#on the hypersexualisation of girls

[gossip-girl-of-middleearth]

Had a big glow-up recently over the last two months since my roadtrip. I switched to working outdoors so now have a golden glowing tan all over, my hair is grown out now and is lighter from the sun, my skin has cleared up, I wear girlier clothes and omg the difference pretty privilege makes

Suddenly I’m getting catcalled in the street again, everyone is staring at me in the malls when I wear a dress/heels, I’m getting heaps of attention at work/popularity (I got a promotion and get a ridiculous amount of tips from customers now), girls think I’m a threat if they have a boyfriend etc etc

Like honestly I’m feeling this gif viscerally and although am actually loving the attention for once, I miss being perceived as a non-threatening goofball tomboy sometimes

[vettelcore]

how it feels like listening to olivia rodrigo in your mid 20s

[thebirdandhersong]

rlly appreciate that the casting for OUAT is like. normal people! with wrinkles and freckles and moles and crow's feet

[robotpussy]

"I wonder why it only took a few months of weirdos before you guys made an article but TO THIS VERY DAY actresses are still sexualized non stop, even sometimes underage actresses. People post about them wanting them to be 18 and the day after their birthday they'll get a weird nsfw Reddit dedicated to creeping on them. But yeah, sure, this is the REAL problem."

#its still gross to sexualize celebs #but tbh we need to address the sexualization of feminine bodies #in like every piece of media we have #and stop oggling celebs like they arent real people #im just annoyed that when it happebs to women it seems like it doesnt even matter #like no one even cares #both are fucked up but on has been around suvstancially longer than the other #and i feel like its being allowed?? #like no this should not be allowed

like they said this in their response but when I go to look up Sydney sweeny the FIRST article that comes up is one discussing how sam Levinson disgustingly sexualises and harms the actresses in his work and I know this isn't the best example to use AT ALL but I wonder why they came out and proclaimed nobody is talking about how the same thing and even worse happens to actresses and famous women and girls when for years I have been reading articles about this kind of thing.

(written 3 days ago)

and the initial article isnt the best, by claiming to end misogyny is for women to do to men what they do to women but they didn't even bring that up, just "how come this article exists?" as if people are not currently talking abt this happening to women right now. a circulating tumblr post is not the entire landscape of the internet! and all I said in my response was 'this article existing isn't really taking away from anything.... like at the end of the day sexual harassment is wrong regardless of who it is happening to

(og post)

[yellowistheraddest]

the world is a wonderful place: you think there can't be more genshin impact rip-offs and yet they appear everyday

[sickly-sapphic]

"heartstopper doesnt need to have sex bc theres sex in every show!!!" Name five shows/movies where queer teens have a safe and enjoyable sex life where theres no cheating, dying, rape, etc. and they actually talk to each other.

[travellingwiththedead]

The reason why it squicks me out so much when people hypersexualise canon ace characters is that it's exactly what happens to real life ace people.

Yasmin Benoit leads London pride as an ace woman and all I see is people going "I think you're sexy so you can't be ace" because she didn't dress like a nun. It just pisses me off so much. If men say "oh, girl, I think you're hot, you can't be a lesbian" people would be shouting them down but it's apparently ok to do the same to ace people -.-

Anyway, rock on Yasmin Benoit, you're fabulous. Keep making people mad.

[everythingwasnormalhere]

Listen up, what if...

Transmasc Kenny, who is dysphoric about his voice so he makes it muffled on purpose

Transmasc Kenny, who wears his parka to make his body less curvy and femenine

Transmasc Kenny, who cut his own hair when he was 4 and (expectedly) made a huge mess, so he started wearing his hood up to avoid anyone seeing it

Transmasc Kenny, who's been going by his name since he was a little kid, mostly as a nickname until people wouldn't know his legal name

Transmasc Kenny, who purposefully picked home ec because he thought he'd be forced there like Wendy was (and also because he liked it and didn't wanna get killed at shop class but yk)

Transmasc Kenny, who the teachers didn't see as a girl at all to the point they didn't even look at his legal papers and directly put him in shop class

Transmasc Kenny, who was upset by this but also so reassured because it meant he passed so well

Transmasc Kenny, whose friends have no idea he's trans, not because he hides it but because they didn't ask

Transmasc Kenny, who still enjoys dressing as Princess Kenny just because it's fun

Transmasc Kenny, who does and says all that hypersexualised straight stuff because nobody would think a girl would say that

Transmasc Kenny, who uses Mysterion as an excuse to practice making his voice lower

Transmasc Kenny :)

[metamatar]

ngl whenever i look at one of the franka arms right next to a ur cobot it looks positively pornographic tbh. what are all those curves for even. nobody runs these arms in a setting where air resistance is significant. the robot on the left is like a hypersexualised anime girl to me.

[sadly-never-after]

I don’t have any real preferred endgame ships for Daring. I like Darabella more than the average tumblr EAH account and I love Dizzie but in a very different way than most shippers, I think.

Whenever I’m in my comfort place (my post canon extension based on Athena-xox’s amazing timeline (all time fave post. Truly an amazing accomplishment)) I like imagining that Daring will consciously decide to stay single and NOT mingle for a while, until he has come to terms with certain things. And I like imagining that Rosabella will be there for him, but rather as a friend with some unacted romantic chemistry. I want to believe that everything that happened since Legacy Day, culminating in his abrupt change of imagined destiny will trigger a more pensive side of him. And here’s when Lizzie comes. I want him to slowly become aware of how much he hurt her, even when it was never his intention.

I know this is a franchise made to sell dolls at tweens so it’s weird to get this dark about it, but let’s do this for the sake of my fantasies.

I feel like Daring has been hypersexualised and objectified through most of his life. His place as the most Charming of all the Charmings has turned him into a figure of lust and of status even before he was really aware of what those words meant.

The hypersexualisation can be seen through the recurrent jokes about girls fawning over him, following him, his dashing smile, and I honestly feel like Sparrow’s dare that lead to the entire thing with Lizzies was also based on that etc., etc., etc.,

When it comes to the objectification I think Duchess obsession with him is a good example. In NTV it becomes clear that she is not truly in love with him and when he scorns her she even daydreams about being the one able to reject him. Daring is not much of a real person to her. He is a symbol. He is the best of princes who saves his Princess and gets the two to live happily ever after. Everything that Duchess longs for and is denied.

To a lesser extent I also think that Ravens reaction to him (apparently) writing her a love poem could also be an example of this. Even if she has never been interested in Daring and has actually described her type as his opposite she still takes this as an accomplishment of some way.

Just to clarify: by no means do I blame neither Duchess nor Raven for this. They aren’t really at fault. This is more of a societal issue.

So, as he now realises all this things about his life, I want him to remember Lizzie. In my Sparchess heart the two are talking and Sparrow asks him about that one date Daring & Duchess had and after that a rush of unprocessed memories come at Daring and he can’t stop thinking about what he did to Lizzie for at least a week.

I want him to stay up away at night and cringe at himself wondering if an actual apology would be welcomed or not. It would make him feel better, sure, but is it Lizzie or his guilt conscience whom he wants to console? I want him to remember things about Lizzie that he otherwise didn’t think of very often. I want him to suddenly tell all of this to Rosabella only for her to feel disappointed and conflicted. I want Lizzie to catch him looking at her during lunch with a strangely contemplative expression and to turn away in apparent apathy only for her to be weirdly sad for the rest of the day and remember how isolated and betrayed she felt not only by Daring but also by Duchess.

[votive-candle]

So I've been considering a rebrand on this blog for a long time for "professional" reasons... like changing my username, making an official portfolio with my name to it elsewhere, etc.

This idea has been mostly motivated by this deep insecurity I have surrounding what I would say is either NSFW work, suggestive art, "fangirl" energy, all that. And it's... frustrating, to say the least. And difficult express in a way that's coherent. Because my personal feelings are that art, even art that within the sphere of industry that I want to approach (ie. game art & story design, character writing and so on), should not have to be confined within this box of "sensibilities" that I'm told it should be.

If I was doing fine art like painting, or making installations, or sculpture, I get a sense that this puritanical ideology of self-censorship would not be expected of me. I also get a sense that if I was born male and lived as a man, there would be different industry expectations of me also. If I was a cis dude I don't think a game director would mind if I had a portfolio full to the brim with borderline naked, hypersexualised women and girls with big swords and huge racks (no shade, big boobs and big swords are fun and cool). But -- and again I don't have evidence of this, it's just a hunch -- I somehow get this idea that the way I approach drawing masculine figures? The way I write and express myself through, and speak about characters? The sexually explicit artwork I've drawn over the years, which majoritively does not even show genitalia? I get this gut feeling that this would be much less... palatable (?) in the industry for commercial, media focused art.

I've been drawing sexual content since I was a teen fangirl and I think it's really strange that somehow, as I get older and more mature (and I'm serious here, like really, let that sink in? I was told directly "you're not a kid anymore, potential employers won't like this" in response to shipping art an old tutor saw me post online a few years back?), it's considered in many ways less appropriate for me to produce explicit or sexually themed artwork. Particularly when that art has that air of "fangirl" (or "fan-person" in regards to myself) around it. Because "fangirls" aren't professional, are they? They're vapid, of course. They don't consume art meaningfully, not like strong, stoic men do. No, they just want their shipping and their coffeeshop AU's and their moodboards, and there's nothing creative in that, is there? No "professional practice" there.

I just find that... baffling

I'm speaking from the perspective of someone who is borderline asexual on that spectrum, and always has been. Somehow, professionalism is partly hinged on making your art less exploratory of adult themes, once you become an adult, once you're old enough to understand and properly illustrate the importance of adult themes. Isn't that strange to anyone else? Because to me it feels wrong.

Like I said, I'm borderline asexual. I don't draw sexual content to get my rocks off. I draw it because I find physical intimacy to be one of the most multifascited expressions of humanity between people. Sex and sexuality are so dynamic in their capacity for storytelling. With it (and safely so through fiction, if you're careful about it), you can express and explore so much; passion obviously, love, but also sadness and grief and condolence, malice and rage, heartbreak, self-destruction, self-improvement, excitement, fun, even just friendship.

Sex is beautifully dynamic from a humanistic standpoint. It shouldn't need to be considered this looming force of demonitisation, or an industry blockade. And I understand I have drawings that are too graphic, too NSFW to put in a professional portfolio, to leave online for employers to see. But I'm not even talking about smut here.

Majoritively, I really don't want to distance myself from a lot of this work I've created. It means something to me dude, because these characters and stories mean something to me. Sometimes the drawing itself is just... a technically well executed drawing. I don't want to revoke that because there's an implication of "ooh, someone's touching ass, breast and dick in there!"

Yet by expressing my excitement over that, I do feel cornered. Like I'll never get hired anywhere. Which isn't easy given the struggles I already have with disability, mental health, etc. So I feel a need to sort of give in and retcon a lot of my posts.

I don't like that finding work in the fields I'm interested in kind of hinges on a lack of self-expression, I suppose. I find it bitterly ironic since I want to work in creative fields. It feels like a betrayal of the self and of the purpose of art and good media for grown individuals.

But hey, I guess that's capitalism, baby.

This blog might change a bit in the near or semi-near future. Maybe a new username or profile pic, I'm not sure yet. Maybe a second blog will pop up somewhere. I just wanted to vent a bit on my disdain in having to make these decisions. Beg your pardon.

[uramitashi]

like 95% of all dating coaches ever just straight up gaslight straight women for a job. "if your boyfriend does this is because you are in your masculine energy and are not letting him lead you the way YOU WANT to. your soul is getting warped by inner child demons who won't let you focus on your wellbeing and your physical body shows that by not being as thin and hot as it should. your poor poor boyfriend is not able to approach your heart if it is surrounded by such negative vibes. he himself has been unable to cope with his trauma and hypersexualises himself as an avoidant coping mechanism..." girl your bf acts badly because he hates you with the force of a thousand suns. he doesnt care if you live or die. dont listen to rebranded misogyny

[drinkurkombucha]

Photographic representation of me after watching Matty wear the face off that male fan far more times than is appropriate and/or healthy x.

at their very best, phoenix

[gynoids-over-androids]

If you're a teenage girl who spends lots of time online (tiktok) you basically have three choices:

1)Hypersexualisation

2)Religious (islam, divine feminine bs, etc) and/or tradwife

3)Transition

All three are grooming. Your female body is either a public property, a private one or not a female body at all.

[gayferrari]

except you ravish me directors cut 🥺? specifically the depressed nonchalant seb parts, but really the whole thing

here's the director's cut for the whole fic. // link to fic

THANK YOU FOR THE QUESTION!!! I'm happy I get to talk about the worldbuilding Seb of it all specifically. DEPRESSED NONCHALANT SEB!! That's such a good wait to put it. He's living his best (worst?) emotionally deadened bored-housewife-high-on-Xanas kinda life about 80% of the time. I had a blast getting to flesh out that #vibe even though he was only in like a third of the fic.

More thoughts under the cut

This fic is porn. It takes place in a porny universe. the worldbuilding and backstories are just there as window dressing. Seb's whole existence gave me an excuse to flesh out more the worldbuilding and it was FUN

if I was taking the porn to a more worldbuilding-ish place, it follows that the kind of dystopic universe where a racing dream puts their star employees through sexual torments is standard practice is probably not a great universe for omega Seb, either. He's Going Through the Horrors (unsettlingly horny) (soundtracked by Lana Del Rey).

As I said here, Seb is kind of a cautionary tale of what Charles’s future in this AU might potentially look like, which Charles is very deliberately ignoring. Seb is very very aware of it, and it makes him act weird around Charles. He's kind of half-mentor half that upperclassman who was hazed as a youngster and now is paying it forward by hazing you.

“You, also? With the belt and the rules and…” Charles thinks he may be staring. Seb has been at Ferrari since... “Four years?” he says, maybe a little incredulous. “This is...” Seb shrugs. “It felt worth it at the time.”

Seb's backstory is soooo rancid in this. He's the whumpiest whump who every whumped. Thinking about late 00s / early 2010s F1 vibes... u know they probably had Grid Omegas instead of Grid Girls. Hypersexualisation as liberation 2010s vibes. Early career Seb would have been like, Oh yes I can totally play them all beat them at their own game, let myself be so objectified but it's #empowering and I'm getting orgasms out of it. And then he doesn't know why he's crying at 3 in the morning.

He definitely fucked Michael the whole time he was winning and the Mercedes was a tractor; he definitely fucked team management because he thought / it was made it clear to him it was something he had to do to secure his position.

He did NOT fuck Mark Webber, who's a beta in this AU and married to his milfy older manager and looked down on the whole situation but Seb especially because it was 2010 before people realising victim blaming is bad. Seb hated him on principle because once or twice Mark was like, weirdly nice in weird moments when Seb was like 20.

So like. It probably took Seb a few years of winning before he realise he did not have to sleep with people if he didn't want to. At some point the Ferrari chastity deal almost sounded good. Trading sexual objectification for more lowkey sexual objectification.

“It’s not like that. I just, I don’t get heats.” Charles stares. “At all?” His thoughts slam to a halt. “You don’t get heats, and they still make you wear it?” Seb’s face remains very neutral. “Can’t get knocked up but I can still get knotted. That’s just as bad to some.”

I just really liked this bit... it's evil :) He can't get heats bc Red Bull's method of dealing with omega drivers probably included a shot that was half-jager half birth control. And it doesn't matter to Ferrari they're gonna fuck with his body anyway. Rest assured when Seb goes on to Aston it doesn't get better either but it probably still gets weirdy sexual in some way.

After the podium, bubbles still soaking his hair, he’s shuffling through the media pen when he hears somebody from Sky Italy ask Seb if he felt threatened seeing Charles on pole. Seb laughs like it’s the funniest thing anyone has ever said, and then his eyes catch Charles walking past.

He did not feel threatened. Yet. The moment Charles starts outscoring him, the sex gets soooo mean. There's only so much fisting a girl can write in a public library but believe me. There was a lot of it.

I don't actually have much else to say except MULTIPLE people have asked me. Is AU Seb also a freak. Does he feel the lack of the chastity belt once it's out. Can he have sex in a normal way or has he pavloved himself into weird sex rituals.

My answer is: after leaving Ferrari / retiring from F1 Seb does have lots of sex in a normal way and it's enjoyable. But he has definitely pavloved himself. He's 32 and single and lonely and things with Charles are irrimediably ruined. He probably starts up a thing with Mick just to feel something

I actually feel like this is a 'verse in which later-in-life Mark/Seb has a very good chance of happening and be actually really good for the both of them. IDK if it lasts! But they definitely hook up post Seb retirement.

THANK YOU AGAIN FOR PLAYING I had so much fun writing this!! ILy <3

[can-of-w0rmz]

Have you tried watching Dracula adaptations which you actually enjoy? Majority of them are nothing like Coppola movie actually 🤷🏼‍♀️

Tbh I haven’t seen many that haven’t pulled the same “oooh vampire romance between Dracula and Mina/Lucy”/“let’s hypersexualise the entire female cast for NO reason!” cards as Coppola tbh, but if anyone knows any good ones I’d be happy to devour them

Someone has to have done my girls justice bc this is just horrendous fr