#make transphobes feel unsafe

[clowncarfullofrats]

important note of if you hate trans men on the basis of them being men, you are transphobic. "oHHH BUT MASCULINITY IS PRAISED BY SOCIETY" my mother hated that T made me look like my father and used it to put me down at any opportunity. I have been denied queer spaces because I made people 'feel unsafe' [i didn't say anything, I just was masculine] I've been yelled at for being a 'gender traitor'. I've been told that I was grooming my little sister into being queer. Queer masculinity is not universally loved. Stop making unnecessary fights and actually go out an do something.

edit: yall are losing reblog privileges. im seeing too much nasty shit in the notes. please keep in mind im a teenager and this was meant to be a small vent post.

[genderqueerdykes]

i've seen too many trans people get comfortable stating that they're uncomfortable around "all strangers who are cishet men." The problem with this statement is you literally cannot discern whether or not they're a cishet man just by looking at that person. you have no clue if that person is a cishet man- the way they dress, act, talk or present themselves does not matter or make a difference.

many, many, MANY transfems do not feel safe dressing or looking feminine and choose to stay in boy mode when in public. that stranger could be gay, bisexual, polyamorous, a closeted trans woman, that stranger could be a trans man, that stranger could be a nonbinary person, a crossdresser, a transsexual, an intersex person, a genderfluid person, a drag performer in or out of drag, or anyone else on the planet. remember that there are in fact trans men who pass so effortlessly that they have a hard time getting people to believe they're trans. just because that person is very masculine does not guarantee that they're AMAB and cis (or het), not that any of these things are inherently bad.

you cannot tell how a stranger identifies just by looking at them, and it is in fact transphobic, transmisogynistic, transandrophobic, and queerphobic in general to assume that every masc person you meet is a cishet man. if we don't like it when strangers make unfair assumptions about our genders, we shouldn't do it to other strangers, either. it will never be okay to make assumptions about strangers based off of their bodies, and it will never be okay to imply that people with certain body types are inherently dangerous or unsafe to be around, or "couldn't possibly be queer."

[batmanisagatewaydrug]

I think you mentioned you're cis, right? Many of my friends and acquaintances right now are cis women, some not even part of the lgbtq+ community. I'm a trans girl, and I'm very bad at standing up for myself. How should I talk about language they use that makes me uncomfortable? I don't know if I'm able to explain why "biological women" is a term I'm wary of because it's so often a dog whistle, or when they talk very sweepingly about the effects of male/female socialization, or espousing very cisnormative beliefs in general. I don't wanna be misunderstood and I don't think the words they are using are necessarily wrong or bad or hateful, I've just seen them so often in that context and am a bit shaken hearing them. I also don't think they want to hurt me or are cognizant of my discomfort. I'd love your input on this.

Thank you for reading this, mx batman.

hi anon,

I am so grateful that you trust me with this question and I am so sorry if you're looking for a way to do this gently. possibly you wee hoping that I would have some insights into how to gently call out cis women without upsetting them but the gag is that almost all my friends are trans and I'm an insane bitch who will unhinge my jaw and devour people at the first whiff of transphobia.

all you need to say is something to the effect of "you may not mean any harm by it, but the terms you're using spread transphobic ideas and hurt women like me and make me feel unsafe. please find other ways to express the thing you're trying to talk about." and that has to be sufficient for these people, or they aren't your friends.

listen to me right now. you Do Not need to justify why those things make you uncomfortable. you are not required to provide a dissertation to prove that your feelings deserve to be respected. if these women are your friends they are required to give a shit about your feelings, and that includes not requiring you to provide an entire powerpoint when you ask them to stop using terms that are transphobic. when a friend says "you're hurting me," you're supposed to just stop fucking hurting them.

if they want to educate themselves, which I strongly recommend the do, there are plenty of people who are writing books and articles and video essays and podcasts that will hold the hands of cis allies trying to learn Don't Be A Transphobe 101. you ARE NOT obligated to be that person for every person in your life, and they do not have the right to demand that of you.

recently I was listening to an episode of the podcast Vibe Check, which is excellent, and one of the hosts (I believe it was poet Saeed Jones, but don't quote me on that) offered some advice to the effect of "if you tell someone that they're hurting you and you tell them what they need to do to stop, and they do it again, they've told you everything they need to tell you." live that learn that love that. being fiercely protective of your needs and boundaries is an act of protection and self-preservation and it's what you deserve; cut a bitch OFF if she won't listen to you and be a better friend.

also hey as a cis woman. and specifically as a white cis woman. do NOT let them come at you with the cis lady tears, especially the white cis lady tears. anyone who starts whining and crying and acting like you're attacking them for just asking them not to say things that hurt your feelings, run. run so fast. those women do not love you.

[nothorses]

(cw: suicide mention, domestic abuse mention)

hey, you're in the teaching world, yeah?

do you mind if I ask how you decided to go into education, and how you're finding it as a job? I'm considering going into teaching (high school, English, which I think puts me a bit to the side of your specific area of expertise). but I'm thinking about the emotional toll of it. about having to balance legal bullshit like transphobic legislation and controlling bureaucracy with the respect and care that all students deserve but often don't get.

I'm also thinking about the stuff that scares me, the worst case scenarios of "what if one of my students kills themselves" or "what if I have to report domestic abuse, even if I know it'll make my student's life worse" and others along those lines.

how do you deal with that? how do any teachers? I'm gaining a new level of respect for the good teachers I've had throughout my life. this shit is so hard.

Honestly I'm going to answer your last question first because I think this is a really good question, and it's one I have a real answer for from personal experience! I will answer the rest under the cut, too.

"What if I have to report domestic abuse, even if I know it'll make my student's life worse?"

First, and most importantly: you should always be upfront with your students about your mandated reporter status. This is 100% within your rights to do, and it's important that they know you aren't able to keep secrets before they divulge any to you.

Typically, I like to frame this as: "I want you to know that I'm here for you, and I want to listen and help. I also cannot promise that everything you tell me will stay between us, especially if it's about your or someone else's safety." You don't need to announce this to the whole class all at once, but when students start to confide things to me, I make sure to tell them this so they can make an informed choice.

Second: If you know you need to make a report, talk to the student you are making the report on behalf of first. Giving them this warning can be invaluable, even if the report isn't going to be dangerous for them.

Third: you don't need to make the report right away! You need to make the report in a reasonable amount of time, but you can work with the student in question on this.

As an example: when a student confided in me and I knew I needed to make a report, I told them right away that I would have to report it, and had a conversation with them about it. We talked about whether they would be safe, and what would make them safer. We determined that while they weren't unsafe either way, they would feel better and have an overall easier experience if they could talk to their family about the situation first. I followed up with them about a week later, and when they confirmed that they'd been able to talk to their parents and it was okay to go ahead with the report, I told them when I would make the report, and then did so.

You should also be sure to mention in your report that you feel the student might be in greater danger if their family knows about the report. Give them as many details as you can: what kinds of things would endanger the student? What is the specific nature of that danger? If the person who acts on that report has these details, they might be able to adjust their follow-up and response accordingly to help protect the student as much as possible.

Alright, CPS stuff out of the way, I want to answer the rest of this as well. Thank you for the great question!

I decided to go into education because it's a thing I loved doing in some related jobs, and honestly, it just felt right for me.

I also ended up choosing not to go into classroom teaching specifically after my student teaching internship, because I felt that while I could be happy as a classroom teacher, it just wasn't really where I thought I'd be happiest. I didn't like the hours, I didn't like the expectation to police attendance, and I honestly had really enjoyed a lot of education-related work that wasn't classroom teaching a lot more.

I ended up getting my master's in education to expand my options, and I've landed in my dream job (except for the fact that it's part time.... for now. lol) which has been fantastic. I am also really glad I got my teaching certification regardless- it's made subbing a better option in terms of pay and just, like, the ability to work with public schools at all, and just about every single other grad from my master's program wishes they had gotten theirs for the same reason (and they're finding it really, really hard to do that post-graduation).

The emotional side is... well, honestly, it's definitely emotional work, but I find that really works both ways. I'm not one of those (incredibly special and admirable) teachers who would do and give anything just to work with their students, and I am definitely tired after work! But it's a good kind of tired, usually. I feel fulfilled. My work feels meaningful, and even when it's hard, it feels worth it; I never feel like I'm struggling for nothing, or for the benefit of someone who doesn't deserve it (like a CEO, or a shitty manager). I can't understate the value of that.

The part of the work that I think is dangerous isn't that it's emotionally involved-- it's burnout. It's being overworked and underappreciated for too long, and becoming emotionally detached because you have nothing left to give at all. And that is going to depend on your workplace, what they're demanding of you, and the support they do or do not give you.

The best defense for this, imo, is being picky and sticking up for yourself and your needs. Learn to identify the signs of burnout in yourself, and get the fuck out of there as soon as you can when you notice them. Do not hesitate. Burnout will make you hate your job, it'll make you feel like a bad teacher, it'll make you detach, and it can definitely cause you to lose the patience and compassion you need to be a good teacher for your students.

Also: do not ever give in to the teachers who bitch about their students. Ever. Don't let them drag you down into that bitter, burnt out, resentful mindset with them. Don't gossip about students. Don't blame them for how you feel. Sit with someone else at lunch, even if those are your friends. This is one of the best pieces of advice my professors ever gave me; trust me on this one.

As for the other things...

I really encourage you to get your teaching certification through a college degree program, and try out classroom teaching for yourself. If you don't like it, if the bureaucracy is too much or you can't do the emotional side of it or it's just not for you, now you know! That teaching cert will serve you in a multitude of other ways, though, and if you end up in education regardless, you'll be glad you did it.

Transphobic laws and tendencies are going to come through most in school administration, and you won't feel them nearly as much if your school's admin is on your side. I really encourage you to be picky about the schools you work for. There are schools out there that will have your back, though; you might just have to look for, and even relocate for them. You know your circumstances best, and you'll have to determine if that's reasonable for yourself.

And.... if a student kills themselves, or something else terrible happens to them: you will grieve. You will hurt, you will be angry, you will be sad, you will wish it didn't happen, you will want to blame yourself, and you will grieve. Eventually, you will also process and heal and accept. And you will also continue to grieve. It's hard. It won't ever not be hard. Unfortunately, though, you won't escape grief no matter what you do for work. It's up to you to decide how you need to handle that risk.

Sorry for how rambly all of this is-- and best of luck! The world needs more teachers who are trying to do right by their students, and if you do choose to go into education, your students will be lucky for it. I hope you take care of yourself at least as much as you take care of them.

[wisteria-lodge]

Stop talking about HP and go back to your hole. Your stupid shit isn't welcome in the fandom and you hate JKR anyway. Why burden us with your unwelcome presence in a fandom you don't even like? It mustn't feel very good to post about something that doesn't even make you happy. Find another fandom, one that doesn't make you a hypocrite for engaging in it. Transphobe. You're making trans people feel unsafe and your takes are shit.

I promise you, I like Harry Potter. I like Harry Potter, a lot. Writing fic and worldbuilding posts and answering asks does make me happy, and so does putting it through a media analysis lens and trying to figure out why it even is the way it is. I don't particularly feel that 'it's all trash, it was always trash, throw it out' works as response for me, and neither does 'death of the author, lets just ignore the parts I don't like.'

Like hit me with a specific post you didn't like, even, and tell me why. Just block me if you don't want to engage with my stuff. Actually, this is so non-specific and divorced from anything I've actually written that I'm pretty sure it's a stock response you've copy-pasted and spammed to everyone who's tagged something "anti-jkr."

[sjerzgirl]

Donald J. Trump

...is a liar

...is a bully

...is a fraud

...is a cheat

...is a prick

...is a sexist

...is a racist

...is a bigot

...is a xenophobe

...is a homophobe

...is transphobic

...is an egomaniac

...is a severe narcissist

...is a con-man

...is a scam-artist

...is a racketeer

...is a white supremacist

...is a delicate little snowflake

...is an adjudicated rapist

...is a sexual predator

...is a fake strongman

...is a piece of shit

,..is pure fetid scum

...is a gaslighter

...is a blowhard

...is a backstabber

..is not accountable for his mistakes

...likes to make vulnerable humans feel unsafe

...wants to make Elon the first trillionaire

...is a whiny little bitch

...blames others

...is a 34x convicted felon

...is a twice impeached "president"

...incited a deadly insurrection

...was indicted 4 times

...not trustworthy

...stacked SCOTUS with maga scum

...overturned Roe v. Wade

...cheats at golf

...went to Chelsea Clinton's wedding

...cheated on his pregnant wife with a porn stars

...paid hush money to prevent Stormy Daniels from going public

...donated to The Clintons

...spawned colossal pricks Don & Eric

...was a democrat

...is a RINO

...is a chaos & destruction operator

...was Jeff Epstein's buddy

...coddles up to dictators & authoritarians

...starts fires and then claims credit for putting them out

...shits on our allies

...loves whiteness

...hates women

...spray tans

...wears makeup

...eats junk food

...sold his soul to Putin

...does a moronic double jerk-off dance

...deserves what is coming to him

...will pay the ultimate price

...should be in prison

...IS NOT MY PRESIDENT

[allthecanadianpolitics]

What do you think about US Americans who are considering moving to Canada following this election? Is it misguided/misinformed to think it might be any better there? Is there anything in particular to be aware of when making that choice?

It's definitely an option I'm starting to seriously consider as a trans person already within a few hours drive of Vancouver, but there's a "danger you know" element to it all, and I'm very aware of just how little I really know about what my siblings across the border are dealing with right now. The whole idea has been a joke for so long that I'm kind of embarrassed to even be thinking about it, honestly.

As I said in that master post I shared, that Canada has the same systemic issues as the USA, but even with that said things in a lot of ways Canada is safer for Trans people (at least in the bigger cities), at the moment.

But the caveat is that multiple Premiers/Provincial Parties and the Federal Conservatives (who have a good chance of winning the next election) have proposed a lot of the same Transphobic policies as has been in the USA. Its not as bad here yet, but I do see warning signs flashing red, and it could get worse.

If you would feel more safe, and have the resources to do so, then apply, but it is a long and difficult process, so just keep that in mind.

As I said on that post, I'm not judging anyone. If you do feel unsafe, moving to Canada may be a way to get away from that danger, but you're not going to be able to claim asylum (due to USA/Canada immigration agreements), and so you'd have to be an economic immigrant with a job or have family in Canada.

[aclassitag]

Announcing Krem Week!

#kremweek2024 — 22-28 July 2024

background art credit: @xfreischutz [link to original post]

*text prompt list under the readmore

This year will mark 10 years since the release of Dragon Age: Inquisition! In celebration of that anniversary and the game that gave us our first trans character, here is a prompt list - and dates - for any who would like to participate! All sorts of creative content is accepted so long as they are not A/I generated. (See examples below)

*If you want to portray Maevaris Tilani instead, that is also fine!

Please read the guidelines!

If you have any questions, reply to this post and I will do my best to answer :)

Prompt list:

1 — Anniversary 2 — Euphoria / Expression 3 — Casual / Formal 4 — Family / Love 5 — Respite / Fight 6 — Play / Satiate 7 — (Free space!)

Guidelines:

Use the tag: #kremweek2024 (@ this blog is fine too) — If you want to portray Maevaris Tilani instead of Krem, that is also welcome! Please @ me so I can rb :) For non-Tumblr folks that somehow got here: You may post submissions, please link your socials. You may choose one of two prompts in a day or do both. You may also combine as many prompts as you want from any or all of the days into a single work, just mention it somewhere.

Types of content allowed:

Illustration and writing are the most obvious forms of art allowed, but they're not the only ones! Literary arts fanfics, drabbles, poetry, plays, lengthy headcanon/meta posts (for headcanon and meta posts, minimum of 100 words+) Visual arts doodles, paintings, graphic design, photoshop memes, photography, animation, tiktok skits, abstract, fiber arts (embroidery, knitting, etc), ceramics Audio art fanmixes(curated playlists), original or cover songs Other crafts are also welcome! e.g. culinary, resin, woodworking, etc etc ..essentially, whatever type of art it is, I'll accept it so long as it falls within rules and is related to Krem or Maevaris :) For things that are more abstract, do include an explanation of your thought process on how it relates to Krem. E.g. you made Krem's Seheron Fish Wrap or Rice Pudding, take photos of your cooking, and post that (with the explanation that it is Krem's recipes) - that's an acceptable submission! You're allowed to explore different mediums everyday! You don't have to stick to one form of art for the whole week. I will be attempting to schedule reblogs in the 'prime time' for engagement, and in the interest of fairness, things like headcanon posts, fanmixes, and WIPs will not take priority in that time slot over fully rendered illustrations or complete fanfics. They will still be reblogged, but scheduled for other time slots.

Content Rules:

No A/I generated content. (Specifically GenAI content) As above, any and all forms of art is welcome. It must be human made, and by you. The whole point of working off a prompt is to explore a creative process, anyway - do yourself a favour and just enjoy making something! It doesn't have to be pretty! No reposting of other people's works. This must be your own creation. Obviously, no transphobic content. No harrassing others over their specific headcanons - be it in regards to any trait or quirks that come with being a person. People come in all sorts of wonderful variety, please respect that. In addition to above: No whitewashing, racism etc. Please note that Krem is not pale-skinned in canon, and I will not be reblogging content of him being portrayed as pale. 18+ works need to be labelled. On this blog, its tagged as "#adult art". Please add content warnings as appropriate. (E.g. portrayal of binding with bandages should have a warning label of "cw: unsafe binding", etc.) If your post/submission is lengthy, please insert a read more. This helps readability on the dashboard. Progress / WIPs are fine too!

General tips:

First and foremost, do what you are able to! Don't feel pressured to complete a full week if you need to take care of yourself first. Some people work on the prompts before the week even begins, and only post it day of. You are not required to do this, but if you really want to fill something for each day, this helps reduce stress day of.

Mod things:

The mod isn't from the Americas, so due to timezone differences, there may be a delay in reblogging people's works. Either way I will not reblog the moment that it's posted in order to screen properly. Posts will be queued between 30mins-1hr apart, if there are multiple entries being submitted at the same time. All submissions will also be requeued after a week for later perusal :)

[genderqueerdykes]

queer people who treat u differently by how they precieve yiur gender are so weird

if i'm precieved to be a trans woman and i talk about feeling unsafe because of my transphobic coworkers attacking other random trans people, folk are understanding

if they know i'm intersex it's downplayed as not that bad for me/not a real issue/etc

if im precieved to be transmasc i am co opting another persons experience and making it about myself

this should not be the case. same experience, different attitude towards it. it is disgusting how people will treat others differently based on gender, in the community about coming together and fighting for rights to not be treated differently based on gender.

agreed, this should not be the case at all, but it's the truth and it's so important to discuss. thank you so much for reaching out and sharing your experience

people are still judging one another based off of their genders and it's not okay. there's never a way that could be okay. why are we doing this? i've had this exact progression of treatment happen to me. when people understand that i am or at least perceive that i'm a trans woman, people just listen to me. if they find out i'm intersex, i'm instantly getting misgendered. people seem to think that intersex means quirky cis girl that wants attention now. it sucks. when people find out i'm intersex i start getting misgendered left right and center.

if im perceived to be transmasc i am co opting another persons experience and making it about myself

exactly this. thank you for sending this, i hope things improve for all of our sake. it shouldn't be like this

[kalied0skull]

whispers tfem Silvia and tmasc Dallas from afar...

“Get your hands out of my shirt, Syl.”

“What? Can't a gal admire what her boyfriend's got that she don't?”

“...Are you gonna help me bind, or what?”

now playing: Left-Hand Free — alt-J ♪

yeah okay whatever WHATEVERRR... I'm totally not obsessed with these two or anything...

i got shit to yap so like always there's a RAMBLE! UNDER! THE! CUT!

see the funny part about this is that they're the same designs except they have hidden parts now because they've been transgendered by my magic art wand

anyways when trying to make a drawing for this I couldn't think of anything except for them going "I'll trade you." or dallas being an ass and grabbing where he shouldn't when he's angry 💀 i dunno man they're weird (and touchy, but it's not in a sexual way, it's in a "i hate you and I'm using this dating thing as an advantage to be mean to you" way)

sylvia toxically fueling dallas' dysphoria at a constant and they're both aggressively transphobic to each other but it's okay because they make out and make up in the end

these two are so pathetic i love them both so much also DALLAS WITH TITS!!! POINTS!!! i love him so dearly ... i have this really funny headcanon that he actually HATES binders, and will only use tape and unsafe binding out of spite because he's a little shit who hates himself

sylvia who wears the tiniest fucking dresses and tucks to the damn stars. i just 😭 they're so fucking harmful when it comes to physically transitioning

on an unrelated note my sylvia design is my gorgeous girl i love her so dearly.. I'll probably be drawing her design next in the nearest of futures just because ykyk drew sandy i feel like I'm obligated to do her next if i just shoved her in a drawing with dally

I'm on the phone at the moment so my brains halfway out the door but!!! if anyone wants to yap about these two in ways I didn't please do!!! i love transgender headcanons so fucking much dude :( !!!

[probablyasocialecologist]

Safety is a real, material set of conditions: a roof over your head and freedom from violence or injury. British politicians aren’t at risk of being bombed or seeing their children dismembered. Yet it was their speculative safety in the spotlight while Palestinians under military assault became a footnote in the vote.    It��s true, of course, that two British MPs have been killed in recent years. But it’s a cheap shot for politicians to invoke their deaths to avoid engaging with the public about an ongoing genocide. When politicians say they feel unsafe in this context, they mean they feel uncomfortable being challenged by their constituents. 

[...]

When discomfort is perceived as danger, protest is seen as harassment. And when political dissent is positioned as a threat to national security, our human rights are at risk. As sure as night follows day, when politicians begin to cite safety concerns, curtailment of democratic freedoms isn’t far behind. Civil liberties will always play second fiddle to securitisation. Judging by Sunak’s doublespeak at the lectern last Friday, the government plans to corrode our democracy under the guise of protecting it. Sunak’s emergency address was an authoritarian wishlist written in Islamophobic ink: curtail protest rights; threaten to remove immigrants’ “right to be here” if they speak what is considered “hate” at protests; reference streets being “hijacked” by “extremists” and “redouble support” for surveillance programme Prevent. It was framed in response to pro-Palestine protests, but entrenches an established anti-Muslim, anti-protest agenda that promotes surveillance in the name of “safety”. The name of Sunak’s “Safety of Rwanda” bill shows us he already has a cynical definition of this word.  It’s curious how the social capital of playing the protector is often afforded to the violent perpetrators. If we use another very British example, the high-profile transphobic lobby that is obsessed with “women’s safety” has, in material terms, driven transphobic hate crimes to historic levels, but done nothing to end violence against women. In the same vein, it’s inevitable that Sunak’s measures to “combat the forces of division” will create even more far-right racism and state violence for Muslims. The dominant force of division is, of course, the state itself. Trans people and Muslims alike are sociological folk devils; minority groups in society positioned as a threat to social order. The government’s self-authorised mandate to marshal these manufactured threats justifies state control for everyone. In reality, the marginalised groups identified as the enemy within face crushing systemic oppression already. If anyone is unsafe, it’s them.

[tygerlilyluvsrotting]

"I'll love and accept you no matter what!"

then why did u call me presenting myself as a boy an "identity crisis"..? why r u homophobic AND transphobic even when u say ur not? why do u make me feel unsafe for being myself? I thought you were going to accept me no matter what.

what happened to that??

[lonely-parrot]

Hoops and jumps just to still fawn over a transphobes work

Your trans friends will see this and they will know not to come to YOU when they need help

You're not high and mighty bc you're not directly giving JKR money, it still supporting her "art" and shows there is still something to wring out of this miserable series

You should feel shame and embarrassment, grow up

I was kinda expecting that, but well, idk why you're looking at that content if you're not interested, but okay

And second of all, a lot of friends i made via that fandom, and who are still in that fandom are trans

You don't actually know me, so idk how you think you can criticise who i am as a person and as a friend

If any of my friends feel like me being in the fandom makes them unsafe, i hope they'll trust me enough to talk about it

And at least, i have the guts to do it publicly

[vaspider]

How many of these far-right nut jobs attacking trans people believe the shit they spew and how many of them actually know that trans women, drag queens, HRT and queer education are all safe for kids and just don’t care?

I think there's a fundamental disconnect between the question that you ask and the answer.

They don't think that being gay is "safe," or that being trans is "safe," at all. Let's get that out of the way up front:

To the kind of person who spends their time attacking trans people, regardless of whether they do it for political expediency or out of a truly deeply held belief, being queer is a fail state for a person. If you are queer, these people think that you are failed. Fully. End of story. You might be a pitiable failure that they can pat on the head and feel good about patting on the head, because they're taking pity on you in your state of disgrace and failure and definitely going to hell, but they think you are a failure as a human being. Whatever else you do, you are a failed person. You could cure cancer and solve world hunger -- not that they actually want those things to happen either, because Evangelicals really believe that the world has to be a total shitheap for their messiah to return -- and you'd still be a failed person.

There is no "being trans" that is "safe," because ideologically, to them, the status of being queer in any fashion is unsafe, it is indicative of failure. You cannot have a 'safe' transition to them.

It's such an utterly broken mindset that it's really hard to convey it to anybody who hasn't lived in that culture or really had to wrestle with it. Asking 'how many of them know it is safe' is like asking 'how many fish breathe air.' By default, the answer is zero, because queerness to them is so completely anathema that there can't be a 'safe' in this situation.

How many of them are that kind of ideologue? A pretty high percentage, honestly. It's a very easy bigotry to carry; it requires pretty much no work. Thinking that another person's innate qualities make them a failure in a way that automatically makes you better than them is a very seductive mindset. "This person is trans, that is a failure, therefore, I am better than them," that kind of mindset means that even the most mediocre dude can feel good about himself simply by not being transgender. Like, seriously, think of the most mediocre transphobe you can think of, and then realize that he thinks he's better than you just because he's cis. Why would he ever challenge or question that thought, that maybe he's the failure and you're just living your best life?

So like... when you realize that homophobia and transphobia are an easy key to feeling better about a shitty life, and that queer people make a handy political cudgel, it's pretty clear that the answer is that 'all of them believe it,' it's just a question of whether they believe it because of religion, or because of political expediency, or because it's the only thing that gives a sense of superiority within a life otherwise devoid of achievement.

But yeah, they think that being queer at all is a fail state for a person, rather than one of the myriad manifestations of human diversity and beauty, so.

[genderqueerdykes]

the election results have me feeling really bummed out as a closeted/pre-everything transmasc person. i feel like im grieving a version of myself that will never get to exist because im too scared

hey it's okay to feel this way, i'm sorry you're so scared right now

something i'd like everyone to keep in mind is that it's literally impossible for trump to change everything overnight. i hate our government but it has to fight with itself in order to function. individual states in the country are proposing some very questionable and unsafe bills, but it's not a reason to give up hope. there will always be states in our country like California who have and maintain strong enough trans protection laws that people will still have somewhere to go

change when it comes to government is gradual. it doesn't happen over night. that's how transphobes and republicans want you to feeel. they want you to give up, to become defeated and to never, ever try to transition. youre not wrong for feeling bummed, but do not give up on your transition because of them. that's what they want. fight like hell for your future. fight like hell for your comfort and identity

if anything now is the best time to get started. trump literally cannot do anything until January. and even then that's the motion of attempting to put bills and laws into action. attempting. there's no guarantee anything will be passed. reminder that we lived thru 4 years of trump before and barely anything happened. republicans are not as scary as we think they are. trump is a fascist yes but he can only do so much when it comes to bickering with the rest of the government

government moves slowly. change happens gradually. if you need help relocating to a safer place, feel free to ask. pursue transition now if you have the ability to. don't let some fascists get into your head and make you think it will literally be impossible. i promise it won't. they want you to get scared and feel like they're so powerful you can't do anything. fortunately the're not. you don't have to give up on your future. you don't have to give up on transition

take care of yourself, okay? it's okay to feel bummed but don't let them get too deep into your head. thats exactly what they want. they want all the trannies to detransition, go back into the closet, or never transition. and it's okay if people do this. but this is what they want. im going to continue being shamelessly trans. im going to continue being a tranny who looks acts and sounds queer. i know not every queer can do this. i know not every trans preson has that luxury

if you genuinely can't medically or socially transition it's alright. a lot of people just can't. it genuinely is very unsafe for many people. but i just want to stress that things will not become 1000x worse over night. you still have a chance. and there are people fighting for your right to transition right now. we will continue to fight harder. defeat is not an option- we will not let it be.

good luck, i hope you're able to feel better soon. take care of youreslf, no matter what you choose it's okay. but remember that change happens gradually. we will adapt

[messingwithmoony]

hi guys

does anyone know any affordable ways of binding

I am currently wearing a strapless bra over a normal bra and its doing nothing but preventing me from breathing and giving me rashes that are genuinely cutting me open but I can't handle being dysphoric anymore.

I cant ask my mum or dad for one because they're crazily transphobic, and if I want one that badly I have to pay for it myself which I don't have the money to do at all, like genuinely at all. I dont even have two pounds to my name.

Any help would be appreciated, I am aware that what I am doing is unsafe binding but it makes me feel slightly better.