#maybe ill unfollow some more or something

[heartshapedcas]

U know what ok yeah. I have to keep this blog I think, where else do I have easy access to a cas posting tag full of cas posting?

[fortunately-bi]

...... If I went on a hiatus for who knows how long again would y'all hate me....... 👉👈

[horrorlesbians]

i really like your blog but sometimes i have the urge to send mean asks bc u need a reality check but its terrible....youre so beautiful and have lots of swag its sucks that all that shit in ur life told u that youre ugly but theyre wrong...tbh i think you need more friends who tell you youre hot maybe then you wouldnt constantly post about how ugly and unloveable you are bc thats such bullshit like cmon now. a sexy dyke will pick u up one day but the broken barbie vibe isnt as sexy as some peoplemake itout to be bro . please im begging you to find some confidance within yourself you WILL make crazy sexy fucked up films and you WILL be the object of obsession of someone super sexy but first u gotta stop crying about fake news (u beingugly) on tumblr and i do know mental illness and body imagw are serious things i struggle too so honestly i kinda hatemyself for sending you this its out of line and also the first time ive ever sent something like this (im a hatemail virgin) but also u did sign up to the 'weird personal rude asks' website?

anyway im very sorry for saying this but it was either this or i unfollow and like i said i really like ur blog cause ur cool (tldr hating urself is only sexy in moderation) (hope this doesnt hurt your feelings) (sorry again)

I am genuinely speechless

[darlingshane]

let's talk...

Because a lot of you really want me to speak on this, whether I want to or not, here it goes – for all the anons, the nice-ones, and the not-so-nice-ones….

All I can say is that I see you, I hear you, and I share your frustrations. My heart hurts so much for everything that’s going on in the world right now, and I’m having trouble processing it all, so this probably won’t make any sense…

Like a lot of you, I’m very conflicted, I wish Jon would be more vocal sometimes on issues like this. I’ve been following him for years, I was subscribed to his patreon until a few months ago when it really started to rub me the wrong way that he wouldn’t reach other communities outside the military and a few of his friends. He has a huge platform where he’s tackled issues like these before, and showing compassion for both sides would go a long way during this conflict. I don’t know if this is the case, but I saw him supporting Ukraine while still talking and sharing stories of people from Russia. I wanna believe that behind the scenes he’s doing the same right now. I can be wrong, but I don’t believe he had ill-intend when he signed that letter. This is a sensitive issue that has a lot of fronts to cover, and he probably won’t be posting anything soon, or at all. I don’t really know. But I hope that he does. Maybe the people that are still on his discord can shine a light on this and tell us if JB or his team have shared anything there.

I’d love to think he’s perfect, but he’s not. I’ve come to realize that you can admire someone, or be a fan of their work without agreeing to everything they do or say. And I’ve disagreed before with him on a lot of things he’s put out there. But that doesn’t strip away that he’s done good things too, and a lot of people are failing to see that now. And I get it. And that’s completely valid too.

That said, please know that I’m nobody, I come here to disconnect from the real world and post my little gifs and fanfictions from time to time. I don’t have to speak on any issue that I don’t feel comfortable with, this is just an exception cause a lot of you have sent anons pressuring me to speak about this.

I’m not going to turn my back on Jon anytime soon no matter how much some of you want me to, but I won’t be defending him either. I’ll keep posting pics, news, and stuff about him unless he does or says something truly despicable. If that bothers you, you can just unfollow and move on.

[lucid-daydreaming-art]

intro post whoopee!!!

hi guys im lucid :D you can also call me daylin i don’t really care but i may be like woah how do you know my name (i will forget about making this post 2 seconds after posting it) also I AM AN ADULT im 22 and i do not use pronouns just use my name pleaseeeeeee if you have a disability that makes words hard to process i understand if that’s difficult you can just use they/them instead

first off just getting this out there if youre proship, zoo, pedo, incest supporter, endo system supporter, any kind of discriminatory against protected minority groups, and anti-otherkin, shoo. dont want you here youre not welcome. bye bye my content isnt for you.

immmmm an infp-t 4w5 sanguine-melancholic existential-intrapersonal-visual learner seer of heart prospit dreamer true neutral rogue shifter airbender and dragon type trainer for all you personality label freaks

i like to DRAW!!!!! this is an art blog!!!! i will only post art here, all of my reblogs will be on @trickstergemini save for the posts my close friends make that i want to support here. sometimes i will post just text but thats only if i really need to let you guys known something or im answering a question

my commissions are OPEN!!!!!!!! dm me for commission info im too lazy and busy to make a sheet

if my requests are closed that means theyre closed dont ask me to draw shit please and thank you

im AUTISTIC i am on that mf spectrum been diagnosed since i was three. for me this means im not naturally fluent in social norms or what’s expected from an interaction or how to read others very well. i also have heavy special interests and find it really hard to turn the conversation away from something im fixating on or specially interested in. i also have extremeeeee sensory issues and a hard time being completely flexible when im comfortable in a routine so just be patient with me man adjustments are hard for me. my empathy is also extremely low and im a really really high masking person so if i come off as well versed or allistic just know that i either took a million years to format the right way to say things or i am entirely going off a predetermined script and will fumble if caught off guard. other important stuff ive got adhd bpd cptsd and major depressive disorder which all those combined makes me really flaky when it comes to responding or follow through. i may not reply to you for like 500 years or maybe i will be gods speediest most motivated soldier. just don’t expect me to be a readily available fully capable robot ok?? ok.

i am one half of @ask-kas-n-lamp the other half is some guy i don’t know he just hacked himself into the account and now i have to deal with him. the blog is no longer running though i apologize. we got burnt out from the shitty fans

in all seriousness mod dum, aka @unoriginal-and-dumb or unodum or unoriginal or whatever u know him by, thats my qpp thats my platonic soulmate my bestest friend my number one crate my brain cyst the doctor has to surgically remove from me my parasocial relationship my stalker my servant i keep locked up in my basement and i feed him cement and staples for every meal and for dessert maybe he gets rust shavings. he will be featured in my art like a lot or in my comments and reblogs and i will also be present in his stuff sometimes. if have drawn kasper it is his design, that design is not made by me its made by him sooo you should check him out and support him if you like that style or how about instead we get a mass unfollowing going there and you all come to my page and i exclusively will draw his design of kasper and get all the credit lets do that instead

uuueeehhhmmm my special interests are pokemon, homestuck, geography, taxonomy, my ocs, and personality psychology. i guess i also am specially interested in dragons because i like and think about them more than all of the above and have to incorporate them into everything but its less of an ill infodump to you interest and more of an i want to be surrounded by this thing because it brings me extreme comfort because it feels like me.

i am otherkin im a dragon and i look like this:

i will also represent myself like this if im feeling it:

yes i know i am not actually a physical dragon and im not a spiritual kinner i kin for identity purposes and the fact that i feel some pretty intense crippling species dysphoria idk ive been like this since i was 5 i don’t really have memories of my life where i wasnt experiencing animalistic behaviors and instincts

my favorite music artists are s3rl twenty øne piløts onerepublic imagine dragons of monsters and men thefatrat glass animals ajr queen nine inch nails and muse my favorite medias are httyd movies pokemon homestuck regretevator invader zim our flag means death infinity train gravity falls rosencrantz and guildenstern are dead doctor who my little pony fim dont starve and the mcelroy brothers content

heres some more characters i represent myself as:

ok BYE

[hashtagloveloses]

so are you back on tumblr after a while or you're new? welcome! it's a lot nicer here lately, and, shockingly enough, the website actually works a lot better too, thanks to the hard work of a bunch of very talented people. the mobile app is constantly improving, but if you're on desktop and used to use things like missing e or xkit, the latest helpful extension is XKIT REWRITTEN, which you can go download and read about at @addons that was created by @april, who worked on new xkit back in the day and now works at tumblr itself!

here's some other helpful tips to know:

PLEASE REBLOG THINGS. it's the main form of engagement here. there is no penalizing for spam interaction, most people are not looking at your blog directly, and it is the main way people find you and you find good content to follow. for original content like fanart and fanfic, it also REALLY helps people out. likes are better for like, personal posts, and for storing things for later. also, it doesn't matter if you blog is a jumble of things - it's yours, nobody cares, and that's kind of the purpose of the site

MAKE SURE YOU HAVE A PROFILE PHOTO, BANNER PHOTO, AND UNIQUE URL (that isnt like a bunch of numbers or something), or else people will think you are a bot and block you. you don't have to do anything fancy, you can use the default tumblr theme on your blog itself, but just make sure you look like a real account PLEASE

DO NOT CENSOR WORDS. much like on twitter, if you censor a word for a trigger, it will do the opposite of what you want - people's blacklist and mute functions won't work if the word isn't spelled out in the tags or the text of the post. also there isn't post suppression here.

Don't like your dashboard? Getting bored? Feel like your community is getting annoying? JUST FOLLOW MORE PEOPLE (and maybe unfollow some. a block and an unfollow are always ok). nobody cares, or can see about your follow ratio, and it'll help your dashboard feel more lively (you'll also not give as much of a shit about petty dramas). the follow limit is 5000 last i checked

keep your comments to the tags (unless it's like....really funny or adding something good? use your best judgement). the tags are helpful for subject matter, but you should also use them to talk as like side commentary!

Close your ask box to anons and don't share personal information if you don't want to. You are under no obligation to share your name, age, diagnoses, history, location, face, and you SHOULDN'T. and the ask box is great but if it gets overwhelming just close it. If you're a minor, maybe say somewhere that you're a minor, but that's it. (that goes for any social media site)

MAKE YOUR LIKES AND FOLLOWS PRIVATE. for the love of god. just protect yourself.

just like any social media site - be critical about the things people claim are true on here. screenshots, takes, facts, can be skewed and you should do extra research before believing anything just because somebody said it on tumblr dot com

DON'T GET INTO QUEER OR NEURODIVERGENT LABEL IDENTITY DISCOURSE. whether you are young or old, on tumblr or another site, things will just get confusing and weird. if you learn something here that makes you feel affirmed, great! but also please make sure your interaction with fellow queers (or other neurodivergent people) is not limited to just this site. get involved with a local or school lgbtq center if you can, get to know queer people in your life or queer spaces if you can. (and if you can't - go read about queer history somewhere other than tumblr. do research, watch movies and documentaries. look into disability organizing and history outside this hellsite). Label discourse is also how many unknowing queers and others get recruited to T*RFy shit unknowingly so....be careful out there.

Don't get guilted into things on your dashboard. You should definitely care about the things people are talking about, but you don't have to know about every ill happening in the world at once to be a good person. If you're feeling lost, or hopeless and endlessly scrolling or feel guilted by people online, pick ONE thing you can do, for people in your local community, and then just make a reasonable effort to stay informed otherwise.

create an original tag for your "original" posts, aka the posts you make that aren't reblogs, so you can look at them later

explore the QUEUE FUNCTION! you don't have to use it, nobody cares if you reblog spam, but sometimes it's fun!

Don't know who to follow? Go follow the tags of things you like (TV shows, movies, musicians, aesthetics, whatever!), and suggested posts will pop up on your feed, or you can go through the tag and follow some people who look interesting

[notafraidofredyellowandblue]

i wasn't in the fandom a few years ago, what the heck did richard post back then to make people think he was dying? 💀

actually had two asks about this 🌺

and all this answer will do is show that a lot of Richard-fans are just as dramatic (or worse) as the man himself (yes, me too..him and his stupid captions 😇)

prepare to roll your eyes thinking "what the ef...was *that* all...?"

okay, so 2019 Mr. RZK posted somewhat regularly, and usually with this 'deep' caption (maybe he should go the Paul-way and skip the captions altogether...but i digress..)

then it was quiet for a while.. (i think that was around the time he dramatically unfollowed everyone he followed...except his son, i think), and early 2020 some posts are there again, again with 'deep' captions, deep but brief like "sometimes i wonder".

A good while later he deleted (or as we know now, archived) all his posts in one dramatic swoop, but a lot were restored later

and the pic in question was also restored, and uncharacteristically, this didn't have a cryptic message about himself, but..

Right at the start of the Covid period, when we all heard about people getting really ill, and public events getting cancelled left and right and we all had to stay at home, Richard who has a reputation of thinking mainly of himself, all of a sudden posts thanking his fans...."Now it's the time"

More than one fan (yes, me too) immediately leapt to the conclusion that this was an 'end of something' post, i think there are still comments under the post of people asking if he was ill, his family were ill etc...

if i remember correctly he even posted a few days later that he and his family were fine (that post didn't get restored in the dramatic purge)

If you read it now, knowing that there was an entire Rammstein album and 2 years of tours after that, and actually Richard is in a better place than he was in years before, it is a very very innocent caption,and he very likely genuinely meant to thank the fans 🌺

but man, did he have us worried back then... 🌺

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okay, you can start the eye rolling now..

[redley-of-many-noodles]

Hello there,

Welcome to my blog.

I’m Redley. Relatively new to Tumblr still, but I’ve been finding that I’m comfy here. Though it still feels awkward (thanks, dysphoria), I prefer she/her pronouns. I don’t mind they/them, but… meh. Note that Redley is neither my legal or chosen name; it is solely a handle, and I will only tell you my chosen name if I feel comfortable with you. If I extend that trust, please treat it with respect. If you don’t, I will remember.

Here’s the main stuff I’m comfortable sharing or want you to know about me:

1) I’m transfem, but haven’t had an opportunity to do much actual transitioning yet. Dislike my voice, adore my hair. My luscious, glorious, flowing hair.

1.5) I am likely pansexual, but I haven’t done enough research to know for sure. All I know is, people are… well, people are hot.

2) I live in Florida, but was not raised here. The climate and scenery are nice; the local government sucks ass though. Also, I miss snow.

3) I’m a diagnosed autistic, falling somewhere on the high-functioning end of the spectrum. I’m on prescribed antidepressants, but have not been able to find a psychologist/psychiatrist yet because it’s fucking Florida.

4) There are a lot of things and people I don’t understand, but I’m always open to learning. Trying new food is a special passion of mine, and I’ve met some quite fascinating new people since starting this blog. (*eoughck* @potentially-a-poser *aucghk* @analogue-system *ahem*)

5) I will not tolerate hateful behavior. You will be immediately blocked for shit like denying any of the shades of aro/ace individuals as being part of the LGBTQIA+ community. If you see me spreading misinformation or saying something that excludes members of the community, please tell me. I’ll research the matter, as well as review any sources you send me.

5.5) okay so I think I’m demiromantic

6) I do not mind being tagged or sent asks or otherwise brought into conversations. People who abuse that will likely get blocked, but whatever your social anxiety is telling you probably comes nowhere near ‘abuse’ in my book. Anonymous asks are enabled, but that can likewise change if the feature is abused. Hate asks will be blocked, naturally.

7) I would prefer being asked before you directly message me. If you don’t, there is a possibility you’ll be blocked, but it’s not a guarantee. I don’t want me and my friends’ conversations getting buried by anything.

8) If you consistently and frequently post tiktok/reddit memes with little to no commentary, I may block you simply out of annoyance should you repeatedly show up on my dash. It’s not personal. If something about you makes me suspicious or uncomfortable, but not outright offended, I’ll most likely notify you of my reason before I block you.

9) Age: pick a number between 1 and 100 because it’s none of your fucking business. None of you are entitled to any of my personal information, regardless of the reason. I will share only what I want.

My Behaviors

There are certain things I gravitate towards or away from on this site. Here’s some:

1) I am most likely to follow people who are part of the LGBTQIA+ community, are mentally ill, or are dealing with some variety of personality disorder. This is mostly just due to the fact that I find the most common ground with those people. But even those who I have little common ground with, I’ll tend to find very interesting.

2) I don’t mind things like roleplay and hornyposting on my dash, but will almost certainly not interact myself, or make original posts in that category. More extreme examples won’t necessarily get you blocked or unfollowed, but… well, my filtered tags list may grow.

3) I don’t always tag reblogs. This may mean that my followers will see random things that caught my interest. It could be art, shitposting, tender affirmations, politics, or just goofy-ass Tumblr shit. If something I regularly reblog/post about bothers you and isn’t properly tagged, let me know.

4) I am discovering that maybe, I might, perhaps, be a little bit nosy. When I see someone receiving hate or suffering and stressed, I am likely to take it upon myself to do or say something to try to make them feel better. If I bother you with this, I will not be hurt or offended if you block me. In general, I will do my best to be respectful of it when people draw boundaries, so don’t hesitate to draw any you feel necessary.

5) If your intentions are pure, you will likely find that I try to be forgiving and/or understanding of your mistakes, at least in regards to interacting with me. (The /or is a very important distinction.)

6) I will often be attracted to dark, tragic, or dystopic works of art/fiction. I get a form of catharsis from such media, and some of my writing will reflect that.

That’s about it.

That’s all the important stuff I can think of, aside from tags which are at the end. Still, this post may be updated or rewritten in the future. In general, just be kind and open-minded, and we’ll get along fine. Even if you disagree with me, as long as you are civil and rational about things, I’ll likely have no problem interacting with you.

Be safe, and be yourself! <3

🇵🇸🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

My Tags:

#redley’s playlist - Some of my favorite songs!

#redley’s photos - Photos taken by/of me!

#writing - Writing related things and occasionally stuff I’ve made! (#poetry will also contain some of my work)

#let me just frame this one - My personal favorite posts by others. Put that right up on the wall!

#cw/tw: [content] - I will tag posts that I recognize may be disturbing to others with content warnings and/or trigger warnings. This way, you can filter content that may be harmful to your mental health to view. If a post is missing an important one, let me know.

[batwynn]

I might be built different, but I was just catching up on literal months of being off Tumblr (I'm OCD, it's irrelevant). I saw a bunch of posts where you were hedging about talking about your health or anything personal because of anon hate, and I just wanted to say that I absolutely care and want to hear about how you're doing. If people do not want to, you 1) have told people what tag to blacklist, and 2) have an "unfollow" button. It's not hard to show compassion. You are important to me.

To be honest, I reached a point of no return when people were being pointlessly cruel while I was literally so Ill that I was dying. (not once, but twice in one year!) I mean, one full on disgustingly hateful message after another while I was laying in a hospital bed waiting for another brain scan or vomiting up the water they forced me to try.

It’s not that I don’t love and appreciate the kindness of folks like you who do give a hoot about me, and/or are nice enough to scroll by if you don’t have the spoons for it or who are capable of using the black list tag option without complaint. I really do appreciate that so much, and it makes me feel like some people actually remember that I’m a real person still. But I don’t think I can ever really go back to fully talking about my health or a lot of my personal life ever again after that.

I don’t even really feel comfortable disclosing details to close friends anymore, because around the same time I (understandably, I’d think) felt like maybe straight up dying would be better than sort-of-dying-and-suffering for months/years at a time and I had a newish friend stalk me through someone else they knew who ordered something from me, call the police (on a trans/queer and bed ridden disabled person) to come do a ‘wellness check’ on me when they knew I couldn’t get out of bed to even answer the door, never mind the fact that the fucking police do not help in a mental health crisis to begin with. And then they got angry that I wasn’t thankful enough for this, and spread lies and made up a bunch of Evil™️ stuff I supposedly did to deserve having the cops called on me or whatever.

So, yeah. All I’ve really learned is people don’t see me as a real person with a life outside of art, or they sort of do but don’t know the best way to react to it and end up doing something that could cause more harm in… a really inappropriate way. I can’t fault anyone for either one, really. But I sure as hell am not being as open or even as kind as I used to be. And I guess that’s just how the internet is, in the end.

Thank you, though, for caring. Like I said, you and others like you are very highly appreciated. And thanks for reaching out after a long time away from Tumblr. I hope it’s been more fun and not perusing through the Tumblr back log lol. Enjoy the absolute batshit memes we’ve grown here over the past few months, they’re fresh to death.

[rainofaugustsith]

If you are wondering why some people keep their medical concerns completely quiet, even when they are terminal, I'd urge you to take a really good, hard look at the way most people deal with that information. Look at how often people with chronic illness talk about losing friends. About constantly being subjected to unsolicited treatment advice. About being accused of not praying enough or being sick as a punishment, depending on their religion. About the ableist stuff that constantly rolls off people's tongues and keyboards. Talk to someone with chronic illness about the spouse who divorced them when they got sick, which statistically happens a lot, especially to women. Ask someone with chronic illness what happens when they do discuss their condition online - how often it's met with silence or accusations of attention seeking and faking. How they are gradually unfollowed by their friends and family who don't want to hear about something incurable or terminal. Talk to someone with cancer or another serious illness about how often they are alone and isolated, how they have no one to lean on and nobody to support them on a daily basis. Yes, there are friends and loved ones who are understanding and kind and compassionate. But the problem is a lot of the time you don't know if they will be, and even people you trust a lot can sometimes really break your heart with that. And maybe then you will understand why a lot of people keep their medical issues to themselves. No, they don't fucking trust everyone because they have NO reason to trust that most people will handle this information in a way that will in any way be supportive. Instead of being angry with them for protecting themselves, be angry with societal mores that force them to do so and elicit so much justified fear that people will respond poorly.

[craske]

I don't want to sound pretentious when i say all this (and this ended up being really long??), but i really do think you don't need to uphold your online presence so consciously, or even at all. There's nothing wrong with being "inactive" because trying to show up for everything is some sick standard social media made up. Maybe it might be difficult to uphold an idgaf personality, but i can say from my experience it could be better to try a little bit at a time. I can say that they really do mean it when you can have quiet admirers, from my experience all the more. Maybe they're too shy to put silly tags when they reblog or just put a like on your post. And I don't think you have to worry too much about sticking to one piece of media and be afraid the people following you won't like you anymore for posting different content. At most, I just believe they won't really care enough to unfollow you or stop engaging entirely. The most important thing to me is that you stick around doing the things you actually want to do, even if you're just showing up every month or so, or black out for a year or more. Because the people who do care will be overjoyed to see you whatever you post or share, especially when you come back after a long time. It really is discouraging when you don't see that actively, maybe because we're so used to seeing numbers that relate to our worth. But i like to imagine we're waving at each other from a distance or smiling through a window, as horrid as online landscapes can be nowadays. I know i'm running my mouth here but i just wanted to share my experience because i um. 🙋 also think youre really cool and awesome and i love whatever work you do and the fact you share it is an amazing thing enough i feel privelaged and youre humor is funny and whatever new stuff you post is just introducing me to things i'll also think is cool down the line and i really do wish i can share my appericiation more and evolve from being a quiet admirer /inhales/ 👍 i would say this is a sort of love letter from the gas station but i also mean it as kai 👋 i hope you're doing well in uni or that it gets better soon or in whatever it is youre doing now. and whether or not youre online, i hope youre doing the things you enjoy 🫶

okay i needed some time to figure out how to respond to this ask because theres a lot (in a /pos way dont worry) so ill start off with saying that i really really and i do mean it Really appreciate what you said here. Especially lately, ive been struggling with being active online outside of small spaces where there are just me and a few other people. might be me feeling overwhelmed when i say something into the void with a high chance of no response, though i wont fault anyone for that. i myself know interaction is scary so i do get it. ever since i started using the internet ive stuck to my small online bubbles so yeah interaction kind of intimidating online

and though i agree it does feel discouraging to sometimes see no feedback or much of a reaction, i try not to be bummed out about it myself because im also a silent admirer of many artists online. so like ive said before i do understand that sometimes people are shy and dont interact directly and theres no pressure really to change that. just the idea that there are people that like what i make is really nice, even though i suffer from the same issue that maaany other artists have and i need to actively remind myself of that.

about sticking to one fandom its a very recent but big issue to me because ive been DEEP in the persona pit for like 4 years, and i certainly built an audience around that. i know there will always be people that stick around no matter what but despite that theres always that nagging feeling that maaybe things will crumble. obviously thats not true but human mind fucking SUCKS

as the final note ill say it again that your message means a lot to me and i thank you a lot for it <333 im soo flattered by your words and they made my past two days, thank you soo much

[lindenmori]

lately, my experience on social media has been giving me very little of what i want from it (art appreciation, genuine connection with people i like who share my passions), and a lot of what i dont want from it (seeing people be rancid online, both about stuff with real world and online intra-community impact, and more lightheartedly about media/characters i enjoy). ive lost most of my desire to post my art here. ive long lost the desire to meet and follow new people, and instead, when i see anyone, i worry about any toxic views they may have or any favorites of mine that they hate. i dont know why im here anymore.

so i am thinking now that i will take a temporary break from social media: close the tabs in the browser, put a really short timer on the app. and in the meantime, hopefully, reevaluate my social media experience and what to do with it. maybe i will come back and unfollow people, and/or follow different ones. maybe a break will take me out of the routine of falling into toxic online sinkholes. or maybe it wont change anything. who knows.

tumblr has been a very important place to me. this space helped me first realize i am queer, first suspect i am autistic, first openly discuss mental health issues that no one wanted to hear me out on in physical spaces or that i didnt even have language to discuss because no one did that. this space has, at some point, helped me fuel my fandom creativity, find some people whose art i admire. i have found dear friends by posting in a tag i thought no one looked at. i have found people who supported me by buying art when i needed to turn over my life situation. but something is very, very wrong currently.

most, if not all, people dear to me have my discord. (which does make this all feel more unnecessary.) if you dont, and want a way to contact me, want to talk to me, ask me - i think ill still be here till night.

after that, see you in a while, have fun - and lets hope i actually have the willpower to do this and not come back the next day like a spineless loser.

love, linden

[skopostheorie]

Can I say something? Well you can't respond "no", so I'm gonna. I used to agree fully with the notion that being upset about Bad Opinions on here was a symptom of not curating your space properly, not blocking and unfollowing as necessary. There's probably still a degree of truth to that.

But sometimes it's a strange trend, or even a sentiment in the air, that's experiencing support from people you generally like, trust. Online friends, mutuals whose content you enjoy or even just blogs you like. Out of nowhere, they just drop the most random, abhorrent political opinion and carry on like nothing happened. And I'm sure my own followers have felt the same way from time to time about me, because even I've changed opinions over time and unless all of you have just so happened to change opinions at the exact same time as I did it's pretty likely some disagreed.

And they can be anywhere from slightly confusing to downright disgusting, and at that point I have to ask myself, is it worth cutting out this person with whom I have a nice friendship or whose content frequently has brought more joy to my life, just because this one thing they said pisses me off? Maybe even, just that I had a kneejerk emotional reaction to my interpretation of their stance, and as I let it simmer in my brain for a few days, I'll see what they mean and be less upset about it? Especially since sometimes it's worth knowing what other people are saying, thinking, if your life lacks such diversity of thought. And when you consider that it's pretty much impossible to prevent yourself from seeing anything on Tumblr you'll think is a gross opinion or trend, it sometimes isn't worth suddenly blocking a friend I've had good conversations with, or missing out on the rest of that person's jokes/art/whatever.

Yes, Tumblr is a side hobby of mine, where I post about Astérix because nobody else in Australia likes it, but it's also a little community for me, and especially in cases where I already have an established connection with people, I don't feel like curating my space to such an extent that I stop seeing content from anyone with opinions I hate. If mutuals of mine are spreading strange conspiracy theories about the military or blaming mental illness on capitalism, fine. I'll certainly comment on the weird opinions I've been seeing, but to me it's better than the alternative, of chasing an unottainable ideal of the Perfect Dash.

[velvetnviolentviolets]

Get To Know The Author

name : Kay

pronouns :  she/her

preference of communication : Honestly I have a huge preference for discord. I don't trust tumblr IM to actually alert me. Ive recently learned tumblr has been eating my asks too. If I don't reply to an ask or DM me PLEAS reach out to me. I will NEVE outright ignore something. If I don't think something is going to work for our muses I will reach out to you. 

most active muse :  Kat is my loudest and most demanding. After that would be Her brother Kass, Feyre, and then our spotty maybe I'm here maybe I'm not - Emmett.  

experience / how many years : Ohhh boy. I've been doing the rp thing off and on since 2010. There was a five year chunk in recent years where I disappeared for a bit but the lovely @sharpayevcns pulled me back in a few months ago and I am so appreciative that she did. <3 

best experience : Discovering the people here that make me feel safe enough to obsess over threads. You guys have absolutely made my return to tumblr. If I were to delete my blog with nothing but my connection with you guys to show for it - Well I would be absolutely fine with that. You guys are amazing and will absolutely be tagged in this. 

rp pet peeves : I keep running into situations where I get heavily invested in plotting something (Drawing, writing head cannons, making playlists, planning cannon events. . .I literrally brushed up on a whole ass language for a plot) Only to have those people completely leave me on read. I am not a pushy partner in the least. I would be more than happy to wait a month for a reply. But I need communication. I need feedback if something doesn't sit right for you. I need reciprocated enthusiasm. You don't have to show It the same way I do but I need some show of enthusiasm otherwise it just feels uncomfortable and I feel annoying and restrained. That's not what I'm here for. I've honestly made the decision to start unfollowing people based on a three strikes basis. No hard feelings. I just don't want to follow anyone who doesn't bring the same energy I do. 

fluff, angst, or smut :ALL OF IT! While I'm becoming more and more selective about who I write smut with I LOVE writing smut ESPECIALLY if its born of post Angst fluff. Actually almost exclusively. There is nothing that gets my muses motor going like post Angst Fluff! 

plots or memes : Augh! Don't make me pick. I love Plotting but sometimes nothing really gets the juices flowing like memes do. I cant tell you how many times a simple meme interaction help set a pivotal point in a plot. ALSO- Memes are usually what help me forego my shy nature. While my muse outwardly gives NONE of the Ducks. . .I do . I give all of the Ducks so memes help  me loosen up. I'm not responsible for the haphazard neuroSpicy creature you meet once the shyness has fallen away. You've been warned.

long or short replies : It depends on my mood and attention span. There is a Adderall shortage right now so I have only been taking my Adderall on work days so Ive had a VERY hard time focusing o replies as of late. When Im on top of my Game I am LONGWINDED AF .Please don't ever feel like you have to match me because there are times where I will write you a novel and we were only supposed to be writing a sentence or two. It just happens and Im sorry.  time to write : Ha! um . . . Well I work Graveyard  Thursday- Saturday from 8PM-9:30ish AM (PST)  On slow nights I do write here and there but for the most part I can be found here pretty sporadically. If I have something going on during my weekend that I have to be a daytime person for then ill be up during the day time. OTHERWISE- Mostly evening and spooky hours . 

are you like your muses : I could draw some parallels with each of them but I dont think I am like any of them. 

tagged by: The Alluring  @wynterlanding ~<3

@grimmusings @sharpayevcns @godccmplex <3

[cookinguptales]

Out of curiosity, what are some of the things that you'd like tagged? Maybe in other of importance and how common they are? I'm a bit new to Tumblr so I'm still learning the nettiquette here ^^u

Honestly, I think everyone has different things they'd like tagged, and being open to people asking for specific tags isn't a bad policy. You don't have to accept every request, but being open to tagging specific things that might bother someone for a personal reason can't hurt.

In general, people tend to like it when you tag canons, both so people can block things they don't want to see and so people who are unfamiliar with the canon know where to look if the post interests them. So, like, if there were a gifset of some show that irritates me (or that I haven't watched yet and want to avoid spoilers for) it'd be nice if I could block it. Or if the gifset looks really cool, I might want to know what it is!

(I... should get better at tagging canons, actually. lmao)

It's also considered good etiquette to tag spoilers if something just came out. Like I use "wwdits spoilers" for the new season as it's airing.

Also, anything that's a common trigger. Sexual assault, eating disorders, mental illness, domestic abuse, medical abuse, extreme violence, religion, current events, bigotry, things like that. It's most helpful if you just put the word on its own, like just use the tag "homophobia" if that's something that's alluded to in the post. Do not replace letters or censor the word. That makes it very easy for people who don't want to see that to block that tag specifically.

The fact of the matter, though, is that some people just have different weird little triggers. For me personally, I have some that I can expect to be tagged, like CSA, but others, like D&D, can be more difficult. I block things like "dungeons and dragons" and "critical role", but things slip through or people don't tag those canons. In that case, I often just unfollow for my own peace of mind, unless I know them well enough to make a tag request.

It's malleable, is what I'm getting at. lmao. It's best to just be flexible, in my experience.

[doctordaddysir]

There are very few people or blogs that I block or unfollow, because most of the time I realize not every one is perfect, and we all have things we disagree on.

HOWEVER, I will say those I have blocked vehemently deserve it because it takes a lot for me.

I do not tag blogs like that in a post because it just gives them more fuel and more notoriety.

Many of you will know the blogs I refer to and those of you that follow or reblog their stuff, just know I won't block or unfollow you but I seriously hope you look deeper and see the manipulation, gaslighting, and shit starting that they do and realize they are not good people.

If you do something to help someone out of a bad situation, if you feel compelled to help a person who is being abused, mistreated, etc, that's fantastic of you and I wish more people would just jump in and help. What you DON'T fucking do is do that thinking they somehow OWE you something. What you don't fucking do is tell others "well I helped them, I figure they owe me". Oh hell no. No one owes you a damn thing. What kind of self centered, egomaniacal shit is that. If you help someone you do it out of the kindness of your heart, you don't do it with expectations or clauses built in.

Another blog, who I blocked long ago because of how manipulative and condescending and "I know everything and what I say is the best advice ever, period" their blog seemed to be. This person constantly demanded people to block, attack, go after certain blogs, mostly without proof, or just made horrible leaps into accusations that were amazingly without merit. This blogger is the worst of the worst to me. She asked over and over for people to attack, block, get blogs terminated, etc but the second that someone spins that around and starts posting, with some evidence, that someone she likes a lot and follows like a disciple is possibly an abuser, or at the very least a super manipulative ego driven person her response is to just make a blanket statement that the person is mentally ill and needs prayers and support. What the actual hell is that other than gas lighting?

Seriously, I'm fed up. I have friends here all over the place and most know that I'm a pretty level headed person. I'm not going to demand or tell anyone to block, attack, defend, or follow anyone but I will say to seriously step back, take a look at everything in bigger pictures and realize that if you are reblogging content from someone that is that manipulative maybe you're doing harm to those they have attacked and manipulated.