#no women under 30

[cyprozombiegirl]

Do you have any tips for making hookups happen? I find it so difficult to find sexual partners and was wondering if you were more experienced

Honestly I don’t think i’m particularly good at it. Being a trans woman means pursuit feels off the table because it is simply too easy for transmisogyny to misconstrue harmless friendly advances as something aggressive, especially as most sapphics in their 20s atm have really fragile senses of comfort and view their own vague discomfort as violence done against them. I cannot in good faith tell any trans girl to openly sexually pursue a hookup. Instead my advice is traffic in openness and sensuality. Make yourself appealing, try to dress in a way that makes you look sexy (not necessarily sexual just sexy), makes jokes about yourself being a sexual person and talk openly about being a slut (without going into too much detail otherwise merely talking could get you transmisogynyed). Basically act like a straight woman in the 70s who wants to get some, cause anything more open than that is a risk for tgirls. Ultimately it’s going to be about being patient, being attentive to the other person’s reciprocity or lack thereof, and slowly upping the stakes and waiting for them to make a mutual gesture of intention. If this sounds like a lot of work it’s because it is. And it’s deeply unfair to us that we have to work this way when ultimately open and direct communication should be the norm. But in a world that views trans women’s bodies as inherently aggressive we need to do what we can to limit harm coming to us. Good allies know all this and make the first move and relieve a lot of the stress, but unfortunately there’s not that many good allies (and often allies let their own fears of being the pursuer get in the way of them doing the pursuing work).

sorry this is such a bleak and unsatisfying answer. but yeah, just uh seem available/approachable.

[survivalove]

okkkk and shes still loveless and alone. sorry! jayce hit that once and dipped ijbol

jayce went and blasted himself after fumbling the only lover he ever had in his less than 30 years of existence, forever subjected to eternity in the void with the eugenicist that manipulated his life across multiple timelines…

while mel ended her abuser, lived to tell the tale and got a massive inheritance in the process, all without even shedding a tear for a man she will likely forget once she returns to her family home in noxus 🤣🤣

i had a lot of fun typing this out so thanks for that but after this you’re blocked 🙏🏿

[jellysharkowo]

Did gods work.

It pains me to see skinny feixiao.

[meaningtotellyou]

harris is still killing it with the swing states so far

[aflawedfashion]

I'm listening the the new Buffy Audible drama and I love that in this AU Cordelia is the slayer and Tara and Anya are her scooby gang

[luciphe-r]

it's not that the office-appropriate women tailleurs are sexy, it's that we've only ever seen them used by movie-women or porn-women and they're therefore inherently seen as sexual... once again i cant wear a mini to work cause i dont want my creepy coworkers poppin a boner while they look at me

[starkidlabs]

Creepy guy liking all my posts on Instagram and commenting “U always look so beautiful” etc. etc. Why is my life like this. I want to die.

[officialclaricestarling]

I can tell that I’m healing from working hellscape tier retail for that long because a 100 gecs song came on Spotify shuffle and it wasn’t as good as I remembered it being, probably bc I wasn’t chugging a java monster in my car at 4 am trying to convince myself that being alive was worthwhile before clocking in

[biromanticwritergal]

So I'm signed up for this online 30's speed dating event for WLW and sapphics right?

Here's the thing: It looks like they aren't even bothering to regulate it at all because I see tons of people who aren't in their 30s and even some men are listed in the people who are signed up for the event.

What's even the point of a specific event for 30 something WLW if just anyone can join it? :/

[buachalla]

women can vent about men in general, because it's agreed that they are talking about specific types of people they have often encountered. to then after that ascribe to as a whole blanket statement and say EVERY man/masculine person is inherently bad helps abosolutely nobody. it empowers the people that are awful because it's expected of them, and it gives no room for those that want to do better to change, because any mistake they make is seen as 'well, told you so'. you can vent frustrations, but you and people reading it need to realise it's that it's not an absolute.

really cannot emphasise enough that "All Men Bad" and "masculinity is inherently violent, dangerous, and evil" are load-bearing pillars of radfeminism and these ideas cannot have a place in any truly progressive queer theorising.

[maaarine]

Why are British teenage girls so unhappy? Here’s the answer (Caitlin Moran, The Times, Sep 13 2024)

"The report, by the Children’s Society, found that British 15-year-old girls are the most unhappy in Europe.

British girls aged 10-15 are “significantly less happy” with their life, appearance, family and school than the average boy — and their happiness is still declining.

Boys’ life satisfaction, meanwhile, remains broadly stable. (…)

But I still didn’t have an “aha!” moment about why this so disproportionately affects girls until… I talked to some teenage girls.

It was at a party, and I went to vape with them on the patio. Because I take my nicotine like children do.

“Duh — it’s the boys,” one said when I brought it up, as all the others agreed.

“The boys?” I asked.

My last book, What About Men?, had been all about how much boys struggle these days: their loneliness; their suicide rates. I’d spent the past year feeling very sympathetic towards boys.

“Yeah, well, who do you think they’re taking out their unhappiness on? It’s us,” another girl said.

“One boy at school used to draw a picture every day of how ugly I was,” a third girl said. “Every day for two years.”

“They’ve all got ‘Rate The Girls’ polls on their WhatsApps,” the first said. “They mark you down for weight gain, haircuts, what you say.”

“But then, if you’re hot, it’s just as bad, in a different way, because they’ll be talking about how they want to f*** you.”

The girls discussed coping techniques. Bad news: none of them worked.

“The only way you can stop them is if you become ‘one of the boys’ and hang out with them. But then,” the second girl said with a sigh, “all the other girls call you a slut. Because you’ve gone over to the boys’ side.”

“Surely it’s not all the boys?” I said. “There must be some nice boys?”

“Oh, yeah,” one girl said. “But they keep their heads down. Because… well, look.”

She showed me the Instagram account of her friend. Under every picture she posted of herself — smiling in a new dress; with her dog — dozens of anonymous accounts had replied with the most rank abuse.

“Fat.” “Slut.” “You gonna try and kill yourself again, for attention?”

“They’re all boys from her school,” she said. “And look, this one boy tried to defend her.”

I saw a series of messages from a brave teenage boy, posting things like, “You’re all big men, leaving these replies under anonymous accounts.”

As I could see, this boy immediately became a target too. Mainly accusations that he was “white knighting” this girl: “You wanna f*** her, bro?”

“So,” I asked, “you don’t think it’s social media pressure to be beautiful, or the economy, that’s making girls so sad?”

“Well, yeah, them too,” the first girl said. “But, Monday-Friday, 9-3, I’m not on social media. I’m not… in the economy. I’m just with these boys. And no one talks about how horrible they are.”

I thought about another recent report, showing a 30 per cent ideological gap between Gen Z men, who are increasingly conservative, and Gen Z women, who are increasingly progressive.

I thought about Andrew Tate, who has nine million mostly young male followers — and faces human trafficking charges, which he denies.

And I thought: maybe these girls are on to something. Maybe more people need to vape with teenage girls and ask them for the school gossip."

[hazbinbabbling4ever]

So I've been trying to understand the takes in this post more, because it's always better to try and understand what the other side is saying before forming an opinion and yadda yadda, and the hot takes I've seen in this post as of now are:

Oh noes alphabet soup bad, labels bad, let's all say faggot or queer instead;

People who dislike slurs aren't allowed to do so because... ?

Super young people with no trauma dictating to older people what they should do.

Well... These are interestingly out of touch takes.

Posting faggot and queer like 2am gunshots to keep property values on my blog low and scare away assimilationist LGBTs who want to replace my empty lot full of native wildflowers with a 5-over-1 because they're too traumatized by their upbringing to accept the reality of our diverse marginalized community

[cathymee]

one thing about us is. #colonialism

[adulthumanproblem]

"No one would let a woman that young make that choice on her own" = HE LITERALLY SEES HER AS A CHILD

And he's arguing for having children. Okay. But then he immediately pivots to just wanting to fuck her.

Creep. Creep creep creep.

Women in their 40s can still have children.

[soon-palestine]

BREAKING: The massacres committed by israel from Tuesday’s dawn till now - 84 Palestinians killed!

14 martyrs, including the sister of the head of the political bureau of Hamas, in the bombing of a house in the Beach camp, west of Gaza City.

12 martyrs, most of them children and women, as a result of the occupation bombing of a school to shelter displaced people in central Gaza City.

More than 30 martyrs, most of them women and children, in 3 massacres committed by the occupation by bombing two homes and a shelter center in different areas of the Gaza Strip.

3 martyrs after the occupation bombed a group of Palestinians on Al Wahda Street in Gaza City.

Gaza Civil Defense: Our crews recovered 13 martyrs as a result of three attacks in Gaza Governorate.

The number of victims of the massacre in the Bani Suhaila roundabout in the center of Khan Yunis rose to 10 martyrs and dozens of wounded.

Two martyrs in an Israeli bombing that targeted a house in the Shujaiya neighborhood, east of Gaza City.

BREAKING: 15 Killed in Al Shati’ camp including 9 from Ismail Hineyah’s Family.

The Haniyeh family members were killed after the bombing of their home in the shati’ camp, west of Gaza, included the sister of the head of the Hamas political bureau Ismail Haniyeh and his wife, their names:

Zahr Abdel Salam Haniyeh (Nahed’s mother)

Nahed Ghazi Haniyeh

His wife, Iman Ahmed Haniyeh

Muhammad Nahed Haniyeh

Ismail Nahed Haniyeh

Moamen Nahed Haniyeh

Zahr Nahed Haniyeh

Shahad Nahed Haniyeh

Amal Nahed Haniyeh A number of them are still under the rubble