#love birds 2011

[eddie-redcliffe]

[youmagnificentbeast]

Rhys Darby petting a shelduck, for reasons (✿◡‿◡)

[rhysdarbinizedarby]

Rhys Darby's expression in Love Birds and Our Flag Means Death

[untitledgoosegay]

re last reblog I do see fanfic culture pushing/replicating a certain model of "what trauma looks like," "how trauma works"

this is a problem across all areas of society obviously, but transformative works are, well, transformative. they're about crafting and modifying narratives where the fan-creator sees a flaw or a lack -- often for the better! don't get me wrong, I've done my fair share of "I take a hammer and I fix the canon," it's the main thing that gets my creative gears spinning -- but what happens when that "flaw" is simply a narrative not conforming to popular expectations?

some people just don't get PTSD from events that sound obviously traumatic. they're not masking, and they're not coping; they just straight-up didn't get the permanently-locked stress-response that defines PTSD. they walk away from a horrible experience going "well, that sucked, but it's over now." some people do get PTSD from events most people wouldn't find traumatic. we don't really know why some people get PTSD and others don't. but fandom has an idea of events that must be traumatizing, of a "correct" way to portray trauma. you see the problems with this lack of understanding in e.g. fans pressuring the devs of Baldur's Gate 3 to add dialogue where the player character badgers Halsin about his own feelings on his abuse -- because he must be traumatized, and his trauma must fit a certain mold and presentation of sexual trauma, under the mistaken impression that anything outside that narrow window is somehow "wrong" and disrespectful or even harmful to survivors.

take, for another example, the very common trope of a traumatized character who hates touch or sex "learning" to like touch or sex as a part of their healing process. certainly that can be healing for some people; other people will never like, or want, touch or sex, because of trauma or because they just don't. the assumption that someone who doesn't want sex or doesn't like to be touched must be traumatized, must be suffering from this perceived lack, is seriously harmful -- to asexual people, to people with sensory issues around touch, and to people for whom healing from trauma means freedom to refuse sex or touch.

and there's a secondary trope, one that's slightly more thoughtful but ultimately repeats the problem -- that once someone has learned that their boundaries will be respected, they'll feel it's safe to soften those boundaries. once they feel safe refusing touch or sex, they'll feel comfortable allowing it on their own terms. but many people don't, and many people won't! many people will simply never want to be touched, and never want sex, and they are not suffering or broken or lacking because of it. the idea that proving you'll respect someone's boundaries entitles you to test those boundaries -- the paradox is obvious, and yet this is something i've seen hurt (re-traumatize) people i care for.

people are imperfect victims. people don't heal in the ways you expect. many people have positive memories of their abuse, of their abusers. many people hurt others in the course of their trauma, in ways that can't easily be unpacked in a 5k oneshot. very few narratives of trauma and recovery actually fit the ones put forward by popular children's media and romance novels -- which are the ones I most see replicated in fandom spaces, because they provide the clearest narrative and easiest catharsis, and so they're easy and soothing to reach for.

that's not necessarily a bad thing! i am not immune to goopy romance tropes. i am not immune to teary catharsis. not every fic has to grapple with ugly realities. but there's a problem when these narratives become predominant, when people think they're accurate and realistic depictions of trauma, when the truth of trauma is unpleasant and uncomfortable, and doesn't fit any single narrative, let alone one of comforting catharsis

[average-gay-walrus]

List of Beetlejuice things I own because I've just realized how insane(autistic) it is

-Beetlebear (Beetlejuice Build-A-Bear)

-Sandworm plush

-Beetlejuice cartoon T-shirt

-Beetlejuice movie T-shirt

-Beetlejuice musical hoodie

-Sandworm sweatshirt

-Beetlejuice loungefly backpack

-Beetlejuice Funko pop

-Beetlejuice Funko pop keychain

-Adam/Barbara/Handbook for the Recently Deceased spirt Halloween keychain (which is on the Beetlejuice loungefly backpack)

-Beetlejuice piggy bank (not a big but idk what else to call it)

-Beetlejuice musical bag

-Five Beetlejuice musical playbills

-Beetlejuice Christmas ornament

-Beetlejuice Halloween costume (which I still wear as normal clothes)

-Handmade Beetlejuice bracelet (that I'm matching with my mom with >:33)

-Beetlejuice gloves

-Beetlejuice beanie

-"Never Trust The Living" pin

-Beetlejuice patch

-Beetlejuice tin of candy (blue raspberry flavored >:3)

[kame56u]

more human nico/pedro doodles :3

[niti-who]

Unfortunately I haven't seen him in that many roles yet but here is my choice (actually I like them all :) )

Rhys himself. Whether in stand ups or in Cryptic Factor or in interviews. He's such a silly lovable nerd and I love him so much for it.

Stede Bonnet in Our Flag means Death. It was thanks to this series that I first got to know and love him. ^^

Doug in Love Birds. I like romantic comedies and he was just brilliant and adorable in it. (And he looked damn hot. xD) <3 <3 <3

Casper from Relax in from the Future. He's such a bad time traveler that he's just getting good again. ^^

Anton in What we do in the Shadows. No specific comment I just like him as the alpha werewolf. ^^

Steve Rutherford in Wrecked. I've seen the first season so far but I liked it straight away. ^^

Guy Mann in X-Files. I have to admit I saw the episode, but I didn't really know Rhys back then. But I thought he was brilliant even back then and this episode is one of my favorite X Files episodes.

Update:

Nigel Billingsley from Jumanji: Welcome to the Jungle and Jumanji: Next Level. Even though he only had a short screen scene time, I liked the NPC immediately. <3

@ whoever sees this, who are your top 10 favourite Rhys Darby characters and why?

[i-heart-2d-men]

exetober day 8 - determination

link to prompts here

[eddie-redcliffe]

The Birds in Lovebirds (2011)

[suns-diary]

cant stop thinking about #them actually

[rhysdarbinizedarby]

Celebrating Rhys Darby's special birthday today, here's few promotional still from Love Birds (2011)

[baynton]

Chris Pitt-Goddard in Spy (2011-2012) | 2x07 Codename: Ball Busted

[ladespeinada]

it’s really rude to me personally that carlinhos brown’s “ararinha” isn’t on spotify because it should come right after jamie foxx’s “fly love” as the perfect song pairing. they’re the same composition but not the same song in this essay i will

[hyacinth--girl]

WAIT did Ryan Reynolds and Blake Lively meet on the green lantern??? Did that trainwreck of a movie create one of the best celebrity couples in the game?????

[toastess-with-the-mostess]

Guess who’s back… back again…

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