#or when the asexuality isnt even like... considered

[llitchilitchi]

calling out acephobia in fandoms and fanworks is so weirdly difficult because there's always Some Way to jargon your way out of it that would never fly with most other identities

[mentallhealthmatters]

Hi! Wilbur supporter here. respectfully I think it’s really fucking strange to act as if Wilbur is aromantic. He has literally said he’s straight so many times. You can’t headcanon a real persons sexuality, which is seemingly what you’re doing here. Idc that he called lovejoy music “aromantic coded” he’s also called himself straight several times, recently even. Making think pieces where you assume someone’s sexuality makes you seem super strange!

Strait people can be aromantic, its called being heterosexual but just not heteromantic. Aromantic ISNT a sexuality as you still have a seperate sexuality, you can still have sexual attraction even if you dont have romantic attraction. Asexuality ≠ Aromantic.

Im not assuming anything, if he said the word to describe songs about his love life first, thats not assuming anything. Thats just him describing his love life and experiences and art made based off those experiences.

I dont care if you dont care, but he said it first not me. Aromantic or anyone of any gender, romantic or sexual orientation people dont have to mention theyre aromantic every five seconds for them to be so. Hell, they dont even have to be direct.

Once is enough.

The songs are about his life experiences, his love life which is a HUGE detail being left out here. He calls the songs about *his* life and more specifically *his* LOVE life 'aromantic noise'.

Its not headcanoning aka assuming peoples anything if THE person in question is using it describe themselves. Its aromantic art, and that aromantic art is about him.

Hes aromantic.

Like, its as direct as you get without being told "im aromantic". Im not sure what your getting here, if i made art, whether it be music, visual art, or a written story about my life and life experiences and desrcibed as "gay dribbles" its gay and im probably should be considered gay by the fans. Its not rocket science im afraid? I think like if the arist says this art is a part of me, is a mirror of me, is my life in art form and described it with sexuality, romanticallity, or gender orientation its probably for a reason?

Also your insistence him saying i life girls over and iver again somehow invalidates the one time he basically described himself indirectly as aromantic is weird. Like. Are you a wss? Because that doesnt seem supportive the seems like easure of his identity to point your like yeah igoring the time he indirectly called himseld aromantic you cant say hes-

No i can because he said he was? Even indirectly he did. Like if we can accept all pop icon "bicons" that seemingly only date men as true bicons and actually call out people biphobia for trying to say they arent just because they only publically date men, i think we be better people and when guy says hes aro, hes aro, even if his heterosexual. Like, its liks acephobia but make it arophobia! Such a true WSS, no underlying red flags in your words what so ever!

L

Sincerely and genuinely, an aromantic homosexual person.

[harukirai]

Queer history of Final Fantasy

I am replaying all the old final fantasies(mostly psp psone releases), first time with english localization and not the original jp.

Now i get it.

It all make sense now.

I couldn't understand the wave of "why shove the gays in our face" backlash of 16(even though, the non homophobic felt it was lacking since they didn't want to 'push it in yall face'). Like apperantly moat of the implication or straight up fruity moments in the old game was completely removed, or changed to the point of it being a 'silly thing'.

So lets clarify -

*Cecil(iv), your homeboy- an Non-binary (language is the best indication, but yeah i think it was a decision made for both female and male players to be able to relate to them, but yeah funny outcome non the less)

*Bartz(v)- outright bisexual, they didnt even hide it- next person on this list gonna make it make sense.

*faris(v)- an ftm transgender( at least in the original version, i know in some new iterations they scrapped the whole concept, but left it in in others?)- mainly speak about himself with (ore/boku- which is conventionally usally by male speakers), after finding out soem of the cast either use a female pronounce on him, but bartz constantly either avoid it or use male pronounce(or the nonbinary version which is usually reffered to kidz) but yeah, bartz was crushing on faris where he thought he was a cis male and unlike the other guy didnt shy away.

Lets jump a bit to 8-

Irvine(viii)- even though considered very handsome to the point he could get with any girl hed want, was even flirted with by selphie i think i need to remember, but he usually brush it off.

If anything he is either asexual, or gay(its very subtle, but its what called queer coding, and well see that allot from now on cause japan caught up to westerns norm on media)

Quina Quen (ix)- literally, a nonbinary- but i think they kept it in eng as well cause they are not human, but like black mages they have no sex, but unlike black mages they are 'genderless' and dont care for human norms.

Kuja(ix)- either gay/intersex/both.

Look at him.

Seriously that character confused a whole generation sexuality.

Like sephiroth, but unlike sephiroth he also have effeminate mannerisms, and until it was revealed by text it wasnt so obvious.sephiroth in jp have a confusing language because he himself is possed by jenova, so evem though i love this headcanon, sephiroth isnt trans actually.

Auron(x)- ahh yes, your favourite broody guy and probably where im gonna get tons of hate.

Auron is very subtle, but once you notice it its hard to deny.

I think Auron is gay, unlike jecht or braska- he did not have kids, denied arranged marriage, and followed jecht to dream zanarken just to save jecht only son- it was pretty obvious that auron loved jecht. He also loved braska but not as much, and it shows- that for auron it was more than friendship. You can see it with his attitude towards yuna vs tidus- with yuna he is nicer, politer. Liem you act when you babysit your friends /cousins child.

But to tidus, he is a full father figure.In their journey together they grow, and i think if he wasnt the boy of the man he loved he wouldn't treat tidus as his own. With all the scoldinngs in mind.

Paine(X-2)- qlmost forgot her, but yeah she's pretty gay for riku

I dont remember much though because if the mission structure of the game.

Larsa(xii) - ohh i see you boy, i see u. He is sus as hell. He is a kid so its pretty innocent(and relatable to us queer kidz)

Its pretty obvios that he is crushing on basch, innocently though. I know some ppl who shipped him with penelo, but canonically by spinoffs at least she and vann are an item.

Also they made sure it was obvious cause japan have this thing that a young character is crushing on a teacher,mentor , older characters in general(aka cc sakura- her friend crushing on a teacher, syaoran & sakura crushing on yukito, also happens in tons of pop culture media at that time, so im not surprised, but im happy this time its one sided, THANK GOD)

But yeah if you reached the ending its pretty obvious.

Fang & vanille(xiii)- the first lesbians couple! Terra(VI) was supposed to be the first but they were afraid it will make her less marketable so they scrapped her gf. They made them clear, but at the same time they tried to make sure pple wont be fetishizing them(they tried, at least).

I want to explain their story more but i think ill mess it up since i tend to mix up 13's lacie, falcie and all that jazz.

So ill just say that basically there are 2 world in 13, pulse and cacoon. Pulse is basically earth and cacoon is the moon. There is a god for each world called a falcie.

Few of them but ine for each major ones. Our main gand from cacoon, branded by a falcie to be slaves(lacie) vanille and fang are from pulse, and slaves of pulse lacie, so basically they are with the task of creating Ragnarok which is like the end of time and but limw they dont know cause the gods in this game is like 'yeah imma give you a mission but wont tell you beside weird non undersandable feaver dream and you need to figure out and fast or youll become this universe version of zombie, and if you do complete it you become a ceystal living forever but like, sleeping beauty style. So lose lose situation.

The focus of them both is different from the gang, caus the falcie of cacoon is evil so he gove them focus destroying cocoon while if fang& vannile mannaged to ruin that falcie and bring ragnarok theyll become a crystal, and they used it to save coccon from falling and crushing killing all the people in it, basically became a pillar in eternal sleep when they hheld each other.

But they are saved in later game only to... Lightning return which we wont talk about cause i hate timers.

I love the story of xiii, big part of it is vanille & fang, i havent played in english yet, but i will say, their story is one of the more meaningful on this list, very well developed and i will do it disservice if id try to explain it in few sentences - so do yourself a favour and play or watch the playthrough.

Ignis& gladio(xv)- here is when localization ruimed it. I know cause i palyed on jp dub with eng sub and heard the differences live- first of all gladio and ignis are completely different in jp, as individuals and as a pair- they were supposed to be the first dion& terrence moment, but it got scrapped and they went the vannile& fang route, only that bec they are men, the localization team missed the mark.

Gladio got pissed at noctis in the train because of ignis.

In jp its clear their bond is beyond friends, and not mention the fact that their AI is always stuck together, and that gladio isnt a womenizer in jp at all, and there is no fiancee/girlfriend.

In jp he said suggested there is someone he wants to be with but bec of the state of the world and them both being constantly in the battlefront he couldnt ask.

(and ignis clear his throat when everyone is like oh great, very subtle but it was leading to that)

Every stop of the train or erea post blindness gladio was with ignis not leaving him .

Also tabata san also said that they are more than friends. So there's that too.

But its no secret 15 localization is tereible, the massacared prompto, he is so cringy in english, in jp yeah he is funny but like he says more stuff then random pop colture references, he breaks the 4th wall occasionally but not on the same level of the localization. Also, jp noctis is a little shit because he can and will, in localization he is more relatable while ignos and gladio are kimda mean. In jp its the other way around and up until chap 13 (when he is alone) noctis is a bratt. He has some moments when he is nicer, but when struggle shows he is a bratt about it- and its done purposely since he is a spoiled pronce who never done anything alone in his life.

Thats why in chap 13 he has a change of heart, because he was alone and learned to appriciate his friends when he was stuck alone in the dark with no weapons and i think it was a good call storytelling wise, but yeah the english localzation ruined it and made the whole chapter pointless .

Those are the implied/canon gays of final fantasy up to 15(we got a kiss so its obvious).

The series has always been kinda Fruity and i know some of yall will be like, 'but there's no proof'. Well, japanese speakers(who arent homophobic at least) will agree with me that we tend in media that is not specified like BL or GL to make things subtle. So what in the west is called 'queer coding' is very common in japanese media and it comes in way more shape and forms.usually implied with a desper conncetion relationship or linguistics.its funny cause in the 80's and very early 90's gay pple wasnt hidden in jp pop culture (no kisses or anything but it was straight out told to the viewer/player)

And only later 90's there was a trend of removing us completely from the media, but around that time a specific genre was created so it wasn't out completely.(like yaoi/yuri as erotic mangas existed aince the 80's but usually only love stories or main gay characters were mixed in with the straight media, kimda like what netflix does today, but around 96, 97 the shounen ai and shoujo ai genres rose in popularity(mainly cause of clamp) and things got seperated. In games- because it became a bigger deal in the west square took caution with how clear they gonna make stiff not to piss of the christians after the backlash of Pokemon (idk how it was really but through japanese media and news it seemed at the times that the american patents were pissed so game companies started sensoring their games from all things might piss off christians/monotheistics ).

*also i dont live in japan but i am mixed so i grew in a jp speaking house and family from there always sent games on holidays and birthdays+nhk was always running in the backround to check on the motherland😂

[quiddityg]

KLOKTOBER 2023

Day 4: favorite headcanon

I don't rlly have any super favorite headcannons? So I just kinda tossed some general headcannons I have for each character lawlz

More about each character cause some of the headcannons are rlly vague lawlz

Nathan:

Hes on the Aromantic spectrum, where although he wants a romantic relationship, hes never rlly comfortable in relationships. Hes heteromantic though, where any romantic feelings he may have are only for women, and he generally find women way more attractive than men, but he still has those moments where he finds a guy rlly sexually attractive (cough cough pickles)

Also hes so autism coded it's like not even funny. He probably has the worst sensory issues when he eats chips and gets all that residue on his fingers.

Pickles:

Transgender!!!! I like to think he got top surgery as soon as money started rolling in for the band, and he probably also got bottom surgery also so he can fuck groupies without having to worry about them outing him or smth. That or hes a classic strap on man, which would also be super real of him.

This man is totally bi, he doesnt rlly have any major preference, but just goes for women more often.

I also like to think hed got ADHD but thats also me projecting like a madman cause mwehehe

Toki:

I like to think he's pansexual but like, kinda doesnt rlly realize it? Like, he generally finds all sorts of people attractive, but doesnt elly act on anything, especially with other men cause he thinks it's too gay or something. All around he doesnt have a preference, and his attraction to people isnt bound by their gender.

I also like to think hes nonbinary, in the sense where he doesnt consider himself to be innately masculine or feminine at his core. That being said, hes like never heard of nonbinary people before, and hes comfortable enough as is, and knows who he is that he doesnt rlly care to put labels onto himself in that way. If he cared about pronouns, hed probably go by he/they/she

Hes also totally autistic, maybe audhd but idk

Skwisgaar:

I'm sorry, I cant see him as anything else but straight. I mean, I could see him fooling around with other guys, but I dont think he would have any real sexual attraction to them, it would just be for fun. (I know skwistok shippers are not happy with me about this but IM SORRY I JUST CANT SEE HIM DOIN THATT)

That being said, I also kinda see him falling under the aromantic spectrum, specifically where he may experience minor amounts of romantic attraction, but sees no real importance in either engaging in it, or being in a romantic relationship in general.

The dyslexia bit is kinda canon knowing how he has music dyslexia with sheet music, but I also like to think he struggles with reading in general. That being said, hes probably rlly good at counting knowing how amazing he is at guitar.

Murderface:

How I see him, hes a closeted bisexual, and I mean CLOSETED!! Hes probably entirely oblivious about everyone elses queer identities and sees his attraction to men as an aberration of sorts. I also like to think he may find men more attractive, but would never admit it as long as he lives.

Charles:

I fought demons here cause I legit see Charles as just, gay. BUT, after some thought I was like, erm, maybe he would take interest in some women?? So I just said he was bi with a major preference for men.

I also see Charles falling under the asexual spectrum, specifically where he does experience minimal sexual attraction, and isnt against having sex, but he doesnt see any importance it and is way too fucking busy. He has better things to do, basically.

[aromantic-diaries]

so, im both aro and ace (despite the amount of sex jokes and calling people hot, still asexual)

well, this is a long story, sorry in advance

so, im talking to this friend (A) here, he says something that is sooo aro-coded, and im like "this guy is probably aro-spec too and maybe he doesnt know so lets help a little" and i tell him to read loveles because 'the main character is very relatable', he ends up with him knowing about aro identities, he questioned his own sexuality before and he isnt aro, but with the 'very relatable' part i sold myself out as aro, and he wasnt arophobic (he literally said he almost used the label so) so it was okay

fast forward a year , we are talking, sexuality ends up as a topic, and i confess i didnt come up to anyone, the only people who knew were him and another friend who found out by accident (really supportive, even though im not sure that i was ready), he ask about this other friend of ours (B) and why i didnt come out to her, considering she is queer herself. i think im not ready to do that, both times i came out were not intentional and though it didnt end up badly still, not ready, also, my relationship with this friend is, well we mostly talk about gossip and all of her crushes, boyfriends, etc., basically it was purely sexual acts and romance, not my favourite topic of conversation but i we dont have anything in common outside shared memories (childhood besties) and school and we are both pretty unpopular so no more people) plus we never talk deep shit so i felt weird bring it up

few days later, the three of us were in class and talking about our teachers (and shipping them cause we are nosy), we get to his teacher and i say that i couldnt picture her with an special other and A says "like asexual, you mean", (it was more like aro but i didnt feel like explaining the difference plus i was panicking a little because i knew where this was going) and A countinues "B, what do you think of asexual people?", B says something in support, and then he asks me "[my name] do you know any asexual people in real life?" with a look on his face saying 'come out', i kinda evade the question so he asks B if she knew any, and B answers she had the theory that i was ace (i mean, she was right). i didnt know what to do so i made a joke "was it so obvious?"

i dont think i was ready to come out to her and i didnt want it to happen, but the conversation didnt end up bad, she was supportive but still i wasnt ready. i dont think it counts as getting outed because he just forced the conversation that way but didnt really say "[my name] is aroace", but i dont know of B hadnt mentioned her theory, would he had outed me?

i dont know how to feel, im basically venting, maybe do you have any advice for this situation?

I really don't think anyone should make you come out if you don't want to do it and it's supposed to be your choice so this sounds like something you should really talk about with friend A and explain to him that you didn't want to come out yet and that this wasn't okay. It is lucky that friend B was supportive though because this type of situation is even messier when the other person is not supportive. But even so it's still a gamble because most of the time you can't predict how someone will react and it's better to not take the risk of coming out to someone, let alone put someone else at risk. I hope you can talk this through with friend A

[sillyandquiteawkward]

Do you think Father would be openly gay in the institute or be in the closet?

in the little fallout universe i like to play around in, i like to think that shauns always been a gay man, but as an adult has tamped down and ignored his feelings for focusing on science and working, maybe even viewing himself as better than his peers for not falling prey to childish desires. its the case anyway that in 60 years, shaun has no romantic partner, nor children. i think much later on, once he becomes director and starts having more power and access to knowledge, that his denial of his wants starts to falter now that he satisfies his need for control and superiority in other ways. this also compounds once he learns he has a terminal illness. now hes acting a bit irrationally to his own standards, and hes pleasure seeking, yolo and such. this includes in my little crackship universe, that he and bayley end up in the same vicinity as each other and eventually develop into a thing. openly they arent exactly "together" but on lookers could easily notice something is up between them.

i think when it comes to being open or in the closet, if you asked him his preference hed initially say hes asexual. in mostly a way that i think he genuinely wants to believe that he is that ("wouldnt that be so much easier if true, i could focus on more on scientific progress rather than feel the burden of ideas on relationships and sex"). if pressed further on the topic hed admit in his youth he was fond of boys, but would go on to dismiss the idea like "im not so childish now." like his biggest in the closet issue isnt being gay its about Wanting a relationship or sex or a lover. like to him Thats what hes ashamed about. i think theres a lot of intersection between denial of himself in particular with his relationship to his gayness tho, he just doesnt consider that as the main contender.

[lobotomyboner]

Got any clone high headcanons? Also HI!!!

oh boy do i!!!

(also a lot of the ships i include may be controversial, but theyre not problematic and gross so u dont have to worry about that :3).

jfk: hes pan. “if theres a hole, theres a goal!” -jfk, probably /hj. he genuinely felt something for joan when they dated, but he knew that she wasnt gonna stay for long. also hes a mullet-haver. sry i dont make the rules!! hes dating abe (im right about this. i am and im not arguing.)

joan: genuinely the only character in the entire show that i think is 100% only into men. i know that might get me into some drama but idc! shes only shown attraction to men!!! but also to counterpoint that, i think he’s genderfluid and doesn’t care about pronouns. she felt something for jfk, but that feeling was Horny. she really only wanted to date jfk for the sex. which, if you look at season 2, is pretty much canon. he has a fat crush on abe, still, but when jfk gets with him, she decides that she’s done with crushes and dating for a while.

abe: hes bisexual. he is and im right! his crush on joan was one of those things where you convince yourself to like someone but in reality you only think of them as a friend. he ACTUALLY has a crush on jfk but he doesnt realize that until joanfk break up (rivals to lovers moment?) after breaking up with cleo after prom, they don’t talk for a bit, but once cleo realizes she’s a lesbian she decides to befriend abe again, and the two of them plus frida form a cute little friend group and they gossip. also abe lets them give him makeovers cuz why not!

cleo: shes a lesbian. she never showed genuine attraction to a man until john dark, and even then, it was because he was actually joan in disguise. she only wanted to date these guys for power and popularity. so when frida enters the picture, cleo isnt sure how to feel. shes confused and weirded out and she doesnt know how to express those feelings. so she flirts. it starts off as a joke, like a “hey shawty bae we’re just besties but i’d kiss you” to an actual genuine crush. also she gets a better mom when shes unfrozen. because she deserves it.

gandhi: hes asexual and bi (fem pref). hes dating marie curie :) theyre cute :)!!! im not counting season 2 as canon for this, so he got unfrozen along with everyone else. he has this whole enemies thing with topher, but he doesnt consider topher his enemy. topher considers gandhi a rival but not the other way around. gandhi thinks topher should chill out a bit, but considers him as a friend.

i might expand on this later actually cuz right now im like burnt out and my brain is fried from staying up till 5am (oops.) anyways i have a BUNCH more if you want them :)

[emptea-headed]

I need advice I’m sorry..Me and my partner are both asexual (And polyamorous) and we don’t really talk about sex a ton. I want to be completely transparent if I end up really making a kink blog even if it’s all completely hypothetical for me but I don’t know how to even bring it up bc I get so awkward and uncomfortable when nsfw stuff is brought up irl. I know full well that they have had fwb online relationships before but for some reason I freeze anytime I try to bring it up.. we’re long distance rn so I’m not sure how to ask.

I’m not asexual and I dont personally understand the nuances of everything that comes with that and sex, so forgive me I can’t remark on that.

The relationship aspect though? Any relationship worth having is one where you can communicate. I’m a pretty straight forward girl and I often over communicate my intentions and ideas in order to make sure they get across exactly as I was intending so that there’s little to no confusion on the other end.

If you find yourself unable to communicate no matter how you try, your next step is to decide if you can live without what you want to communicate or not. If you can live without it, great, you move on and it’s like your struggle never happened. If you decide it is not something you can live without, it’s time to consider leaving the relationship or figuring out how to live without whatever it is youre finding yourself here over.

Every individual person has needs and wants of their own, and being in a relationship requires communication, negotiation and respect. If youre going to be with someone, they should love you and respect you and cheer on your changes no matter what you grow and change to be, but sometimes things dont line up and you have to decide if it’s something you can talk about and get over and accept as a difference or if it’s the relationship ender.

This probably isnt the advice you were looking for, but it’s mature advice that comes from some relationship experience.

[mashiee]

Arlo headcanons please please please gimme

hrmhehahaheheaysysh

ok so

i hc that he has 4 older siblings, but was separated from them pretty early on due to [REDACTED] so he was practically alone his whole life, with the occasional step in from valerie

*[REDACTED] is a whole Thing, so send another ask in if you want me to talk about it and go into detail abt my hcs for arlo family/family dynamic(s)

this is very much why he so easily believes her and why he seems so much more adamant about the hierarchy compared to other characters

also why he acts like an only child despite having four older siblings

his sister has tried to reconnect with him but its a work in progress

he collects antique buttons and very much has a hyper fixation on them

yes he is autistic, tbh i probably dont even have to say that

bee allergy, esp hornets

hates wearing shorts outside would rather die than wear them out it feels so weird to him

honestly im not entirely sure what i hc arlos gender. it tends to switch between cismasc and amab demiboy. also sometimes tho its amab nonbinary or agender

also a bit unsure about pronouns. he/him for now but if i end up going for nonbinary or agender later on probably it/its pronouns. or maybe they/them

speaking of being queer he has internalized homophobia (possibly via valerie) so he probably doesnt come out until much later in life

he struggles with allowing himself to be feminine or sometimes even androgynous. was taught growing up that he has to be masculine and strong

its being worked on

plays animal crossing a lot

probably the only video game he plays. aside from maybe like. tetris

probably plays with elaine whether he knows its her or not

gay asexual

says he prefers dogs bc theyre more obedient but in reality he prefers cats

multiple times in a week he'll have moments where he'll suddenly Realize just exactly how Tall. he is

prefers reading over movies/tv/yt/etc. it just isnt as interesting to him. also he prefers things that are physical and that he can feel

acts all superior and shit but in reality hes super self deprecating and thinks he'll never amount to what is expected of him

was deprived of having hobbies and playing as a child so he's very much discovering his inner child as he grows and gets further away from the box he tries to mold into

likes adult coloring books a lot

cant stand repeating sounds it makes him dissociate

derealizes a lot

cant recognize himself in a mirror most of the time so he just. doesnt have them. and when in places that do have them he wont look at them. like if he's in the bathroom he'll look down the entire time he wont look up

same reason why he hates photos

absolutely despises mashed potatoes they are so slimey and disgusting

sometimes i consider hcing him as being 18-19 instead of 17-18 bc like. a lot of autistic children repeat kindergarten for lack of communication/interaction with other children

at the same time tho i feel like valerie wouldnt have allowed that

is a cat person

both in that he prefers cats and also that hes a wet cat

he never actually fights people he just crushes them w his barrier or lets them suffer the backlash from attacking it and then moves on

therefore he is weak asf and has no body strength. mr mans has noodle arms

long eyelashes

like john hes also vampire tier but hes sophisticated whereas john is like... feral vampire

sometimes i hc him as british and having an english accent bc i think its funny

can cook enough to survive but its mediocre

cannot handle ANY amount of spicy

pepper and any form of mint is spicy to him

hates mushrooms

has tried weed exactly two (2) times and has hated it both times

in his words "i felt like a coffee grinder with nothing to grind"

why do you, as a man, feel like you need something to grind? do you want to grind on a man?? is that it?? gay

the first person who convinced him to try it was a combo of rei and kuyo, the second time it was holden

arlo still questions why he did it the second time KNOWING he wouldnt like it

theres a senior chat and arlo got named "Big Daddy" in the chat by holden and he has no idea how to change it and no one will tell him so he just suffers

you would think as a king or whatever hed know how to blackmail ppl to get them to do what he wants but he actually doesnt

people just automatically listen to him so when hes faced with someone who wont, he either broods about it or straight up attacks them. sometimes both

more arlo stuff: arlo sibling info | [REDACTED]

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

okay! My aro and or ace headcannons:

dr who (of any regeneration but i stared believing with the 10th) as fully asexual, sex neutral, not quite replused but is like whats the hype? Humans are weird. I also comsider him somewhere in the demiromantic, greyromantic sides of things. I wasnt mad when he was put in romantic relationships, but i dont think hes the type to often seek them out. (Paired with abandonment issues i dont think he ever needs a romantic parter (like do allos think they need a romantic partner??? Idk))

Sherlock (from bbc sherlock) idk if this is self explanatory or not i guess not since ive seen a lot of johnlock stuff in my time lol. But like he is confused by every concepr of sex and romance. Like he used someones crushe on him as a manipulation tactic. Doesnt often see how what he does hurts those with crushes on him. And like he is neurodivgent so i dont want to say he is aroace because of that, but it certaintly shouldnt take awah just how aro ace i see him. (Also fuck john for his causual anormativity in that show. Blatantly horrible)

aziraphale and crowley from good omens as asexual just cuz they dont need it. Theyre relationship is levels of queer, and in their relationship i dont think they need or want sexual intamacy.

muriel also from good omens as aroace. They are just innocent to me. But not to imply the idea that innocence=lack of sexual/romantic attractjon and or desire. I just dont think it suits them.

frenchie from ofmd, newest headcannon, he just never shows any interest? And i love that? Doesnt care about any of it. Is like yea okay, will politely decline anything

the corinthean from the sandman (tv) as aroallo. I can only exsplain this as he is a bisexual slut to me. Murderer who is a babygirl. He isnt intrested in romance but is (in the nicest way, not deragatory or anything) a slut. Will fuck around (and find out)

will graham from hannibal as heteroromantic, homosexual. Idk if this counts, just his romantic and sexual attraction dont line up, so he is aromantic toward men and asexual toward women.

lazlo from wwdits as bisexual/polyamorus (thats cannon but also) aromantic in some way. He doesnt have romantic attraction when he hooks up with someone, only has romantic toward nadja (his wife) .

collin robinson from wwdits as ace/aro flux i cant explain this one. He just is.

captian jack from dr who/torchwood. Cannonically bisexual but to me he is biromantic and homosexual. Agian idk if this counts. Its just not what i would consider an alloromantic exsperience to have split attractions.

theres probably more that im forgetting but heres the list for my more recently watched shows.

This is a 10/10 list and I fully believe them all now even tho I don’t belong to half of these fandoms

[brokenheartedpod]

Something I've been wondering is my relationshio with sex as a writer. Most of the time, I don't even think about my characters having sex, which is why I joke that all my characters are asexual. Because yeah, sex isnt that important to me as a writer.

As a reader I like reading sex scenes and recently I also discovered hearing them isnt something I particularly dislike. Watchibg them is another thing, 'cause idk the consent of it, whenever theres a sex scene in movies my question is always how uncomfortable it was for the actors cause they must have had at least 12 people there watching them. Doesnt mean Im sex repulse, like if I like the scene I would watch it, but the thing in my mind is never thinking "oh, thats hot" rather "oh that must have been akward".

Like Im pretty sure Im somewhere on the spectrum (both ace and autistic jejeje), and most likely demisexual if not graysexual, but it isnt something I consider when talkibg to people about my identity, bisexuality is enough of a battle already. But yeah,

It is funny how it appears in my writing.

TLDR; My writing is ace positive???

[foxgirlchorix]

thinking about “ok actually what fursonae/[x]girlsonae do i want to have”

this will probably end up mostly being ‘basic bitch’-y. i admit to mostly only looking as deep as single species in, like, reptiles and mammals, and i expect a lot of this will revolve around “what if was humen shaped”

my first basic bitch move: im probably not gonna have anything microscopic. no disrespect to bacteria archaea and most eukaryotes but im sorry i dont have the power

this is going to be long!

okay. first

ediacaran biota: there is absolutely no way i can do them justice. but i love them so dearly and need to be them

slime molds: slime molds are really cool but i dont know if i can do them justice. thing to keep in mind though!!

lichens: lichens are the fucking best. the only problem here is this character is probably some sort of rockgirl with lichen growing on her... which i suppose isn’t a BAD problem to have

ferns: ferns can be fun and weird. they’re a big group with a lot of variety so i think a ferngirl is feasible! considering arborescent ferns like the cyatheales.

conifers: FUCK YOU THERE ARE THERE ARE DECIDUOUS CONIFERS. i could be an amazing larch

water lilies: water lilies are kind of gender and wow that looks utterly meaningless as a phrase. but like. they are!

cassytha: i like parasitic vines! cassytha are a good example but i’d be open to other parasitic vinegirls

triuridaceae: i really like flowering achlorophyllous plants. and you say they get their food by digesting intracellular fungi? delightful. also they look SO WEIRD

bromeliads: core problem- there are carnivorous and myrmecophyte bromeliads but they aren’t in the groups of bromeliad i find cutest. otherwise like come on who doesnt want a bromeliadsona

plane trees: i love those awful hell achenes

venus flytraps: i mean there’s SO much fun stuff to be had with a dionaeasona! they’re what a lot of people think of when they hear “carnivorous plant” for a reason.

ivy: ivy are wonderful!

violets: violets are among my favorite flowers especially when they’re really really tiny and especially when clustered

pomegranates: pomegranates are my absolute favorite fruit and they’re very pretty and have very pretty flowers and did i mention they’re very pretty

fungi: the core problem with fungi is the part one’s interested in is the fruiting body, and unlike with (at least some) plants the aboveground part is mostly inconsequential. however i’m thinking of bracket fungi, earthstars, and chanterelles. it is downright criminal of me to go into as much detail as i did with plants and will be doing with animals but not as much as with fungi so it’s going to have the longest description thing

sponges: i can’t do sponges because the concept of a spongesona has been monopolized by the paramount corporation with the character “bob”

comb jellies: comb jellies are so cool and the extremely underrepresented field of “jelly sonas” (DO NOT CONFUSE WITH SLIMEGIRLS) deserves my mark. theyre so good

hydrozoans and jellyfish: there is so much cool variety here. you’ve got tons of bioluminescent stuff, colonial porpitas and siphonophores, some freshwater stuff, a few that have photosynthetic symbiotes, and even some active predators. the life cycle of larva -> asexual polyp -> medusa -> sexual polyp is so cool, though there’s stuff missing various of those phases obvi

vampire squid: the joined arms are really cool and i like them, so i think vampire squids are my preferred cephalopods for sona purposes. you know ursula?

chitons: there isnt enough respect for chitons. i like them and i hope i will be able to make a girl

bryozoans: i love bryozoans if i had a brain i would study them!! people don’t think about them enough. i love the whole lots of specialized zooids thing and i love that some can ‘walk’

tardigrades: overplayed and overhyped, but i do like them. eight legys

dinocaridids: i LOVE THEM SO MUCH. i need at least one dinocaridsona. maybe an anomalocaris but there are SO MANY GOOD OPTIONS

trilobites: i’m not as interested in trilobites, but it’s kind of obligatory don’t you think?

sea spiders: i must confess a fondness for sea spiders. they’re probably too stick-y to be a good girlbasis

horseshoe crabs: beloved beasties. i think about as hard to girl as a turtle

spiders: everyone’s spidergirls are pretty much always kinda modeled off of tarantulas, with a big wide opisthosoma. that’s all well and good, who doesn’t love fat asses, but a more elongated form like orb weavers could be fun for a spidertaur! a weirdly shaped one (like triangular ones!) might be fun too. also i love when spidertaurs have the human legs be pedipalps

centipedes: everyone loves disturbingly large centipedes!

dragonflies: idk why but i like dragonflies a lot. hell if i know how to girl them though

wasps and bees: both of these deserve a sona. maaaybe ants too. the point is i like the eusociality and theyre more aesthetic to me than termites

rays: rays are kind of perfect for ‘you call this a mermaid, but it’s actually just a really big [animal] with a small human torso on top??’. i love this idea and want to use it

sharks: the possibilities are endless. you could have a typical sharkgirl with a nice fat tail, an angel shark like my ray girl concept, or also i like whale sharks i should do a whale shark

ichthyosaurs: you may not like it, but this is what peak performance looks like. the IDEAL choice for a girl who doesn’t want a dolphinsona but also wants something a bit spicier than a sharkgirl. definitely thinking a mermaid-like setup here. she would be incredibly annoying about ‘well i’m a reptile and a mammal and i look like a fish so you have to guess my pronouns now’. what the hell does that mean

mosasaurs: mosasaurs are a bit overplayed in the ‘omg big animal so scary’ field, but it might be worth playing into that? maybe skew things a little whale-ways

snakes: snakes are a classic for a reason! maybe go with a marine snake, or else just commit to the largest snake ever for a worldserpentsona (beloved)

crocodiles: many people have said what i’m about to say- crocodiles are worth it. i can and should commit to a crocodilesona. for fat tails around the world

pterosaurs: a pterosaur sona is downright needed. and there are SO MANY CHOICES!! definitely something in clade caeliadracones if only because that’s a great name

tyrannosaurs: i have to admit it- tyrannosaurs are iconic for a reason. these reasons dovetail pretty well into having a tyrannosaurgirlsona! plus because shes not a normal tyrannosaur i can give her as many feathers as i want

microraptorines: i think they’re so cute and i want “four” wings

enantiornithes: i love them so so so so so much. like i know at least part of it is ‘grass is greener on the other side’ but they’re fucking great. there are so many of them and i love them all

pigeons: i already have a pigeonsona. i have like 10 because angels. but i love pigeons

swifts: i like swifts a lot i think itd be fun to have a sona thats just a whole fucking bunch of swifts

shrikes: i may not have the stomach to be a shrikegirl. but i should try

corvids: MESS WITH THE BEST, DIE LIKE THE REST. magpie angel swoop on you one million times forever

bats: bats are cool and underrated. a bat sona would be fun- maybe a megabat like a flying fox?

cats: i actually already have a couple cat sonas but they’re about as well deifned as ‘hehe... 8′3″ looks like cat face and is a height”. considering perhaps a bigcat-sona and maaaybe a lynxsona

bears: bears <3 i could do it and there will could be more

foxes: my 4d foxgirl is all the fox sona i will ever need <- girl who will create 10 more fox sonas in the next 15 seconds

dolphins: my hatred of dolphins is played up for comedic effect. even so... its orca time

lemurs: every once in a while i think ‘what if lemur sona’ but i get so so scared

[cattheraccon]

i feel like whenever i tell people im asexual or that i think i might be aromantic, the first answer i get is always "but don't close yourself to the possibility of finding someone" or "you never know, you might meet the right person" and stuff like that and sure, i might meet someone one day that makes me feel those things i dont feel, but im not describing whats gonna happen in the future, these labels are describing me right now

i mean its the same as telling a lesbian that "maybe she hasnt found the right guy" and that's really homophobic, because, sure, she might find some guy, but considering she has never felt that way for guys, its safer to assume she wont feel that way for any guy, right?

i do wish i could feel all those feelings and fall in love and have a partner and all the romantic stuff that looks so nice on movies and books and such, but so far i have only forced myself to try abd it didnt have any good results. and looking back i never had any crushes on girls or boys when i was younger, and i never felt like i needed to be romantic with anyone... do i wish to be romantic with someone? yes, absolutely, it looks nice and warm and beautiful, but do i feel that way for anyone? not really.

even when i was in a relationship i feel like i just enjoyed having company and being close to someone else, and also i really like hugs and kisses, so it seemed normal?, but i never really felt anything special for him? i would have done anything to make him happy, but i would do the same for all of my closest friends because i love them, even if its not something romantic or whatever.

i dont think ill ever find someone i feel attracted to, and i dont think ill ever have a relationship with someone like me, considering so far i have only ever met two asexuals, which isnt much, and i have never met anyone that was aromantic, and i think ill just have to make peace with that fact.

i do enjoy being by myself and i really really love my friends enough to be happy with just their company, but it still feels lonely sometimes. maybe ill have to adopt a kitty someday

[philosophicaldefenestration]

tw bit of a vent

ive never thought of my asexuality as a big deal until recently. When i figured it out i was like oh cool! but i didnt feel the need to tell anyone. I didn't mind not seeing rep on tv - it didnt feel like i was missing out.

but over the last month or so its felt everywhere. all the songs are about sex and there's endless stories of people cheating because the couldn't help it in the heat of the moment and i cant go more than a few minutes of scrolling about my fav characters without something horny being mentioned and can never escape people talking about some random thing that is apparently just soooo attractive for some inexplicable reason.

i came out to a friend the other day and she went "oh so you don't like anyone?" and she was so lovely about it and didn't say any "maybe one day" stuff but i still had to explain that ace ≠ aro. which i didn't mind! but it reminded me that no one ever knows.

i was talking to another friend about how we like girls and she went "uhm [my name]"... and then proceeded to remind me im ace. like gee thanks i almost forgot. but when i challenged what she meant she just kept saying "its not like you get.. y'know over them" and wouldnt say the actual words until i asked her to. during this conversation she was basically talking about she wanted more people to talk about attraction with (our friend group is pretty gay and pretty single - but mind you we arent even of age yet). and she was basically saying that she couldnt talk to me about that stuff because i wouldn't understand and "its not the same" and i just. like. i know it isnt. im reminded of that every single day. and it hurt so much to have someone i considered my best friend to just remind me i was different and could never understand. i wish they would put as much effort into understanding as we do. and dont fucking treat me like a child who cant use the big scary inappropriate words just because i dont feel a certain type of attraction.

I'm a bit tired of people calling asexuality 'not a big deal.'

Here's the thing, I never thought it was a big deal either. I didn't have a big angsty coming out about being aro or being ace. It was difficult in a sense to think of the future I'd imagined for myself not coming true, but I didn't mourn that future. I was happy that there were others out there feeling what I was feeling and going through what I was going through.

But it's become a big deal. It's become a big deal because as I have grown older, I have realised the future is still fucking blurry. I have no idea what to expect from it. Society was not built for those who do not or cannot follow its rules. I've realised just how MUCH people say aphobic stuff on a daily basis. I feel constantly othered by comments that carelessly remind us we are out of the majority. That remind us again and again that we are NOT the norm and will never BE the norm. I rarely see myself on TV and in books and in movies. People feel weird about it, so they just never bring it up like an unspoken secret. I'm constantly doubted and told I'm mistaken about my own identity, which causes anxiety and self doubt so many years later. People make a variety of assumptions about me and tell me it's 'sad' and I'm 'missing out.'

It's not just about 'not having sex.' It's about feeling like you're the only one at a concert that doesn't know the words. it about society making you feel like you're just a little bit off. My sexuality/romantic identity doesn't define me. I don't WANT it to be a big deal.

But it is. It is a big deal because all of you make it a big deal.

[vegantinatalist]

What is your opinion on bisexual women? Is it a legitimate sexuality or just amateur lesbians who aren't real lesbians?

tbh, as a sex repulsed asexual i probably have had a very alien understanding of sexuality. i dont think my opinion should matter much to allosexuals. i dont know what the lgb determines the validity of someones orientation by and it seems very inconsistent to me. there seem to be like, multiple different philosophies on it that have been changing for all of human history. sexual behavior in general is very bizarre to me and i just take peoples word for it when they describe it bc when i point out things i find odd about it they either think im phobic or they give me one of 300 different or even contradictory answers. it just isnt my philosophical battleground ig.

im ace4ace (or celibate allo) and extremely interrogative about it before i trust someone which means i dont deal with the issue lesbians have of being mislead by an experimenting woman of another sexuality who eventually leaves them. so theres no reason for me to worry about if bisexuals are legit. the thing i more so have to worry about are lying nonaces and noncelibates who will cheat or have a breakdown, or celibates who will change their mind later and want a partner who has sex.

i dont experience sexuality nor do i have to vet others of other sexualities to compare them to my experience so i just really couldnt tell ya if i think bisexuality is a legit orientation or something else. i have heard a lot of bisexuals lamenting that people generally consider them untrustworthy, potentially disloyal and perverted though.

[robthewischmop]

I still exist

I am a human and I still exist and you probably still exist too if your reading this[*0]. I still have no idea how this works im still just writing something in to this thing and I'm still just hoping somebody acknowledges my existence again.[Yes Im doing this post but again]

Since this is the tenth thing Im putting here im propbebly going to do something

Hi my name really isn't important just make something up or use my user name if you really have to[*1]

My pronouns are all of them (Im agender and dont really care what people call me also I like it when people change wich pronouns they use for me between sentences because that sounds confusing and i like that or something)

I am also Asexual and like 90% sure I'm Aromatic so yeah Im just Aromatik till proven something else now.

and I should probably inform you all that English still is not my first language and also that I am probably maybe Dyslexic but idk[*2]

Considering this I would still like to ask you to inform me of any typos and spelling mistakes and grama errors and all that stuff

This post was brought to you by me and I will probably do something longer again sometimes soon.

Because this is just the information from my first post but a little different here is one more thing that wasn't in my first post: For some reason i am the only person in my friend group that has a healthy sleep schedule even when i don't need to wake up early the next morning

I almost forgot this is the normal end of the post after the keep reading is just some more stuff manly more about the points that i put the [*]things on so if you want to know more about those things that I put them one you can reed it but you really dont have to If you dont want

[Yes I am doing it like this now because the things here a too long to put them In to the thing above btw I have no idea if this is understandable for anyone that isnt me but Im doing it this way for this post ]

about [*1]: you can still use the name from my first post. I just wrote it like that because I have been thinking that I maybe want to change my username(on tubler)[because almost everyone i know irl knows that I go by "Robthewischmop" online and maybe I don't want to make it that easy for them to find me but most of them don't know tubler Is a thing that still exists so maybe I'll just keep this one or maybe I will find a new name that I like ]

about[*2]: Im dont really know If I am dyslexic or not but a lot of people keep asking me if I am[Like a lot of my teacher at my new school have been asking me this and also I have been thinking that I could have It for a while now] but i dont know yet [I will know in like a month or 2 and I will probably make a post about it but if i am not I will maybe just take that sentence out of the post but idk]

Edit: yeah I have a thingy now that says Im dyslexic (I mean a real diagnosis not just a piece of paper that someone wrote "this person is dyslexic" on)

about[*0]: "I am a human and I still exist and you probably still exist too if your reading this" I originally wanted to make a different post that starts with this but then I remembered I wanted to make a new post that I can pin so people can look at it and know stuff about me because of the name thing and the aromatic thing and the sentence that I added in the bit with my pronouns and stuff

I will probably still make that idea i had a post but not today.

It is now 7:05 pm on the 01/07/2024 and I started writing this sometime yesterday but then I had to maintain my healthy sleep schedule and I dont remember when I started but I stop at like 11pm yesterday if that helps and today I started writing the part after the keep reading at 6:20 pm

The end for real this time