#one of the worst parts in both games

[calkestis]

i entered phon’qi caverns with 11 stims, this is how i finish it 🙃

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Let the revenge games begin.

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[bonefall]

the worst parent poll made me realize just how many ppl in the fandom are willing to jump straight into abuse apologia. bc on one hand you have ppl dumbing down crow's abuse to "him just being mean" and on the other end you have ppl saying that curlfeather didnt abuse frostpaw because she sacrificed herself and frost + her siblings love her so she couldnt possibly be an abuser. truly mindboggling stuff take these serious topics away from the fandom asap.

Part of me feels like it's because many in this fandom have a feeling that if a character's actions are abusive, it means you're "not allowed" to like them. Like there's an impulse where if you liked a character, it MUST mean they weren't THAT bad, because you'd personally never like "an abuser."

As if it reflects poorly on your own morality, as a person, that you connected with An Abuser. Understood them, even. Even if it was just a character.

If it's immoral to Like Abusive Characters, of course your reaction is going to end up being abuse apologia. To enjoy something isn't logical, it's emotional, so you will get defensive about it when questioned. When you do, it's not going to be based on logic because you didn't reason yourself into that position in the first place. It's an attack on you as a person.

I feel like that's often the root of abuse apologia in this fandom, and sometimes the world at large; "If I admit that this character/person IS abusive, it means I was doing something bad by liking them, so I have to prove to everyone else that they weren't or it means I'm bad too."

And to that I say... That's a BAD impulse! Grow up and admit you resonated with a character that did a bad thing! If that's an uncomfortable thought, sit with it!

Sometimes abusers are likeable! They usually DO think they're justified in their actions, or doing it for "a good reason," or were just too preoccupied to care. MOST of the time, people who commit abusive actions are also hurt or traumatized in some way. You might even empathize with them. None of this means their actions have to be excused or downplayed.

"Abusers" aren't a type of goddamn yokai, they're people just like you and me. You don't help victims of abuse by putting the people who hurt us in an "untouchable" category.

In fact, all it does is make you less likely to recognize your own controlling behavior. You're capable of abuse. People you love are capable of it, too. People who love YOU can still hurt you.

In spite of how often people regurgitate "It's Ok To Like A Character As Long As You're Critical Of Their Actions," every day it is proven to me further and further that no one who says it actually understands what that means.

All that said; I think it's no contest which one's a worse parent, imo.

They both mistreated their children, but Curlfeather did it through manipulation without verbal or physical abuse. She politically groomed her into a position of power so that she could use her as a pawn. It can be argued if this counts as child abuse-- but it's firmly still under the broad category childhood maltreatment, which is damaging.

(though anon I'm with you 100% at seeing RED when "but she sacrificed herself" is used as an excuse. Curlfeather's death does NOT CHANGE what she did to Frostpaw in life. I think it's a valid point to bring up when comparing her to another terrible parent for judgement purposes, such as in the context of this poll, but I really hate the implication that redemption deaths "make up" for maltreatment.)

Crowfeather, meanwhile, is textually responsible for putting Breezepaw through verbal AND physical abuse, as well as child neglect. His motivations include embarrassment from a hurt ego, revenge on his ex, and being sad because of a dead girlfriend. This abuse drives Breezepelt towards radicalization in the Dark Forest.

You could argue Curlfeather is a worse person for Reedwhisker's murder, but as a parent? It's not even a question to me. Crowfeather's one of the worst dads in WC.

[skeletalheartattack]

sure man

[scoliosisgoblin]

doodles and some lore. I'm tired.

[cockinator3000]

i just watched the rest of the ad....IT'S A FIGHTING GAME??? LIKE THE MASH BUTTONS TO WIN THE FIGHT GAME??

[nightmareonpeachstreet]

Auto-combat games with 15 different microquests that repeat over and over again for the rest of time making the game a never ending tutorial my beloathed

[finalexpenses]

i just dont think watching everything that happens in the chapter and then her being fine with whatever you choose to do and offering no fight and no resistance and not even saying that she knows she should be upset with you is worth it

[gilfrespecter]

Listening to coinstar by the growlers and thinking about mel so hard I get nauseous

Ridiculous stream of conscious in the tags apologies but not really

[feenmies]

i constantly say "i wrote dbh" to jokingly justify my headcanons if they don't totally match up with canon but i take it back almost immediately in my head because i actually don't want to be david cage in any timeline ever. that guy needs to put the pen and paper DOWN

[transmasc-rose]

I was talking to Curtis about how certain aspects of Doctor Who would be treated if they were episodes of Torchwood and/or had that rating leniency of Torchwood (imo the limitations of Doctor Who make for better TV than Torchwood in general, but not always) and when I brought up Amy's Choice, Curtis said I should do an episode rewrite and.

Hm. Hmmm. That could be really interesting. Amy and Rory and the Doctor's dynamic would be so... different in a Torchwood rated show, given the things they do with them in Doctor Who, and if they actually used the Dream Lord as an interesting villain (and they'd actually be able to play into the Doctor's worst traits in an adult show! For better and for worse!)...

However I'd have to actually rewatch Amy's Choice, and also decide how much I want to stay faithful to the episode, how much I want to stay faithful to "what would/could Torchwood have done here, and how much I actually want the result to be. Good.

Because "what Torchwood would do" and "what would be interesting" are not necessarily the same things.

(Accidentally wrote a Novel in the tags also. Whoops.)

[corvigae]

Me when I started BG3: I don't think I'll ever play a Dark Urge run.

Me after starting my Durge run: I'll never play in Honor Mode.

Me after starting my Honor Mode run: I'll never be able to handle an evil run! Also I'm starting to get a bit burnt out on the game, so even If I play again, it probably won't be for a while.

Me now that Patch 7 is on the horizon: ...*sighs and starts making plans for an evil Durge run*

[averys-happy-space]

oh im going to kill myself

[mod2amaryllis]

so, and i know this will spoil for most newbies so u can private, is the fact that the ending will be loved or hated cause joel keeps them from using ellie's brain? (i had that spoiled ages ago, i just still havent played yet lol) I just can't remember if that's the END end or just some part of it i saw

answering publicly with a spoiler tag cuz i don't really mind spoiling a game from ten years ago: yes I'm referring to joel preventing the fireflies from making a vaccine from ellie's brain and killing most of them in the process.

this ending has always been so great to me because it's just like. the absolute worst thing he could've done. on every level. not only because he prevented a vaccine that could literally save the world AND killed the only people who knew how to make it, but because ellie didn't get any input at all. we know she would've agreed to it. joel does too, that's why when she wakes up, he lies about what happened. IT'S SO BAD, IT'S SO SELFISH.

and!!! it's the only ending that makes sense for his character. it's such utter tragedy disguising itself behind the fact that they both live and make better lives together. it's not a happy or sad ending but a secret fucked up third thing.

[dimiclaudeblaigan]

One of the biggest reasons I try to recruit all the characters in Three Houses isn’t just because I don’t want to kill them, but because if I do, I still have to go back to the monastery afterward. I still have to pass by their dorm rooms full of their belongings and know that’s where they spent their alone time and where they slept. I still have to pass by the spots they frequented the most. It’s not just the sad dialogue of characters reacting to the deaths, but passing by the spots I vividly remembered them hanging out at.

I realized this most in my first playthrough when I didn’t have the chance to recruit everyone and I accidently killed Raphael at Gronder. I didn’t have the enemy attack range turned on so I didn’t realize he was in range of attacking.

During an exploration, I was looking for Ignatz who was, unfortunately, in his dorm room... and I walked into the wrong room and into Raphael’s after he was killed and man that fuckin’ sucked! Feels bad but like, multiplied with big numbers, u kno??? ???

YES, IT’S A VIDEO GAME. YES, I HAVE HUMAN BEING FEELINGS ABOUT IT.

[zenathezee]

Usually I like my coworkers but what I do hate is when I use proper messaging etiquette and say "I have a question about this situation, here's the context, the details, where I'm confused, and what I think the answer may be" all in the original message AND THEN THEY ASK ME FOLLOW UP QUESTIONS THAT ARE ANSWERED BY THE ORIGINAL MESSAGE

Me: [thorough, all-encompassing message about the issue]

Coworker: "What's the issue?"

Me: [repeats that part of the message] "So the answer is abc?"

Coworker: "Why is this a problem?"

Me: [repeats the context part of the message] "Does abc not apply in this situation?"

Coworker: "What about xyz?"

Me: "Xyz is unrelated, this is about abc. Do I apply abc the way I would xyz?"

Coworker: "Xyz applies."

Me: [repeats the part of the message that rules out xyz] "So why would xyz apply when this is about abc?"

Coworker: [five more barely related questions that]

Me: [has literally no further information because I put everything I know in the original message so I'm paraphrasing as many ways as possible while continuingly asking for an answer because I can't do my job until I get it] "So the answer isn't abc?"

Coworker: "Oh. Yes. Abc is the right answer, do that."

WHYYYYYYYYYYYY