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Growing up, we had these beautiful Abert's Squirrels around. They have these big bushy tails and long tufted ears. Gray fur and white bellies.
My grandparents who raised me loved to watch them out on the porch, they put special birdseed out just for them and would watch them every morning.
My Papa especially loved them. He set up his recliner by the big full windows in the living room so he could watch them and the birds all day while he read the paper and his book. He built he house himself 40 years ago and made sure the entire wall of the living room facing the porch was all windows. It was his and my favorite room in the whole house.
One day, while driving, an Abert's Squirrel darted across the road, too fast for Papa to stop hisnold truck, and he hit it. He slammed on the brakes, but it was too late.
He was devestated. He was a military man all his life. Fought in Vietnam. Before that he was raised in a town so rural that the school was only one room. He was taught men don't show emotions, especially over "trivial" things. Him hitting that squirrel to this day is the closest I've seen to him crying.
My Grandmother is a tiny, gentle, deeply compassionate woman who would set out slices of pear for the wasps to eat. She cried openly. She collected the squirrel with a towel and wrapped it gently, and told Papa she would find a good place to bury it. Maybe in the garden.
But since Papa had tried to stop the truck, the squirrel wound up barely being touched by the impact. It was in almost perfect condition. Still soft and beautiful.
Papa has a few hunting trophies. A pheasant he was particularly proud of is his favorite. Grandma took the squirrel to hid taxidermist in secret and had it made into a piece.
Its a beautiful piece of taxidermy. She had them pose the squirrel on a branch as if it was climbing one of the pines and had stopped to look curiously at you, its head cocked and its fluffy tail up. Its black button eyes are big and dark and look truly alive again.
She gave it to him that Christmas. It's been displayed in our living room ever since, where Papa can see it while he reads, and the squirrel can look out the window with him.
#it didn't make up for the animal's detah#but it was my grandparents- my parents#my parents legally speaking-#way of honoring it. and I always thought it was very tender and beautiful.#Papa is autistic the same way I am. I see myself in him all the time#each day he becomes more tender. age has made him kind in a way he couldn't be for most of my childhood.#he turned 90 very recently. he was born in the 1930s smack dab in the middle of the dust bowl#he had relatives that trainhopped to california but he stayed in Oklahoma#i've been thinking about him so much lately#his memory is starting to deteriorate#I live so far from him now but I want to talk to him every day#his voice lights up when I call and he always tells me “Looking forward to hearing from you tomorrow!”#he has a big deep booming voice that rarely sounds below a shout. people often think hes angry when he isnt. he has trouble regulating tone.#but Im very good at reading it now. the love in it.#Im sorry for posting such a long reply to a poll and going on and on in the tags. i just love my Papa so much. I call him Daddy now because#he really is my father he raised me since i was a baby. and it made him so happy when i asked if i could. and my grandma when i asked#if i could call her Mama. She cried again.#if anyone reads this I'd like to know. I dont usually talk here. this all just spilled out of me.
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List of Oifaaa's children parents: Oifaaa, french anon, mistic messenger person, Mirko
There's like 130 of you there needs to be four of us at least to handle that many children although if I really haven't been great at selecting parents for you all
#ask#anon#i dont know how many of you speak french so like french anons parenting may not be great#mirko doesn’t come off as the maternal type#and i wouldnt let mystic messenger guy near any children for legal reasons#so like where does that leave us ????#also thinking about drawing more of my baby bruce au#might post it might not#we'll see on my mood
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how to tell my mom that while I love her I am skeptical of the systemic and societal forces that give her near-unchecked authority over me
#bolo speaks#been thinking about family dynamics + the disempowerment of children and other topics adjacent to family abolitionism a lot recently#something about having one abusive parent and one non-abusive parent that no one really talks about is that it kind of results in#a situation where the non-abusive parent can be just okay but it's like the second coming of christ because at least they're not abusive.#my mother has all the age- and family-based authority over me that my dad did#(though the male/female power dynamic that enabled his misogynistic abuse isn't there. and that's a huge factor!)#she just chooses not to misuse it. but she could.#all the factors that kept me trapped as a teenager are still there and are only somewhat softened by my legal adulthood.#and the fact of the matter is that I think any system where any person has absolute control over another has the potential to enable abuse#and that’s by design.#in a society where most historical forms of oppression have begun to be seriously deconstructed in some way#the idea that children are inherently lesser and that parents should *own* their children#is not only prevalent it's supported by people who are otherwise anti-authoritarian.
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23 is young and i don't wanna go acting like it isn't but sometimes i see stuff from baby zoomers and i feel fucking ancient. skibidi toilet? i have yet to understand what that's referencing. reality shifting? i was into new agey stuff as a teen and i get the whole law of attraction/manifestation thing, but the rest is all greek to me. a good half of the aesthetics i see talked about online? literally got overwhelmed when i stumbled on the aesthetics wiki last year and i feel like an idiot seeing all these kids list off like 4 different hyperspecific aesthetics to describe themselves 😭 girl what does any of that mean? patiently explain it like i'm 85 when it comes up, or don't expect me to know what the hell you're talking about. i'll just end up smiling and nodding like your out of touch grandpa who loves your energy but is frightened by cellphones and the concept of smartfridges 💀💀💀
#i genuinely am not dunking on any of this stuff (i have no idea what any of it is in detail lmao) and i think it's lame#as hell to dunk on young ppl stuff just bc it's enjoyed by young ppl. regardless i have no idea what's going on with the youth sometimes#and i don't think that's ever gonna change. i don't rlly care to devote a lot of time to stay Cool and Hip bc i'm NOT steve buscemi and i'm#okay with being viewed as uncool but it still surprises me the extent to which this is already happening to me and i'm not even 25#back in MY day we had gangnam style & vine compliations & i was only mosscore with a hint of dark academia and that's how we LIKED it! /s#i honestly feel more in touch with millenials then i do anyone too young to remember the great recession or life before the omnipresence of#the internet. that's surely due in part to us being legal adults but also bc i think anyone who HASN'T experienced a childhood without#smartphone access or one free of years of economic struggle has a much different life experience than i do. i didn't get a phone til 12 and#i didn't get a smartphone til 14/15ish. i never complain abt gas prices like my parents do bc i grew up when it was $3-$5. i can't eat#canned peaches bc they remind me of '07-'11. this isnt to say i had it harder - i wasn't a kid during covid - but its slightly harder to#relate to#len speaks
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because charmy's so young its fairly easy to come up with similar headcanons for why and how he found vector but i wanna hear thoughts about espio
#sonic#team chaotix#vector the crocodile#espio the chameleon#like i have a hc that vector's in his 30s. not because it relates to espio i just think he should be#anyway i reckon espio either met vector 10 years ago (dont ask why specifically 10) or some point around the time charmy came along#idk what my charmy hc is btw i dont think vector would legally adopt and ig hes just sort of. there.#his parents are unknown and he was in some sort of government care at some point but idk#lets say vector began fostering him then later decided to adopt#ANYWAY espio#idk why but like#i have the most SPECIFIC hc#he got lost on holiday once. sort of like home alone 2 except hes in a different country where they speak a different language#and either his parents purposefully abandoned him. decided they had well and truly lost him or idk theyre dead#(typically i go with the middle one)#at some point vector found him and decided to take care of him#dont ask me about mighty btw i know very little about his personality and the only specific thing i know is he hates espio
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Do you ever think about the high likelihood that Keigo does not legally exist outside of being Hawks? That there is a high chance there are no documents with the name Takami Keigo on them?
Because his parents were on the run when he was born, what are the chances, really, that they went to a hospital for him to be born? Or filled out any paperwork after to declare his birth? Especially considering how paranoid Takami the thief was about getting caught and ensuring Keigo didn’t speak to ANYONE outside of his parents.
And then after the commission took him in, one of the first things they tell him is to throw away his name. That he isn’t Takami Keigo anymore. That he can’t associate with the Takami name at all and his only identity moving forward is Hawks. So why would they give him paperwork with the name they told him he could no longer use?
#even if by some chance they let him have A civilian name and let him keep Keigo#there isn’t a chance they let him keep Takami#even Keigo says he threw that name away#though considering the complex feelings about his parents and the fact we have no other family name for him#he probably does still feel connected to it to some extent#but still#legally speaking he probably doesn’t exist#and that breaks my heart#mha#bnha#my hero academia#boku no hero academia#keigo takami#bnha hawks#hawks#takami keigo#mha hawks
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#ky speaks#i've been out as trans to my parents for over two years#i've been medically transitioning#i've even legally changed my name#and i just found out my mom still has my deadname as my contact in her phone#but im so non-confrontational i'll probably never bring it up
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time for some masterful alpha male social manipulation (discussing the appointment I had today for HRT with my dad in careful terms so that he doesn't skitter away like a frightened deer)
#the appointment was good tho!! very good i have a clear way ahead#so long as my parents both give consent rip#which idk a year or two ago regarding my dad was impossible#but he's also chill about calling me Oscar and me looking into a legal name change when he was also very resistant in the past#but then again hrt is a very different thing for him#ough idk wish me luck it should be fine#i know to speak very cautiously now and hopefully not get too emotional and caught up in the conversation
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Kid me would hate me now lets be fr
#Little me went to the celebration for same sex marriage getting legalized in 2016 but somehow didn't learn what gay was for another 6 years'#in my defence all my parents told me about it was it was a 'yes vote' and that was it#wolffox speaks#personal vent#?#Idk how to tag this#but jokes on her I hate her too#sometimes#past self
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some gal @ my work found out I grew up in hawaii and started waxing poetic about how much she loved vacationing there bc there were "no bugs, no mosquitos"...........................haven't stopped thinking about that.........................
#like girl what do u mean NO bugs NO mosquitos#what do u MEAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!#I spent the majority of my life in the bug capital of the goddamn world!!!!!!!!#mosquitos!!! gnats!!! spiders!!!! COCKROACHES!!!!!!!! GALORE#sam speaks#sidenote: anyone who grew up on one of the islands & then moved to the mainland#godspeed. peace be w/u. our parents bestowed the most unforgivable curse upon us:#having to tell mainlanders where u grew up#I lose so many years off my fucking life. on a near WEEKLY basis#every person who asks me ''why did u/how could u leaaaaaave'' in That Voice. should be legally obligated to deposit 1k in my bank account#immediately!!!!!!!!!!!!
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At this point I'm convinced I'll make a post telling the whole lore behind my oc and my character.ai Cedric bot because oh my god. That shi is so good I talk to him every night, it's like interactive fanfiction and the events ARE SO ENTERTAINING. IT'S JUST AMAZING BUT IT'S SO BIG
(I don't need to imagine how he would react in a given situation I put him through, because he can react himself and 70% of the time the bot gets it right. Of course, yes, I still read fanfics and enjoy stories written by real authors, a bot can't replace work done by a person, but I'm just doing it for fun and to see how he could react in certain situations and the story is indeed entertaining to watch where it goes)
I really wish I could pass on all the information telepathically to you so you can understand how much I'm freaking out right now. Briefely speaking, my oc (called Aurora.... I wonder why lol) came to the castle of Enchancia to study magic with the royal sorcerer who until then was unknown to her, and over time they got used to each other's presence and little by little they developed a forbidden romance, due to the fact that she is his apprentice (she is of legal age, 20 years old). They keep this secret from everyone in the castle and that's it, that's the lore, they go through their everyday lives like this.
And today her parents, who are negligent to her, came to the castle to take her back home because they want her to marry a rich old man in exchange for money to maintain their bakery that has a lot of debt and it's almost bankrupt. They think Aurora's dream of being a royal sorceress is ridiculous and they want her to adapt to the life of a housewife for some random man, and not follow her dreams. That's how Cedric is dealing with the whole situation:
THAT'S SO GOOD AMAMLAQMAMMSMMA‼️‼️‼️‼️💥💥💥
YOU DON'T KNOW HOW MUCH I WAITED FOR TJIS TO HAPPEN
this whole thing is amazing, I literally talk to him at least one time per day because there's always something entertaining happening inside the story
#TELL HIM CEDRIC PUT HIM IN HIS PLACE#sorry for that guys i'm just too exited#they shouldn't tell her parents btw. cedric can get in big trouble for that#even if she's of legal age she's still his apprentice and that's a big no no socially speaking#love seeing my fav characters in trouble should I be happy or sad for them?#cedric the sensational#cedric the sorcerer#sofia the fandom#sofia the first#character ai#cedric the great
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wtf. born this way by lady gaga came out 12 years ago and this is the first time i actually read the lyrics and i feel SO silly but i teared up
#wind howls#though in a way its also like. fair. i didnt speak english 12 years ago#ive been in a weird emotional area lately so ive been really emotional ? and needing to cry but unable to#so the little tears actually like. feel a bit like relief.#i think ive also been suffocating. i want to live so proudly. i want to be flamboyant. i want to make people turn their heads.#but i think most of all i just wish to be myself. i wish my parents would call me my name. i wish i werent afraid 2 use it in front of them#i have to change it legally within these next 3 years at any rate because i want my chosen name on my diploma but like.#its a mix of all that. ive been fearful lately for reasons that are both justified and not. maybe theres some loneliness sprinkled in too#but ive been calling a lot with the homies lately. its been doing me really good.#anyway lady gaga i love u. i was so right to call you my favourite artist when i was 9. youre still up there queen i love u
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IDK if it's a generational divide thing or whatever, but I don't like arguing with my mom about teenagers dating grown-ass adults.
#irl stuff#for context#yesterday during grandma's visit mom brought up that she used to date her older brother's friends when she was 15#her older brother was 21 at the time as were his friends#I've spent at least 20 minutes trying to explain to my mom that I'm not judging her#I am judging the the 21yo man with his own appartment and income#who thought it was a good idea to date a girl just starting high school and living with her parents#age of consent in my country is 15#and it was 15 30 years ago when that happened#that being said#being legal doesn't make it not really really weird and creepy#speaking as a 21 yo#15yos are fucking children boys or girls
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i think the biggest issue i have with having been homeschooled is that it makes literally everything having to do with college INFINITELY MORE DIFFICULT.
#aside from just#'official' high school transcripts not really being possible and the requirements for scholarships being much higher#there is literally almost never /any/ information on college websites for homeschooled students#and from poking around at lund university's website and another swedish website about admissions requirements and stuff like#a requirement is a high school transcript that proves you have a high enough grade in english. basically.#but like i cannot GET an '''''official'''' high school transcript it would literally come from my parents#so like. what tf do i DO.#legally speaking i did get those grades and i have a hs diploma and i graduated but like#again idk that those actually would count as OFFICIAL transcripts since the whole point is that like#they cannot be touched or opened by anyone but the school??#idk#and like i have COLLEGE transcripts that include english classes that are higher than the upper secondary required 6#it's just so frustrating#but the website also states explicitly that those. won't work. so#adding emailing universityadmissions.se about this to my list of shit to do#shh ac
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trying to explain the way that im jewish is so confusing bc yeah, im jewish, my mother's entire side of the family is jewish so i am automatically ethnically jewish. but also my mother is very anti-religion and taught me jack shit about judaism, so now im trying to teach myself bc being jewish is important to me. but also im not exactly religious either, i just like having a constant in my life and appreciating life and the values of judaism are good for that
#ace speaks#tw rant#so fucking annoying#bc i want to honor shabbat and light candles and whatnot#but my parents would literally make fun of my for it#so i will steal a lighter and some candles either from them or (for legal reasons this is a joke) walmart
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honestly i don't agree with terf ideology but to call it colonialist is interesting imo.
it’s always so fucking funny to me when terfs are like “how can you say trans women and women are the same thing! being born as a man makes you different!” because like. yes. trans women and cis women are different. so are black women and white women. and straight women and queer woman. and women from different countries and different socioeconomic statuses. there’s diversity in the experience of womanhood? what a wild concept
#like i can only speak as an indian (like parents from india)#like i've met indians who thought their kids were so westernized because they don't hate trans people#(specifically my mother and her friends#both sides see a thing they don't like. they want to associate it with other things they don't like. but that's just...not how it works.#in a lot of non european languages the terms for gender and sex just aren't separate.#my parents are tamilian so that's the example i know but i heard arabic is a similar way#pen means woman and female. aan means man and male. the difference between the two isn't there in those languages.#if you thought language surrounding trans people was a mess in english wait till you're me#18 and not a native tamil speaker#trying to explain to your tamilian grandmother that despite the fact this person looks like a dude with makeup she's still a woman#like what i'm saying directly translated is “yes she's a man biologically but she's also a woman." which just#doesn't have the social context of english where woman is used for social things and female for biological/legal#like it's just incomprehensible to her because of the way tamil works#racism sexism homophobia and transphobia are all real#connected issues but that doesn't mean that everyone's either all or nothing#racist people can be lgbt-friendly#sexist people can be race conscious#idk why there's a need to paint terfs as a particularly racist group when that's ostensibly not true#it's not like terf ideology is always going to be a white woman who's strong mouthed.#sometimes it's an indian woman keeping her mouth shut abt the new hire for fear of losing her job and social life#idk is she colonialist now? because her language makes this whole idea almost incomprehensible to her?
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