#or how I handled it

[traumasurvivors]

That persons response was valid, and you didn't need to reblog their ideas about it if you didn't like them... people are entitled to their opinions and views.

They had a point according to how they read your post... even if how they read it/understood it was different than you intended.. You chose to create the drama there.

People are entitled to their own opinions and views, which also means I’m allowed to express by opinion and views. And when it’s on my post, in response to something I said, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with sharing my opinion to a response on it. Responding on my post is a lot different than making their own, and I would have left it if I saw it on their own post. But responses show up in my activity feed since they’re the only activity I have turned on, and I am not obligated to ignore them.

Their response came off very dismissive on a post meant for survivors. And their explanation in my ask box didn’t really help either. I do agree that people can create problems sometimes that aren’t there by their interpretation of the facts. I run an entire blog that talks about dealing with irrational thoughts and how to check the facts and all that. It just isn’t something I talk about on this blog because this blog is about validation. And my belief is that feelings are always valid. It’s how we react to those feelings that matters.

I will also say, my response might have been a more gentle explanation of what my post intended if they’d asked, or just said “I feel like…” instead of wording it like a concrete fact which came off as condescending. If they didn’t mean it to be that way, then I do apologize for that. I’ve often been accused of missing people’s tone and taking things in good faith too much and I really struggle with it. I’m told that often people are taking my posts in bad faith on purpose, and I’m trying to be more aware of that. It’s so hard to tell.

I feel like I can’t win on here, because I get hate for being a “push over” and taking things in good faith too much, but I also get hate when I try and actually solidly back my beliefs and don’t soften my explanation, and don’t take something in good faith. I’m always open to reconsidering things, but in this case, I stand by what I said. And I feel like I get hate no matter what I do, so I’m just going to do what feels right to me personally.

They did ask me to delete my responses, so I’ve done that because they said they were getting terrible asks about it and I never want that. Me defending my post doesn’t mean I want someone to be attacked in their ask box. My point of mentioning this is that it’s done. We’ve moved on. And I won’t be answering asks about it anymore.

[rennerei]

...😎😎🌟

[stemmmm]

bad youtube clickbait thumbnail that reads "I think I just had a therapy session with a DEMON???"

[teaboot]

I totally forgot till just now but one time a new therapist handed me a pad of paper and said "draw me a picture of how you feel" and after spending like five whole minutes of dead silence scribbling a teeny tiny pitch black dot in the middle of the pad that dug a hole straight through like 15 pages I gave it back to see him staring back at me like

[mumblingsage]

I'm wondering if, as a society who cares about vulnerable people, we could stop saying "traumatize" when we truly mean "upset"?

I am sick of hearing sad books or movies "traumatize" their readers. I simply do not believe that happens. A traumatic experience might be adjacent to books (I have vivid memories of books I was reading around certain experiences and even how the contents of those books affected my processing of the experiences). But it's not caused by the book. And, y'know. The weather is Christofascist Censorship Attempts outside.

Meanwhile from the other side I continue to be surprised at just how badly people fail to understand trauma and traumatic experiences in general. Watering down the term isn't helping. Find other hyperbole to express that The Bridge to Terebithia gutted you, chewed on your heartstrings, and made you cry your first pair of contact lenses right out of your preteen eyes.

(ETA here although it's impossible to edit reblogs: over the months since this post really took off, there has been valuable discussion in the comments. I stand by the passion with which I wrote this post and with the general message, but not all the exact wording. I talk more about the way I'd re-write this post in a response here, replying to an addition that added a ton of useful context [other additions touched on similar themes, but that person had it all together in one reblog]. With that said, I am muting this post.)

[wishfulsketching]

This is what the dynamic was like

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Must be a Sugondese joke.

[rameiixo]

another animation exercise, with okarun !

[rui-drawsbox]

my favorite scene by far. malleus ugly crying silver shocked cuz he never saw him like that lilia just lying there😭 bruv i love them so much

[middle-earth-mythopoeia]

Uh, guys? Don't confuse your crappy televised fanfic for the story that Tolkien actually wrote.

Galadriel was never "under Sauron's thrall." That's something ROP made up. In Unfinished Tales, she was the only one in Eregion who suspected that Annatar was lying about being an emissary of the Valar. Celebrimbor was deceived by him. She was not. She was certainly not "under his thrall." No, not even because she had Nenya.

Yes, when Frodo offered her the One Ring, she was tempted. It could have given her the power to prevent the fading of Lothlórien. But when she makes this speech in the book, and in the Peter Jackson movies, it's her own thought, she's not repeating something that Sauron said to her once:

“You will give me the Ring freely! In place of the Dark Lord you will set up a Queen. And I shall not be dark, but beautiful and terrible as the Morning and the Night! Fair as the Sea and the Sun and the Snow upon the Mountain! Dreadful as the Storm and the Lightning! Stronger than the foundations of the earth. All shall love me and despair!”

These are Galadriel's words. Her words. Not Sauron's. And she was tempted by the One Ring because she could have been a more powerful queen, not Sauron's queen. Like, you guys really took one of the most powerful and complex female characters in Tolkien's works and you made her story all about a man and his power over her and his manipulation of her. Fuck off.

And stop tagging ROP as Lord of the Rings.

[casscainmainly]

Duke insulting Jason Todd for no reason oh Duke nation we are so back

[red-velvet-void]

Being an artist is awesome bc you can project your period cramps onto your fave

[galaxylover06]

Sonic Christmas Carol AU but actually it's not because it's based off the MLP episode I was obsessed with as a child

[chloesimaginationthings]

Michael can survive (almost) anything in FNAF

[batsyheere]

"So, handling your archnemesis," Danny starts. The room falls quiet, heads slowly turning to look at the man as he writes the words on the chalkboard. When finished, the characters somehow both messy and neat at once, Danny places the chalk back down and claps his hands.

"I typically call them fruitloops. Often they're in a better position than you are- older, richer, more powerful. They may have some sort of status that protects them when facing the public."

Tim wondered where Dick was right now, and if he was laughing. His brain was lagging like a computer as he tried to process what Danny was saying, and how seriously a few of his fellow teen vigilantes were taking this.

"Some of their more common tactics are-" the chalk was picked back up, and Danny writes as he speaks.

"Manipulation, isolation, conditioning, and empathy."

MICE.

Tim stares at the board, and quietly slips put his phone.

-What have I done to deserve this.

Enjoy your lessons Tim-

His head thumps against the desk. Conner leans over, gives him a pat on the shoulder but returns to taking notes as Danny goes on to explain the conditioning tactic.

[chamoemileclown]

attacking you with a brewing stand jump so you're forced to feel better