#nb about nhs

[thatswhatsushesaid]

sometimes posts like this grind my gears worse than the bad faith takes by the antis because they make me depressed rather than annoyed.

i mean… ok, i guess?? 🤷‍♀️

like i genuinely believe there’s only a handful of characters in the novel who are actually evil, irredeemable assholes, and jgy would not be among their number imo. and it is weird to me that someone can claim to ‘perfectly understand and sympathize with [jgy’s] feelings and decisions,’ and still decide that he’s fundamentally evil and beyond redemption. i don’t think there’s anything in the text that supports this read either, particularly not when we take into consideration jin ling and lan xichen’s respective reactions to having their grieving questioned or ignored.

all that said, there absolutely is a character who is tragically beyond redemption at the end of the novel, and his name is not jin guangyao. it’s nie huaisang.

[king-of-havoc]

Sometimes non-binary headcanons are formed from things shown in canon that helps support said headcanon

Other times they are formed when you specifically keep fucking forgetting what they canonically are so you just don't wanna bother anymore

[agro-alone]

no gatekeeping

here is my list of patch ideas

● there is a war on the poor

● fund the NHS

● end law. take your rights by force

● trans and intersex bodily autonomy now

● nothing about us without us

● dead men don't rape

● queers hate cops

● no child deserves to live in fear

● biology was never binary

● not every disability is visible

● people not puzzles

● From the river to the sea, Palestine will be free

● this is a patch

● vaccines don't cause autism. I do

● nd nb (ACDC style)

● I'm here I'm queer and my joint pain is moderate to severe

● United we bargain. divided we beg

● I do not think. therefore I do not am

● the poor pay tax but the rich pay politicians

● the only hope for me is you

● there is no gender only rage

● easily distracted by shiny objects

● elect a clown expect a circus

● thick thighs save lives

● stop animal testing

● Good people disobey bad laws

● don't die wondering... transgenderism could be for you

● talk to your neighbours not the police

● it's never too late to be who you might have been

● they lied. hard work has killed people

● slightly burned out but still smokin'

● no fault divorce saves lives

● no more second homes

if you like some of these quotes, you may also like @grlofswords and @sweatermuppet

[wangxianficfinder]

In the mood for...

Apr 4th

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1. Hello! ITMF multiple WWX's? Like he clones himself or if maybe time travel causes there to be multiple WWX's running around. Can be chaste or naughty, but bonus points for LWJ getting flustered having some many WWX's around! Thank you!

Wei Wuxian’s Terrible, Horrible, No Good First Meeting With His Future by Enigmatree (T, 3k, wangxian, Time Travel, Cloud Recesses, YLLZ WWX, POV Outsider)

How to Deal with the Conundrum of Your Past Self: A Case Study by anatheme (E, 16k, wangxian, A/B/O, YLLZ WWX, Established Relationship, Pining, Sexual Tension, alpha YLLZ WWX/alpha LWJ/omega MXY!WWX: the fic, ft. soft married wangxian, Threesome - M/M/M, yes LWJ gets the knot after xx years, Bottom LWJ, Switch WangXian, Knotting, time travel of sorts, a thesis on making peace with and loving yourself, Happy Ending, welcome to my LWJ has 2 hands for 2 WWX agenda)

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2. itmf fics where ljy is lxc's son! whether bio or not is fine, just looking for some scenes where lxc is like a father to ljy. tyvm!

🔒how to make your dad fall in love with your high school teacher in five steps; the complete and bulletproof guide by ravenditefairylights (T, 90k, WangXian, Modern AU, Coffee shop AU, NB LSZ, Hurt/Comfort, Fluff, Angst, Genderfluid WWX, Nonbinary LSZ, Trauma, Past Abuse, Past Domestic Violence, Healing, Hurt WWX, Found Family, Hospitalization, Therapy, Single Parent WWX, Mutual Pining, Teacher LWJ, Unreliable Narrator, Teenager LSZ, Yúnmèng Siblings Dynamics, Chronic Pain, Autistic LWJ) although their relationship is not the focus of the story

3zun Raise Jingyi AU series by Deriliarch (T, 94k, 3Zun, Accidental Baby Acquisition, Canon Divergence, Fix-It, Established Relationship, Fluff, Angst, Happy Ending, Kid fic, Hurt/Comfort)

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3. Do you have idol aus? I want idol Wei Ying. A) Specifically, the idol life, can be before/during/after debut. B) Idol survival show participant wwx

3A)

Bodyguard king by 74243 (E, 8k, wangxian, F/F WangXian, Modern, Idol WWX, Bodyguard LWJ, Female NHS, Platonic D/s, Loss of Virginity, Not NOT inspired by KUWTK s05e04, When u do what u love u never work a day in ur life)

shooting straight into your heart by tangerinechar (T, 13k, wangxian, JC & WWX, Modern, Multimedia, Humor, idol WWX, cameraman LWJ, and a very Done(tm) manager JC)

Amidst the Crowd by GusuBunnie (G, 5k, wangxian, Romance, Friends to Lovers, Idol WWX, Supportive LXC, JC Needs a Hug, Background Xicheng, Angst, Fluff, Light Angst with a Happy Ending, WangXian Get a Happy Ending, Drama & Romance, LXC being the best brother, Modern, Idol/Fan AU, LWJ is Bad at Communicating)

3B)

🧡 I Don’t Want to Debut! by countingcr0ws (G, 56k, wangxian, Modern, Reality Show, Idols, Celebrity, Social Media, Epistolary, Romance, Fluff, Footnotes, Kissing, Poetry, Podfic Available)

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4. Hi , idk how to ask about fanfics properly. I am very new to Tumblr . But can you please recommend some fics on Wangxian's parent's generation. Like lan Qiren, Wei Changze, Cangse Sanren, Jiang Fengmian, etc, being teenagers @kwalitymxtxpow7

Cursed Couple by shorimochi (M, 121k, LQR/WRH, CSSR/WCZ, Time Travel, Canon Divergence, Out of Character)

The Other Mountain by nirejseki (T, 287k, LQR/WRH, Canon Divergence, Arranged Marriage, Mentions of Suicide, Hurt/Comfort, Trauma, Domestic Violence, Torture, Sadism, Asexual Character, sex-positive asexual, Past Relationship(s), An Exercise in Gender Roles, Non-Egalitarian Views on Marriage, World Domination, Pedagogical Theory, Ethics, comedy of manners, Implied Harm to Children, Mental Health Issues, Undernegotiated Kink, Canon-Typical Violence, Close POV Narrator, Donghua Imagery) i recommend "the other mountain" by nirejseki, and all her other lan qirenx wen ruohan works

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5. thank you for your hardwork admins! itmf for rich lwj who is head over heels for wwx? and i mean like he is a massive simp for wwx, worship the ground he walks on kind of way ^^

LWJ’s Big Dick Agenda Series by raitala (E, 146k, WangXian, Modern AU, College AU, Porn with Feelings, Light Dom/sub, Under-negotiated Kink, Public Blow Jobs, Anal Sex, Cock Warming, Angst, Feels, Domestic fluff, Misgendering, Slut Shaming, Crossdressing, Rimming, Roleplay) try LWJ's big dick agenda!

CEO Billionaire Lan Zhan by detention_notes (T, 2k, WangXian, Modern AU, Parody, Pining Bunnies, Wealth, Crack)

For Safekeeping Purposes by ChilianXianzi (M, 3k, wangxian, Modern, Gangsters, Crime Boss LWJ, Sugar Daddy LWJ, WWX Has Self-Esteem Issues, And LWJ's going to take care of that, thoroughly, Domestic fluff but everyone's in a crime syndicate, Found Family, Age Difference, Implied/Referenced Abuse, Canon-typical Abusive Jiangs)

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6. For INTMF could you rec some pretty heavy angst with happy and/or hopeful ending? Like Working Title: Everyone Lives (With Knives) series. @dragonfairies

Love Song In Reverse by timetoboldlygo (T, 237k, WangXian, Amnesia, Canon Divergence, Angst with a Happy Ending, Emotional Hurt/Comfort, Non-Sexual Intimacy, Falling In Love, Slow Burn, agressively mixing and matching novel and cql canon, No Homophobia, Mentions of Starvation, Parental WWX) maybe? do they want canon era stories? I have heavy angst /whump stories but they're not in the canon era

Shameless self rec because angst with happy ending is like my signature at this point.

New Perspective Series by mrcformoso (T, 35k, WangXian, Angst, Hopeful Ending, Fatherhood, Regrets, Flashbacks, POV LWJ, LWJ-centric, Canonical Character Death - WWX, Pining LWJ, LWJ Has Feelings Lán Zhàn | Lán Wàngjī Needs a Hug, Character Development, Dead WWX, Introspection, LWJ is Bad at Feelings, Character Study, Regretful, LWJ Breaking Toxic Cycles, Canon Compliant, LWJ in Seclusion, Post-LWJ in Seclusion, Child LSZ)

Window of the Waking Mind by mrcformoso (M, 8k, wangxian, LSZ & WWX, JC & WWX, Graphic depictions of violence, Major Character Death, Heavy Angst with a Happy Ending, Sad with a Happy Ending, Post-Canon, Torture, Golden Core Transfer, WWX Has Self-Esteem Issues, Hurt WWX, WWX Needs a Hug, WWX Needs a Break, Flashbacks, Curses, Night Hunts, Suicide, Starvation, Canonical Child Abuse, Canonical Character Death, Cannibalism, Although it was forced by the situation to survive, Healing, Hurt/Comfort, lots of comfort, Soft LQR, Learning To Communicate, Zidian Spiritual Tool, JC Tries, Reaction)

When the Words Stop Coming by mrcformoso (T, 7k, WangXian, Canon Compliant, POV WWX, POV LWJ, Cloud Recesses Study Arc, Pre-Sunshot Campaign, Burial Mounds Settlement Days, Canonical Character Death, Love Confessions, Rejection, LWJ is a Panicked Gay, Temporarily Unrequited Love, Trauma, WangXian Get a Happy Ending, Angst with a Happy Ending, Sad with a Happy Ending)

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7. hi, itmf wangxian in a hunger games setting that is not "The Hanging Tree" series by chatonnerie (just read that, it's so good and has me hungering for more!). thx so much!

our lives, never ours by glitteringmoonlight (T, 7k, WangXian, Hunger Games Setting, Angst, Minor Violence, Blood, hunger games typical references to violence, implied happy ending, but it's a bit ambiguous, this exists mostly for angst purposes tbh)

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8. hey admins! itmf longer post canon fics like 'wind rose in the clouds'? thank you ❤️

For 8, what about that fic did the requester like? What specifically are they looking for other than length and post-canon setting? Or are those the only criteria?

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9. IITMF ask; Give me your favorite ‘Wei Wuxian in Wei Wuxian’s body or keeps his body or doesn’t actually die’ fics. I’m in the mood to read more of our favorite boy as his og self. (He doesn’t have to start in his body, but I want my boy looking like himself by the end)

Saw My Life in a Stranger's Face by timetoboldlygo (T, 27k, WangXian, Post-Canon, Established Relationship, Married Life, Domestic Fluff, Light Angst, wwx's face changes post-canon to look like his original face, Slight Panic Attack, because lwj doesn't recognize his husband, the mortifying ordeal of not knowing your own body, the terrifying inevitability of change, taller!wwx theory)

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10. fics in which wwx comes back (from the dead/from the burial mounds/from hiding, whatever really) specifically for lwj!! (can be modern too if there r any)

🧡 Ghosts Shouldn’t by ShanaStoryteller (Not Rated, 15k, WangXian, Grief/Mourning, Canon Divergence, Angst with a Happy Ending)

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11. itmf fics where wangxian time travel to modern times - not reincarnation, but straight time travel. Preferably (mostly) canon typical before the time travel, but the point in canon when it happens does not matter

🧡 The Shade of Old Trees by Kryal (T, 266k, WIP, WangXian, Ridiculously Long Notes, History, Canon Divergence, Modern AU, Slow Burn, Worldbuilding, Slow Life, Action/Adventure, Magic Returns, BAMF WWX) could technically count if you don't mind it being just wwx who ends up in the future?

take me back to a time by DizziDreams (T, 143k, WangXian, Modern AU, College/University, Modern with Magic, Time Travel, Sharing a Bed, Angst with a Happy Ending, Student!WWX, Time-Traveling Wizard!LWJ, Slow Burn, Character Death, Angst, reference to abuse, Canonical Character Death, Canonical Abuse, Canon!LWJ, Canon-Typical Violence, Mutual Pining, Chronic Illness, Not A Fix-It, Case Fic, implied 3zun, Transmigration, America, [Podfic of] take me back to a time by dreamhazer) not sure if this can work

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12. ITMF for fics where wwx is abused sexually by the jiangs (JFM/JC) or an adult male figure he trusts. (Like the "between a rock and a hard place" series by Mydla but the truth is revealed and it's properly dealt with/ he gets his justice) @linossock

🔒 a choice to call our own by renhui (E, 93k, wangxian, JFM/WWX, WIP, Rape/Non-Con, Underage, Angst with a Happy Ending, Childhood Sexual Abuse, Sexual Assault, Forced Bonding, Homelessness, Dubious Consent, Self-Esteem Issues, Soulmates, Not Actually Unrequited Love, Pining while fucking, Misunderstandings, Miscommunication, Breaking Up & Making Up, Hurt/Comfort, Recovery, Good Uncle LQR, No Sunshot Campaign, Asexuality Spectrum) mostly fits the bill, although the requester should be warned that it's a WIP that ends before JFM gets his comeuppance, although it ends with the beginnings of a setup for that, so it's clearly on the way.

clean from the war (your heart fits like a key) by sysrae (E, 28k, WangXian, Modern AU Reunions, past xy/wwx, xy is fucked up but not evil because it's a modern AU and I said so, Hurt/Comfort, Panic Attacks, past wwx/jfm, Past Rape/Non-con, Past Abuse, Rape Recovery, transphobic violence, Victim Blaming, Past wei Wuxian/others, allusions to past self-harm) I think this might fit- note the tags

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13. thank you for this blog!! for the next itmf - any stories that take off like RoseThorne's wonderful ' a grain of millet drifting' - untamed canon-ish where WY is left on his own after the temple scene. angst appreciated - thank you !

tell some storm by qurbat (G, 31k, wangxian, JC & WWX, LSZ & WWX, NHS & WWX, Post-Canon, Hurt/Comfort, Fluff, liberal amounts of outsider POV, the legend of wangxian, how to create a romance epic for dummies)

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14. Hey can plz anyone tell if there is a fic where wei ying is an omega and wangji is an alpha and we ying is an op omega but no one knows about it like everyone thinks that he is an alpha or something.

backfire by spookykingdomstarlight (E, 115k, wangxian, LWJ/MXY, One-Sided MXY/WWX, MXY/NMJ, Modern, BDSM AU, Biologically Determined Dom/sub Roles, BDSM, Bad BDSM Etiquette, Sadism, Masochism, Past Sexual Abuse, Sexual Slavery, Self-Harm, BDSM as a Form of Self-Harm, Minor Character Death(s), Arson, Shades of Black Widow WWX, Extremely Dubious Consent, Rape/Non-con Elements, Normalized Homosexuality and Bisexuality, Normalized Polyamory, nonsexual bdsm, Slow Burn, Mutual Pining, Pining WWX, jealous WWX, Touch-Starved WWX, Professional Dominant WWX, Sex Worker WWX, gentle dom LWJ, Mean Dom LWJ, oblivious LWJ, Past WC/WWX, Minor JGY/WWX, Mentioned WWX/Others, Emotional Infidelity, Angst with a Happy Ending, endgame wangxian, MXY Also Gets a Happy Ending, the tags are scary but i promise there's some lightheartedness too, wangxian love one another so much, WWX is healed by the power of nonsexual bdsm and friendship, and then gets bdsm'd quite sexually and happily by the love of his life, Additional Warnings In Author's Note)

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15. helloooo do you know of any fics that are canon events (mdzsverse preferred but cql still fine) narrated from lwj's pov where he's just horrifically pining for wwx? looking for peak canon-compliant lwj pining <3 @nutellacats

🔒 The Price of Old Wishes by SoManyJacks (E, 67k, WangXian, Minor canon divergence, Angst, POV LWJ, Depression, Suicidal Thoughts, Eventual Happy Ending, Eventual Smut, Slow Burn, Emotional Hurt/Comfort, semi-verbal!LWJ, Implied/Referenced Homophobia, Implied/Referenced Suicide) Novel events from LWJ's pov

The Choice is His to Believe in Me by mrcformoso (T, 11k, WangXian, POV LWJ, Angst with a Happy Ending, Canon Compliant, Canon Divergence, but only the ending, WangXian Get a Happy Ending, LWJ regaining WWX's Trust, Golden Core Reveal, Good Kid LSZ, Snippets, Post-Time Skip, Love Confessions, Requited Love, Trust Issues, WWX Has a Fear of Dogs, WWX Has No Golden Core, Light Jealousy, Fierce Corpse WN, Protective LWJ) CQL compliant but with some novel elements, and with a canon divergence ending. Might want to read New Perspective (link in #6) first for context

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16. Hello! For the next itmf, fics that place heavy emphasis on how what wwx practices is guidao (ghost cultivation) as opposed to modao (demonic cultivation)? Ideally canon dynamics, but no smut is also definitely ok! @lovelyiknow

The Young, the Horny, the Jaded and the Jade: Partners in Time by Admiranda (T, 55k, wangxian, established couple, Crossover, road trip with your older selves, teasing your younger selves about their obvious crushes, yin iron does yin iron things, mdzs/cql crossover, adult wangxian, Teenage Wangxian, genius WWX, LWJ adores his husband, we’re all in this disaster together, xue yang causes problems, WIP)

Ad Oblivione by Baph, HikariNoHimeWriter (M, 70k, WangXian, Time Travel Fix-It, Temporary Character Death, Canon-Typical Violence, POV Multiple, Hurt/Comfort, Grief/Mourning, Identity Reveal, Golden Core Reveal, Cultivation World Critical, Not JC Friendly, Abusive YZY, Angst with a Happy Ending) Been a while since I last read this one but I recall WWX working & interacting with ghosts & corpses & explaining to other characters how that works

🔒 the thread may stretch or tangle but it will never break by RoseThorne (E, 91k, WIP, WangXian, Canon Divergence, Soulmates, Self-Esteem Issues, Fix-It, Angst, Hurt/Comfort, Nightmares, PTSD, Handfasting, Panic Attacks, Getting Together, First Time, Aftercare, Implied/Referenced Alcohol Abuse/Alcoholism, /Referenced Torture, Scars, Chronic Pain, Golden Core Reveal, First Time, Switching, sex-related injury, LWJ Stays at the Burial Mounds, LSZ is a Wèi, Good Sibling JC, Dissociation, Burial Mounds Settlement Days) in later chapters

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17. For itmf, what are you guys’ favorite fics that are novel or audio drama canon only fics? No CQL compliant fics please!

two guys r in love thats literally it by victortor (M, 11k, wangxian, Time Travel, the fluffiest thing ive ever written)

🧡 a stone to break your soul, a song to save it by rikke ( M, 180k, WangXian, Arranged marriage, Canon Divergence, Hurt/comfort, Light angst, Canon typical violence)

SanRen by Kyogre (T, 87k, wangxian, Canon Divergence, Different First Meeting, Romantic Fluff, Action & Romance, Eventual Happy Ending)

the field meets the wood by astronicht (T, 7k, WangXian, BAMF WWX, slight whump, Ritualistic Self Harm, Canon Era, Tang Dynasty style, Blood Loss, Blood and Injury, salt economics, Post-Canon)

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[merylxavakos]

I saw something about Make A Terrible Comic Day and I was like hey... I make terrible comics sometimes...

(NB: being a big fat whore is a beautiful thing and I love it – it's just an uncomfortable thing to be when interacting with the NHS)

[evegwood]

I was rereading your breakdown of the playlists and I was kind of intrigued by how you outright stated that David's insecurities are not related to his transness but to the power things - because, like, I don't think it's all meant to be a 1:1 metaphor, but specfic stories like that exist very much in conversation with more mundane issues people face so that distinction stood out to me? (cont.)

(cont.) Like, people such as David get detained in places that feel and work and look like the institutions in Inhibit IRL for various non-specfic reasons, and stories like this are a bit of a dialogue with these issues, especially one like this that goes into the mundane little miseries of it all. Would it be correct to say that that was your way of saying "I don't want people to reduce his character entirely to transness"? Thanks, love the comic!

Hey that's a good question! For sure there are real-world counterparts to a lot of the themes of Inhibit, but specifically when it comes to my queer characters I wanted the story to be completely neutral about their queerness. I do have a lot of thoughts on this so this might be long haha. Hopefully I cover everything I want to cover, I wrote this whole thing out and then hit ctrl+z to delete a line and Tumblr deleted the entire post without letting me ctrl+y because this is a working website that doesn't suck ass. I had to retype it all so I'm sorry if any of it is disconnected, I couldn't remember the exact order I said everything argh ANYWAY

When I started writing Inhibit I didn't realise I was trans, and then I came out as nonbinary, and then I started to transition, so I've had a whole spectrum of thinking "how should I handle transness in this comic?" over my time working on it. Pretty early on I decided that none of the characters would suffer because of being trans, they wouldn't have any anxiety about it, other characters wouldn't treat them differently etc; the story takes place in a world where superpowers are real, so it wouldn't be crazy for transness to also just be normal and accepted there lmao

However now I think that this is a pretty reductive way to represent the trans experience. Like it or not, being trans informs almost everything about you, and I didn't let my trans characters have that nuance. Vic being a white, seemingly cis* seemingly het** dude is pretty central to his character arc***, so actually examining queerness in this society would have been interesting. There was room to do that; something that is canon and just has never come up is that Urquhart sponsors their trans officers' HRT etc so they don't need to go through the NHS, meaning those officers are reliant on Urquhart long past their service. You're right: what would a conversation between the mundane and fantastical elements of Inhibit look like? I, 2023 Eve, would like to have that conversation! But this far into the story, I kinda missed the train on it.

* he uses any pronouns, he is shrug-gender ** he is bi *** spoilers wow he is privileged actually

I honestly think that I haven't done a good job at highlighting my trans characters, particularly for an audience that doesn't expect to see trans characters. I don't think I've done David and Masha justice as trans characters beyond little nods that readers could miss or not even understand, and there are some characters whose nonbinary/trans identities have just never been mentioned (Holly is nb, Jezza and Toby are trans - again just hasn't come up because of scenes and lines changing or being cut, there's so much that you can't fit into a story even when it's as long as this). So to finally answer your question, it isn't that I didn't want people to reduce David to his transness, because I don't think there's enough of his transness in the comic for that to even happen. I don't think anyone reads Inhibit and thinks oh yeah, David, you know, the trans one. It really was that at the time of writing the playlist breakdowns, I was firm that none of the Inhibit characters had anxiety or neuroses about being trans. Instead, all their neuroses were about their superpowers, because that's the fun angst.

Now looking back on Inhibit, there is actually an excruciating amount of evidence for the story kind of being a trans narrative ("oh god i can't control my own body oh god", "oh no people think my body should do this thing" etc). It's so interesting how creators have these themes that they continuously go back to in their work, even unintentionally, and mine is oops all trans. If I were to rewrite Inhibit from scratch now, I'd probably try to include more of that nuance and actually engage with those themes because I realise that they're there haha.

I hope all this answers your question? Kind of? A little? My ultimate conclusion is that I thought what I was doing was writing good trans characters, when ultimately I think I failed to write characters that are truly explicitly trans. On the other hand, maybe characters like David and Masha are the exact kind of trans rep that some people want and are looking for. Either way I'm actively working to write better trans characters in the future because trans people rule, and this was a really interesting question to reflect on, thank you!

[theworldibuilt4you]

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[heywetotheotherworld]

Nb, also: when they ask you at the doctor's how many menstrual products you've soaked, they rarely ask what size. There's a substantial difference between a light tampon and the largest size of overnight pad, in terms of capacity.

There was a (probably searchable) recommendation from the NHS that you weigh your dry/soaked menstrual products and take the difference, if you want a reasonably accurate sense of how much blood you're losing to a single mense. It's a lot easier to get doctors to take you seriously when you have a number to give them. (Should it be? Hell no. They should just listen to you, but here we are.)

You can even convert for the specific gravity if you're feeling fancy about it.

hey, hi, I was just on the former bird app and came across this info from a brand new study and now I cannot stop screaming internally??? what the actual fuckkkk

theres' an article from the guardian here and here is the actual study:

[itsrattysworld]

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[thecocacolacorporation]

I have lost all hope with the NHS at this point.

I see behind the scenes every day as part of my job and it is just a rotten bloated corpse of an organisation at this point. But the past few interactions I've had with doctors as a patient has left me completely without hope for ever receiving decent medical advice.

I have been complaining about heavy irregular very painful periods for over a decade now. I've never been diagnosed with PCOS (but it seems extremely likely). They did the wrong type of ultrasound last time I went for a diagnosis.

Despite not really wanting to, I finally conceeded to going on Desogestrel. It was presented to me as 'either you go on the pill or you have the coil, or you just sit and suffer'. It has worked remarkably well. Hardly any bleeding now, no pain, great.

NB: I am a cis woman. I attended the appointment where I was prescribed the pill with my cis male partner, who I introduced as such. Don't worry! This fact will become important later!

What I was less happy about was when I looked up the BNF NICE guidelines and saw that it interacts with my epilepsy medication.

I brought it up in my next medication review. It was horribly apparent that they were not going to bring up this drug interaction at all (so there is a tip for you all! Check ALL drugs on the BNF NICE guidelines website! Because your doctor won't!) The pharmacist didnt seem to know anything about it. Then eventually they said 'yes, they can interact and make your birth control less effective...but you were only on Desogestrel for your periods right?'

As if, AS IF, there are many women in long term monogamous heterosexual relationships who WOULDNT USE IT AS BIRTH CONTROL, IF THEY HAD TO TAKE IT ANYWAY! They said nothing to me about reduced protection from pregnancy. I even asked them 'how long does it take before it protects me from pregnancy?' as just a little HINT of what I might be planning to do while on the pill. THEY SHOULD TELL EVERYONE IN MY POSITION THAT THEIR BIRTH CONTROL MIGHT NOT BE EFFECTIVE.

I am so done.

At this point I don't want to speak to a doctor again. I'm too angry. I go to appointments now with my hackles raised.

I think I am very unlucky in having 2 conditions where the majority of sufferers are women. I have been treated like it genuinely does not matter if I can barely walk for a week every month. Like it does not matter that I have stabbing pains behind my eyes on an almost daily basis. Like me being absolutely bone tired, to the point I cannot keep my eyes open in work, is just something I should live with.

The only advice I have ever received is 'lose weight'. No one has asked me what my diet is like currently. No one has asked me what exercise I do at the moment. No one has even seemingly twigged about how hard it must be to go to the gym when you have the symptoms listed above. No one seems to give a shit that I was in exactly the same position a decade ago, unable to move from period pain, when I was in the depths of an eating disorder and firmly in the 'average' BMI category.

Fuck everything man.

[llycaons]

last rb reminds me of that fic series that started off so promising (early GC reveal, all events therafter fixed, open communication, happy ending, etc.) but the further it went the weirder and more ooc it got.

they entirely removed any political intrigue or drama or even like. commentary and went with "well wwx and his friends (which for some reason included nhs) are going to all do the Right Thing (TM)" and they saved the wens and everything was perfect but out of the HORROR of what he'd seen lwj took off his headband and SECEDED from his sect because THATS the takeaway the author had and the bad guys were assholes and died and the good guys all made a nice little village on the jiang clan territory because of course jiang cheng was totally cool with letting the wens establish there and it was all just a great big happy fucking family which of course was weird enough but then they had wen qing and mianmian and jiang cheng have a threesome???? it's bad enough they had jc and wwx get all happy-tearful about lwj and wwx's wedding without literally years of reflection or seclusion or growth to fix that relationship but that damage to wen qing's character really was the final straw

it's actually up there as one of the worst things I've read. the utter disrespect for the setting, context, characterization, and characters themselves in every line...why be invested in the story if you hated it so bad you needed to change literally everything about it in the most superficial and bland and one-dimensional way

[cozycreaturescorner]

very fortunate for all of you that i am queer and also sexy

[gayhatsune]

nb wwx is superior.

no i will not take critisism about this.

[themogaidragon]

Tone Tags Masterlist

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Tone tag/Tone Indicators: symbols attached to a content to explicitly state the intonation/intent of it, especially when it may be otherwise ambiguous. Tone tags are used to explicitly state the author's intent, instead of leaving the content up to interpretation.

Tone tags may be placed at the end of a message, taking the form of a forward slash followed by an abbreviation of a relevant words. Alternatively, a more detailed textual description (ex: /friendly, caring about your well-being) may be used.

For example, /srs may be attached to the end of a message to indicate that the message is meant to be interpreted in a serious manner, as opposed to, for example, being a joke (which is commonly represented as /j).

Source: Wikipedia (link).

Prefix of tone tags: /h-: half of an emotion or intention. For example, /hsrs means half serious. /l-: a little bit of an emotion or intention. For example, /lm would mean a little mad. /s-: slightly something. For example, /sann would mean slightly annoyed. /v-: very much of an emotion or intention. For example, /vpos means very positive.

/srs: serious | /gen or /g: genuine | /msrs: mostly serious

/hsrs: half serious | /nsrs: not serious

/cur: curious

/GS: genuine suggestion

/grq or /genrq: genuine request

/ao: an order, instruction | /nao: not an order

/genq or /gq: genuine question | /rh or /rt or /rtq: rhetorical question

/afa: asking for advice | /jw: just wondering

/jq: joke question | /nsrsq: not a serious question

/j: joking | /mj: mainly joking | /hj: half joking | /jbt: joking but true

/uj: unjerk, the content is not a joke and it is serious

/rj: rejerk, the content is a joke or not serious

/ma: messing around | /la: laughing

/ij: inside joke | /t: teasing | /pf: playful

/cwh: coping with humour | /cj: coping joke

/jov: jokingly overreacting | /hjov: half-jokingly overreacting

/npi: no pun intended | /pi: pun intended

/s or /sarc: sarcastic | /ms: mostly sarcastic | /hq: half sarcastic

/lhs: light-hearted sarcasm

/dkm: don't kill me

/i: ironic | /ui: unironic

/naf: no april fool | /cr: cringey | /non: nonsense

/ji or /slur: joke insult, usage of word that isn't a slur has one jokingly

/otl: okay to laugh | /pl: please laugh

/pos or /pc: positive connotation

/e or /exc or /exci or /!: excited | /hap: happy

/cel: celebratory

/pr: prideful | hpr: half prideful | /npr: not prideful

/jpr: jokingly prideful | br: bragging | /nabr: not a brag

/fx: flex | /nafx: not a flex

/neu: neutral connotation | /js: just saying | /st: still thinking

/calm: calm | /unin: unintentional

/lh: lighthearted | /hlh: half light heated

/nw: not weird intent | /nc: not creepy intent

/neg or /nc: negative connotation

/w: worried | /anx or /anxi: anxious | /nerv: nervous

/nh: not hostile | /nbr: not being rude

/pa: passive aggressive | /npa: not passive agressive

/v or /av or /vent: venting | /rant: ranting | /nav or /nv: not a vent

/at or /ay: at you | /nay: not at you | /gy: general you

/ind: indirect | /dir: direct | /v: vague | /gs: general statement

/nbh: referring to nobody here, in this conversation

/sbh: somebody here, in this conversation

/nst or /nsb: not subtweeting, not referring to anybody

/nmah: not mad at anyone here

/nmay: not mad at you | /nbyk: nobody you know

/nbs: nobody specific, content isn't directed toward anyone

/otr: okay to ask for reassurance (that the content isn't about you)

/nai: not an insult

/ngt: not guilt-tripping | /nmaa: not mad at anyone

/m: mad | /nm: not mad

/u or /up: upset | /lu: a little upset | /vu: very upset

/ag or /ang: angry | /ann: annoyed | /ny: not yelling

/b: bitterly | /outr: outraged | /over: overdramatic

/th or /thr: threat | /eth or /et: empty threat

/nf: not forced | /wc: with consent | /iyc: if you’re comfortable

/nfta: not forced to answer | /dr: don't reply

/p: platonically | /r or /rom: romantically | /qp: queer platonically

/x or /sx: sexual intent | /nsx or /ns: non sexual intent

/ars: alterous | /sens: sensual

/a: affectionate | /fam: familial | /ci: caring, care intended

/fl: flirting | /nfl: not flirting

/em: empathizing | /sym: sympathizing

/cf: conforting | /gentle: gentle | /w: warmth

/apa or /apath: apathetic tone | /conf: confused tone

/l or /ly or /lyr: lyrics | /mhly: misheard lyrics

/fic or /fiction: related to fictional characters/events/concepts

/rp: roleplaying

/kin or /k: speaking in the context of kin

/ref: reference | /c: copypasta | /q: quote | /para: paraphrasing

/li: litteral, litteraly | /m: metaphorical | /rh: rhetorical

/hyp: hyperbole | /ex: exaggeration

/ovs: oversimplification

/fr: feed response | /nfr: not feed response

/tsnc: there is no context | /ts: to self, intended for the user's own use

/rel: related to the same topic

/ot: off topic | /unr: unrelated to current topic | /tan: tangent

/irre: irrelevant | /unre: unrelated

/cont: continued in the next content

/st: statement | /info: informational

/cb: clickbait | /f: fake | /nf: not fake

/safe: safe content, not a screamer, a bait, a trik, etc.

/ma: manifesting

/oti: okay to interact | /dni: do not interact

/dniuc: do not interact unless close

/otic: okay to interact carefully, with caution

/otig: okay to interact but please be gentle

/pi: please interact | /dnc: do not comment

/sympt: symptom | /trig: trauma trigger | /fb: having a flashback

/echo: repeating something someone else said | /tys: typing stim

/tic: tic, content text sent as a tic, not intentionally

/bm or /bdm: body's memories

/exo, /exm, /psd, or /psdo: exomemories/psuedomemories

/hsp or /Iw: innerworld/headspace

/uil: using I lightly

[thatswhatsushesaid]

okay so these tags:

1. lxc would be the first person to tell you that his judgment in that moment is extremely compromised because he genuinely does not know what to believe about the person he cares for most in the world, besides lwj. that is literally how nhs tricks him into stabbing jgy, because lxc's judgment is compromised.

2. no, jgy does not say that he would hurt anyone but lxc. he is paraphrasing back at lxc all of the crimes that he has been accused of committing--some he is guilty of, some he is objectively not guilty of, some where his guilt can never be known--to make a point that he has done a lot of terrible things! but the one terrible thing he would never do is harm lxc. this is very much not the same thing as what is written in that tag.

3. "moral compass" I move that this fandom collectively agrees not to play morality olympics while discussing this novel, because the morally good vs morally bad discourse around jgy vs wwx is so, so, so useless. all those in favour, all those opposed, etc.

4. which sex workers are you talking about? it is entirely possible that jgy did know the sex workers in the yunping city brothel that he asked xy to burn down after hearing jgs denigrating him and meng shi with the other sex workers in the villainous friends extra. remember that meng shi was already older when jgy was born, and continued working well into his teenage years, and that sisi was his mother's friend and confidante. it's absolutely possible that some of the people in that brothel were people who had caused jgy and his mother material harm while he was a child.

5. that said, jgy's willingness to kill strangers where necessary was not the point of the original post, which was about jgy's willingness to kill his loved ones. wwx is equally willing to kill complete strangers in an extremely gruesome fashion, which does not strip him of his good boy protagonist card even when that method of killing is totally unnecessary. (nb: inb4 the antis @ me again, I am not bringing this up to drag wwx!! I am highlighting hypocrisy and unevenly applied ~morality~ standards by this fandom!)

6. we will never know whether jgy actually killed jrs or not.

7. nmj was the first one to break the oath of sworn brotherhood when he kicked jgy down the jinlintai steps, denigrated jgy and his mother, and then immediately lifted baxia with every intention of following him down the steps to finish the job.

my post about JGY’s tactics if he hadn’t wanted Jin Ling to be heir has fully made its way to the JGY-hating, or at least JGY-misunderstanding, parts of fandom, and i’ve got to just say

where does this idea that JGY will hurt absolutely anyone, including those he cares about, for personal gain come from? because he just… doesn’t do that? people he hates end up dead. but he does not kill sisi when he probably should have. he does not kill xue yang (or at least, doesn’t try hard enough to kill him to make totally sure he’s dead, and then lets him come back when it turns out he’s not). he only is going to leave su minshan to die when literally given permission. he could have just stabbed qin su on the spot when it was clear she wasn’t going to cooperate, and instead left himself in a much more difficult situation (or, you know, had her killed shortly after the wedding!).

even if you’re sure he killed rusong, which i’m not, that’s one time! it’s a very big time, killing your son is a big deal, but it’s also the only example of something people claim is a key character trait. 

am i insane? is there an incident i’m missing? besides eventually deciding to kill nie mingjue under tons of pressure, and after multiple death threats and years of trying to make peace? 

[lasseizlesbontempsrouler]

States pronouns and how they react when you ask. You don't have to do all of them, and you don't have to if you've already done it

AK - "uhm.. i don't know. he/him i guess" or "[fucking ignores you]" giggles he <3 AL - "those uh. them there boy ones yeah. uh roll tide?" he/him AR - ":stares at you with those eyes of his: why don't you guess" he/him, but he won't get pissed off if you use they/them AZ - "he/she." he says nothing further, just fades into the distance CA - "oh! he/him!! what about yours?" "[prns]" "oh! cool! you know i once had a friend who also used [prns]!" CO - "huh? oh. any i guess" CT - they/them or he/him but he doesn't directly tell you he shoves an index card in your face that says "he/they. stop asking" DE - "whatever you want i don't care" he genuinely doesn't care FL - "hehe uh ur mom" genderfluid arc. he never tells anyone, louisiana just knows. GA - "[snoring]" he/him + she/her but like. only if you're super close HI - "she/her and he/him" IA - "what? oh minnesota was talking about those" he/him ID - "they.. them?" IL - "???" he/him. chicago would spit on you (uses any prns) IN - ":] yes" mostly he/him, but likes other ones used from time to time KS - "JKNBI uh he/him i guess?" he was mid ranch bottle why did you interrupt him KY - "i don't know" doesn't know. use he/him for now LA - "they/he. mais, et tu sha?" i guess he knows french. also stfu nb (still he/him using) loui supremacy MA - "he" MD - "anything works hon, i'm not picky?" he's handing you an old bay can. all prns maryland ME - "i don't know." they/them MI - "[choking on vernors noises]" he/him or they/them, but never use both in the same sentence about him MN - "ope! he/him works just fine right now, don'tcha know! how about you?" genderfluid minnesota. MO - "wait what? uh he/him i think.." use they/them in case MS - "he/him please :] how about you?" MT - "[read 2:47]" they/he NC - "he/she. you?" ND - "uh sure whatever" literally uses any NE - "[n/a]" he/it NH - "[stares at you] he. he/him" NJ - "[probably punches you in the dick and slurs you]" he/him NM - ".. he/they" NV - "currently he/she check again later" genderfluid nevada drools NY - "[bites you]" he/xe OH - "uh" literally will use any pronouns prefers the he/it ones ngl OK - "okay and" he/him OR - "uh they/he? yours?" PA - ":/ he/him" RI - "[kicks your ankles] he/him. CAUSE I'M HIM ALRIGHT" SC - "the fuck is a pronounce" he/him SD - "deez nuts" they/them TN - "[guitar noises]" he/they TX - "i don't use those" he/him UT - "i don't believe in pronouns :]" he/him VA - "[stares at you like an owl]" she/he VT - "literally kys" they/them WA - "they/he or she. how about you huh?" WI - "[passed out]" any prns WV - "no" no prns OR they/them is you must WY - "why" he/him