#like tolerating is not the same as accepting
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This is probably going to come off as a trolling response, and for that I apologize. Please know that I'm engaging with this in a genuine desire to understand/figure things out. I'm also not super educated on a lot of things, including politics, so this may be my ignorance showing.
Also know that this is me baring my internal emotions and thoughts and not censoring myself. And I don't necessarily represent anyone or any group. I'm also trying to reconcile what's expected of me with my internal landscape.
Just... How? How can you not expect to be met with anger when trying to interact with the people that your previous actions and associations have so greviously wronged? How can you expect me to welcome you with open arms and understanding? Why am I required to be the gracious one? Why am I expected to turn the other cheek when I'm the one that has suffered? When I'm the one that's been afraid my whole fucking life?
You've held the proverbial knife that's cut me. That's shaped my life. I'm just supposed to look the other way because you claim you've put it down? I'm supposed to trust that you won't hurt me again, even unintentionally?
Yes, you walked away from a very toxic family. From an abusive relationship. You left behind comfort and safety for the unknown. That took guts and a willpower that not many understand. I applaud you for that. I understand the cost of walking away from abusers, of trying to repair the damage to your life that they caused. Of mourning everything lost because they kept it when you left. I also know that not everything can be fixed, and sometimes you just have to accept that it's gone forever. I also know what it's like to have to tolerate and play nice and hold my tongue when an abuser can't be fully removed from my life. Because they are family. And to not behave myself means costing me the rest of my family.
All this anger may make it seem like I hate you. I don't hate you. But I don't trust you either. And if you were a friend of mine that I was trying to help recover, there would be times that anger would slip through and show. Especially as I helped you unlearn all the things you were taught that are poison. When I called you out for the problematic thought patterns you engaged in unknowingly. Because dear gods, there's so much frustration lurking underneath the surface at all the ways people unknowingly hurt those around them. And some days I just don't have the spoons to keep it all in and be patient.. again. For the twentieth time. Because you aren't the only one I'm expected to patiently and personally educate.
I'm not perfect either. I know that. I suffer from similar problematic thought patterns and habits. I'm not always the best at listening when other people call me out either. I'm doing my best to work on it. Some days are better than others. Sometimes the anger at my own failings gets misdirected. I don't expect forgiveness for my wrongs. I expect to have to work for it. I just ask that people continue to hold me accountable, and if possible, please be patient with me. I'm not always going to get either of those things and I consider that to be fair. I'm the one that's screwed up, after all.
It would be easy to see all this as hate. Really, it's pain. It's grief. It's the reaction to growing up in a world that sees me as less than. As disposable. Where I have also been hated for simply existing. For daring to be smarter or more capable or in any way better than any male around me. Where I have to work three times as hard just to be considered on the same level as the men around me. And even then, my contributions will just result in more shit being piled on my plate with no recognition or recompense.
I'm assuming by "leftists" you mean "anyone not Republican" or maybe just "Democrats." I don't know. I've heard the term used to describe the nasty elements of the left, and I've heard it used to describe Democrats as a whole. The left has it's own version of MAGA. Every group has its bad apples. I think we usually try to call them out, distance ourselves, or otherwise not encourage them. This is a spot where my ignorance is going to show. I just know that the circles I run in don't hate people for having opposing views or for coming from the wrong background. Are we angry? Of course we are. We try to moderate ourselves and only engage when it's useful/helpful. Otherwise, we try to keep quiet and leave the interactions to the people who have the spoons to deal with it. As evidenced by this response, well, we don't always succeed in holding our tongues.
This is an extremely long winded way to say:
- If these people are spewing hate at you for existing, have you fallen in with the bad apples on our side?
- Is it possible you're misinterpreting corrections and anger and frustration as hate?
- If what I'm describing from my point of view is what you're referring to, what am I supposed to do with all this pain and anger? How am I supposed to treat you as a brother when you've been complicit in my pain? What gives you the right to even expect that from me?
I couldn't have said it better myself.
#I might take this down later#I know I'm probably playing with fire by being so blunt#That being so frank will likely mean people are going to react emotionally to this instead of trying to understand#There's so many emotions right now#And I'm so scared of the future#There are fears that having this felon in charge is going to cost me my job#Which will cost me my health and probably my home#I'm agender and have had surgeries to affirm that#which means some people consider me trans#So if I lose my job my ability to find another one in this new regime is going to be severely hampered#So yes I'm afraid#I'm fucking terrified#I'm a chronically ill cryptid that is on some very expensive meds in order to function#Without my meds I would be disabled#And without my job I can't afford those meds#It's a terrible position to be in and I'm just going to be holding my breath for s very long time#personal#politics
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it's so hard to be a lesbian in this household
#im out to my little sister and she has enough of a conscience to not out me but shes also Such a cishet 'ally'#in that she just wants to seem politically correct but she only really tolerates me#like any mention of an actual development in my romantic/sex life would set her off on a rant about how thats 'weird'#shes religious in a way where she doesn't want to have sex before marriage and i respect that and dont find it weird bc im also muslim so#i get where its coming from / why / how that can be beneficial to some people#but for me personally i dont think so lol#at the same time I'm not one for casual hookups (clearly) (because im so single so consistently)#and like if anything im so tame so the fact that she reacts with negative judgement and a holier than thou attitude#when we talk about our love lives is so uncomfortable#like tolerating is not the same as accepting#z.post
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parker in the inside job is so real to me
parker, who has had a very complicated relationship with the concept of ‘family’, who blew up her abusive foster parent’s house, who bounced around the foster system before ultimately making a run for it
who was caught pick pocketing a world-renowned thief and taken in under his wing where he molded her into the best thief that ever existed, where he then ‘released her into the world’
archie took her in, yes, but he didn’t really take her in. he kept her at arm’s length, letting her live in empty warehouses and learning how to pick locks and beat security systems instead of going to school or learning what familial love was
he raised her, but only barely
and leverage did a great job of adding subtleties to her to have her come off as neurodivergent, most likely autistic. she was never what society would deem as ‘normal’, especially back then. and then archie tells nate to his face that she would never fit in, not anywhere
(and nate is mad. eliot is mad. rightfully so.)
parker is different from most people, thinks differently and acts differently. but that’s not wrong, and not her fault. but archie couldn’t see past that and take her in as she truly was, not when he had an ‘actual’ family at home. she wouldn’t fit in and that was something he wasn’t willing to risk, try or explain
and then archie calls parker asking for her thoughts on the steranko situation and she doesn’t even hesitate because his family is on the line. his real family. and he’s her father in a way no one had ever been before and looked after her in the only way she knew how and that meant something to her and she couldn’t have something like that happen to him
not on her watch
#i'm not autistic so please tell me if any of this comes off as tone-deaf or anything like that#but i am neurodivergent and sometimes resonate with parker and i'm rewatching the inside job and UGH IT HITS#something about being seen as 'other' and being kept at arms length because of that. never really being accepted only used for talent#that makes me extremely emotional#and pause the episode for 20 minutes to think out and write this post#this post is alternatively known as an archie-critical post#i will tolerate him for parker's sake in the same way nate does but that does NOT mean i like him#the inside job#leverage#leverage season 3#parker#parker meta#archie leach#meta#episode analysis#my meta#autistic parker#neurodivergent headcanons#neurodivergent#mine
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i hate the 'homophobic snape' thing a lot in general, i mean it's worth noting basically his only friend through most of the books is also the only gay character lol.
but the truth about snape is he doesn't give a shit about stuff like that. I don't think he would have rly known about it if (big if) any of the marauders were gay-- like being 100% realistic I don't think as a teenager in the 70s he'd be above using homophobia as an insult if it was someone he hated. but also if it was someone he was friends with (mulciber) he would be accepting/not care. similar to the werewolf thing, i don't doubt he was frequently extremely vicious and offensive to remus about it but if it had been someone he liked (so lily or mulciber) who was a werewolf he would have been pretty accepting of it imo. if it was a random student he wouldn't have cared.
that being said i often dislike homophobia plots in fic in general because they always seem so gratuitous and over the top. it's obviously using snape as a mouthpiece for the most extreme vile (and out of character) views so that the marauders are justified in bullying him. like i don't think he was woke and politically correct (clearly) but be fr he doesn't care that much. and it's not that i don't think people should explore homophobia in their own writing, obviously, explore away, this is just why i personally dislike the way it's handled a lot of the time. it just so often feels contrived and insensitive to me, kind of misery porn-ish if that makes any sense. like to what extent is it necessary i guess
#im a bisexual snape truther anyway#but its the same thing as james where ppl arent content for snape to be as bad as he is in canon. he also needs to be homophobic#and classist (?????????)#u can tell the author of (popular marauders fic) barely fucking read the books lol#snape is a character hugely defined by his working class origins#anti atyd#just in case#similarly if snape had been a werewolf instead of R the marauders would NOT have been accepting imo.#joining the order/getting closer to dumbledore would likely have been eye opening in that and many regards#but i dont think most people in the 70s would be automatically tolerant of werewolves#severus
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Ok i feel like i need to address this one
No shade to the person who left this in the tags but
Terfs are not co-opting a south korean movement, the south korean movement has been full of terfs from the beginning.
There was a split in the 2016 megalia movement over people using transphobic and homophobic slurs on the site, leading to those people creating the off-branch WOMAD. WOMAD isn't just full of transphobes and homophobes but also anti-labor-rights sentiment, literal nazis, and in 2017 a member proudly posted videos of her raping a child and the other members defended her through her arrest and conviction, harassing the victim's family and demanding her release.
Of course not everyone in the 4B movement supports this shit, the same way just because the "lets do 4B in america" thing is already largely supported by terf doesnt mean any person who has considered it is also a terf. there is no central leadership or anything like that and the group split off for a reason. But not tolerating straight up slurs didn't mean megalia did not still tolerate transphobia in general and it persists in the movement today. Groups of 4B activists have continued to harass plenty of korean trans women and run interference on them being accepted to women's universities and having access to protective measures from violence from men, etc.
A lot of korean women have good reason to believe for their own safety they need spaces without men but the exact same way this belief fuels terfism here, it does so in korea as well.
All the shit going on is already upsetting enough but it rly is devastating to keep seeing posts bashing trans men for asking to be included in conversations about reproductive healthcare, trans safety and hrt right now, at a time where solidarity and community is so fucking important
And unironic posts along the lines of "don't forget to include trans men in your no-dating-men practice".
And a post about how trans men aren't safe to date either because they're rapists too with replies full of this
Gender essentialism will doom us all. The fascists don't even need to "divide and conquer" anymore because y'all are just doing that shit for them for free.
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emma made me viscerally uncomfortable from season 3-6 and the reason is because it was like watching a barbarian multiclass as a cleric. like girl stop with the magical energy blasts!! just hit him with your sword!!! punch him in the face!!!!
#mostly a joke#i managed to tolerate and accept it#in the way midas gets the gold touch and elsa and ingrid get ice powers i wish other magic users had distinguished styles from one another#rather than “uses fire and rips out hearts” “doesn't use fire or rips out hearts” “rumpelstiltskin and whatever the fuck he's got going on”#like from a writing standpoint it makes SENSE that cora regina and zelena all have very similar styles#they were all taught by the same man#and regina was heavily influenced by cora in all that heart stealing#and emma learnt from regina#but come on!! give them some kind of magical signature!!#rumple's was spinning gold#regina's was yeeting fireballs#cora's was pulling hearts#but emma and zelena should have been so much more distinct!! they were both running on instinct like let them have wild magic!!#and no i DON'T count emma and regina straight up blasting opposite coloured lights. that shit is lazy and i won't stand for it#this is why i hate soft magic systems#ouat#once upon a time#emma swan
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Wow my post speculating about the non army qunari people being some semblance of normal pissed some people off hard like how dare i suggest that maybe we are not being told/shown the full picture in the "we are not telling you half of it you gotta speculate yourselves"game
like everyone els in thedas can have nuance and grace from the fandom but once you tell people that maybe thinking of the qunari as one homogeneous gelatinous uniform group of intolerant people sounds like what every army in the world wants thier enemy to think and maybe the individual qunari is not like that TM and is different they send you hate and vague post about you lol okay 👍
#sigh#im going to bed im tierd of people claiming to be -tolerent-and -accepting- about everyone but the 1 group that needs that nuance the most#like ist it enough that the writers are cowards who dont want to think about qunari nunace and only want to write about the tal vashoth#cause its easy and they already have a template?#now the fandom also wants to do the same thing#it makes me sick to my stomach#im going to bed
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Saw the Epilogue for Liar Satsuki just now and yeah no, I was coping when I thought it'd make things better. I still can't believe Akira and Satsuki didn't end up together. After EVERYTHING these two have been through together. Komachi is not even slightly as relevant for most of the manga, and you can say what you want about both their abilities tying them together thematically and what not, but frankly the entire manga set it up such that Akira x Satsuki was the obvious choice.
#unma rambles#liar satsuki can see death#usotsuki satsuki wa shi ga mieru#also the dad thing is... fine. Could've been done better if it was given more chapters to breathe#and the way he acted to her still makes me upset thinking about it#so seeing him forgive Satsuki but not acknowledge how much he's hurt her really annoys me#bullshit that things will get better fucking tell your daughter sorry#okay I'm sure he probably says it off screen given it ends on “We need to have a talk” but like#I can't just accept that#but this is just a me thing tbh#at the end of the day it's fine#honestly this is probably the first yuri to leave me so annoyed at its ending#I've read and dropped bad yuri before#not often does it leave me annoyed because I have a high tolerance#but like#wow this is the first time I've been mad at the ending of a love triangle#and part of that is that one side of the love triangle didn't even exist!#it appeared in the last few chapters and suddenly won#it makes no sense from anything but a thematic standpoint#and even then it fucking sucks on that point because Komachi and Satsuki barely interact directly compared to Akira#like if you wanted Satsuki x Komachi to be endgame#YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE DONE SO MUCH TO MAKE THE READERS LIKE SATSUKI X AKIRA#the collective despair of the mangadex comment section upon realizing that this was the ending they were getting#yeah. I felt the same way man#okay that's it. I have things to do. ramble over.#rambling in the tags
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okay i do have faith in the bucktommy fandom at large and especially i have faith in the people that i follow but i do just wanna say that we all have to promise to be normal if/when buck gets another love interests or ends up with someone else. like if it's not tommy and it's not eddie, then we have to promise not to be terrible the way antis were terrible to us. like im not saying grr you have to like it, criticize the story all you want, criticize the writers for their biphobia, their lazy writing, etc. but i really hope we can all continue to be normal about buck possibly dating other people and giving the love interest a fair chance
#because i know the writers wont give them a fair chance or decent writing so its important to me#that we treat them with at the very least tolerance yknow#this fandom and specifically buddie focused antis havent been particularly kind to love interests especially women#and bucktommy was a nice break from that i mean obviously people were awful to tommy but they have a pretty big following the way#the other li didnt so it was nice to see positivity across my dash and be a part of a community that was accepting and enjoyed the storyline#so going forward even though we wont get anyone as meaningful as tommy and it looks like buddie has been killed for like the 50th time#i hope we can extend love to whoever shows up next 💕 or if not love you know just acceptance#which can coexist with criticsm of their handling of this storyline and tommy as a character and the not so subtle biphobia#idk idk i dont want this sector of the 911 fandom to devolve into the same hatred that bob antis have over not getting what they want#because this has been such a good and positive experience that i just havent had with 911 in so long
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trad guys are so funny in a sad and disturbing way like "women today are selfish and money-hungry gold-diggers and the only thing they care about in a man is whether he has money. ... Also, men are natural providers, women shouldn't work and stay at home and let him make the money and the decisions. We should all recreate my fantasy of a time when people routinely arranged marriages for maximal financial profit."
I mean, I'm not even expecting them to understand that the culture they ideolise is the foundation upon which the gender-roles we have today are resting and that this is WHY wealth is seen as such an important trait in men because these manosphere guys are way too deep in that forest to see the trees. Instead, they think gender-roles are inert and biological and women are programmed to like 'providers'. But then they also turn around and say 'women are gross, cold-hearted gold-diggers' for...wanting that 'provider' THEY just claimed women are biologically programmed to look for. WHAT GIVES.
#it's so stupid it's so stupid it's so stupid it's so stupid it's so stupid it's so stupid it's so stupid it's so stupid it's so stupid#misogyny#they will also be like 'actually men are so much more accepting and tolerant because we don't care if you have a college degree :)))'#(which is something I've seen a lot lately in their memes) and it's so stupid.#A lot of men will literally get mad if their girlfriend earns more than them or has a higher degree than them.#or at least feel insecure about it#it's literally gender-roles and culture (and it's extremely stupid)#but then you have the same people who argue these gender-roles are inherently biological say 'but clearly we're morally superior here'
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The problem is it's not that "they couldn't be bothered", and irritatingly enough you already know this yet say otherwise in an attempt to further cause divide all because you'd rather feel "more right" than work with fellow leftists who think differently to you.
As someone engaged in activism in my local area, if there's one thing I've learnt, it's to tolerate people who don't agree with you and who you really don't agree with, and I mean really fucking don't agree with at all. There are Stalinists and Trotskyists that help out at local rallies and have done really amazing work that have, like it or not, ensured pickets have kept their lines and protests have had the right numbers to avoid police dispersement. But fuck if I still don't really hate their politics and disagree with their stances. I see them as privileged, selfish and openly imperialist. They're ableist, racist (and used to be Zionist until they realised they could sell more newspapers by hopping on board with Palestine issues) and I honestly would laugh if they all stepped on legos. But I'm going to work with them because this is bigger than all of us and I'm not going to let my personal disdain for their stances and morals unravel the work we do collectively that needs to be done. I'm going to make sure no one crosses the picket line before using my personal grievances as a reason to burn down this movement. It's just too important for that.
Now, back onto what you're saying. Look, you already know this but I'll spell it out clearly for you in case you somehow meant this genuinely; the people who "didn't vote" for Kamala voted for other candidates like Jill Stein who actually had all the policies you likely want in place compared to Kamala who was pushing right wing policies alongside Trump and had a hardline anti protestor stance and who was also vocally pro Israel. Sure, you can say she's the "lessor evil" there, but those who still feel that evil compared to the white people unaffected? They're going to wonder why the hell they're so expendable and they're sure as hell going to find it hard to vote for someone who is advocating for killing their loved ones. Maybe it's easier for you because it's not your family, but when it is it sure as hell is harder. That's not laziness, but white people really love to pretend it is. It's also all these same people, black queers and Arabs, who would die under Kamala's indifference and apathy as anti queer laws and violence have increased in the Biden administration and violence against Arabs have become the norm and accepted by the democrats. Just like they would under Trump and who have already been dying this whole ass time under Biden. Maybe these people legitimately had reason to not feel exactly comfortable voting for someone who'd kill them. But no, sure, call that laziness. But you already know it isn't and saying that comes from a place where you haven't had to be targeted until Trump in 2016. Meanwhile these "lazy" non-voters have been feeling this exact kind of dread every single election because every single candidate has treated them the same way Trump has begun to treat you. That's not laziness, but, again you already know that.
So, no, I actually do think I can work with people less privileged than myself and I don't see their dread and fear as laziness; I see it as something to empathise with and show solidarity to. And yes, even with people like you who view that sorrow and pain as "laziness and privilege" because suddenly the reverse is happening to you after years of your own indifference, I would still work with you because this movement is more important than either of us.
TLDR; not to be offensive and resentful but I'm gonna be, please get your head out of your ass and stop blaming other marginalised people and start fucking helping regardless of your own personal "icks".
As the US election closes in and the final states take to the polls, I want to remind people to turn out and protest.
Yep, protest. Strike, disrupt, be out there on the street regardless of who you voted for or who wins. I expect to see you all out there demanding; access to abortion nation wide, protections against discrimination, free universal healthcare, a free Palestine, anti war, prison abolition, to increase the minimum wage, and for a US free of the electoral college and that counts votes as votes.
Yes, you can say "you should vote for Harris" and do so as much as you like, but do not forget the power you have through your own everyday actions away from the polls and that of protesting. Do not use the excuse that your right to vote means it's somehow more foundational or important than the right to protest. You have the ability to create direct action and that is so so important, please don't just expect a rich representative to stick to their promises every time you vote; you have power too, never forget that.
This system will not change until we, the people, make it. There is NO representative that can ever change the system that allowed them in, and likewise; this system will never allow a candidate that would stop it from continuing and/or ensuring its designated purpose of oppression and subjugation. Resist, regardless of the results.
Long live the resistance.
#like literally I'm not gonna be nice about this y'all are being actual fucking babies about this#y'all would rather walk out of a picket or wait until someone else protests before shaking the hand of an Arab in mourning and it shows#like I'm also white and still see how racist this shit is and how apathetic to non white communities who have been dying for years now#be fr and start sitting down with black people and showing the slightest willingness to listen#bc you know what it helps you get your ass moving and protesting#it stops you from waiting and start acting
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learned today that some people appreciate and enjoy (?) their periods... yall are holding us back as a species, just sayin.
#gross terfs are gross#only a braindead terf would go through the blood and cramps and brain issues and say “yeah”#“this is great”#fucking freak!!#if being on your period doesnt make you suicidal we are not the same#we as a species need to focus on eradicating this disgusting flaw#men have been fighting erectile dysfunction like its deadly but we're expected just to tolerate periods?#dont make me laugh#if i ever get into medicine that will be my only focus#eradicating periods and PMS#if you accept that you are suffering you will always be suffering!!#i got a hysterectomy at age 24 it IS possible to live a better life free of that sick parasitic flesh sack you'd be happier without!#if youve read this far#and want a hysterectomy#DM me for advice on breaking your doctor's feeble will
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Sometimes Christians acts like they are the only one that's allowed to be traumatised by their religion and who can hate and mock it. Like all other religions are pure innocent peaceful ways and opressed but Christianity is okay to mock because ughhh. Like only they are allowed to be traumatised and victim there.
But also when I say this then some extremely angry ex-muslims and islamaphobics comes and use this to spread hate about Muslim people which is also ughhh.
Like your average Muslim have zero differences than your average Christian why can't you treat them same.
#sorry so sorry i am ranting i can delete this later#this is not something philosophical or something smart i am just kimda angry#like yeah tolerance amd acceptance yay but you are still am other amd i don't care about your opinions#then bad side of islam uses this tolerance as their tool pf oppression#sorry i can't explain what i try to say here well#but as an ex-muslim immigrant who raised in a majority muslim country and was not a minority#it has layers please dont speak for me. even you wanna support or not#rant#this isn't about only online spaces this is about something from real life#people can be opressors.amd opressed at the same time it doesn't cancel each other#i am treated as now sometimes no wrong doer poor minority middle eastern person while bitch i was privileged#amd when i say this than it's turn into hate and they forget this also npt means i am struggling more than them in life now because#i am not privileged here anymore and minority#like situation and context matters#idk#again sorry i am just rambling
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living with people who Walk Extremely Fast while needing time alone in the shared house spaces to do your basic selfcare/starting-the-day routines + having Trauma around being seen even fucking existing in shared spaces, including a long-ongoing and hefty dose of it from said people themselves, is a living hell actually. especially when they insist on constantly leaving doors wide open that would normally mitigate the house being a fucking panopticon and also give you like two seconds' warning that they're entering the space so you can brace yourself or leave. Hate
#moogletalks#me: starves myself for hours; takes my medication extremely late; and spends 90% of my time trapped in my bed with my health deteriorating#while waiting for people to Fucking Go Somewhere Else and Stay There for Like 20 Fucking Minutes Jesus Christ#me: finally either musters myself to tiptoe out and quietly go about my business because i thought they found somewhere else to be#or just fucking gives up and braces myself for sandpaper to my triggers + probably filling the Flip Out and Abuse Moogle meter a little more#housemates: GOD YOU'RE SO FUCKING LAZY RUDE AND SELFISH YOU JUST WANT TO HOG THE COMMON AREAS AND HAVE EVERY LITTLE THING HOW YOU WANT IT#YOU'RE COLD AND UNFRIENDLY AND ONLY WANT TO LIVE HERE LIKE A LEECH BECAUSE YOU STAY IN YOUR ROOM ALL THE TIME#BUT ALSO I HATE SEEING YOUR FACE AROUND AND YOU DON'T SPEND EVERY MOMENT I CAN SEE YOU ENTERTAINING ME OR BEING ''PRODUCTIVE''#[MULTI-HOUR SCREAMING MATCH AND THREATENING TO MAKE YOU HOMELESS BECAUSE YOU HAD THE UPPITYBITCH AUDACITY TO ASK ME TO TURN A LIGHT OFF WHEN#I LEAVE A ROOM OR MAKE A LIST OF CHORES OR STOP TURNING THE THERMOSTAT TWO DEGREES PAST WHAT YOU CAN TOLERATE]#it's like fucking clockwork and i'm sick of it and when the people involved walk like they're training for the fucking olympics#and constantly remove or invade every single way for you to avoid them the tiniest fucking bit#it makes things a hundred thousand times more stressful!!!!!!!#and i KNOW most of these people would be doing the exact same thing with my bedroom if it was even slightly more socially acceptable#they would be straight up taking the bathroom door off its hinges so they can repeatedly walk in and out while you're trying to take a shit#it is a hundred thousand fucking percent a control thing and i hate it i hate it go AWAY. GO AWAY GO AWAY GO AWAY#abuse cw#ableism cw#venting cw#food insecurity cw#housing insecurity cw#traumatag#adventures in mental illness
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YEAH........... YEAH..... LIKEWISE, NO NOTES AT ALL, THAT'S EXACTLY IT... Main antagonist deaths are often treated as "comeuppance," but that would be the ultimate comeuppance for Aoki. As it stands, the only people who actually suffer for it are Ichiban and Jo, and Ichi didn't even do anything wrong. Also please I'm positive there's more to wring out of Aoki and Jo for an essay 😭😭at the very least, I always love to hear your perspective!
"he'd made a social circle for himself where people predominantly liked him for the power and influence" <- incredibly Mine-core of Aoki btw (I also feel the rest applies a little in terms of Mine probably being very quick to write off people who Do care about him as not caring about him, as with Katase, but it's nowhere near the extent of the Arakawas)
Wait actually it's kind of funny... for both Mine and Aoki, I was so sure their endings would go a certain way. Mine and Kiryu'd fight Richardson off together and Ichi'd, I don't know, shield Aoki or hug him so Kume couldn't get to him in the first place, or after that INSANE direct parallel to Arakawa running to the hospital with Masato, he'd miraculously pull through like he did on New Year's. Tormented with visions of the better timeline... With Aoki in particular, it makes me want to tear my hair out because the moment of him choosing to put the gun in the locker was REVOLUTIONARY for the series, looking at the characters he was most heavily based on.
Anyway. Bottom line. These bitches need to hug it out. It was so evil Arakawa didn't hug Ichi at Omi HQ or on the waterfront like bro stop being """manly""" for five seconds you're ruining my life you're ruining your own lives
There'd genuinely be nothing more painful yet more satisfying for an antagonist than being confronted with the consequences of their actions and having to navigate life after having making those decisions, ESPECIALLY when it comes to mending the bonds that- for anyone else- would have shattered long ago. With Aoki being motivated by the want to be loved and appreciated for himself, it would've been nice to see him finally acknowledge that he did have that love and start to better himself as a result (however much he'd be able to while in prison anyway lmao).
The Mine and Aoki comparisons are so real though, I remember joking to myself about it days after beating the game but it just fuels my mental illness every time I think about it ☠️ I LEGALLY AM NOT ALLOWED TO GO OFF ABOUT THE Y7 ENDING I'VE DONE IT TOO MUCH it makes me so mad every time I think about it 😭 ESPECIALLY THE PARALLELS WITH ARAKAWA AND THE LOCKERS UGGGHHH IT COULD HAVE BEEN SUCH AN EPIC CONCLUSION WITH THAT... Arakawa running from the lockers at the start of Aoki's life compared to Ichiban running from the lockers and getting Aoki to the hospital so Aoki can restart life I'm Going To Kill Someone (myself) (in Minecraft)
#snap chats#theres a note here about aoki's self hatred and ergo his inability to believe people could love him without 'worth'#and some kind of. I Dont Know occurs that comes with aoki accepting that love and ergo At Least Tolerating himself#and again becoming better as a person as a result. not WHOLLY you cant undo Everything Wrong With Him with one therapy session#but itd at least be a start and thats far more than anything else rgg has given since like. ryuji in dead souls#but w/e i- as per usual- have the vocabulary of a walrus so we're just gonna have to imagine i said something profound#AND THE LACK OF HUGGING IN THIS FRANCHISE IM GOING TO STAB ALL OF YOU. IN MINECRAFT.#with the power of delusions and this like seven-year-old wacom tablet i can fix that......#it'll never be enough it'll never fill the void in my soul but it'll be something i guess#BUT UGH NO SORRY IM JUST MAD NOW#nothing in my life has ever genuinely triggered anger in me than the y7 ending its just soooooooOOOOO#IT WAS SOOO CLOSE TO BEING PERFECT I CANT#im going to give myself a blood clot thinking about it anymore i feel my heart stopping Do Not Call An Ambulance I Cannot Afford It#so to stop myself from going in any more debt than i already am..... the possibility of any essays from me are very small#my ability to use words is near non existent. i feel like a right ninny sometimes#in any case im not sure what else i could expand on that isn't restating what you've said#cant ever be upset with bein on the same wavelength tho it gives my inarticulate ass a helluva easier time trying to explain LMAO#plus im petrified of trying to interpret anything from the english dub or english subs#and looking into language use is Very Much important when dissecting abusive relationships#i guess there's always just talking about general actions committed and not inspecting the exact words used#idk.. at the very least ill rotate the concept in my head and then fend off the urge to eat my teeth#i'm gonna throw up.... im still thinking of it........ gonna make an unrelated-but-arguably-related post in like three seconds#dont look at it its cringe
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it is exhausting being the only out queer person in your immediate family because, if they're not overtly rejecting at least, you end up becoming like. the family ambassador for all things queer.
for example this weekend was the annual family camping trip/reunion and the number of times that I had to explain that the singular "they" has always been a thing was truly unreal. I had to explain that gay people and gender nonconformity has always been a thing it's just the language that is new. and I had to defend my brother's soon to be ex partner's decision to transition and that it has nothing to do with their low self-esteem or poor body image and everything to do with just. being trans. all this while my poor brother, who really loved his partner but just isn't attracted to men, is mourning the loss of a relationship he really wanted to work.
in many ways my brother is my only actual ally in this group (at least of the people who were there this weekend) because while much of my family are at least not actively rejecting, very few are active advocates for us. very few are true allies. I think most support surface level queer rights, you know "yeah sure let the gays get married," but they just aren't...allies in a meaningful capacity. even my parents can't seem to step up in defense of queer folks when one of my more conservative uncles is being lowkey homophobic...they take this weird centrist road about it and it's like. you know you have a queer kid, right? and it's not like I expect them to be pflag parents about it but could they at least try? I mean god my mom isn't even cisgender herself, she's admitted that to me, but she still just can't stop playing the middle ground around extended family. and I'm tired of it being my job (and to a lesser extent my brother's) to educate everyone all the fucking time.
#and again it's hard because no one is actively hateful#it's all microagressions and correcting misinformation#I want to be patient with them but it does get tiring#and it's just obvious they're not doing the work on their own#which is sad for me because it feels like all I'll ever get is like...a basic sense of tolerance#they tolerate me being queer#they're just 'okay with it'#I'm never going to get full acceptance of it and I'm certainly never going to get any celebration of it#not that I ever expected that but#still#and especially when I do get that from other people? it's hard that I can't from my family#my friends in new york actively value my queerness as an important part of me#and a uniquely lovable part of me#my one former teacher that I'm reasonably close to has always suspected and waited patiently for me to come out to her#and when I did she not only had a much nicer reaction than I got from my parents#who were shocked btw like somehow this woman who is not my mother knew me better than my actual mother did#but she has also suggested more than once that my being queer is something to be valued especially in my field#as I'm in a unique position to be helpful to other queer people#and you know what she's fucking right#so I just...why can't I get this from any of my family except my same-aged cousins?#and my brother?#anywaaaaaaaaaaays happy pride lol
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