#our community has problems

[mcflymemes]

please don't mistake silence for hatred. please don't mistake unanswered plotting messages as indifference, or a lack of enthusiasm towards you. considering the ages of most roleplayers, many of us have bills to pay, families to take care of, medical conditions to treat, appointments to make, classes to take, homes to clean, and lives to live away from the computer that are far, far more important than writing on tumblr — life has a tendency to get in the way of hobbies and fun things like this. be patient with your fellow writers. if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. of course you can set your boundaries, keep your space comfortable, and softblock whoever you wish, but do so while recognizing it's probably not hatred or apathy that keeps them from leaping into your dms with message after message. they probably love this hobby just as much as you... but sometimes life gets in the way.

[fusionfanatic]

Research for an au fic I’m working on: how would Azula act and behave in a modern setting? And I don’t mean re-imagine her character within a modern context and stories. This isn’t Azula, but she’s an overachieving American high schooler with strict and overbearing parents, or Azula, but she’s the soon-to-be CEO of her father’s multinational conglomerate based in Japan or something. No, I mean how would Azula as she is in canon, Fire nation princess and all, act and behave if you simply just took her from her world and plopped her into [insert current year you’re reading this]?

[the-haven-keepers-collective]

Unreasonably long post about plural shit

So I'm gonna be honest and uncharacteristically vulnerable for a second because I think people might relate or have internalized similar things. My name is Pyre; at least that's what I'll be going by on Tumblr. I'm a fictive, some of you might've already seen me sign off on comments or something using my source name but I don't really care. Also I'm not Techno, he's open about his source. Thought I'd get that out of the way for those of you who know us. Pyre is a very Techno name though and I just stole it faster.

Anyway, to the point: We've seen posts shouting out systems/collectives who are "too similar," particularly median systems and such who experience a lot of internal fakeclaiming and imposter syndrome because of that. This is for the non-median systems who are "too similar," though. This is part a post to point out their validity, and part a post talking about my own experience so far with that.

In my source, I'm kind of a badass. I was admittedly an asshole, and very misguided, but at least within my canon (within the shows canon is questionable, we never did finish it rip) I was fighting for what I believed was right. Fighting for those who fall through the cracks for no good reason, for those that get hurt for things they can't control. If I were brought here, in this world, in my own body, I wouldn't afraid of shit. I'd gladly punt a transphobe. I wouldn't shy away from conflict; sometimes conflict is how progress happens.

In reality, I don't have my own body. And one of the things about our body is, well, its nervous system is wired to treat any small amount of conflict as a threat. We're incredibly risk averse, and this isn't a personality trait, it's built in. No one in our collective is likely to ever take an opportunity, no matter how well laid out, to call out someone being an asshole or have some witty comeback to a transphobe or whatever. We won't even think of one. That's wired into our nervous system, it's just how our body reacts to danger. We stumble over ourselves if we try to do anything other than freeze.

This isn't a fault. This wouldn't be overwritten by sheer personality and willpower in a "real system." Some systems, maybe, but not all. So for those of you who feel like you "should" be a certain way and just can't because it's built into the body you're in to act differently; you're not any lesser for it. Whether you're a fictive, sourced in some way, have a certain role that "should" be different, your personality is just like that, or some other reason I can't think of- don't be too hard on yourself for things you can't control. The body you're in just wants to protect you.

Even if sometimes, you (and I) strongly disagree with it on what exactly that means.

-Pyre

[itsmarsss]

y’all am I overreacting im actually pissed off

[myfairkatiecat]

Okay I’m going to say it, some of y’all treat the KOTLC tag like it’s a tumblr community instead of an organization system that gathers together everything people post and tag as KOTLC

[tabbyphobos]

So I've been playing Sims 4 right? And I think I got it.

It has no SOUL.

They keep adding in new content all the time because they hear that people want better gameplay, but they don't mean "more things to do."

They mean that the repetition is showing.

The Sims franchise has always been about repetition. Get a job, go to work, come home, attend to needs, try to make friends or learn skills. Live suburban life. Sims 2 have us goals, which made our experience richer as we try to manage these little people with their own agendas.

(I can't speak to Sims 3; I hated the open-world forcing single-household gameplay, and the aesthetic was terrible imo.)

Sims 4 does this too, but... Why is EVERYONE embarrassed by mischief interactions? Why is EVERYONE scared of thunderstorms? I have an entire neighborhood full of people who are either aspiring to Joke Star or are Foodies, and going between them is basically like playing the same week over. (Johnny Zest, Steve Fogel, June Kay, and Amber Stein, if you wanted to know.)

And I've been sowing discord! Bob and Eliza are both looking elsewhere for romantic fulfillment and trying to keep it secret. Amber Stein and Armand DiAggro are engaged but Armand caught Bob flirting with her at Bob's house because she's there EVERYDAY. Charlie is a menace to society, even to his roommates! I mixed up who a child wanted to be enemies with and made him go full asshole on his dad! Alexander Goth is bald and I don't know why!

But the reactions are always the same: bland. Someone gets mad but does nothing about it, except suddenly hate an activity that they need to do for their job. People become sad and are just slower at eating. Nobody gets into a fight unless I direct them, and even when I do they go back to their corners; no additional slapping or insults.

There are no extremes. Nothing bad, but nothing good either. Nobody gets fired for a chance card. Nobody really fails at anything. And nothing great happens. Getting married coats money and requires more hassle than it used to. Having a baby when you haven't the room or the money is inconsequential. Burglars are back but they just leave sims sad; they even tell you exactly what they stole so you can just re-buy it.

And I have no reason to care about any of these people. The household bio is all the story you get. Travis has so little personality he's made of gray paste. Olivia grew up into... Not really as lively as she was as a kid. Did I mention that Alexander Goth is bald?

Even the blandest families in 2 had some drama going on. The Aspirs and the Bells basically did a partner swap in their youth. The Baldwins have Uncle Carlos and all his bitches to deal with. What about Jason Cleveland's predilection for men? You wanted to hang with these families, see where they go. Because they COULD go in any direction.

Everybody but June in the Funny Foodies corner is a C-Lister. No fluctuation. They are all doing the same things. The most exciting things to happen in the Sims 4 world was Vivian and Dennis got married and adopted a couple of kids before they died. And Bella Goth had a baby without my knowledge or permission. (Don"t even get me started about how mad that made me.)

Nothing happens unless you make it happen, and when it does, no one cares, especially not your sims.

Is this why all sims 4 gameplays seem the same? Builds. Legacies. Rags to riches. 100 babies. Are people trying to FIND the fun in the game? I don't blame them.

2 may require a level of frustration, but at least it has heart. Sims 4 is a life simulation by committee. The edges are all shaved off and the experience is beige, bland, and pointless.

Paralives cannot come out soon enough.

[a-dragons-journal]

in a post you mentioned that copinglink is not only for coping, and I admit I felt a bit confused after I read it. I was told it was that, and always seen it written that way in the definitions. Can I ask you the favour of helping me understand?

As gently as I can, in the future you may want to check the related tag on a blog to see if they've discussed this in the recent past or, as is the case in this instance, already had this discussion with another asker after the post that sparked a question went up. (Not mad, just - it'll save both you and the person you're asking time.)

Copinglink, per the original coining post linked here, covers all consciously created identities. It was never restricted to coping mechanisms only. It is a perfect synonym with otherlink. The reason it's got coping- in it is because a) it was coined as a replacement for copingkin (which only kind of worked, because the people then called copingkin were about 30-40% actual copinglinkers and about 60-70% what we now call "kin-for-fun" people or KFF for short, and the latter, as we have seen, just moved on to different versions of "kinning"), and b) to my understanding (as someone who wasn't around for that time period but has heard about it secondhand, @who-is-page please correct me if I'm wrong here), at that point in the community's history, there was a very strong insistence that kintypes absolutely could not be voluntary/consciously created and there had to be a hard line between kintypes and voluntary identities, and the primary pushback against that was "but what if it's a coping mechanism, not just something I'm doing for fun?", hence copingkin, hence copinglink.

The only reason otherlink even exists as a term is because some 'linkers didn't like that copinglink implied that it was by default a coping mechanism for something, so someone (I'm not actually sure who, I've never turned up a coining post for it) coined otherlink to provide an alternative that didn't have coping- in the name.

To be perfectly clear, I have no problem with this. I get why people feel that way and that's perfectly fine. I do, however, have a personal distaste for people retroactively insisting that copinglink can only be about coping-related identities when that has never been true. (That is, ironically, reinforcing the very misunderstanding that drove the coining of otherlink to begin with.)

[locoier]

i love qsmp because it forces me to like. actually work on my language skills. like so often i find myself watching content in portuguese with spanish translations. so im watching content in the language im trying to learn with subtitles in my second language and i know that my brain is actually working and learning yippie

[lurkiestvoid]

I can't stop imagining the alternate timeline where the EU did to Facebook what the US tried to do to TikTok. "Meta has to share its full proprietary software with our government, or sell to a European company" lmao can you imagine

Like EU and some others did some regulations on privacy and social media. As they should have, and as we should have here. And Zuck is still crying about it, as he should be. Notably, neither FB nor TT is banned in the EU, and while ByteDance hasn't made much noise about complying over there, Zuck is crying to drumpf to pressure the EU to lay off.

But anyways we can't do any of that here. Why?

Because any privacy regulations or social media regulations will affect our own data-farms. Because those data-farms are important to our government. Because Meta and Shitter freely share that data with our government.

The problem was never 'companies shouldn't have your data' because the US government is fully in favor of companies stealing and profiting from that data. We do it constantly!! Around the globe!! That is literally what Meta DOES.

The problem is our government isn't the one profiting, and that's what's not allowed.

[theprinceandthewitch]

[toki-toro]

Recently I’ve been seeing cool art posts but I can’t interact w them without joining a community. Suck my left toe tumblr

[pshiftcultureis]

Just a friendly reminder, we will happily delete your inbox message if you want to curse us out and get upset at us.

Block us and move on if we trigger you. We wont listen to you rant in our inbox about how much you hate "our kind" or how horrible we are for having tags that we use to find others like us.

Im sorry if its a bother to take not even 3 minutes of your day to block all of it. (we apologize for our nasty attitude, we do what it takes to get people to back off if they are getting too ballsy with our boundaries.)

[forestgreenlesbian]

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[odorofboog]

Please continue amplifying your discomfort in online spaces. Displace your discomfort onto strangers, make sure to double down hard onto the meaningless beef. I'm sure that will have no negative consequences for our society or your brain. Enjoy reacting mindlessly, the feedback loop will be your whole life.

[seiwas]

🎤 thoughts: is it normal for friends to kind of ~disappear after getting together with someone and is it normal to feel sad about it

[dip-the-pip]

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