#missing people never gets easier
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something Iāve been struggling to accept lately.
#my art#vent art#just wanted to get it out in some way#therapy only does so much#healing is non linear#missing people never gets easier#and itās hard to feel that way and still be angry and hurt at the same time#itās been almost a year since things fell apart#telling myself itās ok to be sad and to miss people regardless of whatever else I will never get closure on#has to be ok#you know#anyways#vent#art#personal
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Do you have anything you've been thinking on but just haven't made a post about it yet? Also I'm really enjoying your fic!
I have a few things but it's likely mostly headcanons that I consider somewhat disconnected from my analysis.
Curly's parents had him old, only child, died shortly after he graduated and got the pony express position. It was the last big thing they saw him do which is a reason he stayed for so long.
Doesn't admit how much their death affected him
Jimmy has a largish family. One of the cases of too many kids to keep tract of, parent never really noticed any of them nor their behaviors
Anya lived in a lot of houses growing up, regular supportive family that just struggled to support themselves.
Became a nurse largely to avoid their financial struggles but mostly because she felt too many people weren't being cared for and advocated for in the world properly
Swansea likes high top sneakers most. Likes how snug they fit and how they shield his ankles at work
Curly has a bit of a caffeine problem since he canāt sleep. Can occasionally be found wandering the ship at ānightā when he had some too late or just couldnāt sleep.
Daisuke knows a little about a lot of things. Starts conversations with ādid you knowā a lot but please donāt ask him deeper questions
Curly has known Jimmy longer but has worked with Anya and Swansea longer, met them during his middle years, met Jimmy shortly before college.
Swansea rents a house, Daisukeās family lives in a big nice apartment, Curly has a condo, Anya live in a small one bedroom apartment and Jimmy has a studio.
Curly's home is very disconcerting. It's too normal to a like uncanny degree.
Anya is ambidextrous but prefers her left.
Anya and Curly are both not native English speakers so occasionally they forget words and bond over the mutual mocking they get from the rest of the crew. Daisuke knows some Japanese but is still learning, never picked it up as a kid
Only Swansea and Daisuke know how to drive, Earth in my mind is very post capitalist so only older people and like the extremely wealthy can afford cars.
It's also like walkable just due to how many businesses are in your face. Probably strict living vs shopping districts
I have more but the way that I headcanon about them is like too long.
#im still trying to figure out voiceclaims like I think Curly is the most generic lost his accent his accent like swedish or eastern european#guy cause he was raised by old immigrants and anya never had a thick accent but she talks with the cadence of one shes like slavic and east#asian to me. Swansea at most is like irish or italian but just an old white guy and Jimmy just has a bit of olivish skin like hes just whit#i think people should make them all weirder too like I think Anya loves showing the fucked up diagrams and pictures from premed and everyon#has to nod and act super supportive and not horrified cause Anya thats a guy with his leg broken in seven places it is not facinating to th#rest of the crew but she loves it cause fyi to go to med school you have to pass pre-med she has a BA if not a BS in nursing or bio atleast#Swansea randomly talks about shoe politics and its like hes talking about regular politics. Curly doesn't sleep walk but he pauses at weird#times or places and will just stand leave and not tell anyone anything cause even he forgot#Jimmy is himself ig and Daisuke always has some media drama they are too old for to get invested in and teach them about youth slang Anya#kinda gets it#also i think people make Curly and Jimmy way too old? Like In my mind Curly is sorta his late 20s- early 30s like he's in the settling#part of his life hence the fear about settling here anya is likel mid 20s to 30 cause she at least finished college we dont have the years#of how long shes been working and maybe Jimmy is just a bit older and feels weird envy about missing that introspection Curly is having.#Daisuke is like 19-22 in my mind like hes an adult but a kid by their standards#like Curly was recruited and its much easier to get younger people plus getting someone young is a good investment like they either got him#right after school and its like all he's known and it scares him#mouthwashing#mouthwashing game#anya mouthwashing#curly mouthwashing#jimmy mouthwashing#swansea mouthwashing#daisuke mouthwashing#ask#anon
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#i missed themmm. artfight esp made me miss them bc so many super talented people drew them. it made me so emo...#drawing size difference will never get easier. its the hardest thing to draw on earth. it never looks right. give up.#click or die btw#wtf... art#oc#mateo#benji#robot
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i just want to make a tiny mention of this, but i've noticed lately that even excluding asks i'm starting to struggle to stay on top of responding to everything. i'm not sure if there's been an uptick in interactions (i think so), or if it's just that my cfs is kicking my ass more (it's also this)
and i'm so so grateful and i read and love every comment and engagement, but i can't always think of things to say in response! i also get very nervous if i leave something a few days without responding because i then feel kind of embarrassed to respond to it so late šš¦
i'll still continue to do my best to get back to everyone where i can, but if i don't respond it's nothing personal! i'm just a little swamped haha š
#if you've tagged me in something (especially gift art) and i haven't gotten back to it please just send me an ask with a link!#i would never purposely ignore something! if i've missed it it's an accident!!#i have a bit of a hard time sorting the notifications on tumblr and wish it were a bit easier to navigate the tabs. maybe i'm just old#anyway. this is obviously a flattering problem to have and it's probably nothing but.. i get anxious about this sort of thing#i want to do my best!! people take the time to reach out and it means a lot; thank you!#starflungs personal tag#delete later
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I don't think grief ever lessens or gets easier to bear any more than a 50lb weight gets lighter or easier to carry.
What changes is our capacity to carry the weight.
When people say, about tried, "It will get easier with time" it doesn't mean you'll miss the person/thing any less deeply. It means that by carrying the grief day by day your capacity to carry it will grow and it will feel easier because you've become stronger.
The grief never changes,
We do.
#grief#i honestly find this more comforting#i never liked the idea that I'd miss someone less over time#that's true for some people in my life#but only because I recognized i hadn't felt what I thought I'd been feeling at the time#my understanding of the relationship changed#but unconditional love#when we lose that?#i don't think it ever gets easier#and that makes me happy because if it ever got easier it would feel to me like they meant less#that I was outgrowing them#I never want to miss them less#but the idea that I'll be better able to cope with missing them that much?#that's an idea I can get behind#that makes it easier to move forward without worrying I'm leaving their memory behind
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#oc txt.#c: hattie#c: mary ellen#hattie being able to make it back to her own vault just in time to be with her mom in her final moments is š¤#sheās not the overconfident self assured put together person she was when she left however long ago it was#and her mother isnāt the hyper independent stoic emotionally constipated woman that didnāt even hug her before she left#her mother really did believe that this colony that had supposedly been growing since she was a girl WAS her kidsā only hope at a future#they knew for years that the vault was running out of supplies and falling apart#she was getting older and really didnāt think a future above ground was for her or her husband or the other adults that had grown up there#it was for their kids.#bc the vault wasnāt going to be able to sustain them for much longer#itās why she pushed her kids so hard and pushed them away even harder#bc it made sending them into that world āeasierā#she wouldnāt miss them as much and they wouldnāt miss her#sending her twins up there (her first borns) years prior was HELL#and she dreaded the day hattie was old enough to be thrust out there and even debated whether or not sheād even go through with it#so seeing her now ā¦ especially in the state hattie is in when she returns#she feels guilty but at the same time proud? because despite it she knows hattie had and HAS what it takes to survive up there#and seeing tj??? she doesnāt know if the twins made it to the colony or whether the colony was even real operating ect ect#so sheād never get to see them with her grandkids if they had any#she at least gets a slice of what could have been if things were different#itās good that hattie gets to tell her truth of everything#itās good that hattie gets to reconcile and be the last thing she sees before she passes#itās all mary ellen ever wanted ā¦ to see her girls again#and in her mind if hattie made it ā¦ then she knows the other two did too#and i think for hattie she was just on the cusp of giving up and throwing in the towel#but sheās got people relying on her and sheās not a quitter ā¦ was never allowed to be#and i think by now sheād be searching for them less for herself and more for her parents#the least she can do is find out if their sacrifices (and the sacrifices of everyone else) were warranted
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i relate to peter parker because iāve had six crushes this year alone
damn son save some for the rest of us!!
#sci speaks#i think i've only ever had one crush in my life. wilding. i wish i fell in love easier. it feels wonderful.#oh the people with hyperactive hearts...#i wish i had felt this way at some point when i was younger. it kind of felt like my heart wasn't fully developed yet.#holds my heart in my hands. why were you such a late bloomer. why didn't you feel more things earlier on.#i'm kind of sad that i didn't have teenage crushes or anything. i feel like i missed out.#is it because nobody around me was appealing. or is it because i was too busy on my own planet.#i think i wasn't really close with a lot of people when i was younger. i kind of never came out of my shell.#so nobody got close enough to me for me to like them.#not that it's necessarily how it works. but it takes a lot for me to get there with somebody i think.#i think a lot of the relationships i've been in i'm still To This Day not even sure if i actually liked them back in that way.#squeezes my heart in my hand. why are you so fussy.#i wish i had more experiences under my belt. i really do. but also i don't want to be in situations that are uncomfortable either.#and i don't want to just be there for the sake of it.#lies on the floor and stares at the ceiling. i don't know what i want.#is love the answer?#i don't know. sometimes i want it more than anything. but it's such a ball-ache to get. sometimes you think you're better off without it.#i wish i knew what i wanted. i think i just want to be brave enough to find out.#why do i ramble so much in my tags. it's like tumblr is my therapist or something.#i'm feeling weird about myself lately. just kind of a little tired. i don't feel bad. but kind of perpetually low-energy.#like i never have the time to do things that make me happy. and when i do get the time i don't have the energy.#is this what it's like to live in this world. i need like. a year's break from work. i think.#i need like a year-long vacation. i need a gap year. i need a year to live life.#i wonder if it's financially viable. i think i'd eat through everything i have if i did that. but.#you can get money back. you can't get your time back.
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at the oral surgeon and barely spent any time in the waiting room, where I could have been fooling around in my sketchbook and Vibing. I have, however, spent a LOT of time sitting here waiting in the exam room after watching their friendly informed consent video about how all procedures involving sedation include a risk of death
#cool vibe thanks#I could see my lovely little car from the waiting room I could have been sketching...#okay well he came in while I was writing tags and suggests it sounds like local anesthetic and novacaine might be better for me anyway#but also I can Think About It and let them know ahead of my actual appointment#which is nice#THE THING IS I'M NOT SURE LMAO.#I am very afraid of general anesthetic tbqh but I also don't wanna be Miss Big Balls and do it awake and be Wrong about being fine :'D#getting a filling has so far been Fine though....#doc: it's easier for me if you're awake? but we recommend anaesthesia for very bad anxiety-- I'll be drilling I may have to cut the bone etc#me: I mean the Drilling Sounds have never been my problem but I've never had a man digging chunks of tooth out of the depths of my flesh SO-#I'm gonna consult with my team (people who have had theirs out already) and see what we think I guess#my mom said hers went great and she went to work the next day and had no issues and I BET she stayed awake. similar types of anxiety I think#meanwhile justin severely oversold how horrible the anaesthetic shots are for fillings so I'll take his counsel with a grain of salt#about me
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why are old people so sad lol
#i posted a flag redesign for fun and boomers are crying abt it#its not real first of all lol#and it looks cool the old flag is boring#plus ita barely a deviation? i kept the seal just changed the background to not solid blue and made the seal monochrome#so its easier to see?#i put a beloved state landmark in the background in a neutral color scheme#its simple but its a def improvement#but boomers are soooo mad like: stop changing everything š#lol#the og flag is one of those seal on a blanket ones and it sucks lol#but i respected the history but keeping the seal?#anyway i just posted it for fun bc i found out i missed an opportunity to redesign it a few months ago#and i thought people would enjoy the hypothetical cool flag#but old people are boohooing in the comments š#why do they hate fun or even the idea of fun#they tremble w rage at the mere suggestion of fun lol#anyway i showed my dad and he thought it was cool#and apparently he actually knows somebody who knows somebody who is a state senator??? news to me???#but he's gonna get them to pass it along š#the boomer tears if this even becomes a legitimate possibility will be so beautiful lmaooo#im sure it wont amount to anything but idk you never know#anyway old people who cry and scream at the idea of any chage at all...why....this isnt even a political change its just a fun change.......#ita completely nuetral politically#i literally thought the boomers would love it bc its got that landmark on it and they're all obsessed w it#alas#this happens been a shitpost
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had a very bizarre interaction today why are people so fucking weird. Lady who apparently used to work here was acting so offended that I asked to see her status card bc i literally have to do that when the account says theyre tax exempt. Which she should know because she used to work here. Like that is retail standard nationwide. Anyway shes like "well it says that because i used to work here (thats Not why it says that lol) so why do you have to ask over and over and over??" and gives me the most indredulous judgy look, so I explain that I just need to confirm by seeing it because just getting the popup isn't necessarily proof?? (not that I even care but thats literally the law for Every retail establishment in Canada??) and she makes another bitchy face and just walks away without saying thank you or bye so neither did I lol
so fucking stupid. bitches be miserable
#like its so much easier here than it was at dollarama#at dollarama sometimes people would get annoyed but I got why because the POS was SO dumb and it made me put in their status number!#which would time out if i didnt do it fast enough so if it were THAT i could at least be like ok i get it#but miss ma'am i have literally never even seen you before so a) how the fuck would i know you used to work here#b) that wouldnt mayter anyway because being an employee doesnt fucking give you a status card#and c) HOW do you not know any of that. both because you WERE an employee AND i cannot fathom in ur 60 years alive#you have never before used your status card at a retail establishment. you dumb fuck. you absolute baffoon#anyway. i fucking hate this job so much its making me go CRAZY
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my birthday week is like a fight for my fucking life.
#like i dont like my birthday bc i dont like attention and also bc the fact i am still alive when i never planned to be is so heavy#which makes it feel like all of a sudden i have a timer and i need to kiilllmyself#but mostly. The biggest issue is i think of my exbest friend bc it was our week always even if they treated me horrible#and i would just go along with whatever they wanted even if i hated it and i just think about them think about them think about them#and i dont want them in my life but i will talk myself into missing them#and feel guilty like its my fault like i deserved everything they did to me like i should never be allowed to move past it#and then i get so embarassed over how i let them rule my life and ruin so much for me and made me break away from people i care about#but then its like im so lonely at least they were always there even if they hated me#even if they wanted me to be so miserable even if they just wanted to know they would always have someone to push around#And i still have trouble when it comes to food im still scared of opening up to people im still scared of my friends of buying new clothes#somehow everything they said to and about me was true even though none of it is and it hurt me and ruined so much#but i must have deserved it. they were supposed to know me best. and i never have known myself#so everything they had said about me has been true for so long.#every time i have the thought that i miss them i think i need to crash my car#every year it gets better every week it is easier but its been so bad recently its been so bad i feel like pieces of me are falling apart#i dont want to manifest this year it being bad bc its just starting to get easier after my total depressive state but god#im looking at are they made for me years ago and i want to rip it apart but i cant every time i try i almost throw up.#i think im going to throw up right now.#deeply pathetic.#news with isaac
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I don't know who needs to hear this but the Black Parade isn't even a tad bit overrated
#it's one of the best rock concept albums of all time let alone the 2000s#if that decade weren't so recent it'd be easier for ppl to see that#in fact since it's been getting further away in time more people do#but its acclaim is not just nostalgia for a second#if you were unfortunate enough to miss having an mcr phase as a teenager#i need you to do me a favor and go listen to that whole album. or do it again if it's been awhile#you will FEEL FEELINGS again#text post#mcr#also i will just never get over gerard way#he's just too much to be believed#if he were to have existed in a time before technology. what an injustice that'd be#not to be able to go and relive his performances of songs like wttbp and helena etc#locked in place in time forever. immortal and always compelling#gerard way is not something to describe but something to experience#makes me wonder when ppl describe famous actors and musicians from before the recording era#(well i always wonder about that) but if gerard way were sarah siddons#it would be a shame i wouldn't be able to enjoy gerard way at any moment in my life#if gerard way were fleeting... momentary... that would suck. suck so much#if these tags sound funny to you im just gonna let u know im being 100 percent fr rn
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want to cut my hair again like you wouldn't believe. What are the possible consequences of going bald
#100% ŃŠµŠŗŃŠµŃŠ½ŃŠ¹ Š“Š½ŠµŠ²Š½ŠøŠŗ Š»ŠµŠ²Ń ŠŠ Š§ŠŠ¢ŠŠ#actually i dont mean bald i just mean all one guard length#but hhhhh maybe i'm in an awkard stage maybe not i just CANNOT live like this#middle part is frustrating because it's not perfect in the way it sits side part is frustrating because i look like a girl#i feel like i could go all in with the 4 and then sorta texture a bit with the 2 guard HOWEVER having used the 4 previously. i know#how short that is. it might not look good so i worry#the bright side is it would grow out a bit by the time of the parade but augh i hate this#i'm currently a tightly wound ball of rage sorry. i didn't eat much of anything 2day#tried to call the hospital to get help with the letter/consulation thing preceding top surgery and they were NOT OPEN so idk if they will#be open tomorrow or not. the passage of time has gotten very vague all of a sudden#iiiiiii do not think i am doing well. lol. idk why though! god forbid any of it have a reason#i almost wish i'd relapse just so i could like. eat food again#idk i don't think it would solve it but i feel in my heart it might make things easier#buuuut because relapse is Bad For Me i guess i have to avoid it. well i want to anyways.#one bad day would not a reset make but my previous day happened this year already so...#i dunno it's been so long that i feel like it's not valid or whatever cause it was at an age where i can say it was a 'phase'#.............. i dunno what to do with that information. anyways.#i mean so what if i went all in on it again anyways? i kinda miss it lol. it's not like i could do any serious harm??#(potential infections aside.)#i just want to be creative and i CANT because my stupid brain will NOT think of anything#and the majority of what i have concretely written of this was written... get this .... right when i was trying to stay clean at first#correlation does not equal causation ........ sighs#i feel like i'm fighting a losing battle because i WANT IT to be that bad again#i've never really regretted it & it's never really been because of anything#i just started because i was curious about why someone would do that. that's all#i dont think i've EVER had any of the mental distress i see people in when theyre in these spaces#in one journal entry i made this big deal about wanting to kill myself but *i didn't want to*. i never did.#like sorry old me but it is REALLY hard to believe i've ever been depressed depressed#i just want things to be better and they never are :/ this should be everything i wanted and its just ... not#i'm not really sure how to ....... oh tag limit ok hold on
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rediscovering I have empathy? craaaazyyyyy
#beanie babbles#okay so this is gonna be a vent post but all in the yags#tw pet death#tw death#i hope dont think this is ablest language but its not precise language#Here we go#I never really doubted I have a capacity for empathy. It can be kind of hit or miss- amd even when I dont understand I try to be compassion#-ate. all that good stuff blah blah#Whats a lot more accurate to say is I dont really feel bad for dead people#I'll feel bad at the idea of somone dying maybe. I dont want living people to suffer and die just because.#I get upset when my friends are suicidal or when somone goes out and kills other people or even when a fictional charecter dies sometimes#but the mourning isnt about their death. it sucks that i cant hang out with them any more or that they cant experiance shit any more#but im not crying at a casket#But I did cry when I found my housemates pet bird limp on the floor of the cage today- the other one not seeming to even realize#This is the second time. The first one the birds were closer and the loving one wouldnt stop making noise tryong to get our attention#this one didnt mind as much- was just hungry and looking for some more feed. The feeders were empty and water gross#I stay with the birds every day and make sure they get excerize and enrichment because my housemate cant do that part#but i dont check the nessicities#so that was a shock. I refilled the food compartment after taking the dead bird out and putting them in a box#I dont think thats why they died. These birds have their wongs clipped before purchase and cant flay very well at all#But this bird practiced and was able to get a lot of height and distance as feathers grew back. But didnt know how to stop#Constantly crashing into floors and walls. Thats the main culprit I think#Its just weird that I cry easier over birds and fictional charecters and material things than my family. I feel guilty about it#Not that guilty i got all that angst out in 2020#vent post#not really actually this turned into an explination of events more#anyway#the actual post had nothing to do w9th anything bru
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like is there a word for "romance is NOT for me oh my GOD it's such a bad idea for the way my brain is built, BUT HOWEVER not every part of my brain has gotten the memo about this and nature still thinks it's funny to kneecap me with a crush every now and then."
#trying to find resources or stories about like. how to COPE when this happens#how to honor the way i feel without suppressing it but also without feeling the need to turn it into a romantic pursuit#also i know labels as strict boxes are only worth thinking about as long as they are helpful#and āim aromanticā is easier to say than āi have a complicated relationship with romance and a lot of emotional baggage andā#well i never feel justified using the word trauma especially because a lot of it was my own doing but#yes a lot of trauma i guess!#anyway#i still have this fear that calling myself aromantic is just a cheat to get away with not wanting to put in the work it would take to build#a real functioning romantic relationship#like is it cowardly of me to say āi am not gonna push my relationships past a certain point with peopleā. like am i depriving myself of#something i will miss?#sometimes it feels that way#but also#some of my strongest friendships are with people i actively chose not to romance#and i love those people and i am so glad to be friends with them#whereas the people i was most romantically involved with are now invariably bitter strangers#i don't want that. i don't want that with any more people i love#BUT. I DO WISH TO HOLD HANDS!!!!!!!#MY GOD A BITCH IS TOUCH STARVED
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#diary entry time#ugh i fucking miss her#so so much#im being so good and not texting her despite how much i want to#but i miss her so much#and im learning not to chase after people#but it's so hard even when i know what i'm doing is best for me#no matter how many times i go through this it never gets any easier
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