#my childree

[butch-reidentified]

"terfs" (radfems) don't believe an individual's "purpose" is remotely related to sex organs, nor do we believe in a "divine essence" of any sort - female or otherwise; that's your thing not ours lmao

there is an inherent female experience though: the experience of having, all your life, a human body of the female sex, which has anatomically & physiologically developed since you were in the womb around the ***potential*** production of large gametes.

stating the above is a neutral, undeniable, empirical fact, and is not in any remote manner saying your purpose is to give birth, nor even that giving birth is what defines women or the female experience* (actually most radfems I know never intend to do so). the Korean 4B movement is a radical feminist movement - meaning feminism that is for females only, focused on female liberation - and one of its core tenets is not giving birth! radblr's radfems have been celebrating 4B for years. given this, and that so many of us also have no intention of reproducing (though my wife and I plan to adopt), how do yall manage to maintain the astonishing degree of intellectual dishonesty required to claim radfems think women's purpose is having babies? this is one of those "are you lying or just remarkably smooth-brained?" instances for me.

*it is also not saying that women/girls with DSDs, infertile women, postmenopausal women, childree women, celibate women, or women who are missing a part of their female reproductive system (whether due to congenital disorder or medical intervention) aren't women or are any less of women.

yall turned any and all discussion of sex-based oppression into "dogwhistles," which is just so absurd it's genuinely funny. by definition, a political dogwhistle is coded language, and frankly I've never known any political or ideological group as blatant, straightforward, and un-obfuscating in their communication/terminology as radfems. we place enormous importance on material reality & truth, and speaking in coded terms would be useless to us. in fact, a big part of the issue between yall and us is that we are trying to maintain the language we need to identify the oppressed & oppressor classes under patriarchy, to discusss our shared experiences, and to fight for our liberation. you take issue, in fact, with how very much NOT a dogwhistle our words are, with how precise and clear we are about words (like woman, man, female, male, sex, and gender) rather than having words be nebulous and defined on an individual, internal basis (like the idea that woman is a feeling or gender means something different to every single person). it's that very obfuscation of terms that has led to the complaint presented by OOP.

and no, using acronyms or having your own lingo also doesn't inherently indicate dogwhistling, and every single political/ideological group has such terminology (just as yall do with afab/amab, cis, transmedicalist, gender euphoria, tucute, t4t, truscum, and so on).

yall have this amusing habit of writing posts that sound 100% like a "terf" wrote them while blaming "terfs" for the issue you're posting about 💀

Top contender for Least Self-Aware Post 2024. This is, in fact... your own fault!

[robotpoetry]

POEM

"Poem"

In The Waste In The Littlest

Of Love Seeketh Only Self To Kindest

To See Thee And Oui

The Mild Lamentations Childree

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Take Me In Fears Night Is Pratt

Rest My Happy And Like Morning Kat

And Spend The Mead Schrecengost

The Green Fields And O Tempest

[themaarika]

A family can be two witches, a talking cactus and a goblin

[thedeviousdevilxx]

Ah damn Khadija coming out with a video that speaks directly to my soul lol

They are my favourite Youtuber.

[bearded-cashew]

Tfw my biological clock’s ringing like crazy with anti-marriage-and-kids posts on here making it worse by pissing me off and all I can do is just say “Sorry, there’s really nothing I can do about that! I know, I want to have a load of kids with my beloved someday too but it’s just not possible for me! No, I was doomed from the start!”

Just because you think settling down and starting a family (meaning having kids, not getting pets) is terrible, it doesn’t mean the rest of us need to think that too.

[7lesbian]

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[thepinkgiftbag]

Does anyone else really like the idea of ending their own bloodline?

[beinganonima]

Today I couraged myself to reply my childree friend whom critisize about maternity leave on Twitter.

She rants about how she always become the backup for every maternity leave without any appreciation after the leave is over.

I told her that maternity leave is not a leisure leave. In maternity leave you don't have time to heal your pregnant body. You straight up jump in to the new life in taking care of your baby. No shower, no sleep, no eclectic house arrangements, all are chaotic. Phisically and mentally exhausted and chaotic.

Of course she tried to defend her opinion. But for me it doesn't matter who is right or wrong. What matters the most is I stood up and said my opinion.

I am glad I did that.

[niuniente]

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Im not trying to rude but what do you mean born childfree? Like i understand wanting to be childfree , but not being born child free?

Not rude at all! 

Like I said in the post, I was 6yo when I knew I don’t want to have kids. Ever. The same way as some know their gender or sexual orientation when they are very little.

I have never chosen to be childree. For me having kids is similar to a situation where I would wake up tomorrow and suddenly realize I’m a man, a lesbian or poly-amorous (nothing against men, lesbians or polys). 

Others, who choose to be childfree, have been considering option of being a parent. Perhaps even wanted to have one while thinking one should get kids to be an adult, but then later realized it is not for them. Sometimes it takes time to learn to know who you are and children vs no children is no exception in that. 

Those, who have chosen a childree life, have literally chosen it, for whatever reason. Some might think that are not capable of being a parent and it is better if they do not have kids. Some are worried of environment and choose not to have kids for that. Other have illnesses and such which the kid might inherit and they choose not to pass these illnesses to their children. Someone might want to have a career or life their life fully free instead of kids. Someone is so introvert they barely can take their partner at times, so they choose not to have kids. Some might struggle financially and decide they do not have money to have kids. Some might have childhood traumas which cause them so much struggle they do not want to have kids. Other have considered kids but have not found a partner to have them with and it hasn’t made them upset so they have just rolled with it and thus chosen to be childree (sorta).

These people have made a choice. I have never made a choice as there was no choice to be made. Children or not children has never been a question I should even ponder, as No Kids is part of who me since birth.

Let’s think about “Kid vs No Kids”-choosing as  "Do I or do I not want to chop my legs off”:

No one want to chop their legs of, right? You have never felt a need to chop your legs off and you have never needed to consider that “What if I’d actually want that? Should I?” It is just something that never happens or crosses your mind as a serious choice; to chop legs off or not to chop?

That’s how it feels to be someone who’s born childfree and has no biological urge or interest to have a family or children. There’s no need to choose - there never was.

Just like you do not choose your gender or sexual orientation but you are born with them. You MIGHT figure your gender and especially sexual orientation out later in life, which is normal and OK in the world where everyone is expected to fit the same mold and it takes time to start to question it.

Unless you know at the age of 6 that you are trans or something else than hetero.

I hope this answers your question!

[bullet-farmer]

This post is probably going to sound judgmental and insulting to parents who follow me. I don’t at all intend it to be. But this has been bugging me for several months now. To preamble: I’ve only had minimal desire to reproduce, but even if I’d wanted to, I’ve never had an opportunity, and at thirty-nine that window has basically closed. So parenthood is definitely something I have no experience in and never will. So I’m speaking with a dearth of experience here. That said, I don’t understand why people are still choosing to have kids. I don’t mean unplanned pregnancies that people decide to carry to term. I don’t mean situations where people are coerced, by the state or family members, to remain pregnant. I’m not talking about people who would rather not have children, but the unavailability of contraceptives means that they often do.

I mean that I don’t understand why people are still planning to have children and working toward getting pregnant.  Fascism is on the rise in the world, and for all we know, despite our best efforts, we may ultimately end up with a world that basically looks like 1984 in nearly every country. Climate change is running rampant and threatening life everywhere. And since most of my followers are from the US, our government doesn’t yet seem to have the taste for making life any better for anyone who isn’t wealthy. Along with that, I don’t know if bringing people into this world is a wise move anyway. Yes, life is filled with wonderful things! I would never dispute that. But life is also filled with extraordinary pain, terror, and misfortune. I’m not sure that the two balance out, or that enjoying the wonderful things is worth facing the not-so-wonderful things. In fact, on most days, I don’t think that life 

I’m an optimist. I don’t give up hope. But every now and then I do feel rather cynical and hopeless. And when it comes to human reproduction, I’m not an optimist at all. I just don’t see that we’re going to leave our children--let alone children living today--much to live for, despite many people’s best efforts. 

So bringing children into this world is just something I don’t understand. I mean, I don’t judge people for doing it. I don’t think parents are horrible people. I wouldn’t say that childbirth should be punished, or anything punitive and, frankly, authoritarian like that. I don’t understand why people still want to have children and are still having them. And I’d like to.  (Not tagging this because I’m not interested in opening this up to tumblr in general and turning it into some shouting match about whether parents or childree people are more selfish or what have you. I just want to hear some thoughts from my followers.)

[krusca]

ImmGoing To EatMy Phone Becaue Comics will Not let me rest

[chaplaincate]

SPIRIT LIFE

A lot of things and folk be pulling at us these days… family, friends, employers, employees, life, bills, physical ailments, etc. That's why it’s so important that we eat right and take care of ourselves physically. But most importantly, we MUST guard our spirit life. It's especially critical that we do that or we give the enemy of your soul the upper hand.

Man is composed of a body, soul and spirit. The spirit is the part that craves a connection with God. So many times when we feel that void or emptiness; it’s really our Spirit man longing to be redeemed, filled, touched, refreshed by it’s Creator, God. The things (and people) we entertain can add to us or take away from us spiritually. So many of the folk struggle because they give themselves to everything else more than they do to God; ultimately God takes backstage in their life and they lose (or never really develop) that intimate relationship Him, which is key to being victorious.

Scripture tells us in 2 Corinthians 10:4 "The weapons we fight with are spiritual, not natural. They can only be strengthened and used effectively by us giving ourselves to prayer and the study of God's Word, and sometimes fasting. This is to be the practice of every believer; but we've become complacent; we enjoy satisfying the desires of the flesh more than we do the strengthen of the spirit and so our spirit man suffers from malnutrition.  Galatians 5:16-17 makes this very plain… “So I say, let the Holy Spirit guide your lives. Then you won’t be doing what your sinful nature craves. The sinful nature wants to do evil, which is just the opposite of what the Spirit wants. And the Spirit gives us desires that are the opposite of what the sinful nature desires. These two forces are constantly fighting each other, so you are not free to carry out your good intentions.” (NLT Translation)

There are so many lost, lonely and hurting people out there. Many are believers who have lost their way, been wounded by the church and others. No, I can't reach them all; but every one God sends my way, I want to be equipped to deal with them. This is my calling. Isaiah 61:1 said it; then Luke 4:6 tagged it in this wise: “The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because He has anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor. He has sent me to heal the brokenhearted. To proclaim liberty to the captives; and recovery of sight to the blind and to set at liberty those who are oppressed.

THIS IS MINISTRY… To minister is to SERVE. We may not be called to preach; but we’re ALL called to serve. There is no doubt we are living in the last days. Luke came back in Chapter 10 and said: “The harvest truly is great, but the laborers are few; therefore pray the Lord of the harvest to send out laborers into His harvest.” --- I will not stand before God empty-handed.

We are spirit beings who live in a physical body. This body… (if we let it) will make all kinds of demands on us. even to the point of distracting us from doing the will of God and being what God intended us to be. Born again, Spirit-filled believers who walk in the power and authority that Jesus walked in when He was on this earth.

I'm not there yet; but I'm certainly working on it. I want to hear Him say... "Well done."

Make it a great day.

Catherine Clay Childree, aka #ChaplainCate

[obi-troll-kenobi]

YAS Whet I posted in my frequently reposted headcanon about Entrapdak being a childfree couple - I don’t really mind them having adopted kids since that’s what Hordak has been doing, but as a married and childree by choice woman I just HATE brining every female character ina couple to the role of a mother at some point and like tallysgreatestfan it makes me really uncomfortable too. Kids adopted form a good heart (not a crazy“I absolutelyfuckinNEEDtohavekids”) dynamics warm my heart <3 Give me more happy childfree couple representations!

Okay. Look. I am very much not the type to make fankids or anything (I just generally don’t like human children), but...I prefer to think that if Entrapta and Hordak were to have kids, they would be abopted.

Because this grumpy spacebat sees a fucking baby and his first instinct is to bring it home.

[chinupoppins]

oh my gosh you guys i’m going to now be a teacher of childree!!!! 

can’t wait to scream louder than those little binches!!!!

[delilahrps-blog]

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