#men are subhuman

[brilliant-belladonna]

If I see one more “femmine and masculine energy” post I’m going to LOSE IT.

Men are not “divine” or spiritual in any way. They are subhuman.

To be divine is to create, something only a woman can do

[spitblaze]

I guess Chilchuck has brought us right back to 'adults who are short are child-coded and if you like them you're a pedophile' discourse huh

[she-is-ovarit]

I see straight and bisexual women suffer so much from male partners in the smaller ways.

When he doesn't put the time in for you and misses events that you would never miss for him—such as your birthday—or maybe you always schedule birthday parties for him and he has never returned the favor.

When you take a ton of photos of him on your phone and he has maybe four or five of you and you've been together for years.

When you've spent nearly every holiday with his family and he's only gone over to your family's place with you for the holidays once or twice (just enough to argue that he has) and you've been together for years. And maybe he argues that it's because of the distance because, surprise surprise, you have moved to a closer location to his family rather than the other way around.

When he has fathered a child from another woman yet you frequently find yourself stepping in to protect the wellbeing of this child because he doesn't put much effort into bonding with them and gradually you find yourself assuming a lot of the emotional and logistical parenting duties.

When he's hyperfocused on his job and money and seems to consider whatever job or career you have as more of a "hobby". Or, the reverse, you have a well paying and meaningful career and make more of an income than him and he becomes incredibly resentful of you and insecure in himself.

When you put in effort to cook decent and healthy meals for both of you for lunch or dinner and he puts in no effort to learn how to cook or intention to nutritionally take care of you.

When every show or movie you watch, or any game you play, seems to always depend on his preferences and he's unwilling to try anything new that you're interested in.

When he always drives and is rarely if ever the passenger, and if you express you'd like to drive (and be more in control of where you go and the safety of your lives) he becomes reactive in some way.

I can really go on, but the point is, when he is the main character in both of your lives and doesn't practice even a basic standard of consideration and respect for you (except for a short time after you've had an argument maybe), don't ignore this and don't let this go. Forget how he seems to know exactly the right things to say and how to say them to you to smooth things over and pay more attention instead to his actions and behaviors. Would you do these same neglectful things to him?

[animentality]

In response to your post about radfems and men, a few years ago I started going down the radfem rabbit hole, a lot of this came from being in a community of men who actually /were/ psychopaths, along with having a father and grandfather who were too. I have PPD as well, so seeing these men act this way and having radfems whispering in my ear "All men want to kill you, all men want to kill you" was DETERIORATING me like acid. I cannot describe to you the hell I was living in each day due to paranoia eating away at me. It felt like my own spirit was a chain link fence turning into rust.

Then I met my husband, and he completely changed my life. And yes I know women can save themselves, we aren't all damsels in distress, but I honestly /was/ too bad off to just pull myself out of it. Since fear of men was the biggest thing killing me from the inside out, a man coming along and showing me that I can both trust people AND at least some men, seriously subdued a massive chunk of my rage, hatred and fear. And he really goes above and beyond too! Every problem I have had he has helped me to fix, along with showing me how to do things myself. Some people may not like that it was a man who "rescued" me, but I don't owe it to anyone to be an idyllic girl power success story, I owe it to myself and to our son to not be a terrified wreck.

I mean I have always suspected that radfems and terfs were like this.

Like my going theory is that if you believe men are irredeemable monsters who can only hurt other people all the time, you clearly don't have good relationships, with anyone at all.

That kind of mistrust of your fellow human beings comes from a well of hurt and paranoia that you're not addressing properly.

I'm glad you found someone to help and love you, though. And I don't think it's anti feminist to need someone to rescue you either.

what's so wrong with being saved, no matter who or what does it?

nice metaphor with the chain link fence btw. that'll live on in my mind for a bit.

[apostate-in-an-alcove]

Men, radfems and conservatives when you ask them to treat sex workers with basic human dignity and respect:

[ozianfizz]

The amount of men and boys who went full mask-off Rape Ape and started threatening women/girls by cheering "Your body my choice" and crowing about wanting the 19th amendment repealed for some reason...surprises some people?

Guess what, they're emboldened now more than they were and they know it won't have consequences. White women can vote 52% for Trump and it doesn't matter. They still fucking hate you, want you to shut up, and think you deserve no rights. Surprise! The writing was right fucking there on the wall! They still fucking hate you for being a woman, even if you're a white woman who believes the same things they do!

[tigercomplex]

fully predicting that the hostility towards trans men on this site is going to blow up even more within the next two years. like the popular position is that trans men need to shut the fuck up and quit being so hysterical already so what exactly is stopping it from going further. if you can't even criticize a deeply transphobic and gender-essentialist cult from like 10 years ago we might just be fucked on that front

[squidong]

should I remake my discourse vent blog lmao

[chapst1ckmcdyke]

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[brw]

every day people wake up and try to generalise groups of like hundreds of thousands if not millions of people as being all of one opinion or having the same prejudices or biases and the same likes and dislikes and try soooo hard to make it sound like it's justified and woke this time.

[simptasia]

"women suffer due to misogyny" is not the same as "being a woman means inherently suffering". the first thing acknowledges that there is a problem that needs to be solved. the second mentality doesn't motivate towards change. saying that women inherently suffer implies that that's the way it will always be. that's fucked

[marklikely]

i always think its so telling when those misogyny influencer dudes say that women have life easier than men & the reasoning is always bc they can get dates and likes on instagram or whatever. bc it reveals that they never even for a second think about women who arent conventionally attractive...

[grim-echoes]

i know this is a thing that gets joked about but every so often i'm reminded of how there are genuinely people out there who are so utterly slack-jawed, eyes-glazed-over addicted to unnecessary difficulty/frustration in video games that it becomes the centerpoint of their self-worth and of their opinions of others and if they so much as catch a whiff of you criticizing a game's design for feeling frustrating they'll drop an entire sociopathic screed on you about how you're morally and genetically inferior to them, and i really think we need to bully these kinds of people more because i can't imagine having such an obvious complex over something so fucking blitheringly stupid and worthless

[worldend]

the way men are so obsessed with trying to 'humble' women specially talented ones on their attractiveness so they can feel better about not being good at anything is so insane. sydney sweeney is not 'mid' and you KNOW this

[subconsciousmysteries]

Nothing feels quite as good as rubbing love in the face of men who don't deserve it.

[scriptlgbt]

I'm writing a story with a Black trans man mc, I want to subvert the "angry, aggressive Black man" trope so he's fairly shy and awkward but becomes more confident as the story progresses. However, I'm worried this falls into a trope of trans men being weak or "girly". Any tips on still being able to subvert the first trope without falling into the second one?

@writingwithcolor has covered the intersection of Blackness and gender before, and may have some posts that can help as a jumping off point.