#positivity vs. negativity

[humanuser0613]

I have thoughts. (😮‍💨I always have thoughts. That's why I was up all night writing posts instead of sleeping. 🙃)

But I saw something when I was writing my recent posts:

This was the moment in the fandom where I had seen the most engagement and discussion on something jikook related and...it's still trending less than taekook.

Taekookers outnumber ot7 ARMY, jikookers, namkookers, taejinners, etc.

It gets me thinking about how the bad stuff just spreads so much faster than the truth or happier things just in general as human behavioral habits. It also makes me think back to when taennie were having their privacy violated and the thing the ARMY and taekookers and Tae solos did was to trend "bangminreal" or how "freejungkook" became a huge trend TWICE for things jikook actually did.

Ot7 ARMY never defend or report. They block and mute. I understand the desire to stay in safe spaces. Truly I do. I block all the time. But it's weird how there's nothing being put out into fandom spaces just as equally positive. Taejin will trend for Tae kissing Jin or for them holding hands between a ball sack and it's considered funny, cute, and harmless. But jikook hold hands and everyone looks away. They're not even involved and Jimin gets ugly and hateful hashtags trending against him.

The focus is always on something negative when it comes to those two. And the lies just spread so much easier than the truth does. We have them enlisting together and that showcases such a positive and happy interaction between two members and it only got negative trends on Twitter showing up and ot7 ARMY basically ignoring it.

Is it jealousy of Jimin, or of jikook's bond in comparison to the other members, or is it fear of acknowledging what that bond could mean, or just fear of the attacks that come from so many directions within the fandom itself? Because why do people who defend their friendship get labeled as shippers or solos? They're not considered to be ot7 ARMY just for speaking up.

The other thing I notice about certain fandom spaces is that toxic solos will trend anti hashtags in retaliation. They'll make some shit up out of the blue if they feel *their* fave is being attacked. JK and Tae solos attacked Jimin for something recently and there were many of us reporting the tags and posts and asking for ot7 help in taking them down only for JM solos to then retaliate and make hateful posts against Tae when reporting alone wasn't enough. It was absolutely bonkers. The hate spirals people get stuck in are truly addictive. And social media fuels these constant negative feedback loops.

But why don't fandom spaces push out equally positive content? Because the other thing I've been reading in studies is that the best antidote to hate is to get that injection of positivity and truth first. But the OT7 fandom doesn't talk about jikook, their bond, anything they're doing together and they're always telling baby ARMY to avoid shipper spaces. Not every duo space is a shipper space. Not every space is negative. But then there's no space they are creating to combat those negative spaces baby ARMY get sucked into on Twitter, YouTube, TikTok, Facebook, IG, etc.

I mean, that's how I see some of how this all goes down. I watch a lot of it happen in real time.

I wonder what can I do? How can I help? Am I actually helping anything? Who might be willing to listen and help address what I see? Am I even making sense out here?

New year, same shit. Will it ever change?

What is the problem this fandom has with Jimin and Jungkook TOGETHER? And now it's not only this fandom and the subgroup but also their supposed Solo Fans. What is the fear, the problem these people have with Jimin and Jungkook being together in the same shot, picture, or moment? Why does it bother them that Jimin and Jungkook just like being together? Why do they keep ignoring or denying that their decision to join the army confirms the bond between them? Why so much damn hatred, so much rejection towards the friendship, the bond that they OBVIOUSLY HAVE? I've seen posts from Jungkook-centric accounts covering Jimin's face. I've seen posts from Jimin-centric accounts covering up Jungkook's face. I've seen posts from the subgroup and Solos "celebrating" that Jungkook is super close to another soldier because he's next to him and Jimin? He doesn't exist. It's ridiculous, I know, but at the same time, it's disturbing how the fandom in general keeps allowing such things.

And then we have the OT7 fans. The ones who have always denied the importance and magnitude of the relationship between Jimin and Jungkook and who reduce all the hate they receive for that relationship to mere 'ship wars' and thus wash their hands of a problem that could have been over long ago if they did something. These are the worst fans anyone can have. They are the ones who celebrate your victories because it makes them feel special, but abandon you when you need them. That's what happened with Jimin and Jungkook. The OT7 fans abandoned them on this. Obviously not all, but those who see the hate they get and decide to keep quiet. They decide to do nothing. And the funny thing is that the few times some of them have said something, it's to insult jikookers. The bloody irony.

It's pathetic, sad, funny and annoying all this. It's not about jikookers wanting others to think like them anymore. It's never really been about that if we're honest. It's about people, supposed fans of Jimin and Jungkook HAVE to respect Jimin and Jungkook. They have to respect their bond. Their friendship and decisions involving each other. And they don't. No matter what Jimin and Jungkook say or do.

This situation will never change? And now, Jikookers are the only ones fighting a battle they can't seem to win. Jikookers are the only ones demanding respect for Jimin and Jungkook. They are the only ones reporting everybody. They are the only ones doing something and yet they are the most hated. The most ridiculed. The most excluded in this fandom.

Jimin and Jungkook don't deserve that. This isn't about whether you think they have a romantic relationship or not. This is not about you becoming a jikooker. This is about respect. It's about accepting that Jimin and Jungkook have a great relationship. That they like to be together. This is about accepting and RESPECTING the fact that Jimin and Jungkook DECIDED to join the army TOGETHER. This is about being a decent human being. Is that so hard?

If you hate Jimin or Jungkook simply because they are together you are a piece of shit. Jimin and Jungkook would be ASHAMED OF YOU. They would NEVER give you the time of day. Jimin and Jungkook will always choose the other over either of you. And that's a truth that I know deep down inside you, you know too.

I'm excited to see whatever Jimin and Jungkook filmed for us, but I'm also terrified of how this fandom will react when it's finally released.

[reidiantdawn]

⚡ What if Pokemon x Vocaloid, but with Rin and Len?

[andswarwrites]

Day 5

Random subject today, but I hate having to choose between two categories, like you're either a tea drinker or a coffee drinker.  I drink coffee in the morning, or when I feel like drinking it, and I drink tea in the afternoon, or, get this, when I feel like drinking it.  What about the cat person, dog person debacle?  I love dogs, and I love cats.  I guess that opens up a whole other subject: is there anything I dislike?  Of course there is, there are.  Can I be more specific?  I don't know.  They don't lurk near the surface of my brain.  Off the top of my head, I can't think of anything.  Most people hate Brussels sprouts and blue cheese.  Not me.

If there's one thing I can criticize, it is the actual action of being critical.  You'd think since I dislike snide, rude, or even forceful statements, that I'd be a proponent of optimistic, sunny positivity.  And there are the two categories again: you're either negative or positive.  You know what I want?  I want to be real.  Negativity can creep into speech and demeanor because someone is going through a difficult period of their life, they're having trouble adjusting, they don't have enough support, so they have to actively seek it, by telling their troubles over and over.  They just don't see the bright side.  What will help such ones?  A listening ear.

Now, before I criticize positivity, after saying I don't like being critical, I want to explain my point of view.  If you naturally see the cup as half full, if you can always find the silver lining, that is awesome.  I flatter myself that I'm a little like that too.  But I worry that the urge to be positive can result in a lack of trueness to ourselves.  We all have rough days.  We all have low times.  Acknowledging such days and times is much healthier than trying to gloss over them.  And if honestly opening up about what you are going through is met with almost hostile "feel-goodness", that's almost worse than apathy.

There are many different forms of grief, though everyone understands grief when you lose someone in death.  But think of all the other ways we experience loss.  As amazing as parenthood is, there are so many stages: babyhood, toddlerhood, small child, not so small child, pre-teen, teen, and all of a sudden (I'm not there yet with N-, but it's close) they're out of your home, making a home of their own, living their own life.  I wouldn't have it any other way, of course, I wouldn't want to stunt my kid's growth to keep her with me indefinitely, but sometimes, you have to deal with the loss of one stage, and accept and at length appreciate the new one.

We experience loss in relationships.  Someone we were extremely close to at one point, now lives across the country or even the planet, or neither of us can any longer make the time to communicate with each other.  Maybe the dynamic that brought us close together has faded.  Sometimes there is a difference of opinion, and you need to give the person some time and space, in order to hopefully make peace at some point.  And in a marriage, you have to deal with change over and over again.  Every few years, both partners change just enough that you have to get to know each other again.  And that can be fun, but also difficult.

There are more examples with which I am less familiar, such as the loss of a job, the loss of health, or the loss of youth.  I've heard about these trials from friends and family.  I realize that you need to process the loss until you accept it, and one of the best ways to process and eventually accept new situations is to talk about what you are going through with others, if you have a circle of supportive and rational friends.  Now imagine if a "negative" person is talking to a "positive" person, how is that going to go?  Will our "negative" person be interrupted, corrected, or even exhorted?

I cringe because, I've been the "positive" person in that scenario.  I didn't understand that someone you know might talk about what they are going through every time they see you, and that's not because they are being "negative".  What they are going through hurts.  If you see someone in physical pain, do you expect them to just stop suddenly because their pain is inconvenient to you?  The pain killer is a listening ear.  And after listening to the pain being expressed, you might need a listening ear yourself.

I know it seems like I'm knocking positivity, and I'm not.  Having a positive outlook in life is healthy and will get you far.  But in my case, I keep that outlook as something personal, not something I have to shower on everybody I meet.  I don't feel the need to adjust everyone else's perspective, that's not my place.  Like I said, I used to try to force feed others positivity when I was younger, and I am so over that.  If you come to me with a problem, I will first let you get it all off of your chest, and then I will ask if there's something you need that I can help with.  That's where I'm at right now.

Imagine that your brain and what you communicate are a refrigerator and its contents.  How many of us leave leftovers and condiments, or even fresh fruit and vegetables at the back, and we have all this crowded, cluttered mess in front.  Now something makes you reach into the rear of the fridge, and you pull out something rotten, mouldy and downright nasty.  That's a thought that has been festering, unattended.  The best place for such a thought is in the garbage.

The point of that fridge illustration is that anyone can have toxic traits, right?  It doesn't make you a fundamentally bad person, you just neglected to clean out the fridge for a while, and when you got around to it, it was unpleasant and a little loathsome.  Now imagine you're cleaning out the fridge with a friend, and they make you feel like they've never left a jar of olives until it was coated in nastiness.  A friend should roll up their sleeves and help out, not sit in judgement.  It may be hard to listen when you don't agree, or you're struggling to understand, but remember, if that thought doesn't get expressed, it's going to just get worse.  Listen.  Without judgement.  Not always easy, especially if it's directed at you.  That's where I've got some work to do.

[viviraptor-art]

"i wouldn't say that it's not that you're not cute?"

(shrimpship x vocaloid might as well be a series at this point)

[fizzthewizz]

SWOCKET MV

u heard me right, SWOCKET MV, POSITIVE CLUB VS NEGATIVE CLUB BY WONDERFUL★OPPORTUNITY OR AS PPL CALL THEM WANOPO MADE ALL IN CAPCUT WOOOO

yea i am quite excited because this has taken me a whole month to make, srsly i felt like an ao3 author with all that happened

hope u guys like it!

[goomyloid]

STAND UP JAPAN NEGATIVE PEOPLE

[adm-starblitzsteel-4305]

How I thought about the MonsterVerse Mothra solo movie, but with the Mothra vs. Battra fighting scene?

I don't own this video (credit to @_s__o)

[sammy8d257]

You know the idea where a closed off mean character becomes more open and nicer when they become close to someone?

That's King with Purple

But for Purple, its the opposite

Like here me out,

Purple is closed off but they're nice, (or at least highly respectful of King)

But they're only like that with King at the beginning because Purple doesn't know him. Purple is nice and caring to King because King is a powerful, older authority figure in their life. In their mind, they are not equals. So Purple is nice to him to a fault.

(contrasted by Purple and the Color Gang, where Purple has no qualms with being a bastard (affectionate AND derogatory) to them because the level of respect shared between them is more equal)

So when Purple and King start bonding and start opening up more. There are moments where Purple gets mean. They get rude and will fight King on stuff.

And that's a good thing

Because it means that Purple trusts King enough to drop the placating, kind, and happy default, and actually show and communicate when they're upset and hurting.

And goddamn have they been hurting for a while

The idea that becoming closer brings both the positives and the negatives,

The idea that you know someone trusts you because they feel comfortable enough to have a breakdown in your presence,

The idea that they believe in your ability to help them when they're at their worst,

is so SO good to me

[variousqueerthings]

being trans in the UK right now is so very strange, you're able to go to a mainstream high-budget arts and/or science institution and find beautiful acknowledgements of your history and respectful inclusion of current lives and projects and politics that's based in well-researched community-minded testimony and statistics, but then the government and healthcare industry is all but openly admitting that they want you to disappear off the face of the earth, based largely on the ravings of one terminally online author, a few disgraced academics and comics, and their far-right antisemitic misogynist racist american evangelist friends on a site run by a billionaire megalomaniac. i go to some positive visibility celebrating bodily autonomy that makes it seem like we're moving forwards on the same day as the cass report is released and everything is on fire

[emmriches]

emmrich’s personal choice quest holds a weight to it that i really feel like the others didn’t or tried and couldn’t

[crocodilenjoyer]

crocodad is so so so so so so so fucking funny but most of the fan content around it SUCKS bc of this weird idea that crocodile would be nurturing as if he isn’t exactly the kind of guy that would be dodging at the speed of light any child support claims nami keeps sending cross guild… tsk tsk.

SKFNDNFC LITERALLYYYYY

i don’t care what oda said in that one sbs i really don’t think crocodile has a parental bone in his body. protective, maybe, of people and things he considers his own, but i think if you put him in a room with a child he’d only be capable of interacting with them like a small adult, if absolutely forced to interact with them at all. otherwise he is Leaving he is Gone.

(note that most of the people crocodile interacts with are wanted criminals. he is talking with this hypothetical kid like they’re both in The Biz.)

also this is definitely me projecting a little but i read a fic like this once and as a transmasc person who experiences visceral horror at even the idea of pregnancy, i think this goes double for like. a kid that he birthed. yeah parent-child connection etc etc but my favorite take on it is that crocodile didn’t realize he was pregnant until he was literally in labor, and he had the genuinely extremely reasonable and relatively measured reaction of flipping the fuck out, running to ivankov the second the kid was out of him, and then pulling a complete disappearing act.

children are also a major fiscal responsibility and he is Not About That.

[microatomicart]

POSITIVE VS NEGATIVE Tsukasa and Nene cover when

[projectsekaitakes]

I want a Nenekasa cover of Positive vs Negative plsss

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[aroaessidhe]

2024 reads / storygraph

Dear Wendy

YA contemporary

two first year students who become friends, bonding over their shared aroace identity and starting a club for aspec students

while unknowingly engaging in a petty war with their anonymous relationship advice instagrams

friendship, navigating potential futures and entering adult life, and exploring QPOC experiences

[voids-colourful-creations]

Sketchbook Doodle Dump: Wonderful Opportunity Pv Edition

[3416]

toronto victim complex is so insane that some people lose sight of the actual villain which is .. the media itself imo.