#no one IRL get it like y'all do

[the-amber-raven]

Trope rating game

Tagged by @made-ofmemories - I was focused on finishing the mortifying ordeals anniversary fic so I'm saving the tidbit Tuesday tag for snippet Sunday but this felt like something fun to celebrate posting the second half of these are the days.

Rules: How much do these tropes affect your decision to click on a fic? -10 -> very dissuaded  0 - don’t care either way  +10 -> very enticed  nope -> if it’s a hard no and you’d never click on a fic with that tag or or you even have the tag blocked or you’d insta click out of the fic if it wasn’t tagged.  Bonus points for explaining the rating and whether it’s conditional.

Age gap +0

Kind of a non-thing for me really. Wouldn't make me click in or out (unless the gap involved anyone underage with an adult. That's a hard no.)

Codependency +8

Yes plz, bonus points for lots of fluff and hurt/comfort 😍😍😍

Obsession/possessiveness, jealousy +7

I absolutely love me some low-key possessiveness and it would absolutely make me click into a fic. Enjoy some low-stakes jealousy as well, but not a huge fan of when it reaches toxic jealousy or obsessiveness.

Opposites (grumpy/sunshine etc) +10

Gimme Gimme Gimme

Enemies to lovers, enemies with benefits +3

Eh, if I'm in the right mood for it I'll read it but it's not my favourite.

Friends with benefits +5

Another one where I need to be in the right mood for it but I do tend to enjoy this one more - and there are some fun Buddie ones which have really softened me towards the genre.

Sex to feelings +4

Somewhere in between the above two.

Fake dating/relationship +10

Definitely a trope that would make me wanna click into a fic. Love the humour you can get in these stories and being drawn into the feels as the pair realise their feelings but then remain convinced that it's still pretend for the other one... ugh, yes, gimme.

Friends to lovers +7

Out of all the X-to-lovers tropes, this is my favourite (and it works so damn well for 9-1-1!)

Found family +1000000000

This should probably be obvious given what I write but yessss found family is the absolute best I love it so much.

Actually, I'll make a slight confession... the reason I originally got drawn into Buddie was because I was so desperate for more found family 9-1-1 fics that I started reading Buddie fics that happened to have a solid team-as-family focus 😂 And then I fell into the Buckley-Diaz family and the rest, as they say, is history!

Hurt/comfort +10

This trope is almost always the main reason I get drawn into fandoms - the canon leaves me without the comfort and so I go searching for it in fic! Definitely one of my most used filters.

Love triangle -3

Look, I won't necessarily immediately click out of a fic with a love triangle but it would definitely make me second guess reading it. I don't like the drama of them.

Poly, open relationship +1

It won't stop me from reading a fic but I probably also probably wouldn't read one where the relationship was the main focus.

Mistaken/hidden identity +100

Lol, I've been tagged in two people's answers to this one thanks to The ordeal of dating your captain's (adopted) son - the fact that I created an entire AU so that I could use this trope in 9-1-1 probably says it all about how much I love it!

I will search for and pretty much devour any fic that has this trope in whichever fandom I fall into (I've been on a Charmed rewatch recently and man the plethora of Chris revelation fics have been great)

Monsterfucking -5

Not really my thing.

Pregnancy -3

Won't stop me reading a fic focused on something else but I wouldn't read something where the pregnancy itself was the focus.

Second chance +2

It would depend on a lot of other factors.

Slowburn +7

I do love a good slowburn although I do have my limits and I have to be in the right mood for it.)

Soulmates +5

I never used to be a huge fan of them but they can have some really fantastic worldbuilding and I've read some really beautiful ones. I don't necessarily seek them out but if I come across one in the wild there's a good chance I'll click into it.

Tags: Hmm, okay I haven't been on tumblr a whole lot this week, who hasn't done it? @beforeastorm, no pressure but feel free if you'd like to!

[klutzytomb]

I never thought I'd say this, but there's no way I'm one of the only ones here that isn't chronically online. Right? Right??

[omgcatboi]

Not to be a bummer but this lifestyle is very lonely.

[scentedluminarysoul]

As an older person who's been active in fandom and shipping for literally over 20 years now, this current trend I see in fandom spaces is frightening

People are trying to defend and explain away every problematic in the media they like, because they feel like they're morally bad for liking things with problematic topics

They're obsessed with only liking morally good and perfect things. They cannot allow themselves to like anything less than morally pure

So what they're doing is they're looking at something that they know is bad, and then try and explain it away, using pop-psy to "explain" why it's actually NOT problematic and it's good actually, you just don't get it

When in reality, what you should do, and what's helpful to do, is recognizing these problematic things, acknowledge them as problematic, become aware that in reality, these would be really bad and understand WHY. And then move on and still enjoy the thing because it's fiction

You are allowed to like fiction with bad topics and bad implications. It doesn't make you a bad person

When someone tells you they're an abuse survivor and they recognize a lot of what happened to them in that media you like, you shouldn't then go: "No, actually, you're wrong for seeing it that way and you're just uninformed and don't know what you're talking about and it's not even really abuse because (xyz) and (random invented caveats) and you're stupid for even thinking that."

Because here's thing: different people will view the same thing from different angles. And that's okay. Normal even. Expected and good. You cannot hurt a fictional character by calling them an abuser.

You can, however, hurt a real person by telling them that the abuse they suffered wasn't *really* abuse and that they're just too stupid to know what they're talking about. (This is especially egregious in gaslighting survivors imho, but I'm biased here)

Excusing abuse and making up rules as to why it's not ~technically~ abuse in the first place? That's what abusers do, sorry to say.

All this to say:

You are allowed to like things that have bad topics. It doesn't make you a bad person.

You are allowed to recognize "oh man, this main character is really sexist" and then go on watching the show and have fun with it

You are allowed to recognize "oof, that main couple is pretty abusive" and then go on to root for them

It's GOOD to recognize issues in the stuff you like, to critically engage with it

And still liking it doesn't make you a bad person, far from it

I keep coming back to that point because that's the crux of the current fandom purity culture going on:

People seem to have collectively decided that thought crimes exist

They don't. What you consume in fiction says NOTHING about who YOU ARE as a person, about your morals and convictions

But how you engage with media, and other people with differing opinions does

[byanyan]

been one of those "spiraling in existential dread & anxiety, no spoons for fuck all except hyperfixation games" kinda days lmao...

[blymathin-cove]

[WIP] Ahhh, I log when plans are finally planning like I want them to..

[nobodybetterlookatme]

i hope you’re safe in your line of work. i’m sure it’s very difficult work and dangerous. it’s also very hot and sexy that you’re a firefighter so it’s really cool that you’re so brave

Well I'm still not dead so that's safe enough I guess lmao but this shit keeps dragging on, like it's crazy 😭 the work usually isn't too bad when we're not on incidents tho, like it's mainly just training and playing in the dirt ahdkaksk it's not as cool and sexy as you think it is unfortunately 😔 but I like to pretend it is and I have fun for the most part so that's all that really matters tbh lmao

[hadesknockedupintheunderworld]

My hot take is that some of you who live vicariously through fictional familial relationships yearn for "a healthy loving family" the same way a lonely person yearns for the perfect boyfriend/girlfriend/partner who will sweep them off their feet and dote on them and love them always and only focus on them and take care of them and protect them and provide for them and give them a fairytale wedding

And it shows

[coollyinterferes]

"Back by unpopular demand:"

"Us!"

[grassbreads]

Oh god. I have unintentionally aquired a genuinely absurd amount of whiteboard cleaner.

I ordered some because I have a whiteboard hanging in my kitchen with marker spots that wouldn't clean off normally. And it works! But they only sell it in big 8 oz bottles, which is already like several years' supply for the amount I need. And then something weird happened with my delivery, and I got my package twice.

My whole order was doubled, including the whiteboard spray.

What the fuck am I gonna do with 16 ounces of whiteboard cleaning spray and less than 6 square feet total of whiteboard.

[jacquelineadelia]

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[passionpluto]

do not reference neopets in conversation around me this time of year. i will ask you what your altador cup team is. one of my fondest family traditions was forcing my parents to pick altador cup teams and tracking how they did (and spoiler alert: my shaye fanboy dad beat my rooligan ass every year). i care more about your ac team than your star sign.

you can take the girl out of the cup, but you can never take the cup out of the girl.

[ssaalexblake]

the number of people who think they're entitled to your time bc you like 13 is Staggering.

[vettelsbitch]

I am trying /so hard/ to reel the mental breakdown in rn

[monstriiss]

ooc: stands here covered in blood holding starbucks in my reusable travel cup

[funkytoesart]

tw for ed talk in the tags so like,,, idk be mindful of that i guess if you happen to read the tags of this post? just need to vent to the void a lil lol