#piece of advice

[ater-love]

People calling Feyre an unreliable narrator or Nesta an omniscient narrator makes me laugh but at the same time makes me wonder how ignorant people are.

That is an elementary school type of knowledge… PLEASE educate yourselves before speaking because how can people take you seriously if you don’t even know the basics of narration?

I’m not even trying to be mean here because this is a genuine concern of mine.

[irl-tatelangdon]

If you really think about it, therapy honestly doesn’t do shit for anyone. It’s all a bullshit system to gain financial support off your meaningless trauma.

You really think a person you’ve never met is actually wanting to hear your thoughts, they only want to hear one thing. And that ‘thing’ is “I don’t feel safe with myself” so you can be sent away to a nut house and they can finally get their paycheck. Don’t waste your time believing your business is staying confidential. You can’t possibly believe they’re keeping all these juicy details to themselves, can you?

That ‘connection’ you think you feel with them is nothing but an act of understanding and empathy , it’s all a tactic to make you feel safe and comfortable enough to spill your heart out to them. They don’t give a shit.

[fandomchaosposts]

are you okay? i only just saw your posts, you can message me if you don’t want to answer this on your actual blog? 🤍

it's definitely tmi to answer this anywhere with full context but thank you so much for checking in 😭😭😭 basically I saw a person who looked like my bf in a place where I would absolutely feel betrayed if I saw my bf at and I'm kinda spiraling bc my brain thinks it's him and I can't prove to myself that's he's NOT in such a definitive way that I would stop spiraling

[animationismycomfort]

rule no.1 when it comes to blocking people

if someone is harassing/making you uncomfortable/won’t stop dragging an argument

don’t under any circumstance tell them your blocking them cause then they’ll start talking all this sh-t and it’s just not gonna be a good time for you

just block em don’t say anything

just block

and they’ll never be able to say anything worth your while cause you blocked em

easy peasy lemon squeezy

[kohakuhibiki]

Tfw you participate in some contest, don't maintain shit, hardly give any visibility (I mean did I tell anyone?) and still get 648 out of 1148. I mean that's the thing, I don't have to do much, they're really, really loyal.

[el-escriba]

Nobody!

If you want to write a dumb little story with a dumb little plot and ridiculously silly characters. No one's stopping you. Genuinely, no one should be allowed to stop you. Write that dumb story with your whole heart and don't hold back.

[mokeonn]

"But if college was free, then people would abuse that and get useless degrees" hell yeah I would! If I could go to college without debt I would make it my job to get a degree in every little thing that interested me. I'd get a doctorate in film studies. I'd have a bachelor's degree for every science I like. I'd try to learn at least 5 languages with varying results. I would learn something "useful" like coding and then follow it up with a ""useless"" degree like art history. I'd be the world record speed run holder for getting every degree possible.

But I can't afford college without going into massive debt, so instead I spent the last 5 years trying to figure out what I am passionate enough about to consider going into debt over, because unfortunately being passionate about everything is extremely expensive to pursue.

[damonp304]

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[royaltea000]

he could not control the class 😔

[trans-androgyne]

As of today I've officially read every post in the transandrophobia tag for an entire year--in addition to running a discord server on the topic for six months--so I feel I have some amount of insight into the term and the little community we seem to have been building around it.

I've seen people stumbling into the discussion and having their mental health immediately wrecked, so I want to share a few quick and basic reminders/lessons I needed to hear a year ago.

You're not a transmisogynist for using the word transandrophobia. You're not an MRA or a TERF either and it's messed up to call you those things. I used to question myself constantly about these things, but I've also now spent hours looking at what real MRAs and TERFs believe and it is nowhere near my beliefs.

You're allowed to take up space. In physical spaces of course--your presence isn't a threat just because you're a man/masc--but also in discussions of feminism and transphobia. It isn't talking over women to share your experiences as a trans person. You experience gendered oppression and it's okay to talk about it.

People lie about us constantly. I'm always hearing things like we think trans women oppress us or so and so in the discussion said something transmisogynistic; do not take these claims at face value, look into them yourself or ask someone who has done so.

Stereotyping us is bigotry plain and simple. That includes considering us more aggressive, annoying, self-centered, toxic, attention-seeking, and misogynistic compared to other groups.

Sexism can very much target men and mascs. If you've been defining transandrophobia as solely an intersection of transphobia and misogyny, I implore you to just look up sexism to see how it can affect nonnormative men. I can give examples.

We have allies! When I found the discussion and saw the vitriol and violent threats directed at us I felt hopeless and alone, but now I know there are plenty of trans women and fems who support me having language. You'll find your people.

I have more to say and I'd be happy to talk to anyone new to the discussion, just reach out.

[balestrem]

Whenever I talk to people about diversity and inclusion there is one thing that I have to remind myself of: is the person before me just uneducated or does the person lack a decent amount of respect towards people?

Like if it’s an issue of education it can be fixed. If it’s an issue of empathy I am out. I think that is a good reminder for people who work in sex and gender education, or who do critical race theory, or do work in the field of disability studies etc.

Don’t just waste your time and energy on people who get off on provoking and insulting others. It won’t get you anywhere.

[0nelittlebirdtoldme]

actually I would advice people not to use those tags because chances are I'll go "huh. I guess that's fair then" and not read it, even (or especially) not out of pity. I always love to encourage other writers but don't expect readers to go "noo! Why are you saying that!!! You are a good writer! :(" because most of the time they'll just not go through such troubles and take your word for it

[souheirtheblossominggirl]

A New December, A Fresh Start

It is time to toss the toxicity away and start fresh. Don't let this December off the hook when you still have the chance to make every day count.

All of us have problems, things that weigh us down. Some of these things drag us to the bottom so we become incapable of a fresh start. We’re unable to let go of toxic things that suddenly became a part of our DNA. And that’s what happened to my family and me. We lived in a toxic household and endured domestic violence. Not only that, but no one outside of our house knew about it. The positive…

[good-advice-ganondorf]

[uncanny-tranny]

Something that made hygiene-related things easier to do was to say "fuck it" to the concept of doing the thing at the Right time. My teeth do not understand that it is currently 02:00 or 15:00 and they're getting brushed. The skin on my face doesn't hold up a timepiece and say, "why haven't you washed me, twelve hours have elapsed and you haven't bothered to wash me!".

As someone who has had very intense experiences with my ability to do things at the Right time, throwing out those rules has been a game-changer. I used to shame myself because I didn't do something at the Right Time, so I just didn't do it, which would make me feel even worse. That's not a healthy way to go about anything. Accommodate for yourself. Throw out those rules.