior to be bad, and want to call it out, but our current understanding of abuse and abusive behavior doesn't really have a way of categorizing "inappropriate physical contact with a child that is not sexual". If it was child sex abuse that is a clear cut bad thing that culturally we already understand as a bad thing and have ways of talking about. So people lean towards trying to categorize it as child sex abuse even though the things we know about don't really fall into that category, because otherwise we don't really have a way to talk about it and understand it.

So I guess part of what I want to say here is thank you to Quinton Reviews for giving us the phrase "inappropriate boundaries" to refer to these types of things. Because I think we have words to describe certain types of inappropriate boundaries (sexual abuse for if it's sexual, parentification if it's about treating the kid like a fellow parent, etc.) but I've never really seen a term describing the overarching idea of just "adult behaving inappropriately with a child".

For me personally it gives me a better way of understanding and describing my own experiences. It's taken me from "there were a lot of different upsetting yet hard to describe things that happened that I don't know how to categorize or really explain" to "along with the neglect and the emotional abuse my parents did not maintain appropriate physical and emotional boundaries which messed me up in the long run". Clearly and succinctly describes what happened without getting into detail or forcing me to provide personal information.

And I think culturally having a way to talk about this type of abuse is useful. I'm hoping that enough people see the video that I can start talking about my experiences and be understood by others.

Also just like. Not being sexual abuse doesn't mean that it's not bad or messed up or worthy of attention and discussion and support. I feel like sometimes people think you're trying to downplay what happened but like. I say that being forced to provide massages was not sexual because I know for a fact it wasn't sexual. That doesn't mean that my being forced to provide an adult with physical contact was okay, it doesn't mean it didn't mess me up, it just means it messed me up differently than how it probably would have if it was sexual.

[xoxoemynn]

anyway, apparently pivoted back to anger, but honestly, I am tired. I am tired physically because I got about two hours of sleep last night, and I'm tired emotionally because I cannot stand that we live in a world where people consistently take the "well I don't personally care about this so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯" approach, especially when they then a) start spewing some nonsense about how their not caring is ACTUALLY the moral, ethical thing to do and/or b) start being dicks to strangers who are hurting for the same reason.

I know this is probably pointless to say on this site or really any site with a large fannish population, but grow the fuck up and get some perspective.

All this going off about how much you don't care, or kicking others when they're down, isn't going to help anybody. It just makes you look like a dick.