#nonbinary people are real and valid

[kqrmen1]

im so upset rn

i keep seeing shit about other queer people SUPPORTING LAWS THAT BAN GENDER AFFIRMING CARE and it pisses me off so much.

we wouldnt have ANY QUEER RIGHTS without trans women of colour. yall remember stone wall?? you know, the breaking point that allowed queer rights to even be suggested in the US as human rights???

that was because of trans women of colour.

if you support terfs, block this account. if you believe that children cant understand that being forced to present a certain way makes them unhappy, block this account. if you truly believe that gender affirming care mutilates or destroys kids, BLOCK THIS ACCOUNT.

and for all my mutuals and followers who are not trans, support your trans/nonbinary/intersex friends and family. fight against these laws and bans being put into place. go to protests, email your senator, reblog and post about news involving these bans. do not be silent.

im sick and tired of the LGBTQ community forgetting where we came from.

[inkskinned]

okay is she being actually immature or is it just a woman over 30 expressing a human experience you find to be immature.

like yeah. at certain ages... let shit go. im not defending the real immature shit. im not defending the karen you're picturing. i worked in retail i hate those people too. (once somebody got mad at me because she didn't like how our winter window decor was a snowman smoking a pipe. i wish i was joking).

but men at 57 will write books about how 17 year old girls are soooo sexy. they will invent worlds where women have to be naked for "armor reasons." they will write songs that treat women as objects. people rush to defend them. meanwhile a woman at 35 will be like "heartbreak is hard, actually" or "i feel betrayed by a friend" or "i am struggling with something emotionally." immediately people will say stuff like this woman is 35 by the way. by the way this woman is SO OLD to be experiencing this. BY THE WAY.

im 31, almost 32. the other day a poet was blasted online because at her "big age", she had written a poem about feeling unloved. top comment was "this woman is 29 by the way." this woman is too old to still be useful, by the way. she has to behave better . maybe if she was a good wife and mother she could stop existing loudly, and the story could continue on without her. this woman has served her purpose, by the way. she's so cringe, by the way. at 29 - so old! - she still hasn't figured out that her existence should be one of shame.

[autumnalfallingleaves]

The Hilda homophobes might be trying to resurface with the new season (saw some transphobic comments on a post today) so a reminder that any kind of bigotry is not welcome here! Fuck off!! You're not welcome!!

[frostralia]

Trans people belong! Trans women belong! Trans men belong! Non-binary people belong! Genderfluid people belong. Intersex people belong. Demi people belong! We all belong!

🩷 Frost

[porygonzz]

Happy pride from Neeko!!! They support and love you no matter how you identify ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤍🖤

Art by /sinnerakuma on Kofi

[toonedoutofficial]

🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈🌈Happy pride month, y’all. Have the gang in their colors. 🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

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❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

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And ofc, this is all apart of my AU, so if you disagree, thats okay. :) Some of these may be changed, but only time will tell. Btw, the hearts, whether upside down or not dont really mean anything, other than represent the toons social status.

I just hope all of y’all can have a happy pride month! -AroAce and They/Xe Queer poster

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Yes, yes, there used to be text here, but since my story is beginning to progress, I think I'd rather let y'all figure certain things out yourself!

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[not-gray-politics]

Hey btw I see a lot of well-meaning people use "you can't change your gender" interchangeably with "you can't control your gender" and I wanna say that while you may not mean to, by saying that you are in fact erasing the existence of genderfluid people and it kinda sucks

[thenightvaleradiostation]

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH!!!!

Remember that nonbinary, aromantic, and asexual people belong at Pride, and I am fully prepared to kick your ass if you disagree with me on that.

XOX Admin Aster

[averygayaccountant]

Just a not so friendly reminder that Pride also celebrates non-white cisgendered gay men and everyone who doesn't acknowledge the contributions of BIPOC, or trans members of the lgbtq community can go rot in the hell the Christians love to tell us we're going to. Love and hugs 🥰

[maimndevour]

i cannot imagine how traumatized people are after conversion therapy. just watching 5 minutes of boy erased (an insightful and very deeply unsettling movie that reminds me of a documentary but it’s not)- it’s so triggering. it fills me with a sense of dread and all the god talk and admitting your sins is so mind boggling. whoever has gone through indoctrination and forced detransition and conversion camps and any type of psychological torture-

im so sorry. i’m so sorry this world failed you. i’m sorry that hate got to you before a happy life did. there is nothing wrong with us or you, and even if someone is still convinced being converted was the right thing- i’m so sorry. it wasn’t your fault, you didn’t deserve that. please remember that a loving god would never do this to you. you deserve to live your life

[dumbbutchmutt]

I like don't keep this in my pinned cause this is a nsft blog amd my main is more for stuff like this but I support bi lesbians because honestly as a butch lesbian who uses he/they I understand far too much about what it means to have people assume things about my labels and hate me for it. So if you keep in your beliefs that bi lesbians don't exist you probably shouldn't interact with me lol.

Not mad since I've never said anything, but I've got an increase in blogs that say dni interact if you believe they exist or support them and I definitely do. 🧡

[andyinmiddleearth]

nobody is saying don't use inclusive language. 'breasts' is inclusive. it's not a gendered word, it's a body part.

*le sigh* I never said it’s gendered, because it isn’t. However, it can trigger dysphoria for some people, myself included. The reason for that is, a lot of the time when people use the word breasts they use it to talk about women, and when using chest it’s more gender neutral coded because men (and nonbinary and other gender expansive people) aren’t expected to have breasts because of cissexism. That doesn’t make it gendered, but it does associate them with the gender binary to an extent.

It costs 0 cents to not be an asshole and use the terminology that doesn’t induce dysphoria. If a trans/nonbinary person is fine with calling their chest breasts, that’s totally valid and completely their choice and should be respected, you do you. But that isn’t the case for everyone. You never know whether a trans person is dysphoric or not, or how bad their dysphoria is if they have it. In some cases, it could lead to people having a breakdown or worse. Anon, you’re sounding a whole lot like cis women that whine about being called “people with uteri” and ngl this reeks of TERF.

[uber-gender]

why is "chronosion" or whatever on thin ice? i view it as similar to how system members can have different ages from the body + singlets who are permanently age reg/progressed (or ageless or whatever else). is it the association/branching off of "transage" (and the association of "transage" with pedo/4chan crap or the community it harvested and being buddy-buddy with pedos and all that crap) that makes it uncomfortable? or something else im missing? (i assume its not the experience itself because you guys are 8-10 and 16-ageless but i might be wrong because i have bad theory of mind)

yeah, it's the connection between chronosian and "transage" and how people often use them interchangeably. the creator of chronosian is opposed to "transage" and other "transx/transid" identities, but we still suggest checking the op tags and blog when reblogging chronosian identities because mogai tumblr is infamously bad at research and respect.

additionally, at least to me (rev), the concept of "identifying as a different age than the body" in general is very unsettling when used outside of specific plural settings. the creator of chronosian explains in this post that neurodivergent people may identify as chronosian because of how we mature differently, and while they do provide disclaimers in an attempt to fend off ableists, I believe that the association is still potentially dangerous. the creation of microlabels for different expressions of chronosian identity also seems to me like a trivialization of the material reality of age. as a Claudia, I find it helpful to sometimes identify as an 8-10 year old, since my emotions and personality will never fully mature. however, I also identify as a 26 year old who is fully capable of harming others as an adult and is able to consent to sex with other adults. I think it is important even as a syskid or a regressor to keep a solid grasp on your real physical age, both for the safety and comfort of others and for your own self-concept.

HOWEVER, I do think that the basic terminology of "chronosian" is helpful, and would identify as it. also, ETMK is not as serious as I am about this and does not have any criticism of chronosian other than finding the word itself "sort of dorky". so that's what we mean by "on thin ice".

tl;dr, we are overall ok with chronosian as long as it is divorced from "transage", but one of us has some friendly criticism about it.

[azure-aeon-dragonica]

2 bros, sitting in a hot tub, five feet apart because they're gay

im kind of obsessed with this graphic.

[totallycirclek]

Trying to prove a point to my transphobic parents

Reblog if trans men are REAL, VALID AND HANDSOME MEN, NO MATTER HOW THEY CHOOSE TO PASS

Reblog if trans women are REAL, VALID, AND BEAUTIFUL WOMEN, NO MATTER HOW THEY CHOOSE TO PASS

And finally, because it's a part of my argument for this point, and also because they are,

Reblog if nonbinary and genderqueer people in general, are REAL, VALID, AND GORGEOUS PEOPLE, NO MATTER HOW THEY PASS

[transmisogyny-explained]

I want to submit a perspective on "afab transfemininity" from. an afab multi gender person. I know my experience isn't representative of everyone who calls themselves this, but I wanted to at least share

I don't call myself a trans woman, I hesitate to call myself transfem. nonetheless, I feel connected to femininity in a distinctly transgender way. when I first came out, I hated being a girl. I was a transmedicalist and validated myself by invalidating others. I had to face a lot of internalized misogyny and transphobia in order to really learn what it meant to be a man. after I started testosterone about 3 yrs ago, I realized I was a lesbian, and started feeling more comfortable being, at least in part, a woman. it was different this time because it was something I liked, something new and my own, not something ascribed to me. it's not cisgender in any way, it is transfemininity

this being said, I know my experience toward transfemininity is extremely different from the norm. I am not what most people are referring to when they refer to transfems, and there are many definitions of transfem that do not include me. despite that, I do have some experiences that overlap, things I can relate to. my femininity is at its core transgender in nature. my gender now is more complex... I feel like both a man and a woman, neither and both. but that doesn't mean my feelings about my gender are predatory or invalid. I don't want to talk over transfems, I am very aware of my place in these conversations. but I still have a place, and it frustrates me to see you share posts that minimize my experience into a stereotype

Why do you view transfemininity as being, at its core, the experience of being “both a man and a woman” lmao

Get back to me when you start viewing trans women as actual women and transfemininity as actual femininity, and not an aesthetic or a vibe or “some other third thing” apart from femininity.

You “feel femininity in a distinctly transgender way?” Congrats! You’re nonbinary! But that is NOT what being a trans woman is — Their womanhood and femininity is not essentially different from cis women’s.

What you are describing is a very generic experience of being a feminine nonbinary person, and I don't say that to insult you; but to compare that experience to those of trans women’s betrays the fact that you don't view them as the same gender as cis women. Which is transmisogyny. It’s textbook third-gendering.

Call yourself a nonbinary woman- Call yourself whatever you want, in fact. But trans women and TMA people are never going to feel safe around you so long as you continue insisting that transfemininity is essentially the same as the nonbinary femininity you experience, and essentially different from “real” cis women’s femininity.

Also, can I just say that it’s a little condescending that you would end your ask by saying “I’m aware of my place in these conversations, but…”

Like, if you were really “aware of your place” and were actually listening to transfems when we talk about transfeminism, you would be able to recognize the enormous amount of transmisogyny baked into your message. On top of the third-gendering, you also managed to:

Imply that TMA people don’t understand the complexities of gender and nonbinarity like you, a TME person, do

Imply that TMA people creating the language and spaces to discuss our experiences in a way that excludes you, a TME person, is invalidating and somehow tantamount to labeling you as “predatory” (what does that even mean?)

Sent an unprompted ask to a transfem’s blog venting your frustrations with the language of transfeminism, despite the fact that I’m not even the one who made those posts?

Showed a pretty absurd amount of entitlement by insinuating that it’s somehow my problem that you feel frustration over misunderstanding the basics of transfeminist theory

Subtly demanded that I do the emotional labor of managing your frustration, which, frankly, is just classic misogyny

Displayed a complete lack of understanding towards what transmisogyny even is, nor why we, as the direct targets of transmisogyny, need the the language and spaces to discuss it

I really don’t care what transfem “experiences” you think you relate to, the fact that you perpetuate and can benefit from transmisogyny will always separate you from us, and if you actually gave a shit about us and our struggles, you would recognize that and try to be a better ally to us rather than co-opting and redefining our language in a shallow attempt to define us out of existence.

As has been said countless times now:

“Transfeminine” does not mean “trans + feminine,” it is a term coined by TMA people to describe our specific experiences with being denied our femininity. That is something which you, as a person for whom (as you said) womanhood/femininity was ascribed by the system of patriarchy, cannot understand in the way we do.