#phalloplasty ask

[answersfromzestual]

And to my follower who messaged me, I am thankful I could be helpful. I appreciate all the kind words, I appreciate you taking a chance on clicking on this blog.

I am proud of you dude. You deserve to be happy with your body.

I hope you are able to have it in the near future.

I just want to thank you as well for making it all worth it. It's people like you I want to help.

Wishing you well friend!

-answersfromtheshadows

[vamp-bites]

Stupidest comic ive made to date

[official-penis-posts]

my penis post is that im a trans guy who definitely wants phalloplasty. penis

You know what you want, that is like 3/4 of the battle! Keep that in mind because there is still a battle ahead. Cock on!

[transmascpetewentz]

the only thing which benefit from gender surgeries are the surgeon’s bank accounts.

the pain i feel every night as i sit there aware of the fact i don't have a dick leaving my body as soon as a user on tumblr dot com makes claims about surgeons being corrupt with no sources

[tautozhone]

standing on the corner of the street with a sign that says “ask me about how i think a vast majority of plastic surgeries can be considered gender affirming procedures” and on the back it says “trans people getting the surgery doesn’t make it trans surgery”

[dysphoric-culture-is]

Dysphoric culture is wanting a phalloplasty without a vaginectomy and not being able to find any doctors who've ever done it, and then crying because you know your ideal configuration apparently isn't a thing that happens.

I want to keep my vulva/vagina, but I still want a penis, and I can't tell you the amount of times I've cried because I don't think this type of surgery is even done or, if it is, done in the US at least. It sucks so much.

Dysphoric culture is!

Also anon, great news: this surgery is real! It’s called vagina-preserving phalloplasty or VPP.

There aren’t a ton of surgeons who perform it in the US but some (from the Crane Center in California) are listed here. There’s also someone in New York that talked about getting a vagina-preserving metoidioplasty in a news article but mod doesn’t know who their surgeon was. More info and some more surgeons are here.

More people are getting nonbinary bottom surgeries so there are slightly more resources around now. Good luck anon!

(For those wanting the opposite of this, phallus-preserving vaginoplasty exists too.)

[defilerwyrm]

Hey, trans guy here, and while I’m not personally interested in getting bottom surgery, I am interested in writing t4t erotica involving guys who have. Do you have any writing tips on that front or just stuff you wanna see from what I imagine is a pretty underserved niche?

Howdy and that’s awesome!

One thing that would be cool to see represented: not everyone who gets bottom surgery is a top! I’m sure not, though strangely my interest in playing that role has increased since I had the work done. You can be the biggest anal queen this side of Pornhub and still get bottom surgery. Only makes sense, right—if we can accept that having a dick doesn’t automatically make a cis man a top, the same is also true of trans men & transmascs.

Some things about a healed-up phallo dick from my experience, under a cut:

The head is VERY sensitive, and the base is very sensitive. Everything in between that has erotic sensation but in an “Mm that’s nice” kinda way until you add pressure too. Once it’s healed up, it is definitely possible to orgasm from stimulating it. How long that takes will vary, though. I was told it might be up to a year, but I have a crazy healing factor and had it back in like 2-3 months.

If you couldn’t successfully kill the hair follicles on a permanent basis via electrolysis and/or laser prior to surgery, there’ll be hair. (It’s not THAT weird. Plenty of cis men out there have hair on their shafts too!)

If you had a tattoo on your donor site, you’ve got a tattoo on your dick now, lol. It might be unrecognizable depending on where it was originally (especially on the inner wrist/forearm).

There’s a scar up the underside right in the middle and all around the base. The scar up the middle of your scrotum will look similar enough to the natural seam of an OEM scrotum that it’s not really notable.

The scrotum won’t have all the wrinkles an OEM one does at rest.

No foreskin, more’s the pity, but the head looks VERY much like a circumcised OEM penis once it’s healed.

Different donor sites tend to produce different results. The non-dominant forearm is preferred because they take a stretch of nerve with it and it’ll typically have the least subcutaneous fat, so you tend to get the best sensation and shape. With the back or thigh, bigger guys might end up with a Coke can cock, which cis men THINK they want but it’s a different story when it’s always that size.

Yep, it’s always the same size. Which means you’ve got something the size of an average-for-your-height erection at all times.

Without an implant, it’s quite floppy as you can imagine. If you manspread at all, you might have to shake a leg out when you stand up ‘cause your dick’ll go between your thighs, and you’ll notice real quick as soon as you start walking. Masturbation can be awkward depending on how you do it, but “double bagging” (wearing two condoms at once) will keep it stiff enough to top.

There are two types of implants you can get: a flexible rod made of silver encased in biostatic silicone that gets sutured to your pubic bone to make sure it stays in place (how metal is that?!), or an inflatable rod that has a pump & release in the scrotum. Look for “erectile dysfunction implant” if you’re researching these. With the former, you basically always have an erection, but it’s posable; not great if you wear a lot of Speedos, as my surgeon put it. With the latter, you choose when it stands up and when it lies down. These implants, along with testicular implants for those who get them, are always done at least 6-9 months after the initial surgery.

Recovery can be rough. I took 3 months off work and needed it. The first two and a half weeks were the worst because I had a suprapubic catheter in, and dear gods I hated being cathed. Felt like I had to pee at all times, even right after emptying the bag. Worth it, though, absolutely worth it.

If you do radial arm flap, you’ll end up with two scars aside from the ones on your groin: a rectangular graft that goes most of the way around (NOT all the way around; that leads to necrosis!) the forearm from the wrist to about halfway to the elbow; and a less-obvious rectangular scar shaped like an open book on the top of one thigh where they take a split-thickness (meaning, only part of the way down) skin donation for your arm graft. The graft is pretty obvious, especially if you’re chubby, but my leg scar is extremely subtle and continues to get fainter as my skin cycles itself out.

The graft will be forever hairless.

People will probably glance at the graft, and they might stare if they’re rude, but in the…what’s it been, almost two years I’ve had it, exactly one person has actually asked about it and that was when it was still fresh and extra gnarly-looking. I told her “It’s a graft, it’s not as bad as it looks” and there were no follow-up questions.

Because there’s nerve harvested from the inside of the forearm, sensation comes to the penis faster than it comes to the graft. The cut nerve DOES regrow! But for the first…I’d say 6-9 months? Ish? I could only feel pressure on the tissue UNDER the graft. Sensation is still duller there, but at this point I can feel temperature, moisture, and texture well enough.

Recovery includes physical therapy for the donor arm. The more you move that wrist early and consistently, the less stiff it will be when it heals. I’ll never be able to touch my thumb to my wrist again, but I also can’t do that on the right either now, so I think that’s more to do with my age than the surgery (I used to be a lot more hypermobile, but I am no longer a spring chicken).

Learning to pee standing up is a messy affair that involves cleaning the toilet and doing laundry a lot. Once you’ve got it down, though, it’s pretty awesome.

Chasers will now ghost me the instant they find out I am not biologically available to be their sexual experiment.

There are a LOT of other options for bottom surgery, but I only have passing familiarity with them based on hearing firsthand accounts and what I learned from my surgeon. Personally, I weighed meta vs phallo heavily; being able to get a natural erection with meta or Centurion was a very attractive prospect, but it just doesn’t produce a size that I would find satisfying in terms of my own self-image, so I went with phallo. There was never a question in my mind as to wanting vaginectomy with it. Beyond the unbelievable convenience of being able to pee standing up without an STP device, I fuckin’ HATED my front hole, and I REALLY hated being pressured about having things done to it (mostly by cis men, but not always) all the time.

[impzone]

after researching more into phalloplasty, i’ve been kind of blown away by how different the reality of people who have gotten the procedure is from the way people who haven’t had any kind of bottom surgery talk about it. even trans men who got it and had complications, or didn’t end up perfect, are still majorly happy with their results.

i know a lot of trans men with bottom dysphoria are taught to suppress it, and the dysphoric comments about how phalloplasty is awful and could never satisfy anyone don’t seem like they have an impact, but they do. other trans men see that, and it dissuades them from ever looking into a surgery that could greatly increase their quality of life.

take a minute and try to think about how many of the negative comments you see about bottom surgery are from people who have never had it, and who’s only perception is from other people who didn’t have it saying it’s not worth it. how many times have you considered it, and decided to give up because you’ve heard your fellow trans people constantly talking about how it would ruin you and leave you unhappy?

i know it sucks to not have a cis guy dick, but be mindful of what you say because it still shapes perception, and it can be really harmful especially if you’re coming at it from a purely hearsay and biased position.

technology has progressed so much, and phalloplasty does not leave you with an insensate tube of flesh you can do nothing with, i can tell you that much. it looks good, it feels good, and in the book Hung Jury results have been described as indistinguishable from cis genitalia. but ultimately there is more ways to measure the success of phalloplasty than how much it looks like a cis man’s junk. from what personal accounts i’ve read, it can and often is just as gender affirming and freeing as people talk about top surgery being.

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[the-acid-pear]

U should make his tits bigger

Monkey big naturals... Actually wait. Transmasc Monkey kinda fucking hilarious. T4T... HE BIRTHED KAYLA... TRANS HOMOPHOBIC REP... Anon... You cooked with this one.

[official-penis-posts]

for people who are considering going on T to get bottom growth: you cant really only get /some/ of the effects (to my knowledge), youd have some of the other effects as well, some of which are permanent. if youre fine with that then get on T the world is your oyster. however i think you could also just get phalloplasty if you wanted a dick

There you go. Hormones are slippery little buggers.

I do take exception to the phrase “just get [insert any invasive surgery here]” bc like it’s not like you can buy that via Amazon prime. It’s still kind of a big deal.

On the subject of hormones being slippery little buggers, I have a lot of issues with hormonal birth control. And people would ask me “why don’t you just get a tubal ligation?” And I’m like oh. You mean why don’t I “just” get an expensive and invasive surgery that most doctors will not perform because they are “uncomfortable” with it, and which certainly won’t be covered by my insurance? You mean why don’t I “just” do that? 🙄

[intersexfairy]

Hey friend this is the post I was thinking of about phalloplasty

(www.tumblr.com)/genderkoolaid/719614499032793089/the-funny-thing-about-hung-jury-is-that-the-guys?source=share

I hope it comes through! ((Also when pasting remove the () ))

oh thank you! i saw that post before but i forgot about it. i'll definitely look at the resources it has.

this is so strange to me though bc for the bulk of the 10 years I've known im trans, i thought i didn't have bottom dysphoria. i ignored that part of my body, or wanted it removed because "i didnt need it" (i used to think i was 100% asexual - i've learned i'm grayace instead). then i wanted meta, but didn't want phallo because "let's wait for it to get better" and i was scared of not liking how it feels (still am). but i still said i didnt have bottom dysphoria, just that meta would give me gender euphoria.

and then... ykno how some trans guys are like do i just find this guy hot or do i want to look like him? yeah, i got that but with.. ykno. dicks. but i still was denying it, and then i had this massive sex repulsion episode and i didnt know why... until i talked to my boyfriend (♡♡♡) about it and he helped me realize i *do* have bottom dysphoria and i *do* want phallo. 10 years... I spent 10 years suppressing that.

so yeah... just wanted to share to get it off my chest. but also i know i cant be the only one to feel this way. sexuality is hard as a transmasc... we dont deserve to suppress how we feel. and we may not even realize we're doing it.

[main-character-moment]

Having an internal debate recently as to whether I wanna get bottom surgery

I’d put it to the side for years despite being initially down for going on T and having bottom growth, but the only surgery option I’d ever seen was metoidioplasty, which I really didn’t like the look of and it turned me off everything.

But now that I’m older and have more comfort with my body, I went back to consider T and bottom surgeries and found phalloplasty, which I really like the look of. Now I’m genuinely considering it with the option to keep my vagina.

It’s still a big decision though, both financially and about my body, and I know there’s a lot of skin grafting that comes with it which has me concerned about my tattoos. So on that note, if anyone who’s gotten the surgery would like to share their experience, I’d love to hear it!

[kakashihasibs]

do you ever, like, remember you have a dick now and are like whoa! i got a dick! and then just continue on with your day but happier cause you got a dick. cause i do that sometimes askjhdgjlkahskjdg phallo is awesome <3

Yes! Mostly when I'm naked tho lol. Or if the bulge is bulging 😏

But also i cannot understate how nice the body neutrality is. Most of the time it's just not on my mind and it's so calming 😌

[alinnsurana]

something almost comical about being misgendered while literally scheduling gender affirming surgery