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[littleprincessfawn]

Biggggg post about my kiddo and his troubles with school

Okay my kiddo is home today (school refusal) 😭

(Oh I wanna say a little about it, apparently. )

My kid has been struggling with school refusal, being unable to get in to school or having panic attacks when there, for a few years now. It's getting to the point I'm close to pulling him out to homeschool him. School refusal is very misunderstood. I used to have days as a kid where I didn't want to go to school and chucked a sickie. But with school refusal it's way more than not wanting to go to school, it's like a huge dread, like anxiety or panic attacks I think maybe, and it's very complex.

Here's a link to a great doco about it which mirrors my experiences:

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Later in the week I'll be going in to have a chat with the school and see what help they can offer, apparently they do have things they can do e.g. counseling/psychology sessions? The old inclusion support teacher has moved on to another school and the new one is actually really proactive and communicating with me and my kids dad and trying to help find a solution, for which I am VERY grateful because yes I will homeschool if needed but gosh it would be better for my child in SO many ways if we could make school work for him! Let's at least try something before throwing in the towel, and the old inclusion teacher seemed to just kinda... shrug and then the other teachers said I needed to be more positive and made out everything was my fault like no, my child is curled up a ball on the floor whimpering and repeating 'I hate school, I hate this, I hate everything, I can't, I can't do this anymore, I can't do this anymore,' that's not a me thing, that's an autistic and struggling kid thing.

I loved school as a kid (it was my refuge from an abusive childhood) despite being bullied as a kid, so it hurts that the school staff sometimes are trying to treat me like an enemy rather than work together as a team for the good of my kid. This new inclusion teacher seems great so I'm holding hope out. My kids classroom teacher this year is also amazing, but obviously my child needs extra help that currently he's just not getting. She's a great teacher though, she mentioned to me her main goal is improving his confidence which I was thinking YES this is the way. She gets it.

My kid is incredibly bright, is autistic, is extremely gifted in mathematics, has an IQ of 146, struggles a LOT with spelling and low confidence and perfectionism. He just needs to be extended in maths/engineering/science areas (which he does himself via YouTube but I'd ideally like to get a tutor in) and needs to be supported with his spelling to get over the issues he's having so he can communicate and participate in the classroom! He knows I love him, and he loves feeling 'safe' and staying home with me is his comfort zone. He's an only child (that wasn't how I planned it 😭 but it's how it wound up) and he doesn't socialize much with other kids, they like him but he's aloof, not in a mean way just in an autistic 'I don't really wanna socialise the way the other kids want to' way. I need to get him hooked up with more autistic peers. He's got a couple of school buddies with ADHD and as always the ADHD + Autism friendship trope proves true (me being ADHD and having MANY autistic buddies). His kindergarten teacher used to fondly call him her 'little engineer'.

He's the absolute light of my life and my favourite human in the galaxy. He and I have this amazing bond, we giggle together, 'thick as thieves', are creative together, give hugs often, and just straight up love each other. So please don't read this post and think I'm saying my autistic kid is a burden. He's not at all a burden he's my ultimate blessing and he is my reason I don't give up and keep fighting my own battles, and fight his too when needed. One time he said 'You're my samurai, Mummy,' and that's awesome and that's what motherhood is.

I'm gonna fight for him to have a school environment he can learn in, and do everything I can to get him the help he deserves. If after that school still doesn't work, I will home school him, but I want to try for school to work for him first, it'd be so great if we could. And on the days he's home with me I will help him with his spelling, his confidence, let him to follow his special interests and make his complex puzzles and maths problems. He's my everything.

[letstalkbeautyuk]

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[cillianmurphysdimples]

4am and I'd a remote fucked at my head while 5 shouted "Bing! Put Bing on, Ma!"

A) he hasn't called me Ma for about 18mths

B) why did he have to pull the quilt off to do it?

C) could we not at least watch Peaky?

...was discussing going tomorrow to see Small Things Like These while my mum-friends son would sit for my 2 if I put them to bed first, and the anxiety over the decision kept me awake til gone 2am.

Ridiculous, eh? Being anxious to leave your children with a friend's competent and lovely son, who you've met and is also neurodivergent himself so had awareness. They'll be in bed and I'll be watching Cillian - why does my brain not want me to enjoy my life?!

[crispydinosaurstrawberry]

Long week - Covid 19

Last week didn’t get off to a great start. I had been feeling run down for a few days as our youngest wasn’t sleeping properly again. We spent most of last weekend taking it in turns to stay up with him as he kept getting up. Looking back, it might have been a sign of what was to come. On the Monday night, I was having some muscle ache which was a bit out of the ordinary, but I put it down to…

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[sonne-und-schatten]

Ich bin mir selber wichtig

Ich schaffe grade richtig viel, ich kann so stolz auf mich sein. Es gibt Menschen, die stolz auf mich sind. Dabei spielt das eigentlich keine Rolle. Ich sollte mir selbst so wichtig sein, dass ich selber stolz auf mich bin, dass ich mir auf die Schulter klopfe und lachen kann, weil es gut ist. Weil ich gut bin. Stattdessen warte ich auf Anerkennung von Menschen, die mir keine geben werden. Wieso? Diese Menschen sind es nicht wert. Ich muss umdenken - für mich. Es ist so schwer, dabei könnte es so leicht sein.

[bryonyashaw]

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[caruliaa]

staff still hasn't given me polls, what should i do?

🟪🟪🟪🟪🟪🟪🟪🟪🟪🟪 their moms 69%

🟪🟪🟪🟪🟪🟪🟪 their dads 31%

grace image os i get to look at her

[gon-iii]

彩に勝る白菊

2013年、湯島天神菊まつり。

様々な色の菊があるけど、白い菊も負けてはいない。

[templetv]

the way I crave a parent who, not only loves me, but likes me, and notices me is so so embarrassing

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My mum made it mini chiffon bow bag

[littleprincessfawn]

Me: *coughs and splutters mid-sentence because I'm still sick with this damn cold*

My child: *launches himself at me, crash tackling me with a massive hug so I fall down* "Attack while they are vulnerable!!!"

I love my kid. What a weirdo. 😊

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[crispydinosaurstrawberry]

tears and frustration

[hotgirlmanifesto]

not many hoes i trust more than my hairdresser

[p1nkgl1tterpr1ncess]