#my dude is fucking helpless

[vaguely-concerned]

I was going to have rye maaaybe start to buy into solas' whole johnny silverhand deal a little bit more in the post-weisshaupt talk -- to Progress the Arc tm/set up the beginning softening in that relationship and heighten the effect when it eventually goes. quite another way entirely -- but the sheer spectacular cruelty in hindsight of 'at least you still have varric to talk to' is such that considering where I'm intending to end up with this narratively, the stoic 'not here to make friends you fucker gimme your intel' option is simply irresistible. gotta have that echo rattling around rye's head forever when he decides that you know what? I have had enough of being nice, actually. I do want to go ape shit. someone hold my coat for me please I have some work to do and I don't want to stain it. guess for now the ol' watcher training & instincts are still kicking in enough for them to treat solas like a tricky spirit you should treat with respect and good intentions, but also shouldn't be out there offering little fingers to unless you have a whole arm lying around to spare haha

[shadowchargertomyyoong]

the space between the love and support our family thinks we deserve and the love and support we wish they gave us is where most of psychology is written

[byanyan]

ough i was awake until almost 9 this morning with stupid fucking jaw pain so i got like 5 hours of shitty inconsistent sleep and i want to just curl up on the floor n disappear (or cry. both would be fine tbh)

[dockaspbrak]

The way some fics will throw in "my dears" and "my darlings" from old men makes me think of like old ladies in wigs playing the characters hahaha the most unsexual pet names id rather hear "dude" and cowabunga tbqh

[stuck-in-the-ghost-zone]

i think it's just been long enough since the leviathan chapters where it seems I've forgotten how fucking intense endbringer attacks are

[lavendarjevil]

love being able to actively watch someone fall out of love with me

[sethdomain]

yesterday i ordered food and the one who drove it explain to me how busy the queue is, the thing is i would cancel if i can, but i cant cancel it as the order is already made in the kitchen.

I explained it to the one who is going to bring my food over n over again that i cannot cancel it bruh and he kept insinuating that i was 'selfish' when i cannot do anything, how tf am i suppose to know the queue was 'busy' and how am i supposed to cancel it when i literally cannot, i'll have to call the hotline that 90% isnt even helpful most of the time. I try to calm the driver down and shit for some reason, idfk what he's been on but brahhhh he still was pissy and shit and i dont want it to be awkward so i offered 5$(it might look low but its like the equiv of 50$ in my country) as a compesation and so he will stop his weird ass pissy episode when i've literally reasoned with him many many times, also i dont want to get my food from a pissed off driver okay? Like i do not like conflict and i do not want to have chances of making a scene with him. you know what sucks?? the wait for the queue isnt even that long it just takes 5-10 minute, literal standard time for every food order. And uhh because iam also pissed off, i might have not tipped them and broke my promise😢

[catchmewjsn]

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[alorz]

VERY dramatic tags

[girlivealwaysbean]

do you ever just

[cats-thoughts]

@arcticsilver

really fun duo you have there. mind if i add arbitrary roles to their relationship dynamic so i can write one of them as an overprotective caretaker and the other as a naive helpless baby?

[whenuwalking]

tired of feeling cast aside after being super vulnerable to a friend. not sure if its valid but its like. i know i have interpersonal relationship issues. I opened up to this guy and we connected, he listened, I felt like I could relax, it was nice seeing people frequently as I hadn't realized how lonely I was. develop a blurred crush/intense friendship line (one sided, on my side) and then he starts having a crush on my other friend. find out she's not into it and we both have the same problems w him (minus the vulnerable part, bro sort of tore my soul up). He sends her a bunch of invites to do things, when I had been doing that and he would never reply, reply late, or say he's busy. tbf it wasn't really stuff I would want to do but I would've accepted a hangout invite. he replies to her in a timely manner with complete sentences and I'm like. ok so am i chopped liver. i get friends have other friends but you sort of are forgetting about me. she doesn't even like u like that. i encouraged her to let him know asap because he cannot take a single hint, but i'm a rip bandaid off type person.

But it felt bad, feeling like i had a really significant connection to someone, and then feeling like he changed his mind or just doesn't reciprocate or maybe never did. The people I choose don't usually seem to choose me and it makes me feel really bad.

He's a manchild even though he can be very nice and fun to be around, I wish he was more responsible and mature since this all feels very juvenile and avoidable. I cannot confront him about it because any attempt to say "hey what you said made me feel bad lets discuss and maybe not do that," will be met with him getting defensive about how he has to mask so much and it's actually me forcing him to change how he speaks and how this is why he always needs to be hyper-vigilant about every single thing he says. which is bullshit btw and ANOTHER issue I have. No clue what to do other than just relax

[enigma-the-anomaly]

😒

[angelicmemo]

Why! Cant! I! Be! In! Love!

[greattideflow]

its been over a year since i had a kiss or held hands with someone...

[teaboot]

Do you think that cis men feel the same way as trans men do? Like with how men get treated by society as being inherently evil and as predators?

I think maybe both cis and trans men experience these issues but it's easier for a trans guy to point it out because he gets to see people so quickly turn on him for being a man while transitioning

oh yeah definitely

I find "meninists" fucking obnoxious, especially as any of their VALID concerns fall under the bracket of feminism, but there does exist a presence of radfems and terfs that are scarily eager to lash out at anything resembling masculine that. Definitely needs to be addressed somehow

Like. There's a mile of middle ground between "Um yeah women have problems, whatever, but what about ME and MY FEELINGS 😢" and "I am genuinely trying my best to be thoughtful and considerate of others, and everything I do is being met with bad-faith interpretations and dismissal"

And I think the best advice I have for anyone else getting bogged down by this is that. like.

If someone is determined to see the worst in you, nothing you can do to prove otherwise will be enough. You will never change that person's mind. They don't want you to change their mind. So like... just focus on you, and keep doing your best, and learn, and know that people determined to find something nasty don't really have an issue with YOU- they have their own experiences and traumas coloring their worldview.

Someone who is determined to see you as a monster will only ever see a monster. So it's better to ask yourself, "would a monster do what I'm doing?". If the answer is yes, take steps to change that. If the answer is no, then it's not about you, and you can give yourself permission to move on.

So... yeah, I imagine cis men probably do feel the way I feel about this sorta thing sometimes.

Except, like. After a lifetime being a girl, living as a girl, fighting for equality as the only girl in a lot of men's spaces, being a feminist girl and an Eldest Daughter girl and calling out the bullshit only to later realize I'm not a girl... and that Im actually mostly a dude, still a feminist... at least when people call me a mysoginist, I know they're talking out their ass

I can kinda see where young men encounter their very first radfems calling themselves feminists and immediately become radicalized right-wing conservatives cause like. If I as a teen thought feminism meant Radfems and Terfs, I'd probably start running too

It's all just so exhausting

Any one group being wholesale grouped as "100% helpless gentle victim" or "100% selfish malevolent monster" is doomed, imo

(Now watch the notes blow up with "this is just 'not all men' rhetoric, lol)

But anyways I hate nuance I hate interpretation I hate implication and symbolism and context and I wish everything in the world was simpler so we could all blow a collective joint together and invent some new soups