#men piss me off man

[the-winds-of-destiny-xxx]

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[lemonavocado]

"oh i love frankenstein! my favorite quote from the novel is i have love in me the likes of which you can scarcely imagine-" grabs you by the throat and chokes you violently

[transmascissues]

hey i know your post about your mom was mostly just a personal vent, but i have to say, do you realize that also happens with trans girls and their fathers? literally happened to one of my friends. i’m not trying to downplay your experience or something but i found it strange that you seem to think this is something that only affects transmascs

i have one question for you: so fucking what?

i don’t doubt that trans girls have experienced similar things and yeah, that’s bad too, but what the fuck does that have to do with me and the specific things i’m facing as a result of being a trans man? i never said “look at this thing that happens to ONLY trans men and NO ONE ELSE,” i just said “hey, isn’t this thing that happens to a lot of trans men, including myself, fucked up?”

i would also like to point out that what you’re talking about is in fact a different (albeit similar) thing. the way cis people treat trans people can differ dramatically based on the cis person’s gender because their commitment to gender roles is, like, a major part of problem. the specific way a cis mother reacts to her trans son’s transition is often going to be very distinct, while a cis father will likely respond to his trans daughter in a different but equally distinct way.

what i’m talking about is a very specific kind of ownership and control and self-victimization and total lack of boundaries masquerading as love and care and maternal concern that cis women (i would argue white cis women in particular) project onto their transmasc kids when we do literally anything to our bodies. i’m talking about a phenomenon which is closely related to the way moms often pass eating disorders onto their daughters (or children they view as daughters) because they see a body that looks something like theirs and project all of their insecurities and ideals onto it. i’m talking about a form of parental transphobia and projection that’s specific to the dynamic of a cis mother and her child who was “supposed to” be her daughter.

if you’ve never felt that, you’re not even remotely qualified to tell me shit about how i should be talking about that experience, and if you couldn’t recognize that experience when you read my post, i’m guessing you probably haven’t experienced it because the replies to that post made it very clear to me that anyone who has experienced it firsthand immediately knew exactly what i meant.

like, yeah, cis dads also project onto their trans daughters, but are they likely to have a reaction like running away with actual tears streaming down their face? do you expect them to passive aggressively make comments about how sad their kid’s transition makes them, how it’s such a difficult emotional time, how it’s so tragic because their kid’s body was so beautiful before? do you think their go-to transphobic reaction will be weaponizing their emotions? i’m sure there are some dads out there who are like that, but i think we can agree they’re in the minority because that’s not how cis men are taught to react and parents like this tend to be pretty damn committed to following the gender roles they were taught.

and even if i’m wrong and our experiences are exactly the same, let me reiterate that i never said this was an experience exclusive to trans men. all i said is that it happens to us. that’s just a statement of objective fact.

this started in my life when i got my hair cut short for the first time almost a decade ago and it has not stopped since. i’ve watched my mom cry over me changing my name and respond to being asked if my happiness matters more to her than my name by saying “i care about both”, i’ve watched her melt down in a mall over me getting a suit for prom and give me the silent treatment for days after, i’ve heard her plead with me to stop t because it “looks unnatural” and she’s just so “concerned for my health”, i’ve watched her stare at me post-op and say “my poor baby” over and over like she’s looking at my corpse in a casket. i’ve watched her turn herself into the victim of every single aspect of my transition. i’ve had to live with this for 9 years and spent the early years of the pandemic literally locked in a house with it. this has been my entire adolescent and adult life, and the question of if i’ll have to cut her off someday (and maybe never see my cat or my little cousins who i love more than anything in the world ever again as a result) haunts me every single day.

who the fuck are you to tell me how to talk about that?

[kawareo]

The bg3 community has a big problem with not thinking the characters are pansexual, when they clearly are, here's all the bad takes i've heard (this from queer people) on tiktok/twitter/etc "Minthara is a lesbian and HATES men" "Gale only like women, and only feminine ones" "Wyll is a gentleman, he would only date women" "Karlach clearly only has dialogue talking about men because of her heteronormative upbringing" These people are insane

Where is that post about how bitchy or mean women in media are always headcanoned as lesbians

Minthara hating men is funny to me though because ingame she openly admires and respects both Ketheric and Gortash for their leadership and/or war mindset

Gale 'i quite enjoy your musk' Dekarios suuure likes only femenine women

I'm standoffish around Wyll so I might be reaching here, but to me it sounds like calling him a Gentleman is just a nicer way of calling him boring. (Also, why couldn't a gentleman date a man??) But also Wyll openly fawns over how pretty Astarion is and about Halsin, more than once, and that's just from the top of my head

Oh wow, a big muscular lady is a lesbian? Call the news, we have something groundbreaking. (I'm still playing a Wylach romance so I do have a bias but cmon) Idk what heteronormative upbringing they're talking about though. Having a mom and a dad? In a world where homophobia doesn't exist and never has? It's so stupid, especially with Karlach whos whole thing is being open and honest about her feelings; but sure, make up straws to reach for that explain away her straight up stating that she wants to fuck a specific man

Headcanons are one thing (like personally, i see Minthara as being slightly more into women than she is into men, and opposite with Karlach) but ffs I don't get it why people need to argue about canon so much when it's literally spelled out for them

Tbh I didn't know this was such a big problem, but i guess it just means I'm happy here in my oblivious corner where people make sense

[princessefemmelesbian]

Transandrophobia truthers are so damn racist and white oh my fucking god y'all actually piss me the fuck off every time you tokenize Black and brown men for your stupid as fuck "mra but make it trans-inclusive" ideology created by a creepy guy with a corrective rape fetish(something I'll never let up on for as long as I live, btw). If I ever see another one of y'all say "Black and brown men face discrimination because they're seen as overly masculine and that's why masculinity in men is oppressed in this society" I will literally kill myself. Stop using Black and brown men as brownie points for your bullshit arguments about misandry being real when you don't have the slightest idea how racialized oppression works. White boys are so annoying and dumb istfg.

@punkeropercyjackson @punknicodiangelo @pinkpinkstarlet

[atlasisnothere]

apparently my post about gwen is doing the rounds and the discourse has ignited again. so. tapping the sign. I do not care if you dislike gwen. I really don't. there is no mandatory rule saying that you must like every protagonist in every show you watch. but hating one character for having certain characteristics and loving another character for the same thing is the problem. going out of your way to write a character so OOC that you're practically fabricating them a new personality because you hate them that much is the problem. I've read fics that have painted such a negative caricature of gwen cooper that they might as well have put her face on a dart board and started throwing knives at it. I think some of you need to brush off your hating gwen hats and check for any unconscious misogyny. you might be surprised what you find in there.

[dyke-on]

The average height for women is 5'4" stop making masc lesbians feel bad for not being 6" tall

[stalebagels]

[slooshee]

Oh… that’s Sunday’s ENG VA doubling down on his support for Chris Niosi

[anundyingfidelity]

i'm so sorry but people are really more concerned about tv shows getting cancelled instead of opening their eyes and actually care for the victims? this world never ceases to amaze me.

[misterapril]

"there is nothing" —🖕🖕🖕🖕🖕

[cryptid-crusader]

I'm very close to the end of Endwalker. Here's my Hemes/Fandaniel opinion.

[dearestgentlereaders]

what in the revenge fantasies. honestly just say you hate women and be done with it. how in the fuck would this be enjoyable to watch for anyone? so you’re telling me watching a man emotionally seduce and manipulate a woman, holding her essentially hostage and isolating her would be better than watching colin whilst yes holding her accountable, learn to see and love the talent and creativity in her work and become a better man who isn’t jealous of her success but instead learning to uplift his wife in a society that does not accommodate for independent women.

making colin hate lady whistledown more for the fact that it stopped her from writing to him than the fact that colin was reasonably angry because her words caused detriment to his family and others like marina please I have to laugh.

[yioh]

this is so obviously due to misogyny tho why are we acting confused? in any form of media, the stories with male character most likely will ALWAYS sell better, hence why straight and BL stories are so beloved. yuri stories are only beloved by wlw most of the time because they don’t pander toward straight men and other than that, no one has any interest in stories that don’t revolve around men. this is why every story that doesn’t have a male character is such a Win for me. i’m still so pleasantly surprised and happy with the success for “the guy she was interested in wasn’t a guy at all” and the drama “jeong nyeon” it’s lovely that wlw stories are finally being picked up but …. idk look at ao3 ship stats, no one cares abt the sapphic girlies as much 💀 but this is such a terrible way of consuming media - is it because people want to be attracted to male characters? how can we develop and learn as people if we don’t read about other demographics and type of people? i personally want to read abt characters of different ages, gender, jobs, social status etc etc it’s so insane to me that ppl can only obsess over conventionally attractive male characters 😭

[suuho]

unless the members are sharing it, why would you go around and repost pictures of jongdae’s wedding celebration? why exactly? i s2g the entitlement in this fandom in particular is insane.

[m4ggotm0ld]

the feminine urge to bitch slap every man ever