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fandomsandfeminism · 2 years ago

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Yall wanna hear a kinda funny, kinda sad story about my grandmother and hetero-normativity?

Ok, so... when my grandmother was in her 50s (I was an infant), she met a woman at the Unitarian Church. And, as can happen when you meet your soul mate, this event made it impossible for her to deny parts of herself that she had fiercely hidden her whole life.

All the drama- their affair being found out, the divorce with my grandfather, the court battle over who got the house, happened while I was a baby. Even in my earliest memories, it's just Mama Jo and Oma, and my grandfather lived elsewhere (first his own apartment, then a nursing home, then with us.)

But here's the thing- no one ever explained any of this to me. No one ever sat down and was like "hey, Rosie, so do you know what a lesbian is?" It was the 90s. It was Texas. I think my mom was still kinda processing all this, and just assumed that like... I was gonna figure it out. Don't mention it, let it just be normal. Like I think my mom thought that if she explained the situation, she would be making it weird? I dunno.

But like. In the 90s, in all the movies I had seen and books I had read, do you know how many same sex couples I had seen? Like. 0. Do you know how many "platonic best friend/roommates" I had seen? A lot. I had no context, is what I'm saying.

I literally thought this was a Golden Girls, roommates, besties situation until I was like...I dunno, 11? 12?

It was actually their parrot, an African Grey named Spike, imitating my grandmothers voice saying "Johanna, honey, it's getting late", that triggered the MIND BLOWN moment as I realized that *there's only one master bedroom and it only has 1 waterbed* when all the pieces finally clicked.

Anyway. I think it's a real important thing for kids to know queer people exist, for a lot of reasons, but also because kids can be clueless and it's embarrassing to have your grandmother be outted by a parrot because everyone just thought you'd figure it out on your own.

Anyway, here is my grandma and her wife, my Oma, after they moved to Albuquerque to be artsy gay cowboys and live their best life. They helped run a "Lesbian Dude Ranch" out there (basically just with funding and financial support. As Oma has explained "traditionally, most lesbians don't have a lot of money" so they wrote the checks and let the younger ladies actually run the ranch.)

#this is the grandmother who passed away unexpectedly earlier this month #she was so cool yall #and so weird #they got married twice by the way once when Massachusetts legalized it and once when New Mexico did #they hiked the grand canyon together #they had a european river cruise planned for this fall #she was 89 and she wanted to see the whole world with her wife #and they were working on it #literally i thought they were roommates #and there was only one bed

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sketchytea · 1 month ago

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she is so tired.

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ujustwaitsunshine · 2 years ago

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she did this for me actually

#she is my wife. no discussion. we’re married #sarah snook #shiv roy #shiobhan roy #succession #i’m so so so so gay about her

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randumbness23-blog · 2 years ago

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Just got called babe by a lady whos house I was working at and I cant stop thinking ab it.

#slight problem #shes married #married to her wife #im a straight male #old enough to be her grandson

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dootznbootz · 5 months ago

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Penelope is also Athena's pet/blorbo/special little mortal/etc. and if you think otherwise you're straight up wrong.

You're also wrong if you think Athena only likes Penelope because of Odysseus and/or Telemachus. As if Athena didn't see a young Penelope pull some shit and immediately think "Oh! Another mind to mold! C'mere you! Let's do some riddles and weaving!". Athena was happy that two of her favorite pets have met and fell in love!

#maybe even Athena introduced them! idk #I mean c'mon. Pen is KNOWN for her weaving AND her Cunning and she basically knew that was Odysseus that was in disguise #Athena had to make Penelope go to sleep because she was sad AND she would've figured shit out.#Idc who Athena favored first but Athena definitely favored Penelope even before she was married. I will die/kill on that hill #everytime I see someone minimize/erase/devalue/etc. Penelope I want to bash my head against the wall.#*bangs pots and pans together in rage*#I think some of you only like Penelope because Odysseus likes her :') not all but... enough that it makes me sad.#like I've noticed some people only like my odysseus posts and not my Penelope ones. and oof. ;~; that tells me a lot😞#like yes. she's a bit of an enigma...AND THAT'S THE POINT. She's so intelligent that she's tricking the narrator/audience AND Odysseus!#Mad rambles #penelope #penelope of ithaca #penelope odyssey #penelope of sparta #Water Wife #odyssey #the odyssey #greek mythology #tagamemnon #athena #epic the musical #shot by odysseus #essay

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hey-heigo · 8 months ago

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happy pride month

#naegami #makoto naegi #byakuya togami #danganronpa #trans byakuya #polaris polanski #that post is ff naegami to me to a terrifyingly accurate degree #makoto and his wife who wants him to quit his job #byakuya casually dropping bombshells on a shell-shocked and exhausted man #and then daydreaming about a better life they could have together while makoto's still reeling with the implications #if i reconcile my bizarro upbringing and my convoluted perception of gender roles and current position in this foundation #the only way i can get him to leave on his own volition is to marry him. in a straight way. bc we're both straight. what if i was a girl #makoto's resigning himself to being ff's dog for the forseeable future. meanwhile byakuya is doing the same but also having egg emotions #not featured: kyoko who was sitting on the opposite side of makoto and was in the middle of a conversation with him. that got interrupted #she immediately downs her shot after byakuya says that out loud and texts the other survivors who each owe her $10. toko owes her $20 #tgirl egg byakuya in her 20s in an apocalypse as a middle manager is a very specific headcanon that i enjoy a lot #only thing keeping her going is her bisexuality and the reminder that 'i went off the grid while crossdressing before i can do it again'#my arts

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nobleriver · 6 months ago

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Doctor Who Season 7 Minisodes

Rain Gods

#doctor who #dwedit #moffatedit #timelordgifs #riversongedit #river song #eleventh doctor #alex kingston #matt smith #userbbelcher #tvarchive #chewieblog #dailyflicks #romancegifs #otpsource #otp: stay with me #when your signature move that you've been using for over a thousand years fails to impress your wife lol #also just in case anyone asks yes this is post angels take manhattan but before the snowmen christmas special #this takes place in the offscreen adventures 11 and river had when they travelled together #as he asked her to travel with him in 7x5 after amy and rory left #this is our ONLY filmed sneak peak into those adventures #this is also one of if not my favorite doctorriver scene in the entire show #just them being married and having fun together; no monsters to fight or worlds to save; just date night gone wrong bc the doctor can't fly

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catofoldstones · 11 months ago

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we already have people bitching about how “i can’t stand Chani, she’s so annoying 🙄” and “Paul chose Chani to be the mother of his children, Irulan is just at the sidelines eating dust as she should”, like brothers we cannot do this again. We can’t Chani v Irulan our way out of this one because the problem is Paul and the Empire. Gosh, we truly are never getting out of the patriarchy.

#and god forbid someone mention that Paul in turn screwed over Chani by not making him his wife and granting her the rights and privileges >#> that are due to her #and some fucker will respond oh he had to marry Irulan to become emperor #(YES WHY?! UNDERSTAND THAT)#i just want to scream #wtf is this #is this the level of discourse we bring to these books/movies #?#this is giving very early asoiaf fandom and not in a good way #dune #paul atreides #princess irulan #chani #chani dune #dune books #dune movies #sigh #irulan corrino #duneposting

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fishareglorious · 3 months ago

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kakania numero uno reverse 1999 character on the fact she makes a dig on the sex life of the guy she was dueling with at the moment. while also somewhat kinda maybe implying she fucked his wife

#kakania #reverse 1999 #certified storm moments #she says this in a room filled with people btw. look at that smile. the balls on this woman #imagine being dr fucking schwarz and this spunky medschool dropout upstart barges into an important event for your career tells you #you're an immoral disgrace of a doctor and challenges you to a duel and implies to everyone your game is so bad. and in the middle #of the duel she uncovers that you've cheated on all your past duels and with that basically drags your name through shit-covered mud #in front of dozens of people. i would never recover if i was him #when this scene happened in the cn livestream i think a majority of the people in chat went 'wait did she fuck his wife'#and with one of the lines of her character story drives home deeper the whole crack headcanon that she's havinf loads of affairs #with her married women clients. whihc. slayyyy i guess. have fun girl #r1999 shitpost

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tweedfrog · 6 months ago

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People: "omgg Catelyn was such an evil bitch if she was so hurt at Ned she should have taken it out on him instead of Jon who did nothing wrong!"

Westerosi noble husbands who have full legal and social control of their household (including their wife) if their wife ever attempts to "take something out on them":

#they also just had a whole ass continent wide war about a prince running off with someone who wasnt her wife #begging you guys to engage those braincells for 4 seconds #catelyn stark #catelyn tully stark #it was 1000% neds fault that situation happened even knowing his motivations #and sure there are exceptions like genna lannister who have sway in their households because their fathers family is more powerful #-than their husbands #but even then genna had to OBEY HER FATHER and marry emmon frey against her wishes #almost like she still has to abide by the word of a man #almost like in a feudal patriarchy the ones with all the power are NOBLE MEN

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poofpoofpurin · 6 months ago

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himichako i didnt ACTUALLY want you to be doomed yuri Please come back to me PLEASE

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ninjautizm · 1 year ago

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I don't remember this but HOLY FUCKING SHIIIIIITT LLOYD WAS CONFIRMED TO BE AT LEAST 9 YEARS OLD HERE AND HE WAS ABLE TO DO THAT??? JESUS FUCK

#This might be proof that lloyd is quite jacked #i mean lloyd literally cracked the entire floor split open under ONE fucking FIST #and in dragons rising lloyd literally blocked the empress' sword on her big mech with his tiny ass gold sword #and lloyd also literally lifted and threw kai across the ship in dragons rising too..#and in the magazine comics (not entirely canon sadly) lloyd threw a big ass enormous fucking vengestone mech in his oni form with his HANDS #ANNNNDDD lloyd can even handle the power of the source dragon in dragons rising..#ANNNNNDD the original ending for crystallised was gonna be about lloyd lost in his oni form and beating the overlords ass and rule ninjago..#in which apparently the ninja save him from the power of FRIENDSHIP #lloyd literally fell on piles of glass and wasn't bothered by it #HE WAS 9 AND HE FELL ON PILES OF GLASS WITH NO HESITATION!?!?!#fucking OUCH #and yet wu says lloyd is “the wise one” fuck that shit he should become a GOD #lloyd literally risked to sacrifice his life to the three dragon cores in dragons rising like holy fucking shit I'd marry him #if lloyd was a villain I'd fucking root for him so hard I'd be on my knees they should make it happen PLEASE PLES PLEASEE #sorry i love lloyd hes my wife #ninjago #ninjago fandom #lloyd garmadon #lloyd montgomery garmadon #lloyd garmadon ninjago #ninjago lloyd #lloyd ninjago #ninjago lloyd garmadon

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dancingdaffodils08 · 5 months ago

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I think they should have a wedding, that way Jace will be too busy making out with Baela to go die.

#The most ‘wife guy’ of the show and they’re not even married #Jace “Baela is carrying this team on her back” Velaryon #house of the dragon #hotd #hotd season 2 #jacaerys velaryon #baela targaryen #jace velaryon #jacela #jace x baela #jacaerys strong #jacaerys x baela #hotd baela #harry collett

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blueflipflops · 1 year ago

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Baby Switcharoo

Here's another short dpxdc prompt

"Daddy!" Dick instictively caught the kid before she kissed the floor despite knowing she can fly and-- wait a damned minute. That is not Mar'i.

Meanwhile...

"Papa!" Danny smiled as he braced himself for the flying missile of a child that raced to him. He swirled them around when he caught her making her giggle as her legs swing. Hold the fuck up-- This is not Ellie.

#danny and dick go on the cross-dimensional adventure to return this child before the kid finds out they're NOT dad #OR before their wives find out they lost their daughter #mar'i is EXCITED to know her papa can fly with her now which is so COOL #ellie is a bit disappointed to know that her dad is adopted by a billionnaire here #OH! Ellie will help you out of that situation dad! *cue bullying Bruce Wayne in and out of costume*#would be fun to have this as danny/blackfire #and have both dickory and blackfire/danny meet and be all like that one spiderman meme #danny would be so chill to have an ex-villain wife #and kori would have a slight crisis to the image of an alternate of her husband being married to her sister who had tormented her yrs ago #dpxdc #dcxdp #dp x dc #dc x dp #dp x dc prompt #Baby Switcharoo AU

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mohntilyet · 2 months ago

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veilguard spoilers regarding a josie romance. but can we talk about the letter josie sends to a romanced inquisitor because. i’m sorry. fucking losing my mind at the fact that the inquisitor and josephine are close enough friends with the guy the inquisitor duels in her romance to be invited to meet his third child. implying they’ve been invited to the other two. at a baby shower and getting introduced as the one who dueled the baby’s father because he was trying to steal your girl. antivan romances insane.

NO LITERALLLYYYYY. AND HE’S AN IN LAW. ITS TOO FUNNY. i cannot imagine how they met and how yvette probably was like “teehee…. the man that my sister spurned…. has fallen in love with ME!” and the best/worst part is that ortranto really has. i like to think of them running around with each other and secretly meeting as though their families actually hate each other (they really don’t lol) . the ortrantos would probably be delighted to have their son actually marry a montilyet like they wanted, even better that they’re actually in love and it’s not arranged!

i have this image of josie going like “you can’t marry him. is this a joke, because it’s not funny. i almost embarrassed him! the only reason the ortrantos do not hate us is because he is a very kind man who saw that i was in love with the inquisitor! ….yes i suppose a very kind man like that could love you…….. yes of course i want you to be happy…… yvette gabrielle montilyet, i fear you are not hearing what i’m saying— DON’T SAY YOU ARE ALREADY AN ORTRANTO. DID YOU ELOPE? ah okay. don’t do that. i said don’t do that. yvette come back and listen to me” etc etc

of course i must believe that there was a big scene caused (once again) by a montilyet and ortranto that ends with lord ortranto making a speech where the publicly declares his love for yvette in front of all of antiva city to see and hear. so there’s no backing out from this one. in my mind there’s a rehash of the big “BECAUSE I LOVE HER!” (ortranto, desperate but genuine), “you do?” (completely aghast josie who has somehow missed the fact her sister has been giggling even more than usual), plus an “OF COURSE HE DOES!” (a thrilled yvette) that reminds josie so fondly of her own love story that she's immediately relaxed (and suddenly accepting) about this whole thing <3

#josie to me also feels more awkward than she lets on because she's quite good at being graceful and kind #but he is kind of. you know. the guy she rejected in front of val royeaux #i think the most out of character thing is that josie doesnt notice her sister and ortranto meeting up and falling in love etc #but i also think she can be busy enough being an ambassador/running the family business/eldest daughter #that she somehow misses it. for the sake of this beautiful idea i have. and also it would be cute and funny <3 #also like the image of yvette saying ‘i’m getting married to adorno!’ and inq is like yeah ok :] congrats!#later asks josie like ‘oh yeah. who was the guy ur sister is marrying’ and josie pauses thinking abt how to say this LOL #this is also how trev finds out ortranto’s first name is adorno. nearly dies laughing over the whole situation i think #he really is like a footnote in her mind where she's like ':/ guy who almost married my beautiful wife' and then almost #without any issue she's able to go like 'GUY WHO IS MY IN LAW. AND WAS REALLY GRACIOUS ABOUT THE WHOLE ARRANGED MARRIAGE THING.#HE'S QUTE COOL ACTUALLY!' <- and has no issue about ortranto after this #much to josie's amusement and exasperation <3 #josephine montilyet #adorno ortranto #yvette montilyet #not to mention josie's unseen brothers. they do intrigue me #the idea of either of them kind of finding out their youngest sister is running around with ortranto they probably sighed in relief like #yeah we can distract josephine with this. that will get her off my back about marriage for about a year.#even more if theyre planning the wedding!#evelyn trevelyan #<- mentioned briefly. i guess #veilguard spoilers #for a codex entry but when i saw it i did melt. everyone deserves to experience this firsthand #long post

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your-unfriendlyghost · 6 days ago

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Dallas flirting with Soda is so funny to me 😭 cus Steve gets all jealous, and Dally is just making fun of him going, “I’m gonna steal your girl” while grinning and trying not to laugh his ass off, while Steve gets all mad.

No fr fr- Soda plays along a bit too, she likes feeling fought over lol

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