#men's rights

[felix-01000101]

Fr, I'll be trying to talk about how men suffer from toxic masculinity and depression as a whole, and some rando will be like "they won't pick you" or "stfu misogynist" and I'm just like ????

If you do not support everyone - and I mean EVERYONE - you are not a feminist.

When you see a man actually talking about the actual basic human rights of discriminated against men, & your responce is to shut them down by likening them to an MRA incel, you're not being cool & woke, you're saying the same shit as radfems & run of the mill sexists.

MRA does not literally mean 'activists for men's rights', MRA was/is a movement of creepy reddit incels who wanted state assigned girlfriends & said that was 'men's rights', or saying that men deserve more rights than women, that is why they suck, not because they're talking about men's human rights.

MOC & Transmascs & Immigrant men & male abuse victims & disabled men etc. talking about their rights or lack thereof & how being a man factors into it for them are not your enemy & are not MRAs, they're literal activists for men's literal actual human rights.

[radykalny-feminizm]

I love to see the general public finally waking tf up

Guess what group has been talking about all these things for years and was demonized, shamed and threatend for it 🤔

[hard--headed--woman]

if you sincerely believe that men are oppressed or hated in this society because they're men (no, i'm not saying men of color or gay and bi men aren't oppressed, nice try dick havers fandom) you're delusional, you've spent too much time on tumblr and you've had your brain rotted by MRA and incel rhetoric.

[tumbler-polls]

[geminni5]

[aikoiya]

I wanna see more stories of women defending men from false allegations.

More women hearing other women complaining about a man not associating with them in work, she defends him saying he literally did nothing & calling those other women spoiled & attention seekers & sexually deviant.

I wanna see more women being good & decent with good morals, standing up for the men around them even if they get nothing out of it because it's the right thing to do.

Because for years, women have been telling men, "don't flirt with me," "don't talk to me," "don't look at me." Then, when men totally cut them off, these same women whine & complain that men don't associate with them beyond professionally, saying it creates a "hostile work environment?"

Like, he literally did nothing!! How is that hostile in any form or fashion!?

We need more good, upright, sensible women with good ethics out there defending innocent men who just wanna go about their lives.

Rad Feminism has utterly destroyed dating & that's making the lives of women who actually want to be wives & mothers, in particular, much much more difficult because men just don't want to take the risk of finding the right girl anymore!

Let's be realistic ladies! We need men & they need us! So, get back to treating the good men like the fucking kings that they are!

Did you know that it's actually a felony if a man doesn't register for the selective service? For them to have the right to vote, they have to be subject to the draft.

We get to enjoy the right to vote just for being here, but men don't! How is that fair!?

Why don't rad feminists clamour for that??

If you really wanted equality, demand that we too should be required to register for selective service!

As for male rapists not being jailed for long enough, you are absolutely right!

They should suffer longer jail time.

And so should female rapists!

At least male rapists actually get jail time. A girl recently raped a 13 year old boy & is now having his baby, but she gets to walk free, no jail time at all! Not only that, but she gets to keep the baby!

And, guess what? It's looking like the kid might end up having to pay child support anyway despite being a boy & a victim of rape.

Yes, we are absolutely the oppressed party here!

[abearinthewoods]

I wish feminists understood how the use of certain male coded words in a negative connotations is why men feel uncomfortable associating with feminism.

Stop blaming men's issues on the Patriarchy. I don't care if its true, its a male coded word and we see how its often used as a stand in to attack masculinity or claim men don't have issues by people who don't know what the fuck they are talking about. Its sexism. Just call it sexism.

Stop blaming men's issues on toxic masculinity. In fact stop saying that phrase at all. We see how its often used as a stand in to attack masculinity by people who don't know what the fuck they are talking about. The term feminists are looking for is internalized misandry.

Same for male privilege. It (and the term patriarchy) is often used to attack the necessity any men's liberation and advocacy by people who don't understand it. Hell you can't even discuss trans men's issues without people in your notes demanding you affirm you aren't claiming cis-men are oppressed.

Stop injecting the male gender into your discussion of harms:

Mansplain? You can call out condescending behavior without making it about their gender. The amount of times people can point to women who misuse this to attack any time a man speaks up or offers their viewpoint proves it's gendered framing leads some women into stereotyping men.

Manspread? You mean how public transit and societal systems fails to account for gender differences in hip arrangement? Sounds like systematic and institutional misandry. You can call out individuals for being inconsiderate without dipping into arguments built upon sexist stereotypes, there is no need for feminists to play into sexist stereotypes about men by making claims about how men do it to dominate by taking up space.

Manchild? You mean how society, from our mothers and fathers, and our brothers and sisters, to our class mates and love interests, teachers and role models, give girls more tools and leeway to figuring out how to express their emotions in a healthy way and utterly failed boys? More often being harsher to mistakes boys make in expressing their emotions then girls. Sounds like systematic and institutional misandry that leads to internalized misandry in men that keeps them from realizing their full Emotional IQ. Why are we trying to make this an attack on the male gender again?

And like, ya, most of the bigotry and stereotyping caused by these arguments is from people misunderstanding them, but also, like, there is only a certain level of bigotry and stereotyping caused by people misunderstanding your concepts or arguments before continuing to spew them becomes problematic by negligence.

[rf-times]

“Men are loved for what they do, women are loved for what they are” “Men are never loved unconditionally” is the most absolutely insane reversal of all time. Women are so dehumanised to the point where the objective fact that most men only value women for our servitude and appearance is seen as “women being valued just for existing”. Men’s achievements are built only on the exploitation of women and you should look into how many men leave their wives when she gets cancer if you want to see how much men ‘love women for just existing’.

[theexodvs]

Do MRAs who believe sexual assault and false accusations of sexual assault should be punished equally also support the death penalty or life sentences for false accusations of murder?

[siryouarebeingmocked]

One of my exes sent the police to me under the claim that I hit her. All it took was an allegation and they showed up so gung-ho about arresting me they didn't even want to listen. It was just "You're under arrest." 

We'd been broken up for over a month, there were no bruises, no evidence of any violence whatsoever. I hadn't seen her, talked to her, answered any of her calls, nor replied to any of her increasingly unhinged texts. 

Anyway after about a half hour of me insisting that all they had to do was look at my phone and this will all make sense, they FINALLY agreed. After reading the very lengthy series of text messages where she clearly stated multiple times if I didn't take her back she was going to get me arrested for hitting her, or rape, or molesting her younger sister, etc. they finally realized what they were dealing with and took the cuffs off and issued a half-assed apology and an explanation that 99% of the time the allegations are true.

I responded with "But are they, though?" and based on his expression I think he had an oh-shit moment of clarity where he realized "How many innocent men have I arrested..."

I know Youtube comment stories are even less credible than Reddit stories, but I’m sharing this one anyway.

[thal-creates]

Watched zootopia woth my nephew recently

I know its a kids movie and there is some racial allegories there but.

This did not feel like it was about race. This felt very close to what men experience. To what men are frustrated by every time they see the popular rhetoric.

"Oh so there's a them now"

[entity56]

hey guys. guess what. hating men is not only gonna help anybody but it will actually also hurt you especially if you hate men due to trauma. misandry will cause you to remain ever hypervigilant. you will never come out of that trauma until you realize that the man/men that hurt you didn't do it because they're men but bc they're terrible people who just so happen to have a dick

[gisidaronta]

The whole this "misandry only harms men's feelings" is rooted in the conservative idea that men (unlike women) should not have a right to be fragile and sensitive.

[kdero]

After last summer's Supreme Court ruling in Dobbs v. Jackson Women’s Health Organization allowed states to ban abortion, urologists across the United States saw a dramatic surge in the demand for vasectomies.

Normally, vasectomy procedures peak towards the end of the year, but the mid-year Court decision led to an unexpected increase in demand in 46 states.

The greatest increases in patients undergoing this elective procedure were in states that implemented "trigger bans" severely limiting abortion access. These states experienced an average increase of 41% in vasectomy rates between July and September, compared to 26% in other states. States such as Arizona, Florida, Georgia, Tennessee, Texas, and Utah saw rates rise by more than 40%.

The post-Dobbs patients opting for vasectomies tended to be younger than the typical candidates. Data from Komodo revealed a small but consistent drop in the average age of patients undergoing vasectomies in the latter half of 2022.

Motivations behind this trend varied among patients. Some men expressed concerns about the lack of a reliable backup if their primary contraception method failed in the absence of abortion access, as vasectomy has a success rate of over 99%. Others were motivated by the fear that vasectomy itself could be outlawed next. Among this younger demographic of patients seeking to take control of their reproductive responsibilities were men who saw their decision as an act of solidarity with women.

Due to longstanding patriarchal constructs, vasectomy is viewed as a sacrifice for many men, involving recovery time and potential risks, along with misconceptions and concerns about its impact on masculinity. In reality, recovery time for this simple 30-minute outpatient procedure is 2-3 days, and there is no clinical evidence to support the notion that a vasectomy leads to a decreased sense of masculinity. The procedure does not have any direct physiological or hormonal effects on masculinity, sexual function, or masculinity-related characteristics.

In fact, by opting for vasectomy, men share the responsibility of contraception and alleviate the burden on women. By doing so, these men further embody the traditionally masculine traits of responsibility, self-reliance, decisiveness, and courage through taking an active role in family planning.

While the overturning of Roe v Wade has decimated women's rights in America, the increase in vasectomies following the ruling may be seen as a small consolation, a small step toward the long aggrieved concept of gender equity. As more men take proactive measures to dismantle the patriarchal idea that both conception and contraception are solely "women's issues," they act as leaders showing others the intrinsic value in the dignity and selflessness of their decision.

While our nation's leaders continue to restrict the rights afforded to pregnancy carriers, we are fortunate to have a younger generation of the impregnator class recognizing the devastating, often deadly effects of these laws and mastering the art of doing something about it.

For more information on vasectomies and providers in your area, visit plannedparenthood.org