#nb and boys. hooo

[spamtonromantic]

what if i removed my pan label and instead just identified as gay 🤯

[pudenjoyer]

Hey @ non-binary people that are publicly out: what is the safest way to come out at school? Is there a way to tell what teachers could be transphobic? Are there steps I need to take before I do it?

[ratanslily]

m!white li anon here, most of the white male lis are the ugliest thing i have seen on choices 😭 but ignoring his misaligned head, beckett's face really? 😳

they look a bit busted? that's what people say?

and look- i dont have the best taste in lis but yeah i like [redacted]'s face its just.. something

[candychronicles]

Can I request a headcanon or image of Tamaki getting jealous. Personally I see him as a sub, but I love jealous subs. Soooo

Tamaki is a switch and i’ll take that to my grave

he would get passively jealous quite often, but it takes awhile for him to react

if it’s longer in the relationship, he’s a bit possessive, not that you can’t take care of yourself, but your his mf cinnamon apple, so he’s gotta make sure you stay good

if it’s just someone talking to you and complimenting you, he doesn’t get mad

i mean, who wouldn’t call you beautiful?? you just are

but if they get handsy, hooo boy 

he’s not a confrontational person by any means

though he’s strong in physicality, he doesn’t have the most outgoing personality

but when it comes to you and your potential safety? it’s game on

he’ll try to get you away from the situation first, saying something came up and putting his hand gently but possessively on your lower back

if the guy/gal/nb person doesn’t understand and gets pushy, he will stand up for you

it may not be confident sounding, but Tamaki can and will back his words if he needs to

thankfully, it never really comes to that, but just know someone is going to get bitch slapped with a tentacle if they lay a hand on you in a suggestive manner

at home, he really isn’t much different, especially if a confrontational situation was able to be avoided 

but if the person said something that was offensive towards you or especially your relationship, you’ll need to stroke his ego a bit

queue switch Tamaki, who just wants to hear you tell him how good of a boy he is and also how nobody can make you feel as good as he is right now

[max--666]

boyy it sure is nice to only get dysphoria or w/e over the only parts of my body that i can never ever really change :^)

[tammyhybrid21]

THybrid’s Mummy Rant(pt 1)

ALRIGHT!

Sooo…

I kind of said I would be organizing a big giant analysis and rant on this character-- Because I have many, many feelings. Buuut I think this is probably going to be something that just ends up diving into a lot more for the context I do have. Both in terms of the movie, and the research I've been rolling around in--

So-- before I put this under a cut/readmore, can I put some context into this?! And by context--

I mean in general I would not be here if Mummy hadn't been the one Netflix had for the Movie's preview. Mummy is why I'm here, just because whoop. That's a character design that CALLS ME! So yeahh-- that out of the way…

First Impressions:

Sooo… in the first movie Mummy is… only in the last third, roughly of the movie. Which is a crying shame in all honesty because for me he steals the show from that point. AND we get to see SO MANY Sides. Like, just… there's a bit to unpack here, and it also leads into more of my Autism squee talk--

But I don't think I could even really articulate everything in a straight cohesive manner so I'll sort of sum it with the most important screencaps.

Soooo, I have a lot to say… and a picture says a thousand words… but especially here and okay, so those screencaps are… not exactly all the story, but they say a lot for what they say. And then you can compound that specifically with the research that I have… again, been just rolling in. Because GIMME!

Sooo anyway, let me talk about these screencaps while my brain is turned on. Because I feel that all of these are important! Including that first glimpse! Because like-- what you need to understand is-- Do you know how hard catching something like that is?! And how did he notice it. Which like, that's probably a sensitivity thing, but specifically! That would whistle on the way down!

Then!

LET ME TALK ABOUT MASKING!

Like just-- all these next pictures and moments! They bring up Masking. Because look at him when he's first approaching, first seen in full. He's threatening, intimidating(up until Tadeo spots him and it's just scream for them both) BUT THEN IN PRIVATE! Clapping, flapping, and well, we can watch Movie 2 with a very specific lense based on a piece of WoG I found…

But even those next few screencap moments--

Like, Mummy is important, BUT there are rules of how you're supposed to present yourself. Like look at him! Look at him in front of the guards! How Paititi is revealed and even the lead up, like, he has a good shift from the slight goofball to commanding and then to intimidating and just…

Snap fingers and the guards respond(which then with movie two… boyyyyy I want to know what happened). And as much as we think that hug is intense…

And then look at the shy nervous child. WHICH I'm going to bring in a moment or two from the Series, Descubre con Tadeo(which is a fun watch even if I only get like, maybe a fifth of the content).

He's insecure and nervous… and we related it to being like… first day of school jitters. BUT THEN he-- also has a perfect shift here as well.

Put on your professional voice! And like, I suppose some things could be argued in terms of Mummy's antics in the second film. But I just… have too much more to say that the whole movie kind of feels like.

"FIRST TIME I AM FREE!" in terms of how Mummy is running around and just having fun! You ever just want to cut loose mate?! Scream, or go wild… but like… with the second movie I have other places to just go, WAIT?! What happened?! And also just analyze moments that are… well…

But like, number one is a background moment actually(and I hope so muuuuch that it means something in movie three please)

LOOK AT TADEO'S CONSPIRACY BOARD!

Like I'm just here like, Mummy?! What did you do?! On his trip over, which for all is kind of implied/feels like a B-Line, and I have… other thoughts and feelings on that. But like, the conspiracy board! Mummy! Also considering that the English Localization has Tadeo in Chicago(and I want to know if that's true for everywhere--) As an aside in this moment, can we just appreciate the jump of quality in the animation between the movies?! Like ahhhh the details! I just hng-- And some things in the whole animated series as well…

Edutainment.

WHICH features BOTH Mummy and Tadeo just special interest dumping. And it's A++

He also hums the theme song in his take over episode, and dances and is just ahahahahah

Which, this is one of the two Mummy just-- yanks the show for himself moments… The other has him playing with everyone else as dolls and I just--

Yes

Gender

Which look, I've been going off some level of fluidity for him! Since I watched the second movie and he just-- STOLE THE SHOW! And the credits sequence, I have… a lot to say about his around the world trip but most of that ultimately amounts to disorganized screaming about the fact that he starts the travel with only one dangling earring and ends it with two to speak to the guards--

And that then goes into--

ANYWAY--

Genderwise, I've been informed that there's a WoG confirmation of nb, which… Good Representation! Even if I have personal… bad, yucky, awkward feelings about the term, if that's the confirmed canon term. Well. My personal dysphoria with the term specific aside.(Non non, it always feels like--) NO WONDER I HELLA RELATE!

For those not caught up-- I myself identify as Agender. Which is a nb-spectrum gender, or as I refer to it as when trying to explain. "Gender, yes". I have a gender, and that gender is yes it's something and exists. But like, I'm not tied to the binary of Male-Female, not really. Sooooo--

If Mummy is confirmed nb, which, I will be source hunting for sure.

Well, his relatability to me just skyrocketed EVEN MORE!

Like I'm sorry, you don't understand! That's super important on MANY levels. Not just for the rare gender to be highlighted. BUT!

Mummy is very Autistic Coded. More on the female stereotyped Autism as well-- and then FOR THE BIG THING! He's Inca!

Like, do you people even have a scale for the important points that he's hitting here?! (And if we add apparently spoken about Asexuality?! Excuse me!)

Like I don't know how much I could say on how important this is representation and character wise…

Sooo

Moving on.

Inca

Sooooo… this is probably something dumb to tack onto the end but. I'll be the first to admit it. I'm… coming from a culturally blind/naïve perspective but-- it's something intrinsic and important to understanding Mummy as character. He's from a cultural background I honestly don't yet know enough about. (Can I ever know enough though?!)

He's an Inca. And more than that-- WoG seems to have implied, he's Royalty, whiiiiich puts into perspective some of those screencap moments and brings about a host of interesting research topics for me to just gleefully dive into and roll around in.

BUT

With that contextual framing.

This dork, and this moment-- and thinking about how he's got the pull in the first movie to boss the guards around. Just like-- Make decisions and call the shots… and more to me…

Who put the cufflink there?! SPECIFICALLY?!

Because like, all he said was "keep it safe"

I also really, really want to know if there's some cultural significance and nuance I'm missing here, because hooo boy. As far as I have, this is basically just subtle nods and confirmations that he's royal, possibly even the recognized Auqui of their set up here(which as of movie two, possibly no longer the case).

I also have a lot to say about THIS:

In terms of the half a dozen or so resources that have STUFF to say about Handshakes to the Inca(albeit there is more than just a handshake buuuut). But this is already 11 pages in word and honestly, I don't think I could explain things in a nice and tidy context for all my FEELINGS that I have.

Sources:

Screenshots taken by myself and a friend

Tadeo Jones & Tadeo Jones 2: El secreto del Rey Midas

https://www.telecinco.es/tadeojones/descubre-con-tadeo/16940/ For additional character screenshots, albeit had to find some of it on Youtube.

WoG on Mummy's implied Royalty: https://www.animum3d.com/blog/animacion-3d-tadeo-jones/ (And English translation C&P feat. Google Translate: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1DPhIuurqtx7QJm1df31cviHsqDEgKH5t9MVstJZHpRw/edit) Point of NOTE

With the designs and the script in front, you start to shuffle ideas, by his golden dress, his hat and his cape you imagine that he is someone important within his clan, that should give a sublime aspect to his behavior, as if he belonged to royalty, someone with a refined attitude and manners, are ideas that do not have to be evident or definitive, but in some way help to set parameters when shaping your personality.

WoG on Gender & Sexuality: Still on the hunt, right now more fandom news(please gibe me the source!) FOUND: https://elcultural.com/Enrique-Gato-y-David-Alonso-El-reto-ya-no-es-sorprender-sino-crear-empatia-con-los-personajes & https://www.ecartelera.com/noticias/41656/pelicula-aventuras-definitiva-tadeo-jones-2-equipo/5/

My son asks me many times if Mummy is a boy or a girl and it's all at once. It's absolutely ambiguous and that also makes it a lot of fun.

“For us he is asexual and we really like playing with it.”

Conclusion:

WATCH THESE MOVIES PLEASE!

And get the culture being represented by one of the characters RIGHT!

[sawtrapz]

advice?

so, i’m coming to terms with gender and sexuality and could use some pointers, maybe

gender: for the most part, i feel a complete disconnect to gender and feel neutral. i present myself largerly through neutral or “masculine” clothes (goth and punk stuff mostly). now and then, i feel a slight connection to masculinity but i don’t think i’d call myself a man (even though i have done in the past) there are fluctuations between feeling neutral and masculine, some days i feel more boyish than others but largely i feel genderless

sexuality: hooo boy this is where stuff gets weird. in FICTIONAL scenarios, everyone has the potential to be hot. men? yes. women? yes. nb people? Yes. aliens/monsters. YES. irl?? i’m occasionally attracted to irl men and a lot of the irl men i’m attracted to are celebrities, but there are still plenty of irl men who are “attainable” that i could see myself with. lots of irl women are fucking gorgeous. lots of irl nb people are attractive

yet at the same time, i don’t really have all that much sexual attraction. all of my sexual fantasies are with fictional characters. i COULD have sex with someone irl but it’s never something i actively fantasize about.

i recently id’d as lesbian, thinking my attraction to men was comp het but i no longer believe this is the case, my attraction is genuine. men are hot. lmao

idk, anyone got any advice?

[the-dreamers-boy]

I was tagged by @smallsapphling !! Rules: Answer these statements and tag 20 people

Tagging: @dubbedsirens and @awesomegayurl (Y'all don’t have to do this if you don’t want to! Any of my mutuals are free to do this, just put me as the person who tagged you!!)

THE LAST:

1. Drink: Milk

2. Phone call: My dad

3. Text message: “I may have lost my glasses” to Michael I found them

4. Song you listened to: “Burn” I love Phillipa

5. Time you cried: finding out one of the “Dream Daddys” is trans

HAVE YOU:

6. Dated someone twice: nope

7. Kissed someone and regretted it: never kissed anyone 😅

8. Been cheated on: Nope (:

9. Lost someone special: Kinda-ish

10. Been depressed: Atleast since 5th grade

11. Gotten drunk and thrown up: No way

LIST 3 FAVORITE COLORS:

12. Pink

13. Dark Blue

14. Green

IN THE LAST YEAR HAVE YOU:

15. Made new friends: Yeah!!

16. Fallen out of love: Does friend love count bc hooo boy

17. Laughed until you cried: Any conversation I’ve ever had with Kat and Sophia that’s gotten funny

18. Found out someone was talking about you: Sadly yes

19. Met someone who changed you: i’ve changed a lot over the years, and i find it difficult to attribute that change to a single person or even a group of people

20. Found out who your friends are: I think so yeah

21. Kissed a mutual? Nada

GENERAL

22. How many mutuals do you know in real life: @for-the-life-ofme (my best friend!) @smallsapphling (my qpp!) @morriha (a super nifty kiddo)

23. Do you have any pets: yep! Two cats: Boots, an orange tabby, Mittens, a a shy creature that has recently decided she liked me and a dog Lance, a hyper active husky/yellow lab mix

24. Do you want to change your name: Adam 😜

25. What did you do for your last birthday: I had Kat and Sophia over for dinner/sleep over and watched the fuckin anime with the nb character and all the dudes which name escapes me atm

26. What time did you wake up: 11:22 bc I finally found proper sleep for like the first time in months??

27. What were you doing at midnight last night: Watching YouTube

28. Name something you can’t wait to get: Long term- an apartment w my qpp @smallsapphling , legal name change, and top surgery/testosterone

29. When was the last time you saw your Mom: like two minutes ago

30. What is one thing you wish you could change in your life: besides the obvious (gender and money), i want a drive. I want something to look forward to, something to research, something to fall in love with (Kat’s answer again really speaks to me)

31. What are you listening to right now: As of this second nothing (surprisingly(

32. Have you ever talked to a person named Tom: I dunno, probably??

33. Something that is getting on your nerves: not feelin this whole societal concept of gender (Kat’s answer is again perfect)

34. Most visited website: youtube an’ Tumblr bc why not depression blog

35. Mole/s: occasional spots but not a whole lot

36. Mark/s: faint thin scars on my arms/thighs/calves, scraped knees, a small scar on my mouth, a rubber burn on my calf bc a kid hit me with a bike, and a huge surgery scar on my hip

37. Childhood dream: I wanted to be a vet

38. Hair color: light brown/blonde, Lowkey platinum highlights???? Redish part from previous dyeing

39. Long or short hair: Short (:

40. Do you have a crush on someone?: besides celebrities, unattainable characters, and my Boyfriend? Nope

41. What do you like about yourself: there’s something probably

42. Piercings: I have pierced ears, four in each

43. Blood type: *shrug*

44. Nicknames: technically Adam is a nickname I guess

45. Relationship status: @deathdippedinroses and my qpp @smallsapphling

46. Zodiac: Aquarius

47. Pronouns: he/him

48. Favorite TV show(s): vld, atla, CM, and possibly htawm

49. Tattoos: none right now

50. Right or left hand: Right handed

51. Surgery: I’ve had atleast 6/7

52. Hair dyed a different color: Rebellion I dyed it red and soon pink

53. Sports: I don’t play anymore

54. Vacation: Mexico, Australia, Bahamas, various states and other Spanish speaking countries

55. Shoes: Summer I prefer to go without. When I have to wear shoes I have converse, vans, and various sandals (and sketchers as my work shoes)

56. Eating: The last thing I ate was bad homemade ravioli

57. Drinking: I hope to God I never drink heavily

58. I’m about to: Pack for Arizona!!!!

59. Waiting for: *Repunzel voice* my life beginnnnnnn

60. Want: To escape my mother

61. Get married: Possibly?? Like who knows man

62. Career: Tbh I just wanna live through highschool rn, that’s as far as I’ve looked as to a future

WHICH IS BETTER:

63. Hugs or kisses: Hugs!!

64. Lips or eyes: Both are good

65. Shorter or taller: I’m tall in comparison to average but also the shortest in my family (5 foot 10ish)

66. Older or younger: what does this mean though, like dating wise? Friendship wise? How I act? How I look?

67. Nice arms or nice stomach: Man I love people

68. Sensitive or loud: I range from never stop yelling to haven’t spoken ever depending on anxiety levels

69. Hook up or relationship: Relationship baby

70. Troublemaker or hesitant: @smallsapphling is my impuls control @for-the-life-ofme is also pretty good at keeping me grounded but without them I pierce my ears and probably would shave my head and call my mother’s husband a racist homophobic douch canoe

HAVE YOU EVER:

71. Kissed a stranger: Nope!!

72. Drank hard liquor: No.

73. Lost glasses/contact lenses: I miss place them a lot but never lose

74. Turned someone down: Nope

75. Sex on first date: probably not

76. Broken someone’s heart: i’m unsure if i have, but possibly

77. Had your heart broken: yeah

78. Been arrested: No

79. Cried when someone died: Yeah

80. Fallen for a friend: I thought I did, but like nooooo

DO YOU BELIEVE IN:

81. Yourself: sonetimes

82. Miracles: define miracle

83. Love at first sight: define love

84. Santa claus: Sadly I do not

85. Kiss on the first date: maybe?? Define date and kiss

OTHER:

86. Current best friend: Jane (Blue)!! (Her name’s actually Sophia) @for-the-life-ofme

87. Eye color: Blue/greenish

88. Favorite movie: howl’s moving castle, coraline, and I really like Moana

[toothgf]

1 2 3 4 5

1. what is your sexuality?panromantic ace

2. what gender do you identify as?nb boy (idk over the last year i’ve been switching between agender and demiboy but who kno)

3. how long have you been aware of your sexuality/gender?around may-ish 2015 i started questioning both, so 2 years

4. do you have any preferences?not really ?

5. share a positive memory about coming out!hooo boi my coming out experience was a mess tbh,, i came out as bi and nonbinary on august 2015 but my family practically ignored me and shoved me back into the closet ? idk i talk abt it a little w my sister and my mom is aware i’m not cishet but she’s convinced i’m just confused :/i came out when i was still going through a huge Identity Crisis™ so i felt super uncomfortable using he pronouns irl (bc there are no gender neutral pronouns in spanish so it’s either she or he) and i never corrected my family when they kept using she pronouns/referring to me as a girl/using my birth name so :///but tbh the only good thing that coming out brought is that i could start buying “"men’s”“ clothes and a binder (this is so long sorry omg)

[britshits]

do you think cis muns can play trans/nb chars? i know this opinion varies but i remember coming across a post that said cis muns shouldn't and now i see a lot of that happening

boy, oh boy… this question …………………….. is like 110% up for debate ?? hell, im not 100% on where i personally stand bc there are legit SO MANY FACTORS ??? pls don’t read this thinking it’s gospel bc it’s truly not and ik this gon turn into some long ass semi-rant, so scroll for a tl;dr, but … [ cracks knuckles ] let’s gO !

i’ll be 100% real n say that i am always, always going to be uber picky when i come across cis muns playing trans/nb muses. i instinctively raise my hackles and put everything they do under the microscope, mainly bc they ( obviously ) don’t have first-hand experience of the pressures / prejudices / issues / feelings etc. that are exclusive to our community, so they have a tendency to fall into all the harmful tropes when it comes to trans characters—and, without that innate understanding of our struggles, they don’t see how these things can be damaging. there’s also the whole issue of the media perpetuating this bs, so really, while research can do wonders, it’s never gonna be a catch-all solution.

that’s not to say i don’t think that cis people can write solid, unproblematic trans characters. i have most definitely met people who are cis who’ve played wonderful trans and/or non binary charries, whom i adored and would educate themselves and readily listen to any tips that i or other trans people gave them. i actually haven’t met a cis person who has played a non binary muse in a way i have an issue with so far. ik that there’s a general issue in the rpc with people changing their charrie from cis to nb to fill a ratio, which is a Mess and a Half, and ofc the assumption that the character’s assigned sex at birth matches that of the face claim. but, other than that nasty business, the majority of cis ppl playing nb charries are #tight and willing to learn, at least as far as i’ve experienced.

when it comes to binary trans muses tho … lmfa o ….. where do i even begin ?? like idk what it is about cis ppl but a lot of them are just absolutely OBSESSED with what’s goin on in a trans person’s pants ?? i mentioned this in another ask, but bruh… if i had a pound for every time some1 has fuckcin offhandedly brought up / alluded to my charrie’s downstairs configuration when we’re plotting, i’d have enough money to buy this blue hellsite and shut it tf down like i goddamn want to, but anyway !! the reason i bring this up is bc i see so many ppl who have this approach with their own characters—i.e. fetishising them. i mean if ur trans, u do u man, sexualising ur charrie is ur prerogative ?? but fuc k n cis ppl doing this…………………….. mmm hooo my go dd … do u realise how disgusting and nasty this shit is ??????? i mean trans ppl have enough shit w/ ppl sexualising us irl ( esp. trans women !! they literally have it so fuckn rough w/ tht i cant even begin 2 describe ) so like, leave it out of rp thx ???

but nope !!! y’all can’t do that !!!!!!!! (((((((((: tbh in the rpc, most of the bs seems to affect trans male muses, as far as i’ve seen. i think it’s partly bc trans female muses are so few and far between, which is an issue in and of itself, but also bc a lot of the rpc is so fuckin guilty of the nasty obsession with m/m ships. it’s usually cishet girls who pull this shit and they pull it w/ all males tbh, like they legit use gay guys as a fuckn object like “OMG !!!! GAYSZ !!! SO CUT E I LOVE THEM !!! COME SHIP W/ ME I LOVE GAY BOYZ !!! :’)” lmfaooo miss me w/ this shit !!! u wanna chat about lesbians being fetishised by cishet men and yet u only give a fuck about mlm when they’re being a cutesy lil otps or banging it out so u can flick ur bean hmm ?? i see u. but yeah, it’s not exclusively cishet girls who do this shit… like, cis ppl in general are pretty shit at playing trans males, specifically. like you’re lucky to find a single starter that isn’t tagged as “indie smut rp” or “indie gay rp” or if their threads aren’t laced with sexualised scenarios or worse… the dreaded C-Word. like bruh if ur not a trans male u literally have no business using that word regarding ur muse. ever.

tbh 99% of the time they don’t even realise just how gross they’re being, bc, as i mentioned before, they don’t have any concept of what it’s like to be trans and how gross and intrusive ppl can be towards us. they think that it’s just the same as writing any character and that they can sexualise them if they want to, without realising that .. it’s very different when you’re outside that community. you’re not exploring an aspect of your identity, so much as reducing someone else’s to a very, very small sector of theirs and then using it for entertainment.

tl;dr: it’s literally a clusterfuck of nope tbh and, on a personal lvl, i’m almost at the point of thinking it would be better if cis ppl don’t play trans charries, bc the bad far outweighs the good in terms of how harmful it can be. that said, i do not think that telling cis ppl not to play trans characters is the right thing to do, bc of the following:

the people who do the disgusting things i’ve mentioned above or anything else that’s nasty don’t listen to us anyway, so it’s not gonna solve that problem.

it reinforces the “write what you know” mantra, which i think we can all agree is so old n outdated in 2k17.

sometimes writing characters is how people manage to learn new things about themselves. i’ve actually met people who, through their character research, have realised that they identify as non binary or trans. having an outlet for feelings they may be having really helps some ppl along.

lastly, and what i personally believe to be the crux of this issue, is that by trying to police something like this you are essentially forcing disclosure of ooc gender. not everyone is comfortable or ready to say they are trans or they may not be sure about their gender identity at all, so forcing them to make it known for the sake of playing a character is not okay. and, ofc, we have the obvious addition that ppl lie, so you’re relying on good faith to carry it out.

so yeah, that’s my v. long-winded two cents on the matter. i have a feeling i’ve missed some details, but it’s 3am and i need to be up by like 9:30 so that’s all for now !! feel free to drop me another question if i’ve fuckt anything up or u would like clarification on anything !

[gawainism]

hehe im gay

[niduss]

my dude, trans guy keith is the best thing (along with trans girl pidge)!!!! and hooo boy your drawing is heckin great it added like five years to my life 👌👌 feels good feels organic Thank You 👌👌👌

I LOVE (love) trans/nb Pidge.

I saw some cute heckin’ headcanons for ftm Keith and like? Idk it just makes me feel so happy and validated because I relate to Keith on some levels and it’s like… “you only want that character to be trans because you’re trans” And like bitch you ain’t wrong. Where my transgender representation at.

[its-detrointt-now]

how do u identify?? :o

uhhhhh im bi/pan i guess i use them interchangeably for myself?? but for others like obv thats their preference?? but like bi includes nb ppl and so does pan?? so i dont see the reason to call myself specifically one or the other. but gender??? hooo boy thats a different story i feel like a girl and a boy?? it kinda shifts but most of the time theres elements of both? but sometimes neither as well?? uh ive been feeling a lot more male lately but ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ who knows?? honestly i dont