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She hadn't complained because she'd still been trying to impress him by embracing his hobbies as her own. Andrea would soon see for herself—all that sweat and blood women spilled, it was usually for nothing.
Susie Yang, from White Ivy
#all for nothing#futile#making yourself small#accommodating#uncomplaining#relationships#relationship dynamics#heteronormativity#this is a man's world#patriarchy#people pleaser#quotes#lit#words#excerpts#quote#literature#the worst feeling#susie yang#white ivy
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I think one of the biggest tragedies of Laios & Falin and their relationship is how much his actions impact her life. But like. Specifically how much they WOULDN’T impact her life as much if they weren’t both stuck in such a shitty abusive situation.
This part of the Falin-tries-makeup daydream hour comic is what got me thinking about it again because truly it just... it seems like such a like an offhand comment that I'm sure Laios didn't mean to be cruel or anything. That's just like. A little kid not thinking about what they are saying. ESPECIALLY when the kid in question is Laios.
But man they depended on each other SO much as kids. Too much. It really feels like they didn't have any other source of positive reinforcement, or anyone else to share themselves with. So of course an offhand comment like that has a huge impact on Falin.
Or this little bit from one of the flashbacks:
This tears me apart. Do you think it tears him apart to think about? I think it does. I think Laios holds every small failure to care for Falin against himself.
And then there's the Bigger stuff. The way that him coping with his own trauma ended up impacting her.
Like his interest in monsters. Like him going to find a ghost, and accidentally revealing Falin's magic to the whole village in the process.
Like him needing to leave. And leaving her behind.
He shaped her life so much, and he carries so much guilt for it. And again, there should have been other people there to help. The same things that made Laios need to leave home are the things that made his leaving so hard on Falin. She ate alone after that. She shouldn't have had to eat alone just because Laios wasn't there.
She was 9 when he left for school, and he was 11.
Nine. And Laios feels like he failed her because he didn't stand by her through this better. As an eleven year old.
Both of these kids deserved so much better from the world.
#dunmeshi analysis#dungeon meshi#delicious in dungeon#falin touden#laios touden#dungeon meshi spoilers#AND this isn't even getting into her leaving the academy & how much it seems like that was directly tied to how poorly he was doing#there's a comic in the adventurer's bible where marcille is like 'yeah she had a job lined up and everything'#and like. do you think he feels bad for that too#like he wrecked her life by leaving#and wrecked her life by showing up#what do you even do at that point. if you feel like a failed protector when you are away & and a burden when you return#unable to make yourself accept. unable to make yourself resist#Laios strongest moment is when he lets himself accept that. the contradiction of his life & his relationship with Falin#that he has to kill her to save her#as a small note this came out a little more focused on Laios' POV with this stuff but Falin's experience of it is v important to me too#didn't mean to sideline her but her feelings about stuff are more speculative and probably need a post of their own
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I'm a doctor, not a miracle worker.
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#poorly drawn mdzs#mdzs#wen ning#wei wuxian#wen qing#jiang cheng#Truly Massive disclaimer here: I am a Jiang Cheng enjoyer. I like his character. I enjoy that he is very flawed and volatile.#This episode of the audio drama has a lot of great breakdown scenes featuring JC - and they all deserve a feature.#But underlying this comic is a small meta comment of 'ah man I have too many comics of JC just wailing sadly'#My goal is to draw 6-8 comics per episode - I sometimes have to truncate and cut good scenes out.#Especially when a large majority is just different flavours of trauma and toxic relationships to your self-worth.#I would also like to make a note here that just because you lose the ability to do something that is very tied to your core identity-#-does not mean your life is over. It will feel like the end of the world. It will send you into a spiral of grief. It will hurt so badly.#Sometimes we do not realize how tied up our identities can be in certain things until we are cut loose.#You don't lose yourself. I promise the pain will fade in time. I promise you will find other things to tether you. I promise you will be ok#Life moves forwards. Time moves forwards. You move forwards.#Ego death just means an opportunity for ego rebirth. You are never committed to being the same person forever.#To wrap this around to JC: Yeah I love the twist with the core transfer but man I would have loved to see JC accept the loss.#Obviously it happens for a reason (story) but I can have my AUs. I can have these 'what-ifs'.#described in alt text#I'm trying it out! *please* give me feedback - I want to eventually Add image ID to all of these comics one day
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That voice has taught you wrong.
You can't outrun yourself, you can't guilt yourself away until you are left with someone "good".
You can't cut away a shadow, it will follow where you go.
You can't treat yourself like a solvable problem.
You are unfixable.
You were never broken to begin with.
Just taught wrong.
#comic#my art#my sona#ellteocs#hiiii this is a comic about struggling to accept that your brain isnt bad#just.... different.#society shames you for many many things and having an ND brain is one we are taught to be ashamed and guilty of#from a very young age#we have so much potential but let me be clear. we are not wasting anything by being this way.#our brains dont have thr zupport they need to work as effectively as we would like them to#that doesnt make you bad. or not snough. it makes you a house without foundation.#nobody would be surprised if a house with no foundation collapsed under undue pressure!!!!#you are the same way whether people realize it or not#be kind to yourself where you xan spare it#i know it is not easy. i still struggle. but you have to let that small soft kindness in you grow.
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Eyes that sparkle, like a starlit sky.
#thranduil#thranduiledit#the hobbit#hobbitedit#elves and their gems#get yourself an elf who gets stars in his eyes when he looks and thinks of you#i always found it silly in the first movie but the small sparkles in his eyes in the second movie when he thinks of the gems is chef's kiss#and it's one more excuse for me to make thranduil gifs so shh#myedits
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#tmnt 2012#donatello#donbot#mutant apocalypse#if you ever feel overwhelmed with projects#make yourself something small#this is a little b-day gift to myself#its not the best but i love it#and avioded stress while making it#:)#i might improve this later
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i must say i’m baffled by the fact that people say you look like sam reich i simply do not see it
I honestly think that more people than we realize have a degree of face blindness, and rely on details like beards, hair, glasses, etc. when looking for similarities between people.
It also applies to things like fashion and why folks call my modern outfits "Victorian" when I am literally just wearing a brown sportscoat over brown jeans. Because the norm for men these days is t-shirt and shorts.
Visual shorthands have become more and more compressed and more and more leaned upon and I hate it. It feels lazy and lacking in curiosity beyond the current zeitgeist (faceblind issues aside).
#chit chat#this is why I like small niche fandoms because I start resenting everything being filtered through the lens of what is currently popular#because it feels like my soul gets drained away for someone else's consumption#I hate it!#in an intimate fandom if you decide to style yourself after a character or whatever there is an understanding of intent#but when I get drive-by Sam Reichs or Dr Whos I feel like intent is being imposed upon me - does that make sense?
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Your fears that you don't have a body that will transition "well" are, sure, understandable, but there isn't truly such thing as a body that's unworthy of transition. Perhaps your changing body won't suit everybody's taste, but would you rather live for yourself or for the whims of random people who don't care about your happiness as long as they're attracted to what they see?
Transition is for anybody who wants it. It's okay to be fearful. It's okay to be uncertain. But it isn't the end of the world. You are in control, and if you choose to transition to any capacity, it should be at your behest. You and your body are worthy of transition. I hope you are able to seize transition and do what you truly want for yourself.
#trans#transgender#lgbt#lgbtq#ftm#mtf#nonbinary#have been seeing a small resurgence in some trans spaces that there is such thing as an 'untransitional' body#there are people out there who cannot transition for medical/financial/social reasons but that isn't what people often mean#kill the person in your head that says you need to adhere to cishet standards. it's okay to be trans and *look* it if you want#transition because it makes you feel happy or fulfilled. transition because it is something *you* want#while yes it's complex because appearing trans can be dangerous i ultimately want people to have the freedom to make decisions solely...#...on what *they* want y'know?#i have seen this idea that some people just aren't 'able' to transition because they won't 'appear cis' for years now and it's heartbreaking#like i used the whole 'i don't look cis' against myself because it's impossible for me *to be* cis...#...i will never be non-trans. i will never not be a transsexual and i used to hate that about myself...#...because i was taught that being trans is bad. i was taught that looking trans is a curse that nobody should EVER inflict upon themselves#and that the goal was to essentially distance yourself as far away from transness as you can#and it's okay for people to not want to 'look' visibly trans. it's neutral. what was harmful was the idea that TRANS was bad#there's a huge difference between 'i don't want to be visibly trans' and 'i think being trans and looking it is bad'
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Partial hand bank for Elias from my files. Some flats and some finished/lit ones, so good stuff with light differences!
#solivaga#my art#pu art#artists on tumblr#hands#art reference#art resources#drawing resources#like a weird fusion of milt kahl and sailor moon hands#he needs to go full Other Mother hands maybe#this is only a small portion of the sheet I have saved for myself to re-use and reference#but thought I'd share it since I was adding some new ones#it sucks not being able to use my own hands as reference#my little rat stubs don't do the trick#also please if you do anything like a comic that's very art heavy#don't be afraid of making and using character banks#it's your own art it's not cheating to compile pieces for reuse or reference#save yourself a ton of time and trouble and just have it around just-incase
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idle leftovers...i drew the dream from my last post
#witch hat tag#orufrey#i have too much backlog of small comic nonsense right now and im also SO tired#if you live life dramatically & beautifully like a maiden wandering on the moors with your skirts billowing emotionally when you fall over#because you are gods least favourite but most innocent & most tortured angel then sometimes it gets mixed up with stupidity in your dreams.#and you have to wake up and realise you can't always take yourself seriously. Oh the indignity of it all.#also the first one was while thinking abt oru and qif training their skills as kids - magic and cooking -#and now they are so well equipped to look after & teach 4 hungry and excited girls about this world.#it was all so we could make it here - so that we could meet - and live together.#i want kids to be safe and happy worldwide they wil inherit this planet
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My world shattering when I realize that Chilchuck is underweight
Post-canon Chilchuck stops dieting and gains weight real
Edit: I am going to SCREAM
#Dungeon meshi#chilchuck tims#give him the dad bod. He earned his beer belly#It makes me sad please retire and let yourself live. Gonna draw him chubby.#Someone mentioned that with the changeling incident halfling Marcille and dwarf Laios had a hard time keeping up with the others’ pace#Which implied that Chilchuk is normally kind of running everywhere with the party#He doesn’t look toned tho he looks like he’s all skin and bones nooooo#Senshi feed this man#i reblogged with more evidence/interesting stuff btw#Isn’t it kinda messed up how half-foots don’t show the same physical signs of starving that other races do?#Who knows how many of them are malnourished. You can’t tell at a look#That does tie in with how other races dismiss them and their struggles tbh. Such “small” and “hard to notice” problems
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realizing i have. a lot of untapped trauma potential for clone^2 danny because i just Fully Processed Four Months Late the fact that his parents were capturing and torturing ghosts in the basement before he became Phantom. and the fact that he was on house rest for 2 weeks. during that time period. and he wasn't really leaving the house. he could hear their screaming through the floorboards
*points at clone danny* i can give you suuuuuuch a bad time babe ahaha. i've got two untouched years before you meet damian what fucks you up before then
#dpxdc#dp x dc#danny fenton is not the ghost king#dp x dc crossover#dpxdc crossover#dpdc#clone^2#danny fenton is a clone#like i dont even need to traumatize you worse the pure explorative options from this aLONE is enough to feed me for a week.#like. tucks hair behind ear let me shatter you into glass pieces then glue you back together babe. i can put you back together so good.#i'm missing a few shards because some parts of you broke into such small pieces i couldn't pick them back up again so you'll be missing a#few chunks of yourself that you'll never get back but that's okay. you'll still be a resemblance of your old self :]#don't let anakin (me) listen to late night sad songs he makes angst.#hhh imagine being stuck in a house for two weeks where you can hear your parents torturing ghosts in the basement and not only that but#you're the only person who can undERSTAND the ghosts. how many times did he see his parents drag in a ghost with whatever capturing device#they made recently? iirc the thermos was like. brand new in episode one right? but gOD the trauma this alone would cause#nobody touch me im cooking rn i need to think about how this would impact danny. like obvs it would fuel into a developing obsession to#keep his parents away from ghosts and to help the dead but what *else.* i need to refine my becoming phantom ficlet i wrote back in winter#raaa#and like even after two weeks they were *still capturing ghosts* danny just wasn't in the house 24/7 at the time.#*but those two fucking weeks man*#i need to sleep on this first before i make any major moves bc i know im tired but i am having thOUGHTs
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Fiber arts tumblr is the only place I can say "I'm not selling this for any less than $200" where people are more likely to go "oh. yeah 😔" than just straight up balk at the idea of spending hundreds of dollars on a tiny 5 inch plushie (that has 4 different colors) (handmade without a pattern and nothing else like it on the market) (atypical design) (took at least 6 hours)
#text#a very particular distaste for people who beg and beg for crochet art#and then tell me thats too much to pay for something so small#motherfucker go pick up a crochet hook and get a bunch of yarn and look at the picture and make it yourself then#guarantee it will take you longer than it took me#me who churns these out in hours with just a 3d model for reference#and then like. ive said this before. but my amigurumi are odd in that they are not just little chibi blob shapes#you can probably find ay least a handful of people willing to make ANY pokemon but it will NOT look exactly like that pokemon#itll be a cute simplified version#anyway i feel like this is probably one of those 'two experts in a field overestimate the average persons knowledge of their field' meme
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Imagine if out of curiosity due to her liquid-esque form from being an Amalgamate, Kanako tries to squeeze into small spaces like a cat
(She tried to fit herself into a fishbowl, she succeeded, but got stuck lol)
kitties…..
#asked and answered#monster clover au#mcau doodle#clover discovers the joy of contorting your body in ways that would make anyone else hurt and break bones and squeeze yourself into small#confined spaces
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Sometimes all a guy needs is to become my cute little barbie doll
#I’m not sure what audience I should aim for with my posts#since I’ve talked to so many of you cuties (feel free to add yourself to that list! DMs are open :3)#and you all like such different and interesting stuff!#even inside the small circle of forcefem!#there’s so many angles you can take#I guess I should just keep posting what comes to mind#and accept that not every post will hit for everyone#though I also kinda wanna try doing some *less hygienic* posts#and I don’t want to make folk’s uncomfortable#but I also really want to give my pee play mutual some content!!!#please tell me if you’ve got thoughts on this!#.#forcefem
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#wailmer#he so Appy !:) he so smile. devil may smile#those tiny little eyes up there at the top really make this guy#i don't actually know if this guy even remotely compares in size to wailord. but i think it'd be funnier if they don't. for canon#imagine someone who doesn't know a lot about pokémon gets a wailmer or something. and they keep them. but then they evolve#and fucking. have NOWHERE to go but now they're attached to their trainer so it's a whole thing#that's a little sad actually. what the fuck. how big is this bitch hold on lemme check#only about 6 feet apparently? so. small*ish*. all you wailord owners out there (or some of you who may be wailord yourself) do your best#i believe this'll be posting on the day i should be heading home from california. because i remember posting the one yesterday and thinking#that but i was wrong. so i think this is the one that actually will. so. again good luck future me#i'll perhaps need it
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