#no room for comparison

[harmonyhealinghub]

Don’t Compare Yourself to Others: Shine Like the Sun and Moon in Your Own Time

Shaina Tranquilino

November 23, 2023

It's easy to fall into the trap of measuring our self-worth against others. Whether it's through achievements, appearance, or possessions, we often find ourselves comparing our lives to those around us. However, it's crucial to remember that each of us has a unique journey and purpose. Just like the sun and moon shine in their own time, we too can nurture our individuality and embrace our own path.

1. Embrace your uniqueness: Just as the sun is distinct from the moon, each person possesses qualities that make them special. Comparing yourself to others only diminishes your confidence and hampers personal growth. Instead, focus on recognizing your strengths, talents, and passions that set you apart from everyone else. Embrace your uniqueness wholeheartedly and understand that your individual journey brings its own value.

2. Set realistic goals: While it's natural to feel inspired by other people's achievements, constantly comparing yourself might lead to unrealistic expectations. Remember that success is subjective – what may work for someone else might not be suitable for you. Set your own goals based on your capabilities, interests, and aspirations. By doing so, you'll create a roadmap tailored specifically to your needs, ensuring fulfillment when achieving these milestones.

3. Celebrate small victories: The sun doesn't wait for applause before casting its brilliant light upon the earth every morning; similarly, don't underestimate the power of celebrating even minor accomplishments along your path. Acknowledge every step forward you take towards reaching your goals – no matter how insignificant they may seem at first glance. By appreciating these small victories, you reinforce positive thinking and foster motivation within yourself.

4. Surround yourself with positivity: Comparisons often arise when we surround ourselves with negative influences or toxic environments that breed dissatisfaction. Instead, seek out supportive and uplifting individuals who encourage personal growth. Surrounding yourself with positive energy will help you realize that success is not a limited resource – there is enough for everyone.

5. Cultivate self-compassion: Just as the moon shines brightly during its phase without comparing itself to the sun, it's essential to practice self-compassion. Understand that nobody's journey is perfect, and setbacks are a natural part of life. Be gentle with yourself when faced with challenges or failures and learn from them instead of dwelling on negative comparisons.

In a world where comparison seems inevitable, remember that each of us has our own unique path to walk. By embracing your individuality and focusing on your strengths, you can shine in your own time like the sun and moon. Celebrate small victories along your journey and surround yourself with positivity to foster personal growth. Ultimately, by avoiding comparisons, you'll find fulfillment in being authentically yourself rather than trying to fit into someone else's mould. So let go of comparisons, embrace your uniqueness, and bask in the radiance of your personal journey!

[chloesimaginationthings]

Are you more of FNAF or Jojo? (Ofc you will then say, I can be both-)

Why pick when they are so similar/hj

[privateolives]

This is probably because I grew up watching 24/7 animal planet, but what finally made the allo/aplatonic thing click for me were the nature's of big cats.

Lions are powerful, regal creatures who are uniquely adapted to pack life. They need these connections to live a healthy life; A lonely lion is a miserable creature indeed.

Jaguars are solitary, beautiful creatures who live happily solitary. They prowl their lush world with self-sufficient majesty. A jaguar is not lonely without a pack. In fact, forcing jaguars to share space with others they do not enjoy is just as damaging as forcing a lion to live alone.

A lion may choose to head out on it's own for the most part, but in the end must return to the pack to thrive. A jaguar can choose to trust and enjoy the company of others, but they never feel the need to form a pack.

Is a jaguar selfish for this? A psychopath, a narcissist or any other such horrid assumptions? Is it a less moral creature than a lion, who seeks others like it to thrive?

Is a lion pathetic, or needy, or selfish for wanting community? For requiring contact with others like they require water? For their inherent need to string complicated webs of relationships that may seem silly or dramatic to others?

Of course not. These are ridiculous questions to even ask.

They are simply lions and jaguars.

In fact, is a jaguar that chooses to spend time with you not as magical as a lion's love? For a creature that needs no bond to thrive to still enjoy your presence enough to share it a time? Is a lion who can prowl the night alone not impressive in its strength and resilience? Is it not awe-inspiring in its ability to conquer a life it was never wired for and reign still?

Are they not both beautiful and awe-inspiring in their own ways, without being wrong?

Alloplatonics. Aplatonics. Are we not both special and beautiful in both our bonds and self-confident happiness equal, in each our ways? Is there not unique beauty in lifelong bonded packs and magical encounters that need no perpetuity to carry life forward?

Are we not but lions and jaguars? Neither wrong, neither selfish, but just different and beautiful creatures in each our ways?

That's how I've come to see it, anyway.

[castor-comet]

Somewhere in the Hinterlands-

Dorian for the 100th time: We're in the land of poo. Poo as far as the eye can see. Wait, did I just step in poo? Ew.

Inquisitor: Dorian come on, Fereldan is NOT that bad quit being a drama queen.

Meanwhile in Tevinter-

Inquisitor: Andraste's tits Dorian I'm so sorry, I take it all back. You probably made the biggest sacrifice of us all.

[tweedfrog]

Kicking an even bigger hornets nest than i did with that Viserys post but I think the reason I'm not as angry as other people seem to be with HOTDs adaptational choices and can kind of just enjoy the show (although i have my criticisms) is that after reading and rereading the books i think the adaptation is magnifying underlying weaknesses already present in GRRMs writing.

Like "oh why does the show make Criston Cole half dornish and then cast him as an angry incel conservative". bro. The books have the Arianne Martell nipple chapter. The book with the quote "mens lives have meaning not their deaths" killed off the second most important woman in the country 15 years ago and 80 characters have reflected on how annoying and sickly she was but it was kinda sad that she died I guess. We get like 4 sentences where we find out her brothers cared about her and she laughed at a fart joke.

In all fairness to the HOTD writers room they are nawt adapting flawless source material.

[gloomy-prince]

one regret about my art style is that this is the biggest I can make Eddie’s eyes before he starts looking like a cat with dilated pupils

[fromtheseventhhell]

"Arya wouldn't have been able to survive in KL" is really one of the dumbest fanon takes where you can tell someone only believes it because they like the idea of Arya and Sansa being "exact opposites and perfect complements" (even though it goes against the books). Actual evidence from the books to back it up? Never anywhere to be found despite how confidently people make this claim.

And not only does it severely mischaracterize Arya and ignore what she's been through, it also ignores her importance as a political hostage. The Lannisters weren't searching for her, and lying about having her, for no reason. They needed her because having only one Stark after executing Ned put them in a poor position to negotiate. So Arya would have been more than capable of handling herself (thoroughly shown in her Harrenhal chapters) and the Lannisters would've done everything in their power to keep her alive but, somehow, she wouldn't have been able to survive? It's truly one of those takes that falls apart if you think about it for more than two seconds but apparently, that's too much effort for some people.

[officialjimmybuffett]

MOTHER, SISTER, EQUAL

antigone // black sails // amc's interview with the vampire // washing machine heart by mitski // “i’m ‘wife’— i’ve finished that” by emily dickinson orestes // interview with the vampire by anne rice

insp. this post i made

[kuromi-hoemie]

“if she doesn't want to be called dude i won't call her that” - you are assuming you and your friends read as people trans women feel safe enough to speak up to, while already demonstrating you don't take other people seriously enough.

Your habit and lack of self restraint/awareness matter more than common sense i guess. Like i would never call a transmasc “girl” because that would seem like obvious misgendering, but it's different for trans women apparently.

[eddiethehunted]

guys look at my halloween costume

[puppyeared]

Space girl

[xspidershex]

[vickyvicarious]

This was evidently the portion of the castle occupied by the ladies in bygone days, for the furniture had more air of comfort than any I had seen. The windows were curtainless, and the yellow moonlight, flooding in through the diamond panes, enabled one to see even colours, whilst it softened the wealth of dust which lay over all and disguised in some measure the ravages of time and the moth. My lamp seemed to be of little effect in the brilliant moonlight, but I was glad to have it with me, for there was a dread loneliness in the place which chilled my heart and made my nerves tremble. [...] Here I am, sitting at a little oak table where in old times possibly some fair lady sat to pen, with much thought and many blushes, her ill-spelt love-letter, and writing in my diary in shorthand all that has happened since I closed it last. It is nineteenth century up-to-date with a vengeance. And yet, unless my senses deceive me, the old centuries had, and have, powers of their own which mere "modernity" cannot kill.

This room's greater comfort is a trap, of course. Just like the peaceful night view was ruined by Dracula's appearance crawling down the wall - any moment of peace in this castle is destroyed quickly by some horrifying new vampiric influence. On a smaller scale, this comforting room away from Dracula echoes the comforting rooms Dracula gave Jonathan away from the cold and danger of the forest. In each case, it at first seems safer - but is in fact the opposite as it moves Jonathan further into the influence of vampires.

But there's also the moonlight here. Just as it lit up the view for Jonathan yesterday, and softened the harsher aspects of the scenery into just a beautiful view, here too it softens the dusts and disguises the ravages of time. The moonlight covers up the truth of the scene for something nicer - just as the vampires offer friendship at first, or an appealing/enticing hypnotism. But there's still that "dread loneliness" under the surface, which Jonathan can sense even despite wanting to like it more here. He has to make an effort to steel his nerves in order to take advantage of the peace here. Maybe that's just because he's scared all the time and his nerves are shot, or maybe there is a bit of a sixth sense awareness of the presence of the vampire ladies having often been here.

Regardless, the line about his (modern) lamp being of little use in the ([super]natural/ancient) moonlight is a pretty direct preview of the line that ends this entry. And that in turn is suggestive of how little prepared our hero/es will be to try and fend off any of the vampires.

[gladiatorcunt]

trying to enjoy obx and then i’m reminded it’s a netflix show with netflix writing

[moreclaypigeons]

No like seriously ARE we ready to talk about the misogyny in fandom spaces

[yesloulou]