#or the fact that there are ppl who just want to be unattached in that way but deeply enjoy familial and strictly platonic relationships

[variousxcruelties]

Have you considered that some asexual people take comfort in the thought that even someone who is asexual can still be in a happy relationship? Even if you're aroace, that shouldn't mean you're doomed to be alone. QP relationships exist. It's not harming anyone, so why shame people for it?

Wasn't even going to dignify this with a response but the last line really got me heated so here we go.

I'm tired of pretending that rabid shippers and entitled fandom culture, especially here on tumblr, aren't harmful. It's all extraordinarily harmful. It’s lowkey disrespectful to Brennan and the players, specifically Murph and Lou re: FabRiz, who spend countless hours on whack schedules not only filming in order to give us this fucking awesome story but also spend countless hours off camera planning and working with sensitivity consultants to ensure that they are engaging with a great deal of topics in the most ethical way and offering true-to-form representation and respect for their audience but that’s not even all of it.

Have you considered that Riz is a literal teen character that has an entire hypothetical lifetime to figure that out, but is extraordinarily canonically happy with the *platonic* relationships that he has right now and has expressed zero interest in any of the bad kids or NPCs beyond that *platonic* relationship?? To imply that if he doesn't have a defined QP relationship at the least in order to not be "doomed to be alone" is honestly kind of disgusting and reductive?? Like, what a complete devaluation of family, found family, and straight-up platonic relationships?? How do you view QP relationships if you need to use them as a scapegoat for your shipping of a queer character that has expressly stated that they have no interest in romance, sexuality, or relationships beyond the friendships that they currently have? Is QP just the fancy word you use for your need to simulate a dichotomy of a monogamous romantic relationship because purely platonic relationships simply cannot ever suffice in your opinion? Because, I'll tell you, for all of the hypothetically "QP" FabRiz content I've seen, not a single one acknowledges the poly aspect that would be involved given that Fabian is explicitly not aroace and is currently canonically engaged in some kind of romantic/sexual relationship with Aelwyn. So do y'all actually want a complex QP relationship dynamic that benefits both of them or do you just want simulated monogamy in an MLM relationship that you pretend is QP but secretly hope is romantic and/or sexual in nature because you feel that Riz not having that means that he is inherently lonely and sad?

Have you considered that there are also aroace people that take comfort in characters that don't have a want or need for anything beyond their family and close friends, which at this point could also basically be defined as an extensive found family? Have you considered that you don't respect or find value in that so you project onto Riz and/or FabRiz in order to make their relationship more palatable to you?

Maybe it's time to look inward instead of sending anon messages to people that say it is harmful to take aroace identified characters and shove them into ships for your pleasure. Maybe your ships don't exist in a vacuum and you need to figure out why the hell you're pushing this weird rhetoric that aroace people are "doomed to be alone" if they aren't in a defined relationship beyond general familial or platonic engagement <3

Because I absolutely will continue to shame you for it.

[chuck-diaz]

the maldonado-diaz family !

CHUCK DIAZ

writer / burlesque club owner / trophy husband of oscar award winning actor kerry maldonado. chuck publishes his writing, mainly poetry, sometimes poetrusic, under the name of his alter ego nuwanda so most people outside of his inner circle don’t know it’s his. for someone who’d always sought so much attention it’s an odd choice but he likes the freedom it allows him in his work. his burlesque club hedonica was honestly just a purchase made on a whim when he was in one of his boredom spirals, but it’s doing rather well under blake’s management.

BLAKE DIAZ

super introvert, serially unattached. taken in by chuck as a wayward teenager many moons ago, recently legally adopted. that security, knowing he’s really truly part of the family now is slowly bringing him out of his shell and he doesn’t butt heads with the other dps kids so much anymore. hell, he might even go so far as to call them his friends. chuck gave him a job managing at hedonica and he’s never had that much responsibility before but it turns out he’s thriving.

wanted connections: burlesque performers / bartenders etc from the clerb, his favourite uber driver, someone who can get him to lighten the fuck uppppp idk idk

VAUGHN DIAZ

ravenwood lacrosse player / certified himbo. vaughn is an airhead but he’s never felt insecure about that fact because chuck has always taught him that intelligence isn’t a measure of a man, kindness is. so yeah he might not be book smart but he’s heart smart ok!!! he’s supportive and loving and bubbly and fun and all of that makes up for his habit of walking into glass doors.

wanted connections: ppl who appreciate that he is fat of ass and of heart and take one for the team by walking through glass doors first 🙏😌

SOLEIL DIAZ

a princess!!! journalism student. runs a popular rosewood street style instagram so you know your fit is hitting the spot if she stops you and asks for a pic. fully a daddy’s girl, always hanging out with chuck when she can. has been keeping secret journals of poetry since she was a kid, but certainly doesn’t consider it anything worth pursuing like her father. 

wanted connections: ride or die bff who sometimes gets a lil drunken kiss in the dark when they get home from the club 👀 

[somepeoplethinkimadyke]

To conclude 6 Underground was a dodgy movies with some good moments (one of those being Ben Hardy) and a humanitarian theme although it was extremely violent and action packed. The acting was pretty good even if the script writing and plot

However One (ryan Reynolds) is a fucking asshole of a billionaire who could have done so much more than ‘die’ and pretend to do something hands on. He abandoned his son for heavens sake and we’re not even given a reason, just that he’s super smart and thought he couldn’t actually make a difference with his money and that oooh maybe he’s an orphan when in actual fact he’s just an unattached asshole. He could have done so much more with his billions (ending a lot of poverty, climate change, healing the horrors in the US - I could go on) but no instead he went to a made up country in the middle east area and blew some stuff whilst saying lines from movies and thinking he’s funny with a group of ppl he doesn’t want to form attachments to bc he’s an asshole. The other members are lesser assholes bc he finds them and tells them some dodgy shit as if they’re going to be avenging antiheros changing the world and they have not much else to do - he legit kidnaps 4 (ben hardy), he guilt trips 3 into thinking he can be better, 2,5 and 6 were rather unspecific but lets be real it was probably something similar. 

[chelfierambles]

About my personal relationship with attachments

Some reflection and venting of long-held feelings I’m finally getting off my chest.  Disclaimer, this isn’t about starting discussion or discourse. And though some things I’m gonna say have unfortunately involved real ppl in my life, this isn’t about others as it is about myself and my own relationship to this topic.  So yeah, pls don’t comment. And frankly, I don’t even really care if anyone reads this, I just need to write this for myself and say it in defiance to myself for staying silent for so long.

So yeah getting right to it then . . . . .

 This is a topic I’ve been, for a very long time, too fearful to talk about publicly.  In a strange way it feels like a coming-out post... like at this point I’d be more comfortable telling someone I’m trans then talking about how...

I’m a very unattached person.  

And it’s a weird, seemingly ridiculous thing to be ashamed about! And yet it is something I’ve held a deep silent shame over despite it being a very integral part of who I am that I took for granted.  I’ve vented about this occasionally behind closed doors to just my sibling from time to time, thinking it was just something I was uncomfortable with, but UUUUuuuuuuuuh after getting a universal butt-kicking, I now realize those little vents and rants weren’t little.  It was a serious sign that subconsciously, I was unhappy with something going on that I was unable to see at the time.

But what do I mean by unattached?     

By that I mean how much do you want to hold on to something? People, things, ideas and ideals.  Generally, I’m very stubborn with doing things a certain way, but when it no longer suits me, I have little trouble to make a complete 180 overnight.  Like as a kid I’d wear my hair a certain way for years, then one day, I just felt like cutting it and cut it off one day and just showed up with all of it chopped off. Cuz I felt like it.  That kind of attitude. I roll with things.  

And yeah that sounds fine and all, but then it gets sticky when people are involved. Both others, myself, things I’ve perceived about myself, how things are supposed or “should” be, think or feel. What’s the right or wrong way of doing things? I think there’s a tangled mess I got caught up with that made me ignore the kind of person I really am.   I had to end a close friendship I really cared about recently. Things happened. Things I felt wronged by. Things I fucked up (big time). And I look at it now and realize that so much of the issues wasn’t even about what happened but what has been underlying for a long time that I just couldn’t see until the whole mess unearthed everything about myself I never wanted to admit.  

Now I look back at it and I feel like a lot of my frustrations were born from me at a subconscious level already trying to leave a dynamic I wasn’t happy with and felt trapped by.  And it’s that dynamic of attachment that comes in different forms and different names.  

There’s several factors I think were at play.  My own standards I upheld myself to, my subconcious methods of interaction, and messages I internalized from outside and media representation.  For my own standards, I had my own rules to uphold for “How to be a good friend” that I followed by.�� Always do your best, communicate, listen to what troubles the other person and when helping, try helping at the source as opposed to surface level comfort etc. Nothing wrong with this, but ultimately I wasn’t really good at figuring out when my own boundaries were being crossed by giving too much of myself (gotten better but still got a ways to go) or compromising on things I thought were compromiseable but now I realize actually... weren’t.   For interacting with others, I’ve always had a tendency to mirror. What you give me is what I give back.  Also sounds harmless. But once again, I realize by mirroring... I’m not actually behaving as I naturally would. I’m giving what I perceive is wanted on the other end. For someone who has a history of identity issues, this... is not ok to do to myself.   And then lastly, media representation. oh I have a bone to pick with this. I read so much bl so this trope is rampant, but I suppose this occurs in a lot of romance tropes in general. But... SO OFTEN is it portrayed that clingy jealous behavior is perceived as cute, a sign that someone really cares.  And whenever I read that I think about if it were to happen to me, I would nope so fast out of there. I don’t want to be clung on to by anybody.  If someone were to be jealous and possessive over me, I would feel trapped and chained up.  But it’s just happening so often in those narratives that all I see over and over again is someone being clingy and possessive is romantic. HNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn no. no it isn’t for me.   [Short side tangent here, this is not at all dissing these traits.  I’m not criticizing people who have these traits. I’m just saying how it’s not me, and not for me. ]

But ppl have different ways of showing affection. So what happens now when, I got my view of sticking by loyally and being good friend, while mirroring *someone else’s* means of affection, while getting messages over and over again that TO SHOW SOMEONE YOU CARE YOU HAVE TO SHOW HOW ATTACHED YOU ARE.   And being a good friend, having so early on hearing the other person’s fears of abandonment as: listen to friend’s woes, attack at source --> fear of abandonment means don’t do anything that can be perceived as abandonment --> WELP. CUE SWEATING NERVOUSLY AND SHOVE AWAY THAT DETAIL DEEP DOWN I’M NOT VERY ATTACHED TO THINGS IN GENERAL. And yes. People too. The closest people in my life, if life were to separate us, sure I can get lonely and miss people, (and I am very passionate with my feelings) But I go with the situation that’s in front of me. And so long as I know the other party is doing alright, I’m ok going on my merry way. I just want the best for the people around me, even if I’m not involved in it.  Best example of this, in grade school I had my close knit group of 3 other friends.  Like this was my besties group.  Come time for the first big decision of choosing a high school, *I CHOSE* to go to a different school than my other three friends who wanted to stick together.  I went with the school that seemed right for me. Like... that’s me.  I don’t have problems separating even from my closest family and friends.  

But now I just see... because I REALLY did care how the other person felt. because I REALLY did want to be the best person and friend I could possibly be. I wanted to make this person as happy as I could and ultimately that meant... not being true to myself. Because I was so so ashamed to admit that I just... didn’t care about things in the same way.  I was ashamed to not be the same. And during a really bad time, I’ve developed a feeling of responsibility over negative consequences that could happen if I slipped up.  I think that additional fear of what could happen and possibly physical harm or loss happening really solidified the need to hide these aspects of myself and this was the hardest to let go.   But as I’ve been working on myself for a while now, trying to becoming more true to myself,  and the more I do, the less I have been able to handle and go about things the way I used to.  Because thinking about it... it’s just such a fucked up thing TO DO TO MYSELF.  And I’m tired of living that way.  I’m tired of my own shit. Tired of thinking there’s something wrong with me because I don’t feel very attached even to the closest of people. And, true to my non-attached fashion, even my own ideals, I will throw them out overnight if they no longer work for me.  So that’s why, I’m spiting myself. The self that was too scared to say any of this. I’m going to just say it unapologetically. Get it out so I can finally move on.  I might have to relearn a lot of how I go about doing things now but I’m rather hopeful.  Once again proven that the more I do for myself the better it will be for the people around me anyway so I can avoid making the same mistakes again and communicate better (and faster if I actually.. ya know.. know what I want and don’t want).  I don’t want to live for anyone else anymore, I just want to live for myself, and live honestly. Own the fact I’m an un-attached person. Own the fact I roll and flow with whatever life brings. Never compromise on how important my space is to me.  Never compromise my own freedom.  Go back to being who I truly am.   AND HEY ZODIAC PEEPS SHOUTOUT TO FELLOW VENUS IN AQUARIUS! (<-- and that my friends, is the punchline to all this WHY THIS IS KINDA HILARIOUS) So yeah, that’s my spiel.  Get it out so I can let all this go and go back to just having fun again.  

[jongace]

some ppl say that idolisation is dehumanisation and i mean, it can be if you idealise someone to be like, an otherworldly, perfect being, but.. (now onto my main (not unrelated but still a bit different) point) the thing about jd is that he really genuinely feels like a normal guy who happens to like singing and suddenly got wrapped up in being in a bestselling, record-breaking pop group lol. i know it’s probably partly because when you follow a group and their activities for so long you see sides of their more ordinary life, but somehow jd is even more so (to me) than the other members. like he’s just a guy who is passionate about music and wants to sing as a profession, but is like... idk unattached to the ~idol~ side of things; he doesn’t seem to view himself as a celebrity to the same degree as his peers. and like, in his free time he mostly just stays at home and does normal ppl things, he doesn’t engage in celebrity lifestyle or even promote himself (he doesnt even have social media accs lol). (i guess this is one of the things that makes his solo, albeit eagerly awaited, somewhat strange to think about)

this is not a complaint in any way - i like how grounded he is, it somehow makes him seem so, idk, reachable? but ofc he isn’t, which is a lil depressing lol. and i know he really worked hard to become a member and debut (like i’m not trying to make it seem like he just randomly happened to become part of it), but it kinda feels like he just did it to sing and is not that interested in the ‘being famous’ side to it? i’m not saying that any of the others are shallow or anything like that, in fact they are commendable in the way that they are probably more dedicated to being idols than he lmao. the only one similar to him is ks (and possibly ms) but he’s got such a skyrocketing actor career (where he hangs with the big shots) that makes it hard to see him as this totally normal dude imo. anyway i don’t know where i’m going with this but it is one of the reasons to why i like him (and also why it can sometimes hurt lmao)