#mother issues and transgender???

[welldwller]

I heart t-boy mafuyu

[milalaralio-evart]

TW: Mother Issues (?)… and trans Regulus hc

I finally finished this fanart of Regulus Arcturus Black :) And sorry if my English is incorrect, it’s not my first language (I’m French)

[fantastic-mr-corvid]

Celia, Cecio & being haunted by your mother in the empty spaces between you both and each others faces.

my dumb ass typed 'i could write an essay on this' and then did.

anyway. Celia Cecio & their mother and how she haunted the ever loving fuck out of both of them<3 get HAUNTED bitches.

main piece im talking about is the first, a wip where Cecio is being haunted by his mother. this gets long, rambles continue under the cut, more general than just this piece after teh first few paragraphs

i could write an essay on empty space & their mother bc in this shes so much closer to the center and has space around her while cecio has the bottom just over third and shes intruding into even that. shes leaning down over him, embracing him while surrounding him, while hes being held up by her, but seems to be able to slip out of frame at any point. she dictates the space just by her presence. the background is her and celias colours, cecio only gets himself, she gets everything else and shes still acting on him, intruding into that space.

like in the original family celia n cecio [that i want to redraw] theres an empty space that is glaring once you notice and thats bc shes there!!! their mother is always haunting them!!!!

if its just one of them she's still there even if there is not the empty space, bc shes still haunting them, just in their faces. Cecio is the spitting image of her just with different colours, and Celia has her fathers nose and thicker eyebrows but exactly the same golden hair and sometimes they cant look at each other bc shes just always THERE.

when shes recently dead it was heartbreaking bc they would see each other out of the corner of their eyes and think she was back. Celia sees Cecios silhouette, he sees Celias hair, and all they can think of how much the other looks like her.

Cecio likes his hair long but he never lets his fringe get as long as celias bc thats the length their mothers was. cant let it cover his vision the way hers did, constantly tucking it to the side of her face. cant wear his hair down because she did, so low ponytails it is, so similar yet just different enough it triggers the memories less.

one day as a teen Celia is having a breakdown and gets halfway through dyeing her hair as some way of distancing herself from her mother before breaking down sobbing. Cecio doesn't look her in the eyes because of the lingering dye stains, a desperate attempt to forget their mother, and the burden she placed on Celia. Celia gives up on the long hair her mother loved, the neat bob, and hacks off the hair tainted with the splotches of dye, finding now, that she has her mothers curls too.

Cecio dreams of her, golden and saturated, and feels like the ghost, the corpse, next to her. drained of life and colour, silvers and pale where she was vibrant. someones takes a black and white photograph of him when hes been to stressed to get his hair cut and his mother stares back.

every glance, image, drawing of either of them is just a few lines and colour changes from being her.

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in Wotr, when they reunite, Celia tells him how much he looks like their mother, how he has her nose, and he doesn't tell her that he forgot that, the image of their mother in his head long merged with Celia's.

[judasviscariot]

genuinely truly I don’t think the majority of the trans community actually sees trans guys as trans. they see us as Women Lite™️. full stop point blank period. I can’t discuss my feminine trauma or the fact that I was abused and experienced hell as a woman without being called a terf. I don’t get celebrated in the LGBTQ community, and definitely not by other trans folks. I don’t get solidarity. I discuss my wariness of cisgender straight men and get accused of spouting terf rhetoric. I get lectured on my own experiences BY OTHER TRANS FOLKS because “well u know cis man hate hurts trans men :(“ I FUCKING KNOW! I’m the one living it! but ALL my trauma comes from that demographic! all my trauma comes from the fact that I was born with a uterus and raised as a woman! it doesn’t make me a fucking terf! does anyone hear us?

[falst]

smp!scar is such a fun character to me but I can't talk about him to anyone but other gsmp members bc he has my name and also the name of another minecraft man who gets into ridiculously insane roleplays with his friends

[thaimolpiyas]

i am GLAD that people are so receptive of transgender heisenberg because hes very transgender to me. the self made man the controlling catholic mother and his forced role as a lord the way his entire arc revolves around how much he hates his 'mother' for taking away his freedom and his ability to move on and have a normal life. yeah

also this song and this song i think are good trans heisenberg songs. woo

[crayonurchin]

Is it OCD or is it a real thought?

"Maybe it's not OCD" "Maybe I do need to think/do/avoid this and I'm just using real intuition" "What if I'm wrong and calling it OCD is making the problem worse" You're right.

The thought might not be OCD. It might be real. It might be something you need to deal with.

But if you have a thought, and it plagues you with such dread and fear and pain that doing compulsions to make it go away is the only way to feel relief?

Then it doesn't matter what the thought is. You are having an OCD response.

"What if I'm gay or trans and the discomfort around thinking it is just my identity trying to find itself?" Treat the OCD first. You have a life to find your identity. But OCD is not the reason you're going to start. This journey should be done for your own growth, not out of fear.

"What if my parter IS secretly cheating on me and I need to check right now?" Treat the OCD first. If they are cheating on you then there is nothing you can do about it. But you're not confronting a situation because you want OCD relief.

"What if I put bleach in my baby's bottle?" Treat the OCD first. Trust that the bottle is clean and your baby is fine. You are a good parent, and you will not be controlled by this fear. You are okay.

There is always a WHAT IF in life, and with OCD there are so many what ifs. But life is not meant to be lived by what if.

You must treat the OCD first. You must reach a point where those thoughts are not making you sick with terror.

Then, if they are true? You will be able to handle them.

You are stronger than OCD.

[zurko48]

Enough of being your mothers daughter / your mothers mother, what about my fellow I am my mothers father? My mothers once daughters turned sons? Where is our representation at?!

[sammygender]

things no one tells you abt growing up number one: you start to get inexplicably mad at your dad all the time

[lonelysa1lor]

Being trans and living in anti-trans hell is great for being constantly reminded that no matter what I will die my mothers daughter

[milalaralio-evart]

Just a wip of a fanart about Regulus Black and yes the person who slapped him was he’s mother ;-;

(I hate Walburga Black) (sorry for my terrible English)

[6mayhem]

do it for him (jack from the 2016 movie as you are)

[baby-pink-panic]

Two nights ago me and my mom got in an ugly ugly argument because she believes me transitioning will be bodily mutilation, and I broke down and cried because I felt like no matter how much my mom loved me she'd never really see me and there was always going to be that undertone of bitterness.

The next day I didn't talk to her beyond 3 words until the night. I'd gone out after my shift with a guy and some friends, and they were already drinking, I'd have no way home, and my mom texted me just to tell me what she'd made for dinner. After a painful argument with her child, the next night my mother made a recipe her mom had made for her when she was a little kid that she hadn't had in years. And I was so angry at myself for missing it I stepped out to call her and tell her I wished I could go home.

The next morning the guy dropped me off outside my job so I could take my bike back home because my shift wouldn't start for hours and he had things he needed to do. Right outside my neighborhood, I hit a trash can with the side of my handlebars and crashed harder than I have in ages. I chanted "don't be a little bitch" to myself until I got in the front door. As soon as I got inside, the adrenaline wore off and I sat on the kitchen floor shaking and crying, and right away my mother came to comfort me and cleaned off the blood and dressed every cut and scrape like when I used to get hurt when I was little.

And I realized even if my mom can't see me. I'm still her kid. She still loves me. She can't accept it because to her I am still her rambunctious little girl who believed she could fly and could never get along well with the other kids and loved to run around outside and play and wear the princess dresses she hand sewed for me. And yknow what to her, and only to her, I'm okay with being that.

[allthegeopolitics]

The New Hampshire Supreme Court upheld a school district’s policy Friday that aims to support the privacy of transgender students, ruling that a mother who challenged it failed to show it infringed on a fundamental parenting right.

In a 3-1 opinion, the court upheld a lower court’s dismissal of a lawsuit filed by the mother of a Manchester School District student. She sued after inadvertently discovering her child had asked to be called at school by a name typically associated with a different gender.

At issue is a policy that states in part that “school personnel should not disclose information that may reveal a student’s transgender status or gender nonconfirming presentation to others unless legally required to do so or unless the student has authorized such disclosure.” [...]

Continue Reading.

Tagging: @vague-humanoid

[themagicfolf]

Graduation Party Blues

So on June the 4th I have a party, a party I wish not to attend, this party is supposed to be for me, but it is really for her, my mother. I never wanted this, but she did, I had no say in that day, or how it will play out. On that day I will see family that would disown me if they knew I am trans, they would wish to never see me again, but I must play my part for her, my mother. My mother who abused me, the mother who manipulates me. The mother who dead names me and misgenders me. She does not deserve to be hurt, but she does not deserve this party. after all it's her party, not mine. The stress is killing me. Why must she do this to me. all I want is to be respected and let alone.

[osmanthusoolong]

“A Canada Post worker says she was suspended after refusing to deliver flyers that compare gender-affirming medical care to child mutilation.

The flyer from Campaign Life Coalition, an anti-abortion group based in Hamilton, Ont., calls for a ban on "child sex-change."

Shannon Aitchison said she is the mother of a transgender adult and given that gender-affirming surgery is only available to people aged 18 and above, believes the wording of the flyers is harmful and discriminatory against transgender people.

"It's misinformation. It is lies and misinformation being presented as truth," she said.

This is the third flyer sent by the group since August. The first two were in support of the Blaine Higgs government's changes to Policy 713, requiring parental consent before school staff can use a child under the age of 16's chosen name and pronouns.

Higgs's campaign manager, Steve Outhouse, has previously said the Progressive Conservatives have "no involvement with this flyer or the actions" of the group.

The most recent flyer calls for banning gender-affirming health care for youth.”

“The Medical Consent of Minors Act in New Brunswick gives anyone 16 years or older the right to consent to medical treatment, including taking medications, such as hormones, or going to counselling. Medical professionals may grant parental-consent exceptions for younger teens who are deemed mature enough to make decisions.

Gender-affirming surgeries are available for those over 18 years of age in New Brunswick.”

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“Aitchison said she's delivered mail in the past that she personally didn't agree with, but the flyer goes a step further.

"This is the first time I have ever drawn a line in the sand and said … I will not be party to delivering propaganda," she said.”

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“When the first of these flyers showed up in New Brunswick mailboxes last month, the Canadian Union of Postal Workers said its workers "have been given the option of not delivering the offensive material if it would cause them mental anguish or if they fear for their health and safety."”

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“It's not clear whether the option was given by the union or Canada Post, and why Aitchison was suspended despite what the union said. The union has not yet responded to CBC questions on the issue.

After three days of suspension, Aitchison said she had a disciplinary meeting and is still awaiting a decision. She said the union has filed a grievance on her behalf.”

I really hope she wins, this is horrendous.

@allthecanadianpolitics