#men’s mental health is another important issue discussed

[cjhern1109]

You would think that during my spring break, I can draw more but instead I worked overtime and slept through it. ( ‘-_-)…Anyways, I’m back in school, so here’s a small sketch for Catch and Release (Not digital as I’m already working on the monthly Frans prompt).

And update of this AU, I had thought of just making a simple one-shot fanfic with a cover to go along with it. However during development, the themes became too complex and sensitive to fit into one page. So this story would likely be fairly long with several short comics here and there that are related to the scene.

WARNING: This is a heads up on the dark themes and heavy messages, this AU will contain:

Discussion of depression, PTSD, and other mental health disorders (primarily in the male perspective)

Addiction to substances

Torture, graphic deaths, and suicide

Mental/emotional/physical abuse

Sexual assault

As shown, C&R is not for the faint hearted and really isn’t a romance despite our love of this ship. However I don’t think this shouldn’t take away what the story can offer as a toxic Frans AU and may provide some awareness for the warning above.

I’m going to leave my ask box open as to answer any questions or concerns about the AU. The story is still in development, so I wouldn’t be able to tell spoilers or change ideas for plot reasons, but willing to take good faith criticism.

[genderqueerdykes]

im not sorry the truth of the transmasculine experience is ugly. i'm not sorry that we have to frequently discuss sexual and physical violence and abuse. i'm not sorry that we have to discuss violent physical abuse and death. i'm not sorry that we have to discuss homelessness, mental illness, addiction, disabilities, and other challenges in life.

we struggle. we do not instantly gain male privilege the second we come out. even if we pass. when someone knows we're trans we're treated like a woman no matter what. we can sometimes get lucky and pass with strangers but eventually people around us find out because people tell each other without our consent.

we face all kinds of abuse due to the fact that people feel entitlement to our bodies, regardless of what our AGAB is. they feel entitled to our faces, our hair, our entire appearance. they focus on the face that we're ruining something "pretty". they threaten corrective sexual violence to remind us that we're "just women". it happens constantly. this is not an isolated incident and virtually nobody wants people to talk about it when it comes to transmasculine people.

trans men often get injured for one reason or another. usually because someone wants to make them "prove" they're a man, to "toughen them up" or to "prove to them that they're a woman". sometimes this results in sexual assault. other times it results in physical assault. and sometimes people just kill trans men. all because they hate that a "woman" can transition into a man.

it's an ugly part of our reality but it needs to be discussed because otherwise people use the lack of that conversation as ammunition to say transmascs don't struggle.

transmasculine people struggle to stay housed. transmasculine people get kicked out of their living situations very often for many reasons. it's hard for transmascs to get jobs because often times people want either a man or a woman for a specific position and fuss over what they think the transmasc's gender is. misgendering is a huge issue at work. going stealth at work can be painful. being in the closet at work can be painful

transmascs are often disabled and struggle to get care due to people not taking AFAB patients' pain and symptoms seriously. this is a huge issue with any kind of AFAB person or any woman. all woman and AFAB people struggle with having their symptoms taken seriously when seeking serious medical attention to the point of possibly being undiagnosed for life, thus being unable to get on disability. trans women face this just as much as AFAB cis women, it's a huge issue in the medical industry

transmasculine people struggle to say on their hormones (or access them at all). testosterone is a controlled substance in many countries which means that you need a prior authorization to get the medication and need to consistently see a provider to get blood tests and check ups. it can be difficult to do so if you are low income and sometimes certain pharmacists will intentionally find ways to withhold hormones due to their own prejudices

transmasculine people struggle to get pregnancy support and care. it is very difficult for transmasculine people to figure out how to navigate their pregnancy, either due to their HRT provider not knowing much about pregnancy, or having a gynecologist who's not familiar with transmasculine health.

transmascs get denied from spaces made for men constantly. even if they pass, if word gets around that they're trans they can easily be kicked out of a space. transmasculine lesbians are often removed from lesbian, transmasc and/or non binary spaces. transmasc butches are often ostracized from all communities their identities correlate to. trans men and transmasc enbies are seen as a threat to women.

there is ugliness in every pocket of the queer community when it comes to how cisheteronormative society treats us. we all face disgusting treatment that needs to be addressed. it's important to consider how this system affects everyone underneath it. we need to talk about the positive things, it's good to help those are questioning, but we also must discuss what struggles we face in order to humanize ourselves and show that we people, too. none of us have it easy.

[itsjustmylifeconfessions]

I loved episode 6 for so many reasons (Pedro your Emmy nomination is secured!) but two things really caught my attention while watching the episode and seeing people reacting to it (on YouTube, twitter, here...)

The amount of male reactors that didn't know what a menstrual cup was, and even thought it was some sort of birth control, shouldn't have been surprising to me but damn y'all really don't know anything do you?

One video I watched they were saying Maria was trying to control Ellie, by giving her birth control and cutting her hair against her will. They did not think Maria was being genuinely helpful at all.

Now let me tell you, as a woman, I would have helped another woman with everything she needs immediately. We have a shower, let me get you a nice soap. Need period products? I got you. I have scissors do you need a haircut? Let me get you clean underwear, do you need a bra? Here have a hair tie.

When Ellie found the tampons in ep 4 that made me so happy, then this happens and this display of not only women's solidarity towards each other but this awareness of our daily issues actually warms my heart.

I've always wondered what it would be like to be a woman in an apocalyptic world. We need these things. We don't just want them, we need them. I have cramps that are so bad sometimes I think I'm gonna pass out, even if I take meds, but I have never, not even once, watched a scene with a woman even acknowleding her period. unless if for some bulshit pregnancy arc but don't get me started

The second thing was that a lot of people (not just men in this case) thought that Joel was having a heart attack, when it was so clear he was experiencing something like a panic attack/anxiety/PTSD episode.

The lack of awareness on mental health is so clear. Maybe it's because I deal with anxiety and know what it feels like, but I understood immediately what was happening in those scenes.

We are so used to not talking about it. It should be so obvious to everyone but it wasn't. Because we don't even discuss this in real life.

I love that the show doesn't shy away from such important things that somehow for us are taboo. Mental health, women's health, these are things we don't really see in shows like this and I love that they are not hiding from it.

Ellie is a girl, she has periods. She also has a lot of trauma to unpack. Joel is not a robot, he's been through so much of course there's trauma there, of course he'll have PTSD and anxiety and have panic attacks on the possibility of caring for someone so much again and failing to protect them.

Anyway, I'd love to talk about everything I've been loving about this show but this post is too long already. I'm loving how they are adapting this story, they are doing a fantastic job, and the things they are changing/adding are only making the story better, and I can't wait for what's coming next.

[agendercryptidlev]

it's a specific kind of evil for someone to look at your post that says "this marginalized group is killing themselves at astronomically high rates, please be kind to them" and respond with "Okay but they don't get killed enough." Holy shit

Replying to these anons together because they touch on the same issue, and yeah what we're seeing here is the "children are starving in Africa" type of comparative suffering B.S. that happens so often in discussions of oppression.

There's also of course the stigmatization of mental health and suicide as systematic issue. People are uncomfortable talking about the fact that suicide is caused often more by environmental factors than internal ones, they want to be able to say those who commit suicide had personal problems because they want to absolve our societies responsibility for the epidemic of depression and self harm.

This is a bad way of looking at thing given that if you look at stats, those who are marginalized and isolated have the highest rates of suicide. Being made an outsider in the community you live in is what leads to self harm.

Another issue we're seeing here is the polarization of discussions of trans oppression. Basically that anon likely assumed that because I care about the issues that affect trans men I must not care about the issues that affect trans women. This is absolute bullshit, and in my opinion you cannot support any trans identity without supporting all trans identities, if you claim to than you are lying or a hypocrite. None of us will be safe until all of us are, and that means sometimes you have to give a shit about issues that affect other people more than you.

The trans community is currently under attacks from people who would like to see ever single trans person dead or detransitioned. Our enemies take many forms be it TERFs, Fundementalist Christians, edgy Atheists, LGB without the T, etc. Our enemies however are not the trans people who identify in a different way than you do.

Solidarity with other trans people, especially trans people who identify in a different way than you, is more important than ever.

Take care of each other <3

[rjzimmerman]

Excerpt from this story from Grist:

In the depths of the Great Depression in 1933, President Franklin D. Roosevelt warned Congress that millions of Americans were idly “walking the streets,” presenting a threat to the country’s stability, even though they “would infinitely prefer to work.” It’s part of the reason he proposed the Civilian Conservation Corps, a program that would hire men to preserve forests, prevent soil erosion, and control floods. “More important, however, than the material gains will be the moral and spiritual value of such work,” Roosevelt said.

President Joe Biden referenced that line last month when he announced the launch of the American Climate Corps, a government jobs program inspired by Roosevelt’s that tackles the environmental problems of the 21st century. Besides the obvious benefits of restoring wetlands and installing solar panels, the climate corps is intended to pave a path to green careers for those who sign up. Another advantage of joining, though less-discussed, is that it could help alleviate widespread climate anxiety, channeling young people’s concern into concrete, hands-on work. More than half of Americans are anxious, to some degree, about how climate change is affecting their mental health. There are only about 250 job openings in the climate corps right now, but the White House expects to employ 20,000 people over the program’s first year.

While the vast majority of 18- to 28-year-olds in the United States say they’re worried about climate change, two-thirds of them are unsure what they can do to make a difference, according to polling from the think tank Data for Progress in 2022. The combination is ripe for “climate anxiety,” a catch-all term for the feelings of grief, fear, and distress that’s not so much a clinical diagnosis as a logical response to living through the hottest period on Earth in 125,000 years. 

According to common wisdom, the best way to treat existential dread about global warming is to “take action.” But not all types of climate action are equal. Proponents of the American Climate Corps suggest that the program offers something more substantial than ditching meat or taking a bike ride — it’s a chance to work on climate change or environmental justice issues all day as part of a larger cause. “There’s something about, ‘Here is a clear job with a clear timeline and a clear local goal. I can, like, put my hands in the dirt,’” said Kidus Girma, campaign director of the Sunrise Movement, a youth-led climate organization that fought to make the climate corps happen. 

In small doses, anxiety can prompt people to do something, but in large doses, it can be incapacitating. The structure of the American Climate Corps could be useful for young people who are overwhelmed by the enormity of a global problem and aren’t sure where to start, said McKenna Parnes, a clinical psychology researcher at the University of Washington. 

Taking action as part of a group, as opposed to going it alone, can significantly alleviate the distress associated with climate change, according to a study Parnes co-authored in 2022. Climate corps members wouldn’t necessarily need to be working with people all day to get those benefits. “Even if it’s folks that are doing individual jobs but part of the greater collective, just by nature of being part of the climate corps, there’s already that collective piece,” she said.

[keepthisholykiss]

teen boys/young men in your life very likely could be engaging in yet another “trendy” form of antisemitism and you all need to keep those fuckers in check. this post will 100% get shadowbanned due to the language so please reblog if you feel so inclined to share this information

major antisemitism content warning under the fold but please educate yourself if you don’t already know about “gnome hunting” 

earlier this year a trending tag on tiktok popped up in the form of “gnome hunting” and multiple users posted warnings about how they were unknowingly engaging with antisemetic assholes by posting in the tag. the premise is that these users are “hunting gnomes” which actually means jewish people as well as other minority groups.

just today i noticed that youtuber annamarie forcino posted a video on the topic which prompted me to check and the trend does, in fact, still exist. if you want a fairly good discussion on the topic in under 11 minutes i recommend this video:

however annamarie is far from the first person to discuss this issue as there were articles circulating on it in april of this year and in early june i saw another report on it.

as the internet becomes more and more divided, social media sites stop encouraging information sharing, and even search engines try to silence actual issues it is important to stay up to date with issues surrounding dog whistles and hate speech. 

it is always good to stay up to date with source lists of dog whistles such as this one from rainbow cafe and this one from the american jewish committee

if you don’t have the time or attention to read those links or watch annamarie’s video then i encourage you to make time to be an actual ally to people who are targeted by white supremacists however here are the highlights of what is actively being used in gnome hunter videos:

“millions wear the hats” (or variations on the term) - the trend is claiming to reference gnomes however this term is a reference to jewish men

gnome hunting - a term used to reference the trend itself and to refer to targeting jewish people for sport

referencing the number 88 i.e. 'i saw 88 gnomes yesterday' - this is code for common nazi phrasing

using two lightning bolt emojis - this is a code referring to the ss imagery on nazi jackets

references to replacement theory - this is a dog whistle to conspiracy against minorities “replacing” white people

references to slavic sigils and culture - again this is a common dog whistle at this point but tends to be going together with this trend

additionally those posting under this tag are claiming to have various mental health conditions such as schizophrenia, insanity, autism, and depression. this is also a form of protecting their posts and as a reminder mental health is never an excuse for white supremacy and it is always ethical to punch nazis

anyway if i royally fucked up this post please let me know and i will edit or repost it, from my knowledge of dealing with these topics this is about as thorough as i think i can or need to be on this for this post but i am happy to make changes to it as well or tag/tw differently if needed.

[brasskingfisher]

FUCK THE PATRIARCHY!

Ok, I need to empty my brain of this. I've been seeing some discourse recently about misogyny and the patriarchy in regard to TERFs and radfems who seem to think that because AMAB people benefit from the patriarchy it's impossible for them to be directly harmed by it (if at all), or to genuinely oppose it. Well I've got news for you fucknuggets:

I'M A CISGENDER MAN WHO HAS SUFFERED BECAUSE OF THE PATRIARCHY!!

One perfect example is my mental health problems. Now I have depression and anxeity and got diagnosed in my mid twenties (though I'd begun to suspect I had some kind of problem much sooner). Now part of the reason I didn't get diagnosed sooner is because I was brought up with that traditional patriarchal idea that all men are inherntly stoic and can't/shouldn't show emotion and so I felt like asking for a psych referral because of my struggles was an overreaction. Now because I was never given space or opportunity to express or explore my emotions as a child I didn't have the vocabulary and understanding to talk to other people about my emotions and explain how I felt. The end result was that I had a tendency to bottle up and supress all my emotions up to the point I couldn't anymore and I either shut down and isolated myself or physically lashed out at myself or others. Now when that physical violence happened I almost invariably got criticised for not asking for help before that point despite not knowing how to and or being told I was weak/unmanly for needing/wanting that help.

It's also messed me up on terms of my sexuality. For context (and I've discussed before) I'm a bi/pan romantic asexual, but previously considered myself straight with a low sex drive (I just couldn't relate to this idea that regular sex was some kind of necessity, especially for men) since I wasn't interested in other men in that way and sex just never seemed particularly important. Because obviously you're either straight or gay. And obviously it's wrong to be gay or want to be with another man. It's only been recently as I've discovered asexuality and begun exploring queer spaces (and talking to other asexuals) that I've realised that my limited sexual experience is because I felt that I should want sex, or that providing sexual release for my partner was an important aspect of the relationship rather than I actually want to do the deed.

Now, this has left me with absolute metric fuckton of issues and problems which I'm still trying to unpack and deal with, and honestly, if future generations don't have to do this, I'd say that's for the better.

[artemisiafem]

i really am so sick of the way personality disorders are often discussed. sometimes i try to put it down to people online usually not being able to talk about things in a nuanced fashion but i'm seeing the same rhetoric across different age groups, and across people i know online, and it really tires me out. this is mainly about bpd, since that's what i've been diagnosed with, and because it's one of the most visible, but it's true about other personality disorders, in particular those in cluster b, but also other clusters as well.

there's two things in particular which really upset me, and they both feed into each other.

(1) aggressive self-identification with the label, especially in cases of self-diagnosis (usually this is done by women/teenage girls). i understand the impulse for both self-identification and self-diagnosis. getting diagnosed with a personality disorder can be explanatory - oh, that's why i'm like this. but in the case of self-identification, there's a couple issues. (1) it's a mindset that tends to be anti-recovery. it tends to lean too far towards "this is me," and "its not unchangeable." (2) self-identification, especially in the case of self-diagnosis, tends to emphasise certain parts of the disorder far more than others - in the case of bpd, this is usually the dysfunctional attachments which are common. (3) it uncritically accepts psychiatry, and does not look at whether the diagnostic concept of personality disorders is valid or even useful. this is particularly important considering the links between bpd as a diagnosis & misogyny & hysteria, as well as the intense stigma that comes with a diagnosis of bpd. while some mental health professionals are informed and welcoming, most are not. it's also significant that abuse (which is highly gendered) may also result in victims presenting with symptoms of what is labelled as bpd (obviously abuse in childhood is also highly correlated with bpd). as a result, you potentially have women in abusive relationships being told they're the problem, that it is all in their head. (2) intense fetishisation of the label (usually by men). this goes hand in hand with demonisation. i've seen far too many men online talking about how bpd women are great at sex, talking about how they want a bpd girlfriend because she'll be obsessed with them, talking about how bpd women are more attractive than other groups. equally i've seen men online talking about bpd women like they're evil creatures from another dimension, sent specifically here to torment men, like we're not even human at all. this isn't just online, i have been fetishised and demonised by men in my own personal experience (i have also seen women demonising others with bpd, but this usually lacks the fetishisation aspect). it's also present in broader cultural narratives - the crazy ex girlfriend, don't stick your dick in crazy, even the manic pixie dream girl has shades of the idealised bpd girlfriend.

i highlight the gendered responses because they have played out quite significantly in my experience, and because they reinforce each other. this is not to blame women diagnosed with bpd for their fetishisation, i am one myself, but to recognise instead how we are pushed to sexualise ourselves further as a result of a misogynistic society (a particularly dangerous thing in the case of those of us with trauma responses like this). and also, i'm frankly a little sick of seeing so many memes which simply play into stereotypes associated with what men fetishise about us. men who fetishise bpd can die though

[kngshuen]

The benefits and drawbacks of social gaming communities

In the vast digital environment, social gaming communities have become active gathering places where people connect and collaborate over a shared love of gaming. These online spaces offer unique benefits and drawbacks that profoundly shape gamers' social lives. As we navigate the intricacies of these communities, it becomes clear that while they provide a haven for social interaction and shared experiences, they also present challenges that require careful consideration. In this exploration, we will uncover the dual nature of social gaming communities and illuminate their role in promoting social life in the digital age.

Before we dive into it, If you are new to this concept, you can explore more about social gaming communities here. Now, let us delve into the complexities of these digital centres and examine the benefits and drawbacks of shaping gamers’ social lives in this unique realm.

The Benefits of Social Gaming Communities:

One of the most significant advantages of social gaming communities is the sense of belonging they cultivate (Molyneux et al., 2015). Within a global context characterized by considerable physical separation, virtual environments serve as a conduit for gamers to establish connections predicated on their mutual fondness for games (Dev, 2023). These online communities serve as digital environments where individuals from diverse backgrounds and locations can interact through multiplayer games, participate in discussions, and bond around each other's passion for gaming. (MetaEngine, 2023). Establishing a sense of community is especially vital in an era when in-person interactions may be scarce, allowing people to express themselves in a digital environment freely.

Moreover, the influence of gaming community collaboration and teamwork extends beyond virtual realms to affect real-world situations. Gamers develop a sense of community by learning to collaborate and assessing one another's strengths and weaknesses (Editor Team, 2022). This dynamic of collaboration reflects how personnel construct robust communities within the professional environment. Furthermore, the practical application of the communication proficiencies emphasized in gaming communities empowers individuals to articulate their thoughts and opinions with efficacy (SkillsYouNeed, 2023). For those who do not have strong offline social skills, gaming is a unique platform to communicate and connect with others. Essentially, the collaboration and communication skills developed in the game are seamlessly linked to real-world community building.

Furthermore, social gaming communities are essential for mental health and emotional support in addition to being places of enjoyment. People who use these online forums to exchange gaming experiences with one another develop a sense of camaraderie that helps them through difficult times. These communities provide a support network to reduce feelings of isolation and loneliness. Concurrently, new research highlights the importance of the community and chat elements, particularly for lonely young men, providing an anonymous "third place" outside the house or workplace (Prochnow, 2023). This space allows individuals to open up, find empathy, and make important social connections that may be lacking in offline life. The combination of emotional support, shared experiences, and unique anonymity these communities offer highlights their profound impact on fostering a sense of belonging and supporting mental health.

The Drawbacks of Social Gaming Communities:

However, it also has some drawbacks, particularly the negative impact of anonymity and over-participation on users' mental health and overall gaming experience. This community can be a breeding ground for issues such as cyberbullying, cheating, and various health issues. For example, the shield of anonymity creates a toxic atmosphere by allowing users to express "rude language, severe criticisms, anger, hatred, and even threats." Most cyberbullying and aggressive behavior occurs from anonymous users, and the negative impact exceeds the negative impact of traditional face-to-face or known perpetrator cyberbullying. The privilege of anonymity perpetuates feelings of frustration, insecurity, and anxiety among victims, thereby intensifying their sense of helplessness in comparison to normal bullying scenarios. Bullies, who are often experienced gamers, use anonymity to intimidate new players, further exacerbating issues like bullying (Grazotis, 2018). Furthermore, excessive participation in online gaming is considered a long-standing problem, affecting mental health as well as physical and social aspects of life. This highlights the interconnected challenges within digital communities, emphasizing the need for responsible and respectful interactions to foster a positive and inclusive social environment within the dynamic landscape of social gaming.

Moreover, privacy is also a concern in digital communities, including social gaming ones. When we share personal information online, there is a risk of it being accessed or misused by others (Team, 2023). It is like being cautious about what we share with strangers—we do not want everyone to know everything about us. Digital communities play a role in our social lives, but exercising caution while using them and safeguarding personal information is important. This emphasizes that, even if these communities promote social contacts, users should be aware of their digital footprint to ensure a secure and safe online social environment.

In conclusion, the benefits and drawbacks combine to shape the delicate digital landscape. While these communities provide virtual havens for socialization, collaboration, and emotional support, they also require thoughtful consideration of potential challenges. The key is to strike a delicate balance—gaining the rewards of community building while mitigating the drawbacks of toxic anonymity and Privacy. As technology advances, the collective responsibility falls on the gaming community to create an environment where individuals can continue to find comfort, connection, and personal growth in an ever-expanding digital social environment.

What's your take on the impact of anonymity in online gaming communities? Share your thoughts and vote below.

Reference List

Dev, L. (2023). Why are gamers so passionate about the game industry? Quora. https://www.quora.com/Why-are-gamers-so-passionate-about-the-game-industry

Editor Team. (2022). Teamwork Gaming: The effects of playing video games on teamwork and team performance. Totem - the Feel Good Game. https://store.totemteam.com/blogs/news/teamwork-gaming-the-effects-of-playing-video-games-on-teamwork-and-team-performance

Grazotis, E. (2018). The Negative Effects of Anonymity and Excessive Participation in Online Gaming Communities. Debating Communities and Social Networks 2018 OUA conference. https://networkconference.netstudies.org/2018OUA/2018/04/23/the-negative-effects-of-anonymity-and-excessive-participation-in-online-gaming-communities/

MetaEngine. (2023, July 7). What is a Gaming Community and How to Build One. MetaEngine. https://www.metaengine.gg/blog/what-is-a-gaming-community-and-how-to-build-one

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Prochnow, T. (2023). Online gaming communities could provide a lifeline for isolated young men − new research. The Conversation. https://theconversation.com/online-gaming-communities-could-provide-a-lifeline-for-isolated-young-men-new-research-211558#:~:text=This%20finding%20suggests%20the%20chat,may%20lack%20in%20real%20life

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[doctorprofessorsong]

Here's the thing. A lot of queer people have experience the same minority stresses that come with "passing privilege" and it's called being in the closet. And while that is not always distressing for everyone, I struggle to believe that any of you don't know at least some people who have dealt with the extremely negative effects that can accompany it.

I like to say "presumed" because I think it's important that people understand that people who "pass" are inherently being presumed to be a member of a group in which they do not belong. Why does this matter? It means they are more likely to experience microagressions. It means they are more likely to recieve backlash if they disclose their identity. More importantly, it means they are less likely to recieve support from their own community.

I understand what people may be trying to say is you have certain advantages when you are presumed cis or het. But that is not the end of the discussion, because it's important to understand that is accompanied with the cost of certain minority stresses that are extremely detrimental to mental health, safety and well-being. Put another way, advantages may be afforded to someone who passes, but because they are not part of the group afforded the privilege, there is an inherent and painful conflict that can lead to a substantial amount of harm. Meanwhile, the same person may seek support from the community they actually belong to and be rejected.

This is an extremely studied thing, y'all, at least when it comes to bisexuals. It doesn’t take much to step beyond your own worldview. I understand someone who is visibly queer in a way that is readily apparent may experience *different* detrimental effects. But the same can be said by different expressions of queerness and the way they may be valued or not by society. It's fine to focus on a particular negative effect or stereotype that affects a specific group under the umbrella, but that should never be turned into some test of queerness or virtue. It's not a contest of who is the most queer or who suffers the most. Excommunicate the catholic in your head there.

Ultimately, when you see someone getting those privileges it's tempting to say "my life would be easier if I was treated as a member of the majority," but in actuality the ease becomes from actually belonging to that group. Someone who is "passing" is inherently NOT accepted as they are, or they wouldn't need to pass.

Let's take a closer look below the cut.

Bisexuals

Starting with my beautiful bisexuals (meant here as the umbrella term) who are often told to pick a side and who are presumed to have a sexual orientation associated with the apparent gender of their partner. Let's see how this plays out for them.

According to one study, bisexuals are less likely to feel as if they are accepted in the community and staggeringly more likely to be in the closet

Here, bisexual women and men are more likely than lesbian or heterosexual women to experience a range of mental health issues including anxiety, depression, and panic disorders.

Bisexual youth are more likely to experience suicidal ideation than their straight or gay or lesbian counterparts

Trans and nb

This study actually has a fantastic round up of health disparities. It also identifies double discrimination, invalidation and sexual assault and victimization as factors that affect the bisexual community. Honestly read this and come back to me

I don't have as much research here and don't think we have it (also tumblr wont let me link things suddenly). But I would honestly be shocked to hear that, particularly for those in the closet or for non binary folks presumed to be their AGAB you don't have similar findings. Also, there are plenty of people who have shared their lived experiences of dealing with backlash and other issues associated with the concept of passing. See above re the benefits. You only get them if you pass and violence or anger are real possibilities for people who are outed.

And you don't have to look far to find rejection from the community including people saying you don't belong at pride unless you come out.

What's important to remember is that even those who have transitioned and pass don't get to skip on down the road. We know for a fact Healthcare can be a particularly difficult issue for the trans community. And that certainly affects folks who pass.

Passing can feel like a negative and a positive for non-cisgender folks. Many people seek the experience of passing as gender affirmation, while others may resent the pressure to conform to a binary and/or feel invisible or erased.

And most importantly, even folks who pass are only afforded privileges if they are presumed to be a member of the favored group.

TBH, given the absolutely horrible discourse right now, if you don't think every trans and nb person deserves support, I don't know what to say to you.

Honestly if there's ONE thing I wish I could get all queer people to understand is that if you're in a situation where you know everyone would treat you differently, especially to the point of it putting your life in danger, if they found out you're queer, you aren't experiencing privilege, you're in a hostage situation.

Like sorry experiencing "passing privilege" is actually just being trapped in a room with a bloodthirsty t-rex and having people tell you that you should be thankful because thier vision is based on movement and you can just stand still. It's not a privilege to be erased, to have to lie to everyone around you to stay safe-ish, to have to closet yourself because you know even a single step out of line could be the end of your entire world.

None of us should have to be thankful to stand in front of a loaded gun while the person holding it goes "haha, don't worry, I only use this on faggots, and you're not a fag....right?" Like this is not a net good and it has almost nothing in common with actually being part of a privileged group.

Anyway, Happy Pride, let's leave this shit behind.

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Understanding Traditional Healers and Psychic Readings

For the younger generation, traditional healersand best psychic readings provide a unique point of view Though these traditional methods are still important, they offer insights that go beyond the material world. This is an overview of best psychic readings and conventional healing, including their techniques and current roles in society.

What Are Traditional Healers?

Using age-old techniques handed down through the years, traditional healers address mental, emotional, and spiritual problems. The methods used by these healers—also referred to as herbalists, medicine men, or shamans—have their roots in their past and society. They support patients in finding healing and harmony by fusing herbal treatments, spiritual ceremonies, and individual counseling.

Cultural Practices and Significance

Traditional healers are important members of many societies. They are leaders and spiritual guides in addition to medical professionals. They frequently use holistic approaches in their treatment practices, which emphasize treating the full person—body, mind, and spirit. 

To assist in restoring balance, these traditional healers who use a procedure of various kinds of medicines, carrying out rituals, or providing energy for healing of an individual. Like you know, Traditional African healers who use a method in which they treat illnesses using spiritual rites and plant-based medicines. Well China has been using acupuncture and herbal remedies in traditional Chinese medicine for thousands of years to heal different problems for people. 

Why Traditional Healers Still Matters

Traditional healing is still vital today, particularly for people seeking alternative treatments or in places where access to modern care may be limited. A deeper understanding of health that takes into account both spiritual and bodily requirements is often obtained by integrating traditional practices with mainstream medical care, according to numerous individuals.

Exploring best Psychic Readings

Another way that people get answers when they are unsure of their life's purpose or direction is by getting a best psychic reading. Psychics, mediums, and intuitive readers use their abilities to see into the past, present, or future of a person.To provide insights, they employ a variety of techniques like clairvoyance—the ability to see beyond the visible—tarot cards, and mediumship—the ability to communicate with spirits.

Different Psychic Practices

There are several formats for psychic readings. People with clairvoyant abilities may "see" visions of their future or life. A deck of cards containing symbolic imagery is used by tarot readers to read messages and provide guidance. In order to deliver messages or offer consolation from departed loved ones, mediums converse with spirits. Though every approach has a unique strategy, all aim to offer practical and perceptive advice. A medium could communicate with the afterlife to deliver messages, whereas a tarot reading entails analyzing card symbols.

Finding the Right best Psychic Reading

Choose a trustworthy psychic reader if you're interested in receiving readings from psychics. Find someone who has a solid reputation, a list of references from friends and family, or formal training. Remember that there are other paths to understanding and personal development besides psychic insights, so have an open mind.

Combining Traditional healers and best Psychic Practices

Best Psychic readings and conventional healing can work well together. They both address spiritual and emotional issues in addition to physical symptoms when discussing health and personal struggles. Gaining a better grasp of both can help you comprehend yourself and your path more fully.

Unique perspectives on life can be gained from both psychic readings and traditional healers. While best psychic readings offer clairvoyant insights into life's invisible dimensions, traditional healers establish connections with ancient wisdom and customs. Our total feeling of well-being and personal development are enhanced by both methods, which assist us in our search for solutions and meaning outside of the material world.

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The Importance of Hobbies for Happiness: Finding Balance and Fulfillment

n today’s fast-paced world, where work and responsibilities often take center stage, hobbies can sometimes feel like an afterthought. However, they are much more than just a way to pass the time. Hobbies play a critical role in improving mental health, fostering a sense of purpose, and even building social connections. But there’s another layer to this conversation: why do some women criticize men for having hobbies? In this post, we’ll dive into that issue and explore why hobbies are essential for everyone’s happiness—men and women alike.

Hobbies and Mental Wellness: A Much-Needed Break

We all experience stress, whether it’s from work, personal responsibilities, or just life in general. Hobbies provide an essential outlet for relaxation and stress relief. When you engage in something you truly enjoy—whether it’s painting, playing a musical instrument, or even gaming—you’re able to escape from daily pressures.

Research shows that hobbies can reduce cortisol levels, the hormone associated with stress, allowing your mind and body to unwind. It’s like hitting the refresh button on your mental health. So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed or burnt out, picking up a hobby could be the stress-relief you’ve been looking for. And remember, it’s not just a luxury—it’s essential for maintaining mental balance.

The Sense of Purpose Hobbies Provide

Hobbies are more than just activities; they can also give us a sense of purpose. Think about it: when you learn a new skill or get better at something over time, there’s a real sense of achievement. Whether it’s mastering a new recipe, building a model airplane, or completing a book you’ve been working on for months, that feeling of accomplishment isn’t just fleeting—it stays with you, boosting your self-esteem.

Studies show that this sense of purpose and accomplishment is closely linked to long-term happiness. When you regularly engage in hobbies, you’re not just filling time—you’re building a deeper sense of fulfillment in your life.

Building Social Connections Through Shared Interests

Another often-overlooked benefit of hobbies is the opportunity they provide for building social connections. Whether it’s joining a running club, participating in a book club, or getting involved in an online community for gamers, hobbies are a natural way to meet people who share your interests.

These social interactions are essential for emotional well-being. We’re social creatures, after all, and having a sense of community can combat feelings of loneliness and isolation. So, if you’ve been feeling disconnected or alone, pursuing a hobby might just be the key to finding your tribe.

Why Some Women Criticize Men’s Hobbies

In recent years, there’s been a growing narrative, particularly online, about women criticizing men’s hobbies. Now, this isn’t a universal issue, but it’s common enough to spark discussion. A lot of this criticism stems from the perception that some hobbies, especially those that are time-consuming—like golfing, gaming, or sports—can lead to imbalance in relationships.

For many women, the frustration isn’t about the hobbies themselves but about the amount of time and energy they consume. When one partner spends hours on a hobby, the other may feel neglected, leading to tension. In reality, it’s often more about balance and communication than it is about the hobby itself.

If you’re finding yourself in this situation, consider having an open conversation with your partner about how to strike that balance. Hobbies should enrich your life, not cause strain in your relationships.

Lifelong Learning and Personal Growth

One of the greatest benefits of hobbies is how they encourage lifelong learning and growth. Whether you’re picking up a new skill or diving deeper into a long-time interest, hobbies keep your mind active and engaged. This constant learning doesn’t just keep you sharp—it boosts your overall life satisfaction.

Studies have found that people who regularly engage in hobbies report higher levels of happiness and life satisfaction. And it makes sense: when we’re actively learning and improving, we feel more confident, capable, and fulfilled.

Conclusion: Hobbies as a Pathway to Happiness

So, what’s the big takeaway? Hobbies aren’t just something to do when you’re bored—they’re an essential part of a healthy, balanced life. They help reduce stress, foster a sense of accomplishment, build social connections, and promote lifelong learning. For men who might be facing criticism over their hobbies, the key is finding balance and communicating with your partner. After all, hobbies should bring joy, not tension.

So, what hobby are you passionate about? And if you haven’t found one yet, now might be the perfect time to start exploring.

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Why Cracking Sound in Joints Deficiency Shouldn’t Be Ignored: Insights from Dr. Pramod kumar?

During the body’s silent mode, there are times when your bones turn off mute mode and start making popping sounds. That condition is known as cracking sounds in joint deficiency or crepitus. According to an orthopedic expert, this medical condition is normal, but if the cracking sound in joints starts causing pain, you should consult a doctor. This condition occurs when we sit, bend, or walk, and the noise can reach 83 decibels, or DB. In this blog, we will discuss the primary reasons why cracking sounds cause joint deficiency.

What vitamin deficiency causes bone cracking?

Our body starts dissipating the necessary nutrients as we reach a certain age. The cracking sound in joints can also be caused by a deficiency of the following nutrients, which we will discuss in this section:

Vitamin D deficiency

Vitamin D plays an important role in making the bones stronger and improving flexibility. A deficiency in vitamin D causes inflammation and weakens the bones and joints, leading to the sound of cracking in the joints.

Calcium deficiency

Consuming calcium improves bone strength and muscle contractions. A lack of this vitamin leads to decreased bone density and makes joints more susceptible to discomfort and bone-cracking sounds. 

Vitamin C deficiency

Vitamin C is another essential nutrient that is responsible for collagen synthesis, repairing tissues, and optimizing joint health. The deficiency of vitamin C often causes cracking sounds in joints. A deficiency in vitamin C can impede the healing process of joint repair.

Omega-3 fatty acid deficiency

Doctors recommend Omega-3 fatty acids as a nutrient for both men and women to consume. This has anti-inflammatory properties that help improve bone health, avoid cracking sound in joints, and also increase lubrication in the joints.

Magnesium deficiency

Magnesium is the most essential nutrient for relaxation, increased bone density, bone formation, and proper bone functioning. The absence of magnesium causes bone cracking and joint pain.

What causes joints to crack a lot?

A joint cracking sound is a common event that occurs to almost every other person. If this sound in joints remains persistent, it will warn of severe joint and bone issues. There are multiple factors responsible for the cracking sound in joints, including:

Gas bubbles

Osteoarthritis

Cartilage injuries

Tendon movement and ligament injuries

Hypermobility and muscle imbalances

This blog provides a detailed explanation of the main causes of cracking sound in joints, and you can read more about it.

Should I be concerned about crackling sounds?

According to the orthopedic expert, the cracking sound of joint deficiency is no longer an issue. This occurs due to multiple factors, including a lack of nutrients, and can start at any time. Therefore, there is no reason why my joints are cracking all of a sudden. However, if an individual starts experiencing pain and discomfort in the bone-cracking sound, it is important to consult with an orthopaedic doctor like Dr. Pramod Kumar.

Is stress also responsible for the cracking sound in joints?

Yes, stress affects an individual physically, mentally, and internally. Stress is usual in the life of an individual, whether they belong to a corporation or a family. Any form of stress can lead to symptoms such as indigestion, bone cracking, and other issues that can hinder an individual’s concentration.

When should I seek medical advice?

If you are wondering how to stop the cracking sounds in joints,? Then connect with the orthopedic doctor regarding the cracking sounds in joints, and then consider the following:

Pain

Swelling

Limited mobility

Nutritional gaps

Preventive measures and treatments

Here are some preventative measures and doctor-recommended treatments you can implement to stop the cracking sounds in joints:

Balanced diet: Ensure that you consume a balanced diet that contains the necessary nutrients, such as vitamin D, vitamin C, and omega-3 fatty acids.

Supplements: There are numerous supplements available on the market, but it is important to consult a doctor before consuming them.

Regular exercise: We recommend doing yoga, pilates, or other exercises because they are important for healthy and stronger bones.

Drink 8 glasses of water each day to stay hydrated and avoid dehydration.

Top foods that prevent bone fractures and meet the necessary nutrient requirements

Here are some foods you should consume daily to prevent the cracking sound in joints:

Fatty fish

Examples: salmon, mackerel, sardines, and trout.

Leafy green vegetables

Examples: spinach, kale, collard greens, and Swiss chard.

Nuts and seeds

Examples: walnuts, flaxseeds, chia seeds, and almonds.

Dairy products

Examples: milk, cheese, yogurt, and curd.

Rich in vitamin C

Examples: oranges, kiwi, and strawberries

Whole grains

Examples: brown rice, quinoa, oats, and barley.

Berries

Examples: raspberries, blueberries, strawberries, and blackberries.

Some other examples of foods are garlic, onions, avocados, cherries, tart juice, green tea, and soy products.

Conclusion

A balanced diet boosts your bone health and keeps you fit and energetic all day long. Cracking sounds in joints also occur due to the body’s lack of required nutrients. The optimal amount of nutrients in the body helps to keep this bone-cracking sound issue at bay. Dr. Pramod Kumar, the top orthopedic doctor, has already listed the top foods. This is the time to stay close to your doctor and keep healthy all your life.

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Arnold Schwarzenegger Warns We’re Raising A ‘Generation Of Wimps’

Credit: Alamy & Team Coco via YouTube Arnold Schwarzenegger has gone viral for saying he doesn’t want there to be a ‘generation of wimps.’ Older generations are known to describe younger people, particularly millennials and Gen Z, as overly sensitive, fragile, and incapable of handling opposing views or life’s challenges. Now Schwarzenegger, the iconic Austrian bodybuilder who later became an actor and politician, has shared his thoughts on the matter, reigniting a wave of comments. Arnold Schwarzenegger’s comments have sparked a heated debate. Credit: Alamy Agreeing with the A-lister, one person writes: “Yes we are. These kids get so emotional and need to rest and feel very offended by everything!” A second adds: “100% agree. Everyone is soft nowadays and takes offense to anything, even with jokes.” “All they do is watch their tablets and play computer games! God forbid if they have to do chores inside let alone outside!” agrees a third. Others disagree with Schwarzenegger, with one penning: “I think there’s definitely a lack of discipline and courtesy, but I wouldn’t categorize every young person as wimpy.” “Having big muscles doesn’t equate to toughness, Arnie,” another laughs. Somebody else ponders: “It’s time someone was raised on love, and not just all tough.” There is a generational divide between the old and young. Credit: Adobe Stock The generational divide between the old and young gained traction during the 2010s, with the term ‘snowflake’ often being used in political and social discourse. ‘Snowflake’ refers to an individual who deems themself unique (just like snowflakes) and therefore deserving of special treatment, per The Independent. The term has evolved to imply that these individuals are easily offended or emotionally delicate, unable to cope with the realities of life. This perception is often linked to younger generations’ emphasis on mental health, social justice, and inclusivity. Older generations, who grew up in different socio-economic conditions, might view these priorities as signs of weakness or entitlement rather than progress. Arnold Schwarzenegger reflected on aging and his changing body in the interview. Credit: The Howard Stern Show via YouTube Boomers and Gen X were often taught to ‘tough it out’ and avoid fussing over personal issues, meanwhile, millennials and Gen Z are in an age where discussing mental health, identity, diversity, and inclusion is important. Schwarzenegger, 77, spoke about embracing struggle during his appearance on The Howard Stern Show. The Terminator star appeared on the show to promote his new book, ‘Be Useful: Seven Tools for Life.’ When asked about the popular weight loss drug Ozempic, Schwarzenegger suggested that it bypasses the critical element of resistance, which he sees as essential for mental and physical growth. He said: “The more resistance you give it, the more pain there is, the more it grows. The same is for us with a human mind. The human mind can only really grow through resistance.” Schwarzenegger also reflected on aging, expressing a sense of humor about his changing body. “Every day I do look in a mirror and I say, ‘Yep, you suck,’” he admitted, comparing his current physique to his younger, more muscular self. Arnold Schwarzenegger says ‘Let’s not over-baby the people.’ Credit: The Howard Stern Show via YouTube Elsewhere in the interview, Schwarzenegger criticized today’s youth for avoiding the hardships necessary for success, remarking that those who ‘baby themselves’ and avoid discomfort miss out on building resilience. He said: “Is it people that slept in? Is it people that were wimping out? This, ‘Oh, I want to feel good. Oh, I want to be comfortable.’ No. This is where ballsy women and men that went out there at five in the morning and got up and they struggled and they fought, and they worked their butts off. That’s what made this country great. And so now let’s continue this way. “Don’t start creating a generation of wimps and weak people and stuff like that where we go and we’re concerned about, ‘How are you feeling today? Oh, I don’t want to hurt your feelings,’ and all that.” He continued: “It’s nice to be considerate, I totally agree with that. But let’s not over-baby the kids, and let’s not over-baby the people.” Schwarzenegger stressed that sometimes, going through struggle helps you to ‘grow’ and get ‘tougher,’ which means you can handle more. Read the full article

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James Donaldson on Mental Health - Highlighting men’s mental health during Men’s Health Awareness Month

James Donaldson on Mental Health - Highlighting men’s mental health during Men’s Health Awareness Month By Ahniaelyah Spraggs MOBILE, Ala. (WALA) - In honor of Men’s Health month this June, we’re highlighting one aspect of men’s health that experts say is often overlooked — their mental health. Dr. Kevin Michaels discusses the issue more, starting out mentioning some starling statistics, “One out of every five men have some type of anxiety disorder that may go undiagnosed and … are three and a half more times likely to commit suicide than women. … suicide is like the seventh leading cause of death out there. And so it’s really important to address these things.” One of the significant barriers men face in addressing their mental health is the fear of judgment and a lack of awareness. To address these challenges, Dr. Michaels advocates for open communication. “Talking with a friend helps boost one’s mental health,” said Dr. Michaels. “Talking with religious leaders or clergy helps a person so they can get resources or access to care from multiple areas and recognizing they’re available. There are also workplace initiatives for those people that are working. There’s the Employee Assistance Program, which a lot of people aren’t aware that they have that resource in the workplace. That they can get some initial mental health or behavioral health support to help them through a difficult time.” This month Dr. Michaels encourages the public to break the stigma and encourage the men in our lives to prioritize their mental health. Another valuable resource you can use is the 988 suicide and crisis lifeline, which offers free and confidential support. #James Donaldson notes:Welcome to the “next chapter” of my life… being a voice and an advocate for #mentalhealthawarenessandsuicideprevention, especially pertaining to our younger generation of students and student-athletes.Getting men to speak up and reach out for help and assistance is one of my passions. Us men need to not suffer in silence or drown our sorrows in alcohol, hang out at bars and strip joints, or get involved with drug use.Having gone through a recent bout of #depression and #suicidalthoughts myself, I realize now, that I can make a huge difference in the lives of so many by sharing my story, and by sharing various resources I come across as I work in this space.  #http://bit.ly/JamesMentalHealthArticleFind out more about the work I do on my 501c3 non-profit foundationwebsite www.yourgiftoflife.org Order your copy of James Donaldson's latest book,#CelebratingYourGiftofLife: From The Verge of Suicide to a Life of Purpose and Joy www.celebratingyourgiftoflife.com Link for 40 Habits Signupbit.ly/40HabitsofMentalHealth If you'd like to follow and receive my daily blog in to your inbox, just click on it with Follow It. Here's the link https://follow.it/james-donaldson-s-standing-above-the-crowd-s-blog-a-view-from-above-on-things-that-make-the-world-go-round?action=followPub Read the full article

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5 Key Misconceptions About Incels: Debunking Myths and Understanding Realities

“Incels” often associated with negative connotations and misconceptions. incels, short for "involuntary celibates," are individuals, predominantly men, who feel unable to find romantic or sexual partners despite a desire for such relationships. 

However, the discourse surrounding incels is rife with misunderstandings and misinterpretations. In this article, we aim to debunk some key misconceptions about incels, shedding light on the realities behind the label.

1. All Incels Are Violent Extremists

One of the most damaging misconceptions about an incel is the belief that they are inherently violent or dangerous. 

While it is true that a small minority of individuals who identify as incels have committed acts of violence, such as mass shootings, it is crucial to recognize that such actions do not represent the entire incel community. 

Most incels are not violent extremists but rather individuals struggling with loneliness, social isolation, and mental health issues.

2. Incels Are A Homogeneous Group

Another common misconception is that all incels share the same beliefs, attitudes, and experiences. In reality, the incel community or Incels forum is diverse, with members coming from various backgrounds and holding different viewpoints. 

While some incels may harbor misogynistic or extremist ideologies, others may simply be seeking support and understanding from like-minded individuals.

It is essential to avoid painting all incels with the same broad brush and instead recognize the complexity of their experiences.

3. Incels Cannot Change Or Improve Their Situation

Many people mistakenly believe that incels are doomed to remain celibate and unhappy indefinitely. However, this misconception overlooks the fact that individuals can change and grow over time. 

While overcoming feelings of loneliness and social isolation can be challenging, it is not impossible. With the right support, therapy, and Inceldom discussion, incels can take steps to improve their self-esteem, social skills, and overall well-being. 

By challenging negative beliefs and adopting healthier coping mechanisms, incels can work towards building fulfilling relationships and leading more satisfying lives.

4. Incels Blame Others For Their Problems

There is a common misconception that incels blame others, particularly women, for their inability to find romantic or sexual partners. 

While some incels may indeed harbor resentment towards women or society in general, it is essential to recognize that many incels also experience feelings of self-blame and inadequacy. 

Rather than simply blaming others for their problems, incels often grapple with complex emotions and internal struggles. 

By addressing these underlying issues with empathy and understanding, we can better support incels in their journey toward healing and personal growth.

5. Incels Are Inherently Dangerous To Society

While it is crucial to take threats of violence seriously and address any concerning behavior, it is equally important to avoid stigmatizing all incels as inherently dangerous. 

The vast majority of incels are non-violent individuals who are simply struggling with their own emotional pain and social difficulties. 

By fostering a greater sense of empathy and compassion towards incels, we can help prevent further marginalization and alienation, ultimately promoting greater understanding and inclusion for all.

Conclusion:

It is vital to challenge the misconceptions surrounding Inceldom and strive to understand the realities of their experiences.  By debunking myths and fostering empathy, we can create a more supportive and inclusive society for everyone, regardless of their relationship status or personal struggles.

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