#owning your feelings

[thecyancat]

look, i don't know who needs to be told this, but people are responsible for their own emotions.

if someone is upset with you for "leading them on," that's not on you, that's on them. you did not make them come to the wrong conclusion, they got there on their own. that isn't your fault. if they loved you and cared about you as much as they said they do, they would not let their projections and fantasies get in the way of respecting your autonomy as a person. autonomy which includes choosing not to be in what is generally defined as a "relationship" with them.

similarly, it is important to own your feelings. it is no one else's fault that you feel the way you do. yes, your feelings are largely involuntary, but it is important to take responsibility for them, rather than blame others for how you feel. taking responsibility for your feelings means you get to empower yourself to choose how you react to them.

[arnab-factory]

Fascinated by this phenomenon

[minart-was-taken]

Autism be upon ye

[goldensunset]

advice i think we should tell children is that when adults say stuff like ‘now that i’m an adult i get really excited about stuff like coffee tables and bathrooms and rugs etc’ they don’t mean ‘and now i don’t care about blorbo and squimbus from my childhood tv shows anymore’ bc your average adult still loves all the same pop culture stuff they always did; they just have a greater appreciation for the mundane as well. growing up just means you can enjoy life twice as much now. you can get really excited about a new stuffed animal AND about a new kitchen sponge. peace and love

[ganymedesclock]

I think cis people should also be their gender of choice. Like, if you're a man, you should get to really enjoy being a man- have fun with it! If you're a woman, take the parts of womanhood that really deeply make you happy. If being a little androgynous or ambiguous or hidden is the part that really makes you happy, you don't have to be trans for that. If you wanna lean really hard into being femme or masc- do it! You have one life in your body, do what makes you happy. Ditch the stuff you don't like.

My sinister queer agenda is I think that everyone should be the gender they like in the way they like it.

[hanjoj]

their ship name might as well be theseus the way there's not a single original characteristic left there

[canonkiller]

but you can't keep holding on like this.

[improbablecarny]

collage of female characters that people have used to “prove” that there are too many masc women in media

[itsybitsybatsyspider]

i want that slut covered in blood and traumatized by his actions

[aggressionbread]

i love products that make up words that sound like they could've come from tumblr

[solidwater05]

Apparently this needs to be said so

Forgetting things is morally neutral! Memory issues are morally neutral!

You're not a bad person if you...

forget things quickly

forget people

can't remember entire stages of your life

can't remember important things

can remember some things very well and forget other things all the time

can't remember things (or anything!) about your interests

forget to eat, sleep, go to the bathroom, etc

forget to reply to texts

remember things and immediately forget them again

can't remember birthdays, events, etc

frequently answer 'I forgot' to questions

can't retain new information

forget things you used to know

only remember things when it's too late

have vague, distorted and/or unreliable memories

depend on others to know how an event you were in played out

have other symptoms that are worsened by memory issues and vice versa

... and anything else I might have missed!

[contact-guy]

THE DYING DETECTIVE - part 3 - part 1 - part 2 - "to the last gasp he would always be the master" - there is at least one panel that made me laugh while drawing it so I hope it makes you laugh, too. It's the least I could do.

This will most likely be the last update for a few weeks - going to England on a trip (where Sherlock Holmes lives!!! omg!) - when I return it will be for a cozy early Christmas special, THE BLUE CARBUNCLE.

(This is in the Watsons sketchbook series!)

[travelingthief]

You don’t have to have fancy crystals and herbs for spell jars btw. You can use sugar, coffee grounds, leaves, acorns, etc. Don’t fall victim to witchcraft consumerism.

[chipper-smol]

[dalliancekay]

All the I LOVE YOUs Aziraphale didn't say