#please someone give me advice about this wtf do i do

[trappedintwo]

guys what do you think it means when your best friend breaks up with his girlfriend and all of a sudden the tension between you both becomes weird even though he denies that he's not being weird and that he continuesly flirts with you randomly and thinks it's normal when that literally never happens before he broke up? what does it mean. WHAT DOES IT MEAN.

[thinkingofausername]

had my first kiss, with a guy, and have been feeling sick since then. i think it's safe to say i've narrowed the options down to lesbian and asexual

[rapunzelbro]

Imagine Lucifer and Adam fighting over you

I would like to start off by saying sorry in advance. I have no clue about religion, if purgatory is the right term or if I’m understanding this correctly. This was what term showed when I asked in between hell and heaven. If I am not accurate please please correct me. Request: would u do a adam x reader x lucifer where basically there fighting over the reader to try and win them over to be in hell or heaven

Master list Tag request

When you died you never thought you’d end up in fucking purgatory of all things

You did you not want to deal with any of that shit? You just died and now this?

You had the option to follow through on correcting your small sins you had left, or honestly say fuck it and go live your life in hell.

You couldn’t give one less of a fuck but two specific people did and it confused the fuck out of you

Lucifer and Adam

Adam was the first to meet you since you were technically one step in the door but also at the same time not. You appeared at his doorstep practically

He explained a lot of what happened, and why you couldn’t exactly stay in heaven or hell.

He shared the remaining sins that remained for you, and how to get them forgiven,

Bud actually was willing to help someone for once?

Wtf did you do get him to help someone who is not himself? Holy shit

You only had a 4 or so left by the time you found the Hazbin hotel..

Now Lucifer was intrigued by your situation. Not many people got to that state, to his knowledge

He knew a lot about you already to begin with he totally didn’t stalk you and was pissed about the time you spent with Adam

Found out you ended up at the Hazbin hotel, since you had no real space to stay since you could go to heaven if you pleased, but not looked well upon

Charlie told him about the whole situation to try and get his advice on it all since she really didn’t know how to go about it but she desperately wanted to help you

He didn’t want to help you with your final sins though, he wanted you to stay for himself. He would never let his daughter know that.

He spent time with you often encouraging your ass to do stuff that sinners would do but you’re just so stuck on what to do so you often don’t do the things.

Lucifer and you bonded more than you and Adam

Dude just told you constantly about how horrible it sucks down there in hell

Annoyed you even more since he didn’t let you stay in heaven after saying that?

But oh yeah it’s fine because he goes down to see you��

What the fuck man

If you ever needed a place to stay Lucifer was always there. Even if you didn’t feel like staying at the hotel

If wanted to talk about the shit you have left to do to get into heaven he will listen

While he didn’t agree with your initial decision to finish your sins, that doesn’t mean he didn’t still care about you regardless of what you end up doing

When you got to your final sin to pass through the gates of heaven, that’s when Lucifer stepped in

“What the actual FUCK are you doing here sinner?”

“Bitch you know why I’m here”

Lucifer and then arguing over your ass while you’re just there chilling like wtf?

“Y/n do you really want to be stuck up there with this douchebag”

“Do you really wanna be with The Most Hated Being in All of Creation!”

Those two screaming at each other while you are just watching the two trying to debate on what you should do

The people of heaven who knew of you, didn’t like you in the slightest because you were never going to be a true angel in their eyes

The people in Hell couldn’t give one less fuck about your situation. You had so many friends down there who you considered practically family now.

Both giving you the most desperate looks both wanting you to go with them

“Lucifer.. I’m going with you”

The second you say that your appearance goes from the weird hybrid you were stuck in to being a full blown demon.

Adam is fucking crushed and pissed sending you two the fuck out insantly

Lucifer is so happy

“Wow you must be a mega turnoff since even all girls like what have to offer more than you~”

Gladly takes you back to his place, he has yet to explain to Charlie that you gave up on redemption.

He doesn’t want to break it to her but knows he will have to soon

But for now you picked him over that bitch and that’s honestly worth it.

Lucifer/All Taglist: @vendetta-ari @brithedemonspawn @katshyperfixations

@aphestina @satansmanager @irethepotato @mixplara

[nerdysleepybunny]

Hallo! im new here so please let me know if i cross any boundries.'

anywho, I was wondering if i could request a platonic philza and/or techno comfort? ive had bad few days :(

Have a wonderful day/night!

I APOLOGIZE FOR GETTING TO THIS SO LATE!! I literally love dsmp asks even though the fandom is dying off, so this definitely isn’t crossing any boundaries! I hope you’re doing better. My dms are open if you ever need to chat! :D

🩷☁️N E R D Y S L E E P Y B U N N Y☁️🩷

Fandom(s): DreamSMP

Character(s): Philza, Technoblade (ft. Mumza & Chat)

Reader: Gender neutral (you/your)

Style: Hcs

TW: N/A

Summary: How Philza and Technoblade (separate) would comfort you!

🩷☁️N E R D Y S L E E P Y B U N N Y☁️🩷

Philza:

I feel like he’s the type to just know you aren’t doing well before you even say anything.

Like, you’re just sitting there in your feels, then suddenly?

BOOM CONCERNED DAD RIGHT IN YOUR FACE

“Are you okay, mate?”

“Do you need anything?”

“Here, let’s sit and have a chat.”

Literally shooing chat away so it’s just the two of you having quality time together.

Would sit down next to you on a couch, but probably wouldn’t initiate any touching. The most I see him doing is a shoulder pat or a hand rubbing your back.

Of course, he wouldn’t mind you leaning on him or embracing him! He just doesn’t want to touch you in case you want your space :)

If you want to talk about it he’s there to listen and offer wise old man advice (if you call him old while you’re upset, it’s the ONE time he won’t get defensive about it)

Like

He’s just talking giving you some advice about your problems, then he hears you snickering

“What’s so funny?”

“You sound so old right now, Phil.”

Usually he’d shout his usual “I’M NOT OLD/I’m only in my 30’s, mate…” (I’m pretty sure he’s canonically thousands of years old but shh let grandpa be delusional)

But now? He’d just chuckle and shake his head

“Whatever you say, mate.”

DON’T EXPECT HIM TO BE SOFT FOREVER, IT’S ONLY BECAUSE YOU’RE CURRENTLY SAD

After you’ve concluded your venting/told him that you don’t want to talk about it

You know what time it is…

DISTRACTIONS!!!

Pillow fort anyone? He’s giving pillow fort vibes.

He’s a dad, so obviously he’d just do all the work and build it for you. Again, only because you’re sad. Any other time he’d yell at you for not helping.

Speaking of sadness

Don’t let Phil’s wife see you sad…

OH NO YOU’RE SAD? NOW MUMZA IS SAD AND IS RUSHING TO COMFORT YOU

Mumza is the type to cry when she sees someone else crying, so now both of you are just sobbing together and Phil is there trying to comfort the two of you but is an overwhelmed old man and may end up crying himself

Uh… cry party?

Either you all end up making fun of each other for crying which results in you all laughing together, or you just cry till you get sleepy and pass out on the floor together.

What an interesting way to family bond.

Technoblade:

So you seek The Blade for comfort, the most monochrome and nonchalant man on the server. What a wonderful decision, reader! /lh (I’d do the exact same)

If you’re a Technoblade fan you’ve definitely heard the “it’s fine” audio.

Now I can either be wholesome and say he’d hold you close and whisper that everything will be okay to you

Or I can be silly and realistic and say that he’d pull out a phone and just play the audio with a blank face, but is laughing on the inside due to your “what the actual fuck” face.

Okay now for some actual comfort!

As we all know… Technoblade isn’t exactly good at comfort.

He kills orphans for a living, how do you think he’d react seeing someone crying like a child?

He’s standing looking at you with a look of “why is this creature screaming” and “wtf do I do”

“Uh… you good? You okay? You, uh… need a hug…?”

Very awkwardly holds his arms out for a hug, and if you accept, he even more awkwardly pats your back.

If you got his shirt wet with tears, he’d DEFINITELY comment about it

“Are you seriously ruining my shirt? How are my enemies supposed to think I have a good fashion sense now?!”

Goes into a rant about how he needs to look his best and how it’s a good strategy to beat his enemies in battle while you’re kinda just there… honestly are you even crying anymore?

You’ve stopped crying ages ago, and he’s still just talking

In conclusion, Technoblade is good at calming people down without even trying (I was literally having a breakdown and all I needed to do was listen to the silly pig man talk about Greek mythology. It must all be part of his master plan…)

Speaking of listening to his voice, here’s a scenario.

“Technoblade, can you read to me?”

“…what?”

“Read to me.”

“I’m not reading you a bedtime stor-“

“I wanted you to tell me about Greek mythology.”

“Fine. Come here.”

Long story short, he starts by reading you just one story. That one story turns into the entire history of the Greek gods and goddesses… yeah you pass out pretty quickly. But Technoblade isn’t one to stop mid-ramble. Once he notices you’re asleep, he’ll continue talking, just quieter. He’ll eventually get sleepy himself, and soon enough… you’re both asleep.

Works like a charm!

🩷☁️N E R D Y S L E E P Y B U N N Y☁️🩷

[codename-adler]

Can't blame Danielle when it's wymack we talk about.

Au vise do you think David ever was in situation where he had to explain someone why relationship with him is not in realm of possibility ? Do you think he would see a need for such conversation as his failure of setting boundaries in the first place ? Would he ask bee or Abby for advice if he needed one ?

Would Dan be happy when those feelings are addressed in therapy and she can apreciate platonic relationship with coach for what it is

I like digging into concepts

now that it seems the heat has died on that subject matter... i'll gladly and gratefully answer u my friend <3 thank you for getting it.

AU wise, i DEFINITELY 100% think Wymack has had to establish boundaries in his career as PSU Coach. oh how i would looooove to write the first time it happened. add it to the pile of wips.

i think... the overall sentiment of surprise he's slapped with when he has to face such a situation for the first time, is divided into many levels.

a) at some point, when you're collecting kids with parental issues coming out of their noses and asses, you gotta be ready for when some misplaced attachments occur. Wymack is def not ready, which is very very dumb of him. Abby saw it coming. Bee saw it coming. how did he not? big big oversight of him. now he's gotta deal with things wayyyy above his paygrade for that mistake. surprise mf! the care and tough love you provided your team has been misinterpreted by an unadjusted athlete! what did you expect david. really.

b) not to borrow too much from dbh's Hank Anderson, but i like to believe Wymack is partly surprised that one of his athletes is infatuated with him, because it's him we're talking about. he is not the same man who won over Kayleigh Day, is not as in shape and confident in his body, and despite the scarce hook-ups here and there over the years since her, Kayleigh herself was not much more than a fwb situationship herself. Wymack can't see past his family history and all his scars (mental and physical) when it comes to romantic relationships. so for a young thing to confess to him? good ol' Coach? gotta be a joke. he's not flattered at all, he's baffled. he is also very much concerned about his athlete beyond this unprofessional and inappropriate infatuation. like, wtf are your standards? let's address that. if it'd been, like, Abby, of course he'd get it. but him? yikes, man. (Bee screams into her pillow about this self-deprecating bs Wymack refuses to consult about. somebody worship this man, please! not you Greenberg tho. you get therapy for your daddy issues. it's never gonna happen.)

c) it worries Wymack very much that he did not see this developing, and it plants doubt in his ability to manage his team, his players, and provide them with what they need. it's not about setting boundaries and closing that door, because he didn't even know there was a door to close to begin with. it's about knowing that door exists and noticing it open. it really destabilizes him, to the point he's not sure he even knows his players anymore, if he's even capable of seeing through their bs, to the point where he doubts if he even should be Coach of such a complex and precarious team. surely someone out there is more qualified. surely someone out there is more well-adjusted and observant. i don't know which OG Foxes gets through to him, but i know it takes one of them, or more, to tell him that it's not about being qualified and parrying every issue before they even arise, but about wanting to be there, for them, wanting the best for them, and wanting to give them chances. surely you can give yourself that chance too, Coach? talks w/ Bee and Abby are def had, but ultimately it's the Palmetto Nines that get him though it.

about Dan now. bc i based myself on my own issues for her misplaced infatuation with Wymack, i'll once again base myself on lil 'ole me for how she copes with it: she is taking that one to the grave. she's able to fly under the radar of Bee's built-in bs detector. she's just glad she's not the only one to get those yucky feelings, that yes she does have issues but it's also normal, and well, by the time a newer Fox infatuates themself with Wymack, she is well over it and the case is closed. she even teases Wymack about the number of recruits who thirst over him over the years (once Wymack is able to treat as a joke too, like, years down the line and he hears other coaches having the same problem and the Foxes having a betting pool on who the next poor fool is. once Nicky overtly makes his objective appreciation known, and there are polls online. etc.)

[bigdsgirl]

Love Next Door, Episode 14 thoughts

It's sunday, I have thoughts on this damn show

NO I DONT WANNA RE LIVE THIS! AND SHE IS ALL HE THINKS ABOUT?? I will combust.

a CONTEST????? WHAT???

i think Seok-ryu should work at this guy's restaurant or help at her dads!

the faith he has in her to win! i love that about each other, they are each others biggest champions!

As someone who works in public health, i freaking love that the Korean Vegetable Association held this! LETS GOOOO!!!

Mom standing there with popcorn! Girl, gimme some that bag is huge.

I hope this episode is the Dan-ho and Mo-eum show! I love my babies! <3

Tell me the truth, why in the heck are you so against this??explain?? i need to know unless i am dumb and missed it. WHY ARE YOU SO MEAN TO MY YEON-DU?? WHY!!!

he said i can't quit you! (southern drawl)

oh, so we are fighting her mom now? oh wtf, this is uncalled for! we do not call my girl Yeon-du pitiful!!

decrease your work load? pray tell? GETTING MARRIED????? OH LORD. i just know this is gonna get messy.

the ta-da has me rolling, seung-hyo, the comedian you are

okay the advice she is giving is actually solid..... hmm, i have reservations. okay she is apologizing i think? whew.

BESTIE TIME!! HELL YEAH!!

"why does your story have so many twists and turns?" pot meet kettle. not the SPIT TAKE!!

seung-hyo looks soooooooooooo good in that blue striped shirt. blue is your color sir!

oh yes! dan-ho and seung-hyo guy time! now tell him you love mo-eum! right now! ugh they are talking about house improvements for the community, i'll let it slide.

oh fuck yes, getting to the good bits. i love meddling and matchmaking (when it's fun) - the acting of 'surprise' this is fucking hilarious.

"Im not an entertainment reporter but that was terrible" TELL THEM!

OH MY GOD THIS KISS !! SCREAMING!! not the getting up because he cant take it. "why did you stop?" LMFAO. these two. i will die.

okay that confession was so sweet 😭😭

reconnaissance on the snack shop, i love it - omfg wait mom is there? they are staking the place out! that's right queen, know thy enemy! awh shit, it's good.

aw, he is so down. this is breaking my heart. the reality of it all.

oh yes i love this! support her to get NerTube famous 😎

not the most beautiful person comments. BYE

i s2g he better be recording this because that was fucking cute

damn it he wasn't - a crime. 😤

not the brother hitting her with the "don't fall for me" - lmfao

not her buying mom bread since she is gonna continue seeing dan-ho!! damn right!

i get she is saying its going to be a heavy load taking on a child... but jfc can we have a normal conversation about this?

everything she wants Mo-eum to have? why in the fuck can't she do that with Dan-ho? and Yeon-du? AM I MISSING SOMETHING?

huge compliments to the writer for seok-ryu's parents arc. it's so real and i really do like their marriage, especially with the flaws they have as humans. 💗and the CUT TO THEIR WEDDING PHOTO?

me when i realize it's proposal day:

will it go well? lmfao absolutely not. it's only episode 14!

bahahah everything going wrong today, oh this is gonna be good. we got shower not working, burning with the iron! oh is this perhaps a sign? SIR?

ugh the cost of trips like these -- we gotta be firm about the budget friends! <3

my boys getting drunk again! uh oh!

ooooo fancy flowers! I do love those blooms <3 oh girl is not read for this at all.

PRO TIP FOR ANYONE PROPOSING TO SOMEONE THEY LOVE: the moment of a proposal can be a surprise, but the proposal itself should not be!

the CAR ACCIDENT LMFAOOOO - i do love that hes like we can fuck off and go to the hospital.

aw bringing her to the building he designed is so cute! oh this man is trying to drop fucking HINTS.

THIS MANS WIFE IS IN LABOR? AND HES HERE? OMFG WTF.

"I still have a chance" - brother no please cut your losses now. the universe is sending hints for a REASON.

and he trips. phenomenal.

oh she's offering to pay for the cruise? I know she is gonna do the 'noble thing', but queen. take the free trip. TAKE IT. of fucking course she is gonna lash out. please stop, right now. SToP FiGhTING!

oh fantastic lol, right when seok-ryu and seung-hyo's relationship is going up, their parents start fighting.

literally sobbing over the comment. fuck man that is so sweet.

i love seok-ryu's heart and desire for cooking and making videos. gosh its beautiful.

wait what the fuck im dying the proposal is actually sweet. andshe is gonna say..... no.... oh a fancy bracelet?? WHAT?

"I can't marry you" wait why can't? ma'am! but also sir did need to come down from reality.

"REJECTED SAYS WHO?" ME BITCH LOL.

I love how sad his voice when he said Dan-ho's name. besties 4ever!

alright Dan-ho, it's your time to give advice. knock him down a peg, he needs it. damn it, no Dan-ho don't do the hungry bit. you dumb dumb.

now the men are meddling, this is fucking everything to me. i love this friendship.

my little FAMILY WALKING TOGETHER!!! gosh i love the three of them. oh the flashback for the shoe laces, aw <3

i am going to combust, my gif queens someone please do the scene of the three of them walking <3

oh that god she got over it! yay! family dinner!

the way he slinks in to the snack shop LMFAO

lol the way they are both so PEEVED!!! HAHAH "this is betrayal!"

my man is drunk again at the stand and she is calling him out for it!! i like this stand owner!

we back at the bench. where he said his parents dont think of him. and now we are here due to the rejection! oh goodie!

well at least we are asking directly. because i want to know too!

NOT THE COOKING ROMANCE REFERENCES!

"you are my sesame oil" this lil drunkard

the housing references now omg ow.....

"why do you think we would live long lives" -> awe fuck girl, not because you are scared about getting sick again!!! wtf!!!

"Life is finite and death is inevitable" thanks seung-hyo, i already cried today

"there is one thing I can tell you for certain. I want to spend my life with you" alright okay these people

OH THANK GOOOOOOOOOOOOD!!! <3

the "one hundred years, ten years, one day, it has to be with you"

OH FUCK SHIT THEY ARE FOUND OUT aJGLDFAGKJADFG

the thunderclap BAHAHAH

oh we in it now friends

LOL it's gonna get feisty. But I must know now, will Mo-eum go to Antarctica??? HELLO?? I'll wait, it's fine.

[youremyheaven]

Hello, Purva bhadrapada, Leo stellium native here, I also wanted to add that I think purva bhadrapada, since it is Brahmin caste is probably more prone to this, then punarvasu and finally vishaka, who in my experience is the most materially/self interested Jupiter nakshatra, which is why we see it in so many celebrities compared to the other two, especially purva bhadrapada.

I've always been at the role of teacher/smart one since I was a little girl, I've always been a bit parentified and I think that comes out a lot in my relationships with nodals, since I'm the one who has to keep things in control, now that we are on the topic, I'm gonna trauma dump about my Magha sun, mula moon friend 😭

I don't want to bad mouth her since I do still have affection for her, but this woman put me through so much. One time she face timed me whilst she was drinking, she got so drunk and then started driving! She face timed me whilst she was drunk driving talking about how sad she was, all whilst I could hear all the dangerous turns she was making, so I called her mom to come get her, I couldn't do it myself cause I live too far away. The next day she wouldn't stop complaining about how pissed she was that I called her mom on her, talking about how she got in trouble, but what was I supposed to do? WATCH HER DIE ON CAMERA?! She made me the villain and not our other friend who she also face timed, who is also nodal.

Another time, she was dating this dude and SHE ALWAYS DID WHATEVER HE SAID FOR NO REASON, one time we were all hanging out as friends, a whole ass group of people, and this girl started sucking this mans dick in front of us 💀😭 like they were not slick in the slightest, I caught sight of it and then I tried to politely tell them to stop before the others noticed, she did not stop and others caught them, to which they all collectively said "Wtf? Stop please" AND THEN SHE COMPLAINED TO ME ABOUT THIS? HOW DO YOU WANT ME TO TAKE YOUR SIDE? 💀

Another time, I was really busy with some work but she texted me about how suicidal she was feeling and how she wanted to attempt, I stayed with her the whole night trying to talk her out of it until she just stopped talking to me all together, I panicked and spent hours debating whether to call someone, since I don't know if she really attempted something, but I didn't want her to be mad at me again. It was one of the most anxious nights of my life. Eventually, she called me and said she was fine 💀 I SPENT ALL THAT TIME WORRIED AND SHE DIDNT SAY ANYTHING! that was my breaking point and I just cut contact with her after that

The worst part of all of this is that she never took any interest in my emotions or any of the problems I had, in all the years of friendship we had I only opened up to her twice and I regretted it immensely both times. She never took any time to take care of me, and would always accuse me of telling her what to do after giving her advice THAT SHE ASKED FOR!

Anyway 💀 yeah it was traumatizing

💀💀💀💀 I'm glad you've cut her out

My Swati Sun, Magha Rising ex was somewhat like this. He texted me saying he's having a panic attack and does not know what to do (at like midnight) and then after I text & call him mad worried, he does not respond. He texts me back the next day afternoon saying that "it was just a spur of the moment thing, I'm alright" like wtf??? He always kept me on edge with his mental health stuff and I was always made to feel like I'm on suicide watch only for him to turn around and be like "oh I'm over it now bc I've drunk away the last thought I had in my head"

He once video called me at 8 in the fucking morning because he wanted company while he smoked

Let me just say that there was a clear imbalance in our relationship bc I had to watch out for him while he did batshit stuff and I could never do the things he did and expect him to have played the supportive role 😒

There was another Magha Moon girl I used to know who completely did unhinged shit, she jumped from man to man every week (not slut shaming, just pointing out poor choices) in India, the arranged marriage system prevails and she received a proposal from some 5'2 30 yr old (when we were like 21) who was loaded 💸and her family rejected the proposal and she was already dating some deadbeat loser. Guess what she did after she broke up with the deadbeat loser many months later?? She started talking to the 30yr old guy who came to her house with a marriage proposal 😭and literally 2-3 weeks later he publicly announced his desire to marry her at the wedding of a mutual relative and she said "I'm not interested in marrying you" PUBLICLY, it was super shameful for the families and all parties involved bc like ??? what on earth was she thinking??? he made his intentions clear from the get go??? did she think she could hook up and rebound with the guy who contacted her family with a goddamn marriage proposal??? and she played the victim when in reality throughout their 3 week tryst she led him on and on and on, why didn't she say she would never ever marry someone like him?? so embarrassing lol

There was a Magha Moon guy who I had mutual friends with and he's a complete deadbeat loser. He hasn't finished his degree (he was my senior at uni) he's broke as hell and all he does is go on road trips and drink till he drops and he had the audacity to ask my friends if I'd be interested in seeing him and I was like 🤢🤮ew no and he literally repeated this process every month no joke. He's asked me out more times than I can count, he's made our friends ask me on his behalf a billion times and I'm like ??? how oblivious or lacking in self awareness do you have to be?? He always told them that he thought I was "hiding" my interest in him 🤮🤢🤭so idk I feel like Nodals can be supremely delulu

[softpine]

oooh i am not the same anon that asked about finn's dad but they've inspired me SO! if you, as Brandi the writer of this story, could say anything to only three characters (without obvious spoilers) in frozen pines, who would you speak to and what would you choose to say to each of them?

i love this question!! i really had to think about this omg. in the end i chose the characters i think would be receptive to what i want to say, and is actionable advice (ie. not just me telling them something they already know or will know in the future!) this rules out asa (too stubborn), finn (doesn't care what i think), jada (doesn't trust me enough), etc.

to stevie: from one woman in STEM who barely scraped by in high school to another… it's worth the effort. you may not get there as quickly as everyone else (i didn't!) and you'll probably wonder wtf you're doing at least once a day. but it's the only thing you've felt so passionate about for so long, so you owe it to yourself to try. don't give up on your parents either. it sucks and it's not fair that you have to be the bigger person, but trust me, things will get so much better when you have some distance between you. they'll be excited every time they get to see you, since it happens infrequently, and you won't have to be involved in their business anymore. i'm sorry to say it, because i know it's not what you want to hear, but you're the type of person who's always going to need your parents. but that doesn't have to be a bad thing!

to caroline: you won't believe me, but you're such a wonderful mom. the knowledge you gained from past mistakes has made you understanding, calmer, and has given you a unique ability to connect with people. sadly, your never-ending quest to protect asa is futile. he's a force of nature, just as you were, with the kind of problems you can't begin to fathom. don't lose yourself in it. be there when he needs you, but be yourself too. listen to beth - she's pretty great at knowing when you need a break from everything. mostly i just want to say i see you, i know how hard it is to pick yourself up from the type of shit you went through, but you did it! you should be proud of yourself, not beating yourself up wondering how you could've done better.

to austin: all you've ever gotten from your family is tough love, so let me take a kinder approach. i recognize your efforts which mostly go unappreciated. but if you continue to give everything you have to what you think other people want from you, you'll run yourself ragged before the age of 30. and this is the real kicker!! it will never be enough. someone will always need something more from you. you can't count on anyone else to set your boundaries for you, so learn to say no, accept help & guidance when you need it, and focus more on what you want from your life. it will make you a happier person and a better partner.

this is cheating but i would also ask elaine if she could please watch a silly little movie called but i'm a cheerleader 🥰

[silence-and-reveries]

YouTubers and LOA subreddits aren't actually helpful (short-rant)

Let me explain,

The various loa subreddits are kind of a cesspool. It's always some person who has no idea who you are trying to push their limiting beliefs about love and money onto other people.

You can never talk about sps cause nowadays people will call you limerent, you can't say you want to win the lottery (even though tonnes of people do!) cause they think it's not possible or that you're messing with the middle "oh you can get the money in any way, don't limit it to the lottery!"

Dafuq. No one tells anybody they shouldn't play the lottery. Rich people buy lottery tickets. Someone ALWAYS wins the jackpot eventually.

The 3D means nothing though and neither does other people's limiting perceptions about possibilities.

I hate how we call any person that doesn't immediately move on from a deep connection "limerent" these days. That term didn't even exist 50 years ago.

All of the classic and historical works of fiction, and even historical tales themselves portray romantic plots far more convoluted and disparaging than anything modern people experience nowadays. No one told these people that loving a person who you're in separation from was bad, that was literally the norm cause life was so much more chaotic.

People have to understand that circumstances can come in any form and that no one's circumstances mean really anything in regards to their manifestation. Because that's the fundamental principle of the law.

Another thing, we can't go around telling people their desires are bad for them. Cause that's stupid as fuck. Nobody chooses the things they get to desire, it's literally given to us by our higher-self, subconscious, divine self or whatever the fuck.

Yeah you can have tangible needs based on your 3D circumstances but as a manifestor you have the option to change the 3D itself or manifest something to change the 3D. Either way, we're still the operant power!

"You don't want to win the lottery, you want the feeling of wealth"

"You don't want that SP, you want the feeling of being in a loving relationship"

Like, this was literally posted today and all the comments are people agreeing. When it's fucking nonsense.

Literally shut the fuck up. No one tells engaged people they aren't actually in love, or tells business people that they don't actually want to have success. So wtf are we doing? Why do the mods let people say these kinds of things and reinforce people's limiting beliefs, literally killing their manifestation????

Please, if you can stop watching loa content creators on yt and stop reading subreddits (at least the posts that aren't success stories) cause these people don't read/listen to the source material and are making shit up to feel above others and ensure they're constantly dependent on them for advice, cause their manifestations are being sabotaged.

Never, ever give the 3D circumstances power over your subconscious mind or let it dictate what you should or shouldn't desire. Because that's you. The 3D is YOU. It would just be your past, unrealized self telling your current self to maintain the old ways. NEVILLE LITERALLY MENTIONS THIS

Idk idk, it's so upsetting to see posts like that first thing in the morning. I wish the mods would get over themselves and be more consistent.

Neville quotes about desires, limiting beliefs and the nature of the 3D

"Stop asking yourself whether  you are worthy or unworthy to receive that which you desire. You, as man, did not create the desire. Your desires are ever fashioned within you because of what you now claim yourself to be."

"Facts are the fruit bearing witness of the use or misuse of the imagination. Man becomes what he imagines. He has a self-determined history."

"Imagination is the way, the truth, the life revealed. We cannot get hold of truth with the logical mind. Where the natural man of sense sees a bud, imagination sees a rose full-blown."

"Truth cannot be encompassed by facts. As we awaken to the imaginative life, we discover that to imagine a thing is to make it so, that a true judgment need not conform to the external reality to which it relates."

"To passively surrender to appearances and bow before the evidence of facts is to confess that Christ is not yet born in you."

He says so many important things but people want to misconstrue his words for their own benefit. It's a problem.

[hologramcowboy]

I read somewhere in tumblr that D said in one of OTH podcast that Jensen can never impress her and I'm like wtf! did she actually said that ? and if it's true why Jensen is like this? is he truly a spineless simp for this talentless stretched face bimbo? I'm mean no offense but she is a trashy flopped forgotten actress with creepy plastic face who is only known for her stripping roles ,does he really lacke self esteem and respect? Maybe because he father used to beat him up he was traumatised and ended up in marriage where he is just a moving back account simp for her and her jobless brother , yikes this is a major turn off

Anyone can feel free to correct me if I'm wrong but I think Danneel just repeated what Jensen keeps repeating (soundbite they agreed upon for PR purposes) but also said her answer would be different. Meaning she doesn't agree with his impression. That being said, I only "skimmed" that sucktastic interview so I might be completeley off. Will listen to it fully when I get some time to focus on that, it's just not a priority.

People still don't understand that actors build and image and carefully pick narratives to position themselves in certain ways depending on their goals. Jensen is well aware neither him nor Danneel credibly manage to sell their connection and marriage so he overcompensates by saying things like that to make it seem as if he values her but if we look at his actions, especially the way her career disappeared and her entire identity shifted to just being "mrs ackles" we can see he doesn't truly love her. When someone truly loves you they don't allow you to give up your dreams or identity. Danneel has no personality of her own. Aside from this, every family post they make comes off fake and planned, there is no real chemistry just a business interest.

One important thing I'd like to add is this: If you are in a relationship where you constantly have to impress your partner then run, that's beyond toxic and Jensen is so toxic for even promoting that as an ideal. The fact that he keeps mentioning that just reinforces all the devaluing Danneel does with him. If his marriage is all about constantly jumping through hoops and buying her affection then sorry but that is an abusive relationship.

That being said, I think Jensen desperately wants to sell a kind of fairytale love he never experienced, except he has so many toxic beliefs about love he ends up making up lines and stories that just make them as a couple seem vapid, aggressive and narcissistic.

Let me reinforce this: the fastest way to end up a self destructive mess is to engage in a relationship with someone that keeps moving the goalposts and asking you to "impress" them. That is not love, let's be real. Please don't expose yourself to that kind of treatment.

Also, please remember that public statements made by actors are made to frame an image, there's a strategy behind that, it's not someone realistically sharing their feeling or real life dynamic. It's someone selling a product: themselves as a bookable actor.

Jensen wants leading man roles without doing any inner work, he just wants to signal certain qualities he doesn't have to get a certain image. Especially since Danneel comes from an extremely trashy background. He is trying to overcompensate with comments that will hopefully stick or so he thinks.

My advice to you is not to look at Jensen's "statements" but to truly look at his choices, his actions. Danneel is just a commodity to him and he does everything in his power to either be away from home or to be inebriated when he is home. That is extremely telling. He is not a fulfilled man and so he is overcompensating by making comments that he hopes will cover his discontent.

[cherienymphe]

Cherie please give me advice

So...these 'friends' i used to talk to made jokes about this girl they didn't even know getting SA'd. Backstory the girl will be refered to as Sam. So sam is a first gen american indian girl in college. She's roomates with one of the girls I cut off and from what we were told Sam grew up in a traditonal indian household. Its expected of them to be caretakers..to men specifically. So there were this group of guys who would come over to see sam all the time and sam is a naive/innocent girl, she assumes their friends. BUT the guys dont like her but they keep hanging out with her AND they have gfs. Which i find weird AF.

In group chat the girls were saying how she shouldnt have guys over and she's giving off pick me energy. They were so quick to say they dont like her BEFORE they met her. I personally didnt agree because I dont have beef with her..idk her. So then they make jokes about trains being ran on Sam(which is weird). They started mentioning her screaming and i said "what if they arent happy screams?" Then they said "its not our problem". Afterwards they proceeded to say if they heard her cries for help they would go to sleep and ignore her. I felt very upset because wtf is wrong with you?! I called them weird and they said "how are we weird?"

I got so mad I sent a voice calling out their pick me behavior like:

- giving head to her bf in the care after he was ignoring and blowing her off. And stayed with him after he didnt mention his family is racist. She's also VERY desperate to lose her v-card.

- dating a guy after they a friends with benefits deal. Only for her to fall first and make the meredith gtey pick me, chose me speech (iykyk). Only for him to actively try to get in a relationship with someone else they didnt choose him so he came back to her. He lied saying he wasnt ready for a relationship

- literally ditched us at a festival for 2 hours to talk to a guy. She was like a wet blanket until he showed up.

Anyways Idon't trust them..like i personally think those jokes arent funny AT ALL. Like if its so funny why didn't you say that to the girl. Am i wrong for cutting them off?did i take it too far? What would you do ol' great one.

You made the right decision. They were weird and knowing Sam's history, instead of having a girl to girl moment about being wary of college boys and attempting to look out for her, they chose that route instead. It's 2023. We're not hanging out with people who make rape jokes.

It's doubly so considering how much they themselves have sacrificed their dignity and embarrassed themselves for a man and so by their own logic of what they're assuming about her, the same should apply to them no? They seemed very immature and catty and male obsessed so good riddance 😭

[katebeckets]

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12. What's some good advice you want to share?

OOOOOH okay I'm sorry there's going to be two.

It's funny that the first thing that came to mind isn't really relevant to me anymore (I'm done with grad school, at least for now), but it's something one of my absolute favorite professors said about going to grad school that changed my life.

I was a junior in undergrad when she was telling us this (most of us were juniors or seniors), and that's a time when so many people are trying to figure out wtf they're going to do when they graduate. Especially for the type of person in that class (it was an intense minor that honestly was more work than my major), a lot of people were considering grad school at least partially because it was familiar—I mean, I finished grad school at 24, which meant I had spent almost 20 years structuring my entire life around school.

Something she said about grad school that really stuck with me was while talking about why she encourages gap years. She said when you go back to school, you should feel like the luckiest person in the world to be learning whatever you're studying. Don't go to school just for the sake of going to school, go because you want to be there and are excited to be there. Ironically, I used this to make my decision to NOT take a gap year (I was scared to commit but I realized I was leaning toward taking some gap years for the sake of taking gap years, which is the same as going to school for the sake of going to school), but it's been about five years since she said that to me and I think about it ALL THE TIME.

The second piece of advice is to try your best to believe what people do. Someone I am really close to was very patient with me because I worried a lot about whether or not she secretly hated me or didn't like me (or a million other things). And one day she said that she doesn't do anything she doesn't want to do. If she didn't want to meet up with me, she wouldn't. If she didn't want me to talk to her, she wouldn't respond or encourage it. She was proud of herself for learning to do whatever the fuck she wants and she wanted me to learn that if she was choosing to spend time with me, it's because she wanted to.

Sorry long answer haha but I really wanted to share those things <3

14. What's something you've always wanted to do but maybe been too scared to do?

lol the first thing that came to mind was wildly inappropriate dark humor hehe uuuuhhhmmm i think share some of my thoughts in a more public way (like giving a talk, making a blog, etc.)

17. Name 3 things that make you happy

my friends in my phone (like you!)

spending time with my babies

listening to/talking about music

send me some questions! (please)

[mithliya]

I just turned 27 and I’ve never even gone on a date. Please tell me there’s hope for lesbians like me (a mixture of not knowing I was lesbian and thinking I was asexual for all my teenage years and early 20s and also being disabled and in a pretty small town with no other lesbians) how do you even meet other women wtf 😭

there absolutely is hope! there are actually MANY lesbians who are even in their 30s and have yet to go on a date. it happens to even straight women, and lesbians have a much more limited dating pool so of course it’s even more common for us.

dating as a lesbian is already tough, but it’s even tougher when you live in a small town. i’m from a village in bahrain which admittedly is different from western people’s ideas of villages but bahrain itself is super small and isolated by virtue of being an island. while i was there during covid, i felt such loneliness fr! i felt like i was never going to find a woman. even dating apps didnt help much. i did end up moving & beforehand i was seeking out women in the area i was moving to which is how i found my gf. i also know theres lesbians from small towns who found women that are further away but they found someone nonetheless.

honestly it takes time, no matter how attractive you are or whether you live in a city or anything else. if you feel ready to date, i recommend trying stuff like dating apps to see whats out there and maybe starr talking to women, build up your confidence, and understand tbe dynamics. with time youll also notice that to be able to date as a lesbian, you need to be willing to put yourself out there. if you wait for her to make the first move, then you risk no move ever being made. if you’re too subtle and meek, then it might go nowhere. take risks within your comfort zone, as scary as it sounds, and do what you can to be more confident bc women LOVE that from my experience. if it doesn’t work out, which will likely happen to you several times, youll see that you havent really lost anything from it and youll be just fine then too. this is ofc only if you do want to give it a try but have limitations or fears around it!

but honestly anon you have nothing to worry about— for one, many lesbians come out in their 20s. many lesbians are virgins even well into their 30s or even later sometimes. there is no set timeline for these things and theres also always a way out of that. it can feel very lonely and isolating, but such feelings are not permanent nor are you alone in having them. it’s a very common lesbian experience as sad as that may sound

also if ur interested,, maybe joining the dykery (lesbian server i have linked in my pinned) can help you. there’s a channel for dating where you can ask for advice and hear from other lesbians and youll see it’s actually not rare at all for some lesbians to be virgins while in their late 20s or 30s, many lesbians are also celibate for their own reasons, many have similar reasons as what you’ve mentioned for having never dated too. so if u feel alone in that regard, maybe seeing that theres many lesbians like u will help.

[lighthouseas]

bee :( sorry you had to deal with an icky commenter :\ people forget that giving unsolicited criticism / "advice" is poor fandom etiquette and just overall rude,,, especially when it comes to au's ! >.<

you're an excellent writer and everything you put out is amazing so please pay them no mind, okei ? i hope you're doing well and you get to do something fun to forget about this altogether ~

jfjfjsjfhd ok. i'm going to cry now. u r too sweet ❤️❤️❤️❤️ and yeah , some people just. really need to learn some basic fandom etiquette lmao . luckily i've dealt with weird commenters before & also gotten an overwhelming amount of love for tsad compared to the very small amount of "that's not historically accurate 🤬!&#&$&#&#" comments , so i can mostly deal with it (still sensitive asf but. it's whatever) but i can't imagine hearing shit like that as someone new to fanfiction - it can be so discouraging and the fact that people even think it's okay to say stuff like that (much worse than what i've gotten, i mean i've seen the bookmarkers rating others' fics which is...wtf) to random people on the internet who are writing for free . it's absolutely bonkers to me and i will never understand it.

anyway ! sorry for going on a tangent. thank u for this ask, it absolutely improved my mood by about 1 million percent, and i hope u get to do something fun as well :))))

[jeevaschrist]

Hi! If your requests are open, could I please have a bsd matchup with a male character?

My name’s Rachel, I’m 18 and my pronouns are she/her. I’m 5’7, have brown hair that comes a few inches below my shoulders, brown eyes and freckles from cheek to cheek. I’m a really optimistic person, and I try to help others as much as I can. I’m good at giving advice, and making people feel better. I’m very charismatic and very outgoing! I love trying out new activities, But, I can get impatient easily and I tend to be stubborn. I really enjoy fashion design. I love sewing and coming up with a new ideas of something I can make! I’m also really passionate about music. I’ve played piano for 11 years, and it really helps me to express myself.Some of my other hobbies include baking, and shopping. My personal style is a kind of mix between softie and angelcore. I have a huge sweet tooth, so I love desserts! I also like jewelry and flowers. I hate bugs.

I hope that’s alright, thank you so much!!

hi hi! 1. i may or may not have checked our ur blog and AAAAAAAA it's so pretty wtf???? and you do TW?! you 100% have to message me so we can be friends omg

-also ok getting to what you actually asked for now lol sorry

i knooooooow this is going to be very basic and ur probably going to hate me but hear me out pls

i truly do ship u with atsushi. and i can tell that you've gotten this probably a bunch of times bc it's the one my brain automatically went to so before you yell at me (not that u will)- hear me out!

you can get stubborn and impatient. atsushi doesn't always outwardly show it but he is too. so in that sense you'll compliment each other. i feel like with the piano, atsushi would find not only another truth and depth behind you but also something in himself since music has a way of showing people things they didn't even know about themselves. i think that would be a really cool bonding experience for you guys and he'd probably at some point want to try to learn. for the sewing hobby tbh i'd love to see u use atsu as a human mannequin :D

he'd happily eat deserts with you and i'm assuming ranpo would sniff out what you two are doing and join in as well. atsushi would be one of those boys who would offer to hold the bags for you while you shop so that you have two hands available to shop and browse items. i think he'd love your style also and he'd probably find it refreshing and astonishing all at the same time bc he seems like someone who would really take the time to admire the things about his partner that one wouldn't think he'd see.

i hope this was okay for u! ^^

[thatonebirdwrites]

THIS. ALL OF THIS.

I have started calling the fandom communities a fellowship of joy. Don't shit all over the fellowship of joy, especially when creators have not in any way asked for advice/criticism. If you don't like something, it's okay to walk away and not say anything. This is also pertinent for writers. Unsolicited "advice" or "criticism" to fanfic writers shouldn't be done either. It's frustrating, discouraging, and frankly useless. Yes, comments are great IF they fit the following:

Sharing what you enjoyed about the scene.

Speculating on what might come next. (This is always fun to read).

If you share what you didn't like, do not provide unsolicited criticism, just state you didn't like it and move on to sharing what you did like.

Sharing what emotions you had about the prose and story itself.

Asking questions of the author but without the expectation of a reply. (You are not entitled to a reply, but if you want to ask questions, sure. Us creators can decide if we have time/energy to reply or not.)

Discussing aspects of the story and/or character arcs and what they mean to you.

This isn't a definitive list, but it just to give folks an idea.

I adore getting comments, but what I don't like is people telling me: 1. "You wrote a Mary Sue!" Mary Sue is a sexist connotation that derives from the idea that it's "impossible" for a woman to be capable of doing many different things well. People hurl this insult when they fail to understand the nuances of a woman character, especially if her faults and/or weaknesses are subtle and/or more nuanced.

If a man character is given the same attributes and written exactly the same, this insult is never hurled at the man character. So a man character can get away with anything, but a woman character cannot. This criticism isn't constructive and is actually a sexist diatribe that really needs to just shut up and go away.

2. "I don't like how you wrote this scene. I think you should do this instead or I won't read it anymore!" Okay. I am not going to change how I wrote the scene or plot point based on you not liking it. If you don't like it, you can stop reading. No need to announce your departure!

3. "This is too much! This character being gay/bisexual/trans/disabled/etc... is unnecessary for the narrative!"

That is one of the most bigoted things I've ever heard. Bye.

4. "I demand you include these themes!"

If you would like to request a fic, please go to my tumblr ask (only if the asks are open). Don't request it on one of my already written fics. I'm not going to rewrite it just because you are demanding it. There's a place for asks. Already written fics are not that place.

5. "This character never uses pet names or nicknames!" Or "This character would never do that! How dare you!"

Okay? I guess, thanks for the comment.

6. "There's no narrative need for this character to be disabled/lose-a-limb/have-PTSD/whatever-disability-that-actually-does-fit-narrative-if-reader-had-bothered-to-read-it-fully. They should do physio and be done with it!"

Yes. Someone came to one of my fics, where one of my characters had fourth-degree burns (as in the burn went all the way to the bone and destroyed nerve endings making the foot numb and susceptible to rot and gangrene), and suggested that I do not write the amputation but instead have the character do physio.

I really need abled-bodied people to understand that physical therapy DOES NOT CURE ALL DISEASES AND INJURIES. OMG. WTF.

The ableism of this is just astounding.

Physical therapy is a tool to assist the patient with rebuilding strength, endurance, and stamina. It cannot heal anything. That's not how it works, so please stop suggesting that characters with injuries, various diseases, and other disabilities undergo physio to magically be cured of their disability. This is not how that works, and it's a really ableist take.

I could go on and on and on.

Point is, constructive criticism is only helpful when the creator asks for it.

When we ask for it, that's because we have prepared for the criticism and wish to have help in improving something.

If we do ask for it? Here are some tips:

Be specific. Vagueness doesn't help anyone. No one can determine what exactly is meant by: "I think this scene is badly written." That's not constructive, and tells the author nothing. Don't waste your or their time. Instead be specific: "I notice that this scene uses a lot of adverbs that distract from the flow. Here are some examples of where I saw these repetitive words. I also noticed the dialogue of characters get mushed together, where it's hard to tell who is talking. Maybe give each character's dialogue a separate paragraph to aid in readability." <- That is constructive.

Be encouraging. Do not tell the author they are terrible, bad, or can't write/draw/create. Instead be supportive. "I think this is a great start, and here is what I really liked about the piece." By starting with that you build rapport, then you can enter into the specifics of your feedback.

Never, ever, ever say that a character's identity is "too much" or "unnecessary for the narration." This is a pretty way to dress up bigotry. A character's identity is crucial to their characterization and who they are. It also provides representation for that group, and we always need more diverse representation.

Never critique the work based on what it didn't do. Only critique what it DID do. As in, explore what the piece actually includes and what is actually written/drawn/etc. If the author/creator didn't do something or didn't include something, don't mention it as it's not helpful and isn't really constructive. Focus only on what's actually there.

If the piece is blatantly bigoted but they asked for feedback, consider whether you feel safe to share that feedback. Sometimes people don't realize that they've used a bigoted trope, and if one approaches this carefully and kindly, it can turn into a good learning opportunity. But if the author doubles down on the bigotry, then make a decision on if its safe to even continue providing feedback. Sometimes people don't want to unlearn their unconscious (or conscious) biases. We can't fix that -- it's up to them. One way to approach it: "Hi, I noticed that this and that is a harmful trope for [be specific about what the trope is and its impact]. A way to repair that could be [be specific on ways to avoid using the trope and what can be done instead]." This isn't easy to do, and if you feel like you don't have the energy to engage in a conversation over this, then don't do it. Be safe, okay?

When we do NOT ask for it (majority of the time honestly), that's when we are writing what we'd like to read, and we're fine with it as is.

Fanfiction isn't being written as the next big bestseller. It's written to fulfill a need that the writer has. Often, we ere excited and wish to share that joy with the community, in case others will also enjoy what we wrote (or created). It's a fellowship of joy.

Don't go in and muck up the fellowship of joy, okay?

Thanks for reading, and remember to be kind!

Hey, if you don't have something nice to say about other people's creations (gifsets, art, fic etc)

then

don't say anything at all.