#please support me and tell me that this is a valid decision and i should go ahead with it pretty please

[elizabeth-mitchells]

like this post if i should give up on my thesis, leave it as it is, and hope for the best <3

[onlyangel4]

pushed too hard. mv1. SMAU + written.

max verstappen x chronically ill! reader

in which max's girlfriend has a very valid reason for not attending the races but the public doesn't know. and when the hate gets too much she pushes herself too hard.

author's note: so i have written this completely from experience, so the reader has elhers danlos syndrome (which i also have) but if you suffer from a different chronic illness please do imagine it as that.

warnings: chronic illness. hate. hospitalisation. injury.

face claim: katie douglas

y/ninsta posted a story tagging maxverstappen

written: y/sister managed to get a picture of me as soon as i woke up to find out that max won the bahrain gp with a twenty second lead. i am such a proud girlfriend rn.

maxverstappen replied to your story: good you are awake i'll facetime you rn. i miss you and the cats.

user1 replied to your story: if you really were a good girlfriend you would have been there supporting him

maxfan: you are such a bad wag you didn't even stay up to watch the race.

you had woken up on a high. you had turned your phone on to see all the messages informing you of your boyfriend's impressive win and you had even managed to facetime max before he went to bed. it felt like a good day. but then you made the mistake of opening social media. people on twitter were doing what people on twitter do best, talk shit. your eyes scanned over the screen as for the millionth time people picked apart your relationship and called you every name under the sun. they saw you as a villain that just did not support her boyfriend and that could not be further from the truth.

if you could attend every race you would but that just was not plausible. you suffered from elhers danlos syndrome and on top of that you had chronic fatigue. the elhers danlos effected your joints making every day painful to some degree. yes there were good and bad days but there were never pain free days. both of your knees had been operated on and you were awaiting surgery on your ankle due to frequent dislocations. the simple description of elhers danlos is that you had fault collagen, this collagen is what makes your connective tissue so your connective tissue was faulty and therefore your joints had a habit of dislocating and causing you a hell of a lot of pain. it was a domino effect the constant pain that you were in made you incredibly tired and that is where the chronic fatigue came in. max often called you his sleepy girl because you needed at least one nap per day to function properly.

you knew the problems you were having with max's fans could be solved by you telling them what you suffered with medically but they did not deserve an explanation from you. you should be allowed to live your life how you want to without thousands of strangers telling you that you were doing it wrong or that you were a bad girlfriend. you wanted to keep your medical issues private and max completely understood and supported your decision to do so. so instead you had to deal with all the hate. you just had to remind yourself that these people did not know the real you and if they did they, hopefully, would not treat you like this.

y/sister posted a story tagging y/ninsta

written: y/n finally left the house for the first time in five days and it was just for a snack run.

maxverstappen replied: is she having a bad week, she only eats reese's when she is a lot of pain

y/sister: i didn't tell you this but she is not doing well at all, she slept all of yesterday and then today the internet hates her because she wasn't at the race.

as the saudi arabian gp came and went max was busy with stragety meetings and such this meant that instead of coming home for a few days like he had previously planned he stayed out there and was going to go straight from there to australia and at this point you were really missing your boyfriend. the hate had not subsided either. it was just a very difficult time for you. one night where you had just been scrolling through twitter reading through the cruel things that people had been saying about you, you hit your limit. there was no way that you could deal with this for the rest of the season. so insteadyou decided to do something about it.

the morning you needed to fly to australia was when you realised that this was a bad idea. you had woken up in enough pain to down a horse, joints aching and head spinning. but danny had pulled strings for you. he had arranged everything just so that you could surprise your boyfriend and there was no way you were going to cancel when the plan was already in motion. so instead you just grinned and bared it. the flight was okay, luckily daniel had booked you a first class seat.. but sleep was hard to come by due to your body not being used to sleeping while being in flight. you were already tired when you landed in australia. due to the lack of notice the only flight daniel could arrange got in late on the saturday night. so you had booked a hotel next to the airport and arranged for a car to pick you up in the morning.

it had been so fucking hot in your hotel room and that meant that sleep was incredibly difficult to find. you tossed and turned all night only getting five hours of low quality sleep. in the morning you had pulled on a comfortable outfit and made your way out to the car that daniel had arranged for you.

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f1wags: y/n y/ln has arrived to her first ever grand prix. y/n has been dating max verstappen for 18 months and had never been to a race before. but today that changes. she is not dressed in usual wag attire instead in an oversized shirt and bike shorts with a red bull cap. she may not be dressed like the others but we are happy to see her in the paddock

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user30: we wait for her to show up and she comes wearing that. what an awful wag

user31: go on girl. give us nothing.

user32: i'm actually so happy she is here. i love y/n and have never understood the hate i think she is the cutest

the red bull garage was incredibly easy to spot. your eyes found danny loitering outside having a meaningless conversation with your boyfriend, "i got you a present mate. as it is my home gp i decided to spoil you", danny spoke and max raised an eyebrow.

"whatever it is i am sure that i don't want it", max responded

"i wouldn't be so sure", you cut in and max turned around instantly at the sound of your voice a wide smile gracing his features.

"oh my god, y/n", he spoke as his arms engulfed you in a tight hug. "what are you doing here love?"

"i wanted to surprise you"

"well consider me surprised"

you laughed softly as you followed your boyfriend into the red bull garage he gave you a tour of the garage and you followed him clinging onto his arm. he was used to having to hold you up so leaning on him did relieve your aching joints. max knew all about your medical issues he had helped you with them for over a year. he knew that coming to australia was pushing your body past its limits so every so often he made sure to check in on you. make sure that you sat for a little bit before interacting with the rest of the team. however when he left to go and race there was no longer anyone in the garage that knew about your medical issues. and this is what led to you being stood all of the race. stragestists and other people who you gathered were important to the team took the seats, while you stood towards the back of the garage.

it was around lap twenty when your left ankle began to properly hurt and your eyes felt heavy. a clear indicator of fatigue and your body telling you that you needed to rest. but your boyfriend was racing so well and you wanted to be able to watch him. the race continued for a few more laps however just as max started the thirty first lap your ankle gave way, dislocating from the strain of you being stood on it when it was already under pressure. you crumpled onto the floor a yelp leaving your lips as you fell but you were unable to put your hands out to soften your fall so you ended up hitting your head on the hard ground. this was enough to knock you out. first aiders ran over and called the ambulance into the paddock but you next regained consciousness inside the ambulance, on the way to hospital. alone.

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f1updates: as the drivers go into the 4oth lap of the australian gp an ambulance was spotted leaving the paddock with full lights. sources say the ambulance was parked outside of the red bull garage, but no one knows who was inside of it when it left the paddock

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user35: the stress finally got to horner

user36: shit i hope whoever it is is okay

user37: the red bull garage do look rather stressed

"well done max you have just won the australian grand prix", christian had called over the radio. he felt guilt twinge at him. his girlfriend had been rushed to the hospital thirty laps ago but christian had made the decision to not tell max until the end of the race. he knew that the dutch driver was going to be mad when he heard the news. christian decided he needed someone else to tell max what had happened. "daniel can you come find me as soon as you are out of the car", he had intercepted the racing bulls radio just to give daniel the message, christian knew it would be better to have bad news coming from him rather than himself.

"thirty fucking laps ago", max spoke pacing back and forth in front of one of his closest friends. "you are trying to tell me my girlfriend had an ambulance called on her thirty laps ago and no one told me. she is in a foreign hospital. alone and probably scared shitless", max ranted to danny.

"i know man, christian just asked me to tell you. we can go to the hospital after the podium ceremony"

"oh fuck that i'm going now"

"you aren't driving", daniel knew better than to argue with max in that moment. yes christian would be pissed to find out that max was skipping the podium ceremony but daniel was not going to stop him from leaving. instead the two man snuck out the back of the paddock and to danny's car. the two racecar drivers got to the hospital in record speed with max running up to the front desk asking the nurse where he could find you. he was ushered through the hospital to a ward.

you were sat in a private ward you ankle elevated, an ice pack on your head and fluid iv in your arm. "max. you won.", you spoke softly. you had the television on and the grand prix on, you had just watched footage of a frantic christian looking for the driver that was now in your room.

"that does no matter my love, what happened?"

"i just pushed myself too far max. i forced myself to stand the whole time and my ankle dislocated, the doctors want to operate on it soon. and when i fell i gave myself a nasty concussion", you explained and the look on max's face could only be described as broken.

"oh my love", he spoke softly pressing a kiss to your forehead.

"i just didn't want the fans to think i was a bad girlfriend. that you deserve more than me", you spoke quietly, "they all hate me because i can't go to races", you spoke tears forming in your eyes but max's thumb quickly wiped them away.

"they don't hate you. they just don't know you honey."

"we should put out a statement, tell them what has been going on with me"

"you just read my mind my love"

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y/ninsta: a long awaited health update. after a week in hospital i am now finally back home from australia. i am expected to have surgery on my ankle in the next couple of weeks. and i am on a strict diet of hourly lollipops because my blood sugar was low. i just wanted to say a massive thank you to max who literally ditched his own podium ceremony (sorry christian) to be with me. i am so incredibly lucky to have you and i love you with all of my heart, even if i am pissing you off while i'm on bedrest.

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maxverstappen: you could never annoy me

y/ninsta: even when i try to walk when i'm not supposed to

maxverstappen: y/n sit tf down

danielricciardo: so glad to hear you are doing better

y/insta: thank you for bringing me take out every day i was in australia

user40: the world owes this girl an apology. you all bitching and moaning about her not being present just to find out that she has a chronic illness. some of you should be really embarrassed rn

[midnight-fox-boy]

I know this is a very high emotion topic right now but I think I need to say this.

To my USA pals; If you see any posts from a trans person talking about potentially detransitioning/going back in the closet and they list strong reasons as to why they're considering it (living in specific areas for example), please do not react with "No! Don't! Don't let them win that's what they want!!".

Like don't get me wrong, I'm not saying we should encourage people to go back in the closet or to "give in". But I DO think that this mindset places an unfair responsibility onto that person. It comes off as seeing it as a betrayal, as "giving up and conforming", as a "loss".

It comes off as thinking someone needs to put their life on the line to loudly fight for what is right. That they must exist as they are publicly regardless of the dangers.

If someone GENUINELY feels that they will be safer going back into the closet until this is all over, that's valid. We shouldn't support them in whatever choices they make and remind them that they are still welcome within his community.

Buuuuttt, I think it's also okay to speak logically, especially if the person is asking for input or something. Helping the person find any potential helpful resources (or how to find those resources) to live as safely and healthily as possible.

I think it's okay to suggest waiting and seeing how things go before hastily making an emotionally charged decision that they may regret. I think it's okay to remind them that there's options in-between fully detransitioning/going into the closet, and being OUT loud and proud. For example maybe that's boy/girlmoding at work/school or going partially back into the closet, but not fully.

By basically telling people they have to be okay with being in danger no matter how scared they are or else they've basically done something wrong or bad, you're just going to contribute to more guilt, fear, and feelings of being alone.

And remember that many trans people are parents. Sometimes a parent may choose decisions they really don't want to do in order to keep their children safe.

I know this is not intended..I know you're not trying to guilt them or imply that they're contributing to the "enemy winning", but it can very much cause those kinds of feelings. They have not failed us. They have not failed themselves.

We will fight as a community, and we will fight for those who have to do whatever they can to survive and be safe, even if they can't be on the front lines. Our collective strength is enough to carry them.

[himasgod]

Hello. I hope you have an amazing time and day. I was wondering if you can do a request of Yanfei x reader where reader is a quiet person who doesn’t talk much, but is close to Yanfei and just listen to her whenever she is talking about anything. Basically a listener x yapper. If that is ok. No rush at all and please take your time

Yanfei x Reader listener x yapper

Where you don't talk much, and she talks too much

Where she always turns to you, her totally silent favorite person, to tell you about her entire day and chat endlessly while you, as quiet as ever, just listen intently.

(I loved making this <3 I'll be back to studying soon so here you go, hope you like it!)

Not because you had nothing to say, but because you never felt the need to fill the silences with unnecessary words. And perhaps that was why you and Yanfei made such a peculiar combination.

Liyue was a bustling place, a sea of ​​voices constantly moving, but amidst all the noise, you preferred to listen.

You had grown accustomed to her rhythm. Her words flowed without pause, like an unstoppable stream, but far from being exhausting, it was comforting. Sitting next to her and listening to her talk was one of the simplest and most rewarding pleasures of your life.

“And then I explained to him that, although the contract seemed perfectly valid at first glance, it contained an ambiguous clause that could come back to haunt him. Can you believe it? They tried to trick him with misleading wording, but of course they didn’t count on me reviewing it.” Yanfei spoke with the sparkling excitement of someone who loved her job. “In the end, I managed to negotiate better terms for him. Isn’t that great?”

“By the way, I saw Ms. Bai at the plaza today. She told me that her nephew wants to open a food stall, but he doesn’t know anything about permits. Maybe I should offer to help… although, if I think about it, it might be tricky if he has no idea what he’s doing. Ah, but what am I saying, of course I’ll help him.” Yanfei laughed softly, tapping her forehead with a scroll. “I always say that I have too much work, but deep down I like it. It’s fun to solve problems.”

You nodded with a slight smile, watching her as she spoke with such passion. You had learned to read her gestures and expressions with the same precision with which she read contracts. When she was really excited, her enlightened beast ears would move slightly, and when she spoke of something that frustrated her, she would purse her lips in an almost imperceptible way.

“Speaking of frustrating things,” she continued, crossing her arms, “I had a custody case today. I hate those cases. No matter what I do, someone ends up hurt. And the worst thing is that children are always the ones who are most affected…” Yanfei sighed, resting her chin on her hand. “I wish people would think better before making important decisions.”

This time, it wasn’t enough for you to just listen. You reached out a hand and placed it over hers in a silent gesture of support. Yanfei was surprised at first, but then smiled, turning it over to intertwine her fingers with yours.

“You know, I like you like this,” she said quietly, her tone different, softer. “You don’t need to say anything to make me feel understood. That’s weird. Most people think that since I talk a lot, I don’t need someone to really listen to me… but you do.”

You gave her a calm look back, as if to say that you would always be there to do so. She laughed tenderly.

“I knew it, you won’t say anything. But that’s okay, because I like to talk, and I like you to listen to me. We make a good team, don’t you think?”

And at that moment, in the quiet of a starry night in Liyue, you knew you didn't need words to answer her.

[isindismay]

WAHHH I WATCHED THE COBRA KAI FINALE! Spoilers ahead! Don't be tempted to click if you haven't seen it yet!

I have so much to say but i LOVED it. Thank god, thank god, i thought this might ruin my whole YEAR. Staying off social media for a week was definitely the right choice, and the spoilers and leaks i did hear about didn't ruin my enjoyment of it. Do i ruin my reputation by admitting i got to the bottom of a box of tissues? It was so damn emotional, man!

Almost screaming at the TV when Da-Eun was faced with her decision. So fucking proud of both her and John for telling Master Kim to fuck off with his revenge bullshit, i was so scared from the preview that this was gonna be their whole thing in these last episodes, obliterating all their volition. Way to break the cycle of violence! This is what i've been saying the show is all about all along so i'm very happy.

Johnny and Daniel getting to be great mentors in their own ways was fantastic to see. And the kids all finding their individual paths was great. Felt like they kinda forgot about Kenny and Devon and Anthony though, which was a shame. Maybe they should have given them the time they gave to really minor characters like Louie's cousin and Chozen's "date" who did the most bullshit tarot reading in the history of television (although that was kinda funny).

Tory getting her win was so important to me, and loved seeing her train with Sam. And Johnny giving Miguel his headband! I was gutted for Robby, but he took it extraordinarily well and got a happy ending anyway. And binary brothers AI Axel was so silly, i loved it! The focus on the romantic jealousy between the rivals was a bit eh for me, but i liked the resolution of Sam and Miguel and Tory and Robby's relationships. Oh and Sam getting Mr Miyagi's mother's necklace was lovely, and a good tie-up of the dubious Mr Miyagi thieving storyline from part 2.

So proud of Johnny for shaking off his "loser" label and getting to WIN! The twist ending where he had to fight was such bullshit but i loved it. Eaglewolf fight YEAH! The whole proposal and wedding bit was nicely done, and somehow intercutting samtory and binary boyfriends scenes was blatant fan pleasing behaviour but nonetheless lovely. The whole family/community that Daniel and Johnny have created around themselves through karate was highlighted and i loved that. The friends we made along the way were more important than anything else ftw!

The Johnny taking over Cobra Kai bit again wasn't as bullshit as i expected it to be (which is not zero bullshit, but it was entertaining and felt right). Seeing Wolf and Terry going oh fuck no they're cheating too that's not fair was totally worth it.

Wolf getting to be even more of an asshole than before, hell yes! And most importantly, getting a name! Although apparently Sensei Wolf is an alias so i guess we're valid for calling him that? Also proud of Axel for standing up to him and fighting his own way, their dynamic was a fun parallel of Kreese and Johnny had it gone another way (they both lost their fights but Axel's loss felt like a win for him.)

I was nervous when i read that TIG interview where he talked about Terry being terminally ill, and falsely thought that storyline had been dropped. Personally i thought they handled it fine, i liked that they showed Terry showing true vulnerability and struggling, but also still managing to be strong and fight. They also highlighted how alone he was which was SAD. (also with him gone there was a reflection of this in how Wolf was utterly without anyone on his side after alienating Zara and Axel, further highlighting how WE ALL LOVE AND SUPPORT JOHNNY!)

I would have liked them to have spent more time on John's realisation about the error of his ways and his chats with Da-Eun, Tory and Johnny, they seemed short and abrupt in typical tv fashion, but i'm not unhappy with what they did, like with Terry it was deeply deeply SAD. Would've liked him to at least give Tory a hug or congratulated her on her win, but eh, the man feels like he has to leave, so it felt right for him even though my heart aches that it felt like he could have been loved and accepted by these people but just couldn't let them.

I feel like i set myself up for horrible disappointment when i get heavily invested in villains, so i was really fucking nervous about their endings. My top choice was they run away together, however murder suicide WAS the only other ending i would have found acceptable. Loved their fight on the yacht. They might have been too repressed to talk about anything other than their students but they got to roll around on the floor together and do horrible things to each other. (I kinda wanted Terry to guilt-trip John for being an asshole to a poor, terminally ill man despite the fact that he didn't mention his illness to him, but hey that's what fanfiction is for i guess.) But you know what the best part is, i mean, other than them having a really fucking cool death, together? CANCER IS A BASTARD BUT JOHN KREESE IS A BIGGER BASTARD! HE FUCKING KICKED CANCER'S ASS! And that will never stop being so important and powerful, at least to me (and to Tory and Devon, if they ever find out). For that alone, he is a hero in my eyes. And Terry didn't have to die of his disease (with the timing i was scared he might just keel over mid-tournament) or see his last chance of winning fail AND he got to die by the hand of the man he said he would do anything for. I am sure i will be sobbing my eyes out over them and writing absolutely devastating fics inspired by their ending for a good long while yet.

HELL YES! The show might be over but COBRA KAI NEVER DIES!

[bloomzone]

Hey I wanted to share that I have a very good friend of mine and something happed between us what happened was that I did not agree to sit on the last bench of the class I wanted to sit on the first one so I sat there and she didn't sit with me and in the break I went to her she said don't come close to me with a furious tone so I came back and now it's been 2 days since we last talked can you please tell me what was my fault in here and what should I do

It doesn’t seem like you did anything wrong here. You made a personal choice to sit where you felt comfortable, and that’s entirely valid. Friendships should be about mutual understanding and respect, and your decision to sit on the first bench doesn’t mean you care any less about your friend.ur friend's reaction might be based on her own feelings—perhaps she felt left out or misunderstood your choice. To address this, you could try reaching out to her calmly and expressing your perspective. You might say something like:

"I noticed you’ve been upset with me, and I really value our friendship, so I wanted to talk. I decided to sit at the front because it helps me focus better in class, but it wasn’t meant to hurt or upset you. Can we talk about how you’re feeling?”

This shows her that you care about her feelings and are open to resolving the misunderstanding. Give her some space if she’s not ready to talk, but let her know the door is always open. Friendships sometimes face small bumps, but with clear communication and understanding, you can work through it together.

in my opinion friendships are important but ur education and personal growth come first. Surround yourself with people who respect your priorities and support you and good luck !!

[heyeun-recyclebin]

I just saw this post on my tumblr feed and man…it is misleading…

The part that is misleading is saying that “your soul, it will always tell you”

You gotta elaborate more on this because yet it may sound cool and convincing it’s teaching people to just dismiss any type of relationships without actually understanding the situation.

Because…we all need to know this fact.

“Feelings change every time”

So please do not just rely based on your feelings. You don’t even know if that’s your soul telling you or not lol.

It could just be YOU dealing with crap and simply wanting to distance yourself from the “world”

You might be losing good people because of this.

I thought it was my soul or heart telling me to stay away from certain people in the past and I regret so much for doing this. I made the dumbest decision.

In fact, I recently reconvened with an old friend several months ago whom I dismissed 10 yrs ago. I had this feeling that my soul was telling me to stay away from this person with all my heart at the time lol.

I regretted this decision year after year and we finally decided to try it again.

I am far more mature than I was before and so is my friend. We are really in good shape and both working on this relationship.

People these days give up so easily. If something doesn’t simply align with them they just toss it aside and never look back again.

Yes, unless the relationship is toxic and abusive…you are dealing with sociopath and narcissistic people…please leave the relationship but don’t leave just because you don’t feel the same anymore.

There are tons of ways to make things work out.

Don’t go straight into “oh…I have this gut feeling that I should distance myself from this person because I feel xyz”

If the relationship was good and becoming stale or you’re experiencing life challenges and changes, let them know your situation. Be honest. If they don’t want to respect you then distance yourself.

Some people just read these quotes and immediately apply it to their life by distancing themselves.

That’s an emotional betrayal and shock to the opponent.

They will be wondering why?..did I do something wrong?

They will probably act unnecessarily clingy and being that chaser to find out what the hell is going on??

Even putting them into the most vulnerable, unattractive place and giving you validation that “oh yeah, my soul was telling me the right thing, I indeed need to distance myself from this person”

Relationship is about companionship and commitment. We work on it together. We help and support each other. If something doesn’t seem to align, you work it out together as a team.

It is not too late to distance yourself after trying out all other options.

[friendly-wizard-bibliothecary]

on the topic of wyll and writing, is it just me or do the dialogue options for when you find stuff out about him all feel very harsh? please correct me if i’m wrong but telling wyll he’s lucky mizora didn’t do worse is like the nicest you can say to him after she shows up and transforms him. maybe i’m blinded by my love for him but i found it disheartening that i couldn’t say something kinder especially since my tav would now know he knowingly went against his patron to spare karlach with the knowledge that he would have to pay for it. and then when you find out he’s the son of a duke the nicest (if you can even consider it nice) is like “dammit you should have told me” but like up until that point it really doesn’t feel like he owed you that information??? he’s been estranged with his dad for 7 years and made a different life for himself in that time so why would it ever be necessary to disclose who his dad is prior to him getting pulled into the main plot??

idk i could definitely be wrong but it felt like you could respond better to the other companions revealing information about themselves to you than you could with wyll and that always rubbed me the wrong way

Continued Topic - Wyll Ravengard - Fandom: Baldur's Gate 3

Anon, I think you make a good point and you should trust your gut.

Personally, my memory is trash and there is a lot going on in BG3, so I can't say for certain. If anyone out there can contribute to this conversation, please feel free to.

One example I do have, though, is in regards to a conversation with Wyll towards the end of the game (spoilers, duh) when he tells you that he wants to kill Mizora. Now, I've wanted to kill that bitch all game, so of course I was like "Yes, gurl, valid! Let's kill her and take selfies over her corpse! I'll pick the outfits!" But the dialogue options didn't allow you to wholeheartedly support him in that. Not like you can when encouraging Gale to become a god or support Astarion to become ascended - both options which are to their detriment, btw! I wish I had a screenshot of the options, but I felt like I was scolding him for his decision in every dialogue option. Why shouldn't I be excited to kill Wyll's abuser who has been a pain in our ass all game? I killed Raphael for way less!

You definitely get way less harsh options when other companions reveal their secrets, though, I'm sure. One dialogue option for Astarion's vampire reveal (if you don't catch him biting you in the middle of the night) is something like "Oh yeah, I'm aware. Thanks for telling me though." For Gale, you can tell him to leave your party, but you can also tell him you're there to support him and will get him whatever he needs. I didn't feel like there were strong options for supporting Wyll when he finally wants to take care of Mizora. Like you, Anon, I could be wrong!

So, I see where you're coming from, Anon. This is going to be something I look closer at during my future playthroughs and I encourage everyone to take a closer look at it to. I'm going to try to remember to take screenshots too. It's nice to have receipts when people start to think we're reading too much into it.

But if there is a distinct difference in how we as players can treat Wyll vs. other (white) companions, I think that is a serious issue we need to be talking about.

[psalmicwitch]

oh, sorry dear.. if the previous questions arent appropriate , as per ur practice .. please consider these maybe ?

how can i do better in life ?

message on my current situation ? ( exams stress and i am not doing well )

upcoming or current challenge/message for me and my bf-sk,Sagittarius, he/him

i am ishaana(id) she/her, libra

thank u so much ❤❤

Hi Hun! I wanted to answer all your questions from the previous ask as well, so I just rephrased a couple of them. I did two three card pulls, shuffling my first pull back into the deck before the second one. Here's what I pulled for you:

How should I feel about my exam result (10 of pentacles, upright) I want to begin with the fact that the ten of pentacles literally jumped out of my deck for you. We'll circle back to this fact later. The ten of pentacles usually indicates accomplishment of some sort, money, health, family. You could take this a couple of ways. Either your exam went well, or the process with which you deal with the result, whatever way it goes, could lead you to feeling accomplished and well supported. To take it a step further, the older gentlemen in the card suggests that we're not to be happy simply because we've attained something, but rather the sharing of our accomplishments with our loved ones.

How should I anticipate and prepare for my parent’s reaction to my result (two of Wands, upright) The two of wands invites us to feel adventurous and make a move, despite our reservations. The wall in the cards may represent the security you feel when your parents are pleased with you, and the world outside that comfortable space free of conflict, is daunting. While this card doesn't tell us how they will react, it invites you to perhaps be more self assured and less reliant on their validation for your self worth. I understand that often failing a test results in physical consequences as well, and that is certainly frightning, but I believe this card invites you to at least disconnect your emotions from their reaction.

Upcoming challenge for me and my bf (initials sk) (Page of cups, upright) The page of cups is a card of surprise and creativity. This suggests that an upcoming challenge may be a surprise, perhaps a personality shift in one of the two of you. The personality shift may be a type of creativity, or one that takes creativity to solve. The great part of the page of cups is that although this change and challenge is surprising, it is a welcome and positive one. You may have to explore part of yourself and your relationship deeper, but the sign from the page is a positive one.

How can I do better in life? (Page of swords, reversed) The page of swords often comes to us reversed when we're holding part of ourselves back. That may be from a loved one, our community, or ourselves. Sometimes the page of swords reversed tells us that we're falling into people-pleasing activities, making promises we can't keep, or acting hastily. The invitation from the page of cups is to reflect on the questions he asks us, and decide for ourselves in which of these scenarios we are lacking. Do we need to be more open, make better promises, or think things through further?

Message on my current situation (two of swords, reversed) The two of swords is a card that tells us of confusion, and carefully weighing our options. Reversed, these concepts are exagerated. We're facing a difficult decision, life path, or stuck between two competing sides or ideas, and we have absolutely no idea what to do. As the woman in the two of swords is blindfolded, the only way to move forward is to trust our intuition. We either don't have all the facts or can't see them, so prolonging this stalemate is only detrimental.

Upcoming or current message for me and my bf (10 of Pentacles, reversed) There's the 10 of pentacles again, this time, reversed. I'd take a closer look at the ten of pentacles online, and see if other people's interpretations of this card relate to you at all. It's a little bizare to see the same card twice. In such a short time span for the same person. The ten of pentacles, unlike before where we were to feel comfortable in our situation, invites us to ask ourselves what we really want. We need to question our need for security, stability, and commitment. This card is NOT a reason to rapidly change a relationship, however. Is your relationship feeling stagnant? Are you moving too quickly? Is one of you too dependant on the other? Perhaps we should look back at the Page of Cups. Since that card asks us to try something new, and this one asks us to question our foundations and normalcy, if you resonate with the stagnancy of this card, should the two of you try something new together? If perhaps you resonate with the security aspect of this card, maybe try new hobbies apart, and share the joy in them together?

(I answered this publicly, but let me know if you'd like it removed and answered privately instead!) My physical cards are below!

[mimikoolover]

There’s nothing wrong in acknowledging the difference in how the company managed jm’s comeback Vs jk’s. And there’s nothing wrong with admitting that jk got a huge push that helped him achieve all these numbers while other members didn’t. That’s not diminishing, that’s stating facts. Idk why army keep calling people “solos” “antis” whenever we point out that a lot of shady things have happened with jimin and face. Yes we don’t know what’s happening behind the scenes but we are also not blind. We can see that face CDs are not restocked, we can see that hype did not acknowledge jimin’s number one, we can see that hype approved that shady article about jimin (the Weverse article ), we know that hype said no when jimin asked for a visual album (he literally told us) , we know that the fans were not informed about bbd new rule and that caused a free fall for LC. we also know that the promotion period was too short for a debut album. These things have happened and have affected LC’s potential and it’s ok to acknowledge that and question why they happened. If some fans want to ignore and focus on the happy things then that’s ok but please don’t accuse those who care about jimin as an artist of being akagaes or whatever you call them. Some of us want to the best for jimin and the rest of the group and we would be happy for all the members and their achievements as long as no one gets sabotaged on the way.

no.

to clarify: you're a solo/akgae because you harbour irrational hatred for other members. not because you care about jimin. caring about jimin doesn't involve hating on the people he's closest to and actively sabotaging them.

tell me your motivation behind comparing jimin and jk's solo debut. where are the comparisons involving the hyung line, if you think of yourself as so fair?

jimin's promo is not fans' job. how the members' promos are handled is not fans' job. you don't know what happens behind the scenes. stop pretending you do.

you list several things that you perceive as sabotage and for some reason you think this, which is business, is somehow your job to demand better for.

let me say this again: the members' careers are business.

hybe is not attacking jimin as a person if they say no to an idea he brings to the table. as a fan i want jimin to do everything that he wants to. at some stage that stops being realistic as a business decision and jimin knows that. it's still more than valid for him to be upset about the decision and to voice that. but when he tells you, he's not also saying to you that he wants you to burn the company building down.

it's baffling you expect fans to be informed about billboard rules by the company.

as a fan, you should enjoy the music and the content that your fave creates. at some stage in this fandom this will have to be said:

it's not fans' job to spend thousands of dollars in order to make their faves chart.

it's not fans' job to stream 24/7 from multiple devices in order to increase streams.

it's not fans' job to monitor the company, billboard, scooter, the entire industry.

it's not caring about your fave when you spread hate against other members. it's not caring about jimin when you team up with other fandoms to try to make a racist American man or two chart above jungkook. you're not justified hating, comparing, sabotaging jungkook because the company doesn't do for jimin what you want them to do.

it would be naive to claim that the fandom's frankly bonkers 'support' as they call it did not put bts and the members where they are today. it did.

but bts never ask you to do any of that. when they say they love army, it's not because of the monetary support or the endless streaming.

when jungkook tells people to care more about themselves than him, and that fans are the main characters' of their own lives, you can wonder why he says that.

(side-note: i seriously side-eye every single artist that has seen what bts fans do, and now encourage their fans to do the same and buy and stream endlessly. several tweets and posts asking fans if they're streaming. all of that. bts have never done that).

be honest with yourself and really think about how what you listed above in your ask makes you feel. then think about whether jimin would want you to feel that way.

people gotta understand that what fandom says isn't rooted in reality. the reality is bts do their job and we don't know what the company does, we don't know their personal lives, we don't know feelings they only share with the people closest to them or maybe with no one at all. the reality is you cannot take every move, act, breath, word of a member as gospel and base your entire experience around you and twitter's assumptions over what they mean. there's gotta be some grey space where people take things at face value and just enjoy the damn music.

[asking-jude]

Hi, so, i dont usually do stuff like this, but i don't really feel like i have anyone irl i can talk to about this right now. So I've recently gotten into a relationship. Its my first actual relationship and my gf seems lovely, shes always been really supportive and kind to me, even before we started dating. However, im not sure i really like being in a relationship, i find myself missing when she and i were just friends and i feel like I've jumped into a relationship to soon. I didn't have time to properly think through my feelings for her and i dont think they're really as strong as i initially thought. Ive started to notice this is a pattern for me, the second someone shows a mutual intrest in me i seem to start to lose intrest, even if i dont want to. My friends haven't havent been much help either, they're all currently upset with her for various and admittedly completely valid reasons, and they have proof of some really inconsiderate and honestly rude things shes said about them and to them (we're all in the same friend group btw). I dont know how to feel about any of this, i mean i don't want to break up, but how much of that is just me wanting to go with the flow? And staying when im not really feeling it feels unfair. Should i end things before they get to deep? Should i stick it out for a while? I'm sorry this is so long.

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Hi love,

Thank you for reaching out to Asking Jude. I am sorry that you are going through this difficult situation. Please understand that what you are feeling is completely valid. It is commendable that you are comfortable enough with your feelings to reach out for advice.

I would recommend taking some time to reflect on yourself and your feelings. Assess whether or not you genuinely want to be in a romantic relationship with this person right now, or if you want to be in a romantic relationship at all. You could also ask yourself questions, such as, “Would I be happier if we were just friends?” or, “Do I see myself with her two years from now?” These questions can help clarify your genuine feelings about the situation.

Communication is vital in both romantic and platonic relationships. Try to have an open and honest conversation with her. You can discuss how you have been feeling about the relationship, and what you both can do moving forward. Telling her that you’re trying to understand your emotions will allow her to give you time to evaluate the relationship. You don't have to rush into decisions about the future of your relationship. Allow yourself to explore your emotions without feeling pressured. If you conclude that a romantic relationship is not what you are looking for right now, make sure to clearly communicate that with your partner.

I have linked some articles that can help you navigate through this situation. The second article could be particularly helpful because it explores what you should ask yourself when considering your relationship, and it contains further steps to help you with the conflict of the desire of being in a relationship:

https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/relationship-feels-like-friendship/; https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/do-i-want-a-relationship-questions/2015423.

Ultimately, it's important to be true to yourself and prioritize your own well-being. If you find that the relationship with your girlfriend isn’t fulfilling, it’s okay to make decisions that align with your needs. Please remember that all of your feelings are valid, and always be patient with yourself. Thank you again for reaching out to Asking Jude! Please do not hesitate to reach out again.

Best of luck,

Irene

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[common-man]

Small Story 280.

Small Story 280 Respecting Choices in Marriage"

After hearing her friend’s daughter’s wedding news, Subha wasn’t too surprised. Her friend Roshani shared that her daughter Anita was marrying her office colleague Naveen, who is from Odisha. Though Subha felt a bit unsettled at first, Roshani’s happiness was evident. “Their food habits are similar, and they make a good pair,” Roshani said with a smile.

Later that evening, Subha shared the news with her husband Ram. He responded warmly, “If they like each other, that’s what matters. Once love is there, one will adjust for the other. That’s how life becomes easier.” Ram’s practical take brought some comfort to Subha.

The following week, Ram, Subha, and their daughter Vasanthy attended Anita’s wedding. They were pleased to see the happy couple and enjoyed the delicious lunch, especially the wide variety of sweets. After the celebration, as they were heading home, Subha turned to her daughter and asked, “Vasanthy, tell me honestly, do you have any plans to marry someone from your office like Anita did?”

Vasanthy smiled and replied, “I truly appreciate Anita’s decision. But my nature is different. I want to follow our traditions and marry as per your and Dad’s wishes. Many youngsters today are choosing partners on their own, and we should respect that. But it’s also okay for someone like me to choose a traditional path. Both ways are valid as long as the decision is sincere and lasting.”

Shubha was delighted by her daughter’s openness and clarity. Ram added with a proud smile, “She is our daughter after all—following tradition, yet respecting others’ choices. What truly matters is how we see and support these decisions, not just the decisions themselves.” K.Ragavan 18-6-25

[mdlnnys]

The Algorithm Made Me Do It: Sex, Selfies, and Systemic Pornification

I can’t tell you exactly when it happened but Instagram and TikTok have transformed from a platform used for connecting with friends and family into a platform for pouty lips, arched backs, and camera angles that strategically spotlight curves. While many frame it as body confidence or empowerment, many of these kinds of posts reflect a deeper trend, one that's tied to pornification and the commodification of women’s bodies online.

Drenten et al. (2019) argue that what we often dismiss as “just selfies” are in fact forms of sexualised labour. This is especially clear in the influencer economy, where female creators often present sexualised versions of themselves to match dominant, heteronormative beauty ideals shaped by porn aesthetics. Take Tammy Hembrow, her brand mixes fitness, motherhood, and lifestyle, but always through hyper-sexualised visuals: hourglass poses, lingerie hauls, and flawless contouring. It’s powerful and polished, but still filtered through the lens of what sells. 

And what sells, still, is sex.

This isn't a critique of individual creators. Rather, it's about the system. Social media platforms reward these aesthetics not just with likes, but with brand deals, visibility, and validation (Bussy-Socrate & Sokolova, 2024). In the study, one influencer mentioned how they deliberately appear in lingerie or accentuate their curves not out of personal choice, but because such posts drive engagement, please followers, and fulfil sponsor expectations. Over time, what starts as a business decision becomes a cycle where sex appeal becomes a strategic tool, shaped more by the system’s demands than personal desire.

But what can we do about it?

Well, for starters it’s important to remove the player from the game. That means individual influencers shouldn’t be blamed for participating in a system that rewards sexualised content as they are simply doing what’s needed for visibility, engagement and income. Instead, we need to shift the conversation toward the structures that encourage this type of self-presentation. 

Platforms like Instagram should be held accountable for the algorithms they design. While they claim to take responsibility to foster safe and supportive communities for everyone, they continue to create environments where hyper-sexualised aesthetics thrive and become the norm. So rather than critiquing someone for posting sexy selfies, we should be asking: Why does it perform better? Who profits from it? When we frame the problem this way, it becomes clear that pornification is not a personal failure, but a systemic issue that needs broader cultural and platform-level accountability.

(Instagram, n.d.)

References

Bussy-Socrate, H. and Sokolova, K. (2024), "Sociomaterial influence on social media: exploring sexualised practices of influencers on Instagram", Information Technology & People, Vol. 37 No. 1, pp. 308-327. https://doi.org/10.1108/ITP-03-2022-0215

Drenten, J.,Gurrieri, L.,Tyler, M 2019, Sexualized labour in digital culture: Instagram influencers, porn chic and the monetization of attention In: Gender, Work and Organization, Gender, Work and Organization, pp. 1 – 26

Instagram. (n.d.). Instagram Community | A Safe & Supportive Experience | About Instagram. https://about.instagram.com/community

[trippinsorrows]

I hope whatever you decide to do with the poll results is what makes you feel more comfortable and happy 🤍 and that people can accept the decision without sending vile things to your way.

Personally, I believe Joe Anoa'i is as much of a character as Roman Reigns. We don't know that man (clearly 🤡), but writers have chosen to write stories about him with the characterization we see on TV and social media. It's like we know the basic elements. Reading a Joe story is knowing most of the time he's gonna be funny, kind, patient, maybe even shy, all about family, etc. (That's why when you shared pieces of your novel with us, we were giggling, already knowing he was gonna be so good to Solana 🥹) but at the end of the day none of us really know how he is, or what does he like, hell, God knows how he would react to his wife losing her memory or his girlfriend keeping his child away from him 😅 but it's okay because we don't need to, cause no one here is writing about the real him, they're writing about their own version. (I have also read my fair share of fics where he is the bad guy, and those are cool too!)

I think that's what makes it doable for me to keep reading stories about him, especially the ones I already know and love, like GMAR and The With Series. Also, I am a woman of color, and that's 2 things society loves to hate on. A bitch is TIREDT of the real world. I just wanna be home doing what makes me happy, and one of those things is fanfiction. And now am I supposed to give it up!? For a man who's unbothered in his mansion? ABSOLUTELY NOT.

And to whoever has decided not to read any Joe stories or Roman stories, hell, if you decided to block a page that posts gifs and pictures because you don't wanna see his stupid face: THAT'S SO VALID. And I hope no one sends mean things to your way either. Cause no one here deserves that shit.

i, too, pray that it can be a decision that even if people don't like/hate, they opt to either unfollow or block me. i get it. i truly do. i support people only following accounts whose content they enjoy, and if not, disengage. that is what everyone deserves to have the right to do! not to send mean, hateful, judgmental messages. because, at the end of the day, i'm a registered democrat who always has and will vote blue. i know i sign petitions, i know i write and send letters/emails to my local and state officials. i vote. i know i'm on the right side of history and who i am. i don't need anyone, nor can anyone tell different that based on some tumblr shit that's not even overtly problematic. please bsfr.

this is actually a take that several people have mentioned and said to me that i deeply appreciate, because it's a new perspective that i, not entirely, at least had considered. as best as we might try to capture joe's essence, we don't and never will, because we don't know him. well, like you said, don't know him as well as we "thought" we did. these storylines and worlds that i've created are entirely fictional. "what if's" scenarios that will literally never happen. it's a character. a bunch of characters in made up scenarios. not meant or ever intended to be taken more than that.

these are fictional storylines that i've definitely put a lot into, and like i've said a couple times, i don't like the idea of having to abandon them because of his dumbass. like, how is that fair to me? i'm not starting anything new for joe and never will, cause fuck him, but at least finishing out my current stories is something i feel i should be able to do.

sorry, i'm rambling atp. thank you, friend. ❤️

[female-buckets]

i always find speaking to radical feminists to be quite the experience.

i am a female and believe feminism nowadays is quite counter-intuitive to the ultimate purpose of feminism beforehand.

in the western world, women do not face oppression like they claim too -- sexual violence is the biggest issue posing western women, which is a problem for ALL girls, so think of it as me saying that we have a struggle, but a greatly reduced one in comparison to women who aren't in a western world

** I am assuming u are western, as women in other countries don't typically ascribe to feminist ideals.

please, tell me, in a world where feminism suggests women and men to be seen as equal (which, granted, is true on a surface level, but upon exploration, is more nuanced with women being better suited for certain roles and men for others) why would you support the erosion of males having power in this current world?

our world is foundated by men. they are a huge part of stability in a home, which has such broad implications for the role they play in our world. there are so many statistics I can use to back this up, such as Obama's speech on fatherhood absence citing all the poor things absent fathers in a home yield.

women need men. strong men. the world needs strong men. therefore, why argue men being in power is a bad thing? that masculinity is toxic? that men's presence in the CURRENT world overrides yours? the by the book def of radfems explains oppression in all areas of life *work, home, sexuality* .. as a radfem in a current and presumed western world, that is simply not true.

we now have choice. doesn't change the fact we need strong men. you're utilizing something that gave u a voice to suggest men deserve less of one. i come at u respectfully, just asking questions to better understand this way of thinking, as I used to be a lesbian radfem as well, but have alternate views now and hope to change other women's to understand the hollow attraction that is the modern feminist.

First of all, this is not my feminist blog.

Second of all, you sound religious.

You should know that I'm spiritual but not religious. I do not worship men. I do not believe god is a fatherly patriarch watching over us.

Spirituality means breaking away from the status quo and transcending habitual comfortable moods and attitudes. If your religion only confirms the status quo and confirms common feelings and common attitudes, that's not spirituality.

Churches have been preaching the status quo of "family leader man." But has that preaching stopped men from weakness? No, it hasn't. That's because cliche sermons do not work. Those are not real spiritual interventions.

Hitting your family is weakness. Needing to be validated as "big man of the house" is weakness. Many churches allow weakness in families because it's common and status quo. If a church goes against common attitudes, they'll lose followers and money.

Do you know why men leave broken homes everywhere? Because they feel they're not getting the power that church and society promised them. If churches keep promising men that they can have power over their families, men will keep breaking families. If you keep pushing this cultural idea of "powerful family king," men will keep falling short.

True spiritual strength is your ability to have empathy and to listen and to put aside your ego. But most cultures only expect women to grow and develop true spiritual strength. When men's spiritual development is neglected, they live their whole lives with a childish mindset. They never grow out of playing "king of the hill."

Our species is now facing existential threats due to thousands of years of childish leadership decisions. We really don't have time to play old games like "mommy and daddy." Traditional gender roles and gender expectations limit the humanity of both men and women. And we'll need all our humanity to survive the consequences of centuries of stupidity.

[numinously-yours]

Hii! Thank you so much for opening up free readings! My initials are CE amd I’m a Virgo.

I’m wondering whether I should transfer colleges? I’m not enjoying my experience here and wanna try something else. Thank you!!

Hi CE!

Before getting into the reading, I HAVE to tell you... I am a transfer admissions counselor at a university and I work with incoming transfer students. I was also a transfer student when I was in college! From a personal, and professional, perspective: not enjoying your experience is an absolutely valid reason to transfer! There are people at the schools you may be interested in who can help you understand how your credits transfer, what sorts of courses you can take to help your transfer, and give you an idea of the outcomes their schools have. They'll also have a ton of information on resources and things you can do to get involved. I loved the academics at my first college but I was not involved and had a miserable time socially. Transferring was a game changer for me and you are not alone! If you have any questions about this and want any professional information from a counselor who does it every day, please let me know!!

Now, onto the actual reading lol I'll pull for a yes or no, but I will also your cards more in a sense of "what happens if you stay" and "what happens if you transfer" to get you more information that could help.

Yes or No: I am not getting a clear answer for yes or no, unfortunately. I think what it comes down to is understanding your why. Once you determine your why – whether it is why you want to transfer or why you want to leave your current place (I think these can be two separate things), the answer will become clearer. Ensure that you wouldn’t be doing it for the “wrong” reasons. Alternatively, you can examine why you chose your current place. Did you choose that for the right reasons? Understanding this on a deeper level will help make the decision feel clearer.

Benefits of transferring: Queen of swords, Queen of wands, and The Hermit rev.

“let your mind be free” is a statement that really stuck out when analyzing the Queen of Swords. Transferring schools seems like it would allow you to think differently, especially in the ways that you are craving. There’s a sort of intellectual itch that you’re trying to scratch and this could be what you need. I think there is a sense of integrity that could come with making this change, too. You might be feeling disconnected from the place that you currently are. You are not making this feeling up. The hermit in reverse encourages you to look at other options, which is literally what transferring schools would be. By doing this, you are likely to find a place that makes you feel happy. You’re going to want to have fun. You’re going to want to do well. It is going to give the opportunity to find people that you want to spend time with.

What could happen by staying at your current school: The Hanged Man and Nine of Coins

Staying at your current school will still offer you success in terms of the end goal. You will still receive a degree that will support you as you grow into a professional. You may even be saving some money at your current school (based on the nine of coins). It feels like staying at your current school would require you to think of the long-term goals versus short term in order to stay motivated. Is getting the degree itself important enough to stay? Or do you need those other elements? You would still have the chance to flourish academically, and ultimately in your career. But, I think you’ll more likely have a sense of complacency and only attend for the degree itself.